Why we need gender-neutral bathrooms | Ivan Coyote

Prevodilac: Sonja Cuturilo Lektor: Mile Živković

There are a few things that all of us need.

Postoji par stvari koje su nam svima potrebne.

We all need air to breathe.

Svima nam treba vazduh da bismo disali.

We need clean water to drink.

Treba nam čista voda za piće.

We need food to eat. We need shelter and love.

Treba nam hrana da bismo jeli. Treba nam sklonište i ljubav.

You know. Love is great, too.

Znate. Ljubav je takođe sjajna.

And we all need a safe place to pee.

I svima nam treba sigurno mesto da obavimo nuždu.

(Laughter) Yeah?

(Smeh) Je l' da?

As a trans person who doesn't fit neatly into the gender binary,

Kao trans osoba koja se ne uklapa sjajno u podelu između dva pola,

if I could change the world tomorrow

kada bih sutra mogao da promenim svet

to make it easier for me to navigate,

da bi mi bilo lakše da upravljam,

the very first thing I would do

prva stvar koju bih uradio je,

is blink and create single stall, gender-neutral bathrooms

u treptaju oka stvorio bih rodno neutralne toalete sa jednom kabinom,

in all public places.

na svim javnim mestima.

(Applause)

(Aplauz)

Trans people and trans issues,

Trans osobe i trans problemi,

they've been getting a lot of mainstream media attention lately.

u poslednje vreme dobijaju mnogo pažnje od strane vodećih medija.

And this is a great and necessary thing,

I ovo je sjajna i neophodna stvar,

but most of that attention has been focused

ali većina te pažnje je fokusirana

on a very few individuals,

na veoma malo pojedinaca,

most of whom are kinda rich

od kojih je većina nekako bogata

and pretty famous,

i prilično poznata,

and probably don't have to worry that much anymore about where they're going to pee

i verovatno ne moraju više toliko da brinu gde će vršiti nuždu

in between classes at their community college,

između predavanja na lokalnom koledžu,

or where they're going to get changed into their gym strip

ili gde će da se presvuku u opremu za fizičko vaspitanje

at their public high school.

u svojoj srednjoj školi.

Fame and money insulates these television star trans people

Slava i novac izoluju ove TV zvezde, trans osobe

from most of the everyday challenges

od većine svakodnevnih izazova

that the rest of us have to tackle on a daily basis.

sa kojima mi ostali moramo da se borimo svaki dan.

Public bathrooms.

Javni toaleti.

They've been a problem for me since as far back as I can remember,

Predstavljali su mi problem od kad se sećam,

first when I was just a little baby tomboy

prvo kada sam bio samo mala muškarača

and then later as a masculine-appearing, predominantly estrogen-based organism.

i onda kasnije muškarasto biće većinom zasnovano na estrogenu.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

Now, today as a trans person, public bathrooms and change rooms

Sada, danas kao trans osoba, javni toaleti i svlačionice

are where I am most likely to be questioned or harassed.

su mesta gde će me najverovatnije ispitivati ili uznemiravati.

I've often been verbally attacked behind their doors.

Često su me verbalno napadali iza tih vrata.

I've been hauled out by security guards with my pants still halfway pulled up.

Čuvari su me izbacivali sa pantalonama i dalje na pola.

I've been stared at, screamed at, whispered about,

U mene su buljili, vikali, šaputali su o meni,

and one time I got smacked in the face by a little old lady's purse

i jednom sam dobio udarac u lice torbicom male starice

that from the looks of the shiner I took home that day

koja je po izgledu masnice koju sam poneo kući taj dan

I am pretty certain contained at least 70 dollars of rolled up small change

sigurno sadržala bar 70 dolara umotanog sitniša

and a large hard candy collection.

i hrpu tvrdih bombona.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

And I know what some of you are thinking,

I znam šta neki od vas misle,

and you're mostly right.

i većinom ste u pravu.

I can and do just use the men's room most of the time these days.

Mogu i koristim muški toalet većinom vremena ovih dana.

But that doesn't solve my change room dilemmas, does it?

