Get comfortable with being uncomfortable | Luvvie Ajayi Jones | TED

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I'm a professional troublemaker.

Ja sam profesionalna nevolja.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

As my job is to critique the world,

Budući da je moj posao kritizirati svijet,

the shoddy systems and the people who refuse to do better,

loše sisteme i ljude koji odbijaju biti bolji,

as a writer, as a speaker, as a shady Nigerian --

kao pisac, kao govornik, kao sumnjiva Nigerijka --

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

I feel like my purpose is to be this cat.

osjećam da je moja svrha biti ova mačka.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

I am the person who is looking at other people,

Ja sam osoba koja gleda druge ljude,

like, "I need you to fix it."

kao, "Treba mi da ovo središ."

That is me.

To sam ja.

I want us to leave this world better than we found it.

Želim da ostavimo ovaj svijet boljim nego smo ga našli.

And how I choose to effect change

Ja ostvarujem promjene

is by speaking up,

govorom,

by being the first and by being the domino.

time što sam prva i što sam domino.

For a line of dominoes to fall,

Da bi se sve domino pločice srušile,

one has to fall first,

jedna mora pasti prva,

which then leaves the other choiceless to do the same.

koja tada ne ostavlja izbora ostalima nego da isto padnu.

And that domino that falls,

I ta domina koja padne...

we're hoping that, OK,

nadamo se

the next person that sees this is inspired to be a domino.

da je sljedeća osoba koja to vidi, inspirirana dominom.

Being the domino, for me, looks like speaking up

Za mene biti domina znači progovoriti

and doing the things that are really difficult,

i činiti ono što je zaista teško,

especially when they are needed,

posebno kada je to potrebno,

with the hope that others will follow suit.

u nadi da će i ostali slijediti taj primjer.

And here's the thing: I'm the person who says

Stvar je u tome što sam ja osoba koja kaže

what you might be thinking but dared not to say.

ono što vi možda mislite, ali se ne usudite reći.

A lot of times people think that we're fearless,

Često ljudi misle da se ničega ne bojimo,

the people who do this, we're fearless.

da su ljudi koji to čine bez straha.

We're not fearless.

Nismo bez straha.

We're not unafraid of the consequences

Bojimo se posljedica

or the sacrifices that we have to make

i svoga žrtvovanja

by speaking truth to power.

kada se suprotstavljamo istinom.

What happens is, we feel like we have to,

Ono što se događa je da mislimo da to moramo,

because there are too few people in the world

zato što je premalo ljudi na svijetu

willing to be the domino,

voljno biti domino,

too few people willing to take that fall.

premalo ljudi je spremno na taj pad.

We're not doing it without fear.

Mi to ne činimo bez straha.

Now, let's talk about fear.

Pričajmo sada o strahu.

I knew exactly what I wanted to be when I grew up.

Ja sam točno znala što želim biti kada odrastem.

I was like, "I'm going to be a doctor!"

Govorila bih, "Želim biti liječnica!"

Doctor Luvvie was the dream.

Dr. Luvvie bila je san.

I was Doc McStuffins before it was a thing.

Bila sam Doc McStuffins

prije nego što je

to bilo popularno.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

And I remember when I went to college,

Sjećam se kad sam otišla studirati,

my freshman year, I had to take Chemistry 101

na prvoj godini sam trebala slušati Uvod u kemiju

for my premed major.

na studiju medicine.

I got the first and last D of my academic career.

Dobila sam prvu i zadnju dvojku u svojoj akademskoj karijeri.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

So I went to my advisor, and I was like,

Otišla sam k svojoj savjetnici i rekla,

"OK, let's drop the premed,

"U redu, odustajem od medicine

because this doctor thing is not going to work,

jer ovo neće ići.

because I don't even like hospitals.

Čak ni ne volim bolnice.

So ..."

Tako da..."

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

"Let's just consider that done for."

"To je to."

And that same semester, I started blogging.

Tog semestra sam počela pisati blog.

That was 2003.

To je bilo 2003.

So as that one dream was ending, another was beginning.

Kako je završavao jedan san, počinjao je drugi.

And then what was a cute hobby became my full-time job

Tada je taj hobi postao moj posao na puno radno vrijeme

when I lost my marketing job in 2010.

kad sam 2010. izgubila posao u marketingu.

But it still took me two more years to say, "I'm a writer."

Trebalo mi je još dvije godine da kažem, "ja sam pisac."

Nine years after I had started writing, before I said, "I'm a writer,"

Devet godina nakon što sam počela pisati, prije nego što sam rekla, "ja sam pisac,"

because I was afraid of what happens

jer me bilo strah što se dogodi

without 401ks,

kad nemaš plan za mirovinsko,

without, "How am I going to keep up my shoe habit?

kad ne znaš kako ćeš nastaviti kupovati cipele.

