What young women believe about their own sexual pleasure | Peggy Orenstein

Translator: Polona Ramšak Reviewer: Nika Kotnik

For several years now,

Že nekaj let

we've been engaged in a national debate about sexual assault on campus.

na nacionalni ravni govorimo o spolnem nasilju v univerzitetnih naseljih.

No question --

Nedvomno

it's crucial that young people understand the ground rules for consent,

je nujno potrebno, da mladi razumejo osnovno pravilo privolitve.

but that's where the conversation about sex is ending.

A tu se pogovor o spolnosti konča.

And in that vacuum of information

In v tem vakuumu informacij

the media and the Internet --

mediji in internet,

that new digital street corner --

ta novi digitalni cestni vogal,

are educating our kids for us.

namesto nas učijo naše otroke.

If we truly want young people to engage safely, ethically,

Če resnično želimo, da se mladi družijo varno, etično

and yes, enjoyably,

in, da, prijetno,

it's time to have open honest discussion about what happens after "yes,"

je čas za odprto diskusijo o tem, kaj se zgodi po besedi 'da'.

and that includes breaking the biggest taboo of all

To vključuje prekršitev največjega tabuja

and talking to young people

in pogovor z mladimi

about women's capacity for and entitlement to sexual pleasure.

o zmožnosti in pravici žensk do spolnega ugodja.

Yeah.

Ja.

(Applause)

(aplavz)

Come on, ladies.

Dajte, no, dame.

(Applause)

(aplavz)

I spent three years talking to girls ages 15 to 20

Tri leta sem se pogovarjala z dekleti, starimi od 15 do 20 let,

about their attitudes and experience of sex.

o njihovem odnosu in izkušnjah s spolnostjo.

And what I found was

In odkrila sem,

that while young women may feel entitled to engage in sexual behavior,

da mlade ženske morda čutijo, da se imajo pravico zaplesti v spolnost,

they don't necessarily feel entitled to enjoy it.

ne čutijo pa nujno, da so upravičene do užitka.

Take this sophomore at the Ivy League college

Študentka drugega letnika na prestižni univerzi

who told me,

mi je povedala:

"I come from a long line of smart, strong women.

"Prihajam iz družine pametnih, močnih žensk.

My grandmother was a firecracker,

Moja stara mama je bila drzna in svojeglava,

my mom is a professional,

moja mama je intelektualka,

my sister and I are loud, and that's our form of feminine power."

moja sestra in jaz sva glasni in to je najina oblika ženske moči."

She then proceeded to describe her sex life to me:

Nato je nadaljevala in mi opisala svoje spolno življenje,

a series of one-off hookups,

serijo avantur za eno noč,

starting when she was 13,

ki so se začele, ko je imela 13 let,

that were ...

in ki niso bile

not especially responsible,

posebej odgovorne

not especially reciprocal

niti posebej vzajemne

and not especially enjoyable.

niti niso dale veliko užitka.

She shrugged.

Skomignila je z rameni.

"I guess we girls are just socialized to be these docile creatures

"Dekleta smo verjetno vzgojena tako, da postanemo ta krotka bitja,

who don't express our wants or needs."

ki ne izražajo svojih želja ali potreb."

"Wait a minute," I replied.

"Samo trenutek," sem rekla.

"Didn't you just tell me what a smart, strong woman you are?"

"Ali mi nisi pravkar povedala, da si pametna, močna ženska?"

She hemmed and hawed.

Hmknila je.

"I guess," she finally said,

"Verjetno," je nazadnje rekla,

"no one told me that that smart, strong image applies to sex."

"mi nihče ni povedal, da se pamet in moč nanaša tudi na spolnost."

I should probably say right up top that despite the hype,

Verjetno bi morala reči, da se kljub lažni reklami

teenagers are not engaging in intercourse more often or at a younger age

najstniki ne spuščajo v spolnost pogosteje ali prej

than they were 25 years ago.

kot pred 25 leti.

