Sheryl Sandberg: So we leaned in ... now what?

Translator: Aida Musai Reviewer: Helena Bedalli

Pat Mitchell: Your first time back on the TEDWomen stage.

Pat Mitchell: Hera e pare qe kthehesh ne skenen e TEDWomen.

Sheryl Sandberg: First time back. Nice to see everyone. It's always so nice to look out

Sheryl Sandberg: Hera e pare qe kthehem. Eshte kenaqesi t'ju shoh te gjitheve.

and see so many women.

Eshte bukur te shohesh kaq shume gra.

It's so not my regular experience, as I know anyone else's.

Kjo nuk me ndodh pothuajse asnjehere ne pune, ashtu si edhe shume te tjereve.

PM: So when we first started talking about, maybe the subject wouldn't be social media,

PM: Kur filluam te diskutonim ne lidhje me fjalimin, dhe se ai nuk kishte te bente me rrjetin social,

which we assumed it would be, but that you had very much on your mind

edhe pse ne kishim menduar te kunderten, ti kishe shume gjera per te thene

the missing leadership positions, particularly in the sector of technology and social media.

ne lidhje me mungesen e pozicioneve drejtuese, sidomos ne sektorin e teknologjise dhe rrjetit social.

But how did that evolve for you as a thought, and end up being the TED Talk that you gave?

Si evoluoi ky mendim brenda teje per te rezultuar ne ate fjalim qe ti mbajte ne TED?

SS: So I was really scared to get on this stage and talk about women,

Kisha frike te ngjitesha ne skene per te folur ne lidhje me femrat,

because I grew up in the business world, as I think so many of us did.

sepse ashtu si shume prej nesh ketu une jam rritur ne boten e biznesit.

You never talk about being a woman, because someone might notice that you're a woman, right?

Rralle ndodh te flasesh per faktin qe je grua, sepse e verejne qe ti je grua, apo jo?

They might notice. Or worse, if you say "woman," people on the other end of the table

Ata e kuptojne. Ose edhe me keq, nese permend fjalen "grua", njerezit perballe teje

think you're asking for special treatment, or complaining.

mendojne se je duke kerkuar nje trajtim te vecante, ose je duke u ankuar per dicka.

Or worse, about to sue them. And so I went through -- (Laughter)

Ose edhe me keq, mendojne se po i padit. Keshtu gjate gjithe karrieres -- (te qeshura)

Right? I went through my entire business career,

Apo jo? Gjate gjithe karrieres sime une

and never spoke about being a woman, never spoke about it publicly.

nuk kam folur asnjehere per faktin qe jam grua, nuk kam folur asnjehere ne publik per kete.

But I also had noticed that it wasn't working.

Por gjithashtu kisha vene re se dicka nuk shkonte.

I came out of college over 20 years ago, and I thought

Kur 20 vjete me pare mbarova universitetin mendoja

that all of my peers were men and women, all the people above me were all men,

se te gjithe shoket e mi ishin meshkuj edhe femra, ndersa drejtuesit ishin te gjithe meshkuj,

but that would change,

mendoja se kjo do ndryshonte,

because your generation had done such an amazing job fighting for equality,

sepse brezi juaj beri nje pune te shkelqyer ne luften per barazi.

equality was now ours for the taking. And it wasn't.

Tani ishim ne ata qe do te perfitonin nga kjo barazi. Por nuk ndodhi keshtu.

Because year after year, I was one of fewer and fewer,

Sepse vit pas viti, une isha nder te paktat, te rrallat,

and now, often the only woman in a room.

dhe sot, shpesh e vetmja femer ne sallen e mbledhjeve.

And I talked to a bunch of people about,

Bisedova me shume vete ne lidhje me kete,

should I give a speech at TEDWomen about women, and they said, oh no, no.

a duhet te mbaj nje fjalim per femrat ne TEDWomen apo jo, dhe ata me thane jo, jo, jo.

It will end your business career. You cannot be a serious business executive

Kjo do te shenjonte fundin e karrieres tende. Ti nuk mund te jesh nje drejtuese serioze

and speak about being a woman. You'll never be taken seriously again.

nese nis te flasesh per faktin se je femer. Nuk kane per te te marre me seriozisht.

But fortunately, there were the few, the proud -- like you -- who told me I should give the speech,

Por fatmiresisht pati nje pakice guximtaresh - si ti - te cilet me thane se duhet t'a mbaja ate fjalim,

and I asked myself the question Mark Zuckerberg might --

dhe une i bera vetes pyetjen qe Mark Zuckerberg -

the founder of Facebook and my boss --

themeluesi i Facebook-ut dhe shefi im -

asks all of us, which is, what would I do if I wasn't afraid?

na e ben te gjitheve: Cfare do te beje nese s'do te kishe frike?