Ali to ne rešava moju dilemu oko svlačionica, zar ne?

And I shouldn't have to use the men's room because I'm not a man.

I ne bi trebalo da moram da koristim muški toalet jer nisam muškarac.

I'm a trans person.

Ja sam trans osoba.

And now we've got these fearmongering politicians

I sada imamo ove političare koji uteruju strah,

that keep trying to pass these bathroom bills.

koji pokušavaju da provuku ove zakone za toalete.

Have you heard about these?

Da li ste čuli za ovo?

They try to legislate to try and force people like myself

Pokušavaju da ozakone i nateraju ljude poput mene

to use the bathroom that they deem most appropriate

da koriste toalet koji oni smatraju najprikladnijim

according to the gender I was assigned at birth.

prema polu koji mi je dodeljen rođenjem.

And if these politicians ever get their way,

I ako ovi političari ikada dobiju po svome,

in Arizona or California or Florida

u Arizoni ili Kaliforniji ili Floridi

or just last week in Houston, Texas,

ili baš prošle nedelje u Hjustonu u Teksasu

or Ottawa,

ili Otavi,

well then, using the men's room will not be a legal option for me either.

e pa, ni korišćenje muškog toaleta neće biti legalna opcija za mene.

And every time one of these politicians brings one of these bills to the table,

I svaki put kada neki od političara donese ovakav zakon na diskusiju,

I can't help but wonder, you know,

ne mogu a da se ne zapitam, znate,

just who will and exactly how would we go about enforcing laws like these. Right?

ko će to i kako tačno sprovoditi ovakve zakone. Zar ne?

Panty checks?

Provera gaćica?

Really.

Stvarno.

Genital inspections outside of bath change rooms at public pools?

Provera genitalija ispred svlačionica na javnim bazenima?

There's no legal or ethical or plausible way

Ne postoji legalan ili etički ili razuman način

to enforce laws like these anyway.

da se ipak sprovode ovakvi zakoni.

They exist only to foster fear

Postoje samo da bi uterali strah

and promote transphobia.

i podržavali transfobiju.

They don't make anyone safer.

Ne čine nikoga sigurnijim.

But they do for sure make the world more dangerous for some of us.

Ali zasigurno čine svet opasnijim za neke od nas.

And meanwhile, our trans children suffer.

A u međuvremenu, naša trans deca pate.

They drop out of school, or they opt out of life altogether.

Napuštaju škole, ili uopšteno odustaju od života.

Trans people, especially trans and gender-nonconforming youth

Trans ljudi, posebno trans i rodno neodređena omladina

face additional challenges when accessing pools and gyms,

suočava se sa dodatnim izazovima kada idu na bazene ili teretane,

but also universities,

ali takođe i univerzitete,

hospitals, libraries.

bolnice, biblioteke.

Don't even get me started on how they treat us in airports.

Nemojte ni da počinjem o tome kako nas tretiraju na aerodromu.

If we don't move now

Ako se sada ne pokrenemo

to make sure that these places

da obezbedimo da su ova mesta

are truly open and accessible to everyone,

zaista otvorena i pristupačna svima,

then we just need to get honest

onda samo moramo biti iskreni

and quit calling them public places.

i prestati da ih zovemo javnim mestima.

We need to just admit

Moramo samo da priznamo

that they are really only open for people

da su ona zaista otvorena samo ljudima

who fit neatly into one of two gender boxes,

koji se savršeno uklapaju u jednu od polnih grupa,

which I do not.

što kod mene nije slučaj.

I never have.

Nikada nije bio.

And this starts very early.

I ovo počinje veoma rano.

I know a little girl. She's the daughter of a friend of mine.

Poznajem jednu malu devojčicu. Ona je ćerka moje prijateljice.

She's a self-identified tomboy.

Ona je samoidentifikovana muškarača.

I'm talking about cowboy boots

Pričam o kaubojskim čizmama

and Caterpillar yellow toy trucks and bug jars, the whole nine yards.

i Caterpillar žutim kamiončićima i teglama za bube, od glave do pete.

One time I asked her what her favorite color was.

