Judy MacDonald Johnston: Prepare for a good end of life

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์•„๋ž˜ ์˜๋ฌธ์ž๋ง‰์„ ๋”๋ธ”ํด๋ฆญํ•˜์‹œ๋ฉด ์˜์ƒ์ด ์žฌ์ƒ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

00:00
Translator: Joseph Geni Reviewer: Morton Bast
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๋ฒˆ์—ญ: Aram Chun ๊ฒ€ํ† : Tae Young Choi
00:12
What would be a good end of life?
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๋ฉ‹์ง„ ์ธ์ƒ์˜ ๋์ด๋ž€ ์–ด๋–ค ๊ฒƒ์ผ๊นŒ์š”?
00:16
And I'm talking about the very end.
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์ œ์ผ ๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰ ์ˆœ๊ฐ„ ๋ง์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:18
I'm talking about dying.
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์ฃฝ์Œ์ด๋ผ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ ๋ง์ด์ฃ .
00:21
We all think a lot about how to live well.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๋ชจ๋‘ ์ž˜ ์‚ฌ๋Š” ๋ฒ•์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋งŽ์ด ๊ณ ๋ฏผํ•˜๋Š”๋ฐ์š”,
00:25
I'd like to talk about increasing our chances of dying well.
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์ €๋Š” ์ž˜ ์ฃฝ์„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฐ€๋Šฅ์„ฑ์„ ๋†’์ด๋Š” ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋งํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:30
I'm not a geriatrician.
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์ €๋Š” ๋…ธ์ธ๋ณ‘ ์ „๋ฌธ์˜๋Š” ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:32
I design reading programs for preschoolers.
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์ €๋Š” ์œ ์น˜์›์ƒ์˜ ๋…์„œ ๊ต์œก ํ”„๋กœ๊ทธ๋žจ์„ ๋””์ž์ธ ํ•˜๋Š” ์ผ์„ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:34
What I know about this topic
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์ด ์ฃผ์ œ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์•„๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๋“ค์€
00:36
comes from a qualitative study with a sample size of two.
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๋‹จ ๋‘ ๋ช…์„ ์—ฐ๊ตฌ ๋Œ€์ƒ์œผ๋กœ ํ•œ ์งˆ์  ์—ฐ๊ตฌ์—์„œ ์–ป์€ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:41
In the last few years, I helped two friends
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์ง€๋‚œ ๋ช‡ ๋…„๊ฐ„, ์ €๋Š” ๋‘ ๋ช…์˜ ์นœ๊ตฌ๋“ค์ด
00:43
have the end of life they wanted.
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์ž์‹ ๋“ค์ด ์›ํ•˜๋Š” ์ž„์ข…์„ ๋งž์„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋„๋ก ๋„์™€ ๋“œ๋ ธ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:46
Jim and Shirley Modini spent their 68 years of marriage
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์ง๊ณผ ์…œ๋ฆฌ ๋ชจ๋””๋‹ˆ๋Š” 68๋…„๊ฐ„
00:49
living off the grid on their 1,700-acre ranch
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์†Œ๋…ธ๋งˆ ์นด์šดํ‹ฐ์˜ ์‚ฐ ์†, 1700 ์—์ด์ปค์˜ ๋ชฉ์žฅ์—์„œ
00:52
in the mountains of Sonoma County.
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๋ฌธ๋ช…์˜ ํŽธ์˜์™€ ๋–จ์–ด์ ธ ์ƒํ™œ์„ ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:54
They kept just enough livestock to make ends meet
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๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ๋จน๊ณ  ์‚ด ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์„ ์ •๋„์˜ ๊ฐ€์ถ•๋งŒ ๊ธฐ๋ฅด๋ฉฐ
00:58
so that the majority of their ranch would remain a refuge
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๋ชฉ์žฅ์˜ ๋Œ€๋ถ€๋ถ„์€ ๊ฑฐ๊ธฐ์— ์‚ด๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š”
01:01
for the bears and lions and so many other things
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๊ณฐ์ด๋‚˜ ์‚ฌ์ž ๋“ฑ์˜ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ๋™๋ฌผ๋“ค์„ ์œ„ํ•œ
01:03
that lived there.
