Caroline Casey: Looking past limits

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Can any of you
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remember what you wanted to be
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when you were 17?
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Do you know what I wanted to be?
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I wanted to be a biker chick.
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(Laughter)
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I wanted to race cars,
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and I wanted to be a cowgirl,
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and I wanted to be Mowgli from "The Jungle Book."
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Because they were all about being free,
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the wind in your hair -- just to be free.
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And on my seventeenth birthday,
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my parents, knowing how much I loved speed,
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gave me one driving lesson
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for my seventeenth birthday.
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Not that we could have afforded I drive,
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but to give me the dream of driving.
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And on my seventeenth birthday,
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I accompanied my little sister
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in complete innocence,
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as I always had all my life --
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my visually impaired sister --
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to go to see an eye specialist.
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Because big sisters
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are always supposed to support their little sisters.
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And my little sister wanted to be a pilot --
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God help her.
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So I used to get my eyes tested
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just for fun.
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And on my seventeenth birthday,
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after my fake eye exam,
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the eye specialist just noticed it happened to be my birthday.
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And he said, "So what are you going to do to celebrate?"
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And I took that driving lesson,
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and I said, "I'm going to learn how to drive."
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And then there was a silence --
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one of those awful silences
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when you know something's wrong.
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And he turned to my mother,
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and he said, "You haven't told her yet?"
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On my seventeenth birthday,
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as Janis Ian would best say,
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I learned the truth at 17.
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I am, and have been since birth,
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legally blind.
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And you know,
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how on earth did I get to 17
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and not know that?
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Well, if anybody says country music isn't powerful,
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let me tell you this:
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I got there
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because my father's passion for Johnny Cash
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and a song, "A Boy Named Sue."
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I'm the eldest of three. I was born in 1971.
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And very shortly after my birth,
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my parents found out I had a condition called ocular albinism.
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And what the hell does that mean to you?
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So let me just tell you, the great part of all of this?
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I can't see this clock and I can't see the timing,
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so holy God, woohoo! (Laughter)
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I might buy some more time.
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But more importantly, let me tell you --
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I'm going to come up really close here. Don't freak out, Pat.
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Hey.
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See this hand?
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Beyond this hand is a world of Vaseline.
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Every man in this room, even you, Steve,
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is George Clooney.
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(Laughter)
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And every woman, you are so beautiful.
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And when I want to look beautiful, I step three feet away from the mirror,
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and I don't have to see these lines etched in my face
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from all the squinting I've done all my life
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from all the dark lights.
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The really strange part is
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that, at three and a half, just before I was going to school,
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my parents made a bizarre, unusual
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and incredibly brave decision.
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No special needs schools.
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No labels.
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No limitations.
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My ability and my potential.
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And they decided to tell me
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that I could see.
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So just like Johnny Cash's Sue,
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a boy given a girl's name,
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I would grow up and learn from experience
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how to be tough and how to survive,
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when they were no longer there to protect me,
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or just take it all away.
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But more significantly,
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they gave me the ability
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to believe,
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totally, to believe that I could.
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And so when I heard that eye specialist
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tell me all the things, a big fat "no,"
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everybody imagines I was devastated.
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And don't get me wrong, because when I first heard it --
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aside from the fact that I thought he was insane --
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I got that thump in my chest,
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just that "huh?"
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But very quickly I recovered. It was like that.
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The first thing I thought about was my mom,
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who was crying over beside me.
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And I swear to God, I walked out of his office,
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"I will drive. I will drive.
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You're mad. I'll drive. I know I can drive."
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And with the same dogged determination
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that my father had bred into me since I was such a child --
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he taught me how to sail,
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knowing I could never see where I was going, I could never see the shore,
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and I couldn't see the sails, and I couldn't see the destination.
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But he told me to believe
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and feel the wind in my face.
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And that wind in my face made me believe
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that he was mad and I would drive.
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And for the next 11 years,
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I swore nobody would ever find out that I couldn't see,
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because I didn't want to be a failure,
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and I didn't want to be weak.
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And I believed I could do it.
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So I rammed through life as only a Casey can do.
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And I was an archeologist, and then I broke things.
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And then I managed a restaurant, and then I slipped on things.
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And then I was a masseuse. And then I was a landscape gardener.
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And then I went to business school.
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And you know, disabled people are hugely educated.
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And then I went in and I got a global consulting job with Accenture.
