3 lessons on success from an Arab businesswoman | Leila Hoteit

Translator: Intan Andini Reviewer: Made Pramana

“Bu, siapa orang-orang ini?”

Itu pertanyaan polos dari putri kecil saya Alia

saat dia berusia tiga tahun.

Kami berjalan bersama suami saya

"Mom, who are these people?"

di suatu mal mewah besar di Abu Dhabi.

It was an innocent question from my young daughter Alia

Alia memandang poster besar yang berdiri tegak di tengah mal.

around the time when she was three.

We were walking along with my husband

Poster itu menampilkan tiga penguasa Uni Emirat Arab (UEA).

in one of Abu Dhabi's big fancy malls.

Alia was peering at a huge poster standing tall in the middle of the mall.

Saat dia dekat di sisi saya,

saya membungkuk dan menjelaskan bahwa mereka adalah penguasa UEA

It featured the three rulers of the United Arab Emirates.

yang telah bekerja keras mengembangkan bangsa

dan menjaga kesatuannya.

As she tucked in my side,

Dia bertanya, “Bu, kenapa di tempat tinggal kita di sini,

I bent down and explained that these were the rulers of the UAE

who had worked hard to develop their nation

dan di Lebanon, tempat nenek dan kakek tinggal,

and preserve its unity.

kita tidak pernah melihat foto-foto perempuan hebat di dinding?

She asked, "Mom, why is it that here where we live,

Apa karena perempuan tidak penting?”

and back in Lebanon, where grandma and grandpa live,

Ini mungkin pertanyaan tersulit yang saya dapat selama menjadi orang tua

we never see the pictures of powerful women on the walls?

dan lebih dari 16 tahun karir profesional saya, dalam hal ini.

Is it because women are not important?"

Saya tumbuh dan dibesarkan di kampung halaman saya di Lebanon,

This is probably the hardest question I've had to answer in my years as a parent

bungsu dari dua putri bersama ayah seorang pilot pekerja keras

and in my 16-plus years of professional life, for that matter.

dan direktur operasi untuk Lebanese Airlines

I had grown up in my hometown in Lebanon,

serta ibu dan nenek rumah tangga yang sangat mendukung.

the younger of two daughters to a very hard-working pilot

Ayah mendorong saya dan saudari saya untuk melanjutkan pendidikan kami

and director of operations for the Lebanese Airlines

meski budaya yang ditekankan saat itu

and a super-supportive stay-at-home mom and grandma.

anak laki-lakilah, bukan anak perempuan, yang harus dimotivasi secara profesional.

My father had encouraged my sister and I to pursue our education

even though our culture emphasized at the time

Saya salah satu dari sedikit gadis di generasi saya

yang belajar ke luar negeri saat berusia 18 tahun.

that it was sons and not daughters who should be professionally motivated.

Ayah saya tidak memiliki putra,

jadi saya, dalam arti tertentu, menjadi putranya.

I was one of very few girls of my generation

who left home at 18 to study abroad.

Beberapa dekade kemudian, dan saya harap saya tidak menjadi terlalu buruk

My father didn't have a son,

and so I, in a sense, became his.

saat membuat ayah saya bangga dengan calon ‘putra’-nya.

Fast-forward a couple of decades, and I hope I didn't do too badly

Saat saya mendapat gelar Sarjana dan PhD di bidang teknik elektro,

melakukan R dan D di UK, lalu berkonsultasi di Timur Tengah,

in making my father proud of his would-be son.

saya selalu ada di lingkungan yang didominasi laki-laki.

As I got my Bachelor's and PhD in electrical engineering,

Sejujurnya, saya tak pernah menemukan panutan yang sungguh dapat saya kenali.

did R and D in the UK, then consulting in the Middle East,

I have always been in male-dominated environments.

Generasi ibu saya tidak mendalami kepemimpinan profesional.

Truth be told, I have never found a role model I could truly identify with.

Ada beberapa pria yang memberi dukungan,

tapi tidak ada yang tahu tuntutan dan tekanan yang saya hadapi,

My mother's generation wasn't into professional leadership.

tekanan yang menjadi sangat akut saat saya memiliki dua anak yang menawan.

There were some encouraging men along the way,

but none knew the demands and pressures I was facing,

Meski wanita Barat gemar memberi kita, wanita Arab malang dan tertindas, nasihat,

pressures that got particularly acute when I had my own two beautiful children.

mereka menjalani kehidupan berbeda dengan batasan berbeda.

