Why I'm done trying to be "man enough" | Justin Baldoni

Prevodilac: Aleksandra Ninovic Lektor: Ivana Korom

As an actor, I get scripts

Kao glumac dobijam tekstove

and it's my job to stay on script,

i posao mi je da ih se držim,

to say my lines

da izgovorim svoje redove

and bring to life a character that someone else wrote.

i oživim lik koji je neko drugi napisao.

Over the course of my career,

Tokom svoje karijere

I've had the great honor

imao sam veliku čast

playing some of the greatest male role models ever

da igram neke od najvećih muških uloga

represented on television.

ikada predstavljenih na televiziji.

You might recognize me as "Male Escort #1."

Možda me prepoznate kao „Mušku pratnju br.1”.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

"Photographer Date Rapist,"

„Fotograf silovatelj”,

"Shirtless Date Rapist"

„Silovatelj bez majice”

from the award-winning "Spring Break Shark Attack."

iz nagrađenog „Napada ajkula na prolećnom raspustu”.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

"Shirtless Medical Student,"

„Student medicine bez majice”,

"Shirtless Steroid-Using Con Man"

„Prestupnik na steroidima bez majice”

and, in my most well-known role, as Rafael.

i u mojoj najpoznatijoj ulozi kao Rafael.

(Applause)

(Aplauz)

A brooding, reformed playboy

Zamišljeni, reformisani plejboj

who falls for, of all things, a virgin,

koji se zaljubljuje

ni manje ni više, u devicu,

and who is only occasionally shirtless.

i koji je samo ponekad bez majice.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

Now, these roles don't represent the kind of man I am in my real life,

Ove uloge ne predstavljaju tip čoveka koji sam ja zaista,

but that's what I love about acting.

ali to je ono što volim kod glume.

I get to live inside characters very different than myself.

Mogu živeti unutar likova vrlo različitih od sebe.

But every time I got one of these roles, I was surprised,

Ali svaki put kada bih dobio jednu od ovih uloga, bio bih iznenađen,

because most of the men I play ooze machismo,

jer većina muškaraca koje igram zrače muževnošću,

charisma and power,

harizmom i snagom,

and when I look in the mirror, that's just not how I see myself.

a kada se pogledam u ogledalo to jednostavno nije ono kako vidim sebe.

But it was how Hollywood saw me,

Ali jeste ono kako me je Holivud video

and over time, I noticed a parallel

i vremenom sam uočio paralelu

between the roles I would play as a man

između uloga koje bih igrao kao muškarac

both on-screen and off.

na ekranu i van njega.

I've been pretending to be a man that I'm not my entire life.

Pretvarao sam se da sam muškarac kakav nisam celog svog života.

I've been pretending to be strong when I felt weak,

Pretvarao sam se da sam jak kada sam se osećao slabim,

confident when I felt insecure

samouveren kada sam se osećao nesigurnim

and tough when really I was hurting.

i jak kada sam zapravo patio.

I think for the most part I've just been kind of putting on a show,

Mislim da sam većim delom glumatao,

but I'm tired of performing.

ali umoran sam od nastupa.

And I can tell you right now

I sada vam mogu reći

that it is exhausting trying to be man enough for everyone all the time.

da je iscrpljujuće biti dovoljno muško za sve sve vreme.

Now -- right?

Sada - zar ne?

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

My brother heard that.

Moj brat je čuo to.

Now, for as long as I can remember, I've been told

Od kada pamtim su mi govorili

the kind of man that I should grow up to be.

u kakvog muškarca bi trebalo da odrastem.

As a boy, all I wanted was to be accepted and liked by the other boys,

Kao dečak, sve što sam želeo je da me drugi dečaci prihvate i vole,

but that acceptance meant I had to acquire

ali je to značilo da moram usvojiti

this almost disgusted view of the feminine,

taj skoro odvratni pogled na ženstvenost,

and since we were told that feminine is the opposite of masculine,

a pošto su nam govorili da je ženstveno suprotno od muževnog,

I either had to reject embodying any of these qualities

ja sam ili morao da odbacim otelovljenje oba ova kvaliteta

or face rejection myself.

ili se sam suočim sa odbacivanjem.