That's important to me."

To mi je važno.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

So it took me that long to own this thing

Dugo mi je trebalo da postanem svoja.

that was what my purpose was.

To je bila moja svrha.

And then I realized,

Tada sam shvatila

fear has a very concrete power

da strah ima konkretnu moć

of keeping us from doing and saying the things that are our purpose.

da nas drži podalje od onoga što je naša svrha da činimo i govorimo.

And I was like, "You know what?

Mislila sam si, "Znaš što?

I'm not going to let fear rule my life.

Neću dopustiti da strah vlada mojim životom.

I'm not going to let fear dictate what I do."

Neću dopustiti da mi strah diktira što da radim."

And then all of these awesome things started happening,

Tada su se počele događati svakakve predivne stvari

and dominoes started to fall.

i domine su počele padati.

So when I realized that, I was like, "OK, 2015,

Kad sam to shvatila mislila sam si, "U redu, 2015. godine

I turned 30,

navršila sam 30 godina,

it's going to be my year of 'Do it anyway.'

to će biti moja godina kad ću "svejedno to učiniti."

Anything that scares me, I'm going to actively pursue it."

Pokušat ću sve što me plaši."

So, I'm a Capricorn.

Inače, ja sam jarac po horoskopu.

I like my feel solidly on the ground.

Volim osjetiti tlo pod nogama.

I decided to take my first-ever solo vacation,

Odlučila sam otići, po prvi put, na odmor - sama,

and it was out of the country to the Dominican Republic.

i to van države, u Dominikansku Republiku.

So on my birthday, what did I do?

A što sam učinila na svoj rođendan?

I went ziplining through the forests of Punta Cana.

Spustila sam se žicom kroz šume Punta Cane.

And for some odd reason, I had on business casual.

Iz nekog čudnog razloga bila sam formalno odjevena.

Don't ask why.

Ne pitajte zašto.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

And I had an incredible time.

Odlično sam se provela.

Also, I don't like being submerged in water.

Ne volim ni biti pod vodom.

I like to be, again, on solid ground.

Volim, kako sam rekla, čvrsto tlo.

So I went to Mexico and swam with dolphins underwater.

Tako sam otišla u Meksiko i ronila s dupinima.

And then the cool thing that I did also that year

Te godine se dogodila još jedna odlična stvar,

that was my mountain

još sam nešto premostila,

was I wrote my book,

a to je da sam napisala knjigu.

"I'm Judging You: The Do-Better Manual,"

"I'm Judging You: The Do-Better Manual,"

And I had to own --

i morala sam --

(Applause)

(Pljesak)

that whole writing thing now, right?

prihvatiti pisanje kao svoje, zar ne?

Yes.

Da.

But the very anti-me thing that I did that year

No, ono što sam učinila te godine što nije nalik meni

that scared the crap out of me --

i što me nasmrt prestrašilo --

I went skydiving.

skočila sam padobranom.

We're about to fall out of the plane.

Prije nego što smo skočili iz aviona

I was like, "I've done some stupid things in life. This is one of them."

pomislila sam, "činila sam mnoge gluposti u životu. Ovo je još jedna."

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

And then we come falling down to Earth,

Padamo na Zemlju

and I literally lose my breath as I see Earth, and I was like,

i ja doslovno gubim dah dok je gledam i pomislim,

"I just fell out of a perfectly good plane on purpose."

"Upravo sam namjerno skočila iz dobrog aviona."

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

"What is wrong with me?!"

"Što nije u redu samnom?"

But then I looked down at the beauty,

No, onda sam pogledala svu tu ljepotu

and I was like, "This is the best thing I could have done.

i pomislila "Ovo je najbolje što sam mogla učiniti.

This was an amazing decision."

Ovo je bila odlična odluka."

And I think about the times when I have to speak truth.

Razmišljam koliko sam puta trebala reći istinu.

It feels like I am falling out of that plane.

Kao da skačem iz aviona.

It feels like that moment when I'm at the edge of the plane,

Osjećaj je kao u trenutku kad sam na rubu aviona kad pomislim

and I'm like, "You shouldn't do this,"

"Ne bi trebala ovo činiti,"

but then I do it anyway, because I realize I have to.

ali onda to svejedno učinim jer shvatim da trebam.

Sitting at the edge of that plane

Stajati na rubu tog aviona

and kind of staying on that plane is comfort to me.

i ostati u tom avionu je za mene lagodnost.

And I feel like every day that I'm speaking truth

Osjećam da svaki dan kad govorim istinu

against institutions and people who are bigger than me

protiv institucija i ljudi koji su veći od mene

and just forces that are more powerful than me,

i, jednostavno, sila koje su jače od mene,

I feel like I'm falling out of that plane.

to je kao da padam iz aviona.

But I realize comfort is overrated.

