How I hacked online dating | Amy Webb

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์•„๋ž˜ ์˜๋ฌธ์ž๋ง‰์„ ๋”๋ธ”ํด๋ฆญํ•˜์‹œ๋ฉด ์˜์ƒ์ด ์žฌ์ƒ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋ฒˆ์—ญ: Sungmo Lee ๊ฒ€ํ† : Tae Young Choi
00:12
So my name is Amy Webb,
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์ œ ์ด๋ฆ„์€ ์—์ด๋ฏธ ์›น์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:15
and a few years ago I found myself at the end
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๋ช‡๋…„ ์ „ ์ €๋Š”
00:17
of yet another fantastic relationship
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๋˜ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ํ™˜์ƒ์ ์ธ ์—ฐ์•  ๊ด€๊ณ„๊ฐ€
00:20
that came burning down in a spectacular fashion.
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๋ฉ‹๋“œ๋Ÿฌ์ง„ ๋ฐฉ์‹์œผ๋กœ ๋๋‚˜๋Š” ์ƒํ™ฉ์„ ๊ฒช์—ˆ์ฃ .
๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ ๋Š” '๋‚˜ํ•œํ…Œ ๋ญ”๊ฐ€ ์ž˜๋ชป๋œ ๊ฑธ๊นŒ?"๋ผ๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:24
And I thought, what's wrong with me?
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00:26
I don't understand why this keeps happening.
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์™œ ์ด๋Ÿฐ ์ผ์ด ๊ณ„์†๋˜๋Š”์ง€ ์ดํ•ดํ•  ์ˆ˜๊ฐ€ ์—†๋”๊ตฐ์š”.
00:28
So I asked everybody in my life what they thought.
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์ œ ์ฃผ๋ณ€์˜ ๋ชจ๋“  ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ
์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ์ƒ๊ฐํ•˜๋Š”์ง€ ๋ฌผ์–ด๋ดค์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:32
I turned to my grandmother, who always had plenty of advice,
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์ €์—๊ฒŒ ๋งŽ์€ ์ถฉ๊ณ ๋ฅผ ํ•ด์ฃผ์…จ๋˜
ํ• ๋จธ๋‹ˆ์—๊ฒŒ ๋ฌผ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:36
and she said, "Stop being so picky.
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ํ• ๋จธ๋‹ˆ๋Š” ๋ง์”€ํ•˜์…จ์ฃ . "๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ๊นŒ๋‹ค๋กญ๊ฒŒ ๊ตด์ง€ ๋ง๋ ด.
00:39
You've got to date around.
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๋งŽ์€ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค๊ณผ ๋ฐ์ดํŠธ๋ฅผ ํ•ด๋ด์•ผ ํ•ด.
00:40
And most importantly,
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ ๊ฒƒ์€,
00:42
true love will find you when you least expect it."
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์ง„์ •ํ•œ ์‚ฌ๋ž‘์€ ๋„ค๊ฐ€ ๋ณ„๋กœ ๊ธฐ๋Œ€ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์„ ๋•Œ ๋‚˜ํƒ€๋‚œ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฑฐ์•ผ."
00:46
Now as it turns out,
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์ด์ œ ๋ถ„๋ช…ํ•œ ๊ฒƒ์€
00:48
I'm somebody who thinks a lot about data,
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์ €๋Š” ๋ฐ์ดํ„ฐ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ƒ๊ฐ์„ ๋งŽ์ด ํ•˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด๋ผ๋Š” ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:50
as you'll soon find.
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๊ณง ์•Œ๊ฒŒ ๋˜์‹ค ๊ฑฐ์—์š”.
00:51
I am constantly swimming in numbers, formulas and charts.
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์ €๋Š” ๋Š˜ ์ˆซ์ž, ๊ณต์‹, ์ฐจํŠธ ์†์—์„œ
๋งˆ์น˜ ์ˆ˜์˜ํ•˜๋“ฏ์ด ํ—ค๋งค๊ณ  ์žˆ์—ˆ์ฃ .
์ œ๊ฒŒ๋Š” ๋˜ํ•œ ์œ ๋Œ€๊ฐ€ ์•„์ฃผ ๊ธด๋ฐ€ํ•œ ๊ฐ€์กฑ์ด ์žˆ๊ณ ,
00:57
I also have a very tight-knit family,
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00:59
and I'm very, very close with my sister,
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ํŠนํžˆ ์ž๋งค๊ฐ„์˜ ์‚ฌ์ด๊ฐ€ ๋ˆ๋…ํ•ด์„œ
01:01
and as a result, I wanted to have the same type of family when I grew up.
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๊ทธ ๋•๋ถ„์ธ์ง€ ์ €๋Š”
์ œ๊ฐ€ ์„ฑ์žฅํ–ˆ๋˜ ๊ฐ€์กฑ๊ณผ ๊ฐ™์€ ์œ ํ˜•์˜ ๊ฐ€์กฑ์„ ๊ฐ–๊ณ  ์‹ถ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:04
So I'm at the end of this bad breakup,
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์ €๋Š” ์ด ์—ฐ์• ์˜ ๋์— ์„œ ์žˆ๊ณ ,
01:06
I'm 30 years old,
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30์„ธ์ด๋ฉฐ,
01:08
I figure I'm probably going to have to date somebody for about six months
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๋‹ค์Œ ์—ฐ์• ๋ฅผ ํ•  ๋•Œ๊นŒ์ง€ ์•„๋งˆ๋„
6๊ฐœ์›” ์ •๋„์˜ ์‹œ๊ฐ„์ด ํ•„์š”ํ•  ๊ฑฐ๋ผ๋Š” ์ƒ๊ฐ์ด ๋“ค์–ด์š”.