They are, however, engaging in other behavior.

Spuščajo pa se v druge vrste vedenje.

And when we ignore that,

In ko to ignoriramo,

when we label that as "not sex,"

ko to označimo kot 'ne seks',

that opens the door to risky behavior and disrespect.

to odpre vrata tveganemu vedenju in nespoštovanju.

That's particularly true of oral sex,

To še posebej velja za oralni seks,

which teenagers consider to be less intimate than intercourse.

ki se najstnikom zdi manj intimen kot spolni odnos.

Girls would tell me, "it's no big deal,"

Dekleta mi pravijo: "To ni nič posebnega,"

like they'd all read the same instruction manual --

kot da so vse prebrale ista navodila,

at least if boys were on the receiving end.

vsaj če so fantje tisti, ki oralni seks sprejemajo.

Young women have lots of reasons for participating.

Mlade ženske imajo veliko razlogov za sodelovanje.

It made them feel desired;

Počutile so se zaželjene,

it was a way to boost social status.

na ta način so si izboljšale položaj v družbi.

Sometimes, it was a way to get out of an uncomfortable situation.

Včasih je bil to način, kako se izogniti neprijetni situaciji.

As a freshman at a West Coast college said to me,

Brucka na univerzi na Zahodni obali mi je rekla:

"A girl will give a guy a blow job at the end of the night

"Dekle fanta oralno zadovolji na koncu večera,

because she doesn't want to have sex with him,

ker z njim noče imeti spolnega odnosa,

and he expects to be satisfied.

on pa pričakuje, da bo zadovoljen.

So, if I want him to leave

Če torej hočem, da gre,

and I don't want anything to happen ... "

in nočem, da se med nama kaj zgodi ..."

I heard so many stories of girls performing one-sided oral sex

Slišala sem toliko zgodb deklet, ki so izvajale enostranski oralni seks,

that I started asking,

da sem se začela spraševati:

"What if every time you were alone with a guy,

"Kaj če bi ti vedno, ko si sama z moškim,

he told you to get him a glass of water from the kitchen,

ta rekel, da mu iz kuhinje prinesi kozarec vode,

and he never got you a glass of water --

on ti pa nikoli ne bi prinesel kozarca vode,

or if he did, it was like ...

če pa bi, bi bilo ..

'you want me to uh ...?'"

"Kaj hočeš?"

You know, totally begrudging.

Veste, z obžalovanjem.

You wouldn't stand for it.

Tega ne bi prenašale.

But it wasn't always that boys didn't want to.

A ni vedno tako, da fantje nočejo.

It was that girls didn't want them to.

Dekleta jim niso dovolila.

Girls expressed a sense of shame around their genitals.

Dekleta so izrazila občutek sramu v zvezi s svojimi genitalijami.

A sense that they were simultaneously icky and sacred.

Občutek, da so istočasno ogabne in svete.

Women's feelings about their genitals

Ženska čustva o svojih genitalijah

have been directly linked to their enjoyment of sex.

so direktno povezana z njihovim užitkom pri seksu.

Yet, Debby Herbenick, a researcher at Indiana University,

A Debby Herbenick, raziskovalka na Indiana University

believes that girls' genital self-image is under siege,

verjame, da je dekliško dojemanje genitalij na udaru.

with more pressure than ever

Pod vse večjim pritiskom so,

to see them as unacceptable in their natural state.

da jih dojemajo kot nesprejemljive v svojem naravnem stanju.

According to research,

Raziskave kažejo,

about three-quarters of college women remove their pubic hair -- all of it --

da si približno tri četrtine žensk na univerzi odstranjuje vse sramne dlake,

at least on occasion,

vsaj občasno,

and more than half do so regularly.

več kot polovica pa redno.

Girls would tell me that hair removal made them feel cleaner,

Dekleta mi povedo, da se brez dlak počutijo čistejše,

that it was a personal choice.

da gre za osebno določitev.