And although Western women love to give us poor, oppressed Arab women advice,

Wanita Arab dari generasi saya harus menjadi panutan kami sendiri.

Kami harus lebih banyak bergulat dari pria Arab,

they live different lives with different constraints.

dan menghadapi lebih banyak kekakuan budaya daripada wanita Barat.

So Arab women of my generation have had to become our own role models.

Akibatnya, saya ingin menganggap kita, wanita yang malang dan tertindas,

We have had to juggle more than Arab men,

and we have had to face more cultural rigidity than Western women.

punya beberapa pelajaran berguna yang sukar diperoleh untuk dibagikan,

As a result, I would like to think that we poor, oppressed women

pelajaran yang mungkin berguna

bagi siapa saja yang ingin berkembang di dunia modern.

actually have some useful, certainly hard-earned lessons to share,

Tiga pelajaran dari saya.

[Ubah kotoran mereka jadi bahan bakar.]

lessons that might turn out useful

(Tawa)

(Tepuk tangan)

for anyone wishing to thrive in the modern world.

Here are three of mine.

["Convert their sh*t into your fuel."]

Ada kata yang dibilang semua orang sebagai kunci sukses:

(Laughter)

(Applause)

ketangguhan.

Sebenarnya apa sesungguhnya itu, dan bagaimana mengembangkannya?

There is this word that everybody is touting as the key to success:

Saya percaya ketangguhan ialah kemampuan mengubah kotoran jadi bahan bakar.

resilience.

Well, what exactly is resilience, and how do you develop it?

Di pekerjaan sebelumnya, jauh sebelum di firma saat ini,

I believe resilience is simply the ability to transform shit into fuel.

saya bekerja dengan pria, sebut saja John.

Saya telah satu tim dengan John dan bekerja keras,

In my previous job, well before my current firm,

berharap dia memerhatikan kepiawaian saya

dan bahwa dia akan mendukung kasus saya untuk bermitra di perusahaan.

I was working with a man we will call John.

I had teamed up with John and was working hard,

Selain menyampaikan proyek konsultasi, saya juga

hoping he would notice how great I was

menulis dengan penuh semangat tentang pemberdayaan ekonomi wanita.

and that he would come to support my case to make partner at the firm.

Satu hari, saya presentasi penelitian saya pada sekelompok mahasiswa MBA.

I was, in addition to delivering on my consulting projects,

writing passionately on the topic of women economic empowerment.

John yang juga hadir

mendengarkan untuk pertama kalinya rincian studi saya.

One day, I got to present my research to a roomful of MBA students.

Saat saya melanjutkan presentasi saya,

saya bisa lihat John di sudut mata saya.

John was part of the audience

listening for the first time to the details of my study.

Mukanya berubah merah muda gelap

dan dia melorot di kursinya karena malu.

As I proceeded with my presentation,

I could see John in the corner of my eye.

Saya selesai presentasi dan penonton bertepuk tangan

He had turned a dark shade of pink

lalu kami pun keluar dan masuk ke mobil.

and had slid under his chair in apparent shame.

Di sana John meledak.

I finished my presentation to an applauding audience

“Apa yang kau sampaikan tidak bisa diterima!

Kau ini konsultan, bukan aktivis!”

and we rushed out and jumped into the car.

There he exploded.

Saya berkata, “John, aku tidak paham.

Aku mempresentasikan beberapa indeks paritas gender

"What you did up there was unacceptable!

You are a consultant, not an activist!"

dan beberapa kesimpulan tentang dunia Arab.

I said, "John, I don't understand.

Ya, kebetulan saat ini kami berada di bagian bawah indeks,

I presented a couple of gender parity indices,

tapi adakah yang tidak faktual dari pernyataan atau penyajianku?”

and some conclusions about the Arab world.

John menjawab, “Seluruh premis studimu salah.

Yes, we do happen to be today at the bottom of the index,

but what is it that I said or presented that was not factual?"

Yang kau lakukan berbahaya dan akan merusak tatanan sosial masyarakat kita.”

To which he replied, "The whole premise of your study is wrong.

Dia berhenti, lalu menambahkan,

“Ketika perempuan memiliki anak, tempat mereka adalah di rumah.”

What you are doing is dangerous and will break the social fabric of our society."

Waktu serasa berhenti lama,

He paused, then added,

yang bisa saya pikirkan dan ulangi dalam kekacauan otak saya adalah:

"When women have children, their place is in the home."