01:11
before I'm ready to get monogamous
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์ผ๋ถ€์ผ์ฒ˜์ œ๋ฅผ ๋ฐ›์•„๋“ค์ด๊ณ ,
01:13
and before we can sort of cohabitate,
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๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€์™€ ๋™๊ฑฐ๋ฅผ ํ•˜๊ณ ,
01:15
and we have to do that for a while before we can get engaged.
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์•ฝํ˜ผํ•˜๊ธฐ ์ „์— ๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ํ•œ๋™์•ˆ์„ ๋ณด๋‚ด๊ธฐ๊นŒ์ง€ ๋ง์ด์ฃ .
01:18
And if I want to start having children by the time I'm 35,
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋งŒ์•ฝ ์ œ๊ฐ€ 35์„ธ ์ •๋„์— ์•„์ด๋ฅผ ๊ฐ–๊ธฐ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค๋ฉด,
01:21
that meant that I would have had to have been on my way to marriage
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๊ทธ๊ฑด ์•„๋งˆ๋„ ์ œ๊ฐ€
์ด๋ฏธ 5๋…„์ „์— ๊ฒฐํ˜ผ ์ค€๋น„๋ฅผ ํ•ด์•ผ ํ•œ๋‹ค๋Š” ๋œป์ด์ฃ .
01:24
five years ago.
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01:26
So that wasn't going to work.
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ์ผ์€ ์•„๋งˆ ์ผ์–ด๋‚˜์ง€ ์•Š์„ ๊ฑฐ์˜ˆ์š”.
01:27
If my strategy was to least-expect my way into true love,
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๋งŒ์•ฝ ์ œ ์ „๋žต์ด ์ง„์ •ํ•œ ์‚ฌ๋ž‘์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด
๊ฐ€๋Šฅํ•œ ์ ๊ฒŒ ๊ธฐ๋Œ€ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด์—ˆ๋‹ค๋ฉด,
01:31
then the variable that I had to deal with was serendipity.
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ๊ฒช์—ˆ๋˜ ๊ฐ์ • ๊ธฐ๋ณต์€ ๋œป ๋ฐ–์˜ ์žฌ๋ฏธ์˜€๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋งํ•  ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ๊ฒ ๋„ค์š”.
01:34
In short, I was trying to figure out
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๊ฐ„๋‹จํžˆ ๋งํ•ด์„œ, ์ €๋Š”
๋‹จ์ง์„ ๋งŒ๋‚  ํ™•๋ฅ ์ด ์–ผ๋งˆ๋‚˜ ๋ ์ง€์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์•Œ์•„๋ณด๊ณ  ์‹ถ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:37
what's the probability of my finding Mr. Right?
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01:40
Well, at the time I was living in the city of Philadelphia,
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ํ•„๋ผ๋ธํ”ผ์•„์— ์‚ด๋˜ ๋•Œ๋Š”,
๊ทธ ํฐ ๋„์‹œ์—,
01:43
and it's a big city, and I figured,
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01:45
in this entire place, there are lots of possibilities.
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์ฐธ ๋งŽ์€ ๋‹ค์–‘ํ•œ ๊ฐ€๋Šฅ์„ฑ์ด ์žˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:48
So again, I started doing some math.
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋˜ ๋‹ค์‹œ, ๊ฐ„๋‹จํ•œ ๊ณ„์‚ฐ์„ ํ•˜๊ธฐ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ–ˆ์ฃ .
01:50
Population of Philadelphia: it has 1.5 million people.
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ํ•„๋ผ๋ธํ”ผ์•„์—๋Š” 150๋งŒ ๋ช…์˜ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ์‚ด๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:54
I figure about half of that are men,
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๊ทธ ์ค‘ ๋ฐ˜ ์ •๋„๋Š” ๋‚จ์ž๊ฒ ์ฃ .
์ฆ‰ 75๋งŒ ๋ช… ์ •๋„๊ฐ€ ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:56
so that takes the number down to 750,000.
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01:58
I'm looking for a guy between the ages of 30 and 36,
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์ €๋Š” 30~36์„ธ ์ •๋„์˜ ๋‚จ์„ฑ์„ ์ฐพ๊ณ  ์žˆ์œผ๋ฉฐ,
02:01
which was only four percent of the population,
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์ด๋Š” ์ธ๊ตฌ์˜ 4%์— ๋ถˆ๊ณผํ•˜์ฃ .
02:04
so now I'm dealing with the possibility of 30,000 men.
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์ด์ œ ๊ทธ ์ˆซ์ž๋Š” 3๋งŒ ๋ช…์œผ๋กœ ์ค„์–ด๋“ญ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:07
I was looking for somebody who was Jewish,
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์ €๋Š” ์œ ํƒœ์ธ์„ ์ฐพ๊ณ  ์žˆ์—ˆ๋Š”๋ฐ,
์ œ๊ฐ€ ๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ณ , ๊ทธ๊ฒŒ ์ €์—๊ฒ ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ ์‚ฌ์‹ค์ด์—ˆ์œผ๋‹ˆ๊นŒ์š”.
02:09
because I am and that was important to me.
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02:11
That's only 2.3 percent of the population.