And the answer to what would I do if I wasn't afraid is I would get on the TED stage,

Ajo qe une do te beja nese s'do te kisha frike ishte te ngjitesha ne skenen e TED

and talk about women, and leadership. And I did, and survived. (Applause)

dhe te flisja per femrat dhe lidershipin. Une e bera kete, dhe mbijetova. (Duartrokitje)

PM: I would say, not only survived. I'm thinking of that moment, Sheryl,

PM; Dhe jo vetem. Sheryl, me vjen ne mend ai casti

when you and I were standing backstage together, and you turned to me,

kur ti dhe une gjendeshim prapa kuintave dhe ti m'u ktheve

and you told me a story.

dhe me tregove nje histori.

And I said -- very last minute -- you know, you really should share that story.

Dhe une te thashe - ne momentin e fundit - se ti duhet t'a ndaje ate histori me te tjeret.

SS: Oh, yeah. PM: What was that story?

SS: Oh po. PM: Cila ishte ajo histori?

SS: Well, it's an important part of the journey. So I had -- TEDWomen --

SS: Epo, kjo eshte pjese e rendesishme e udhetimit. Une duhet te shkoja ne TEDWomen,

the original one was in D.C. -- so I live here, so I had gotten on a plane the day before,

qe ate vit do te mbahej ne Washington. Une jetoj ketu, keshtu qe nje dite me pare mora avionin,

and my daughter was three, she was clinging to my leg: "Mommy, don't go."

dhe vajza ime trevjecare m'u kap pas kembes duke thene: "Mami, mos ik."

And Pat's a friend, and so, not related to the speech I was planning on giving,

Dhe Pati eshte mikeshe e imja, s'kishte lidhje me fjalimin qe duhet te mbaja,

which was chock full of facts and figures, and nothing personal,

i cili notonte ne te dhena dhe shifra, dhe nuk permbante asgje personale,

I told Pat the story. I said, well, I'm having a hard day.

i tregova Patit kete histori. I thashe se kisha patur nje dite te veshtire

Yesterday my daughter was clinging to my leg, and "Don't go."

Dje vajza m'u kap pas kembes duke me thene "Mos shko."

And you looked at me and said, you have to tell that story.

Dhe ti me pe ne sy dhe me the, ti duhet t'a tregosh kete histori.

I said, on the TED stage? Are you kidding?

Une thashe: "Ne skenen e TED? Mos po tallesh?

I'm going to get on a stage and admit my daughter was clinging to my leg?

Te ngjitem ne skene dhe te pranoj qe vajza po me lutej te mos ikja?"

And you said yes, because if you want to talk about getting more women into leadership roles,

Dhe ti me the po, sepse nese do t'i bindesh femrat te pranojne pozicione lideresh,

you have to be honest about how hard it is.

duhet te tregosh e sinqerte ne lidhje me veshtiresite e ketij vendimi.

And I did. And I think that's a really important part of the journey.

Une e tregova historine. Dhe mendoj se kjo eshte pjese e rendesishme e udhetimit tim.

The same thing happened when I wrote my book. I started writing the book. I wrote a first chapter,

E njejta gje ndodhi kur shkruajta librin. Fillova te shkruaj. Mbarova kapitullin e pare,

I thought it was fabulous. It was chock-full of data and figures,

dhe mendoja si ishte vertet fantastik. Notonte ne te dhena dhe shifra,

I had three pages on matrilineal Maasai tribes, and their sociological patterns.

Kisha shkruar tre faqe per tribute matriarkale Maasai dhe sjelljet e tyre ne shoqeri.

My husband read it and he was like, this is like eating your Wheaties. (Laughter)

Bashkeshorti im e lexoi dhe tha ky eshte si te hash nje mengjes te pasur perpara nje stervitje te forte. (te qeshura)

No one -- and I apologize to Wheaties if there's someone -- no one, no one will read this book.

Askush - i kerkoj falje atyre nga Wheaties qe jane ketu - askush nuk do t'a lexonte ate liber.

And I realized through the process that I had to be more honest and more open,

Dhe gjate ketij procesi une kuptova se duhet te isha me e sinqerte dhe e hapur,

and I had to tell my stories. My stories of still not feeling as self-confident as I should,

dhe se duhet te tregoja historite e mia. Se si ende nuk ndihem aq e sigurte sa duhet ne shume situata.

in many situations. My first and failed marriage. Crying at work.

Se si deshtoi martesa ime e pare. Se pse ndonjehere qaj ne pune.

Felling like I didn't belong there, feeling guilty to this day.

Se ndihesha sikur nuk i perkisja atij vendi, gje per te cilen ndihem fajtore edhe sot e kesaj dite.

