Why 30 is not the new 20 | Meg Jay

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์•„๋ž˜ ์˜๋ฌธ์ž๋ง‰์„ ๋”๋ธ”ํด๋ฆญํ•˜์‹œ๋ฉด ์˜์ƒ์ด ์žฌ์ƒ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

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Translator: Joseph Geni Reviewer: Morton Bast
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๋ฒˆ์—ญ: K Bang ๊ฒ€ํ† : Sujin Byeon
00:12
When I was in my 20s,
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์ œ๊ฐ€ 20๋Œ€์˜€์„ ๋•Œ
00:14
I saw my very first psychotherapy client.
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์ฒ˜์Œ์œผ๋กœ ์‹ฌ๋ฆฌ์น˜๋ฃŒ ํ™˜์ž๋ฅผ ์น˜๋ฃŒํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋์–ด์š”.
00:18
I was a Ph.D. student in clinical psychology at Berkeley.
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์ „ ๋ฒ„ํด๋ฆฌ๋Œ€์—์„œ ์ž„์ƒ ์‹ฌ๋ฆฌํ•™ ๋ฐ•์‚ฌ๊ณผ์ • ์ค‘์ด์—ˆ๊ณ ,
์ฒซ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋Š” 26์‚ด์˜ ์•Œ๋ ‰์Šค๋ž€ ์—ฌ์ž์˜€์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:22
She was a 26-year-old woman named Alex.
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00:26
Now Alex walked into her first session wearing jeans and a big slouchy top,
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์ƒ๋‹ด ์ฒซ๋‚  ์•Œ๋ ‰์Šค๋Š”
์ฒญ๋ฐ”์ง€์— ๊ป„๋ ํ•ด ๋ณด์ด๋Š” ์ƒ์˜๋ฅผ ์ž…๊ณ  ๋‚˜ํƒ€๋‚˜
00:30
and she dropped onto the couch in my office
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์ œ ์‚ฌ๋ฌด์‹ค ์นด์šฐ์น˜ ์œ„๋กœ ์“ฐ๋Ÿฌ์ง€๋”๋‹ˆ
00:33
and kicked off her flats
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์•„๋ฌด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ๋‚˜ ์‹ ๋ฐœ์„ ๋ฒ—์–ด ๋˜์ง€๋ฉฐ
00:34
and told me she was there to talk about guy problems.
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๋‚จ์ž ๋ฌธ์ œ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ์™”๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋งํ•˜๋”๊ตฐ์š”.
00:38
Now when I heard this, I was so relieved.
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๊ทธ ๋ง์„ ๋“ฃ๊ณ  ์ €๋Š” ๋ฌด์ฒ™์ด๋‚˜ ์•ˆ์‹ฌํ–ˆ์ฃ .
์ œ ์นœ๊ตฌ์˜ ์ฒซ ์˜๋ขฐ์ธ์€ ๋ฐฉํ™”๋ฒ”์ด์—ˆ๊ฑฐ๋“ ์š”.
00:43
My classmate got an arsonist for her first client.
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00:46
(Laughter)
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(์›ƒ์Œ)
00:47
And I got a twentysomething who wanted to talk about boys.
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์ „ ๊ทธ๋ƒฅ ๋‚จ์ž ์–˜๊ธฐ๋‚˜ ํ•˜๋ ค๋Š” 20๋Œ€ ํ’‹๋‚ด๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๋งŒ๋‚ฌ๋˜ ๊ฑฐ์ฃ .
00:52
This I thought I could handle.
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์ž˜ ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ฒ ๋‹ค ์ƒ๊ฐํ–ˆ์–ด์š”.
00:55
But I didn't handle it.
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ๋ฐ ์•„๋‹ˆ๋”๋ผ๊ตฌ์š”.
00:57
With the funny stories that Alex would bring to session,
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์•Œ๋ ‰์Šค๋Š” ์ €์™€ ๋งŒ๋‚  ๋•Œ๋งˆ๋‹ค ์žฌ๋ฏธ์žˆ๋Š” ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๋“ค๋ ค์คฌ๊ณ ,
์ „ ๊ทธ๋ƒฅ ๊ณ ๊ฐœ๋งŒ ๋„๋•๊ฑฐ๋ ธ์ฃ .
01:00
it was easy for me just to nod my head
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ํ’€์–ด์•ผ ํ•  ๋ฌธ์ œ๋Š” ๋ฏธ๋ค„๋‘๊ณ  ๋ง์ด์ฃ .
01:02
while we kicked the can down the road.
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01:04
"Thirty's the new 20," Alex would say,
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'์„œ๋ฅธ์€ ์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ์Šค๋ฌด์‚ด ์ผ ๋ฟ์•ผ.' ๋ผ๊ณ  ์•Œ๋ ‰์Šค๋Š” ๋งํ•˜๊ณค ํ–ˆ์ฃ .
01:06
and as far as I could tell, she was right.
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๋ฌผ๋ก  ์ „ ๊ทธ๋…€ ๋ง์ด ๋งž๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ–ˆ์–ด์š”.
01:09
Work happened later, marriage happened later,
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์ง์—…์„ ์ฐพ๊ณ , ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•˜๊ณ , ์•„์ด๋ฅผ ํ‚ค์šฐ๋Š” ์ผ๋“ค,
01:11
kids happened later, even death happened later.
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์‹ฌ์ง€์–ด ์ฃฝ๋Š” ์ผ ์กฐ์ฐจ ๋ชจ๋‘ ๋‚˜์ค‘์— ๋ฒŒ์–ด์งˆ ์ผ๋“ค์ด๋‹ˆ๊นŒ์š”.
01:15
Twentysomethings like Alex and I had nothing but time.
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์•Œ๋ ‰์Šค๋‚˜ ์ €๊ฐ™์€ ํ’‹ํ’‹ํ•œ 20๋Œ€์—๊ฒŒ ์‹œ๊ฐ„์€ ๋‚จ์•„๋Œ์•˜์ฃ .
01:20
But before long, my supervisor pushed me to push Alex about her love life.
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๋จธ์ง€์•Š์•„ ์ง€๋„ ๊ต์ˆ˜๋‹˜์€ ์•Œ๋ ‰์Šค์—๊ฒŒ ๋‚จ์ž ์–˜๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ์‹œํ‚ค๋ผ๊ณ 
์ œ๊ฒŒ ๋‹ค๊ทธ์น˜์…จ์ฃ .
01:26
I pushed back.
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ๋Œ€๋‹ตํ–ˆ์–ด์š”.
"๋„ค ๋ญ ์•Œ๋ ‰์Šค๋Š”
01:28
I said, "Sure, she's dating down,
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01:30
she's sleeping with a knucklehead,
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๊ทธ์ € ๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ๋‚จ์ž์™€ ๋ฐ์ดํŠธ ํ•˜๊ณ 
๋จธ์ €๋ฆฌ์™€ ์ž ์„ ์ž๊ธด ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ
01:33
but it's not like she's going to marry the guy."
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๊ทธ ๋‚จ์ž์™€ ๊ฒฐํ˜ผ ํ•  ๊ฒƒ ๊ฐ™์ง€๋Š” ์•Š๋˜๋ฐ์š”."
01:36
And then my supervisor said,
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ๋ฐ ๊ทธ ๊ต์ˆ˜๋‹˜์ด ์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ๋ง์”€ํ•˜์…จ์–ด์š”.
01:38
"Not yet, but she might marry the next one.
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"์•„์ง์€ ์•„๋‹ˆ์ง€. ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋‹ค์Œ๋ฒˆ ๋‚จ์ž๋ž‘ ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•  ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ์–ด."
01:42
Besides, the best time to work on Alex's marriage
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"๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ , ๋‹ค์Œ ๋‚จ์ž ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ์ƒ๊ธฐ๊ธฐ ์ „์ด
01:46
is before she has one."
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์•Œ๋ ‰์Šค๊ฐ€ ๊ฒฐํ˜ผ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ด ๋ณผ ์ œ์ผ ์ข‹์€ ์‹œ๊ธฐ์•ผ."
01:50
That's what psychologists call an "Aha!" moment.
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์‹ฌ๋ฆฌํ•™์ž๋“ค์ด ๋งํ•˜๋Š” '์•„ํ•˜!' ํƒ€์ด๋ฐ์ด ๋ฐ”๋กœ ์ด๊ฒ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:53
That was the moment I realized, 30 is not the new 20.
