What is love? - Brad Troeger

Prevodilac: Mile Živković Lektor: Tatjana Jevdjic

What is love?

Šta je to ljubav?

Seriously, though, what is it?

Ozbiljno, šta je to?

What is love?

Šta je ljubav?

A verb?

Glagol?

A noun?

A universal truth?

Imenica?

Opšta istina?

An ideal?

Ideal?

A common thread of all religions?

Zajednička nit svih religija?

A cult?

Kult?

A neurological phenomenon?

Neurološka pojava?

There's no shortage of answers.

Odgovora ima na pretek.

Some are all-encompassing.

Neki su sveobuhvatni.

It conquers all.

Ona pobeđuje sve.

It's all you need.

Ona je sve što vam je potrebno.

It's all there is.

Ljubav je sve što postoji.

These are all comparisons, though,

Ipak, sve ovo su poređenja,

ways of defining it by contrast,

načini da se ljubav opiše uz pomoć kontrasta,

by saying it's more important

govoreći da je bitnija

than all other things,

od svih drugih stvari,

but is it?

ali da li je?

Sure, love matters more

Naravno, ljubav je bitnija

than your standard turkey sandwich,

od standardnog sendviča sa ćuretinom

but does it matter more than shelter?

ali da li je bitnija od smeštaja?

Or sanity?

Ili zdravog uma?

Or an exceptional turkey sandwich?

Ili odličnog sendviča sa ćuretinom?

No matter your answer,

Bez obzira na odgovor,

you're just ranking it,

vi je samo rangirate,

not defining it.

ne definišete je.

Another challenge to defining love

Još jedan izazov kod definisanja ljubavi

is we often try to do so

je to što to često pokušavamo da uradimo

while falling into it

dok se zaljubljujemo

or out of it.

ili odljubljujemo.

Would you trust someone who just won the lottery

Da li biste nekom ko je tek dobio na lutriji verovali

to accurately define the concept of currency?

da vam tačno definiše koncept novca?

Or, I don't know, ask a guy to define bears

Ili recimo, pitate nekoga da definiše medvede

while he's fending them off?

dok se bori sa njima?

Or is romance not like winning the lottery?

Ili, zar romansa nije poput dobitka na lutriji?

Are break ups not like bear attacks?

Zar raskidi nisu poput napada medveda?

Bad comparisons?

Loša poređenja?

That's my point.

U tome je poenta.

I'm not thinking right

Ne razmišljam trezveno

because I'm in love,

jer sam zaljubljen,

so ha!

pa eto!

Taking a step back,

Vratimo se korak unazad

or taking a cold shower,

ili stanimo pod hladan tuš,

whatever,

love is potentially the most intensely thought about thing

šta god,

ljubav je potencijalno stvar o kojoj se najviše razmišlja

in all of human history.

u celoj istoriji čovečanstva.

And despite centuries upon centuries of obsession,

Uprkos vekovima opsesije,

it still overwhelms us.

još uvek nas nadvladava.

Some say it's a feeling,

Neki kažu da je osećanje,

a magical emotion,

magična emocija,

a feeling for someone like you've never felt before.

osećanje prema nekom kakvo nikad pre niste iskusili.

But feelings are fluid,

Ali osećanja su neuhvatljiva

not very concrete foundation for a definition.

i nisu čvrsta osnova za definiciju.

Sometimes you hate the person you love.

Ponekad mrzite onog koga volite.

Plus, come on, you've felt feelings like it before,

Plus, 'ajde, i pre ste se osećali tako,

sort of in miniature.

u manjoj razmeri.

Your relationships with your family

Veze sa vašom porodicom

shape your relationships with partners.

oblikuju veze sa vašim partnerima.

And your love for your partner

A vaša ljubav prema vašem partneru

may be in its own dynamic relationship,

može biti u sopstvenoj dinamičnoj vezi,

healthy or totally weird,

zdravoj ili potpuno čudnoj,

with the love of your parents and siblings.

sa ljubavlju prema vašim roditeljima, braćom i sestrama.

Love is also a set of behaviors

Ljubav je i grupa ponašanja

we associate with the feeling:

koja povezujemo sa osećanjem -

Holding hands,

držanje za ruke,

kissing,

ljubljenje,

hugging,

grljenje,

public displays of affection,

javni izlivi nežnosti,

dating,

izlasci,

marriage,

brak,

having kids,

deca

or just sex.

ili samo seks.

But these loving actions can be subjective

Ali ovi činovi ljubavi mogu biti subjektivni

or culturally relative.

ili relativni u odnosu na kulturu.

You may love or be someone who can't have kids

Možda volite nekog ili ste vi neko ko ne može da ima decu

or doesn't want to,

ili ne želi,

who believes in marriage but also in divorce,

ko veruje u brak ali i u razvod,

who's from a culture where people don't really date

ko je iz kulture gde ljudi ne idu na sastanke

the way we think of dating,

na kakve mi mislimo,

or who just doesn't want to make out on the bus.

ili neko ko samo ne želi da se ljubi u autobusu.