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์ด๋Š” ์ธ๊ตฌ์˜ 2.3%์— ๋ถˆ๊ณผํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:13
I figure I'm attracted to maybe one out of 10 of those men,
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์ €๋Š” ๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ์กฐ๊ฑด์„ ๋งŒ์กฑ์‹œํ‚ค๋Š” ๋‚จ์„ฑ์ค‘
10๋ช… ์ค‘์— 1๋ช… ์ •๋„์— ๋งค๋ ฅ์„ ๋Š๊ผˆ๊ณ ,
02:18
and there was no way I was going to deal with somebody who was an avid golfer.
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ๊ณจํ”„์— ์—ด์ค‘ํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ๋‚จ์„ฑ๊ณผ
๋ฐ์ดํŠธ๋ฅผ ํ•  ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์—†์—ˆ์ฃ .
02:22
So that basically meant there were 35 men for me
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์ž ์ด์ œ ์ œ๊ฐ€ ๋ฐ์ดํŠธํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์€
02:25
that I could possibly date
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ํ•„๋ผ๋ธํ”ผ์•„ ์ „์ฒด์—์„œ
02:28
in the entire city of Philadelphia.
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35๋ช…์œผ๋กœ ์ค„์–ด๋“ค์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:32
In the meantime, my very large Jewish family
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๋™์‹œ์—, ์ €์˜ ์œ ๋Œ€์ธ ๋Œ€๊ฐ€์กฑ์€
02:35
was already all married and well on their way
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๋ชจ๋‘ ์ด๋ฏธ ๊ฒฐํ˜ผ์„ ํ–ˆ๊ณ ,
02:38
to having lots and lots of children,
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๋งŽ์€ ์•„์ด๋ฅผ ๋‚ณ๊ณ  ์žˆ์—ˆ์ฃ .
02:40
and I felt like I was under tremendous peer pressure
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ €๋Š” ์ œ ์ธ์ƒ์„ ๊ณ„์† ์ง„ํ–‰์‹œํ‚ค๋Š” ๋ฐ ์žˆ์–ด์„œ
02:42
to get my life going already.
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์—„์ฒญ๋‚œ ๋ถ€๋‹ด์„ ๋Š๋ผ๊ณ  ์žˆ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:44
So I have two possible strategies at this point
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์ด๋Ÿฐ ์‹œ์ ์—์„œ ์ œ๊ฒŒ ๋‘ ๊ฐ€์ง€ ๊ฐ€๋Šฅํ•œ ์ „๋žต์ด ์žˆ๋‹ค๋ฉด,
02:46
I'm sort of figuring out.
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ํ•œ ๋ฒˆ ์•Œ์•„๋ณด๋„๋ก ํ•˜์ฃ .
์ฒซ์งธ, ํ• ๋จธ๋‹ˆ์˜ ์ถฉ๊ณ ๋ฅผ ๋ฐ›์•„๋“ค์—ฌ์„œ
02:48
One, I can take my grandmother's advice
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02:50
and sort of least-expect my way
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๊ธฐ๋Œ€์น˜๋ฅผ ๋‚ฎ์ถ”๊ณ 
02:52
into maybe bumping into the one out of 35 possible men
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๋˜ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์„ ๋งŒ๋‚  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
150๋งŒ ๋ช… ์ธ๊ตฌ์˜ ๋„์‹œ ํ•„๋ผ๋ธํ”ผ์•„์—์„œ
02:56
in the entire 1.5-million-person city of Philadelphia,
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์ œ๊ฒŒ ๋งž๋Š” 35๋ช…์˜ ๋‚จ์„ฑ ๊ฐ€์šด๋ฐ์„œ ๋ง์ด์ฃ .
03:01
or I could try online dating.
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์•„๋‹ˆ๋ฉด, ์˜จ๋ผ์ธ ๊ต์ œ๋ฅผ ํ•  ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:04
Now, I like the idea of online dating,
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์ €๋Š” ์˜จ๋ผ์ธ ๊ต์ œ๋ผ๋Š” ๊ฐœ๋…์„ ์ข‹์•„ํ•ด์š”.
03:06
because it's predicated on an algorithm,
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๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์ด ํŠน์ •ํ•œ ์•Œ๊ณ ๋ฆฌ์ฆ˜์— ์˜ํ•ด ์˜ˆ์ธก์ด ๊ฐ€๋Šฅํ•˜๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์ด์ฃ .
03:08
and that's really just a simple way of saying
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๋˜ ๋งค์šฐ ๊ฐ„๋‹จํ•ด์„œ,
03:10
I've got a problem, I'm going to use some data,
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๋ฌธ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์ƒ๊ฒผ์„ ๊ฒฝ์šฐ ์ž๋ฃŒ๋ฅผ ์กฐ์‚ฌํ•˜๊ณ 
03:12
run it through a system and get to a solution.
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์‹œ์Šคํ…œ์„ ์ด์šฉํ•ด์„œ
ํ•ด๊ฒฐ์ฑ…์„ ์ฐพ์•„๋‚ผ ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์ด์ฃ .
03:16
So online dating is the second most popular way
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์˜จ๋ผ์ธ ๊ต์ œ๋Š” ํ˜„์žฌ
03:18
that people now meet each other,
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์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ์„œ๋กœ๋ฅผ ๋งŒ๋‚˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ๋‘๋ฒˆ์งธ๋กœ ๋„๋ฆฌ ์“ฐ์ด๋Š” ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:20
but as it turns out, algorithms have been around
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ด๋ฏธ ์•Œ๋ ค์ง„ ๊ฒƒ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ, '์•Œ๊ณ ๋ฆฌ์ฆ˜'์ด๋ž€ ๊ฒƒ์€
03:22
for thousands of years in almost every culture.