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์„œ๋ฅธ์ด ์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ์Šค๋ฌด์‚ด์ด ์•„๋‹˜์„ ๊นจ๋‹ซ๊ฒŒ๋˜๋Š” ๊ทธ ์ˆœ๊ฐ„ ๋ง์ด์ฃ .
01:56
Yes, people settle down later than they used to,
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์š”์ฆ˜ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์€ ์˜ˆ์ „๋ณด๋‹ค ์ •์ฐฉ์ด ๋Šฆ์€ ํŽธ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:59
but that didn't make Alex's 20s a developmental downtime.
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๊ทธ ์‚ฌ์‹ค์ด ์•Œ๋ ‰์Šค์˜ 20๋Œ€ ์„ฑ์žฅ์— ๋ฐฉํ•ด๊ฐ€ ๋œ ๊ฒƒ์€ ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:03
That made Alex's 20s a developmental sweet spot,
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๊ทธ ์‚ฌ์‹ค์€ 20๋Œ€์˜ ์•Œ๋ ‰์Šค์—๊ฒŒ ์„ฑ์žฅ์— ์žˆ์–ด ์•ˆ์ •์„ ๊ฐ–๊ฒŒ ํ–ˆ๊ณ ,
02:07
and we were sitting there, blowing it.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ทธ๋ƒฅ ์•‰์•„์„œ ์‹œ๊ฐ„์„ ํ˜๋Ÿฌ ๋ณด๋ƒˆ๋˜ ๊ฑฐ์˜ˆ์š”.
02:10
That was when I realized that this sort of benign neglect
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๊ทธ๋•Œ๊ฐ€ ํ•˜๊ธฐ ์‹ซ์€ ํ•  ์ผ์„ ์‚ด์ง ๋ฎ์–ด๋‘๋Š” ์ด๋Ÿฐ '์ ์ž–์€ ๋ฌด์‹œ' ๊ฐ€
02:14
was a real problem, and it had real consequences,
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์ง„์งœ ๋ฌธ์ œ๋ž€ ๊ฒƒ๊ณผ ์‹ค์ œ ๊ฒฐ๊ณผ๋ฌผ๋กœ ์ด์–ด์ง„๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฑธ ์ œ๊ฐ€ ๊นจ๋‹ฌ์•˜์„ ๋•Œ์ฃ .
02:18
not just for Alex and her love life
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๋น„๋‹จ ์•Œ๋ ‰์Šค๋‚˜ ๊ทธ๋…€์˜ ๋‚จ์ž ๋ฌธ์ œ ๋ฟ ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ
02:20
but for the careers and the families and the futures
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์ง์—…, ๊ฐ€์กฑ, ๋ฏธ๋ž˜๋„ ๋ง์ด์—์š”.
02:23
of twentysomethings everywhere.
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์•„์ง ์•„๋ฌด ๊ฒƒ๋„ ๋ชจ๋ฅด๋Š” ์šฐ๋ฆฌ 20๋Œ€ ๋ชจ๋‘์—๊ฒŒ ํ•ด๋‹น๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:27
There are 50 million twentysomethings in the United States right now.
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์ง€๊ธˆ ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์—๋Š”
20๋Œ€๊ฐ€ 5์ฒœ๋งŒ์ด์—์š”.
02:31
We're talking about 15 percent of the population,
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๋ฏธ๊ตญ ์ „์ฒด ์ธ๊ตฌ์˜ 15%,
02:35
or 100 percent if you consider
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์•„๋‹ˆ 100%๋„ค์š”.
02:38
that no one's getting through adulthood without going through their 20s first.
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20๋Œ€๋ฅผ ๊ฑฐ์น˜์ง€ ์•Š๊ณ 
์„ฑ์ธ์ด ๋˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์€ ์—†์œผ๋‹ˆ๊นŒ์š”.
02:42
(Laughter)
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02:43
Raise your hand if you're in your 20s.
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์—ฌ๊ธฐ ์ง€๊ธˆ 20๋Œ€์ธ ๋ถ„๋“ค ์† ์ข€ ๋“ค์–ด ๋ณด์‹œ๊ฒ ์–ด์š”?
02:45
I really want to see some twentysomethings here.
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์ง„์งœ ํ•œ๋ฒˆ ๋ณด๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋„ค์š”. ์—ฌ๊ธฐ ์˜ค์‹  20๋Œ€๋ถ„๋“ค.
์™€ ์ง„์งœ ๋ชจ๋‘ ๋ฉ‹์ ธ์š”!
02:48
Oh, yay! You are all awesome.
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02:49
If you work with twentysomethings, you love a twentysomething,
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20๋Œ€์™€ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์ผํ•˜๋ฉด 20๋Œ€๋ฅผ ์‚ฌ๋ž‘ํ•  ๊ฒ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:53
you're losing sleep over twentysomethings, I want to see โ€”
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๋ณด๊ณ  ์‹ถ์–ด์„œ ๋ฐค์ž ๋„ ์„ค์ณ์š”.
02:56
Okay. Awesome, twentysomethings really matter.
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์š”. ๊ต‰์žฅํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. 20๋Œ€๋ž€ ์ •๋ง ๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ๊ฑฐ๋ผ๊ตฌ์š”.
๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์ €๋Š” 20๋Œ€ ์ „๋ฌธ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:01
So, I specialize in twentysomethings because I believe
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5์ฒœ๋งŒ 20๋Œ€ ํ•œ๋ช… ํ•œ๋ช… ๋ชจ๋‘๊ฐ€ ์ด ์‚ฌ์‹ค์„ ์•Œ์•„์•ผ ํ•œ๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋ฏฟ๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์ด์ฃ .
03:04
that every single one of those 50 million twentysomethings
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03:08
deserves to know what psychologists,
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์‹ฌ๋ฆฌํ•™์ž, ์‚ฌํšŒํ•™์ž,
03:11
sociologists, neurologists and fertility specialists
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์‹ ๊ฒฝํ•™์ž, ๋ถˆ์ž„์ „๋ฌธ๊ฐ€๋“ค์€
03:15
already know:
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์ด๋ฏธ ์•Œ๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ์‚ฌ์‹ค์ด ์žˆ์ฃ .
03:17
that claiming your 20s is one of the simplest,
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20๋Œ€๋Š” ๊ฐ€์žฅ ๋‹จ์ˆœํ•œ ์‹œ๊ธฐ์ด์ง€๋งŒ,
03:20
yet most transformative, things you can do
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์— ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ž˜ ๋ณ€ํ™”ํ•˜๋Š” ์‹œ๊ธฐ์ฃ .
03:23
for work, for love, for your happiness,
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์ผ, ์‚ฌ๋ž‘, ํ–‰๋ณต, ๊ทธ ์–ด๋–ค ๊ฒƒ์ด๋ผ๋„ ๋ชจ๋‘์š”.
03:25
maybe even for the world.
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์‹ฌ์ง€์–ด ์„ธ์ƒ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด์„œ๋„์š”.
03:28
This is not my opinion.
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์ด๊ฑด ๊ทธ๋ƒฅ ์ œ ์ƒ๊ฐ์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ์˜ˆ์š”. ์ด๊ฑด ์‚ฌ์‹ค์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:30
These are the facts.
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03:33
We know that 80 percent of life's most defining moments
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์‚ถ์— ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ง€๋Œ€ํ•œ ์˜ํ–ฅ์„ ๋ฏธ์น˜๋Š” ์ˆœ๊ฐ„์˜ 80 ํผ์„ผํŠธ๊ฐ€.
03:36
take place by age 35.
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35์„ธ ์ด์ „์— ์ผ์–ด๋‚ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:39
That means that eight out of 10
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์ธ์ƒ์„ ๊ฒฐ์ •ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒฐ์ • 10๊ฐœ ๊ฐ€์šด๋ฐ 8๊ฐœ์™€
03:42
of the decisions and experiences and "Aha!" moments
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'์•„ํ•˜' ํƒ€์ด๋ฐ์ด ๋ชจ๋‘
03:45
that make your life what it is
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30๋Œ€ ์ค‘๋ฐ˜๊นŒ์ง€
03:47
will have happened by your mid-30s.