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๋ณดํ˜ธ ์‹œ์„ค๋กœ ๋‚จ๊ฒจ ๋‘์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:05
This was their dream.
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๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์ด ๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ๊ฟˆ์ด์—ˆ์ฃ .
01:07
I met Jim and Shirley in their 80s.
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ์ง๊ณผ ์…œ๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ๋งŒ๋‚œ ๊ฒƒ์€ ๊ทธ ๋ถ„๋“ค์ด 80๋Œ€์˜€์„ ๋•Œ์˜€์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:10
They were both only children who chose not to have kids.
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๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ๋‘˜ ๋‹ค ์™ธ๋™์œผ๋กœ ๋ฐ‘์œผ๋กœ ์•„์ด๋“ค๋„ ์—†์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:14
As we became friends, I became their trustee
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ์นœ๋ถ„์ด ์Œ“์ด๋ฉด์„œ, ์ €๋Š” ๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ์ˆ˜ํƒ์ž๋„ ๋˜๊ณ 
01:16
and their medical advocate,
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์˜๋ฃŒ ์˜นํ˜ธ์ž๋„ ๋˜์—ˆ๋Š”๋ฐ,
01:18
but more importantly, I became
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๋”์šฑ ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ ๊ฒƒ์€
01:20
the person who managed their end-of-life experiences.
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๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ์ž„์ข…์„ ์ค€๋น„ํ•˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด ๋œ ๊ฒƒ์ด์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:24
And we learned a few things about how to have a good end.
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๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๋ฉ‹์ง„ ์ž„์ข…์„ ๋งž์ดํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์— ๊ด€ํ•ด์„œ ๋ฐฐ์šฐ๊ฒŒ ๋˜์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:28
In their final years, Jim and Shirley
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์ง๊ณผ ์…œ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์ตœํ›„์˜ ๋ช‡ ๋…„๊ฐ„,
01:30
faced cancers, fractures, infections, neurological illness.
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์•”, ๊ณจ์ ˆ, ๊ฐ์—ผ, ์‹ ๊ฒฝ ์งˆํ™˜์„ ๊ฒช์–ด์•ผ ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:34
It's true.
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๊ทธ๋ ‡์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:35
At the end, our bodily functions
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๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰์—๋Š” ๊ฒฐ๊ตญ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ์ƒ์ฒด ๊ธฐ๋Šฅ๊ณผ
01:37
and independence are declining to zero.
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์ž๋ฆฝ์„ฑ์ด ์ œ๋กœ๋กœ ์‡ ํ‡ดํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋˜๋Š”๋ฐ์š”.
01:40
What we found is that, with a plan and the right people,
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๊ทธ๋ž˜๋„ ๊ณ„ํš์„ ์„ธ์šฐ๊ณ , ์ข‹์€ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค๊ณผ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ํ•œ๋‹ค๋ฉด,
01:43
quality of life can remain high.
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์‚ถ์˜ ์งˆ์„ ๋†’๊ฒŒ ์œ ์ง€ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๋ฐฐ์šฐ๊ฒŒ ๋˜์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:46
The beginning of the end is triggered
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"์ฃฝ์Œ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ธ์‹ํ•˜๋Š” ํ–‰์‚ฌ"๋ฅผ ๊ณ„๊ธฐ๋กœ
01:48
by a mortality awareness event, and during this time,
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๋์„ ์ค€๋น„ํ•˜๊ธฐ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ•œ ์ง๊ณผ ์…œ๋ฆฌ๋Š”
01:51
Jim and Shirley chose ACR nature preserves
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์ž์‹ ๋“ค์ด ๋– ๋‚˜๊ณ  ๋‚œ ๋’ค์— ACR ์ž์—ฐ ๋ณดํ˜ธ ๋‹จ์ฒด๊ฐ€
01:55
to take their ranch over when they were gone.
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๋ชฉ์žฅ์„ ์ธ์ˆ˜ํ•˜๋„๋ก ์ง€๋ช…ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:57
This gave them the peace of mind to move forward.