Though, I kind of wondered if left alone on a desert island,

Pa vendar sem razmišljala, če bi bile same na zapuščenem otoku,

if this was how they would choose to spend their time.

bi tako preživljale svoj čas?

(Laughter)

(smeh)

And when I pushed further,

In ko sem vrtala dalje,

a darker motivation emerged:

se je pojavila temnejša motivacija:

avoiding humiliation.

izogib ponižanju.

"Guys act like they would be disgusted by it,"

"Fantje se obnašajo, kot da bi se jim dlake gnusile,"

one young woman told me.

mi je povedala mlada ženska.

"No one wants to be talked about like that."

"Nihče noče, da se o njem tako govori."

The rising pubic hair removal reminded me of the 1920s,

Vse pogostejše odstranjevanje dlak me spominja na 20. leta 20. stoletja,

when women first started regularly shaving their armpits and their legs.

ko so si ženske začele redno briti pazduhe in noge.

That's when flapper dresses came into style,

Takrat so prišle v modo kratke obleke z resicami

and women's limbs were suddenly visible,

in ženske okončine so nenadoma postale vidne,

open to public scrutiny.

na voljo javnemu kritiziranju.

There's a way that I think that this too is a sign.

Mislim, da je tudi to znamenje,

That a girl's most intimate part is open to public scrutiny,

da so najbolj intimni deli dekliškega telesa na voljo javnemu pregledu,

open to critique,

na voljo kritiki,

to becoming more about how it looks to someone else

da je nenadoma pomembneje, kako se zdi nekomu drugemu

than how it feels to her.

kot kako se ona počuti.

The shaving trend has sparked another rise in labiaplasty.

Trend britja je sprožil porast labioplastike.

Labiaplasty, which is the trimming of the inner and outer labia,

Labioplastika pomeni obrezovanje notranjih in zunanjih sramnih usten

is the fastest-growing cosmetic surgery among teenage girls.

in je najhitreje naraščajoča kozmetična operacija med najstnicami.

It rose 80 percent between 2014 and 2015,

Med l. 2014 in 2015 je za 80% pogostejša

and whereas girls under 18 comprise two percent of all cosmetic surgeries,

in če dekleta, mlajša od 18 let, predstavljajo 2% vseh kozmetičnih posegov,

they are five percent of labiaplasty.

je od teh 5% labioplastik.

The most sought-after look, incidentally,

Najbolj zaželjeni izgled,

in which the outer labia appear fused like a clam shell,

pri katerem zunanje ustne izgledajo združene kot školjka,

is called ...

se imenuje ...

wait for it ...

počakajte ...

"The Barbie."

Barbika.

(Groan)

(stok)

I trust I don't have to tell you

Mislim, da mi ni treba povedati,

that Barbie is a) made of plastic

da je Barbika narejena iz plastike

and b) has no genitalia.

in da nima genitalij.

(Laughter)

(smeh)

The labiaplasty trend has become so worrisome

Trend labiplastike je postal tako zaskrbljujoč,

that the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists

da je Ameriški kolegij porodničarjev in ginekologov

has issued a statement on the procedure,

izdal mnenje o tem postopku,

which is rarely medically indicated,

ki je redko nujno potreben,

has not been proven safe

ni dokazano varen

and whose side effects include scarring, numbness, pain

in ima stranske učinke, kot so brazgotinjenje, otrplost, bolečina

and diminished sexual sensation.

in zmanjšan seksualni občutek,

Now, admittedly,

Res je,

and blessedly,

na srečo,

the number of girls involved is still quite small,

da je število vključenih deklet še vedno precej majhno,

but you could see them as canaries in a coal mine,

a govorijo nam

telling us something important about the way girls see their bodies.

nekaj zelo pomebnega o tem, kako dekleta vidijo svoje telo.