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์ผ์–ด๋‚œ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:50
People who are over 40, don't panic.
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40๋Œ€ ๋ถ„๋“ค ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ์ƒ์‹ฌ๋งˆ์„ธ์š”.
03:52
This crowd is going to be fine, I think.
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์€ ๊ดœ์ฐฎ์„ ๊ฒ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:55
We know that the first 10 years of a career
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์ปค๋ฆฌ์–ด ๊ฒฝ๋ ฅ์˜ ์ฒซ 10๋…„์ด
03:58
has an exponential impact on how much money you're going to earn.
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์˜ ์•ž์œผ๋กœ์˜ ์ˆ˜์ž…์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด
์ง€๋Œ€ํ•œ ์˜ํ–ฅ์„ ๋ฏธ์นœ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์•Œ๊ณ  ์žˆ์ž–์•„์š”.
04:02
We know that more than half of Americans
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๋ฏธ๊ตญ์ธ ์ ˆ๋ฐ˜ ์ด์ƒ์ด ๋ฏธ๋ž˜์˜ ํŒŒํŠธ๋„ˆ์™€
04:04
are married or are living with or dating their future partner by 30.
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30์„ธ ์ด์ „์— ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๋™๊ฑฐํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜
๋˜๋Š” ๋ฐ์ดํŠธ๋ฅผ ํ•˜์ฃ .
04:09
We know that the brain caps off
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๋˜ ๋‡Œ๋Š” 20๋Œ€์— 2์ฐจ ์„ฑ์žฅ์„ ์™„๋ฃŒํ•˜๊ณ 
04:11
its second and last growth spurt in your 20s
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์ตœ๋Œ€์˜ ๋Šฅ๋ ฅ์„ ๋ฐœํœ˜ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:14
as it rewires itself for adulthood,
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์„ฑ์ธ์ด ๋˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•œ ์žฌ์ •๋น„๋ฅผ ํ•˜๋ฉด์„œ ๋ง์ด์—์š”.
04:17
which means that whatever it is you want to change about yourself,
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์ด๋Š” ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„ ์ž์‹ ์„ ๋ฐ”๊พธ๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ์›ํ•˜๋“  ์›์น˜ ์•Š๋“ 
04:21
now is the time to change it.
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์ด์ œ๋Š” ๋ฐ”๊ฟ”์•ผ ํ•˜๋Š” ๋•Œ๋ผ๋Š” ๋ง์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:24
We know that personality changes more during your 20s
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20๋Œ€์—” ์ธ์ƒ์˜ ๊ทธ ์–ด๋Š ๋•Œ ๋ณด๋‹ค๋„
04:27
than at any other time in life,
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์ธ์„ฑ์ด ๋งŽ์ด ๋ฐ”๋€๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:30
and we know that female fertility peaks at age 28,
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์—ฌ์„ฑ์ด ์•„์ด๋ฅผ ๋‚ณ๊ธฐ์— ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ข‹์€ ์‹œ๊ธฐ๋Š” 28์‚ด์ด๊ณ ,
04:34
and things get tricky after age 35.
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35์‚ด ์ดํ›„์—” ์ ์  ์–ด๋ ค์›Œ์ง€์ง€์š”.
๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ๋‹ˆ๊นŒ 20๋Œ€๋Š” ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„ ์Šค์Šค๋กœ๋ฅผ ๊ต์œกํ•˜๋Š” ์‹œ๊ธฐ์—์š”.
04:38
So your 20s are the time to educate yourself
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04:40
about your body and your options.
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์˜ ๋ชธ๊ณผ ์„ ํƒ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋ง์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:44
So when we think about child development,
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์ž, ์•„์ด๋“ค์˜ ์„ฑ์žฅ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ด ๋ณผ๊นŒ์š”.
04:46
we all know that the first five years are a critical period
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์•„๊ธฐ๊ฐ€ ํƒœ์–ด๋‚˜๊ณ  5๋…„ ๋™์•ˆ์ด ์–ธ์–ด์™€ ๋‡Œ์˜ ์„ฑ์žฅ์—
04:50
for language and attachment in the brain.
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๊ต‰์žฅํžˆ ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ ์‹œ๊ธฐ๋ผ๋Š” ๊ฑด ๋‹ค๋“ค ์•Œ๊ณ  ์žˆ์–ด์š”.
04:54
It's a time when your ordinary, day-to-day life
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ํ•˜๋ฃจํ•˜๋ฃจ์˜ ์ผ์ƒ์ด ์•ž์œผ๋กœ ํŽผ์ณ์งˆ ๋ฏธ๋ž˜์˜ ์‚ถ์—
04:57
has an inordinate impact on who you will become.
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์—„์ฒญ๋‚œ ์˜ํ–ฅ์„ ๋ฏธ์น˜๊ฒŒ ๋˜๋Š” ์‹œ๊ธฐ๋ผ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๋ง์ด์ฃ .
ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์„ฑ์ธ์˜ ์„ฑ์žฅ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด์„  ์šฐ๋ฆฐ ๋ณ„๋กœ ๋“ค์–ด๋ณด์ง€ ๋ชปํ–ˆ์ฃ .
05:02
But what we hear less about is that there's such a thing
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05:04
as adult development,
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์„ฑ์ธ์œผ๋กœ ์„ฑ์žฅํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด
05:05
and our 20s are that critical period of adult development.
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20๋Œ€๋Š” ์ •๋ง๋กœ ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ ์‹œ๊ธฐ์˜ˆ์š”.
05:11
But this isn't what twentysomethings are hearing.
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ •์ž‘ 20๋Œ€ ๋‹น์‚ฌ์ž๋“ค์€ ์ด๋Ÿฐ ์‚ฌ์‹ค์— ๋ณ„๋กœ ๊ด€์‹ฌ์ด ์—†์–ด์š”.
05:14
Newspapers talk about the changing timetable of adulthood.
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์‹ ๋ฌธ์€ ์„ฑ์ธ์ด ๋˜์–ด๊ฐ€๋Š” ์‹œ๊ธฐ์˜ ๋ณ€ํ™”์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋– ๋“ค๊ณ ,
05:19
Researchers call the 20s an extended adolescence.
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์—ฐ๊ตฌ์ž๋“ค์€ 20๋Œ€๋ฅผ ์ฒญ์†Œ๋…„๊ธฐ์˜ ์—ฐ์žฅ์ด๋ผ ๋ถ€๋ฆ…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:22
Journalists coin silly nicknames for twentysomethings
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๊ธฐ์ž๋“ค์€ 20๋Œ€๋ฅผ ์œ„ํ•ด 'ํŠธ์œ…์Šคํ„ฐ' ๋‹ˆ 'ํ‚ค๋œํŠธ'๋‹ˆ ํ•˜๋Š”
05:25
like "twixters" and "kidults."
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๋ฉ์ฒญํ•œ ๋ณ„๋ช…์„ ๋งŒ๋“ค์–ด ์คฌ๊ตฌ์š”.
05:28
(Laughing) It's true!
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์ •๋ง๋กœ์š”.
05:30
As a culture, we have trivialized
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์‚ฌ์‹ค ๋ฌธํ™”์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋ณผ ๋•Œ ์„ฑ์ธ์—๊ฒŒ ๊ฒฐ์ •์ ์ธ ์—ญํ• ์„ ํ•˜๋Š”
05:33
what is actually the defining decade of adulthood.
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๊ทธ 10๋…„์ด๋ž€ ์„ธ์›”์„ ๋Œ€์ˆ˜๋กญ์ง€ ์•Š๊ฒŒ ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ด ์™”์–ด์š”.
05:39
Leonard Bernstein said that to achieve great things,
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๋ ˆ๋„ˆ๋“œ ๋ฒˆ์Šคํƒ€์ธ์€ "ํ›Œ๋ฅญํ•œ ์ผ์„ ๋„๋ชจํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ๋Š”
05:42
you need a plan and not quite enough time.
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๊ณ„ํš์€ ์žˆ์–ด์•ผ ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์‹œ๊ฐ„์€ ์ถฉ๋ถ„ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์€ ๊ฒŒ ์ข‹๋‹ค"๊ณ  ํ–ˆ์–ด์š”.
05:46
(Laughing) Isn't that true?