And part of my journey, starting on this stage, going to "Lean In," going to the foundation,

Dhe nje pjese e udhetimit qe filloi ne kete skene, u pasua nga "Te bejme perpara", dhe me fondacionin,

is all about being more open and honest about those challenges,

ka te beje me te qenit me e hapur dhe e sinqerte ne lidhje me keto sfida,

so that other women can be more open and honest,

ne menyre qe te gjitha femrat te jene me te hapura dhe te sinqerta,

and all of us can work together towards real equality.

keshtu te gjitha ne do te punojme bashke drejt barazise.

PM: I think that one of the most striking parts about the book,

PM: Mendoj se nje nga pjeset me te goditura te librit,

and in my opinion, one of the reasons it's hit such a nerve and is resonating around the world,

dhe sipas meje, nje prej motiveve qe i solli atij kaq sukses dhe fame ne te gjithe boten,

is that you are personal in the book, and that you do make it clear that,

eshte se ti tregon shume per veten, dhe ben te qarte se,

while you've observed some things that are very important for other women to know,

teksa flet per gjera qe te gjitha femrat duhet t'i dine,

that you've had the same challenges that many others of us have,

ti vete je perballur me te njejtat sfida si shumica prej nesh,

as you faced the hurdles and the barriers and possibly the people who don't believe the same.

teksa kaperceje veshtiresite dhe pengesat si edhe njerez qe nuk e mendonin si ti.

So talk about that process: deciding you'd go public with the private part,

Na trego pak per kete proces: kur ti more vendimin te publikoje historite e tua,

and then you would also put yourself in the position of something of an expert

njekohesisht t'u desh te merrje rolin e nje lloj eksperteje

on how to resolve those challenges.

persa i perket zgjidhjes se ketyre sfidave.

SS: After I did the TED Talk, what happened was --

SS: Pas fjalimit ne TED, ndodhi qe-

you know, I never really expected to write a book, I'm not an author, I'm not a writer,

E di, une nuk e kisha parashikuar te shkruaja nje liber, nuk jam shkrimtare,

and it was viewed a lot, and it really started impacting people's lives.

por videoja pati shume shikime, dhe filloi te ndikonte ne jetet e njerezve.

I got this great --- one of the first letters I got was from a woman

Me erdhi nje leter fantastike- Nje nga letrat e para qe mora ishte nga nje grua

who said that she was offered a really big promotion at work, and she turned it down,

qe me tha se i kishin ofruar nje ngritje shume te forte ne detyre, dhe se e kishte refuzuar,

and she told her best friend she turned it down, and her best friend said,

dhe pasi ia tregoi kete shoqes se ngushte, shoqja i tha

you really need to watch this TED Talk.

se ajo duhet te shihte patjeter nje fjalim ne TED.

And so she watched this TED Talk, and she went back the next day, she took the job,

Ajo e ndoqi fjalimin ne TED, shkoi te nesermen ne pune, e pranoi propozimin,

she went home, and she handed her husband the grocery list. (Laughter)

u kthye ne shtepi dhe i dorezoi te shoqit listen e pazarit. (te qeshura)

And she said, I can do this.

Ajo tha, une mund t'a bej kete.

And what really mattered to me -- it wasn't only women in the corporate world,

C'ka ishte edhe me e rendesishme per mua... Fjalimi nuk ndikoi thjesht femrat e botes se biznesit,

even though I did hear from a lot of them, and it did impact a lot of them,

edhe pse kam degjuar historite e shume prej tyre dhe ndikimin e fjalimit tek to,

it was also people of all different circumstances.

ai ndikoi njerez qe ndodheshin ne situata nga me te ndryshmet.

There was a doctor I met who was an attending physician at Johns Hopkins,

Nje here takova nje doktor qe punonte per spitalin Johns Hopkins,

and he said that until he saw my TED Talk, it never really occurred to him

dhe me tha qe para se te shihte fjalimin tim ne TED, nuk i kishte shkuar asnjehere ne mendje

that even though half the students in his med school classes were women,

se, edhe pse gjysma e studenteve te tij te mjekesise ishin femra,

they weren't speaking as much as the men as he did his rounds.

ato nuk flisnin aq shume sa meshkujt kur ai i drejtonte pyetje salles.

So he started paying attention, and as he waited for raised hands, he realized the men's hands were up.

Filloi te vezhgonte dhe pa se teksa priste pergjigje, shihte me shume duart e ngritura te meshkujve.

So he started encouraging the women to raise their hands more,

Keshtu filloi te inkurajonte femrat qe t'a ngrinin doren me shpesh,

and it still didn't work.

por as kjo nuk funksionoi.