Sara McClelland,

Sara McClelland,

a psychologist at the University of Michigan,

psihologinja na University of Michigan,

coined what is my favorite phrase ever in talking about all of this:

je skovala meni najljubši izraz, ko govori o tem:

"Intimate justice."

intimna pravica.

That's the idea that sex has political, as well as personal implications,

Ideja je, da ima seks politične, pa tudi osebne posledice,

just like, who does the dishes in your house,

prav tako kot, kdo pri vas doma pomiva posodo

or who vacuums the rug.

in kdo sesa preprogo.

And it raises similar issues about inequality,

Vzbuja podobna vprašanja o neenakosti,

about economic disparity,

o ekonomskem neskladju,

violence,

nasilju,

physical and mental health.

fizičnem in mentalnem zdravju.

Intimate justice asks us to consider

Intimna pravica nas prosi, da pomislimo,

who is entitled to engage in an experience.

kdo se ima pravico vključiti v izkušnjo.

Who is entitled to enjoy it?

Kdo ima pravico uživati v njej?

Who is the primary beneficiary?

kdo je osnovni prejemnik?

And how does each partner define "good enough"?

In kako vsak izmed partnerjev definira izraz 'dovolj dobro'.

Honestly, I think those questions are tricky and sometimes traumatic

Pošteno povedano mislim, da so ta vprašanja varljiva in včasih travmatična

for adult women to confront,

že za odrasle ženske,

but when we're talking about girls,

ko pa govorimo o dekletih,

I just kept coming back to the idea that their early sexual experience

mi kar naprej po glavi hodi ideja, da njihove zgodnje spolne izkušnje

shouldn't have to be something that they get over.

ne bi smele biti nekaj, kar je treba prestati.

In her work,

Pri svojem delu

McClelland found that young women were more likely than young men

je McClellandova ugotovila, da mlade ženske pogosteje kot mladi moški

to use their partner's pleasure as a measure of their satisfaction.

uporabljajo partnerjev užitek kot merilo svojega zadovoljstva.

So they'd say things like,

Takole govorijo:

"If he's sexually satisfied,

"Če je on spolno potešen,

then I'm sexually satisfied."

potem sem tudi jaz spolno potešena."

Young men were more likely to measure their satisfaction by their own orgasm.

Mladi moški pogosteje merijo svoje zadovoljstvo z lastnim orgazmom.

Young women also defined bad sex differently.

Mlade ženske tudi definirajo slab spolni odnos drugače.

In the largest ever survey

V največji raziskavi doslej

ever conducted on American sexual behavior,

o spolnem vedenju Američanov

they reported pain in their sexual encounters

so poročale o bolečini pri svojih spolnih odnosih

30 percent of the time.

v 30% primerih.

They also used words like "depressing,"

Uporabile so tudi besede 'depresivno',

"humiliating,"

'poniževalno'

"degrading."

'ponižujoče'.

The young men never used that language.

Mladi moški nikoli niso uporabili teh izrazov.

So when young women report sexual satisfaction levels

Ko mlade ženske poročajo o stopnji spolnega zadovoljstva,

that are equal to or greater than young men's --

ki je enako ali večje kot tisto od mladih moških -

and they do in research --

in v raziskavi je tudi to -

that can be deceptive.

je to lahko zavajujoče.

If a girl goes into an encounter hoping that it won't hurt,

Če se dekle spusti v spolni odnos z upanjem, da je ne bo bolelo,

wanting to feel close to her partner

da se bo počutila blizu svojemu partnerju

and expecting him to have an orgasm,

in da bo on doživel orgazem,

she'll be satisfied if those criteria are met.

bo zadovoljna, če se bodo ti kriteriji izpolnili.

And there's nothing wrong with wanting to feel close to your partner,

Nič ni narobe, če se želimo počutiti blizu svojemu partnerju

or wanting him to be happy,

ali želimo, da je srečen,

and orgasm isn't the only measure of an experience ...

in orgazem ni edino merilo neke izkušnje,

but absence of pain --

ampak odsotnost bolečine,

that's a very low bar for your own sexual fulfillment.

to je zelo nizka stopnička na lestvici lastne spolne izpolnitve.

