How America Fails New Parents — and Their Babies | Jessica Shortall | TED Talks

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What does a working mother look like?

Kako izgleda zaposlena majka?

If you ask the Internet, this is what you'll be told.

Ako upitate internet, reći će vam ovo.

Never mind that this is what you'll actually produce

Nema veze što ćete zapravo proizvesti ovo

if you attempt to work at a computer with a baby on your lap.

ako pokušate da radite za kompjuterom sa bebom na svom krilu.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

But no, this isn't a working mother.

Ipak, ne, ovo je zaposlena majka.

You'll notice a theme in these photos. We'll look at a lot of them.

Primetićete temu na ovim slikama. Videćemo mnogo njih.

Tu temu čini sjajno prirodno osvetljenje,

That theme is amazing natural lighting,

which, as we all know,

koje, kao što svi znamo,

predstavlja obeležje svakog radnog mesta u Americi.

is the hallmark of every American workplace.

There are thousands of images like these.

Postoje hiljade ovakvih slika.

Just put the term "working mother" into any Google image search engine,

Samo unesite reči „zaposlena majka“

u Gugl pretraživač slika ili sajt za komercijalne fotografije.

stock photo site.

They're all over the Internet,

Ima ih svuda po internetu;

preplavljuju objavljene tekstove na blogovima i vesti

they're topping blog posts and news pieces,

and I've become kind of obsessed with them and the lie that they tell us

i postala sam nekako opsednuta njima, lažima koje nam govore

and the comfort that they give us,

i utehom koju nam daju

that when it comes to new working motherhood in America,

da je, kada se radi o novim majkama u Americi koje rade,

everything's fine.

sve u redu.

Međutim, nije u redu.

But it's not fine.

As a country, we are sending millions of women back to work

Kao zemlja, vraćamo milione žena na posao

every year, incredibly and kind of horrifically soon

svake godine, neverovatno i užasno brzo

after they give birth.

nakon porođaja.

That's a moral problem

To je moralni problem,

but today I'm also going to tell you why it's an economic problem.

ali danas ću vam takođe govoriti i o tome zašto je to ekonomski problem.

I got so annoyed and obsessed with the unreality of these images,

Postala sam tako iznervirana i opsednuta nerealnošću ovih slika,

koje nimalo ne liče na moj život,

which look nothing like my life,

da sam nedavno rešila da uslikam i budem glavni lik u nizu fotografija

that I recently decided to shoot and star in a parody series of stock photos

that I hoped the world would start to use

za koje se nadam da će svet početi da ih koristi,

just showing the really awkward reality of going back to work

koje pokazuju pravu nezgodnu stvarnost vraćanja na posao

when your baby's food source is attached to your body.

kada vam je izvor hrane za bebu prikačen za telo.

I'm just going to show you two of them.

Pokazaću vam samo dve među njima.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

Nothing says "Give that girl a promotion" like leaking breast milk

Ništa ne govori „dajte toj curi unapređenje“

kao mleko koje curi iz dojki kroz haljinu za vreme prezentacije.

through your dress during a presentation.

You'll notice that there's no baby in this photo,

Primetićete da nema bebe na ovoj fotografiji

because that's not how this works,

jer to tako ne funkcioniše,

ne za većinu zaposlenih majki.

not for most working mothers.

Did you know, and this will ruin your day,

Da li ste znali, a ovo će vam upropastiti dan,

that every time a toilet is flushed, its contents are aerosolized

da svaki put kada se pusti voda u toaletu, njen sadržaj prelazi u aerosoli

and they'll stay airborne for hours?

i prenosi se u vazduhu satima?

And yet, for many new working mothers,

A ipak, za mnoge nove majke koje rade,

this is the only place during the day that they can find to make food

ovo je jedino mesto u toku dana koje mogu naći da naprave hranu

za svoje novorođene bebe.

for their newborn babies.

I put these things, a whole dozen of them, into the world.

Izbacila sam desetinu ovih slika u svet.

I wanted to make a point.

Htela sam da istaknem poentu.