So he told everyone, no more hand raising, I'm cold-calling.

Ai iu tha studenteve se nuk do t'i kerkonte me te ngrinin duart, por do t'i therriste ne emer,

So he could call evenly on men and women. And what he proved to himself was that

ne menyre qe te aktivizonte sa meshkuj aq edhe femra. Dhe ajo qe ai konfirmoi

the women knew the answers just as well or better,

ishte se femrat i dinin pergjigjet po aq mire ose edhe me mire se meshkujt,

and he was able to go back to them and tell them that.

dhe ai e ndau kete perfundim me to.

And then there was the woman, stay-at-home mom, lives in a really difficult neighborhood,

Me pas mora letren e nje nene shtepiake qe jeton ne nje lagje te varfer,

with not a great school, she said that TED Talk -- she's never had a corporate job,

ku shkolla nuk eshte shume mire. Ajo nuk kishte punuar kurre ne nje korporate, por tha se

but that TED Talk inspired her to go to her school and fight for a better teacher for her child.

fjalimi ne TED e nxiti te shkonte tek shkolla e femijes te saj dhe te luftonte per mesues me te mire.

And I guess it was part of was finding my own voice.

Mendoj se kjo ishte pjese e rigjetjes se zerit tim.

And I realized that other women and men could find their voice through it,

Dhe kuptova se edhe femra apo meshkuj te tjere mund te gjenin zerin e tyre,

which is why I went from the talk to the book.

ja pse kalova nga fjalimi tek libri.

PM: And in the book, you not only found your voice, which is clear and strong in the book,

PM: Dhe ne liber, ti jo vetem rigjen zerin tend, i cili dallohet i qarte dhe i forte,

but you also share what you've learned --

por ti gjithashtu ndan ate qe ke mesuar

the experiences of other people in the lessons.

permes eksperiencave te njerezve te tjere.

And that's what I'm thinking about in terms of putting yourself in a --

Prandaj une mendoj se ti e vure veten ne rolin e -

you became a sort of expert in how you lean in.

ti u bere nje lloj eksperteje ne berjen perpara.

So what did that feel like, and become like in your life?

Cfare ndjesie te dha kjo gje, cfare solli ajo ne jeten tende?

To launch not just a book, not just a best-selling, best-viewed talk,

Lancimi jo vetem i nje libri, jo vetem i nje best selleri, i nje fjalimi te pare nga miliona,

but a movement, where people began to literally describe their actions at work as,

por krijimi i nje levizjeje, ku njerezit filluan te pershkruanin veprimet e tyre ne pune me frazen

I'm leaning in.

Po bej perpara.

SS: I mean, I'm grateful, I'm honored, I'm happy, and it's the very beginning.

SS: Jam mirenjohese, e nderuar, e lumtur, dhe ky eshte vetem fillimi.

So I don't know if I'm an expert, or if anyone is an expert. I certainly have done a lot of research.

Nuk e di nese jam eksperte, apo nese ekspertet ekzistojne vertete. Por kam bere shume kerkime.

I have read every study, I have pored over the materials,

Kam lexuar cdo studim, kam zhbiruar gjithe te dhenat,

and the lessons are very clear. Because here's what we know:

dhe mesimet jane te qarta. Sepse ajo qe dime eshte:

What we know is that stereotypes are holding women back from leadership roles all over the world.

Dime se ne te gjithe boten krijimi i stereotipeve po i mban femrat larg roleve drejtuese.

It's so striking. "Lean In" is very global, I've been all over the world,

Eshte e habitshme. "Te bejme perpara" eshte global, une kam shetitur boten

talking about it, and -- cultures are so different.

duke folur per te, dhe - kulturat jane shume te ndryshme.

Even within our own country, to Japan, to Korea, to China, to Asia, Europe,

Madje edhe brenda vendit tone, apo ne Japoni, Kore, Kine, Azi, Europe,

they're so different. Except for one thing: gender.

ato jane te ndryshme. Pervec dickaje: gjinise.

All over the world, no matter what our cultures are,

Ne te gjithe boten, paravaresisht kultures,

we think men should be strong, assertive, aggressive, have voice;

ne mendojme se mashkulli duhet te jete i forte, i sigurte, agresiv, t'i degjohet zeri;

we think women should speak when spoken to, help others.

mendojme se femra duhet te flasi vetem kur e pyesin, dhe se duhet t'i ndihmoje te tjeret.

Now we have, all over the world,

Sot ne te gjithe boten

women are called "bossy." There is a word for "bossy,"

femrat quhen prepotente. Ne cdo gjuhe

for little girls, in every language there's one.

ekziston nje fjale per t'i therritur vajzat e vogla prepotente.

