What is love? - Brad Troeger

Što je ljubav? - Brad Troeger

Prevoditelj: Irma Komljenović Recezent: Ivan Stamenković

What is love?

Što je ljubav?

Seriously, though, what is it?

Ne, stvarno, što je?

What is love?

Što je ljubav?

A verb?

Glagol?

A noun?

A universal truth?

Imenica?

Univerzalna istina?

An ideal?

Ideal?

A common thread of all religions?

Zajednička nit svih religija?

A cult?

Kult?

A neurological phenomenon?

Neurološki fenomen?

There's no shortage of answers.

Odgovora nikad ne nedostaje.

Some are all-encompassing.

Neki su sveobuhvatni.

It conquers all.

Pobjeđuje sve.

It's all you need.

Sve je što trebaš.

It's all there is.

Samo ona i postoji.

These are all comparisons, though,

To su ipak usporedbe,

ways of defining it by contrast,

način definiranja kontrastom,

by saying it's more important

rekavši da je bitnija

than all other things,

od svih drugih stvari,

but is it?

no je li stvarno?

Sure, love matters more

Ljubav i je bitnija

than your standard turkey sandwich,

od običnog sendviča s puretinom,

but does it matter more than shelter?

no je li važnija od skloništa?

Or sanity?

Zdravog razuma?

Or an exceptional turkey sandwich?

Ili stvarno dobrog sendviča s puretinom?

No matter your answer,

Bez obzira na tvoj odgovor,

you're just ranking it,

samo ju procjenjuješ,

not defining it.

a ne definiraš.

Another challenge to defining love

Još je teže definirati ljubav

is we often try to do so

jer to često pokušavamo

while falling into it

dok se zaljubljujemo

or out of it.

ili odljubljujemo.

Would you trust someone who just won the lottery

Bi li vjerovao nekom tko je osvojio na lutriji

to accurately define the concept of currency?

da precizno definira pojam valute?

Or, I don't know, ask a guy to define bears

Ili da, recimo, pitaš čovjeka da definira medvjede

while he's fending them off?

dok se od njih brani?

Or is romance not like winning the lottery?

No, nije li romantika kao dobitak na lutriji?

Are break ups not like bear attacks?

Nisu li prekidi kao napadi medvjeda?

Bad comparisons?

Loše usporedbe?

That's my point.

To i govorim.

I'm not thinking right

Ne razmišljam kako treba

because I'm in love,

jer sam zaljubljen,

so ha!

ha!

Taking a step back,

Odmaknuvši se,

or taking a cold shower,

ili stavši pod hladan tuš

whatever,

love is potentially the most intensely thought about thing

štogod,

ljubav je možda tema o kojoj se najviše razmišljalo

in all of human history.

u ljudskoj povijesti.

And despite centuries upon centuries of obsession,

Unatoč stoljećima i stoljećima opsjednutosti,

it still overwhelms us.

još uvijek nas zadivljuje.

Some say it's a feeling,

Neki kažu da je osjećaj,

a magical emotion,

čarobna emocija,

a feeling for someone like you've never felt before.

osjećaj kakav nikad nisi osjetio.

But feelings are fluid,

No osjećaji su promjenjivi,

not very concrete foundation for a definition.

nisu čvrst temelj definicije.

Sometimes you hate the person you love.

Ponekad mrziš osobu koju voliš.

Plus, come on, you've felt feelings like it before,

I, priznaj, osjećao si takve osjećaje prije,

sort of in miniature.

samo u manjim okvirima.

Your relationships with your family

Tvoj odnos s obitelji

shape your relationships with partners.

oblikuje tvoje veze s partnerima.

And your love for your partner

Tvoja ljubav prema partneru

may be in its own dynamic relationship,

može biti u vlastitoj dinamičnoj vezi,

healthy or totally weird,

zdravoj ili posve čudnoj,

with the love of your parents and siblings.

s ljubavi tvojih roditelja, braće i sestara.

Love is also a set of behaviors

Ljubav je i skupina ponašanja

we associate with the feeling:

koje povezujemo s osjećajem:

Holding hands,

držanje ruku,

kissing,

ljubljenje,

hugging,

grljenje,

public displays of affection,

javni izljevi pažnje,

dating,

izlaženje,

marriage,

having kids,

brak,

imati djecu,

or just sex.

ili samo seks.

But these loving actions can be subjective

No ta djela ljubavi mogu biti subjektivni

or culturally relative.

ili ovisiti o kulturi.

You may love or be someone who can't have kids

Možeš voljeti nekoga ili biti netko tko ne može imati djecu,

or doesn't want to,

ili ne želi,

who believes in marriage but also in divorce,

tko vjeruje u brak, ali i u rastavu,

who's from a culture where people don't really date

tko je iz kulture gdje ljudi ne hodaju

the way we think of dating,

onako kako mi vidimo hodanje,

or who just doesn't want to make out on the bus.

ili se jednostavno ne želiš ljubiti u autobusu.