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๊ฑฐ์˜ ๋ชจ๋“  ๋ฌธํ™”์—์„œ ์ˆ˜์ฒœ ๋…„๊ฐ„ ์กด์žฌํ•ด์˜จ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:25
In fact, in Judaism, there were matchmakers a long time ago,
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์‚ฌ์‹ค, ์œ ๋Œ€๊ต์—์„œ๋Š” ์ค‘๋งค์Ÿ์ด๋ผ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์žˆ์—‡์ฃ 
๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋น„๋ก
03:29
and though they didn't have an explicit algorithm per se,
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๊ทธ๋“ค์ด ๋ถ„๋ช…ํ•œ ์•Œ๊ณ ๋ฆฌ์ฆ˜์„ ๊ฐ–๊ณ  ์žˆ์ง„ ์•Š๋”๋ผ๋„
03:32
they definitely were running through formulas in their heads,
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๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ๋จธ๋ฆฌ ์†์— ํ™•์‹คํ•œ ๊ณต์‹์„ ๊ฐ–๊ณ  ์žˆ์—ˆ์ฃ .
์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด "์ด ์†Œ๋…€๊ฐ€ ์ด ์†Œ๋…„์„ ์ข‹์•„ํ• ๊นŒ?"
03:35
like, is the girl going to like the boy?
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"์ด ๋‘ ์ง‘์•ˆ์€ ์ž˜ ์–ด์šธ๋ฆด๊นŒ?"
03:37
Are the families going to get along?
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03:38
What's the rabbi going to say?
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"๋ž๋น„๋“ค์€ ๋ญ๋ผ๊ณ  ๋งํ• ๊นŒ?"
"๋ฐ”๋กœ ์•„์ด๊ฐ€ ์ƒ๊ธธ๊นŒ?"
03:40
Are they going to start having children right away?
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03:42
The matchmaker would sort of think through all of this,
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ค‘๋งค์Ÿ์ด๋“ค์€ ์ด ๋ชจ๋“  ๊ฒƒ์„ ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ด๋ณด๊ณ 
03:45
put two people together, and that would be the end of it.
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๋‘ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์„ ์—ฎ์–ด์„œ ๊ฒฐ๋ก ์„ ๋ƒˆ์ฃ .
๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์ œ ๊ฒฝ์šฐ์—”, ์ƒ๊ฐํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:48
So in my case, I thought,
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03:49
well, will data and an algorithm lead me to my Prince Charming?
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์ž๋ฃŒ๋‚˜ ์•Œ๊ณ ๋ฆฌ์ฆ˜์ด
๋‚˜๋ฅผ '๋งค๋ ฅ์ ์ธ ์™•์ž'๋‹˜์—๊ฒŒ ์ด๋Œ์–ด์ค„๊นŒ?
03:54
So I decided to sign on.
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ๊ฐ€์ž…ํ•˜๊ธฐ๋กœ ๊ฒฐ์ •ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:56
Now, there was one small catch.
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ๋ฐ, ์ž‘์€ ๋ฌธ์ œ๊ฐ€ ํ•˜๋‚˜ ์žˆ์—ˆ์–ด์š”.
03:57
As I'm signing on to the various dating websites,
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ๋‹ค์–‘ํ•œ ๋ฐ์ดํŠธ ์›น์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ์— ๊ฐ€์ž…ํ•  ๋•Œ์ฏค,
04:00
as it happens, I was really, really busy.
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์ €๋Š” ์•„์ฃผ, ์•„์ฃผ ๋ฐ”๋นด์ฃ .
04:02
But that actually wasn't the biggest problem.
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๊ทธ๊ฒŒ ์ œ์ผ ํฐ ๋ฌธ์ œ๋Š” ์•„๋‹ˆ์—ˆ์–ด์š”.
04:05
The biggest problem is that I hate filling out questionnaires of any kind,
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๋ฌธ์ œ๋Š” ์ œ๊ฐ€
์–ด๋–ค ์ข…๋ฅ˜๋“  ์งˆ๋ฌธ์— ๋‹ต์„ ์ ์–ด๋„ฃ๊ธธ ์‹ซ์–ดํ–ˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:09
and I certainly don't like questionnaires that are like Cosmo quizzes.
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ํŠนํžˆ ์ €๋Š”
์ฝ”์Šค๋ชจ ํ€ด์ฆˆ ๊ฐ™์€ ์งˆ๋ฌธ๋“ค์„ ์ข‹์•„ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์•˜์–ด์š”.
04:13
So I just copied and pasted from my rรฉsumรฉ.
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์ „ ๊ทธ๋ƒฅ ์ œ ์ด๋ ฅ์„œ๋ฅผ ๋ณต์‚ฌํ•ด์„œ ๋ถ™์—ฌ๋„ฃ๊ธฐ ํ–ˆ์–ด์š”.
04:16
(Laughter)
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(์›ƒ์Œ)
04:21
So in the descriptive part up top,
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋ฌ˜์‚ฌํ•˜๋Š” ๋ถ€๋ถ„์—๋Š”
04:24
I said that I was an award-winning journalist
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์ €๋Š” ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์ƒ์„ ๋ฐ›์€ ์ €๋„๋ฆฌ์ŠคํŠธ์ด๋ฉฐ
04:26
and a future thinker.
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๋ฏธ๋ž˜ ์ง€ํ–ฅ์ ์ธ ์‚ฌ์ƒ๊ฐ€๋ผ๊ณ  ์ ์–ด๋„ฃ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:28
When I was asked about fun activities and my ideal date,
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์žฌ๋ฏธ์žˆ๋Š” ํ™œ๋™ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๊ณผ
์ €์˜ ์ด์ƒ์ ์ธ ์ง์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ์งˆ๋ฌธ์—๋Š”
04:31
I said monetization and fluency in Japanese.