Listening to all of this and thinking about it,

Ob poslušanju vsega tega in razmišljanju o tem

I began to realize that we performed a kind of psychological clitoridectomy

sem se začela zavedati, da smo nad ameriškimi dekleti izvedli

on American girls.

neke vrste psihološko obrezovanje.

Starting in infancy,

Začne se že v otroštvu,

parents of baby boys are more likely to name all their body parts,

ko starši fantkov pogosteje imenujejo vse njihove dele telesa.

at least they'll say, "here's your pee-pee."

Vsaj rečejo: "To je tvoj lulček."

Parents of baby girls go right from navel to knees,

Starši deklic od popka takoj preskočijo na kolena

and they leave this whole situation in here unnamed.

in vse vmes pustijo neimenovano.

(Laughter)

(smeh)

There's no better way to make something unspeakable

Ni boljšega načina, kako nekaj narediti neizrekljivo,

than not to name it.

kot da se ga sploh ne poimenuje.

Then kids go into their puberty education classes

Potem gredo otroci k zdravstveni vzgoji

and they learn that boys have erections and ejaculations,

in se naučijo, da imajo fantje erekcijo in izliv,

and girls have ...

dekleta pa imajo ...

periods and unwanted pregnancy.

menstruacijo in nezaželeno nosečnost.

And they see that internal diagram of a woman's reproductive system --

In vidijo tisti notranji diagram ženskih spolnih organov,

you know, the one that looks kind of like a steer head --

saj veste, tistega, ki izgleda kot neke vrste krmilna ročica.

(Laughter)

(smeh)

And it always grays out between the legs.

In med nogami je vedno zasenčen.

So we never say vulva,

Tako nikoli ne rečemo besede vulva

we certainly never say clitoris.

in zagotovo nikoli ne rečemo ščegetavček.

No surprise,

Potem ni presenetljivo,

fewer than half of teenage girls age 14 to 17

da se več kot polovica najstnic med 14. in 17. letom

have ever masturbated.

nikoli ne samozadovoljuje.

And then they go into their partnered experience

In potem se spustijo v svoje partnerske izkušnje,

and we expect that somehow they'll think sex is about them,

mi pa pričakujemo, da bodo nekako razumele, da je spolnost zanje in o njih,

that they'll be able to articulate their needs, their desires, their limits.

da bodo lahko izrazile svoje potrebe, svoje želje, svoje meje.

It's unrealistic.

To je nerealno.

Here's something, though.

Nekaj pa je.

Girls' investment in their partner's pleasure remains

Dekleta se potrudijo za partnerjev užitek,

regardless of the gender of the partner.

ne glede na spol partnerja.

So in same-sex encounters,

V istospolnih zvezah

the orgasm gap disappears.

prepad med orgazmom izgine.

And young women climax at the same rate as men.

Mlade ženske doživijo vrhunec enako pogosto kot moški.

Lesbian and bisexual girls would tell me

Lezbijke in biseksualke so mi povedale,

that they felt liberated to get off the script --

da so se počutile osvobojene, ko so delale po svoje,

free to create an encounter that worked for them.

svobodne, da ustvarjajo izkušnje, ki jim ustrezajo.

Gay girls also challenged the idea of first intercourse

Lezbijke so tudi sprožile razmišljanje o prvem spolnem odnosu

as the definition of virginity.

kot definiciji nedolžnosti.

Not because intercourse isn't a big deal,

Ne zato, ker spolni odnos ni pomemben,

but it's worth questioning why we consider this one act,

a vredno je razmisliti, zakaj jemljemo to dejanje,

which most girls associate with discomfort or pain,

ki ga večina deklet povezuje z neudobjem in bolečino,

to be the line in the sand of sexual adulthood --

kot črto v pesku spolne odraslosti -

so much more meaningful,

toliko bolj pomembno,

so much more transformative than anything else.

toliko bolj spreminjajoče kot kar koli drugega.

