Intimate photos of a senior love triangle | Isadora Kosofsky

74,096 views ・ 2018-10-19

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翻译人员: Ziyun Liao 校对人员: Tianji (Homer) Li
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Jeanie, Will and Adina are three senior citizens
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珍妮,威尔和阿迪娜 是三名老年人,
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connected by a special relationship.
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他们因为一种特殊的关系 紧密联系在一块。
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They view their bond as a shield from the loneliness of aging.
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他们的关系是用来抵抗 因衰老而带来的孤独感。
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I first met them at a retirement home in Los Angeles,
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我第一次见到他们 是在洛杉矶的一家老人院,
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where I had been photographing for three years.
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我在那儿从事拍摄工作有三年。
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I saw as they approached the gate one night,
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有一晚,在我看到他们走近 老人院门口的时候,
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and felt an immediate connection to them.
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就立即被他们吸引了。
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Although I didn't know the details of their love triangle,
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虽然我并不清楚他们 三角恋的细节,
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I intuitively felt that I had to find out who they were.
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但直觉告诉我有必要去了解他们。
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Questioning a nurse a day later, she said to me,
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一天后,我询问了一名护士, 她跟我说,
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"Oh, you're talking about the threesome."
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“你说的是那三角黄昏恋吧。”
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(Laughter)
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(笑声)
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I was intrigued.
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我很好奇。
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(Laughter)
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(笑声)
00:57
The trio set out on a daily adventure to coffee and doughnut shops,
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这三个人每天都结伴出门冒险, 到咖啡厅,甜甜圈店,
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bus stops and street corners.
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公交站和街角去转悠。
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I soon learned that the purpose of these outings was solace
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我很快就明白他们出游的目的 是为了寻求安慰,
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and a search for meaning.
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和探索生命的意义。
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The trio sought to combat their alienation
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他们三个人用这种方法 对抗这种被疏远的孤独感,
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by literally integrating themselves in public streets.
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将自身与公共街道彻底融为一体,
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Yet, even when arm in arm, no one saw them.
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然而,即便他们手挽手的走在街上, 也没有人注意到他们。
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We often think that as we age, we lose the desires held in our youth.
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我们经常想,随着我们年龄增长, 我们就会失去年轻时的欲望,
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Actually, as a teenage photojournalist when I met the trio,
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但事实上,作为一名少年摄影记者, 当我遇到他们三个人时,
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I saw their behavior as a mirror
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我把他们的行为视为一面镜子,
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to the fears of exclusion and desires for intimacy
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反映了对被排斥的恐惧, 以及对被亲近的渴望,
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that I also carried.
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而我对此感同身受。
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I related to their invisibility,
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我对他们被人无视的经历感同身受,
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which pained me during my childhood
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这让我在童年时期十分痛苦,
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but has become my greatest asset as an immersive documentarian,
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但是这段切身经历成为了 我作为纪实摄影师最宝贵的财富,
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because I can just fade into my empathy.
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因为这样我可以淡化自己的同理心。
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As we walked down the streets of Hollywood,
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随着我们沿着好莱坞的街道行走,
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in a neighborhood of screenwriters, actors and filmmakers,
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在这一个编剧,演员, 和制片人比比皆是的社区里,
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the trio assumed the invisibility that each senior does.
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他们三个人所承受的漠视, 是每位老年人都在承受的。
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I would ask myself,
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我会问我自己,
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"How is it that no one else sees these three human beings?
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“怎么会没有人注意到 这三个人呢?”
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Why is it that I am the only one who sees them?"
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“为什么我是唯一 一个注意他们的人?”
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Years later, as I began to share this work with the public,
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几年后,当我开始和大众 分享我的这组作品时,
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I noticed that people are largely uncomfortable with this story.
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我注意到,大部分人听完 这个故事后感到很不舒服,
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Perhaps it is because the trio doesn't assume conventional notions
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也许是因为他们三个人的故事
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associated with love, romance or partnership.
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不符合世俗对爱情,浪漫, 伴侣关系的传统看法。
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They were unseen in public and shunned by their peers.