But if love is a thing that we can define,

Ali ako je ljubav nešto što možemo definisati,

then how can it mean opposite things

kako onda može imati suprotna značenja

for so many people?

za toliko ljudi?

So, maybe love's just all in your head,

Možda je ljubav samo u vašoj glavi,

a personal mystery winding through your neural pathways

lična misterija koja se kreće vašim nervnim putevima

and lighting up pleasing, natural rewards

i pokreće prijatne, prirodne nagrade

in your nervous system.

u vašem nervnom sistemu.

Perhaps these rewards are addictive.

Možda su ove nagrade zarazne.

Perhaps love is a temporary

Možda je ljubav privremena

or permanent addiction to a person,

ili trajna zavisnost od neke osobe,

just like a person can be addicted to a drug.

isto kao što neko može biti zavistan od droge.

I don't mean to be edgy

Ne bih da budem oštar

like some pop song.

poput neke pop pesme.

Evidence shows that chemicals in your brain

Postoje dokazi da hemikalije u vašem mozgu

stimulated by another person

koje stimuliše druga osoba

can make you develop a habit for that person.

mogu da prouzrokuju sticanje navike ka toj osobi.

The person comes to satisfy

Ta osoba zadovoljava

a physiological craving,

fiziološku potrebu

and you want more.

i vi želite više.

But then sometimes,

Ali ponekad,

slowly or suddenly,

polako ili iznenada,

you don't.

to se ne dešava.

You've fallen out of love,

Odljubili ste se,

become unaddicted,

zavisnost je prestala,

for a spell.

zauvek.

What happened?

Šta se desilo?

Does one develop a tolerance or hit a limit?

Da li razvijemo toleranciju ili dostignemo granicu?

Why do some lovers stay addicted

Zašto neki ljubavnici ostaju zavisni

to each other their entire lives?

jedni od drugih celog svog života?

Perhaps to create new lives,

Možda da stvore nove živote,

to proliferate their species?

da produže vrstu?

Maybe love is just human DNA's optimal method

Možda je ljubav samo najbolji metod za DNK

for bringing about its own replication.

da omogući svoju kopiju.

There are evolutionary arguments

Postoje evolucioni argumenti

regarding every human mating behavior,

za svako ljudsko ponašanje u vezi sa razmnožavanjem,

from how we display ourselves to potential mates,

od toga kako se prikazujemo potencijalnim partnerima,

to how we treat each other in relationships,

preko toga kako se ophodimo jedni prema drugima u vezi,

to how we raise kids.

do toga kako odgajamo decu.

Thus, some argue that the feeling

Stoga neki kažu da je osećanje

you think you feel in your soul

koje mislite da imate u vašoj duši

is just biology's way to make you continue our species.

samo način da vas biologija natera da produžite vrstu.

Nature has selected you

Priroda vas je odabrala

to have crushes on hotties,

da se zatreskate u zgodne ljude,

just like it makes monkeys

isto kao što tera majmune

have crushes on hot monkeys,

da se zatreskaju u zgodne majmune

and biology marches on.

i biologija ide dalje.

But is that all love is?

Ali da li je ljubav samo to?

Or, perhaps worse, is it just a construct,

Još gore, možda je ona samo ideja,

some fake concept we all convince each other

lažni koncept kojim jedni druge uveravamo

to try to live up to

da treba da proživimo

for a fake sense of purpose?

zbog lažnog osećanja svrhe?

Maybe it is a construct,

Možda je to konstrukt,

but let's be more precise

ali hajde da budemo precizniji

about what a construct is

o tome šta je konstrukt

because love is constructed from reality:

jer je ljubav sačinjena od stvarnosti:

Our experiences,

naših iskustava,

feelings,

osećanja,

brain chemistry,

hemije mozga,

cultural expectations,

kulturnih očekivanja,

our lives.

naših života.

And this edifice can be viewed

Ova tvorevina se može posmatrati

through countless dimensions:

kroz bezbroj dimenzija:

scientific,

naučnu,

emotional,

emocionalnu,

historical,

istorijsku,

spiritual,

duhovnu,

legal,

or just personal.

pravnu

ili samo ličnu.

If no two people are the same,

Ako ne postoje dve iste osobe,

no two people's love is the same either.

ne postoji ni ista ljubav dve osobe.

So, in every loving relationship,

U svakoj vezi gde je prisutna ljubav,

there's a lot to talk about

ima dosta toga za razgovor

and partners should be open to that,

i partneri treba da budu otvoreni za to,

or the relationship probably won't last.

inače veza verovatno neće potrajati.

Love is always up for discussion

Ljubav je uvek otvorena za diskusiju

and, sure, under construction.

i naravno, nije završena.

So, if we can't define it,

Ako ne možemo da je definišemo,

that's a good sign.

to je dobar znak.

It means we're all still making it.

Znači da je još uvek svi vodimo.

Wait, I didn't mean,

Stanite, nisam mislio,

you know what I meant.

znate na šta sam mislio.