How education helped me rewrite my life | Ashweetha Shetty

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00:12
I was eight years old.
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Jo tenia vuit anys.
00:15
I remember that day clearly
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Recordo aquell dia amb molta claredat,
00:17
like it happened just yesterday.
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com si fos ahir.
00:20
My mother is a bidi roller.
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La meva mare cargola cigarretes bidi.
00:23
She hand-rolls country cigarettes to sustain our family.
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Cargola cigarretes per treure la família endavant.
00:27
She is a hard worker
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Treballa molt dur
00:29
and spent 10 to 12 hours every day rolling bidis.
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i es passa entre 10 i 12 hores cargolant cigarretes cada dia.
00:34
That particular day she came home and showed me her bidi-rolling wage book.
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Aquell dia en concret va tornar a casa i em va ensenyar el llibre de salari.
00:39
She asked me how much money she has earned that week.
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Em va preguntar quants diners havia guanyat aquella setmana.
00:44
I went through that book,
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Vaig fullejar el llibre,
00:45
and what caught my eyes were her thumbprints on each page.
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i em va cridar l'atenció la seva empremta dactilar a cada pàgina.
00:51
My mother has never been to school.
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La meva mare mai no ha anat a l'escola.
00:54
She uses her thumbprints instead of a signature
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Fa servir l'empremta del polze en comptes de signar
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to keep a record of her earnings.
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per portar el compte dels guanys.
01:01
On that day, for some reason,
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Aquell dia, per algun motiu,
01:03
I wanted to teach her how to hold a pen and write her name.
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vaig voler ensenyar-la a escriure el seu nom amb un bolígraf.
01:08
She was reluctant at first.
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Al principi es va mostrar reticent.
01:10
She smiled innocently and said no.
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Va somriure amb innocència i em va dir que no.
01:13
But deep down, I was sure she wanted to give it a try.
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Però en el fons, jo estava convençuda que volia intentar-ho.
01:18
With a little bit of perseverance and a lot of effort,
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Amb una miqueta de perseverança i molt d'esforç,
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we managed to write her name.
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vam aconseguir que escrivís el seu nom.
01:23
Her hands were trembling, and her face was beaming with pride.
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Li tremolaven les mans i li brillava la cara d'orgull.
01:29
As I watched her do this,
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Mentre la veia fer-ho,
01:30
for the first time in my life,
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per primer cop a la vida,
01:33
I had a priceless feeling:
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vaig experimentar un sentiment inestimable:
01:36
that I could be of some use to this world.
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que podia ser útil en aquest món.
01:42
That feeling was very special,
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Aquest sentiment va ser molt especial,
01:44
because I am not meant to be useful.
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perquè no se suposa que hagi de ser útil.
01:48
In rural India, girls are generally considered worthless.
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A l'Índia rural, en general es considera que les noies no tenen cap valor.
01:52
They're a liability or a burden.
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Són una responsabilitat o una càrrega.
01:54
If they are considered useful,
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Si se les considera útils,
01:56
it is only to cook dishes, keep the house clean
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només és per cuinar, endreçar la casa
01:59
or raise children.
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o criar la mainada.
02:02
As a second daughter of my conservative Indian family,
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Com que era la segona filla de la meva família índia conservadora,
02:05
I was fairly clear from a very early age
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tenia prou clar des que era petita
02:09
that no one expected anything from me.
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que ningú no esperava res de mi.
02:13
I was conditioned to believe that the three identities that defined me --
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Estava condicionada a creure que les tres identitats que em definien,
02:18
poor village girl --
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pobra, de poble i noia,
02:20
meant that I was to live a life of no voice and no choice.
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significaven que viuria una vida sense veu i sense decisions pròpies.
02:27
These three identities forced me to think
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Aquestes tres identitats em van portar a pensar
02:30
that I should never have been born.
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que mai no hauria d'haver nascut.
02:35
Yet, I was.
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Però tot i això, jo existia.
02:39
All throughout my childhood, as I rolled bidis alongside my mother,
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Al llarg de la meva infantesa, mentre cargolava cigarretes amb la mare,
02:43
I would wonder:
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em preguntava:
02:45
What did my future hold?
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què m'oferia el futur?