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์ €๋Š” ๋ˆ ๋ฒ„๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๊ณผ, ์ผ๋ณธ์–ด์— ๋Šฅ์ˆ™ํ•œ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ์ ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:36
I talked a lot about JavaScript.
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์ €๋Š” ์ž๋ฐ”์Šคํฌ๋ฆฝํŠธ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋งŽ์ด ๋งํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:37
(Laughter)
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๋ช…๋ฐฑํ•˜๊ฒŒ๋„ ์ด๋Ÿฐ ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์€
04:39
So obviously this was not the best way to put my most sexy foot forward.
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์ œ ์„น์‹œํ•œ ๋ฐœ์„ ๋“œ๋Ÿฌ๋‚ด๋ณด์ด๋Š” ์ตœ์„ ์˜ ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์€ ์•„๋‹ˆ์—ˆ์ฃ .
04:45
But the real failure was that there were plenty of men for me to date.
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ง„์งœ ์‹คํŒจ๋Š”,
๊ทธ๊ณณ์—๋Š” ์ €๋ž‘ ๊ต์ œํ• ๋งŒํ•œ ๋‚จ์ž๊ฐ€ ๋งŽ์•˜๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:50
These algorithms had a sea full of men
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์ด ์•Œ๊ณ ๋ฆฌ์ฆ˜์—๋Š” ๋ฐ”๋‹ค๋ฅผ ์ฑ„์šธ๋งŒํผ ๋งŽ์€ ๋‚จ์ž๋“ค์ด
04:52
that wanted to take me out on lots of dates --
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์ €๋ฅผ ๋ฐ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋‚˜๊ฐ€์„œ ๋ฐ์ดํŠธ๋ฅผ ํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์–ดํ–ˆ๋Š”๋ฐ
04:55
what turned out to be truly awful dates.
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๊ทธ ๋ชจ๋‘๋Š” ๊ฒฐ๊ตญ ์ •๋ง ๋”์ฐํ•œ ๋ฐ์ดํŠธ์˜€์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:59
There was this guy Steve, the I.T. guy.
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์Šคํ‹ฐ๋ธŒ๋ผ๋Š” IT๋งจ์ด ์žˆ์—ˆ์ฃ 
05:01
The algorithm matched us up because we share a love of gadgets,
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๋ฐ์ดํŠธ ์›น์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ์˜ ์•Œ๊ณ ๋ฆฌ์ฆ˜์ด
์ €ํฌ๊ฐ€ ๋ชจ๋‘ ๊ฐ€์ ฏ์„ ์ข‹์•„ํ•œ๋‹ค๋Š” ์ด์œ ๋กœ ์ €ํฌ๋ฅผ ์—ฎ์–ด์คฌ์–ด์š”.
05:05
we share a love of math and data and '80s music,
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์ €ํฌ๋Š” ์ˆ˜ํ•™๊ณผ ๋ฐ์ดํ„ฐ๋ฅผ ์‚ฌ๋ž‘ํ•˜๊ณ  80๋…„๋Œ€ ์Œ์•…์„ ์ข‹์•„ํ–ˆ์ฃ .
05:09
and so I agreed to go out with him.
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์ €๋Š” ๊ทธ์™€ ๋ฐ์ดํŠธ๋ฅผ ํ•˜๊ธฐ๋กœ ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:11
So Steve the I.T. guy invited me out
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ IT๋งจ ์Šคํ‹ฐ๋ธŒ๋Š” ์ €๋ฅผ
05:13
to one of Philadelphia's white-table-cloth,
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ํ•„๋ผ๋ธํ”ผ์•„์˜
05:15
extremely expensive restaurants.
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๊ฐ€์žฅ ๋น„์‹ผ ๋ ˆ์Šคํ† ๋ž‘ ์ค‘ ํ•œ ๊ณณ์œผ๋กœ ์ดˆ๋Œ€ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:17
And we went in, and right off the bat,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๋ ˆ์Šคํ† ๋ž‘์— ๋“ค์–ด๊ฐ”๋Š”๋ฐ ๊ณง๋ฐ”๋กœ
05:19
our conversation really wasn't taking flight,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ ๋Œ€ํ™”๋Š” ์ž˜ ์•ˆ ๋งž๊ธฐ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:22
but he was ordering a lot of food.
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๊ทธ๋ž˜๋„ ๊ทธ๋Š” ๋งŽ์€ ์Œ์‹์„ ์ฃผ๋ฌธํ–ˆ์ฃ .
05:24
In fact, he didn't even bother looking at the menu.
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์‚ฌ์‹ค ๊ทธ๋Š” ๋ฉ”๋‰ด๋ฅผ ๋ณด์ง€๋„ ์•Š์•˜์–ด์š”.
๋งŽ์€ ์ „์ฑ„ ์š”๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ์ฃผ๋ฌธํ•˜๊ณ ,
05:27
He was ordering multiple appetizers, multiple entrรฉes, for me as well,
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์ €๋ฅผ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ, ์ฃผ์š”๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๊ฐœ ์ฃผ๋ฌธํ•ด์„œ
05:31
and suddenly there are piles and piles of food on our table,
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๊ฐ‘์ž๊ธฐ ์ €ํฌ ํ…Œ์ด๋ธ”์—๋Š” ์—„์ฒญ๋‚œ ์Œ์‹๊ณผ
๋งŽ์€ ์–‘์˜ ์™€์ธ์ด ์Œ“์˜€์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:34
also lots and lots of bottles of wine.