I didn't know what I was also doing was opening a door,

Nisam znala da sam time otvorila vrata,

because now, total strangers from all walks of life

jer sada mi potpuno nepoznati ljudi iz svih kategorija stalno pišu

write to me all the time

just to tell me what it's like for them to go back to work

samo da bi mi rekli kako za njih izgleda vraćanje na posao

within days or weeks of having a baby.

nekoliko dana ili nedelja nakon što dobiju dete.

I'm going to share 10 of their stories with you today.

Danas ću podeliti deset njihovih priča sa vama.

They are totally real, some of them are very raw,

Potpuno su stvarne, neke od njih vrlo grube,

and not one of them looks anything like this.

a nijedna ne izgleda poput ovoga.

Here's the first.

Evo prve.

"I was an active duty service member at a federal prison.

„Bila sam pripadnik aktivne službe u federalnom zatvoru.

I returned to work after the maximum allowed eight weeks for my C-section.

Vratila sam se na posao

nakon maksimalnih dozvoljenih osam nedelja zbog carskog reza.

A male coworker was annoyed that I had been out on 'vacation,'

Kolega je bio iznerviran što sam bila odsutna zbog „odmora“,

so he intentionally opened the door on me while I was pumping breast milk

pa mi je namerno otvorio vrata dok sam ispumpavala mleko

and stood in the doorway with inmates in the hallway."

i stajao na vratima dok su zatvorenici bili u hodniku.“

Most of the stories that these women, total strangers, send to me now,

Većina priča koje mi ove žene, potpuni neznanci, šalju danas,

čak se ni ne tiču dojenja.

are not actually even about breastfeeding.

A woman wrote to me to say,

Jedna žena mi je pisala da bi rekla:

"I gave birth to twins and went back to work after seven unpaid weeks.

„Rodila sam blizance i vratila se na posao nakon sedam neplaćenih nedelja.

Emotionally, I was a wreck.

Emocionalno, bila sam slomljena.

Physically, I had a severe hemorrhage during labor, and major tearing,

Fizički sam imala ozbiljno krvarenje tokom porođaja i veliko cepanje,

so I could barely get up, sit or walk.

tako da sam jedva mogla da ustanem, sednem ili hodam.

My employer told me I wasn't allowed to use my available vacation days

Poslodavac mi je rekao da ne mogu da uzmem svoje neiskorišćene dane za odmor

because it was budget season."

jer je sezona za planiranje budžeta.“

I've come to believe that we can't look situations like these in the eye

Počela sam da verujem da ne možemo da se direktno suočimo sa ovim situacijama

because then we'd be horrified,

jer bismo tada bili zaprepašćeni,

and if we get horrified then we have to do something about it.

a ako se zaprepastimo, onda moramo nešto da uradimo po tom pitanju.

So we choose to look at, and believe, this image.

Stoga biramo da gledamo ovu sliku i verujemo u nju.

I don't really know what's going on in this picture,

Zaista ne znam šta se dešava na ovoj slici,

because I find it weird and slightly creepy.

jer mislim da je čudna i pomalo jeziva.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

Like, what is she doing?

Mislim, šta ona radi?

But I know what it tells us.

Međutim, znam šta nam slika poručuje.

It tells us that everything's fine.

Poručuje nam da je sve u redu.

This working mother, all working mothers and all of their babies, are fine.

Ova zaposlena majka, sve zaposlene majke i sve njihove bebe su dobro.

There's nothing to see here.

Nema tu šta da se vidi.

And anyway, women have made a choice,

U svakom slučaju, žene su napravile izbor,

so none of it's even our problem.

tako da ništa od toga nije naš problem.

I want to break this choice thing down into two parts.

Želim da razložim to pitanje izbora na dva dela.

The first choice says that women have chosen to work.

Prvi izbor kaže da su žene izabrale da rade.

So, that's not true.

Pa, to nije istina.

Today in America, women make up 47 percent of the workforce,

Danas u Americi, žene čine 47 posto radne snage,

and in 40 percent of American households

a u 40 posto američkih domaćinstava,

a woman is the sole or primary breadwinner.

žena je jedini i glavni hranitelj porodice.