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And they didn't even know.
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And it's extraordinary
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how far belief can take you.
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In 1999,
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two and a half years into that job,
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something happened.
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Wonderfully, my eyes decided, enough.
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And temporarily,
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very unexpectedly,
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they dropped.
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And I'm in one of the most competitive environments in the world,
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where you work hard, play hard, you gotta be the best, you gotta be the best.
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And two years in,
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I really could see very little.
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And I found myself in front of an HR manager
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in 1999,
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saying something I never imagined that I would say.
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I was 28 years old.
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I had built a persona all around what I could and couldn't do.
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And I simply said,
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"I'm sorry.
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I can't see, and I need help."
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Asking for help can be incredibly difficult.
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And you all know what it is. You don't need to have a disability to know that.
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We all know how hard it is
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to admit weakness and failure.
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And it's frightening, isn't it?
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But all that belief had fueled me so long.
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And can I tell you, operating in the sighted world when you can't see,
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it's kind of difficult -- it really is.
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Can I tell you, airports are a disaster.
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Oh, for the love of God.
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And please, any designers out there?
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OK, designers, please put up your hands, even though I can't even see you.
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I always end up in the gents' toilets.
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And there's nothing wrong with my sense of smell.
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But can I just tell you,
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the little sign for a gents' toilet or a ladies' toilet
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is determined by a triangle.
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Have you ever tried to see that
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if you have Vaseline in front of your eyes?
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It's such a small thing, right?
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And you know how exhausting it can be
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to try to be perfect when you're not,
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or to be somebody that you aren't?
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And so after admitting I couldn't see to HR,
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they sent me off to an eye specialist.
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And I had no idea that this man was going to change my life.
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But before I got to him, I was so lost.
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I had no idea who I was anymore.
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And that eye specialist, he didn't bother testing my eyes.
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God no, it was therapy.
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And he asked me several questions,
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of which many were, "Why?
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Why are you fighting so hard
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not to be yourself?
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And do you love what you do, Caroline?"
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And you know, when you go to a global consulting firm,
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they put a chip in your head, and you're like,
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"I love Accenture. I love Accenture. I love my job. I love Accenture.
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I love Accenture. I love Accenture. I love my job. I love Accenture." (Laughter)
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To leave would be failure.
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And he said, "Do you love it?"
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I couldn't even speak I was so choked up.
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I just was so -- how do I tell him?
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And then he said to me, "What did you want to be when you were little?"
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Now listen, I wasn't going to say to him, "Well, I wanted to race cars and motorbikes."
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Hardly appropriate at this moment in time.
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He thought I was mad enough anyway.
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And as I left his office,
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he called me back
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and he said, "I think it's time.
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I think it's time
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to stop fighting and do something different."
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And that door closed.
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And that silence just outside a doctor's office,
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that many of us know.
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And my chest ached.
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And I had no idea where I was going. I had no idea.
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But I did know the game was up.
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And I went home, and, because the pain in my chest ached so much,
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I thought, "I'll go out for a run."
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Really not a very sensible thing to do.
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And I went on a run that I know so well.
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I know this run so well, by the back of my hand.
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I always run it perfectly fine.
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I count the steps and the lampposts and all those things
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that visually impaired people have a tendency to have a lot of meetings with.
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And there was a rock that I always missed.
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And I'd never fallen on it, never.
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And there I was crying away,
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and smash, bash on my rock.
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Broken, fallen over
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on this rock
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in the middle of March in 2000,
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typical Irish weather on a Wednesday --
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gray, snot, tears everywhere,
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ridiculously self-pitying.
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And I was floored, and I was broken,
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and I was angry.
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And I didn't know what to do.
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And I sat there for quite some time going,
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"How am I going to get off this rock and go home?
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Because who am I going to be?
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What am I going to be?"
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And I thought about my dad,
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and I thought, "Good God, I'm so not Sue now."
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And I kept thinking over and over in my mind,
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what had happened? Where did it go wrong? Why didn't I understand?
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And you know, the extraordinary part of it
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is I just simply had no answers.
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I had lost my belief.
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Look where my belief had brought me to.
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And now I had lost it. And now I really couldn't see.
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I was crumpled.
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And then I remember thinking about that eye specialist
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asking me, "What do you want to be? What do you want to be?
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What did you want to be when you were little? Do you love what you do?