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์ •๋ง ๊ทธ๋ ‡์ง€ ์•Š๋‚˜์š”?
05:48
So what do you think happens
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๊ทธ๋Ÿผ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด
05:49
when you pat a twentysomething on the head and you say,
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20๋Œ€์˜ ๋จธ๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ์“ฐ๋‹ค๋“ฌ์œผ๋ฉฐ
์ด๋Ÿฐ ๋ง์„ ํ•˜๋ฉด ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ๋ ๊นŒ์š”?
05:52
"You have 10 extra years to start your life"?
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"๋„ˆ๋Š” ์–ด๋ฅธ ๋˜๋ ค๋ฉด 10๋…„์ด๋‚˜ ๋” ๋‚จ์•˜๋„ค?"
์•„๋ฌด์ผ๋„ ์•ˆ ์ผ์–ด๋‚ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:56
Nothing happens.
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์–ด์„œ ๋นจ๋ฆฌ ๋ฏธ๋ž˜๋ฅผ ์œ„ํ•ด ๋›ฐ๊ณ  ์‹ถ์€ ํ•œ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์˜ ์•ผ๋ง์„ ๋นผ์•—์€๊ฑฐ๋‹ˆ๊นŒ
05:58
You have robbed that person of his urgency and ambition,
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06:01
and absolutely nothing happens.
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๋ญ ๋ณ„ ์ผ์ด ์ผ์–ด๋‚˜์ง€๋Š” ์•Š์•„์š”.
06:04
And then every day, smart, interesting twentysomethings
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ด์ œ ๋งค์ผ ๋˜‘๋˜‘ํ•˜๊ณ  ์žฌ๋ฏธ์žˆ๋Š”
06:08
like you or like your sons and daughters
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์˜ ์•„๋“ค๊ณผ ๋”ธ์ผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ์ด์‹ญ๋Œ€๋“ค์ด
06:11
come into my office and say things like this:
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์ ˆ ์ฐพ์•„์™€์„œ๋Š” ์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ๋งํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:16
"I know my boyfriend's no good for me,
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"์ œ ๋‚จ์ž ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ์ œ๊ฒŒ ๋„์›€์ด ์•ˆ๋œ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฑด ์•Œ์•„์š”."
06:18
but this relationship doesn't count. I'm just killing time."
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"๊ทผ๋ฐ ๊ทธ๊ฒŒ ๋ญ ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ๊ฐ€์š”, ๊ทธ๋ƒฅ ์‹œ๊ฐ„์ด๋‚˜ ๋–ผ์šฐ๋Š” ๊ฑด๋ฐ์š”, ๋ญ."
06:22
Or they say, "Everybody says as long as I get started
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์•„๋‹ˆ๋ฉด ๋ญ ์ด๋Ÿฐ ๋ง๋„ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. "์„œ๋ฅธ์ด ๋˜๊ธฐ ์ „์—
06:25
on a career by the time I'm 30, I'll be fine."
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์ง์—…์„ ๊ฐ–๊ธฐ๋งŒ ํ•˜๋ฉด ๋‚œ ๊ดœ์ฐฎ์•„์š”."
06:29
But then it starts to sound like this:
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ๋ฐ ์ œ๊ฒ ์ด ๋ง์ด ์ด์ œ ์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ๋“ค๋ฆฌ๊ธฐ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:32
"My 20s are almost over, and I have nothing to show for myself.
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"์•„, ๋‚ด 20๋Œ€๊ฐ€ ๋๋‚˜๊ฐ€๋Š”๋ฐ ์•„๋ฌด๊ฒƒ๋„ ํ•ด ๋†“์€ ๊ฒŒ ์—†์ž–์•„.
06:36
I had a better rรฉsumรฉ the day after I graduated from college."
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๋Œ€ํ•™์„ ์กธ์—…ํ–ˆ์œผ๋‹ˆ ์ด์ œ ์ด๋ ฅ์„œ์— ์ ์„ ๊ฑด ์ƒ๊ฒผ๊ตฐ."
06:41
And then it starts to sound like this:
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์ด๊ฑด ๋˜ ์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ๋“ค๋ฆฌ๋„ค์š”.
06:44
"Dating in my 20s was like musical chairs.
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"๋ฐ์ดํŠธ๋‚˜ ํ•˜๋ฉฐ ๋ณด๋‚ธ ๋‚ด 20๋Œ€๋Š” '์˜์ž ๋นผ์•—๊ธฐ ๋†€์ด' ๊ฐ™์•˜์–ด.
06:46
Everybody was running around and having fun,
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๋ชจ๋‘ ๋น™๋น™ ๋Œ๋ฉด์„œ ์‹ ๋‚˜๊ฒŒ ๋†€๋‹ค๊ฐ€
06:49
but then sometime around 30 it was like the music turned off
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์„œ๋ฅธ์ด ๊ฐ€๊นŒ์›Œ ์˜ค๋‹ˆ ์Œ์•…์€ ๊บผ์ ธ๋ฒ„๋ฆฌ๊ณ ,
06:52
and everybody started sitting down.
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๋‚˜ ๋นผ๊ณ  ๋ชจ๋‘ ์˜์ž์— ์•‰๊ธฐ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ•˜๋Š”๋ฐ,
06:55
I didn't want to be the only one left standing up,
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๋‚˜๋งŒ ํ˜ผ์ž ์„œ์„œ ๋‚จ์•„ ์žˆ๊ธฐ ์‹ซ์—ˆ์–ด.
06:57
so sometimes I think I married my husband
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ๊ฐ€๋” ๋‚œ ๋‚ด ๋‚จํŽธ๊ณผ ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•œ ๊ฒƒ์ด
06:59
because he was the closest chair to me at 30."
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๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ์„œ๋ฅธ์ผ ๋•Œ ์ œ์ผ ๊ฐ€๊นŒ์ด ์žˆ๋˜ ์˜์ž์˜€๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์€ ์•„๋‹ˆ์—ˆ๋Š”์ง€ ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ด"
07:03
Where are the twentysomethings here?
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20๋Œ€๋ถ„๋“ค, ์•„๊นŒ ์–ด๋”” ๊ณ„์…จ์ฃ ?
07:05
Do not do that.
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์ ˆ๋Œ€ ๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ์ง€ ๋งˆ์„ธ์š”.
07:07
(Laughter)
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07:09
Okay, now that sounds a little flip, but make no mistake,
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๋„ค, ์ข€ ๊ฑด๋ฐฉ์ ธ ๋“ค๋ฆด์ง€ ๋ชจ๋ฅด์ง€๋งŒ, ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ์‹ค์ˆ˜ํ•˜์ง€ ๋ง์ž๊ตฌ์š”.
07:12
the stakes are very high.
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๋„ˆ๋ฌด ํฐ ๋„๋ฐ•์ด์ž–์•„์š”.
์—ฌ๋ ค๋ถ„์ด 30๋Œ€๊ฐ€ ๋˜์–ด ์—ฌ๊ธฐ์ €๊ธฐ์—์„œ ๋งŽ์ด ์‹œ๋‹ฌ๋ฆฌ๊ฒŒ ๋  ๋•Œ,
07:15
When a lot has been pushed to your 30s,
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07:17
there is enormous thirtysomething pressure
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์—„์ฒญ๋‚œ ์••๋ฐ•์ด ๋ฐ€๋ ค์˜ต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:19
to jump-start a career, pick a city, partner up,
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์•„์ง ์ดˆ๋ฐ˜์ธ ์ปค๋ฆฌ์–ด์— ์—๋„ˆ์ง€๋ฅผ ์Ÿ๊ณ  ์‚ด ๊ณณ์„ ์ •ํ•˜๊ณ , ์ง์„ ์ฐพ๊ณ ,
07:23
and have two or three kids in a much shorter period of time.
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๊ต‰์žฅํžˆ ์งง์€ ๊ธฐ๊ฐ„์— ์• ๋„ ํ•œ ๋‘์…‹ ๋‚ณ๊ณ  ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ ๋ง์ด์ฃ .
07:27
Many of these things are incompatible,
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๊ฐ™์ด ํ•˜๊ธฐ ๋ฒ…์ฐฌ ๊ฒƒ๋“ค ํˆฌ์„ฑ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:29
and as research is just starting to show,
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์ตœ๊ทผ ์—ฐ๊ตฌ๊ฒฐ๊ณผ์— ๋”ฐ๋ฅด๋ฉด,
07:32
simply harder and more stressful to do all at once in our 30s.