02:48
I often asked my mother, with a lot of anxiety,
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Li preguntava sovint a la meva mare, amb molta ansietat:
02:51
"Amma, will my life be different from yours?
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"Amma, la meva vida serà diferent de la teva?
02:55
Will I have a chance to choose my life?
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Tindré la possibilitat d'escollir la meva vida?
02:59
Will I go to college?"
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Aniré a la universitat?"
03:01
And she would reply back,
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I ella em contestava:
03:05
"Try to finish high school first."
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"Primer prova d'acabar l'institut".
03:08
I am sure my mother did not mean to discourage me.
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Estic convençuda que la mare no pretenia desencoratjar-me.
03:12
She only wanted me to understand
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Només volia que entengués
03:14
that my dreams might be too big for a girl in my village.
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que potser els meus somnis eren massa grans per a una noia de poble.
03:20
When I was 13, I found the autobiography of Helen Keller.
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Quan tenia 13 anys, em vaig topar amb l'autobiografia de la Helen Keller.
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Helen became my inspiration.
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Ella es va convertir en la meva inspiració.
03:27
I admired her indomitable spirit.
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Admirava el seu esperit indomable.
03:30
I wanted to have a college degree like her,
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Volia tenir un grau universitari com ella,
03:33
so I fought with my father and my relatives to be sent to college,
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i em vaig barallar amb el pare i la família per anar a la universitat,
03:37
and it worked.
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i va funcionar.
03:40
During my final year of my undergraduate degree,
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Durant el meu darrer curs a la universitat
03:43
I desperately wanted to escape from being forced into marriage,
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desitjava desesperadament escapar-me d'un matrimoni forçós
03:47
so I applied to a fellowship program in Delhi,
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i vaig sol·licitar una beca d'investigació a Delhi,
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which is about 1,600 miles away from my village.
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que està a uns 2500 km del meu poble.
03:53
(Laughter)
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(Riures)
03:57
In fact, I recall that the only way I could fill out the application
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De fet, recordo que l'única forma que tenia per emplenar la sol·licitud
04:02
was during my commute to college.
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era en el trajecte a la universitat.
04:05
I did not have access to computers,
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No tenia accés a ordinadors
04:07
so I had to borrow a college junior's cell phone.
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i havia de demanar el mòbil a un estudiant de tercer.
04:11
As a woman, I could not be seen with a cell phone,
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Com a dona, no se'm podia veure en públic amb un mòbil,
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so I used to huddle his phone under my shawl
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de manera que l'amagava sota el xal
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and type as slowly as possible
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i teclejava tan a poc a poc com podia
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to ensure that I would not be heard.
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per assegurar-me que ningú no m'escoltava.
04:25
After many rounds of interviews,
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Després de moltes rondes d'entrevistes
04:27
I got into the fellowship program with a full scholarship.
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vaig entrar en un programa d'investigació amb una beca completa.
04:30
My father was confused, my mother was worried --
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El meu pare estava confús, la meva mare amoïnada...
04:34
(Applause)
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(Aplaudiments)
04:39
My father was confused, my mother was worried,
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El meu pare estava confús, la meva mare amoïnada,
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but I felt butterflies in my stomach
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però jo sentia papallones a l'estómac
04:44
because I was going to step out of my village
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perquè sortiria del meu poble
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for the first time
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per primer cop
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to study in the national capital.
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per estudiar a la capital del país.
04:53
Of the 97 fellows selected that year,
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Dels 97 estudiants que van seleccionar aquell any,
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I was the only rural college graduate.
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jo era l'única que s'havia graduat a la ruralia.
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There was no one there who looked like me or spoke like me.
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Allà no hi havia ningú que se m'assemblés o parlés com jo.
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I felt alienated, intimidated and judged by many.
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Em sentia aïllada, intimidada i jutjada per molta gent.
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One fellow called me "Coconut Girl."
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Un company es referia a mi com: "noia del coco".
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Can you guess why?
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Poden endevinar per què?
05:13
Anyone?
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Ningú?
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That's because I applied a lot of coconut oil to my hair.
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Era perquè em posava molt oli de coco als cabells.
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(Laughter)
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(Riures)
05:22
Another asked me where I had learned to speak English,
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Un altre em va preguntar on havia après a parlar anglès,
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and some of my peers did not prefer to have me on their assignment teams
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i alguns dels meus companys no em volien als seus grups de treball
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because they thought I would not be able to contribute to their discussion.