This is the script that we've been given.

Ovo je tekst koji nam je dat.

Right? Girls are weak, and boys are strong.

Zar ne? Devojčice su slabe, a dečaci su jaki.

This is what's being subconsciously communicated

Ovo je ono što se nesvesno komunicira

to hundreds of millions of young boys and girls all over the world,

stotinama miliona mladih dečaka i devojčica širom sveta,

just like it was with me.

baš kao i meni.

Well, I came here today to say, as a man

Došao sam ovde danas da kažem, kao muškarac,

that this is wrong, this is toxic,

da je ovo pogrešno, toksično,

and it has to end.

i mora prestati.

(Applause)

(Aplauz)

Now, I'm not here to give a history lesson.

E sada, nisam ovde da bih držao lekciju iz istorije.

We likely all know how we got here, OK?

Verovatno svi znamo kako smo dospeli ovde, je l' da?

But I'm just a guy that woke up after 30 years and realized

Samo sam momak koji se probudio posle 30 godina i shvatio

that I was living in a state of conflict,

da je živeo u stanju sukoba,

conflict with who I feel I am in my core

sukoba sa onim što osećam da jesam u srži

and conflict with who the world tells me as a man I should be.

i sukoba sa muškarcem kakvim mi svet kaže da bi trebalo da budem.

But I don't have a desire

Ali ja nemam želju

to fit into the current broken definition of masculinity,

da se uklopim u trenutnu iskrivljenu definiciju muževnosti,

because I don't just want to be a good man.

jer ne želim biti samo dobar muškarac,

I want to be a good human.

već i dobar čovek.

And I believe the only way that can happen

I verujem da jedini način da se to desi

is if men learn to not only embrace the qualities

jeste da muškarci nauče ne samo da usvoje kvalitete

that we were told are feminine in ourselves

za koje su nam rekli da su ženstveni,

but to be willing to stand up,

već da žele da ustanu,

to champion and learn from the women who embody them.

bore se i uče od žena koje ih poseduju.

Now, men --

E sada, muškarci -

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

I am not saying that everything we have learned is toxic. OK?

Ne kažem da je sve što smo naučili toksično, ok?

I'm not saying there's anything inherently wrong with you or me,

Ne kažem da je bilo šta suštinski pogrešno kod vas ili mene,

and men, I'm not saying we have to stop being men.

i ne kažem da moramo prestati da budemo muškarci.

But we need balance, right?

Ali nam je potreban balans, u redu?

We need balance,

Potreban nam je balans,

and the only way things will change is if we take a real honest look

i jedini način da se stvari promene je da iskreno pogledamo

at the scripts that have been passed down to us

scenarije koji su nam prosleđivani

from generation to generation

iz generacije u generaciju

and the roles that, as men, we choose to take on

i uloge koje, kao muškarci, biramo da preuzmemo

in our everyday lives.

u svakodnevnom životu.

So speaking of scripts,

Kada smo kod scenarija,

the first script I ever got came from my dad.

prvi tekst koji sam ikada dobio bio je od mog tate.

My dad is awesome.

Moj tata je fenomenalan.

He's loving, he's kind, he's sensitive, he's nurturing,

On je pun ljubavi, nežan, osećajan, brižan,

he's here.

on je ovde.

(Applause)

(Aplauz)

He's crying.

On plače.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

But, sorry, Dad, as a kid I resented him for it,

Ali, izvini tata, kao dete sam ga prezirao zbog toga,

because I blamed him for making me soft,

jer sam ga krivio što me čini mekim,

which wasn't welcomed in the small town in Oregon

što nije bilo poželjno u malom gradu u Oregonu

that we had moved to.

u koji smo se doselili.

Because being soft meant that I was bullied.

Jer biti mek znači da su me maltretirali.