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30๋Œ€์— ์ด๋Ÿฐ ๋ชจ๋“  ๊ฑธ ํ•œ๊บผ๋ฒˆ์— ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๋ณด๋‹ค
๋” ํž˜๋“ค๊ณ  ์ŠคํŠธ๋ ˆ์Šค ๋ฐ›๋Š” ์ผ๋„ ์—†๋‹ค๊ณ  ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
07:38
The post-millennial midlife crisis isn't buying a red sports car.
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์ƒˆ์ฒœ๋…„ ์ค‘๋…„์˜ ์œ„๊ธฐ๋Š”
์ฒ ์—†์ด ๋นจ๊ฐ„ ์Šคํฌ์ธ ์นด๋ฅผ ์‚ฌ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ ๋”ฐ์œ„๊ฐ€ ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:43
It's realizing you can't have that career you now want.
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ์›ํ•˜๋Š” ์ปค๋ฆฌ์–ด๋ฅผ
๊ฐ€์งˆ ์ˆ˜ ์—†๋‹ค๋Š” ์‚ฌ์‹ค๊ณผ ๋งˆ์ฃผํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ,
07:48
It's realizing you can't have that child you now want,
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์›ํ•˜๋Š” ์•„์ด๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€์งˆ ์ˆ˜ ์—†๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ,
07:51
or you can't give your child a sibling.
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๋˜ ๊ทธ ์•„์ด์˜ ํ˜•์ œ๋ฅผ ๋‚ณ์„ ์ˆ˜ ์—†๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ, ๋ฐ”๋กœ ์ด๋Ÿฐ๊ฒŒ ์ค‘๋…„์˜ ์œ„๊ธฐ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:55
Too many thirtysomethings and fortysomethings
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์ˆ˜๋งŽ์€ 3, 40๋Œ€๊ฐ€
07:57
look at themselves, and at me, sitting across the room,
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์ž๊ธฐ ์ž์‹ ์„ ์ณ๋‹ค๋ณด๊ณ , ์ €๋ฅผ ๋ณด๋ฉด์„œ ๊ณณ๊ณณ์— ๊ณ„์‹œ๋„ค์š”.
08:01
and say about their 20s,
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ๋ฉด์„œ ์ž์‹ ์˜ 20๋Œ€์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ๋งํ•˜๊ณ  ๊ณ„์„ธ์š”.
08:03
"What was I doing? What was I thinking?"
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"๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ๋ญ˜ ํ•œ๊ฑฐ์ง€? ๋ฌด์Šจ ์ƒ๊ฐ ์ด์—ˆ๋˜๊ฑฐ์ง€?"
08:09
I want to change what twentysomethings are doing and thinking.
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20๋Œ€ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„, ์ง€๊ธˆ์˜ ํ–‰๋™, ์ƒ๊ฐ
๋ฐ”๊ฟ”์ฃผ์‹œ๊ธธ ๋ฐ”๋ž˜์š”.
08:13
Here's a story about how that can go.
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์—ฌ๊ธฐ ์‹ค์ฒœ์— ์˜ฎ๊ธด ํ•œ ๋ถ„์˜ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๋“ค๋ ค๋“œ๋ฆด๊ป˜์š”.
08:15
It's a story about a woman named Emma.
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์— ๋งˆ๋ผ๋Š” ์—ฌ์„ฑ ๋ถ„์˜ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ์—์š”.
08:19
At 25, Emma came to my office
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์— ๋งˆ๊ฐ€ ์ ˆ ์ฐพ์•„ ์™”์„ ๋•Œ, ๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” 25์„ธ ์˜€๊ณ ,
08:21
because she was, in her words, having an identity crisis.
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์ •์ฒด์„ฑ์˜ ํ˜ผ๋ž€์„ ๊ฒช๊ณ  ์žˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ํ–ˆ์—ˆ์ฃ .
์˜ˆ์ˆ ์ด๋‚˜ ์—”ํ„ฐํ…Œ์ธ๋จผํŠธ ๋ถ„์•ผ์—์„œ ์ผํ•˜๊ณ ๋Š” ์‹ถ์€๋ฐ,
08:27
She said she thought she might like to work in art or entertainment,
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์•„์ง ์•„๋ฌด ๊ฒฐ์ •๋„ ๋ชปํ–ˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ํ–ˆ์–ด์š”.
08:30
but she hadn't decided yet,
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08:32
so she'd spent the last few years waiting tables instead.
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์‹๋‹น์—์„œ ์ผํ•˜๋ฉฐ ์ง€๋‚œ ๋ช‡๋…„์„ ํ˜๋ ค๋ณด๋ƒˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฑฐ์—์š”.
๋‚จ์ž ์นœ๊ตฌ์™€ ๋™๊ฑฐ๋ฅผ ํ•˜๋Š” ์ด์œ ๋Š” ์ˆœ์ „ํžˆ ๊ฒฝ์ œ์  ์ด์œ ์˜€์–ด์š”.
08:37
Because it was cheaper, she lived with a boyfriend
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08:39
who displayed his temper more than his ambition.
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๊ฟˆ ๊ฐ™์€๊ฑด ์žˆ์ง€๋„ ์•Š๊ณ , ์„ฑ์งˆ์„ ์ž์ฃผ ๋ถ€๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๋‚จ์ž ์นœ๊ตฌ์˜€์ฃ .
์— ๋งˆ๋Š” ์–ด๋ฆฐ ์‹œ์ ˆ์—๋„
08:43
And as hard as her 20s were,
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20๋Œ€๋งŒํผ ์–ด๋ ต๊ฒŒ ๋ณด๋ƒˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ํ–ˆ์–ด์š”.
08:45
her early life had been even harder.
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๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” ์ข…์ข…
์ƒ๋‹ด ์ค‘๊ฐ„ ์ค‘๊ฐ„ ์šธ์—ˆ์–ด์š”.
08:48
She often cried in our sessions,
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08:50
but then would collect herself by saying,
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์— ๋งˆ๋Š” ์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ๋งํ•˜๋ฉด์„œ ๋งˆ์Œ์„ ๊ฐ€๋‹ค๋“ฌ๊ณ ๋Š” ํ–ˆ์–ด์š”.
08:52
"You can't pick your family, but you can pick your friends."
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"๊ฐ€์กฑ์€ ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ์„ ํƒํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์—†์ง€๋งŒ ์นœ๊ตฌ๋Š” ๊ทธ๋ ‡์ง€ ์•Š์ฃ ."
08:57
Well one day, Emma comes in and she hangs her head in her lap,
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์–ด๋Š๋‚  ์— ๋งˆ๊ฐ€ ์ œ๊ฒŒ ์™€์„œ๋Š”
๋ฌด๋ฆŽ์— ๊ณ ๊ฐœ๋ฅผ ๋ฌป๊ณ 
09:00
and she sobbed for most of the hour.
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๊ณ„์† ํ๋Š๊ปด ์šธ๋”๋ผ๊ณ ์š”.
09:04
She'd just bought a new address book,
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์— ๋งˆ๋Š” ์ฃผ์†Œ๋ก์„ ๋ง‰ ์ƒˆ๋กœ ์‚ฌ์„œ
09:06
and she'd spent the morning filling in her many contacts,
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์•„์นจ ๋‚ด๋‚ด ๋งŽ์€ ์—ฐ๋ฝ์ฒ˜๋ฅผ ์ฑ„์›Œ ๋„ฃ์—ˆ๋Œ€์š”.
09:09
but then she'd been left staring at that empty blank
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ๋‹ค ๋นˆ์นธ ํ•˜๋‚˜๊ฐ€ ๋ˆˆ์— ๋„๋”๋ž˜์š”.
09:12
that comes after the words
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์ด๋Ÿฐ ๋ง ๋’ค์˜ ๋นˆ์นธ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:14
"In case of emergency, please call ..."
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"๋น„์ƒ ์‹œ, *** ๋กœ ์ „ํ™” ์ฃผ์„ธ์š”."