No, shvaćam da je lagodnost precijenjena.

Because being quiet is comfortable.

Jer, šutjeti je ugodno.

Keeping things the way they've been is comfortable.

Održati sve onako kako je bilo dosad je ugodno.

And all comfort has done is maintain the status quo.

Lagodnost je samo zadržala status quo.

So we've got to get comfortable with being uncomfortable

Mora nam postati ugodan taj osjećaj nelagode

by speaking these hard truths when they're necessary.

dok izgovaramo te teške istine kada su potrebne.

And I --

I ja --

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(Pljesak)

And for me, though, I realize that I have to speak these truths,

Ipak, osobno, shvaćam da moram izgovarati te istine

because honesty is so important to me.

jer mi je iskrenost jako važna.

My integrity is something I hold dear.

Jako cijenim svoj integritet.

Justice -- I don't think justice should be an option.

Pravda -- mislim da pravda ne bi trebala biti izbor.

We should always have justice.

Uvijek mora biti pravde.

Also, I believe in shea butter as a core value, and --

Također, vjerujem u shea maslac kao temeljnu vrijednost i --

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

and I think the world would be better if we were more moisturized.

i mislim da bi svijet bio bolji da svi više njegujemo svoju kožu.

But besides that, with these as my core values,

No, osim toga, s ovim svojim temeljnim vrijednostima,

I have to speak the truth.

moram govoriti istinu.

I have no other choice in the matter.

Nemam drugog izbora.

But people like me, the professional troublemakers,

No, ljudi poput mene, profesionalne nevolje,

should not be the only ones who are committed to being these dominoes

ne bi trebali biti jedini koji su posvećeni tome da budu domine

who are always falling out of planes

koje uvijek padaju iz aviona

or being the first one to take this hit.

ili koje prve primaju udarac.

People are so afraid of these acute consequences,

Ljudi se tako boje ovih strašnih posljedica

not realizing that there are many times when we walk in rooms

ne shvaćajući da puno puta kad uđemo u prostoriju

and we are some of the most powerful people in those rooms --

i jedna smo od najmoćnijih osoba u toj prostoriji --

we might be the second-most powerful, third-most powerful.

mogli bismo biti druga najjača, treća najjača osoba.

And I firmly believe that our job in those times

Čvrsto vjerujem da je naš zadatak u tim vremenima

is to disrupt what is happening.

poremetiti što se događa.

And then if we're not the most powerful,

Ako nismo najmoćniji,

if two more of us band together,

ako se još dvoje nama sličnih udruži,

it makes us powerful.

to nas čini moćnima.

It's like cosigning the woman in the meeting,

To je poput uvažavanja žene na sastanku,

you know, the woman who can't seem to get her word out,

znate već, žene koja ne može doći do riječi

or just making sure that other person who can't make a point

ili kao da se brinete da se sluša osobu

is being heard.

koja želi nešto dokazati.

Our job is to make sure they have room for that.

Naš posao je pobrinuti se da imaju prostora za to.

Everyone's well-being is community business.

Posao je zajednice da svima bude dobro.

If we made that a point, we'd understand that,

Ako to utvrdimo, shvatili bismo da,

for the times when we need help,

kad nam treba pomoć,

we wouldn't have to look around so hard

ne bismo trebali toliko tražiti

if we made sure we were somebody else's help.

kad bismo se pobrinuli da smo nečija pomoć.

And there are times when I feel like

Postoje trenuci kad mislim

I have taken very public tumbles and falls,

da sam podnijela vrlo javne padove,

like the time when I was asked to speak at a conference,

kao kad su me zamoljeli da govorim na konferenciji,

and they wanted me to pay my way there.

ali su htjeli da sama platim put.

And then I did some research

Onda sam malo istražila

and found out the white men who spoke there got compensated

i saznala da su bijelcima koji su tamo govorili

and got their travel paid for.

pokriveni troškovi puta.

The white women who spoke there got their travel paid for.

Bijelkinje koje su tamo govorile imale su plaćen put.

The black women who spoke there were expected to actually pay to speak there.

Od crnkinja koje su tamo govorile očekivalo se da zapravo plate da govore.

And I was like, "What do I do?"

Mislila sam što da radim

And I knew that if I spoke up about this publicly,

i znala sam da ako javno progovorim o ovome,

I could face financial loss.

financijski ću biti na gubitku.

But then I also understood that my silence serves no one.

No, isto tako sam shvaćala da moja tišina ne služi nikome.

So I fearfully spoke up about it publicly,

Tako da sam bez straha javno progovorila o tome

and other women started coming out to talk about,

i ostale žene su se počele javljati da kažu,

"I, too, have faced this type of pay inequality."

"I ja sam se susrela s nejednakosti u plaćanju."