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05:36
So we're nearing the end of our conversation
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๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ๋‹ค ๋งˆ์น˜๊ณ 
05:38
and the end of dinner, and I've decided
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์ €๋… ์‹์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ๋๋ƒˆ์„ ๋•Œ ์ €๋Š” ๊ฒฐ์‹ฌํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค .
IT๋งจ ์Šคํ‹ฐ๋ธŒ์™€ ์ €๋Š” ์„œ๋กœ ์–ด์šธ๋ฆฌ์ง€ ์•Š๋Š”๋‹ค,
05:40
Steve the I.T. guy and I are really just not meant for each other,
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ๋‚˜ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์นœ๊ตฌ๋กœ์„œ ํ—ค์–ด์ง€๊ธฐ๋กœ ํ–ˆ์ฃ .
05:43
but we'll part ways as friends,
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05:44
when he gets up to go to the bathroom,
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๊ทธ๊ฐ€ ํ™”์žฅ์‹ค์— ๊ฐ„ ์‚ฌ์ด,
05:47
and in the meantime, the bill comes to our table.
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ํ…Œ์ด๋ธ”์— ๊ณ„์‚ฐ์„œ๊ฐ€ ์™”์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ €๋Š” ํ˜„๋Œ€์ ์ธ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์ด์—์š”.
05:51
And listen, I'm a modern woman.
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05:53
I am totally down with splitting the bill.
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๋”์น˜ํŽ˜์ด์— ๋™์˜ํ•˜๋Š” ์—ฌ์ž์—์š”.
05:56
But then Steve the I.T. guy didn't come back.
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ๋ฐ, IT๋งจ ์Šคํ‹ฐ๋ธŒ๋Š” ๋Œ์•„์˜ค์งˆ ์•Š์•˜์–ด์š”. (ํ•œ์ˆจ)
05:59
(Gasping)
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06:00
And that was my entire month's rent.
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๊ทธ ๊ฐ€๊ฒฉ์€ ์ œ ํ•œ๋‹ฌ์น˜ ์ง‘์„ธ์˜€์ง€์š”.
06:03
(Audience gasps)
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06:04
So needless to say, I was not having a good night.
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๋” ๋งํ•  ๊ฒƒ๋„ ์—†์ด, ์ €๋Š” ์ฆ๊ฑฐ์šด ๋ฐค์„ ๋ณด๋‚ด์ง€ ๋ชปํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:08
So I run home, I call my mother, I call my sister,
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์ง‘์œผ๋กœ ๋Œ์•„๊ฐ€์„œ, ์—„๋งˆ์™€ ์–ธ๋‹ˆ์—๊ฒŒ ์ „ํ™”๋ฅผ ํ•˜๊ณ ,
06:11
and as I do, at the end of each one of these terrible, terrible dates,
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์ด๋Ÿฐ ๋”์ฐํ•œ ๋ฐ์ดํŠธ๋ฅผ ๋ฐ˜๋ณตํ•˜๋ฉด์„œ
์ ์ 
06:16
I regale them with the details.
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์ €๋Š”์†Œ์†Œํ•œ ๋‚ด์šฉ์„ ํฌํ•จํ•ด์„œ ๋ชจ๋‘ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๋“ค๋ ค์คฌ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:18
And they say to me,
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๊ทธ๋Ÿผ ๋‘ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์€ ์ €์—๊ฒŒ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ–ˆ์ฃ .
06:20
"Stop complaining."
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"๋ถˆํ‰ ์ข€ ๊ทธ๋งŒํ•ด๋ผ."
06:22
(Laughter)
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(์›ƒ์Œ)
06:23
"You're just being too picky."
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"๋„Œ ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ๊นŒ๋‹ค๋กญ๊ฒŒ ๊ตด์–ด."
06:26
So I said, fine, from here on out I'm only going on dates
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์ €๋Š” ๊ทธ ๋•Œ๋กœ๋ถ€ํ„ฐ
์™€์ดํŒŒ์ด๊ฐ€ ์žˆ๋Š”์ง€ ์•Œ๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ์žฅ์†Œ๋กœ๋งŒ
06:29
where I know there's Wi-Fi, and I'm bringing my laptop.
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๋ฐ์ดํŠธ๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€๊ณ  ์ œ ๋…ธํŠธ๋ถ์„ ๊ฐ€์ ธ๊ฐ€๊ธฐ๋กœ ํ–ˆ์ฃ .
๋…ธํŠธ๋ถ์„ ์ œ ๊ฐ€๋ฐฉ ์†์— ๋„ฃ์–ด์„œ
06:32
I'm going to shove it into my bag,
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06:33
I'm going to have this email template,
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์ด๋ฉ”์ผ ํ…œํ”Œ๋ฆฟ ์œ„์—
06:35
and I'm going to fill it out and collect information
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ๋ชจ์€ ๋ชจ๋“  ์ •๋ณด๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€๋“ ์ฑ„์›Œ
๋ฐ์ดํŠธ๋ฅผ ํ•˜๋ฉด์„œ ๊ฒช์€ ๋ชจ๋“  ์‚ฌํ•ญ์„ ๊ธฐ๋กํ•ด์„œ
06:38
on all these different data points during the date
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06:40
to prove to everybody that empirically,
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๋ชจ๋“  ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ๊ฒฝํ—˜์„ ํ†ตํ•ด์„œ ์ฆ๋ช…ํ•˜๊ณ ์ž ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:42
these dates really are terrible.