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๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์ด ์•ž์œผ๋กœ ๋‚˜์•„๊ฐˆ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๋งˆ์Œ์˜ ํ‰์•ˆ์„ ์ฃผ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:01
It might be a diagnosis. It might be your intuition.
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์งˆ๋ณ‘์˜ ์ง„๋‹จ์ผ ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ๊ณ , ๊ทธ๋ƒฅ ์Šค์Šค๋กœ์˜ ๊ฐ๊ฐ์ผ ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ์ง€๋งŒ,
02:05
But one day, you're going to say, "This thing is going to get me."
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์–ธ์  ๊ฐ€๋Š” ๋ถ„๋ช… ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„๋„ "์•„, ์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ๊ฐ€๊ฒ ๊ตฌ๋‚˜," ํ•˜๊ณ  ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๋‚ ์ด ์˜ฌ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:08
Jim and Shirley spent this time
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์ง๊ณผ ์…œ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ทธ ์‹œ๊ฐ„์„,
02:09
letting friends know that their end was near
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์ž์‹ ๋“ค์˜ ๋์ด ์˜ค๊ณ  ์žˆ์Œ์„
02:11
and that they were okay with that.
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ž์‹ ๋“ค์€ ๊ทธ ๊ฒƒ์„ ๋ฐ›์•„๋“ค์˜€์Œ์„ ์นœ๊ตฌ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ์•Œ๋ฆฌ๋ฉฐ ๋ณด๋ƒˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:16
Dying from cancer and dying from neurological illness
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์•”์œผ๋กœ ์ฃฝ์–ด๊ฐ€๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๊ณผ ์‹ ๊ฒฝ์„ฑ ์งˆ๋ณ‘์œผ๋กœ ์ฃฝ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€
02:19
are different.
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๋‹ค๋ฆ…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:21
In both cases, last days are about quiet reassurance.
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋‘ ๊ฒฝ์šฐ ๋ชจ๋‘, ๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰ ๋‚ ๋“ค์€ ์ฐจ๋ถ„ํ•œ ํ™•์‹ ๊ณผ๋„ ๊ฐ™์•˜์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:25
Jim died first. He was conscious until the very end,
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๋จผ์ € ๋Œ์•„๊ฐ€์‹  ๊ฒƒ์€ ์ง์ด์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ •๋ง ๋๊นŒ์ง€๋„ ์ •์‹ ์€ ์˜จ์ „ํ•˜์…จ๋Š”๋ฐ
02:29
but on his last day he couldn't talk.
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๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰ ๋‚ ์—๋Š” ๋ง์”€์„ ๋ชป ํ•˜์‹œ๊ฒŒ ๋˜์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:31
Through his eyes, we knew when he needed to hear again,
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋ˆˆ๋น›์œผ๋กœ, ๋‹ค์‹œ ์ด ๋ง์„ ๋“ฃ๊ณ  ์‹ถ์–ด ํ•˜์‹ ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์•Œ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์—ˆ์ฃ .
02:33
"It is all set, Jim. We're going to take care of Shirley
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"์ง, ๋‹ค ์ •๋ฆฌ๋˜์–ด ์žˆ์–ด์š”."
02:36
right here at the ranch,
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"์…œ๋ฆฌ๋„ ์—ฌ๊ธฐ ๋ชฉ์žฅ์—์„œ ๊ฐ„ํ˜ธํ•  ๊ฑฐ๊ตฌ์š”"
02:37
and ACR's going to take care of your wildlife forever."
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"ACR์€ ๋ชฉ์žฅ์˜ ์•ผ์ƒ ๋™๋ฌผ๋“ค์„ ๋๊นŒ์ง€ ๊ด€๋ฆฌํ•ด ์ค„ ๊ฑฐ์—์š”."
02:41
From this experience I'm going to share five practices.
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์ €์˜ ์ด ๊ฒฝํ—˜์—์„œ ๋ฐฐ์šด ๋‹ค์„ฏ ๊ฐ€์ง€ ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์„ ๋ง์”€๋“œ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์‹ถ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:44
I've put worksheets online,
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์ž๋ฃŒ์ง€๋Š” ์˜จ๋ผ์ธ์— ์˜ฌ๋ ค๋†“์•˜์œผ๋‹ˆ
02:45
so if you'd like, you can plan your own end.