Our paid work is a part, a huge part, of the engine of this economy,

Naš plaćeni rad je deo, veliki deo, mehanizma ove ekonomije

and it is essential for the engines of our families.

i od suštinskog je značaja za mehanizam naših porodica.

On a national level, our paid work is not optional.

Na državnom nivou, naš plaćeni rad nije opcija.

Choice number two says that women are choosing to have babies,

Izbor broj dva kaže da žene biraju da imaju bebe,

so women alone should bear the consequences of those choices.

tako da one same treba da snose posledice svojih izbora.

You know, that's one of those things

Znate, to je jedna od onih stvari koje,

that when you hear it in passing, can sound correct.

kada ih čujete u prolazu, mogu da zvuče ispravno.

I didn't make you have a baby.

Nisam te naterala da imaš bebu.

I certainly wasn't there when that happened.

Svakako nisam bila tu kad se to desilo.

But that stance ignores a fundamental truth,

Međutim, taj stav ignoriše bitnu istinu,

which is that our procreation on a national scale is not optional.

a to je da naše rađanje na nacionalnom nivou nije opcija.

The babies that women, many of them working women, are having today,

Bebe koje danas rađaju žene, od kojih mnoge rade,

will one day fill our workforce, protect our shores,

jednog dana ispuniće naša radna mesta, štititi naše obale,

make up our tax base.

činiti našu poresku osnovicu.

Our procreation on a national scale is not optional.

Naše rađanje nije opcija na nacionalnom nivou.

These aren't choices.

To nisu izbori.

We need women to work. We need working women to have babies.

Potrebno nam je da žene rade. Potrebno nam je da žene koje rade rađaju.

Stoga treba da učinimo istovremeno obavljanje tih stvari

So we should make doing those things at the same time

at least palatable, right?

barem prihvatljivim, zar ne?

OK, this is pop quiz time:

U redu, vreme je za kviz pitanje:

what percentage of working women in America do you think

šta mislite, koliki je procenat žena koje rade u Americi

have no access to paid maternity leave?

koje nemaju na raspolaganju plaćeno porodiljsko odsustvo?

88 percent.

Osamdeset osam posto.

88 percent of working mothers will not get one minute of paid leave

Osamdeset osam posto zaposlenih majki neće dobiti ni minut plaćenog odsustva

after they have a baby.

nakon što dobiju bebu.

So now you're thinking about unpaid leave.

Sada razmišljate o neplaćenom odsustvu.

It exists in America. It's called FMLA. It does not work.

To postoji u Americi. Zove se FMLA. Ne funkcioniše.

Because of the way it's structured, all kinds of exceptions,

Zbog načina na koji je strukturisan, raznoraznih izuzetaka,

half of new mothers are ineligible for it.

polovina žena koje su nedavno postale majke se ne kvalifikuje.

Here's what that looks like.

Evo kako to izgleda.

"We adopted our son.

„Usvojili smo našeg sina.

When I got the call, the day he was born, I had to take off work.

Kada sam dobila poziv, na dan njegovog rođenja,

morala sam da izađem sa posla.

I had not been there long enough to qualify for FMLA,

Nisam bila tamo dovoljno dugo da bih se kvalifikovala za FMLA,

so I wasn't eligible for unpaid leave.

tako da nisam ispunjavala uslove za neplaćeno odustvo.

Kada sam uzela slobodne dane

When I took time off to meet my newborn son,

da bih dočekala svog novorođenog sina, izgubila sam posao.“

I lost my job."

These corporate stock photos hide another reality, another layer.

Ove korporativne fotografije skrivaju drugu stvarnost, drugi sloj.

Of those who do have access to just that unpaid leave,

Od onih koje imaju na raspolaganju samo to neplaćeno odsustvo,

most women can't afford to take much of it at all.

većina žena ne može da priušti da uzme njegov veći deo.

A nurse told me, "I didn't qualify for short-term disability

Jedna bolničarka mi je rekla:

„Nisam bila kvalifikovana za kratkotrajnu sprečenost

because my pregnancy was considered a preexisting condition.

jer se moja trudnoća smatrala već postojećim stanjem.