It's a word that's pretty much not used for little boys,

Eshte nje fjale qe rralle perdoret per djemte,

because if a little boy leads, there's no negative word for it,

sepse kur nje djale i vogel udheheq, kjo gje nuk pershkruhet me fjale negative,

it's expected. But if a little girl leads, she's bossy.

sepse eshte e pritshme. Por kur nje vajze e vogel udheheq, atehere ajo eshte prepotente.

Now I know there aren't a lot of men here, but bear with me.

E di qe nuk kemi shume meshkuj ne salle, por kini pak durim.

If you're a man, you'll have to represent your gender.

Duke qe se jeni meshkuj, do t'ju duhet te perfaqesoni gjinine tuaj.

Please raise your hand if you've been told you're too aggressive at work.

Ju lutem ngrini duart nese ne pune dikush ju ka thene se jeni shume agresive.

(Laughter) There's always a few, it runs about five percent. Okay, get ready, gentlemen.

(te qeshura) Epo gjithnje do kete ndonje, arrin tek pese perqind. Mire, behuni gati zoterinj.

If you're a woman, please raise your hand if you've ever been told you're too aggressive at work.

Nese je femer, te lutem ngri doren nese ne ambientin e punes te kane thene se je shume agresive.

(Laughter) That is what audiences have said in every country in the world,

(te qeshura) Kete gje e ka thene publiku i secilit vend ku kam shkuar,

and it's deeply supported by the data.

dhe kete e vertetojne edhe te dhenat.

Now, do we think women are more aggressive than men? Of course not.

Tani, a mendojme ne vertete se femrat jane me agresive se meshkujt? Sigurisht qe jo.

It's just that we judge them through a different lens,

Vetem se ne i gjykojme ato me nje tjeter sy.

and a lot of the character traits that you must exhibit to perform at work, to get results, to lead,

dhe shume prej karakteristikave qe te ndihmojne te japesh rezultate dhe te udheheqesh ne pune

are ones that we think, in a man, he's a boss,

jane ato qe na bejne t'a mendojme mashkullin shef

and in a woman, she's bossy.

ndersa femren prepotente.

And the good news about this is that we can change this by acknowledging it.

Lajmi i mire eshte se ne mund t'a ndryshojme kete duke u ndergjegjesuar.

One of the happiest moments I had in this whole journey is,

Nje nga momentet me te lumtura ne kete udhetim ishte kur,

after the book came out, I stood on a stage with John Chambers, the CEO of Cisco.

pas daljes se librit, ndodhesha ne skene me John Chambers, CEO i Cisco-s.

He read the book. He stood on a stage with me, he invited me in front of his whole management team,

Ai kishte lexuar librin. Gjendej me mua ne skene, me ftoi para skuadres se tij te menaxhereve,

men and women, and he said, I thought we were good at this. I thought I was good at this.

femra dhe meshkuj, dhe tha, mendoja se ishim te afte ne kete pune. Mendoja se isha i afte ne kete pune.

And then I read this book, and I realized that we -- my company --

Pastaj lexova kete liber dhe kuptova se ne - kompania ime-

we have called all of our senior women too aggressive,

i kemi percaktuar te gjitha femrat drejtuese si teper agresive,

and I'm standing on this stage, and I'm sorry.

dhe une qendroj ketu para jush, dhe ju them se me vjen keq.

And I want you to know we're never going to do it again.

Dua t'ju them se kjo nuk do te ndodhe me.

PM: Can we send that to a lot of other people that we know? (Applause)

PM: A mund t'ia kerkojme kete edhe gjithe atyre njerezve te tjere qe njohim? (duartrokitje)

SS: And so John is doing that because he believes it's good for his company,

SS: Keshtu John e beri kete sepse mendonte se kjo do t'a permiresonte kompanine e tij,

and so this kind of acknowledgement of these biases can change it.

keshtu pranimi i ekzistences se paragjykimit mund t'a ndryshoje ate.

And so next time you all see someone call a little girl "bossy,"

Keshtu, heren e ardhshme qe do te degjoni dike qe quan prepotente nje vajze te vogel,

you walk right up to that person, big smile, and you say,

mund t'i afroheni atij personi duke buzeqeshur dhe t'i thoni,

"That little girl's not bossy. That little girl has executive leadership skills." (Laughter)

"Ajo vajze nuk eshte prepotente. Ajo thjesht ka aftesi prej drejtueseje te larte." (te qeshura)

PM: I know that's what you're telling your daughter. SS: Absolutely.

PM: Kjo eshte e njejta gje qe ti i thua vajzes tende. SS: Absolutisht po.

PM: And you did focus in the book -- and the reason, as you said, in writing it,

PM: Ti je fokusuar ne kete liber - the se arsyeja per te cilen e shkrove

was to create a dialogue about this.

ishte krijimi i dialogut ne lidhje me kete teme.