See, my dad wasn't traditionally masculine,

Vidite, moj tata nije bio tradicionalno muževan,

so he didn't teach me how to use my hands.

tako da me nije učio kako da koristim šake.

He didn't teach me how to hunt, how to fight,

Nije me učio kako da lovim, kako da se borim,

you know, man stuff.

znate već, muške stvari.

Instead he taught me what he knew:

Umesto toga me je učio šta je znao:

that being a man was about sacrifice

da biti muškarac znači žrtvovati se

and doing whatever you can

i raditi sve što možeš

to take care of and provide for your family.

kako bi brinuo i stvarao za svoju porodicu.

But there was another role I learned how to play from my dad,

Ali postojala je još jedna uloga koju sam naučio od svog tate,

who, I discovered, learned it from his dad,

koju je, otkrio sam, naučio od svog tate,

a state senator

senatora

who later in life

koji je kasnije u životu

had to work nights as a janitor to support his family,

morao da radi noću kao domar da bi izdržavao porodicu

and he never told a soul.

i nikada nikome nije rekao.

That role was to suffer in secret.

Ta uloga je bila tajna patnja.

And now three generations later,

I sada tri generacije kasnije,

I find myself playing that role, too.

ja igram tu istu ulogu.

So why couldn't my grandfather just reach out to another man

Zašto onda moj deda nije prišao drugom muškarcu

and ask for help?

i zatražio pomoć?

Why does my dad to this day still think he's got to do it all on his own?

Zašto moj tata i dan danas misli da sve mora uraditi sam?

I know a man who would rather die

Znam čoveka koji bi radije umro

than tell another man that they're hurting.

nego rekao drugom muškarcu da pati.

But it's not because we're just all, like, strong silent types.

Ali to nije zato što smo svi, kao, jaki tihi likovi.

It's not. A lot of us men are really good at making friends, and talking,

Nije. Mnogi od nas muškaraca su zaista dobri u stvaranju drugarstava i priči,

just not about anything real.

smo ne ni o čemu stvarnom.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

If it's about work or sports or politics or women,

Ako je reč oposlu, sportu, politici ili ženama,

we have no problem sharing our opinions,

nemamo problema da kažemo svoje mišljenje,

but if it's about our insecurities or our struggles,

ali ako je reč o našim nesigurnostima ili borbama,

our fear of failure,

našem strahu od neuspeha,

then it's almost like we become paralyzed.

u tom slučaju skoro da se parališemo.

At least, I do.

Bar ja.

So some of the ways that I have been practicing

Neki od načina na koje sam ja vežbao

breaking free of this behavior

oslobađanje od ovog ponašanja

are by creating experiences that force me to be vulnerable.

jesu kreiranje iskustava koja me primoravaju da budem ranjiv.

So if there's something I'm experiencing shame around in my life,

Tako da ako postoji nešto zbog čega osećam sram,

I practice diving straight into it,

vežbam skakanje direktno u to,

no matter how scary it is --

bez obzira na to koliko je strašno -

and sometimes, even publicly.

a ponekad i javno.

Because then in doing so

Jer mu time

I take away its power,

oduzimam moć,

and my display of vulnerability

a moje prikazivanje ranjivosti

can in some cases give other men permission to do the same.

može nekad dozvoliti i drugim muškarcima da urade isto.

As an example, a little while ago

Na primer, pre nekog vremena

I was wrestling with an issue in my life

borio sam se sa problemom

that I knew I needed to talk to my guy friends about,

o kome sam znao da moram porazgovarati sa svojim drugarima,

but I was so paralyzed by fear

ali sam bio toliko paralisan strahom

that they would judge me and see me as weak

da će me osuđivati i videti me kao slabog

and I would lose my standing as a leader

i da ću izgubiti poziciju vođe

that I knew I had to take them out of town on a three-day guys trip --

da sam znao da ih moram odvesti van grada na trodnevno muško putovanje -

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

Just to open up. And guess what?

samo da bih se otvorio. I pogađajte?