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perquè creien que no seria capaç d'aportar res.
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I felt that many of my peers believed that a person from rural India
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Sentia que molts companys creien que algú de l'Índia rural
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could not supply anything of value,
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no podia aportar res de valor,
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yet the majority of Indian population today is rural.
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tot i que la majoria de la població actual de l'Índia és rural.
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I realized that stories like mine were considered to be an exception
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Em vaig adonar que històries com la meva es consideraven una excepció
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and never the expectation.
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i mai no era el que s'esperava.
05:57
I believe that all of us are born into a reality that we blindly accept
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Jo crec que tots naixem en una realitat que acceptem a cegues
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until something awakens us and a new world opens up.
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fins que algú ens fa despertar a un nou món.
06:07
When I saw my mother's first signature on her bidi-rolling wage book,
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Quan vaig veure la primera signatura de la mare al llibre de salari,
06:12
when I felt the hot Delhi air against my face
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quan vaig sentir l'aire calent de Delhi a la cara,
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after a 50-hour train journey,
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després d'un viatge en tren de 50 hores,
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when I finally felt free and let myself be,
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quan finalment em vaig sentir lliure i vaig ser jo mateixa,
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I saw a glimpse of that new world I longed for,
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vaig veure un bocí del nou món que desitjava.
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a world where a girl like me is no longer a liability or a burden
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Un món on una noia com jo ja no és una responsabilitat o una càrrega
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but a person of use, a person of value
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sinó algú útil, una persona que val la pena
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and a person of worthiness.
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i una persona que té mèrit.
06:35
By the time my fellowship ended, my life had changed.
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Quan la beca es va acabar, la meva vida ja havia canviat.
06:39
Not only had I traced my lost voice,
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No només havia trobat la meva veu perduda,
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but also had a choice to make myself useful.
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també tenia l'oportunitat de ser útil.
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I was 22.
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Tenia 22 anys.
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I came back to my village to set up the Bodhi Tree Foundation,
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Vaig tornar al meu poble i vaig fundar Bodhi Tree Foundation,
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an institution that supports rural youth
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una institució que dona suport a la joventut rural
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by providing them with education, life skills and opportunities.
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proporcionant-los una educació, habilitats i oportunitats.
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We work closely with our rural youth
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Treballem molt en contacte amb els joves
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to change their life and to benefit our communities.
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per canviar-los la vida i beneficiar la nostra comunitat.
07:06
How do I know my institution is working?
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Com sé que la meva institució funciona?
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Well, six months ago, we had a new joinee.
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Doncs bé, fa sis mesos vam tenir una nova incorporació.
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Her name is Kaviarasi.
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Es diu Kaviarasi.
07:14
I first spotted her in a local college in Tirunelveli
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La vaig veure per primer cop a la universitat local de Tirunelveli
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during one of my training sessions.
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durant una de les meves pràctiques.
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As you can see, she has a smile which you can never forget.
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Com poden veure, té un somriure que no es pot oblidar mai.
07:25
We guided her to get an opportunity to study at Ashoka University, Delhi.
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La vam guiar perquè estudiés a la universitat Ashoka, a Delhi.
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The best part of her story is that she is now back at Bodhi Tree as a trainer
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El millor d'aquesta història és que ha tornat a Bodhi Tree com a consellera
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working with dedication to make a change in the lives of others like her.
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i treballa amb dedicació per canviar la vida dels altres.
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Kaviarasi doesn't want to feel like an exception.
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La Kaviarasi no vol sentir-se una excepció.
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She wants to be of use to others in this world.
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Vol ser útil per a la resta de gent del món.
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Recently, Kaviarasi mentored Anitha,
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Fa poc va ser la mentora de l'Anitha,
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who also comes from a remote, rural village,
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que també prové d'un poble rural i remot,
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lives in a 10-foot-by-10-foot home,
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i viu en una casa de 9 m².
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her parents are also farm laborers.
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Els seus pares treballen en una granja.
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Kaviarasi helped Anitha secure admission in a prestigious undergraduate program
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La Kaviarasi va ajudar l'Anitha a entrar en un prestigiós programa universitari
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in a top university in India with a full scholarship.