“Kau bisa melupakan kemitraan itu, Leila.

Time stood still for a long while,

Itu tak akan pernah terjadi.”

and all I could think and repeat in the chaos of my brain was:

Butuh beberapa hari untuk sepenuhnya menyerap insiden ini dan implikasinya,

"You can forget about that partnership, Leila.

lalu saya pun mencapai tiga kesimpulan.

It's just never going to happen."

Satu, bahwa ini adalah masalahnya dia,

It took me a couple of days to fully absorb this incident and its implications,

kekurangannya.

Ada banyak John di masyarakat kita,

but once I did, I reached three conclusions.

tapi saya tak mau masalah mereka jadi milik saya.

One, that these were his issues,

Dua, bahwa saya butuh sponsor lain, dan secepatnya.

his complexes.

(Tawa)

There may be many like him in our society,

Saya ada satu sponsor, sebenarnya, dia hebat.

but I would never let their issues become mine.

Dan tiga, akan saya tunjukkan pada John apa yang bisa dilakukan para ibu.

Two, that I needed another sponsor, and fast.

Saya terapkan pelajaran ini dengan baik di kehidupan pribadi saya.

(Laughter)

I got one, by the way, and boy, was he great.

And three, that I would get to show John what women with children can do.

Seiring kemajuan karier saya,

saya telah menerima banyak kata-kata penyemangat,

tapi saya juga sering menjumpai banyak wanita, pria, dan pasangan

I apply this lesson equally well to my personal life.

As I have progressed in my career,

yang jelas memiliki masalah dengan saya dan suami saya

I have received many words of encouragement,

karena memilih jalur pasangan karier ganda.

but I have also often been met by women, men and couples

Jadi pasangan yang bermaksud baik ini

who have clearly had an issue with my husband and I

yang berbicara blak-blakan di pertemuan keluarga

atau pertemuan teman,

having chosen the path of a dual-career couple.

seperti, “Kau pasti sadar kau bukan ibu yang baik.

So you get this well-meaning couple

Kau berkorban lebih untuk kariermu, kan?”

who tells you straight out at a family gathering

Bohong jika saya bilang kata-kata itu tidak menyakitkan.

or at a friends gathering,

that, come on, you must know you're not a great mom,

Anak-anak saya yang paling berharga bagi saya,

given how much you're investing in your career, right?

dan memiikirkan saya mengecewakan mereka bagaimana pun tidak bisa ditoleransi.

I would lie if I said these words didn't hurt.

Tapi seperti dengan John,

My children are the most precious thing to me,

saya segera mengingatkan diri bahwa itu masalah mereka,

and the thought that I could be failing them in any way is intolerable.

kekurangan mereka.

Jadi, alih-alih membalas,

But just like I did with John,

saya memberikan senyum terlebar saya

I quickly reminded myself that these were their issues,

saat saya melihat, di bawah silau cahaya,

tanda yang ada di mata pikiran saya.

their complexes.

[Berbahagialah, itu membuat mereka gila.]

So instead of replying,

I gave back one of my largest smiles

(Tepuk tangan)

as I saw, in flashing light,

the following sign in my mind's eye.

Sebagai wanita muda di situasi ini, Anda punya dua pilihan.

[Be happy, it drives people crazy.]

(Applause)

Anda bisa putuskan menginternalisasi pesan-pesan negatif

yang dilemparkan ke Anda,

You see, as a young woman in these situations, you have two options.

biarkan mereka membuat Anda merasa gagal,

seolah kesuksesan terlalu sulit untuk dicapai,

You can either decide to internalize these negative messages

atau Anda melihat kenegatifan orang lain sebagai masalah mereka sendiri,

that are being thrown at you,

to let them make you feel like a failure,

dan mengubahnya menjadi bahan bakar pribadi Anda.

like success is way too hard to ever achieve,

Saya belajar untuk selalu memilih opsi dua,

or you can choose to see that others' negativity is their own issue,

dan saya sadar ia memberi saya kekuatan demi kekuatan.

and instead transform it into your own personal fuel.

Benar yang orang katakan:

I have learned to always go for option two,

sukses adalah pembalasan terbaik.

and I have found that it has taken me from strength to strength.

Beberapa wanita Timur Tengah

cukup beruntung menikahi seseorang yang mendukung karir mereka.

And it's true what they say:

success is the best revenge.