It wasn't until the end of the third day

Tek na kraju trećeg dana

that I finally found the strength to talk to them

sam konačno smogao snage da pričam sa njima

about what I was going through.

o onome kroz šta prolazim.

But when I did, something amazing happened.

Ali kada sam to uradio,

desilo se nešto divno.

I realized that I wasn't alone,

Shvatio sam da nisam sam,

because my guys had also been struggling.

jer su se i moji drugari takođe mučili.

And as soon as I found the strength and the courage to share my shame,

I čim sam našao snage i hrabrosti da podelim svoj sram,

it was gone.

nestao je.

Now, I've learned over time

Vremenom sam naučio

that if I want to practice vulnerability,

da ako želim da vežbam ranjivost

then I need to build myself a system of accountability.

onda moram izgraditi sistem odgovornosti.

So I've been really blessed as an actor.

Bio sam zaista blagosloven kao glumac.

I've built a really wonderful fan base,

Izgradio sam zaista divnu bazu ljubitelja,

really, really sweet and engaged,

zaista slatku i aktivnu,

and so I decided to use my social platform

pa sam odlučio da iskoristim svoju društvenu mrežu

as kind of this Trojan horse

kao vrstu trojanskog konja

wherein I could create a daily practice of authenticity and vulnerability.

pri čemu bih kreirao dnevnu vežbu autentičnosti i ranjivosti.

The response has been incredible.

Odgovor je neverovatan.

It's been affirming, it's been heartwarming.

Pun je odobravanja, dirljivosti,

I get tons of love and press and positive messages daily.

svakog dana dobijam tone ljubavi i publiciteta i pozitivnih poruka.

But it's all from a certain demographic:

Ali je sve to od određene demografije:

women.

žena.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

This is real.

Ovo je stvarno.

Why are only women following me?

Zašto me prate samo žene?

Where are the men?

Gde su muškarci?

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

About a year ago, I posted this photo.

Pre oko godinu dana postavio sam ovu sliku.

Now, afterwards, I was scrolling through some of the comments,

Nakon toga sam listao neke komentare

and I noticed that one of my female fans had tagged her boyfriend in the picture,

i primetio da je jedna od mojih ženskih fanova označila svog dečka na slici,

and her boyfriend responded by saying,

a njen dečko je odgovorio:

"Please stop tagging me in gay shit.

„Molim te prestani da me označavaš na gej sranju.

Thx."

Hvala”.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

As if being gay makes you less of a man, right?

Jer vas biti gej čini manje muškarcem, zar ne?

So I took a deep breath,

Duboko sam udahnuo

and I responded.

i odgovorio.

I said,

Rekao sam,

very politely, that I was just curious,

vrlo učtivo, da sam samo znatiželjan,

because I'm on an exploration of masculinity,

jer sam na istraživanju muževnosti,

and I wanted to know why my love for my wife

i želim da znam zašto se moja ljubav prema ženi

qualified as gay shit.

kvalifikuje kao gej sranje.

And then I said, honestly I just wanted to learn.

A zatim sam rekao, iskreno samo želim da naučim.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

Now, he immediately wrote me back.

Momentalno mi je odgovorio.

I thought he was going to go off on me, but instead he apologized.

Mislio sam da će me psovati, ali se on zapravo izvinio.

He told me how, growing up,

Rekao mi je da, dok je rastao,

public displays of affection were looked down on.

javni izlivi emocija su bili gledani s prezirom.

He told me that he was wrestling and struggling with his ego,

Rekao mi je da se rve i bori sa svojim egom,

and how much he loved his girlfriend

i koliko voli svoju devojku

and how thankful he was for her patience.

i koliko joj je zahvalan za strpljenje.

And then a few weeks later,

A onda nekoliko nedelja kasnije

he messaged me again.

pisao mi je ponovo.

This time he sent me a photo

Ovog puta mi je poslao sliku

of him on one knee proposing.

sebe na kolenu, kako prose svoju devojku.

(Applause)

(Aplauz)

And all he said was, "Thank you."