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Do something different. What do you want to be?
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Do something different. What do you want to be?"
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And really slowly, slowly, slowly,
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it happened.
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And it did happen this way.
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And then the minute it came,
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it blew up in my head
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and bashed in my heart --
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something different.
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"Well, how about Mowgli from 'The Jungle Book'?
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You don't get more different than that."
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And the moment, and I mean the moment,
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the moment that hit me,
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I swear to God,
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it was like woo hoo! You know -- something to believe in.
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And nobody can tell me no.
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Yes, you can say I can't be an archeologist.
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But you can't tell me, no, I can't be Mowgli, because guess what?
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Nobody's ever done it before, so I'm going to go do it.
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And it doesn't matter whether I'm a boy or a girl, I'm just going to scoot.
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And so I got off that rock, and, oh my God, did I run home.
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And I sprinted home, and I didn't fall, and I didn't crash.
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And I ran up the stairs, and there was one of my favorite books of all time,
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"Travels on My Elephant" by Mark Shand -- I don't know if any of you know it.
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And I grabbed this book off, and I'm sitting on the couch
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going, "I know what I'm going to do.
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I know how to be Mowgli.
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I'm going to go across India
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on the back of an elephant.
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I'm going to be an elephant handler."
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And I had no idea
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how I was going to be an elephant handler.
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From global management consultant to elephant handler.
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I had no idea how. I had no idea how you hire an elephant, get an elephant.
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I didn't speak Hindi. I'd never been to India. Hadn't a clue.
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But I knew I would.
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Because, when you make a decision at the right time and the right place,
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God, that universe makes it happen for you.
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Nine months later, after that day on snot rock,
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I had the only blind date in my life
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with a seven and a half foot elephant called Kanchi.
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And together we would trek a thousand kilometers
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across India.
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(Applause)
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The most powerful thing of all,
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it's not that I didn't achieve before then. Oh my God, I did.
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But you know, I was believing in the wrong thing.
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Because I wasn't believing in me,
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really me, all the bits of me --
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all the bits of all of us.
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Do you know how much of us all pretend to be somebody we're not?
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And you know what, when you really believe in yourself and everything about you,
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it's extraordinary what happens.
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And you know what, that trip, that thousand kilometers,
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it raised enough money for 6,000 cataract eye operations.
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Six thousand people got to see because of that.
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When I came home off that elephant,
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do you know what the most amazing part was?
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I chucked in my job at Accenture.
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I left, and I became a social entrepreneur,
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and I set up an organization with Mark Shand called Elephant Family,
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which deals with Asian elephant conservation.
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And I set up Kanchi,
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because my organization was always going to be named after my elephant,
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because disability is like the elephant in the room.
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And I wanted to make you see it in a positive way --
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no charity, no pity.
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But I wanted to work only and truly
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with business and media leadership
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to totally reframe disability
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in a way that was exciting and possible.
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It was extraordinary.
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That's what I wanted to do.
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And I never thought about noes anymore, or not seeing,
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or any of that kind of nothing.
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It just seemed that it was possible.
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And you know, the oddest part is,
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when I was on my way traveling here to TED,
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I'll be honest, I was petrified.
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And I speak,
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but this is an amazing audience,
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and what am I doing here?
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But as I was traveling here,
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you'll be very happy to know,
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I did use my white symbol stick cane,
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because it's really good to skip queues in the airport.
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And I got my way here
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being happily proud that I couldn't see.
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And the one thing is that a really good friend of mine,
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he texted me on the way over, knowing I was scared.
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Even though I present confident, I was scared.
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He said, "Be you."
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And so here I am.
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This is me, all of me.
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(Applause)
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And I have learned, you know what,
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cars and motorbikes and elephants,
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that's not freedom.
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Being absolutely true to yourself is freedom.
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And I never needed eyes to see -- never.
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I simply needed vision and belief.
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And if you truly believe --
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and I mean believe from the bottom of your heart --
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you can make change happen.
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And we need to make it happen,
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because every single one of us --
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woman, man, gay, straight,
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disabled, perfect,
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normal, whatever --
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everyone of us
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must be the very best of ourselves.
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I no longer want anybody to be invisible.
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We all have to be included.
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And stop with the labels, the limiting.
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Losing of labels,
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because we are not jam jars.
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We are extraordinary, different, wonderful people.
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Thank you.
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(Applause)
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