How vulnerability makes you a better leader | Tracy Young

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Meus pais eran refuxiados do comunismo.
Mentres crecía, vin como os meus pais
mantiñan dous traballos sen ningunha queixa
para que meus irmáns e eu vivísemos mellor ca eles.
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My parents were refugees of communism.
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Growing up, I watched my mom and dad
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Sentía orgullo de ser a súa filla.
E entendía ben a miña identidade como inmigrante.
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work two full-time jobs without ever complaining,
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A miña parte feminina, de tódolos xeitos, érame moito máis difícil de asumir.
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so my siblings and I could live a better life than they did.
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I was proud to be their daughter.
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Nunca quixen chamar a atención co meu xénero,
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And I understood the immigrant part of my identity well.
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The female part of my identity, however, was much harder for me to own.
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porque temía que non me tomarían en serio como executiva.
Así que centrei a miña enerxía no que consideraba importante,
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I never wanted to draw attention to my gender,
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como facer rir ó meu equipo.
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because I was afraid I wouldn’t be taken seriously as a CEO.
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Lembro escribir e practicar as bromas ata a saciedade
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So I focused my energy on the things that I thought were important,
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stuff like making my team laugh.
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antes das reunións.
Ou era a primeira en chegar e a última en marchar da oficina,
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I remember I would painstakingly write and rehearse jokes
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porque pensaba que iso importaba.
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before every all-hands.
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Cando estaba embarazada de seis meses
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Or I'd be the first one in the office and the last one out,
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contactounos un grande competidor para adquirir a nosa empresa.
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because I thought that these things mattered.
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Toda empresa nova quere unha oferta así,
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When I was six months pregnant,
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one of our large competitors reached out, wanting to talk about acquiring us.
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pero comezou a amolarme moito
que durante as conversas con estes descoñecidos
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Every startup wants the option to be bought,
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cos que eu estaba negociando,
os seus ollos viaxasen cara o meu ventre preñado.
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but it really got under my skin
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Púxenme de parto a noite do noso encontro cos usuarios.
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when during conversations with these strangers
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who I was negotiating with,
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As semanas previas ó evento,
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their eyes would sometimes wander to my pregnant belly.
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mentres vía ó equipo prepararse para a presentación,
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I went into labor the same night of our user conference.
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pregunteime cantos homes se perderían o seu propio congreso
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The weeks leading up to the event,
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watching our team prepare for our big product unveiling,
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polo nacemento do seu fillo.
Figureime que a maioría.
Mais seguía razoando comigo mesma que se eu non estivese preñada
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I wondered how many male CEOs would skip their own conference
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for the birth of their child.
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non habería dúbida sobre se estaría ou non.
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I assumed most would.
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Así que tiña que estar alí,
forzándome a pasear os meus nove meses de preñez.
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But I kept reasoning with myself that if I wasn't pregnant,
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En restrospectiva, 14 horas de pé facendo de anfitrioa non foi boa idea.
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there'd be no question whether I'd be there or not.
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So I have to be there,
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forcing myself to parade my nine-month pregnancy,
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Cando cheguei a casa, rompín augas e comezaron as contraccións
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work the halls as hosts on my feet for 14 hours was a bad idea in hindsight.
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e pasarían 32 horas ata que escoitase os choros de meu fillo.
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The moment I arrived home, my water broke and my contractions started
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Cando o meu bebé tiña seis semanas, volvín ó traballo.
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and I wouldn't hear my son's first cry for another 32 hours.
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A compra da empresa non fora adiante,
e eu propuxérame conseguir os fondos necesarios para combater.
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When my baby was six weeks old, I went back to work.
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Our M and A had fallen through by then,
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Mais aínda sangraba polos desgarros da vaxina
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and I was determined to fundraise a war chest to fight them back.
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provocados polo parto.
Aínda me pregunto a min mesma
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But I was still bleeding from several tears in my vagina
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por que apurei a volta ó traballo cando non estaba lista.
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from pushing out a baby.
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E agora sei que foi por mor do medo.
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To this day, I still ask myself
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Tiña tanto medo do que a xente podía pensar de min
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why I rushed back to work when I wasn't ready.
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como nai debutante e directora xeral.
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And I realize now it was because I was afraid.
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Tiña medo de que pensasen que as miñas prioridades cambiaran.
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I was so afraid of what people might think of me
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Así que me apremei para probarlle a todo o mundo
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as a new mother and CEO.
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que estaba máis dedicada ca nunca á empresa.
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I was afraid that they would think that my priorities had changed.
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Pasei os seguintes dous meses recadando fondos.
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So I pressured myself into proving to everyone
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that I was as dedicated to the company as ever.
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Tiña un horario completo e a obriga de sacar leite para o meu bebé,
pero non tiña afouteza para pedir 50 millóns de dólares
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I would spend the next two months fundraising to secure our war chest.
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ó tempo que usaba o cuarto para nais.
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I had a full schedule and I needed to pump milk,
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E como pode unha sacar leite en Silicon Valley?
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but I didn't have the courage to ask for 50 million dollars
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Pois, aparcaba o coche
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and ask to use their mother's room.
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diante dunha casa ben en Palo Alto.