Iskoristili smo sav naš povraćaj poreza i polovinu ušteđevine

We used up all of our tax returns and half of our savings

during my six unpaid weeks.

tokom mojih šest neplaćenih nedelja.

We just couldn't manage any longer.

Jednostavno više nismo mogli.

Physically it was hard, but emotionally it was worse.

Bilo je teško fizički, ali emocionalno je bilo još gore.

I struggled for months being away from my son."

Mučila sam se mesecima zbog odvojenosti od svog sina.“

So this decision to go back to work so early,

Dakle, ta odluka o tako ranom povratku na posao,

it's a rational economic decision driven by family finances,

to je racionalna ekonomska odluka vođena finansijama porodice,

but it's often physically horrific

ali je često fizički užasna

because putting a human into the world is messy.

jer je donošenje ljudskog bića na svet složeno.

A waitress told me,

Jedna konobarica mi je rekla:

"With my first baby, I was back at work five weeks postpartum.

„Sa prvom bebom, bila sam ponovo na poslu pet nedelja posle porođaja.

With my second, I had to have major surgery after giving birth,

Sa drugom, morala sam na veću operaciju nakon rođenja deteta,

so I waited until six weeks to go back.

pa sam čekala do šeste nedelje da bih se vratila.

I had third degree tears."

Imala sam porođajnu ranu trećeg stepena.“

23 percent of new working mothers in America

Dvadeset tri posto majki koje su to odnedavno postale zaposlenih u Americi

will be back on the job within two weeks of giving birth.

vratiće se na posao dve nedelje nakon porođaja.

"I worked as a bartender and cook, average of 75 hours a week while pregnant.

„Radila sam za šankom i kao kuvarica,

u proseku 75 sati nedeljno za vreme trudnoće.

Morala sam da se vratim na posao

I had to return to work before my baby was a month old,

pre nego što je moja beba napunila mesec dana, radeći 60 sati nedeljno.

working 60 hours a week.

One of my coworkers was only able to afford 10 days off with her baby."

Jedna od mojih koleginica je svega mogla da priušti

10 slobodnih dana sa bebom.“

Of course, this isn't just a scenario with economic and physical implications.

Naravno, ovo nije samo scenario sa ekonomskim i fizičkim posledicama.

Childbirth is, and always will be, an enormous psychological event.

Rođenje deteta je, i uvek će biti, ogroman psihološki događaj.

A teacher told me,

Jedna nastavnica mi je rekla:

"I returned to work eight weeks after my son was born.

„Vratila sam se na posao osam nedelja nakon što je moj sin rođen.

I already suffer from anxiety,

Već sam patila od anksioznosti,

but the panic attacks I had prior to returning to work were unbearable."

ali napadi panike koje sam imala pred povratak na posao

bili su nepodnošljivi.“

Statistically speaking,

Statistički govoreći,

the shorter a woman's leave after having a baby,

što je kraće odsustvo žene nakon rođenja bebe,

veća je verovatnoća da će patiti od postporođajnih poremećaja raspoloženja

the more likely she will be to suffer from postpartum mood disorders

like depression and anxiety,

poput depresije i anksioznosti,

and among many potential consequences of those disorders,

a među mnogim mogućim posledicama tih poremećaja,

suicide is the second most common cause of death

samoubistvo je drugi najčešći uzrok smrti

in a woman's first year postpartum.

kod žena u prvoj godini posle porođaja.

Heads up that this next story --

Upozoravam na sledeću priču -

I've never met this woman, but I find it hard to get through.

nikada nisam upoznala ovu ženu, ali mislim da je teško čuti je.

"I feel tremendous grief and rage that I lost an essential,

„Osećam ogromnu tugu i bes jer sam izgubila ključno,

irreplaceable and formative time with my son.

nezamenljivo i formativno vreme sa svojim sinom.

Labor and delivery left me feeling absolutely broken.

Porođaj me je doveo do osećaja potpune slomljenosti.

For months, all I remember is the screaming: colic, they said.

Mesecima, jedino čega se sećam je vrištanje; grčevi, govorili su.

On the inside, I was drowning.