09:18
She was nearly hysterical when she looked at me and said,
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์ ˆ ๋ฐ”๋ผ๋ณด๋ฉฐ ์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ๋งํ•  ๋•Œ, ์— ๋งˆ๋Š” ๊ฑฐ์˜ ๋ฐœ์ž‘ ์ƒํƒœ ๊ฐ™์•˜์–ด์š”.
09:21
"Who's going to be there for me if I get in a car wreck?
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"์ œ๊ฐ€ ๋งŒ์•ฝ ๊ตํ†ต ์‚ฌ๊ณ ๋กœ ๋ฐ•์‚ด๋‚œ ์ฐจ์— ์žˆ๋‹ค๋ฉด ๋ˆ„๊ฐ€ ๋‚ด๊ณ์— ์žˆ์–ด ์ค„๊นŒ์š”?"
09:24
Who's going to take care of me if I have cancer?"
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"์•”์— ๊ฑธ๋ฆฐ๋‹ค๋ฉด ๋ˆ„๊ฐ€ ์ ˆ ๋Œ๋ด์ค„๊นŒ์š”?"
09:29
Now in that moment, it took everything I had
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๊ทธ ์ˆœ๊ฐ„, ์ €๋Š” '๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ํ• ๊ป˜' ๋ผ๋Š” ๋ง์„ ํ•ด์„œ๋Š” ์•ˆ๋œ๋‹ค๋Š”๊ฑธ ์•Œ์•˜์–ด์š”.
09:31
not to say, "I will."
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์— ๋งˆ๊ฐ€ ์ง„์‹ค๋กœ ํ•„์š”๋กœ ํ–ˆ๋˜ ๊ฒƒ์€
09:34
But what Emma needed wasn't some therapist who really, really cared.
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์ง„์‹ฌ์œผ๋กœ ๊ฑฑ์ •ํ•ด ์ฃผ๋Š” ์น˜๋ฃŒ์‚ฌ๊ฐ€ ์•„๋‹ˆ์—ˆ์–ด์š”.
09:38
Emma needed a better life, and I knew this was her chance.
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์— ๋งˆ๋Š” ๋” ๋‚˜์€ ์‚ถ์„ ์›ํ–ˆ๊ณ  ์ €๋Š” ๊ทธ ๋•Œ๊ฐ€ ๊ทธ ๊ธฐํšŒ๋ž€ ๊ฑธ ์•Œ์•˜์–ด์š”.
09:43
I had learned too much since I first worked with Alex
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์— ๋งˆ์˜ ์ธ์ƒ์„ ๊ฒฐ์ •์ง“๋Š” 10๋…„์ด ์ง€๋‚˜๊ฐ€๋Š” ๋™์•ˆ
09:46
to just sit there while Emma's defining decade
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ํ™˜์ž๋กœ ์˜จ ์•Œ๋ ‰์Šค์™€ ์•‰์•„์„œ ๊ทธ๋ƒฅ ์ˆ˜๋‹ค๋‚˜ ๋–จ์—ˆ๋˜ ์ œ๊ฐ€
์ดํ›„ ๋งŽ์€ ๊ฑธ ๋ฐฐ์›Œ ์•Œ๊ฒŒ ๋œ๊ฑฐ์ฃ .
09:50
went parading by.
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09:53
So over the next weeks and months,
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์ดํ›„ ๋ช‡๋‹ฌ์— ๊ฑธ์ณ
09:55
I told Emma three things
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์— ๋งˆ์—๊ฒŒ ๋งํ•ด์คฌ์–ด์š”.
์—ฌ์ž๋“  ๋‚จ์ž๋“  ๋ชจ๋“  20๋Œ€๊ฐ€
09:57
that every twentysomething, male or female,
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10:00
deserves to hear.
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๊ผญ ์•Œ์•˜์œผ๋ฉด ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์„ธ๊ฐ€์ง€ ์žˆ๋‹ค๊ณ ์š”.
10:03
First, I told Emma to forget about having an identity crisis
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์ฒซ์งธ, ์ „ ์—๋งˆ์—๊ฒŒ ์ •์ฒด์„ฑ ํ˜ผ๋ž€ ๊ฐ™์€ ๊ฑด ์žŠ๊ณ ,
10:08
and get some identity capital.
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์ •์ฒด์„ฑ ์ž๋ณธ(Identity Capital)์„ ๋งŒ๋“ค๋ผ๊ณ  ์กฐ์–ธํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:11
By "get identity capital,"
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์ •์ฒด์„ฑ ์ž๋ณธ์„ ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ณ , ์ž์‹ ์˜ ๋ชจ์Šต์— ๊ฐ€์น˜๋ฅผ ๋”ํ•˜๋Š”
10:12
I mean do something that adds value to who you are.
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ์ผ์„ ํ•˜๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ง์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:17
Do something that's an investment
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์ด ๋‹ค์Œ์— ๋ฌด์—‡์ด๋“  ๋˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์–ดํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ”๊ฐ€ ์žˆ๋‹ค๋ฉด,
10:19
in who you might want to be next.
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๋ฐ”๋กœ ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์— ํˆฌ์žํ•˜๋ผ๊ณ  ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:22
I didn't know the future of Emma's career,
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์ €๋Š” ์— ๋งˆ์˜ ์ปค๋ฆฌ์–ด๊ฐ€ ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ๋ ์ง€ ๋ชฐ๋ž๊ณ ,
10:24
and no one knows the future of work,
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๊ทธ๊ฑด ์•„๋ฌด๋„ ๋ชจ๋ฅด๋Š” ์ผ์ด์—ˆ์–ด์š”.
10:27
but I do know this:
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ €๋Š” ์ด๊ฒƒ ํ•˜๋‚˜๋Š” ์•Œ๊ณ  ์žˆ์–ด์š”.
10:28
Identity capital begets identity capital.
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์ •์ฒด์„ฑ ์ž๋ณธ์ด ์ •์ฒด์„ฑ ์ž๋ณธ์„ ๋‚ณ๋Š”๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„์š”.
10:32
So now is the time for that cross-country job,
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์ง€๊ธˆ์€, ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๊ฐ€์ง€ ์ผ์ด๋‚˜ ์ธํ„ด์‰ฝ ๋˜๋Š”
10:35
that internship, that startup you want to try.
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์ฐฝ์—…๊ณผ ๊ฐ™์ด ํ•˜๊ณ ์ž ํ•˜๋Š” ์ผ์„ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ•ด์•ผ ํ•  ์‹œ๊ฐ„์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:38
I'm not discounting twentysomething exploration here,
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์ €๋Š” ์—ฌ๊ธฐ์„œ 20๋Œ€๋“ค์ด ํ•˜๋Š” ํƒ๊ตฌ๋ฅผ ๋ฌด์‹œํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ,
10:42
but I am discounting exploration that's not supposed to count,
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์˜๋ฏธ๊ฐ€ ์—†๋Š” ํƒํ—˜์—
ํฐ ๊ฐ€์น˜๋ฅผ ๋‘์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:47
which, by the way, is not exploration.
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์ด๊ฑธ ๋‹ค์‹œ ๋งํ•˜์ž๋ฉด,
10:49
That's procrastination.
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๋ฏธ๋ฃจ๋Š” ๋ฒ„๋ฆ‡์ด๋ผ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด์ฃ .
10:52
I told Emma to explore work and make it count.
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์ €๋Š” ์— ๋งˆ์—๊ฒŒ ์ผ์„ ํƒํ—˜ํ•˜๊ณ  ๊ฐ€์น˜ ์žˆ๊ฒŒ ๋งŒ๋“ค๋ผ๊ณ  ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:58
Second, I told Emma that the urban tribe is overrated.
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๋‘˜์งธ, ์ €๋Š” ์— ๋งˆ์—๊ฒŒ ๋ชฐ๋ ค๋‹ค๋‹ˆ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ๊ณผ๋Œ€ ํ‰๊ฐ€๋˜์–ด ์žˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋งํ–ˆ์ฃ .
11:03
Best friends are great for giving rides to the airport,
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๊ณตํ•ญ๊นŒ์ง€ ์ฐจ๋ฅผ ํƒœ์›Œ๋‹ค ์ค„ ์ข‹์€ ์นœ๊ตฌ๋“ค๋„ ์ค‘์š”ํ•˜๊ฒ ์ฃ .