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他们在公众面前被视而不见, 也被他们的同龄人所不容。
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They wanted to belong somewhere
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他们也想身有所属,
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but only seemed to belong with each other.
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但似乎他们只属于彼此。
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I wanted to belong somewhere, too.
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我也想找到我的容身之处,
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And my camera has been a catalyst for me to belong everywhere.
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而我的镜头帮助我更快的 融入每一个地方。
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But beyond challenging sociocultural norms about the elderly,
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但除了挑战了世俗对于长者的看法外,
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the trio sheds light on fear of remoteness.
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他们三个人也诠释了对于 被疏远的恐惧。
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At the end of each day, they return to their respective retirement homes.
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在每天结束的时候,他们回到 他们各自的老人院,
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Under the surface of their aloneness,
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在他们孤独的表面下,
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there is a desire for community, for their people.
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有着他们对融入社区的向往, 对被人关爱的渴望,
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There was a sense that they were each yearning for their tribe,
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他们每个人都渴望遇到 与他们志趣相投的同类人,
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but that comfort comes with compromise,
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但那样的安慰往往 伴随着妥协,
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because Will cannot commit to one woman.
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因为威尔无法只对 一个女人做出承诺。
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Sitting with Jeanie one day in her apartment, she said to me,
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有一天在珍妮的公寓里, 我和她坐在一块,她对我说:
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"Sharing Will is a thorn in your side.
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“与别人分享威尔是很烦恼的,
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A relationship between a man and a woman is private.
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男女之间的感情应该是私人的,
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It is a couple, not a trio."
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是属于两个人的,不是三个人的。”
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My process is to essentially become the people I document
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我的工作就是最终成为我 所记录的人,
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by spending years with them as an observer-occupant,
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以一个的观察者——居住者的身份, 通过与他们相处多年,
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to create a safe space, to then become hidden in plain sight.
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建立一个安全的空间, 然后从一个显眼的位置隐身。
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I was about 17 when I met the trio,
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遇到他们三个人的时候, 我才17岁,
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and I shadowed them for four years.
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我跟踪记录他们的生活四年。
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We actually see, in the breakdown of social development,
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分析社会的发展阶段, 我们其实发现,
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that adolescence and old age look strikingly alike,
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青春期和老年期其实惊人的相似,
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because both are periods of identity confusion.
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因为这两个阶段都充满了 对身份认知的困惑。
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I identified with the women.
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我认同那两名女性,
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But also with Will, who made me aware of the divide in me.
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但同样的,我也认同威尔, 他让我意识到了我内在的分裂,
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The schism that we each often have
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而这种分裂是我们每一个人 都具有的:
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about what we crave and the actuality of our situation.
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我们内心渴望的, 以及我们实际的处境。
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Before shooting this series,
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在拍摄这系列纪录片之前,
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I was also in love with two different people who knew about each other,
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我同时爱上了两个人, 他们之间相互认识,
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being the object over which they fought.
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所以我成为了他们争吵的对象。
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But I also knew what it was like to be at the base of the triangle,
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但我能理解,成为这段三角恋的 基底是什么样的感受,
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like Jeanie or Adina,
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就像珍妮和阿迪娜一样,
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asking myself,
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我不断地问我自己:
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"Why aren't I enough?"
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“为什么我这么贪婪呢?”
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I would look through my viewfinder and see three elderly figures,
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我透过我的摄影机, 看到了三个年迈的身影。
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and it became impossible to deny that regardless of age,
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我们无法否认, 无论年纪大小,
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we were each in pursuit of filling the proverbial hole through other people.
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我们每一个人都试图通过他人, 填满自身内心的空洞。
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Perhaps the discomfort of looking at Jeanie, Will and Adina's story
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也许我们之所以听完珍妮,威尔, 还有阿迪娜的故事感到不舒服
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is truly a reminder that even at the end of life,
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是因为他们恰恰提醒了我们, 即便是在生命的最后关头,
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we may never reach the fantasy we have envisioned for ourselves.
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我们也许也永远无法实现 曾经自我幻想的完美爱情。
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Thank you for listening.
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谢谢大家的聆听。
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(Applause)
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(掌声,呐喊)
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