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„๋„ ์›ํ•˜์‹œ๋ฉด ์Šค์Šค๋กœ์˜ ๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰์„ ์ค€๋น„ํ•˜์‹ค ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:48
It starts with a plan.
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์ผ๋‹จ์€ ๊ณ„ํš์„ ์„ธ์šฐ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์—์„œ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:51
Most people say, "I'd like to die at home."
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๋งŽ์€ ๋ถ„๋“ค์€ "์ง‘์—์„œ ์ฃฝ๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค." ๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ง์”€ํ•˜์‹œ๋Š”๋ฐ์š”,
02:53
Eighty percent of Americans die in a hospital
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80%์˜ ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์ธ์€ ๋ณ‘์›์ด๋‚˜
02:55
or a nursing home.
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์š”์–‘์›์—์„œ ์ฃฝ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:57
Saying we'd like to die at home is not a plan.
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์ง‘์—์„œ ์ฃฝ๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค,๋ผ๊ณ  ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ๊ณ„ํš์ด ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:01
A lot of people say, "If I get like that, just shoot me."
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๋˜ ๋งŽ์€ ๋ถ„๋“ค์€ "์ €๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ๊นŒ์ง€ ๋˜๋ฉด ๊ทธ๋ƒฅ ์ฃฝ์—ฌ์ค˜."๋ผ๊ณ  ํ•˜์‹œ๋Š”๋ฐ์š”,
03:04
This is not a plan either; this is illegal.
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๊ทธ๊ฒƒ๋„ ๊ณ„ํš์ด ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๊ฑด ๋ถˆ๋ฒ•์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:06
(Laughter)
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(์›ƒ์Œ)
03:10
A plan involves answering
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๊ณ„ํš์ด๋ผ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€
03:13
straightforward questions about the end you want.
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์Šค์Šค๋กœ๊ฐ€ ์›ํ•˜๋Š” ๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰์— ๊ด€ํ•œ ์ง์ ‘์ ์ธ ์งˆ๋ฌธ์— ๋Œ€๋‹ตํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:16
Where do you want to be when you're no longer independent?
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์Šค์Šค๋กœ ๋” ์ด์ƒ ์ž๋ฆฝํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์—†์„ ๋•Œ์—๋Š” ์–ด๋””์— ๊ณ„์‹œ๊ณ  ์‹ถ์œผ์‹ ์ง€์š”?
03:18
What do you want in terms of medical intervention?
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์˜๋ฃŒ์  ๋„์›€์€ ์–ด๋–ค ๊ฒƒ์„ ์›ํ•˜์‹ญ๋‹ˆ๊นŒ?
03:21
And who's going to make sure your plan is followed?
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ์„ธ์šด ๊ณ„ํš์„ ๋”ฐ๋ผ ์ค„ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์€ ๋ˆ„๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๊นŒ?
03:24
You will need advocates.
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์˜นํ˜ธ์ž๊ฐ€ ํ•„์š”ํ•˜์‹ค ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:25
Having more than one increases your chance
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ํ•œ ๋ช… ์ด์ƒ์˜ ์˜นํ˜ธ์ž๋ฅผ ์ฐพ์œผ์‹œ๋ฉด
03:27
of getting the end you want.
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ์›ํ•˜์‹œ๋Š” ๋์„ ๋งž์œผ์‹ค ๊ฐ€๋Šฅ์„ฑ๋„ ๋†’์•„์ง‘๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:28
Don't assume the natural choice is your spouse or child.
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๋‹น์—ฐํžˆ ๋ฐฐ์šฐ์ž๋‚˜ ์ž๋…€๋“ค์ด ํ•ด ์ค„ ๊ฑฐ๋ผ๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•˜์ง€ ๋งˆ์„ธ์š”.
03:31
You want someone who has the time and proximity
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๊ทธ ์ผ์„ ์ž˜ ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ์‹œ๊ฐ„๊ณผ ๊ฑฐ๋ฆฌ์  ์—ฌ์œ ๊ฐ€ ์žˆ๋Š”
03:33
to do this job well, and you want someone
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์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด ํ•„์š”ํ•˜๊ณ ์š”,
03:36
who can work with people under the pressure
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๋Š์ž„์—†์ด ๋ณ€ํ•˜๋Š” ํ™˜๊ฒฝ์˜ ์ŠคํŠธ๋ ˆ์Šค ์†์—์„œ
03:38
of an ever-changing situation.