And it's worth considering how this is serving girls;

In vredno je razmisliti, kako to služi dekletom.

whether it's keeping them safer from disease,

Jih varuje pred boleznimi,

coercion, betrayal, assault.

prisilo, izdajo, posilstvom?

Whether it's encouraging mutuality and caring;

Vzpodbuja vzajemnost ali ljubezen?

what it means about the way they see other sex acts;

Kaj pove o načinu, kako vidijo druga spolna dejanja,

whether it's giving them more control over

jim daje več nadzora

and joy in their experience,

in veselja v njihovi izkušnji?

and what it means about gay teens,

In kaj pomeni o homoseksualnih najstnikih,

who can have multiple sex partners without heterosexual intercourse.

ki lahko imajo mnoge spolne partnerje brez heteroseksualnega spolnega odnosa.

So I asked a gay girl that I met,

Vprašala sem mlado lezbijko, ki sem jo srečala:

"How'd you know you weren't a virgin anymore?"

"Kako si vedela, da nisi več devica?"

She said she had to Google it.

Rekla je, da je morala poguglati.

(Laughter)

(smeh)

And Google wasn't sure.

In Google ni bil prepričan.

(Laughter)

(smeh)

She finally decided that she wasn't a virgin anymore

Nazadnje se je odločila, da ni več bila devica

after she'd had her first orgasm with a partner.

ko je doživela prvi orgazem s partnerko.

And I thought --

In pomislila sem -

whoa.

stoj!

What if just for a second

Kaj če si samo za sekundo

we imagined that was the definition?

predstvavljamo, da je to definicija?

Again, not because intercourse isn't a big deal --

Ponovno, ne zato, ker spolni odnos ne bi bil pomemben,

of course it is --

seveda je,

but it isn't the only big deal,

ampak ni edina pomembna stvar.

and rather than thinking about sex as a race to a goal,

Raje kot da mislimo o spolnem odnosu kot o teku proti cilju,

this helps us reconceptualize it as a pool of experiences

nam to pomaga na novo pojmovati spolni odnos kot bazen izkušenj,

that include warmth, affection, arousal,

ki vključujejo toplino, ljubezen, vzburjenje,

desire, touch, intimacy.

željo, dotik, itimnost.

And it's worth asking young people:

In vredno je vprašati mlade:

who's really the more sexually experienced person?

kdo je v resnici seksualno bolj izkušen?

The one who makes out with a partner for three hours

Tisti, ki se tri ure mečka s partnerjem

and experiments with sensual tension and communication,

in eksperimentira s spolno napetostjo in komunikacijo,

or the one who gets wasted at a party and hooks up with a random

ali tisti, ki se na zabavi napije in se poseksa z neko naključno osebo,

in order to dump their "virginity" before they get to college?

da bi izgubil nedolžnost, preden gre na univerzo?

The only way that shift in thinking can happen though

Edini način, kako lahko pride do tega premika v mišljenju,

is if we talk to young people more about sex --

je, da z mladimi več govorimo o spolnosti.

if we normalize those discussions,

Če te pogovore normaliziramo,

integrating them into everyday life,

jih vključimo v vsakdanje življenje,

talking about those intimate acts in a different way --

na drugačen način govorimo o intimnih dejanjih,

the way we mostly have changed

na način,

in the way that we talk about women in the public realm.

na način, kako govorimo o ženskah v javnosti.

Consider a survey of 300 randomly chosen girls

Vzemimo anketo 300 naključno izbranih deklet

from a Dutch and an American university,

iz nizozemske in ameriške univerze,

two similar universities,

dveh podobnih univerz,

talking about their early experience of sex.

ki govorijo o svojih zgodnjih spolnih izkušnjah.

The Dutch girls embodied everything we say we want from our girls.