And it started a conversation about discriminatory pay practices

To je pokrenulo razgovor o diskriminirajućim praksama u plaćanju

that this conference was participating in.

u kojima je ta konferencija sudjelovala.

I felt like I was the domino

Osjećala sam se poput domine

the time I read a disturbing memoir by a public figure

dok sam čitala uznemirujuće memoare jedne javne ličnosti

and wrote a piece about it.

i pisala o tome.

I knew this person was more powerful than me and could impact my career,

Znala sam da je ta osoba puno moćnija od mene

i da može utjecati na moju karijeru,

but I was like, "I've got to do this.

no pomislila sam da moram to napraviti.

I've got to sit at the edge of this plane," maybe for two hours.

Moram sjediti na rubu tog aviona, možda dva sata.

And I did. And I pressed "Publish," and I ran away.

I jesam. I kliknula sam "Objavi" i pobjegla.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

And I came back to a viral post

Vratila sam se viralnom postu

and people being like, "Oh my God, I'm so glad somebody finally said this."

i komentarima ljudi kojima je bilo drago da je netko napokon to izjavio.

And it started a conversation

I to je započelo razgovor

about mental health and self-care,

o mentalnom zdravlju i samoskrbi

and I was like, "OK. Alright.

i pomislila sam, "Dobro.

This thing that I'm doing, I guess, alright, it's doing something."

Izgleda da ovo što činim nešto pokreće."

And then so many people have been the domino

Mnogi ljudi su bili domine

when they talk about how they've been assaulted by powerful men.

kad su pričali o tome kako su ih napali moćni muškarci.

And it's made millions of women join in and say, "Me Too."

To je utjecalo na to da se milijuni žena udruže i kažu, "Ja isto."

So, a shout-out to Tarana Burke for igniting that movement.

Zato, pozdrav Tarani Burke koja je započela taj pokret.

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(Pljesak)

People and systems count on our silence to keep us exactly where we are.

Ljudi i sustavi računaju na našu tišinu da nas drže točno ondje gdje jesmo.

Now, being the domino sometimes comes down to being exactly who you are.

Kad ste domino, nekad se to svodi na to da budete točno ono što jeste.

So, I've been a shady somebody since I was three.

Zato, bila sam sumnjiva od svoje treće godine.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

This is me on my third birthday.

Ovo sam ja na svoj treći rođendan.

But I've been this girl all my life,

No, ja sam ova djevojčica cijeli svoj život

and I feel like even that's been the domino,

i osjećam da je čak i to bio domino

because in a world that wants us to walk around

jer u svijetu koji želi da hodamo uokolo

as representatives of ourselves,

kao predstavnici samih sebe,

being yourself can be a revolutionary act.

biti svoj može biti revolucionaran čin.

And in a world that wants us to whisper,

U svijetu koji želi da šapćemo,

I choose to yell.

ja biram vikanje.

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(Pljesak)

When it's time to say these hard things,

Kad je vrijeme da se izgovore teške stvari,

I ask myself three things.

postavim si tri pitanja.

One: Did you mean it?

Prvo: Jesi li to mislila?

Two: Can you defend it?

Drugo: Možeš li to obraniti?

Three: Did you say it with love?

Treće: Jesi li to rekla s ljubavlju?

If the answer is yes to all three,

Ako je odgovor "da" na sva tri pitanja,

I say it and let the chips fall.

kažem to i pustim da se ruše domine.

That's important.

To je važno.

That checkpoint with myself

Ta provjera sa sobom

always tells me, "Yes, you're supposed to do this."

uvijek mi kaže, "Da, trebaš to činiti."

Telling the truth -- telling thoughtful truths --

Govoriti istinu -- govoriti obazrivu istinu --

should not be a revolutionary act.

ne bi trebao biti revolucionaran čin.

Speaking truths to power should not be sacrificial, but they are.

Boriti se istinom protiv moći ne bi trebalo biti požrtvovno, ali jest.

But I think if more of us chose to do this for the greater good,

No, mislim da ako nas se više odluči da ovo činimo za više dobro,

we'd be in better spaces than we are right now.

bilo bi nam bolje nego sada.

Speaking of the greater good,

Govorenjem o višem dobru

I think we commit ourselves to telling truths to build bridges

mislim da se obvezujemo time da istinom gradimo mostove

to common ground,

među zajedničkim temeljima,

and bridges that aren't based on truth will collapse.

a mostovi koji se ne zasnivaju na istini srušit će se.

So it is our job,

Stoga je naš posao,

it is our obligation, it is our duty

naša obaveza, naša dužnost da se istinom suprotstavimo moći

to speak truth to power, to be the domino,

da budemo domine

not just when it's difficult --

ne samo kada je teško --

especially when it's difficult.

posebice onda kada je teško.

Thank you.

Hvala.

(Applause)

(Pljesak)