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์ž˜ ๋Œ€์ฒ˜ ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด ํ•„์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:41
Hospital readiness is critical.
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๋ณ‘์›์— ๊ด€ํ•œ ์ค€๋น„์„ฑ๋„ ๊ฒฐ์ •์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:42
You are likely to be headed to the emergency room,
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์‘๊ธ‰์‹ค๋กœ ํ–ฅํ•  ๊ฐ€๋Šฅ์„ฑ์ด ๋†’์€๋ฐ
03:44
and you want to get this right.
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์ด ๋ถ€๋ถ„์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:46
Prepare a one-page summary of your medical history,
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์˜๋ฃŒ ๋ณ‘๋ ฅ, ๋ณต์šฉ ์ค‘์ธ ์•ฝ, ์˜์‚ฌ์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ์ •๋ณด๋ฅผ
03:49
medications and physician information.
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ํ•œ ํŽ˜์ด์ง€๋กœ ์š”์•ฝํ•ด์„œ ์ค€๋น„ํ•ด ๋†“์œผ์„ธ์š”.
03:51
Put this in a really bright envelope
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๋ฐ์€ ์ƒ‰ ๋ด‰ํˆฌ์—
03:53
with copies of your insurance cards, your power of attorney,
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๊ทธ ํŽ˜์ด์ง€, ๋ณดํ—˜ ์นด๋“œ, ์œ„์ž„์žฅ,
03:56
and your do-not-resuscitate order.
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์†Œ์ƒ ๊ฑฐ๋ถ€์žฅ์„ ๋„ฃ์–ด๋‘์„ธ์š”.
03:59
Have advocates keep a set in their car.
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์ง€์ •ํ•ด๋‘” ์˜นํ˜ธ์ธ์—๊ฒŒ๋Š” ์ฐจ ์•ˆ์— ๊ทธ ๋ด‰ํˆฌ๋ฅผ ๋„ฃ์–ด๋‘๊ฒŒ ํ•˜์„ธ์š”.
04:00
Tape a set to your refrigerator.
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์ง‘์˜ ๋ƒ‰์žฅ๊ณ ์—๋„ ๊ทธ ๋ด‰ํˆฌ๋ฅผ ๋ถ™์—ฌ ๋†“์œผ์„ธ์š”.
04:02
When you show up in the E.R. with this packet,
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์‘๊ธ‰์‹ค์— ๋„์ฐฉํ–ˆ์„ ๋•Œ ์ด ๋ด‰ํˆฌ๋ฅผ ๋‚ด๋ฐ€๋ฉด
04:04
your admission is streamlined in a material way.
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์ž…์›์ด ๊ฐ„๋‹จํ•˜๊ณ  ๋น ๋ฅด๊ฒŒ ์ฒ˜๋ฆฌ ๋  ๊ฒ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:08
You're going to need caregivers.
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๊ฐ„ํ˜ธ์ธ๋„ ํ•„์š”ํ•˜์‹ค ๊ฒ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:11
You'll need to assess your personality and financial situation
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์ž์‹ ์˜ ์„ฑ๊ฒฉ๊ณผ ๊ฒฝ์ œ ์‚ฌ์ •์„ ๊ณ ๋ คํ•ด์„œ
04:14
to determine whether an elder care community
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์š”์–‘์›์— ๋“ค์–ด๊ฐ€๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋‚˜์„์ง€
04:17
or staying at home is your best choice.
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์žํƒ์— ๋‚จ์•„ ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋‚˜์„์ง€ ๊ฒฐ์ •ํ•˜์…”์•ผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:20
In either case, do not settle.
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋‘˜ ์ค‘ ์–ด๋Š ์ƒํ™ฉ์—์„œ๋„ ํƒ€ํ˜‘ํ•˜์ง€๋Š” ๋งˆ์„ธ์š”.