11:06
but twentysomethings who huddle together with like-minded peers
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋น„์Šทํ•œ ์ƒ๊ฐ์„ ๊ฐ€์ง„ 20๋Œ€๋“ค์ด ๋ชฐ๋ ค๋‹ค๋‹ˆ๋‹ค ๋ณด๋ฉด
๊ทธ๋“ค์ด ์•„๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ, ํ•˜๋Š” ์ผ, ์ƒ๊ฐํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•,
11:10
limit who they know,
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์ง์žฅ๊นŒ์ง€๋„
11:12
what they know, how they think,
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11:14
how they speak, and where they work.
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ํ•œ๊ณ„๊ฐ€ ์ƒ๊น๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:18
That new piece of capital, that new person to date
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์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ๋‚ด๋ฉด์˜ ์ž์‚ฐ, ์ƒˆ๋กœ ๋งŒ๋‚˜๊ฒŒ ๋˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์€
11:20
almost always comes from outside the inner circle.
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๊ฑฐ์˜ ๋Œ€๋ถ€๋ถ„ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ๋ชฐ๋ ค๋‹ค๋‹ˆ๋Š” ์ง‘๋‹จ์˜ ๋ฐ”๊นฅ์—์„œ ์˜ต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:24
New things come from what are called our weak ties,
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์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ๊ฒƒ๋“ค์€ ์†Œ์œ„ ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ์•ฝํ•œ ์œ ๋Œ€๋กœ๋ถ€ํ„ฐ ๋‚˜์˜ค๋Š” ๊ฑฐ์—์š”.
11:27
our friends of friends of friends.
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์นœ๊ตฌ์˜ ์นœ๊ตฌ, ์ด๋Ÿฐ ์‹์œผ๋กœ์š”.
11:30
So yes, half of twentysomethings are un- or under-employed.
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๋„ค, 20๋Œ€์˜ ๋ฐ˜์€์‹ค์ง ํ˜น์€ ์ผ์ด ์ถฉ๋ถ„ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์€ ์ƒํƒœ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:35
But half aren't,
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๋ฐ˜๋ฉด ๋˜ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ๋ฐ˜์€ ๊ทธ๋ ‡์ง€ ์•Š์€๋ฐ์š”.
11:37
and weak ties are how you get yourself into that group.
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์•ฝํ•œ ์œ ๋Œ€๋Š” ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ๊ทธ ๊ทธ๋ฃน ์•ˆ์— ์†ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š”๊ฐ€์˜ ๋ฌธ์ œ์—์š”.
11:40
Half of new jobs are never posted,
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์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ์ผ ์ž๋ฆฌ ์ค‘ ๋ฐ˜์€ ๊ณต๊ฐœ๋˜์ง€ ์•Š๋Š”๋ฐ,
11:43
so reaching out to your neighbor's boss is how you get that unposted job.
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์˜ ์ด์›ƒ์˜ ์ง์žฅ ์ƒ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ํ†ตํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด
๊ณต๊ฐœ๋˜์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ์ผ ์ž๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ๊ตฌํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ• ์ค‘ ํ•˜๋‚˜์—์š”.
11:48
It's not cheating. It's the science of how information spreads.
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์ด๊ฑด ๋ถ€์ • ํ–‰์œ„๊ฐ€ ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ, ์ •๋ณด๊ฐ€ ํ๋ฅด๋Š” ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:53
Last but not least, Emma believed
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๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰์œผ๋กœ ์— ๋งˆ๋Š” ์ž์‹ ์ด ๊ฐ€์กฑ์„ ์„ ํƒํ•  ์ˆ˜๋Š” ์—†์—ˆ์ง€๋งŒ.
11:55
that you can't pick your family, but you can pick your friends.
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์นœ๊ตฌ๋Š” ๊ณ ๋ฅผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋ฏฟ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:59
Now this was true for her growing up,
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์ด์ ์€ ๊ทธ๋…€์˜ ์„ฑ์žฅ์— ์ ์šฉ๋˜์—ˆ์ฃ .
12:01
but as a twentysomething, soon Emma would pick her family
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ 20๋Œ€ ์–ธ์  ๊ฐ€, ์— ๋งˆ๋„ ๊ณง
๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€์™€ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ๋ถ€๋ชจ๊ฐ€ ๋˜๊ณ 
12:04
when she partnered with someone and created a family of her own.
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๊ทธ๋…€์˜ ๊ฐ€์กฑ์„ ๋งŒ๋“ค๊ฒŒ ๋  ๊ฒ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
์ €๋Š” ์— ๋งˆ์—๊ฒŒ ์ง€๊ธˆ์ด ๊ฐ€์กฑ์„ ๊ณ ๋ฅด๊ธฐ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ•˜๋Š” ์‹œ๊ฐ„์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ๋งํ–ˆ์–ด์š”.
12:09
I told Emma the time to start picking your family is now.
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12:14
Now you may be thinking that 30 is actually a better time to settle down
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์ง€๊ธˆ ๋„ˆ๋Š” ์„œ๋ฅธ์ด ์Šค๋ฌผ,
์•„๋‹ˆ๋ฉด ์Šค๋ฌผ ๋‹ค์„ฏ ๋ณด๋‹ค
12:18
than 20, or even 25,
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๊ฐ€์ •์„ ์ด๋ฃจ๊ณ  ์ •์ฐฉํ•˜๊ธฐ์— ์ ๊ธฐ๋ผ๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•˜๊ณ ,
12:21
and I agree with you.
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๋‚˜ ์—ญ์‹œ ์ด์— ๋™์˜ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ,
12:23
But grabbing whoever you're living with or sleeping with
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๋ชจ๋“  ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ํŽ˜์ด์Šค ๋ถ์— ์ค„์„ ์„œ๋Š” ๋งˆ๋‹น์—
12:26
when everyone on Facebook starts walking down the aisle
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ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์‚ด๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๋ฐค์„ ๋ณด๋‚ผ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์„ ์•„๋ฌด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ๋‚˜ ํƒํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€
12:29
is not progress.
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์•ž์œผ๋กœ ๋‚˜์•„๊ฐ€๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ๊ณ  ๋งํ•ด ์ฃผ์—ˆ์–ด์š”.
12:32
The best time to work on your marriage is before you have one,
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๊ฒฐํ˜ผ์„ ์ค€๋น„ํ•˜๊ธฐ์— ์ ๊ธฐ๋Š”,
์šด๋ช…์˜ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฅผ ๋งŒ๋‚˜๊ธฐ ์ „์ด๊ณ 
12:36
and that means being as intentional with love
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๋”ฐ๋ผ์„œ ๊ทธ๊ฑด ์ง์žฅ์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ๊ฒƒ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ
12:39
as you are with work.
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์‚ฌ๋ž‘์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด์„œ๋„ ๊ณ„ํš์ ์ด์–ด์•ผ ํ•œ๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋งํ•ด ์ฃผ์—ˆ์–ด์š”.
12:41
Picking your family is about consciously choosing
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๊ฐ€์กฑ์„ ๊ณ ๋ฅด๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ๋ˆ„๊ตฌ๋ฅผ,
12:44
who and what you want
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๋˜ ๋ฌด์—‡์„ ์›ํ•˜๋Š”์ง€ ์กฐ์‹ฌ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ๊ฒฐ์ •ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๊ณผ ๊ฐ™์•„์š”.
12:46
rather than just making it work or killing time
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๊ทธ๋ƒฅ ๊ด€๊ณ„๊ฐ€ ์ด๋ฃจ์–ด์ง€๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜, ์•„๋ฌด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ๋‚˜ ๊ฒฐ์ •ํ•œ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๊ณผ
์‹œ๊ฐ„์„ ์ฃฝ์ด๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ์˜ˆ์š”.
12:50
with whoever happens to be choosing you.
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12:53
So what happened to Emma?
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์— ๋งˆ๋Š” ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ๋˜์—ˆ์„๊นŒ์š”?
์— ๋งˆ์™€ ์ €๋Š” ๊ทธ๋…€์˜ ์ฃผ์†Œ๋ก์„ ๋ชจ๋‘ ์‚ดํŽด ๋ณด์•˜๊ณ ,
12:56
Well, we went through that address book,
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์— ๋งˆ์˜ ์˜› ๋ฃธ๋ฉ”์ดํŠธ์˜ ์‚ฌ์ดŒ์„ ์ฐพ์•˜์–ด์š”.