Tonula sam iznutra.

Every morning, I asked myself how much longer I could do it.

Svakoga jutra, pitala sam se koliko još dugo ću moći da izdržim.

I was allowed to bring my baby to work.

Bilo mi je dozvoljeno da dovedem bebu na posao.

I closed my office door while I rocked and shushed

Zatvarala sam vrata kancelarije dok sam ga ljuljala, ućutkivala

and begged him to stop screaming so I wouldn't get in trouble.

i molila da prestane da vrišti da ne bih upala u nevolju.

I hid behind that office door every damn day

Krila sam se iza tih vrata kancelarije

svakog prokletog dana i plakala dok je on vrištao.

and cried while he screamed.

I cried in the bathroom while I washed out the pump equipment.

Plakala sam u kupatilu dok sam ispirala opremu za ispumpavanje.

Svakoga dana, plakala sam celim putem do posla i ponovo celim putem do kuće.

Every day, I cried all the way to work and all the way home again.

I promised my boss that the work I didn't get done during the day,

Obećala sam šefu da ću posao koji ne završim tokom dana

I'd make up at night from home.

nadoknaditi noću od kuće.

I thought, there's just something wrong with me that I can't swing this."

Mislila sam da mora da nešto nije u redu sa mnom kada ne mogu da se nosim sa ovim.“

So those are the mothers.

Dakle, to su majke.

What of the babies?

Šta je sa bebama?

As a country, do we care about the millions of babies

Kao zemlja, da li brinemo o milionima beba

born every year to working mothers?

koje svake godine rađaju zaposlene majke?

I say we don't,

Ja kažem da ne brinemo,

not until they're of working and tax-paying and military-serving age.

ne dok ne dostignu uzrast kada mogu da rade, plaćaju porez i služe vojsku.

We tell them we'll see them in 18 years,

Kažemo im da se vidimo za 18 godina,

and getting there is kind of on them.

a kako će stići tamo je na njima.

One of the reasons I know this is that babies whose mothers

Jedan od razloga zbog kojih to znam jeste da bebe čije majke

have 12 or more weeks at home with them

provedu 12 ili više nedelja kod kuće sa njima

are more likely to get their vaccinations and their well checks in their first year,

imaju veću šansu da budu vakcinisane i da ih odvode na preglede u prvoj godini,

so those babies are more protected from deadly and disabling diseases.

pa su te bebe zaštićenije od smrtonosnih i onesposobljavajućih bolesti.

But those things are hidden behind images like this.

Ipak, te stvari se prikrivaju iza ovakvih slika.

America has a message for new mothers who work and for their babies.

Amerika ima poruku za zaposlene žene koje su odnedavno majke i za njihove bebe.

Whatever time you get together, you should be grateful for it,

Koliko god vremena da dobijete zajedno, treba da ste zahvalne zbog toga

and you're an inconvenience

i predstavljate neprijatnost

to the economy and to your employers.

za ekonomiju i vaše poslodavce.

That narrative of gratitude runs through a lot of the stories I hear.

Ta priča o zahvalnosti provlači se kroz mnogo priča koje čujem.

A woman told me,

Jedna žena mi je rekla:

"I went back at eight weeks after my C-section

„Vratila sam se 8 nedelja posle carskog reza

because my husband was out of work.

jer je moj muž bio bez posla.

Without me, my daughter had failure to thrive.

Bez mene, moja ćerka nije uspevala da napreduje.

She wouldn't take a bottle.

Nije prihvatala flašicu.

She started losing weight.

Počela je da gubi na težini.

Thankfully, my manager was very understanding.

Srećom, moj rukovodilac je imao mnogo razumevanja.

Dopustio je da moja mama donosi bebu,

He let my mom bring my baby,

who was on oxygen and a monitor,

koja je bila na kiseoniku i prikačena za monitor,

four times a shift so I could nurse her."

četiri puta za vreme smene tako da mogu da je dojim.“

There's a little club of countries in the world

Postoji društvance zemalja u svetu

that offer no national paid leave to new mothers.

koje novim majkama ne daju državno plaćeno odsustvo.