Ralat: maksud saya “cukup pintar”,

karena pasangan Anda itu pilihan Anda sendiri,

Some women in the Middle East

are lucky enough to be married to someone supportive of their career.

jadi nikahilah seseorang yang mendukung jika ingin punya karir panjang.

Correction: I should say "smart enough,"

Sampai hari ini, pria Arab bukanlah kontributor yang setara di rumah.

because who you marry is your own choice,

and you'd better marry someone supportive if you plan to have a long career.

Ini sangat tak diharapkan oleh masyarakat kita,

direndahkan karena dianggap tak jantan.

Still today, the Arab man is not an equal contributor in the home.

Namun bagi wanita Arab, masyarakat kita masih menganggap

It's simply not expected by our society,

sumber kebahagiaan utama mereka yaitu kebahagiaan dan kemakmuran

and even frowned upon as not very manly.

dari anak dan suaminya.

As for the Arab woman, our society still assumes

Wanita khususnya ada untuk keluarga.

that her primary source of happiness should be the happiness and prosperity

Hal itu semakin berubah, tapi itu butuh waktu.

of her children and husband.

Saat ini, itu artinya wanita Arab profesional

She mostly exists for her family.

harus mempertahankan rumah yang sempurna,

Things are changing, but it will take time.

memastikan setiap kebutuhan anak-anaknya dipenuhi

For now, it means that the professional Arab woman

dan mengelola kariernya yang menuntut.

has to somehow maintain the perfect home,

Demi mencapai ini, saya menemukan cara sulit.

make sure that her children's every need is being taken care of

Terapkan keterampilan profesional yang Anda raih dengan susah payah

and manage her demanding career.

ke dalam kehidupan pribadi Anda.

To achieve this, I have found the hard way

Anda perlu mengusahakan hidup Anda.

Ini cara saya melakukannya di kehidupan pribadi.

that you need to apply your hard-earned professional skills to your personal life.

Perlu diketahui tentang Timur Tengah

You need to work your life.

hampir setiap keluarga punya akses ke dukungan domestik yang terjangkau.

Here is how I do this in my personal life.

Tantangannya yaitu bagaimana merekrut secara efektif.

One thing to know about the Middle East

is that nearly every family has access to affordable domestic help.

Seperti cara saya di kehidupan bisnis, saya mendasari pemilihan

orang yang membantu saya merawat anak-anak saat sedang bekerja

The challenge therefore becomes how to recruit effectively.

berdasarkan rujukan yang kuat.

Cristina telah bekerja selama empat tahun dengan saudari saya

Just like I would in my business life, I have based the selection

dan kualitas pekerjaannya sudah mapan.

of who would support me with my children while I'm at work

on a strong referral.

Sekarang dia anggota integral keluarga kami,

Cristina had worked for four years with my sister

dia telah bersama kami sejak Alia berusia enam bulan.

and the quality of her work was well-established.

Dia memastikan rumah berjalan lancar saat saya bekerja,

She is now an integral member of our family,

dan saya pastikan untuk memberdayakannya

having been with us since Alia was six months old.

dalam kondisi teroptimal untuk dia dan anak-anak saya,

She makes sure that the house is running smoothly while I'm at work,

seperti halnya rekan terbaik di tempat kerja.

and I make sure to empower her

Pelajaran ini berlaku apa pun situasi pengasuhan anak Anda,

in the most optimal conditions for her and my children,

baik au pair, penitipan anak,

just like I would my best talent at work.

pengasuh paruh waktu milik majikan lain.

This lesson applies whatever your childcare situation,

Pilihlah dengan hati-hati, dan berdayakan.

whether an au pair, nursery,

Jika menilik kalender saya,

Anda akan lihat setiap hari kerja

part-time nanny that you share with someone else.

satu setengah jam dari pukul 19:00 hingga 20:30 waktu UEA

Choose very carefully, and empower.

ditandai dan tertulis “waktu keluarga”.

If you look at my calendar,

you will see every working day

Waktu ini sakral.

Saya menjalani ini sejak Alia masih bayi.

one and a half hours from 7pm to 8:30pm UAE time

Saya kerahkan segala daya demi melindungi waktu ini

blocked and called "family time."

agar bisa pulang dan menghabiskan waktu berkualitas dengan anak-anak,

This is sacred time.