12:58
and she found an old roommate's cousin
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13:00
who worked at an art museum in another state.
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๊ทธ๋Š” ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์ฃผ์— ์žˆ๋Š” ๋ฏธ์ˆ ๊ด€์—์„œ ์ผํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ์—ˆ์ฃ .
13:03
That weak tie helped her get a job there.
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์ด ์•ฝํ•œ ์—ฐ๋Œ€๋Š” ์— ๋งˆ๊ฐ€ ๋ฏธ์ˆ ๊ด€์—์„œ ์ง์—…์„ ๊ฐ€์ง€๋Š”๋ฐ ๋„์›€์ด ๋˜์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
13:06
That job offer gave her the reason to leave that live-in boyfriend.
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์ด ์ง์—…์œผ๋กœ ๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” ์ด์ „์— ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์‚ด๋˜ ๋‚จ์ž ์นœ๊ตฌ๋กœ๋ถ€ํ„ฐ
๋– ๋‚  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ฒŒ ๋˜์—ˆ์ฃ .
๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  5๋…„์ด ์ง€๋‚œ ์ง€๊ธˆ, ๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” ๋ฐ•๋ฌผ๊ด€์—์„œ ํŠน๋ณ„ ํ–‰์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ๊ธฐํšํ•˜๋Š” ํ”Œ๋ž˜๋„ˆ๊ฐ€ ๋˜์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
13:11
Now, five years later, she's a special events planner for museums.
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๋˜ ๊ทธ๋…€๊ฐ€ ์‹ ์ค‘ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์„ ํƒํ•œ ํ•œ ๋‚จ์ž์™€ ๊ฒฐํ˜ผ์„ ํ–ˆ์ฃ .
13:15
She's married to a man she mindfully chose.
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13:18
She loves her new career, she loves her new family,
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์ง€๊ธˆ์˜ ์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ์ง์žฅ์„ ์‚ฌ๋ž‘ํ•˜๊ณ , ์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ๊ฐ€์กฑ์„ ์‚ฌ๋ž‘ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ €์—๊ฒŒ ์ด๋Ÿฐ ๋ง์ด ์ ํžŒ ์นด๋“œ๋ฅผ ๋ณด๋ƒˆ์–ด์š”.
13:21
and she sent me a card that said,
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13:23
"Now the emergency contact blanks
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"์ด์ œ ๋” ์ด์ƒ ๊ธด๊ธ‰ ์—ฐ๋ฝ์ฒ˜์— ์ด๋ฆ„์„ ์ ๋Š” ์นธ์ด
13:25
don't seem big enough."
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๋‘๋ ต๊ฒŒ ๋Š๊ปด์ง€์ง€ ์•Š๋‹ค" ๊ณ  ๋ง์ด์ฃ .
13:29
Now Emma's story made that sound easy,
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์ง€๊ธˆ ์— ๋งˆ์˜ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ๊ฐ€ ์•„์ฃผ ์‰ฌ์šด ๊ฒƒ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ๋“ค๋ฆฌ์‹ค ๊ฒ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
13:31
but that's what I love about working with twentysomethings.
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์ด๊ฒƒ์ด ์ œ๊ฐ€ 20๋Œ€๋“ค๊ณผ ์ผํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์ข‹์•„ํ•˜๋Š” ์ด์œ ๋ž๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
13:34
They are so easy to help.
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20๋Œ€๋“ค์„ ๋„์™€์ฃผ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋ฌด์ฒ™ ์‰ฌ์›Œ์š”
13:36
Twentysomethings are like airplanes just leaving LAX,
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20๋Œ€๋“ค์€ LA๊ณตํ•ญ์— ๋ง‰ ๋‹ค๋‹ค๋ฅธ ํ›„
13:40
bound for somewhere west.
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์„œ์ชฝ ์–ด๋”˜๊ฐ€๋กœ ๋– ๋‚˜๋ ค๊ณ  ํ•˜๋Š” ๋น„ํ–‰๊ธฐ์™€ ๊ฐ™์•„์š”.
13:43
Right after takeoff, a slight change in course
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์ด๋ฅ™ํ•œ ํ›„, ์•ฝ๊ฐ„์˜ ๋ณ€ํ™”๊ฐ€ ํ”ผ์ง€์— ์ฐฉ๋ฅ™ํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ธ์ง€
13:46
is the difference between landing in Alaska or Fiji.
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ํ˜น์€ ์•Œ๋ ˆ์Šค์นด์— ์ฐฉ๋ฅ™ํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ธ์ง€๋ฅผ ๊ฒฐ์ •ํ•˜์ฃ .
13:51
Likewise, at 21 or 25 or even 29,
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์ด์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ, ์Šค๋ฌผ ํ•˜๋‚˜ ํ˜น์€ ์Šค๋ฌผ ๋‹ค์„ฏ, ์Šค๋ฌผ ์•„ํ™‰๊นŒ์ง€.
13:56
one good conversation, one good break,
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๋‹จ ํ•œ๋ฒˆ์˜ ์ข‹์€ ๋Œ€ํ™”, ์ข‹์€ ํœด์‹,
13:59
one good TED Talk, can have an enormous effect
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๊ฐ๋ช…๊นŠ์€ TED ๊ฐ•์—ฐ๋งŒ์œผ๋กœ, ๊ทธ ์ดํ›„์˜ ๋ช‡๋…„, ์ดํ›„ ์„ธ๋Œ€์— ๊นŒ์ง€
14:03
across years and even generations to come.
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์—„์ฒญ๋‚œ ์˜ํ–ฅ์„ ๋ผ์น  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์–ด์š”.
14:07
So here's an idea worth spreading
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ, ์ด์ œ ๋ชจ๋“  20๋Œ€ ๋ถ„๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ์ „ํ•  ๋งŒํ•œ ๊ฐ€์น˜๊ฐ€ ์žˆ๋Š”
14:09
to every twentysomething you know.
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์•„์ด๋””์–ด๋ฅผ ๋ง์”€๋“œ๋ฆด๊ป˜์š”.
14:12
It's as simple as what I learned to say to Alex.
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์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์•Œ๋ ‰์Šค์™€ ๋งํ•˜๋ฉฐ ๋ฐฐ์šด ๊ฒƒ๋“ค ๋งŒํผ์ด๋‚˜ ๋‹จ์ˆœํ•œ ๊ฒƒ์ด์˜ˆ์š”.
14:15
It's what I now have the privilege
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๋˜ํ•œ ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์— ๋งˆ์™€ ๊ฐ™์€ 20๋Œ€๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ
14:17
of saying to twentysomethings like Emma every single day:
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๋งค์ผ ๋งค์ผ ํ•ด์ฃผ๊ณ  ์‹ถ์€ ๋ง์ด์˜ˆ์š”.
14:22
Thirty is not the new 20, so claim your adulthood,
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30๋Œ€๋Š” ์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ๋ฒ„์ ผ์˜ 20๋Œ€๊ฐ€ ์•„๋‹ˆ์˜ˆ์š”.
๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ๋‹ˆ ์Šค์Šค๋กœ โ€˜์„ฑ์ธโ€™์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ์˜์‹์„ ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ณ , ์ •์ฒด์„ฑ ์ž์•„๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€์ง€์„ธ์š”.
14:26
get some identity capital, use your weak ties,
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14:29
pick your family.
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์˜ ๋„คํŠธ์›Œํฌ์ธ '์•ฝํ•œ ์œ ๋Œ€'๋ฅผ ์ด์šฉํ•˜์‹œ๊ณ , ๊ฐ€์ •์„ ๊พธ๋ฆด ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์„ ๊ณ ๋ฅด์„ธ์š”.
14:32
Don't be defined by what you didn't know
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์ง€๋‚œ๋‚  ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ๋ชฐ๋ž๋˜ ๊ฒƒ๋“ค, ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์•˜๋˜ ๊ฒƒ๋“ค๋กœ
14:34
or didn't do.
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์Šค์Šค๋กœ๋ฅผ ํ‰๊ฐ€ํ•˜์ง€ ๋งˆ์„ธ์š”.
์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์€ ์ง€๊ธˆ, ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์˜ ์ธ์ƒ์„ ๊ฒฐ์ •ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
14:36
You're deciding your life right now.
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14:39
Thank you.
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๊ฐ์‚ฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
14:40
(Applause)
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