Jednom sam je pitao koja joj je omiljena boja.

She told me, "Camouflage."

Rekla mi je, "kamuflaža".

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

So that awesome little kid,

I to sjajno malo dete,

she came home from school last October

došla je kući iz škole prošlog oktobra

from her half day of preschool

sa pola dana u predškolskom

with soggy pants on because the other kids at school were harassing her

sa vlažnim pantalonama jer su je druga deca u školi zlostavljala

when she tried to use the girls' bathroom.

kada je pokušala da uđe u ženski toalet.

And the teacher had already instructed her to stay out of the boys' bathroom.

A učitelj joj je već rekao da ne ulazi u muški toalet.

And she had drank two glasses of that red juice

I popila je dve čaše tog crvenog soka

at the Halloween party,

na žurci za Noć veštica,

and I mean, who can resist that red juice, right? It's so good.

i mislim, ko može da odoli tom crvenom soku, zar ne? Tako je dobar.

And she couldn't hold her pee any longer.

I više nije mogla da izdrži da ne ide u toalet.

Her and her classmates were four years old.

Ona i njeni školski drugari su imali četiri godine.

They already felt empowered enough

Već su se osećali dovoljno moćnima

to police her use of the so-called public bathrooms.

da nadgledaju upotrebu takozvanih javnih toaleta.

She was four years old.

Imala je četiri godine.

She had already been taught the brutal lesson

Već je naučila brutalnu lekciju

that there was no bathroom door at preschool

da ne postoje vrata od toaleta u predškolskom

with a sign on it that welcomed people like her.

sa znakom koji dočekuje ljude poput nje.

She'd already learned that bathrooms were going to be a problem,

Već je naučila da će toaleti biti problem,

and that problem started with her

i taj je problem počeo sa njom

and was hers alone.

i bio je samo njen.

So my friend asked me to talk to her little daughter,

Tako me je prijateljica pitala da pričam sa njenom ćerkicom,

and I did.

i tako i jesam.

I wanted to tell her

Želeo sam da joj kažem

that me and her mom were going to march on down

da ćemo ja i njena mama da odemo

and talk to that school, and the problem was going to go away,

da pričamo sa tom školom, i da će problem da nestane,

but I knew that wasn't true.

ali znao sam da to nije istina.

I wanted to tell her that it was all going to get better when she got older,

Želeo sam da joj kažem da će sve biti bolje kad poraste,

but I couldn't.

ali nisam mogao.

So I asked her to tell me the story of what had happened,

Pa sam je pitao da mi ispriča priču o tome što se desilo,

asked her to tell me how it made her feel.

pitao sam da mi kaže kako se zbog toga osećala.

"Mad and sad,"

"Ljuto i tužno",

she told me.

rekla mi je.

So I told her

Onda sam ja njoj rekao

that she wasn't alone

da nije sama

and that it wasn't right what had happened to her,

i da nije u redu to što joj se dogodilo,

and then she asked me if I had ever peed in my pants before.

i onda me je pitala da li sam se ja ikada upiškio.

I said yes, I had,

Rekao sam da, jesam,

but not for a really long time.

ali pre mnogo vremena.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

Which of course was a lie,

Što je naravno bila laž,

because you know how you hit, like, 42 or 43,

jer znate, kako napunite, recimo, 42 ili 43,

and sometimes you just, I don't know, you pee a little bit

i nekada jednostavno, ne znam, malo piškite

when you cough or sneeze,

kada kašljete ili kinete,

when you're running upstairs, or you're stretching.

kada trčite uz stepenice, ili kada se istežete.

Don't lie.

Ne lažite.

It happens. Right?

Dešava se. Zar ne?

She doesn't need to know that, I figure.

Ona to ne mora da zna, mislio sam.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

I told her, when you get older, your bladder is going to grow bigger, too.

Rekao sam joj, kada budeš starija, tvoja bešika će takođe narasti.

When you get old like me,

Kada budeš stara kao ja,

you're going to be able to hold your pee for way longer,

moći ćeš mnogo duže da izdržiš da ne piškiš.

I promised her.