I have done this ever since Alia was a baby.

menanyakan hari mereka,

memeriksa pekerjaan rumah, membacakan cerita pengantar tidur,

I do everything in my power to protect this time

so that I can be home by then to spend quality time with my children,

dan memberi mereka banyak ciuman dan pelukan.

asking them about their day,

Jika saya bepergian, di zona waktu apa pun,

saya gunakan Skype untuk terhubung dengan mereka meski kami jauh.

checking up on homework, reading them a bedtime story

and giving them lots of kisses and cuddles.

Putra kami Burhan berusia lima tahun,

If I'm traveling, in whatever the time zone,

dia belajar membaca dan menghitung matematika dasar.

I use Skype to connect with my children even if I am miles away.

Ini pengakuan lainnya:

saya menemukan bahwa putri kami sebenarnya lebih berhasil

Our son Burhan is five years old,

mengajarinya daripada saya.

and he's learning to read and do basic maths.

(Tawa)

Here's another confession:

Awalnya cuma permainan, tapi Alia senang menjadi guru untuk adik laki-lakinya,

I have found that our daughter is actually more successful

at teaching him these skills than I am.

dan saya sadar sesi ini memang meningkatkan kemampuan membaca Burhan,

(Laughter)

It started as a game, but Alia loves playing teacher to her little brother,

meningkatkan rasa tanggung jawab Alia,

dan memperkuat ikatan di antara mereka,

and I have found that these sessions actually improve Burhan's literacy,

keuntungan timbal balik.

Wanita Arab sukses yang saya kenal

increase Alia's sense of responsibility,

menemukan pendekatan unik sendiri untuk berhasil dalam hidup

and strengthen the bonding between them,

a win-win all around.

karena mereka terus memikul

bagian terbesar dari tanggung jawab di rumah.

The successful Arab women I know

Ini bukan hanya tentang bertahan dalam peran ganda

have each found their unique approach to working their life

sebagai wanita karier dan ibu.

as they continue to shoulder

Ini juga tentang hadir di masa sekarang.

the lion's share of responsibility in the home.

Ketika saya bersama anak-anak saya,

But this is not just about surviving in your dual role

saya berusaha meninggalkan pekerjaan saya.

as a career woman and mother.

Bukannya khawatir berapa menit yang bisa dihabiskan bersama mereka setiap hari,

This is also about being in the present.

saya fokus mengubah menit-menit ini menjadi momen berharga,

When I am with my children,

I try to leave work out of our lives.

momen di mana saya melihat anak-anak saya,

Instead of worrying about how many minutes I can spend with them every day,

mendengar dan terhubung dengan mereka.

[Berjuang bersama, jangan bersaing.]

I focus on turning these minutes into memorable moments,

Wanita Arab dari generasi saya tidak terlalu disorot

moments where I'm seeing my kids,

di mata publik saat mereka tumbuh dewasa.

hearing them, connecting with them.

Ini menjelaskan sampai batas tertentu,

["Join forces, don't compete."]

kenapa hanya ada sedikit wanita di politik dunia Arab.

Arab women of my generation have not been very visible

Keuntungannya, bagaimanapun,

in the public eye as they grew up.

kami telah menghabiskan banyak waktu

This explains, I think, to some extent,

mengembangkan keterampilan sosial di belakang layar,

why you find so few women in politics in the Arab world.

di kedai kopi, di ruang keluarga,

The upside of this, however,

is that we have spent a lot of time

di telepon,

keterampilan sosial yang sangat penting untuk sukses:

developing a social skill behind the scenes,

jaringan.

Saya katakan rata-rata wanita Arab

in coffee shops, in living rooms,

memiliki jaringan teman dan kenalan yang luas.

on the phone,

a social skill that is very important to success:

Mayoritas dari mereka juga perempuan.

networking.

Di Barat, wanita ambisius membandingkan diri mereka dengan wanita lain

I would say the average Arab woman

has a large network of friends and acquaintances.

yang berharap diperhatikan sebagai wanita tersukses di ruangan itu.

The majority of those are also women.

Ini mengarah ke perilaku kompetitif yang banyak dibicarakan

In the West, it seems like ambitious women often compare themselves to other women

antara wanita profesional.

hoping to be noticed as the most successful woman in the room.

Jika ruang hanya untuk satu wanita di atas,

maka tak bisa ada ruang untuk mengangkat wanita lain.

This leads to the much-spoken-about competitive behavior

between professional women.

Wanita Arab, secara umum,

tidak jatuh pada jebakan psikologis ini.

If there's only room for one woman at the top,

then you can't make room for others, much less lift them up.