I rekao je samo „Hvala”.

I've been this guy.

Bio sam ovaj momak.

I get it.

Razumem ga.

See, publicly, he was just playing his role,

Vidite, javno, on je samo igrao svoju ulogu,

rejecting the feminine, right?

odbijanje ženstvenosti, zar ne?

But secretly he was waiting for permission to express himself,

Ali je potajno čekao dozvolu da se izrazi,

to be seen, to be heard,

da ga vide, čuju,

and all he needed was another man

i samo mu je trebao drugi muškarac

holding him accountable and creating a safe space for him to feel,

koji ga smatra odgovornim i kreira bezbedni prostor u kome oseća,

and the transformation was instant.

i transformacija je bila momentalna.

I loved this experience,

Volim ovo iskustvo,

because it showed me that transformation is possible,

jer mi je pokazalo da je transformacija moguća

even over direct messages.

čak i preko direktnih poruka.

So I wanted to figure out how I could reach more men,

Pa sam želeo da otkrijem kako da doprem do više muškaraca,

but of course none of them were following me.

ali naravno nijedan me nije pratio.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

So I tried an experiment.

Pa sam sproveo eksperiment.

I started posting more stereotypically masculine things --

Počeo sam da postavljam više stereotipski muževne stvari -

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

Like my challenging workouts, my meal plans,

Poput mojih izazovnih treninga, planova za obrok,

my journey to heal my body after an injury.

mog puta ka zaceljenju tela nakon povrede.

And guess what happened?

I pogodite šta se desilo?

Men started to write me.

Muškarci su počeli da mi pišu.

And then, out of the blue, for the first time in my entire career,

A zatim, ni od kuda, prvi put u mojoj karijeri

a male fitness magazine called me,

pozvao me je muški fitnes magazin

and they said they wanted to honor me as one of their game-changers.

i rekli su da žele da pišu o meni kao jednom od revolucionara.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

Was that really game-changing?

Da li je to zaista bilo revolucionarno?

Or is it just conforming?

Ili samo prilagodljivo?

And see, that's the problem.

I u tome je problem.

It's totally cool for men to follow me

Potpuno je kul da me muškarci prate

when I talk about guy stuff

kada govorim o muškim stvarima

and I conform to gender norms.

i prilagođavam se rodnim normama.

But if I talk about how much I love my wife

Ali ako govorim o tome koliko volim svoju ženu

or my daughter or my 10-day-old son,

ili svoju ćerku ili 10 dana starog sina,

how I believe that marriage is challenging but beautiful,

kako verujem da je brak izazovan ali divan,

or how as a man I struggle with body dysmorphia,

ili kako se kao muškarac borim sa dismorfijom tela,

or if I promote gender equality, then only the women show up.

ili ako promovišem jednakost polova, pojavljuju se samo žene.

Where are the men?

Gde su muškarci?

So men, men, men,

Prema tome muškarci, muškarci, muškarci,

men!

muškarci!

(Applause)

(Aplauz)

I understand.

Razumem.

Growing up, we tend to challenge each other.

Dok rastemo izazivamo jedni druge.

We've got to be the toughest,

Moramo biti najopasniji,

the strongest, the bravest men that we can be.

najjači, najhrabriji muškarci.

And for many of us, myself included, our identities are wrapped up

I za mnoge od nas, uključujući i mene, naši identiteti su umotani

in whether or not at the end of the day we feel like we're man enough.

u to da li se ili ne na kraju dana osećamo

kao dovoljno muško.

But I've got a challenge for all the guys,

Ali imam jedan izazov za vas, momci,

because men love challenges.

jer muškarci vole izazove.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

I challenge you to see if you can use the same qualities

Izazivam vas da vidite da li možete

iskoristiti iste kvalitete

that you feel make you a man

za koje osećate da vas čine muškarcima

to go deeper into yourself.

da biste zašli dublje u sebe.

Your strength, your bravery, your toughness:

Vašu snagu, hrabrost, čvrstinu.