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์ด๋Ÿฐ ๋ฐ์ดํŠธ๋“ค์ด ์ •๋ง ๋”์ฐํ•˜๋‹ค๋Š” ์‚ฌ์‹ค์„์š”.(์›ƒ์Œ)
06:44
(Laughter)
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์ €๋Š”
06:45
So I started tracking things like really stupid, awkward, sexual remarks;
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์ •๋ง ์šฐ์Šค๊ฝ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ณ , ์ด์ƒํ•˜๊ณ , ์„ฑ์ ์ธ ๊ฒƒ๋“ค
06:49
bad vocabulary;
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋‚˜์œ ๋ง๋“ค
06:51
the number of times a man forced me to high-five him.
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๋˜ ๊ทธ ๋‚จ์ž๋“ค์ด ์ €์—๊ฒŒ ํ•˜์ดํŒŒ์ด๋ธŒ๋ฅผ ๋ช‡๋ฒˆ์ด๋‚˜ ์‹œ์ผฐ๋Š”์ง€ ๋“ฑ์„ ๊ธฐ๋กํ•˜๊ธฐ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:54
(Laughter)
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(์›ƒ์Œ)
06:56
So I started to crunch some numbers,
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์ ์  ์–ด๋Š ์ •๋„ ๋นจ๋ฆฌ ์ •๋ณด๋ฅผ ์ฒ˜๋ฆฌํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ฒŒ ๋๊ณ 
๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ๋“ค์˜ ์ƒ๊ด€ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ์ด๋Œ์–ด๋‚ผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ฒŒ ๋์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:01
and that allowed me to make some correlations.
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07:03
So as it turns out,
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ์ž, ์ด๋Ÿฐ ์‚ฌ์‹ค๋“ค์ด ๋ฐํ˜€์ง€๊ธฐ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ–ˆ์–ด์š”.
07:06
for some reason, men who drink Scotch reference kinky sex immediately.
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์–ด๋–ค ์ด์œ ์ธ์ง€ ์Šค์นด์น˜ ์œ„์Šคํ‚ค๋ฅผ ๋งˆ์‹œ๋Š” ๋‚จ์ž๋“ค์€
๋ฐ”๋กœ ๋ณ€ํƒœ์ ์ธ ์„น์Šค๋ฅผ ์–ธ๊ธ‰ํ•˜๋”๊ตฐ์š”.
07:11
(Laughter)
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(์›ƒ์Œ)
07:13
Well, it turns out that these probably weren't bad guys.
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์ด ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์€
๋‚˜์œ ๋‚จ์ž๋“ค์€ ์•„๋‹Œ ๊ฒƒ์œผ๋กœ ๋‚˜ํƒ€๋‚ฌ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:17
There were just bad for me.
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๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ์ €์—๊ฒŒ ๋งž์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด์—ˆ์ฃ .
07:19
And as it happens, the algorithms that were setting us up,
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์ €ํฌ๋ฅผ ๋ฌถ์–ด์คฌ๋˜ ์•Œ๊ณ ๋ฆฌ์ฆ˜ ์—ญ์‹œ
07:23
they weren't bad either.
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๋‚˜์˜์ง€๋งŽ์€ ์•Š์•˜์–ด์š”.
07:24
These algorithms were doing exactly what they were designed to do,
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์ด ์•Œ๊ณ ๋ฆฌ์ฆ˜๋“ค์€ ์ •ํ™•ํžˆ
์ž์‹ ์ด ํ•ด์•ผํ•  ์ผ์„ ํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ์—ˆ์–ด์š”.
์ œ ์‚ฌ์šฉ์ž ์ •๋ณด์™€
07:28
which was to take our user-generated information,
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07:30
in my case, my rรฉsumรฉ,
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์ €์˜ ๊ฒฝ์šฐ์—๋Š” ์ด๋ ฅ์„œ์˜€๋Š”๋ฐ,
07:32
and match it up with other people's information.
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๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์˜ ์ •๋ณด๋ฅผ ์—ฐ๊ฒฐ์‹œ์ผฐ์ฃ .
07:35
See, the real problem here is that,
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์ง„์งœ ๋ฌธ์ œ๋Š”
์•Œ๊ณ ๋ฆฌ์ฆ˜์€ ์ œ๋Œ€๋กœ ์ž‘๋™ํ•˜๋Š”๋ฐ,
07:37
while the algorithms work just fine,
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07:38
you and I don't,
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„๊ณผ ์ œ๊ฐ€
07:40
when confronted with blank windows
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์ •๋ณด๋ฅผ ์ž…๋ ฅํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด
07:42
where we're supposed to input our information online.
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์˜จ๋ผ์ธ์—์„œ ๋นˆ ์นธ์„ ๋งˆ์ฃผํ•  ๋• ๊ทธ๋ ‡์ง€ ์•Š์•˜๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:44
Very few of us have the ability
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ ์ค‘ ์•„์ฃผ ์ ์€ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค๋งŒ์ด
07:46
to be totally and brutally honest with ourselves.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ ์ž์‹ ์—๊ฒŒ ์™„์ „ํžˆ ์†”์งํ•œ ๋Šฅ๋ ฅ์„ ๊ฐ–๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:50
The other problem is that these websites are asking us
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๋˜ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ๋ฌธ์ œ๋Š”, ์ด๋Ÿฐ ์›น์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ๋“ค์€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์—๊ฒŒ ๋‹ค์Œ๊ณผ ๊ฐ™์€ ์งˆ๋ฌธ์„ ํ•œ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:52
questions like, are you a dog person or a cat person?