I mean, let's just put it out there, face the fact that women are --

Dua te them, le t'e flasim per kete, te perballemi me faktin se,

in a time when we have more open doors, and more opportunities --

edhe pse ka shume dyer te hapura dhe mundesi te reja,

are still not getting to the leadership positions.

femrat ende nuk marrin pozicione drejtuese.

So in the months that have come since the book,

Ne muajt qe pasuan publikimin e librit,

in which "Lean In" focused on that and said,

ne te cilin theksohet ky problem dhe thuhet se

here are some of the challenges that remain, and many of them we have to own within ourselves

keto jane sfidat qe na presin, dhe shumicen prej tyre duhet t'a luftojme nga brenda vetes

and look at ourselves. What has changed?

duke pare brenda nesh. Cfare ka ndryshuar prej atehere?

Have you seen changes?

A ke vene re ndonje ndryshim.

SS: Well, there's certainly more dialogue, which is great.

SS: Sigurisht ka me shume dialog, e kjo eshte pozitive.

But what really matters to me, and I think all of us, is action.

Por ajo qe eshte me e rendesishme per mua, dhe ndoshta per te gjithe ne, jane veprimet.

So everywhere I go, CEOs, they're mostly men, say to me,

Keshtu, kudo qe shkoj, CEO-t, shumica prej te cileve jane meshkuj, me thone

you're costing me so much money

po me shkakton shpenzime te medha

because all the women want to be paid as much as the men.

sepse tani femrat duan te paguhen aq sa meshkujt.

And to them I say, I'm not sorry at all. (Laughter)

Dhe une u them se nuk me vjen aspak keq. (te qeshura)

At all. I mean, the women should be paid as much as the men.

Aspak. Dua te them, femrat duhet te paguhen sa meshkujt.

Everywhere I go, women tell me they ask for raises.

Kudo qe shkoj femrat me thone se kerkojne rritje rroge.

Everywhere I go, women say they're getting better relationships with their spouses,

Kudo qe shkoj, femrat me tregojne qe marredheniet e tyre me partneret jane permiresuar,

asking for more help at home, asking for the promotions they should be getting at work,

se kerkojne me shume ndihme ne shtepi, kerkojne ngritje ne detyre,

and importantly, believing it themselves. Even little things.

dhe me e rendesishmja, se besojne tek vetja.

One of the governors of one of the states told me that he didn't realize that more women were, in fact,

Nje prej governatoreve me tha se ai nuk e kishte vene re se shumica e femrave

literally sitting on the side of the room, which they are,

uleshin ne skajet e dhomes, gje qe eshte e vertete,

and now he made a rule that all the women on his staff need to sit at the table.

dhe se ai kishte vendosur rregullin se gjithe femrat e stafit duhet te uleshin ne tavoline.

The foundation I started along with the book "Lean In"

Fondacioni qe themelova ne te njejten kohe me librin "Te bejme perpara"

helps women, or men, start circles -- small groups,

ndihmon femrat, por edhe meshkujt... te krijojne grupe

it can be 10, it can be however many you want, which meet once a month.

mund te jene 10 persona, apo edhe me shume, te cilet takohen nje here ne muaj.

I would have hoped that by now, we'd have about 500 circles. That would've been great.

Une shpresoja qe deri ne kete moment te kishim rreth 500 grupe. Kjo do te ishte e mrekullueshme.

You know, 500 times roughly 10.

Pra, afersisht 500 here 10.

There are over 12,000 circles in 50 countries in the world.

Jane krijuar me shume se 12.000 grupe ne 50 shtete te botes.

PM: Wow, that's amazing.

PM: Kjo eshte e mrekullueshme.

SS: And these are people who are meeting every single month.

SS: Keta njerez takohen cdo muaj.

I met one of them, I was in Beijing.

Une takova njeren prej tyre kur isha ne Pekin.

A group of women, they're all about 29 or 30, they started the first Lean In circle in Beijing,

Nje grup femrash me moshe 29 apo 30 vjec kishin krijuar grupin e pare ne Pekin Te bejme perpara,

several of them grew up in very poor, rural China.

dhe disa prej tyre ishin rritur ne zona te varfera rurale te Kines.

These women are 29, they are told by their society that they are "left over,"

Femrat 29-vjecare shoqeria e tyre i quan "te mbetura"

because they are not yet married,

sepse ato nuk jane ende te martuara,

and the process of coming together once a month at a meeting

dhe zakoni i ketij takimi mujor

is helping them define who they are for themselves.

po i ndihmon ato te percaktojne se si e shohin veten.

What they want in their careers. The kind of partners they want, if at all.