Care to guess who they are?

Hoćete da pogađate koje su to zemlje?

The first eight make up eight million in total population.

Prvih osam čini osam miliona ukupnog stanovništva.

They are Papua New Guinea, Suriname and the tiny island nations

To su: Papua Nova Gvineja, Surinam i male ostrvske države -

of Micronesia, Marshall Islands, Nauru, Niue, Palau and Tonga.

Mikronezija, Maršalska ostrva, Nauru, Niue, Palau i Tonga.

Number nine is the United States of America,

Broj devet su Sjedinjene Američke Države,

with 320 million people.

sa 320 miliona ljudi.

Oh, that's it.

O, to je to.

That's the end of the list.

To je kraj spiska.

Every other economy on the planet

Svaka druga ekonomija na planeti

has found a way to make some level of national paid leave work

je našla način da obezbedi neki nivo državnog plaćenog odsustva sa posla

for the people doing the work of the future of those countries,

za ljude koji obavljaju posao budućnosti tih zemalja,

but we say, "We couldn't possibly do that."

ali mi kažemo: „Mi to nikako ne bismo mogli.“

We say that the market will solve this problem,

Kažemo da će tržište rešiti ovaj problem,

and then we cheer when corporations offer even more paid leave to the women

a onda aplaudiramo kada korporacije nude čak i više plaćenog odsustva

who are already the highest-educated and highest-paid among us.

ženama koje su već najobrazovanije i najplaćenije među nama.

Remember that 88 percent?

Sećate se onih 88 procenata?

Those middle- and low-income women are not going to participate in that.

Te žene sa srednjom i niskom zaradom neće učestvovati u tome.

We know that there are staggering economic, financial, physical

Znamo da postoji zapanjujuća ekonomska, finansijska,

fizička i emocionalna cena ovog pristupa,

and emotional costs to this approach.

We have decided -- decided, not an accident,

Odlučili smo - odlučili, nije bilo slučajno -

to pass these costs directly on to working mothers and their babies.

da direktno prebacimo tu cenu na zaposlene majke i njihove bebe.

We know the price tag is higher for low-income women,

Znamo da je cena veća za žene sa niskom zaradom,

therefore disproportionately for women of color.

prema tome, nesrazmerno za obojene žene.

We pass them on anyway.

Prebacujemo je u svakom slučaju.

All of this is to America's shame.

Sve ovo ide Americi na sramotu,

But it's also to America's risk.

ali takođe je i rizik po Ameriku,

Because what would happen

jer šta bi se dogodilo

if all of these individual so-called choices to have babies

kad bi svi ti pojedinačni takozvani izbori da se dobijaju bebe

started to turn into individual choices not to have babies.

počeli da se pretvaraju u pojedinačne izbore da se nemaju bebe.

One woman told me,

Jedna žena mi je rekla:

"New motherhood is hard. It shouldn't be traumatic.

„Teško je postati majka. Ne bi trebalo da bude i traumatično.

When we talk about expanding our family now,

Kada sada govorimo o širenju porodice,

we focus on how much time I would have to care for myself and a new baby.

fokusiramo se na to koliko bih imala vremena

da se staram o sebi i novorođenčetu.

If we were to have to do it again the same way as with our first,

Ako bismo morali da ponovo radimo isto što i sa našim prvim detetom,

we might stick with one kid."

možda ipak ostanemo pri jednom.“

The birthrate needed in America to keep the population stable

Stopa nataliteta potrebna u Americi da održi populaciju stabilnom

is 2.1 live births per woman.

je 2,1 živorođena deteta po ženi.

In America today, we are at 1.86.

U Americi danas, nalazimo se na 1,86.

We need women to have babies,

Potrebno nam je da žene rađaju bebe,

and we are actively disincentivizing working women from doing that.

a aktivno ukidamo podsticaje za to ženama koje rade.

What would happen to work force, to innovation, to GDP,

Šta bi se desilo sa radnom snagom, inovacijama, bruto domaćim proizvodom,

if one by one, the working mothers of this country were to decide

kada bi jedna po jedna zaposlena majka u ovoj zemlji rešila

that they can't bear to do this thing more than once?

da ne može to da izdrži više nego jednom?