Obećao sam joj.

"Until you can get home?"

"Dok ne stigneš kući?"

she asked me.

pitala me je.

I said, "Yes,

Rekao sam: "Da,

until you can get home."

dok ne stigneš kući".

She seemed to take some comfort in that.

Činilo se kao da je našla malo utehe u tome.

So let's just build some single stall, gender-neutral bathrooms

Hajde da napravimo rodno neutralan toalet sa jednom kabinom

with a little bench for getting changed into your gym clothes.

sa malom klupom za presvlačenje u odeću za teretanu.

We can't change the world overnight

Ne možemo preko noći da promenimo svet

for our children,

za našu decu,

but we can give them a safe and private place

ali možemo da im pružimo sigurno i privatno mesto

to escape that world,

da pobegnu iz tog sveta,

if only for just a minute.

makar samo na minut.

This we can do.

Ovo možemo da uradimo.

So let's just do it.

Pa hajde samo da uradimo to.

And if you are one of those people who is sitting out there right now

I ako ste jedan od tih ljudi koji upravo sede tamo negde

already coming up with a list of reasons in your head why this is not a priority,

i već smišljaju listu razloga u svojim glavama zašto ovo nije prioritet,

or it's too expensive,

ili je previše skupo,

or telling yourself that giving a trans person a safe place to pee

ili govorite sebi da pružanjem trans osobi sigurnog mesta za nuždu

or get changed in

ili za presvlačenje

supports a lifestyle choice that you feel offends your morality,

podržavate način života za koji smatrate da vređa vaš moral,

or your masculinity,

ili vašu muškost,

or your religious beliefs,

ili vaša religijska uverenja,

then let me just appeal

onda mi dopustite samo da se obratim

to the part of your heart that probably, hopefully,

delu vašeg srca koji verovatno, nadam se,

does care about the rest of the population.

brine o ostatku populacije.

If you can't bring yourself to care enough about people like me,

Ako ne možete da se naterate da vam bude stalo do ljudi poput mene,

then what about women and girls

šta je onda sa ženama i devojkama

with body image issues?

sa problemima sa izgledom svog tela?

What about anyone with body image stuff going on?

Šta je sa bilo kim ko ima problem sa izgledom tela?

What about that boy at school who is a foot shorter than his classmates,

Šta je sa dečakom u školi koji je za glavu niži od svojih drugara,

whose voice still hasn't dropped yet? Hey?

čiji glas još nije postao dubok? Hej?

Oh, grade eight,

Oh, osmi razredu,

what a cruel master you can be.

kako okrutan učitelj možeš da budeš.

Right?

Zar ne?

What about people with anxiety issues?

Šta je sa anksioznim ljudima?

What about people with disabilities or who need assistance in there?

Šta je sa ljudima sa smetnjama ili kojima je potrebna pomoć?

What about folks with bodies who, for whatever reason,

Šta je sa narodom sa telima koja se, zbog nekog razloga,

don't fit into the mainstream idea of what a body should look like?

ne uklapaju u većinsku ideju o tome kako telo treba da izgleda?

How many of us still feel shy

Koliko nas se još stidi

or afraid to disrobe in front of our peers,

ili se boji da se skine ispred naših vršnjaka,

and how many of us allow that fear

i koliko je nas koji dozvoljavaju da nas taj strah

to keep us from something as important

udalji od nečega važnog

as physical exercise?

poput fižičkih vežbi?

Would all those people not benefit

Zar ne bi svi ti ljudi bili na dobitku

from these single stall facilities?

od ovih zasebnih toaleta?

We can't change transphobic minds overnight,

Ne možemo da promenimo transfobične umove tokom noći,

but we can give everybody

ali možemo svima da damo

a place to get changed in

mesto na kom mogu da se presvuku

so that we can all get to work

tako da svi možemo da se bacimo na posao

making the world safer

da napravimo svet sigurnijim

for all of us.

za sve nas.

Thank you for listening.

Hvala što ste slušali.

(Applause)

(Aplauz)

Thank you.

Hvala vam.

(Applause)

(Aplauz)