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So how does one pump milk on Sand Hill Road?
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Quitaba a camisa e sacaba o leite dos meus peitos
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Well, I would park my car
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cunha bomba de silicona.
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in front of someone's super nice home in Palo Alto.
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Funcionaba, supoño.
Aseguramos un inversor para a nosa serie C
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I'd undress and extract milk from my breasts
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e a competencia volveu a nós cunha oferta revisada,
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with a silicone hand pump.
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It worked out, I guess.
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e decidimos vender por 875 millóns de dólares.
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We secured a lead investor for our series C
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Uns meses despois da compra quedei embarazada de novo.
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and then our competitors came back with a revised offer,
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and we decided to sell to them for 875 million dollars.
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E pouco despois sufrín un aborto.
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A few months after the acquisition I became pregnant for the second time.
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Mentres estaba co meu equipo...
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And shortly after, I found out I had a miscarriage.
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sentín como esvaraba de min.
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While with my team ...
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Fun ó baño...
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I felt it slip out of me.
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e caeu ó chan.
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I went to the bathroom ...
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Non sabía que facer,
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and it fell to the floor.
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así que volvín xunta do meu equipo, facendo coma se nada pasase.
Foi precisa a infertilidade, o aborto,
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I didn't know what to do,
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so I just walked back out to the team, pretending as if nothing happened.
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a preñez, dar a luz sen fármacos mentres dirixía unha compañía
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It took going through infertility, miscarriage,
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para decatarme do equivocada que estaba por esconder a miña feminidade
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pregnancy, giving birth without any drugs, while running a company
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coma se fose algo que me avergonzase.
Sempre pensei que eu debía ser como os homes que eu vía no meu campo
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for me to realize how wrong I was to hide my womanhood
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as if it's something I'm ashamed of.
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para non ser xulgada ou tratada de xeito diferente.
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For so long, I thought I had to be what I thought a good male CEO looked like
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Estaba oprimida pola crenza de que os negocios valoran a masculinidade
e iso fíxo que tivese medo de ser muller,
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so that I wouldn't be judged or treated differently.
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I was so constricted by my belief that businesses value maleness more.
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o que implicaba ocultarlles moito de quen era ós demais.
Cando me atrevín a ser completamente eu,
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And it made me afraid to be a woman,
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cando me atrevín a confiar e compartir a miña frustración
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which meant I hid a massive part of who I was from everyone.
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e a miña ira, e a tristeza
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When I dared to be fully myself,
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e as bágoas co meu equipo,
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when I dared to trust and share my frustrations
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fun máis feliz e liderei con máis efectividade
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and my anger and my sadness and my tears with my team,
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porque por fin era honesta con quen era eu.
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I became a much happier and more effective leader
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E o meu equipo respondeu a iso.
Unha das consecuencias máis importantes de liderar sendo eu mesma
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because I was finally honest in who I was.
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foi ver a evolución da nosa cultura
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And my team responded to that.
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cara a unha versión de si mesma moito máis cohesionada.
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One of the most important side effects of leading as my complete raw self
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Lembro que tivemos uns trimestres duros.
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was seeing our culture evolve
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to a more close-knit and effective version of itself.
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Semellaba que todo era un desastre
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I remember we had several back to back rough quarters.
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e non tiña tempo para prepararme para unha reunión.
E logo chegoume a quenda de palabra.
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It felt like everything was in shambles
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Achegueime ó micro e comecei a falar sen andrómenas
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and I didn't have time to prepare for an all-hands.
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And then it was time for me to speak.
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sobre as miñas inquietudes, preocupacións pola competencia,
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So I walked up to the mic cold and I started talking openly
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os erros que cometemos na estratexia de ventas,
expoñendo de verdade as fraquezas da nosa compañía.
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about my concerns, my concerns on competition,
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E pedinlle axuda ó equipo.
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the mistakes we had made in sales strategy,
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A conversa cambiou completamente
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really exposing the weaknesses of our company.
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e tamén o noso xeito de resolver os problemas.
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And I asked the team for help.
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Cando nos entregamos colectivamente e por completo ó traballo,
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That completely changed the conversation
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puidemos conseguir moito máis en termos de beneficios
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and how we would build and solve problems together.
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As we collectively brought our full selves to work,
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e número de exportacións ca nunca antes.
E levounos dunha empresa nova a una empresa de mediano tamaño.
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we were able to accomplish so much more in terms of revenue growth
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and the most products shipped the company had seen.
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Quen queira que sexas, se pensas comezar unha empresa,
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And it progressed us from a startup to medium-sized business.
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ou pensas en liderar,
faino
e non temas confiar ou ser ti mesmo.
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Whoever you are, if you're thinking about starting a startup,
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or you’re thinking about leading,
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Ogallá soubese iso hai dez anos.
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do it
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E aprende dos meus erros:
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and don't be afraid to trust and be yourself completely.
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Se estás recadando fondos en Silicon Valley, e necesitas sacar leite
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I wish I knew that a decade ago.
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usa as marabillosas salas de lactancia.
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And learn from my mistakes.
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Grazas.
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If you find yourself fundraising on Sand Hill, needing to pump milk,
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go use their nice-ass mother’s rooms.
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Thank you.
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