Se cfare duan nga karriera e punes. Tipin e partnerit qe duan, nese e duan.

I looked at them, we went around and introduced ourselves,

I pashe teksa po prezantonim veten me rradhe

and they all said their names and where they're from,

dhe ato te gjitha thane si quheshin dhe se nga vinin,

and I said, I'm Sheryl Sandberg, and this was my dream.

dhe une thashe, une jam Sheryl Sandberg, dhe kjo ishte endrra ime

And I kind of just started crying.

Dhe pastaj fillova te qaj.

Right, which, I admit, I do. Right? I've talked about it before.

Epo, une kete e pranoj. Apo jo? Kam folur edhe me pare per kete.

But the fact that a woman so far away out in the world, who grew up in a rural village,

Por fakti se nje femer qe ndodhet ne anen tjeter te botes, qe eshte rritur ne fshat,

who's being told to marry someone she doesn't want to marry,

te ciles i kane thene te martohet me dike qe ajo nuk e pelqen,

can now go meet once a month with a group of people and refuse that,

fakti qe ajo sot mund te takohet nje here ne muaj me persona te tjere dhe t'a refuzoje ate kerkese,

and find life on her own terms.

per te bere jeten qe do ajo vete.

That's the kind of change we have to hope for.

Ky eshte ndryshimi qe ne shpresojme te shohim.

PM: Have you been surprised by the global nature of the message?

PM: A te ka bere pershtypje natyra globale e ketij mesazhi?

Because I think when the book first came out, many people thought,

Sepse mendoj se kur libri u publikua, shume njerez menduan

well, this is a really important handbook for young women on their way up.

epo kjo eshte nje guide e mire per femrat qe duan te bejne karriere.

They need to look at this, anticipate the barriers, and recognize them,

Ata duhet t'a lexojne, te parashikojne pengesat, t'i identifikojne ato,

put them out in the open, have the dialogue about it,

t'i bejne ato publike, te flasin per to,

but that it's really for women who are that. Doing that. Pursuing the corporate world.

pra eshte shkruar per femra te tilla. Qe bejne kete pune. Qe ndodhen ne boten e korporatave.

And yet the book is being read, as you say, in rural and developing countries.

Por libri eshte lexuar, sic thua edhe ti, edhe ne vende rurale e ne zhvilim.

What part of that has surprised you, and perhaps led to a new perspective on your part?

Prej gjithe kesaj cfare te ka surprizuar, e ndoshta te ka nxitur t'i shohesh gjerat me nje sy tjeter?

SS: The book is about self-confidence, and about equality.

SS: Libri flet per besimin ne vete dhe barazine.

And it turns out, everywhere in the world, women need more self-confidence,

Dhe me sa duket ne te gjithe boten femrat kane me shume nevoje per vetebesim,

because the world tells us we're not equal to men.

sepse bota na thote se nuk jemi te barabarta me meshkujt.

Everywhere in the world, we live in a world where the men get "and,"

Ne jetojme ne nje bote ku meshkujt kane "dhe",

and women get "or."

ndersa femrat kane "ose".

I've never met a man who's been asked how he does it all. (Laughter)

Une ende s'kam takuar nje mashkull qe e kane pyetur se si ia del t'i beje te gjitha. (te qeshura)

Again, I'm going to turn to the men in the audience:

Do t'u drejtohem edhe nje here meshkujve te publikut:

Please raise your hand if you've been asked, how do you do it all?

Ju lutem te ngrene duart ata te cileve u eshte drejtuar pyetja, si arrin t'i besh te gjitha?

(Laughter)

(te qeshura)

Men only.

Vetem meshkujt.

Women, women. Please raise your hand if you've been asked how you do it all?

Femrat, femrat. Ju lutem ngrini duart nese keni degjuar ndonjehere pyetjen, si arrin t'i besh te gjitha?

We assume men can do it all, slash -- have jobs and children.

Ne mendojme se meshkujt mund t'i bejne te gjitha... si punen ashtu edhe femijet.

We assume women can't, and that's ridiculous,

Ndersa mendojme se femrat nuk mund t'ia dalin, dhe kjo eshte qesharake.

because the great majority of women everywhere in the world, including the United States,

sepse pjesa me e madhe e femrave ne bote, edhe ne Shtetet e Bashkuara,

work full time and have children.

punojne me kohe te plote dhe kane edhe femije.

And I think people don't fully understand how broad the message is.

Dhe une mendoj se njerezit nuk e kuptojne se sa i gjere eshte ky mesazh.

There is a circle that's been started for rescued sex workers in Miami.

Ne Miami eshte krijuar nje grup per punonjeset e seksit te shpetuara nga rruga.