Nizozemska dekleta poosebljajo vse, kar pravimo, da si želimo od svojih deklet.

They had fewer negative consequences,

Imele so manj negativnih izkušenj,

like disease, pregnancy, regret --

kot so bolezni, nosečnost, obžalovanje,

more positive outcomes

in več pozitivnih izidov,

like being able to communicate with their partner,

na primer, da so lahko komunicirale s partnerjem,

who they said they knew very well;

ki ga dobro poznajo.

preparing for the experience responsibly;

Pripravile so se na odgovornost izkušnje,

enjoying themselves.

uživale so.

What was their secret?

Kaj je njihova skrivnost?

The Dutch girls said that their doctors, teachers and parents

Nizozemska dekleta so rekla, da so njihovi zdravniki, učitelji in starši

talked to them candidly,

z njimi odkrito govorili

from an early age,

od zgodnje starosti

about sex, pleasure and the importance of mutual trust.

o spolnosti, užitku in pomembnosti medsebojnega zaupanja.

What's more,

Še več,

while American parents weren't necessarily less comfortable talking about sex,

čeprav ameriški starši niso bili nujno manj sproščeni med pogovorom o spolnosti,

we tend to frame those conversations

večinoma obrnemo te pogovore

entirely in terms or risk and danger,

popolnoma v smer tveganja in nevarnosti,

whereas Dutch parents talk about balancing responsibility and joy.

nizozemski starši pa govorijo o ravnotežju med odgovornostjo in veseljem.

I have to tell you,

Moram vam povedati,

as a parent myself,

tudi sama kot starš,

that hit me hard,

da me je zelo prizadelo,

because I know,

ker vem,

had I not delved into that research,

da če se ne bi lotila te raziskave,

I would have talked to my own child about contraception,

bi s svojim otrokom govorila o kontracepciji,

about disease protection,

o zaščiti pred boleznimi,

about consent because I'm a modern parent,

o privolitvi, ker sem modern starš.

and I would have thought ...

In mislila bi si -

job well done.

dobro sem opravila.

Now I know that's not enough.

Zdaj pa vem, da to ni dovolj.

I also know what I hope for for our girls.

Vem tudi, kaj si želim za naša dekleta.

I want them to see sexuality as a source of self-knowledge,

Želim jim, da bi videle spolnosti kot vir znanja o sebi,

creativity and communication,

kreativnost in komunikacijo

despite its potential risks.

kljub potencialnemu tveganju.

I want them to be able to revel in their bodies' sensuality

Želim jim, da bi znale uživati v čutnosti svojega telesa,

without being reduced to it.

ne da bi bile zreducirane nanj.

I want them to be able to ask for what they want in bed,

Želim jim, da bi lahko zahtevale, kar si želijo v postelji,

and to get it.

in to tudi dobile.

I want them to be safe from unwanted pregnancy,

Želim jim, da bi bile varne pred nezaželeno nosečnostjo,

disease,

boleznijo,

cruelty,

krutostjo,

dehumanization,

razčlovečenjem,

violence.

nasiljem.

If they are assaulted,

Če jih kdo spolno napade,

I want them to have recourse from their schools,

jim želim, da bi se lahko zatekle v šolo,

their employers,

k svojim delodajalcem,

the courts.

na sodišče.

It's a lot to ask,

Vem, da veliko zahtevam,

but it's not too much.

a ne preveč.

As parents, teachers, advocates and activists,

Kot starši, učitelji, zagovorniki in aktivisti

we have raised a generation of girls to have a voice,

smo vzgojili generacijo deklet, ki imajo svoj glas,

to expect egalitarian treatment in the home,

ki pričakujejo enakopravnost doma,

in the classroom,

v učilnici,

in the workplace.

na delovnem mestu.

Now it's time to demand that intimate justice

Zdaj je čas, da zahtevajo tudi svojo intimno pravico

in their personal lives as well.

v svojih zasebnih življenjih.

Thank you.

Hvala.

(Applause)

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