04:22
We went through a number of not-quite-right caregivers
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์ €ํฌ๋„ ์ž˜ ๋งž์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ๊ฐ„ํ˜ธ์ธ์„ ๋ช‡ ๋ช…์ด๋‚˜ ๊ฒฝํ—˜ํ•˜๊ณ  ๋‚˜์„œ์•ผ
04:26
before we found the perfect team
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์ตœ์ ์˜ ํŒ€์„ ๋งŒ๋‚˜๊ฒŒ ๋˜์—ˆ๋Š”๋ฐ
04:28
led by Marsha,
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์ด ํŒ€์˜ ์ˆ˜๊ฐ„ํ˜ธ์‚ฌ ๋งˆ์ƒค๋Š”
04:31
who won't let you win at bingo just because you're dying
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์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด ์ฃฝ์–ด๊ฐ€๊ณ  ์žˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ํ•ด์„œ ๋น™๊ณ  ๊ฒŒ์ž„์—์„œ ์ผ๋ถ€๋Ÿฌ ์ ธ์ฃผ์ง€๋Š” ์•Š์ง€๋งŒ
04:37
but will go out and take videos of your ranch for you
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๋ฐ–์— ๋‚˜๊ฐˆ ์ˆ˜ ์—†๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์„ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ
04:40
when you can't get out there,
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๋ชฉ์žฅ์— ๋‚˜๊ฐ€ ๋น„๋””์˜ค๋ฅผ ์ฐ์–ด ๋ณด์—ฌ์ฃผ๊ธฐ๋„ ํ•˜๊ณ 
04:42
and Caitlin, who won't let you skip your morning exercises
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๋˜ ์ผ€์ดํŠธ๋ฆฐ์€ ์•„์นจ ์šด๋™์„ ๋นผ ๋จน๊ฒŒ ํ•ด์ฃผ์ง€๋Š” ์•Š์ง€๋งŒ
04:45
but knows when you need to hear
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ํ•„์š”ํ•  ๋•Œ, ๋‹น์‹ ์˜ ์•„๋‚ด๋Š”
04:47
that your wife is in good hands.
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์ข‹์€ ๊ฐ„ํ˜ธํŒ€์ด ๋Œ๋ณด๊ณ  ์žˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ํ•œ ๋งˆ๋””๋ฅผ ํ•ด ์ฃผ๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:50
Finally, last words.
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๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰์œผ๋กœ, ์œ ์–ธ์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:53
What do you want to hear at the very end,
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๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰์—” ๋ฌด์Šจ ๋ง์„,
04:54
and from whom would you like to hear it?
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๋ˆ„๊ตฌ์—๊ฒŒ์„œ ๋“ฃ๊ณ  ์‹ถ์œผ์‹ ๊ฐ€์š”?
04:57
In my experience, you'll want to hear
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์ œ ๊ฒฝํ—˜์œผ๋กœ๋Š”,
04:59
that whatever you're worried about is going to be fine.
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ๊ฑฑ์ •ํ•˜๋Š” ์–ด๋–ค ๊ฒƒ์ด๋“  ๊ดœ์ฐฎ์„ ๊ฒƒ์ด๋ผ๋Š” ๋ง์„ ๋“ฃ๊ณ  ์‹ถ์–ดํ•˜์‹ค ๊ฒ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:03
When you believe it's okay to let go, you will.
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์ด์ œ๋Š” ๊ฐ€๋„ ๋˜๊ฒ ๊ตฌ๋‚˜, ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฏฟ์Œ์ด ๋“ค ๋•Œ ๊ฐ€์‹ค ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์„ ๊ฒ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:07
So, this is a topic that normally inspires fear and denial.
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์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ๋ณดํ†ต ๋ถˆ์•ˆ์ด๋‚˜ ๊ฑฐ๋ถ€๊ฐ์„ ๊ฐ€์ ธ์˜ค๋Š” ์ฃผ์ œ์ด์ง€๋งŒ,
05:13
What I've learned
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ๋ฐฐ์šด ๊ฒƒ์€,
05:15
is if we put some time into planning our end of life,
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๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰์„ ์ค€๋น„ํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ๊ณ„ํš์„ ์„ธ์šธ ์‹œ๊ฐ„์„ ๊ฐ€์ง€๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด
05:18
we have the best chance of maintaining our quality of life.