I'm here today with only one idea worth spreading,

Danas sam ovde

sa samo jednom idejom vrednom širenja

and you've guessed what it is.

i pogađate koja je.

It is long since time for the most powerful country on Earth

Krajnje je vreme za najmoćniju zemlju na planeti

to offer national paid leave

da obezbedi državno plaćeno odsustvo

to the people doing the work of the future of this country

ljudima koji obavljaju posao budućnosti ove zemlje

and to the babies who represent that future.

i bebama koje predstavljaju tu budućnost.

Childbirth is a public good.

Rođenje deteta je društveno dobro.

This leave should be state-subsidized.

To odsustvo treba da subvencioniše država.

It should have no exceptions for small businesses,

Ne bi trebalo da postoje izuzeci za mala preduzeća,

length of employment or entrepreneurs.

dužinu radnog odnosa ili preduzetnike.

It should be able to be shared between partners.

Trebalo bi da može da se raspodeli među partnerima.

I've talked today a lot about mothers,

Danas sam dosta govorila o majkama,

but co-parents matter on so many levels.

ali oba roditelja su važna na toliko nivoa.

Not one more woman should have to go back to work

Nijedna žena više ne bi trebalo da se vrati na posao

while she is hobbling and bleeding.

dok hramlje i krvari.

Not one more family should have to drain their savings account

Nijedna više porodica ne bi trebalo da mora da isprazni svoj štedni račun

to buy a few days of rest and recovery and bonding.

da bi kupila nekoliko dana odmora, oporavka i povezivanja.

Not one more fragile infant

Nijedno više nežno novorođenče

ne bi trebalo da direktno ide iz inkubatora u dnevni boravak

should have to go directly from the incubator to day care

jer su roditelji potpuno iskoristili svoje oskudno vreme

because his parents have used up all of their meager time

sedeći na odeljenju za intenzivnu negu odojčadi.

sitting in the NICU.

Not one more working family should be told that the collision

Nijednoj više porodici koja radi ne bi trebalo da kažu da je sukob

of their work, their needed work and their needed parenthood,

njihovog neophodnog posla i njihovog neophodnog roditeljstva

is their problem alone.

samo njihov problem.

The catch is that when this is happening to a new family, it is consuming,

Caka je u tome što, kada se ovo dešava u novostvorenoj porodici,

to je potpuno obuzima,

and a family with a new baby is more financially vulnerable

a porodica sa novorođenom bebom je finansijski ranjivija

than they've ever been before,

nego ikada ranije,

so that new mother cannot afford to speak up on her own behalf.

tako da ta žena koja je odnedavno majka ne može da priušti da priča u svoje ime.

But all of us have voices.

Međutim, svi mi imamo glas.

I am done, done having babies,

Ja sam završila sa rađanjem beba,

and you might be pre-baby,

a vi ćete možda tek imati bebu,

you might be post-baby,

možda ste već dobili bebu,

you might be no baby.

možda nećete imati bebu.

It should not matter.

To ne treba da bude važno.

We have to stop framing this as a mother's issue,

Moramo da prestanemo da ovo zamišljamo kao problem majke,

or even a women's issue.

ili čak i kao ženski problem.

This is an American issue.

Ovo je problem Amerike.

We need to stop buying the lie that these images tell us.

Moramo da prestanemo da nasedamo na laž koju nam ove slike govore.

We need to stop being comforted by them.

Moramo da prestanemo da se tešimo njima.

Moramo da se zapitamo zašto nam kažu da ovo ne može da funkcioniše

We need to question why we're told that this can't work

when we see it work everywhere all over the world.

kada vidimo da funkcioniše svuda širom sveta.

We need to recognize that this American reality

Moramo da prihvatimo da ova stvarnost Amerike

is to our dishonor and to our peril.

ide na našu sramotu i štetu.

Because this is not,

Jer ovo nije,

this is not,

ovo nije,

and this is not what a working mother looks like.

ni ovo nije onako kako izgleda zaposlena majka.

(Aplauz)

(Applause)