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a una de les millors universitats i amb una beca completa.
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When Anitha's parents were reluctant to send her that far,
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Davant la reticència dels seus pares a enviar-la tan lluny,
08:11
we asked the district administration officials
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vam demanar a l'administració local
08:13
to speak to Anitha's parents,
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que hi parlés,
08:15
and it worked.
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i va funcionar.
08:16
And then there is Padma.
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I després tenim la Padma.
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Padma and I went to college together.
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Ella i jo vam anar juntes a la universitat.
08:22
She's the first in her entire village to attend graduation.
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És la primera a graduar-se de tot el seu poble.
08:26
She had been working with me at Bodhi Tree
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Va estar treballant amb mi a Bodhi Tree
08:29
until one day she decides to go to graduate school.
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fins que un dia va decidir apuntar-se a un postgrau.
08:32
I asked her why.
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Li vaig preguntar que per què.
08:34
She told me that she wanted to make sure
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Em va dir que volia assegurar-se
08:36
that she would never be a liability or a burden to anyone
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que mai no seria una càrrega o una responsabilitat per a ningú
08:40
at any point in her life.
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en cap moment de la seva vida.
08:43
Padma, Anitha and Kaviarasi
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La Padma, l'Anitha i la Kaviarasi
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grew up in the most tough families and communities
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van créixer en les famílies i comunitats més dures
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one could only imagine.
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que puguin imaginar-se.
08:50
Yet the journey of finding my usefulness in this world
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I tot i això, el meu viatge per trobar la meva utilitat en aquest món
08:54
served them in finding their usefulness to this world.
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va ajudar-les a trobar la seva utilitat en aquest món.
08:59
Of course there are challenges.
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És clar que hi ha reptes.
09:01
I'm aware change does not happen overnight.
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Sóc conscient que el canvi no es produeix de sobte.
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A lot of my work involves working with families and communities
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Part del meu treball consisteix en treballar amb famílies i comunitats
09:08
to help them understand why getting an education
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i ajudar-los a entendre per què l'educació
09:11
is useful for everyone.
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és útil per a tothom.
09:13
The quickest way to convince them is by doing.
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La manera més ràpida de convèncer-los és fent coses.
09:16
When they see their kids getting a real education,
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Quan veuen els seus fills obtenir una educació real,
09:18
getting a real job, they begin to change.
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una feina de veritat, comencen a canviar d'opinió.
09:21
The best example is what happened at my home.
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El millor exemple és el que va passar a casa meva.
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I was recently given an award in recognition of my social work
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Fa poc vaig rebre un premi pel meu treball social
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by the chief minister of my state.
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del líder dels ministres del meu estat.
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That meant I was going to be on television.
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Això implicava que sortiria a la televisió.
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(Laughter)
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(Riures)
09:38
Everyone was hooked on to the television that morning, including my parents.
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Tothom estava enganxat a la tele aquell matí, inclosos els meus pares.
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I would like to believe that seeing her daughter on television
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M'agradaria creure que veure la seva filla a la televisió
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made my mother feel useful too.
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va fer que la meva mare també se sentís útil.
09:50
Hopefully, she will stop pressuring me to get married now.
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Amb sort, deixarà de pressionar-me perquè em casi.
09:54
(Laughter)
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(Riures)
09:58
Finding my use has helped me to break free from the identities
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Descobrir que sóc útil m'ha fet distanciar-me de les identitats
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society thrusts on me --
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que la societat m'imposava:
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poor village girl.
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pobra, de poble i noia.
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Finding my use has helped me to break free from being boxed,
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Descobrir que sóc útil ha fet que deixi de sentir-me presonera,
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caged and bottled.
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engabiada i atrapada.
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Finding my use has helped me to find my voice,
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Descobrir que sóc útil m'ha ajudat a trobar la meva veu,
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my self-worth and my freedom.
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la meva autoestima i la meva llibertat.
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I leave you with this thought:
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Els deixo amb aquesta reflexió:
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Where do you feel useful to this world?
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on se senten útils per a aquest món?
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Because the answer to that question
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Perquè la resposta a aquesta pregunta
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is where you will find your voice and your freedom.
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és on trobaran la seva veu i la seva llibertat.
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Thank you.
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Gràcies.
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(Applause)
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(Aplaudiments)
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