Can we redefine what those mean and use them to explore our hearts?

Da li možemo da ih redefinišemo i upotrebimo ih za istraživanje svojih srca?

Are you brave enough

Da li ste dovoljno hrabri

to be vulnerable?

da budete ranjivi?

To reach out to another man when you need help?

Da se obratite drugom muškarcu za pomoć?

To dive headfirst into your shame?

Da skočite glavom u svoj sram?

Are you strong enough to be sensitive,

Da li ste dovoljno jaki da budete osećajni,

to cry whether you are hurting

da plačete i kada vas boli

or you're happy,

i kada ste srećni,

even if it makes you look weak?

čak i ako zato izgledate slabi?

Are you confident enough

Da li ste dovoljno sigurni u sebe

to listen to the women in your life?

da slušate žene u svom životu?

To hear their ideas and their solutions?

Da čujete njihove ideje i rešenja?

To hold their anguish

Da zadržite njihovu mržnju

and actually believe them,

i zapravo im verujete

even if what they're saying is against you?

čak i kada je to što govore protiv vas?

And will you be man enough

I da li ćete biti dovoljno muško

to stand up to other men when you hear "locker room talk,"

da se suprotstavite drugim muškarcima kada čujete „priče iz svlačionice”,

when you hear stories of sexual harassment?

kada čujete priče о seksualnom zlostavljanju?

When you hear your boys talking about grabbing ass or getting her drunk,

Kada čujete svoje drugare kako su je zgrabili za dupe ili napili,

will you actually stand up and do something

da li ćete zaista ustati i nešto uraditi

so that one day we don't have to live in a world

da jednog dana ne bismo živeli u svetu

where a woman has to risk everything

u kome žena mora rizikovati sve

and come forward to say the words "me too?"

i istupiti da bi izgovorila „ja takođe”?

(Applause)

(Aplauz)

This is serious stuff.

Ovo su ozbiljne stvari.

I've had to take a real, honest look

Morao sam da zaista, iskreno sagledam

at the ways that I've unconsciously been hurting the women in my life,

načine na koje sam nesvesno povređivao žene u svom životu,

and it's ugly.

i grozno je.

My wife told me that I had been acting in a certain way that hurt her

Moja žena mi je rekla da sam se ponašao na određeni način koji ju je povređivao

and not correcting it.

i nisam ga ispravljao.

Basically, sometimes when she would go to speak,

Naime, ponekad kada bi pričala

at home or in public,

kod kuće ili u javnosti,

I would just cut her off mid-sentence and finish her thought for her.

ja bih je prekinuo u pola rečenice i završio njenu misao.

It's awful.

Odvratno je.

The worst part was that I was completely unaware when I was doing it.

Najgore je što apsolutno nisam imao pojma da sam to radio.

It was unconscious.

Bilo je nesvesno.

So here I am doing my part,

I evo me ovde, igram svoju ulogu,

trying to be a feminist,

pokušavajući da budem feminista,

amplifying the voices of women around the world,

pojačavajući glasove žena širom sveta,

and yet at home,

a kod kuće

I am using my louder voice to silence the woman I love the most.

koristim svoj glasniji glas da ućutkam ženu koju volim najviše na svetu.

So I had to ask myself a tough question:

Tako da sam sebi morao

da postavim teško pitanje:

am I man enough

da li sam dovoljno muško

to just shut the hell up and listen?

da jednostavno ućutim i slušam?

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

(Applause)

(Aplauz)

I've got to be honest. I wish that didn't get an applause.

Moram biti iskren. Voleo bih da to nije dobilo aplauz.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

Guys,

Momci,

this is real.

ovo je stvarno.

And I'm just scratching the surface here,

A ja sam ovim samo zagrebao površinu,

because the deeper we go, the uglier it gets, I guarantee you.

jer što dublje idemo, sve je ružnije, garantujem vam.

I don't have time to get into porn and violence against women

Nemam vremena da se bavim pornografijom i nasiljem nad ženama

or the split of domestic duties

ili podeli obaveza u kući,

or the gender pay gap.

ili platnoj polnoj diskriminaciji.