But if love is a thing that we can define,

Ali ako ljubav možemo definirati,

then how can it mean opposite things

zašto predstavlja različite stvari

for so many people?

različitim ljudima?

So, maybe love's just all in your head,

Pa, možda je ljubav samo u tvojoj glavi,

a personal mystery winding through your neural pathways

osobni misterij koji vijuga tvojim živčanim stazama,

and lighting up pleasing, natural rewards

koji stvara zadovoljavajuće prirodne nagrade

in your nervous system.

u tvom živčanom sustavu.

Perhaps these rewards are addictive.

Možda možeš biti ovisan o tim nagradama.

Perhaps love is a temporary

Možda je ljubav privremena

or permanent addiction to a person,

ili trajna ovisnost o osobi,

just like a person can be addicted to a drug.

kao što osoba može biti ovisna o drogi.

I don't mean to be edgy

Ne želim biti ćudljiv

like some pop song.

kao pop pjesma.

Evidence shows that chemicals in your brain

Dokazi pokazuju da kemikalije u mozgu

stimulated by another person

stimulirane nekom osobom

can make you develop a habit for that person.

mogu stvoriti naviku prema toj osobi.

The person comes to satisfy

Osoba onda zadovoljava

a physiological craving,

fiziološku žudnju,

and you want more.

i samo želiš još.

But then sometimes,

A onda ponekad,

slowly or suddenly,

polako ili iznenadno,

you don't.

ne želiš.

You've fallen out of love,

Odljubio si se,

become unaddicted,

više nisi ovisan,

for a spell.

na kratko vrijeme.

What happened?

Što se dogodilo?

Does one develop a tolerance or hit a limit?

Razvije li se tolerancija, ili se dođe do granice?

Why do some lovers stay addicted

Zašto su neki ljubavnici ovisni

to each other their entire lives?

jedno o drugome cijeli život?

Perhaps to create new lives,

Možda zbog stvaranja novog života,

to proliferate their species?

zbog održavanja vrste?

Maybe love is just human DNA's optimal method

Možda je ljubav optimalna metoda ljudske DNA

for bringing about its own replication.

za provođenje vlastite replikacije.

There are evolutionary arguments

Postoje evolucijski argumenti

regarding every human mating behavior,

o svakom ljudskom ponašanju oko parenja,

from how we display ourselves to potential mates,

od načina na koji se pokazujemo mogućim partnerima,

to how we treat each other in relationships,

do međusobnih odnosa u vezama,

to how we raise kids.

te načina na koji odgajamo djecu.

Thus, some argue that the feeling

Zato neki kažu da je osjećaj,

you think you feel in your soul

za koji misliš da ga osjetiš u duši,

is just biology's way to make you continue our species.

tek metoda biologije za opstanak vrsta.

Nature has selected you

Priroda te odabrala

to have crushes on hotties,

da budeš zaljubljen u zgodne ljude,

just like it makes monkeys

kao što je odabrala majmune

have crushes on hot monkeys,

da budu zaljubljeni u zgodne majmune,

and biology marches on.

i biologija nastavlja dalje.

But is that all love is?

Je li ljubav samo to?

Or, perhaps worse, is it just a construct,

Ili je, možda, tvorevina,

some fake concept we all convince each other

lažni koncept za kojeg se uvjeravamo

to try to live up to

da je bitno doživjeti ga

for a fake sense of purpose?

zbog lažnog osjećaja svrhe.

Maybe it is a construct,

Možda i je tvorevina,

but let's be more precise

no budimo precizniji

about what a construct is

oko toga što tvorevina je,

because love is constructed from reality:

jer je ljubav stvorena iz stvarnosti:

Our experiences,

naših iskustava,

feelings,

osjećaja,

brain chemistry,

kemije našeg mozga,

cultural expectations,

kulturnih očekivanja,

our lives.

te naših života.

And this edifice can be viewed

Tu se strukturu može gledati

through countless dimensions:

kroz bezbroj dimenzija:

scientific,

znanstvenu,

emotional,

emocionalnu,

historical,

povijesnu,

spiritual,

duhovnu,

legal,

or just personal.

pravnu,

ili samo osobnu.

If no two people are the same,

Ako dvoje ljudi nikad nisu isti,

no two people's love is the same either.

ni ljubavi između dvoje ljudi nisu iste.

So, in every loving relationship,

U svakoj vezi u kojoj ima ljubavi,

there's a lot to talk about

ima i puno tema za razgovor,

and partners should be open to that,

i partneri bi trebali skloni tomu,

or the relationship probably won't last.

jer u suprotnom veza neće potrajati.

Love is always up for discussion

Ljubav je uvijek sporna

and, sure, under construction.

i, istina, uvijek u izgradnji.

So, if we can't define it,

Pa, ako ju ne možemo definirati,

that's a good sign.

to je dobar znak.

It means we're all still making it.

Znači da ju još pravimo.

Wait, I didn't mean,

Čekaj, nisam to mislio,

you know what I meant.

znaš na što mislim.