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๋๊นŒ์ง€ ์‚ถ์˜ ์งˆ์„ ๋†’๊ฒŒ ์œ ์ง€ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ์ตœ์„ ์˜ ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์ด๋ผ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:21
Here are Jim and Shirley just after deciding
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์ด ์‚ฌ์ง„์€ ์ง๊ณผ ์…œ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€
05:24
who would take care of their ranch.
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๋ชฉ์žฅ์˜ ์œ„์ž„์„ ๊ฒฐ์ •ํ•˜๊ณ  ๋‚œ ์งํ›„์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:26
Here's Jim just a few weeks before he died,
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์ด ์‚ฌ์ง„์€ ์ง์ด ๋Œ์•„๊ฐ€์‹œ๊ธฐ ๋ช‡ ์ฃผ ์ „,
05:30
celebrating a birthday he didn't expect to see.
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๋งž์„ ๊ฑฐ๋ผ๋Š” ๊ธฐ๋Œ€๋„ ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์•˜๋˜ ์ƒ์ผ์„ ์ถ•ํ•˜ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ชจ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:33
And here's Shirley just a few days before she died
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์ด ์‚ฌ์ง„์€ ๋Œ์•„๊ฐ€์‹œ๊ธฐ ๋ช‡ ์ผ ์ „์˜ ์…œ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€
05:37
being read an article in that day's paper
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๋ชจ๋””๋‹ˆ ๋ชฉ์žฅ์˜ ์•ผ์ƒ ๋™๋ฌผ ๋ณดํ˜ธ ๊ตฌ์—ญ์˜ ์ค‘์š”์„ฑ์— ๊ด€ํ•œ
05:39
about the significance of the wildlife refuge
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์‹ ๋ฌธ ๊ธฐ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ์ฝ์–ด ๋“œ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„
05:42
at the Modini ranch.
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๋“ฃ๊ณ  ๊ณ„์‹  ๋ชจ์Šต์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:44
Jim and Shirley had a good end of life,
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์ง๊ณผ ์…œ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์ธ์ƒ์˜ ๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰์„ ๋ฉ‹์ง€๊ฒŒ ๋งž์ดํ•˜์…จ๋Š”๋ฐ์š”,
05:47
and by sharing their story with you,
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๊ทธ ๋ถ„๋“ค์˜ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„๊ณผ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ๋‚˜๋ˆ”์œผ๋กœ์จ
05:49
I hope to increase our chances of doing the same.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋„ ๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰์„ ๋ฉ‹์ง€๊ฒŒ ๋งž์„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๋ฐ”๋ž๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:52
Thank you.
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๊ฐ์‚ฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:53
(Applause)
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์ด ์›น์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ ์ •๋ณด

์ด ์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ๋Š” ์˜์–ด ํ•™์Šต์— ์œ ์šฉํ•œ YouTube ๋™์˜์ƒ์„ ์†Œ๊ฐœํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ „ ์„ธ๊ณ„ ์ตœ๊ณ ์˜ ์„ ์ƒ๋‹˜๋“ค์ด ๊ฐ€๋ฅด์น˜๋Š” ์˜์–ด ์ˆ˜์—…์„ ๋ณด๊ฒŒ ๋  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฐ ๋™์˜์ƒ ํŽ˜์ด์ง€์— ํ‘œ์‹œ๋˜๋Š” ์˜์–ด ์ž๋ง‰์„ ๋”๋ธ” ํด๋ฆญํ•˜๋ฉด ๊ทธ๊ณณ์—์„œ ๋™์˜์ƒ์ด ์žฌ์ƒ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋น„๋””์˜ค ์žฌ์ƒ์— ๋งž์ถฐ ์ž๋ง‰์ด ์Šคํฌ๋กค๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜๊ฒฌ์ด๋‚˜ ์š”์ฒญ์ด ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒฝ์šฐ ์ด ๋ฌธ์˜ ์–‘์‹์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜์—ฌ ๋ฌธ์˜ํ•˜์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค.

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