But I believe that as men,

Ali verujem da nam je, kao muškarcima

it's time we start to see past our privilege

vreme da gledamo van svojih privilegija

and recognize that we are not just part of the problem.

i priznamo ne samo da smo deo problema.

Fellas, we are the problem.

Drugari, mi jesmo problem.

The glass ceiling exists because we put it there,

Stakleni plafon postoji jer smo ga mi postavili,

and if we want to be a part of the solution,

i ako želimo da budeo deo rešenja,

then words are no longer enough.

onda reči nisu više dovoljne.

There's a quote that I love that I grew up with from the Bahá'í writings.

Postoji Baha'i izreka koju volim i sa kojom sam odrastao.

It says that "the world of humanity is possessed of two wings,

Ona kaže da „svet čovečanstva poseduju dva krila,

the male and the female.

muško i žensko.

So long as these two wings are not equivalent in strength,

Sve dok ova dva krila nisu jednaka po snazi,

the bird will not fly."

ptica neće leteti”.

So women,

Prema tome žene,

on behalf of men all over the world

u ime muškaraca širom sveta

who feel similar to me,

koji se osećaju slično kao ja,

please forgive us

molim vas oprostite nam

for all the ways that we have not relied on your strength.

za svaki put kada se nismo oslonili na vašu snagu.

And now I would like to ask you to formally help us,

I sada želim da vas zamolim dа nam zvanično pomognete

because we cannot do this alone.

jer ovo ne možemo sami.

We are men. We're going to mess up.

Mi smo muškarci. Zabrljaćemo.

We're going to say the wrong thing. We're going to be tone-deaf.

Reći ćemo pogrešnu stvar. Slušaćemo selektivno.

We're more than likely, probably, going to offend you.

Više je nego verovatno da ćemo vas uvrediti.

But don't lose hope.

Ali ne gubite nadu.

We're only here because of you,

Ovde smo samo zbog vas,

and like you, as men, we need to stand up and become your allies

i kao vi, mi muškarci moramo ustati i postati vaši saveznici

as you fight against

jer se borite

pretty much everything.

protiv prilično svega.

We need your help in celebrating our vulnerability

Potrebna nam je vaša pomoć u prihvatnju ranjivosti

and being patient with us

i strpljivost sa nama

as we make this very, very long journey

jer smo na ovom vrlo, vrlo dugom putu

from our heads to our hearts.

od naših glava do naših srca.

And finally to parents:

I konačno roditeljima:

instead of teaching our children

umesto da učimo svoju decu

to be brave boys or pretty girls,

da budu hrabri dečaci i lepe devojčice,

can we maybe just teach them how to be good humans?

da li možda možemo da ih samo naučimo kako da budu dobri ljudi?

So back to my dad.

Vratimo se na mog tatu.

Growing up, yeah, like every boy, I had my fair share of issues,

Odrastajući, da, kao i svaki dečak, imao sam svoje probleme,

but now I realize that it was even thanks to his sensitivity

ali sada shvatam da zahvaljujući njegovoj osećajnosti

and emotional intelligence

i emocionalnoj inteligenciji

that I am able to stand here right now talking to you in the first place.

ja sada mogu da stojim ovde i pričam sa vama.

The resentment I had for my dad I now realize had nothing to do with him.

Sada shvatam da prezir koji sam prema njemu osećao nije imao veze sa njim.

It had everything to do with me and my longing to be accepted

Imao je veze samnom i mojom željom da budem prihvaćen

and to play a role that was never meant for me.

i igram ulogu koja mi nikada

nije bila namenjena.

So while my dad may have not taught me how to use my hands,

I iako me moj tata možda nije naučio da koristim šake,

he did teach me how to use my heart,

naučio me je da koristim srce,

and to me that makes him more a man than anything.

a za mene ga to čini više muškarcem nego bilo šta.

Thank you.

Hvala.

(Applause)

(Aplauz)