They're using "Lean In" to help people make the transition

Ato po perdorin "Te bejme perpara" per te lehtesuar tranzicionin

back to what would be a fair life, really rescuing them from their pimps, and using it.

drejt nje jete te drejte, dhe per t'i shpetuar ato nga pronaret e tyre, ata po perdorin librin.

There are dress-for-success groups in Texas which are using the book,

Ne Texas librin po e perdorin gjithashtu grupet vishu-drejt-suksesit

for women who have never been to college.

drejtuar femrave qe nuk kane ndjekur universitetin.

And we know there are groups all the way to Ethiopia.

Dijme se ekzistojne grupe deri edhe ne Etiopi.

And so these messages of equality -- of how women are told they can't have what men can have --

Pra keto mesazhe barazie - se femrat rriten me dijen se nuk mund te kene ate qe kane meshkujt -

how we assume that leadership is for men, how we assume that voice is for men,

se ne mendojme qe lidershipi u takon meshkujve, se ne mendojme se vetem meshkujve

these affect all of us, and I think they are very universal.

mund t'u degjohet zeri, gjithe keto ndikojne tek ne, dhe une mendoj se jane universale.

And it's part of what TEDWomen does.

Kjo eshte pjese e asaj qe ben TEDWomen.

It unites all of us in a cause we have to believe in,

Na bashkon te gjithave per nje kauze tek e cila duhet te besojme,

which is more women, more voice, more equality.

qe eshte: me shume femra, ze me te forte, me shume barazi.

PM: If you were invited now to make another TEDWomen talk,

PM: Nese sot do te te ftonin te mbaje nje fjalim tjeter ne TEDWomen,

what would you say that is a result of this experience, for you personally,

cili do te ishte per ty personalisht rezultati i kesaj eksperience,

and what you've learned about women, and men,

dhe cfare ke mesuar prej femrave dhe meshkujve

as you've made this journey?

gjate ketij udhetimi.

SS: I think I would say -- I tried to say this strongly,

SS: Mendoj se do te thosha se - mundova t'a them kete me force,

but I think I can say it more strongly --

por mendoj se mund t'a them edhe me fort -

I want to say that the status quo is not enough.

Do te thoja se status quo-ja nuk mjafton.

That it's not good enough, that it's not changing quickly enough.

Nuk mjafton, dhe gjerat nuk po ndryshojne me shpejtesine e duhur.

Since I gave my TED Talk and published my book, another year of data came out from the U.S. Census.

Pasi dhashe fjalimin tim ne TED dhe publikova librin, censusi i SHBA nxorri te dhenat e vitit qe kaloi.

And you know what we found?

Dhe e di cfare zbuluam?

No movement in the wage gap for women in the United States.

Nuk ka pasur asnje ndryshim ne diferencen e pages per femrat ne Shtetet e Bashkuara.

Seventy-seven cents to the dollar.

Shtatedhjete e shtate cent ndaj nje dollari.

If you are a black woman, 64 cents.

Nese je grua e zeze, 64 cent.

If you are a Latina, we're at 54 cents.

Nese je latino-amerikane, jemi tek 54 cent.

Do you know when the last time those numbers went up?

A e di cila ishte hera e fundit qe keto shifra pesuan rritje?

2002.

Viti 2002.

We are stagnating, we are stagnating in so many ways.

Jemi vend-numero, vend-numero ne shume kendveshtrime.

And I think we are not really being honest about that,

Dhe une mendoj se nuk po tregohemi mjaftueshem te sinqerte

for so many reasons. It's so hard to talk about gender.

per shume arsye. Eshte e veshtire te flasesh per problemet gjinore.

We shy away from the word "feminist," a word I really think we need to embrace.

Ne turperohemi nga fjala "feministe", fjale te cilen une mendoj se duhet t'a bejme tonen.

We have to get rid of the word bossy and bring back --

Duhet t'a harrojme fjalen prepotente dhe te riperdorim...

(Applause)

(duartrokitje)

I think I would say in a louder voice, we need to get rid of the word "bossy"

Mendoj se duhet t'a them kete me ze me te larte, duhet t'a harrojme fjalen prepotente,

and bring back the word "feminist," because we need it.

dhe te riperdorim fjalen feministe, sepse kjo eshte e nevojshme.

(Applause)

(duatrokitje)

PM: And we all need to do a lot more leaning in.

PM: Dhe duhet te bejme me shume perpara.

SS: A lot more leaning in.

SS: Shume me shume.

PM: Thank you, Sheryl.

PM: Faleminderit, Sheryl.

Thanks for leaning in and saying yes.

Faleminderit qe bere perpara dhe qe the po.

SS: Thank you.

SS: Faleminderit.

(Applause)

(duartrokitje)