Dihadapkan dengan masyarakat patriarki,

mereka menemukan bahwa dengan saling membantu,

Arab women, generally speaking,

semua menuai manfaat.

have not fallen for this psychological trap.

Di kantor sebelumnya, saya wanita paling senior di Timur Tengah,

Faced with a patriarchal society,

jadi orang bisa berpikir berinvestasi di jaringan rekan kerja wanita saya

they have found that by helping each other out,

all benefit.

kurang begitu bermanfaat

In my previous job, I was the most senior woman in the Middle East,

dan saya malah harus menginvestasikan waktu saya

menjalin hubungan dengan senior dan teman sebaya laki-laki.

so one could think that investing in my network of female colleagues

Namun, dua terobosan terbesar saya datang melalui dukungan wanita lain.

couldn't bring many benefits

and that I should instead invest my time

Itu adalah kepala pemasaran yang mulanya menyarankan

developing my relationships with male seniors and peers.

saya menjadi pemimpin global muda di Forum Ekonomi Dunia.

Yet two of my biggest breaks came through the support of other women.

Wanita ini akrab dengan keterlibatan media dan publikasi saya,

It was the head of marketing who initially suggested

dan ketika dia diminta berpendapat,

I be considered as a young global leader to the World Economic Forum.

dia mengajukan nama saya.

Yang kedua konsultan muda, wanita dan teman dari Saudi,

She was familiar with my media engagements and my publications,

yang membantu saya menjual proyek pertama di Arab Saudi,

and when she was asked to voice her opinion,

pasar yang sulit saya dapatkan sebagai seorang wanita.

she highlighted my name.

It was a young consultant, a Saudi lady and friend,

Dia perkenalkan saya ke klien,

who helped me sell my first project in Saudi Arabia,

dan itu membuahkan proyek pertama dari banyak proyek lain saya di Saudi.

a market I was finding hard to gain traction in as a woman.

Hari ini, ada dua wanita senior dalam tim saya,

She introduced me to a client,

dan membuat mereka sukses menjadi kunci kesuksesan saya sendiri.

and that introduction led to the first of very many projects for me in Saudi.

Wanita terus membuat kemajuan di dunia,

Today, I have two senior women on my team,

tidak cukup cepat, tapi kami sedang bergerak.

and I see making them successful as key to my own success.

Dunia Arab juga membuat kemajuan, meski banyak kemunduran baru-baru ini.

Women continue to advance in the world,

Baru tahun ini, UEA menunjuk lima menteri wanita baru ke dalam kabinet,

not fast enough, but we're moving.

The Arab world, too, is making progress, despite many recent setbacks.

dengan total delapan menteri wanita.

Itu hampir 28 persen dari kabinet,

Just this year, the UAE appointed five new female ministers to its cabinet,

lebih dari yang bisa diklaim oleh banyak negara maju.

for a total of eight female ministers.

Inilah foto favorit Alia hari ini.

That's nearly 28 percent of the cabinet,

Tak diragukan lagi, inilah hasil kepemimpinan hebat,

and more than many developed countries can claim.

serta hasil dari wanita Arab yang kuat

This is today my daughter Alia's favorite picture.

yang pantang menyerah dan terus mendorong batas.

This is the result, no doubt, of great leadership,

Inilah hasil dari wanita Arab yang memutuskan setiap hari seperti saya

but it is also the result of strong Arab women

mengubah kotoran menjadi bahan bakar,

not giving up and continuously pushing the boundaries.

berhasil di kehidupan pribadi dan pekerjaan mereka,

It is the result of Arab women deciding every day like me

dan berjuang bersama, bukan bersaing.

Saat saya melihat masa depan,

to convert shit into fuel,

saya harap saat putri saya berdiri di panggung ini

to work their life to keep work out of their life,

sekitar 20, 30 tahun dari sekarang

and to join forces and not compete.

bahwa dia bangga menyebut dirinya putri ibunya,

As I look to the future,

seperti putri ayahnya.

my hopes for my daughter when she stands on this stage

Harapan saya untuk putra saya

some 20, 30 years from now

adalah nanti, ungkapan “anak ibunya” atau “anak mama”

are that she be as proud to call herself her mother's daughter

akan memiliki arti yang sama sekali berbeda.

as her father's daughter.

Terima kasih.

My hopes for my son

(Tepuk tangan)

are that by then, the expression "her mother's son" or "mama's boy"

would have taken on a completely different meaning.

Thank you.

(Applause)