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๋‹น์‹ ์€ ๊ฐœ๋ฅผ ์ข‹์•„ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๊นŒ, ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ฉด ๊ณ ์–‘์ด๋ฅผ ์ข‹์•„ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๊นŒ?
07:55
Do you like horror films or romance films?
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๊ณตํฌ ์˜ํ™”๋ฅผ ์ข‹์•„ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๊นŒ ํ˜น์€ ๋กœ๋งจ์Šค ์˜ํ™”๋ฅผ ์ข‹์•„ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๊นŒ?
07:58
I'm not looking for a pen pal.
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์ €๋Š” ํŽœํŒ”์„ ์ฐพ๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ์—์š”.
08:00
I'm looking for a husband. Right?
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๋‚จํŽธ๊ฐ์„ ์ฐพ๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฑฐ์—์š”. ๊ทธ๋ ‡์ฃ ?
08:02
So there's a certain amount of superficiality in that data.
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ์˜ ์ž๋ฃŒ์—๋Š” ์ผ์ • ์ˆ˜์ค€์˜ ํ”ผ์ƒ์„ฑ์ด ์กด์žฌํ•˜์ฃ .
08:05
So I said fine, I've got a new plan.
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์ €๋Š” ์Šค์Šค๋กœ "์ข‹์•„, ์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ๊ณ„ํš์ด ์žˆ์–ด"๋ผ๊ณ  ๋งํ–ˆ์ฃ .
08:08
I'm going to keep using these online dating sites,
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์ด ์›น์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ๋Š” ๊ณ„์† ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ,
08:10
but I'm going to treat them as databases,
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๋‚˜๋Š” ๊ทธ๊ฑธ ๋ฐ์ดํ„ฐ๋ฒ ์ด์Šค๋กœ๋งŒ ์“ฐ๊ฒ ๋‹ค.
๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์•Œ๊ณ ๋ฆฌ์ฆ˜์ด ๋‚˜๋ฅผ ๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€์™€ ์—ฐ๊ฒฐ์‹œํ‚ค๊ธฐ ์ „์—
08:13
and rather than waiting for an algorithm to set me up,
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08:15
I think I'm going to try reverse-engineering this entire system.
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์ด ์‹œ์Šคํ…œ ์ „์ฒด๋ฅผ ๊ฑฐ๊พธ๋กœ ์ž‘๋™์‹œ์ผœ๋ณด๊ฒ ๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋ง์ด์ฃ .
08:19
So knowing that there was superficial data
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ์ถ”์ƒ์ ์ธ ์ž๋ฃŒ๋“ค์ด
08:22
that was being used to match me up with other people,
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๋‚˜๋ฅผ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค๊ณผ ๋งบ์–ด์ฃผ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์•Œ๋ฉด์„œ
08:24
I decided instead to ask my own questions.
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์ €๋Š” ์ €๋งŒ์˜ ์งˆ๋ฌธ๋“ค์„ ๋˜์ ธ๋ณด๊ธฐ๋กœ ๊ฒฐ์ •ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:27
What was every single possible thing
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ์ œ ์ง์—๊ฒŒ ๊ธฐ๋Œ€ํ•˜๋Š”
๊ฐ€๋Šฅํ•œ ๋ชจ๋“  ๊ฒƒ๋“ค์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ์งˆ๋ฌธ์ด์š”.
08:29
that I could think of that I was looking for in a mate?
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08:31
So I started writing
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์ ๊ณ  ์ ๊ณ  ๋˜ ์ ๊ธฐ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ•ด์„œ
08:33
and writing and writing,
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08:36
and at the end, I had amassed 72 different data points.
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๊ฒฐ๊ตญ์—๋Š”
72๊ฐœ์˜ ์„œ๋กœ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์ž๋ฃŒ ๋ชฉ๋ก๋ฅผ ๋ชจ์•˜์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:41
I wanted somebody was Jew-ish,
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์ €๋Š” ์œ ํƒœ์ธ ์ง์„ ๋งŒ๋‚˜๊ธธ ์›ํ–ˆ์ฃ .
08:43
so I was looking for somebody
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์ €๋Š” ๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€ ์ €์˜ ๋ฌธํ™”์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด
08:45
who had the same background and thoughts on our culture,
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๊ฐ™์€ ๋ฐฐ๊ฒฝ๊ณผ ์ƒ๊ฐ์ด์ง€๋งŒ
08:47
but wasn't going to force me to go to shul every Friday and Saturday.
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๊ธˆ์š”์ผ, ํ† ์š”์ผ๋งˆ๋‹ค ์ €๋ฅผ
์œ ํƒœ์ธ๊ตํšŒ์— ๋ณด๋‚ด์ง€๋Š” ์•Š์„ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์„ ์ฐพ๊ณ  ์žˆ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:51
I wanted somebody who worked hard,
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์ €๋Š” ๋˜ ์—ด์‹ฌํžˆ ์ผํ•˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์„ ์›ํ–ˆ์–ด์š”.
08:53
because work for me is extremely important,
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์ €์—๊ฒ ์ผ์ด ์•„์ฃผ ์ค‘์š”ํ–ˆ์œผ๋‹ˆ๊นŒ์š”.
08:55
but not too hard.
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ๋‚˜ ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋งŒ์„ ์ฐพ์ง„ ์•Š์•˜์–ด์š”.
์ €์—๊ฒŒ ์žˆ์–ด, ์ด๋Ÿฐ ์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ์ทจ๋ฏธ๋Š”
08:57
For me, the hobbies that I have
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08:58
are really just new work projects that I've launched.
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ•œ ์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ํ”„๋กœ์ ํŠธ ๊ฐ™์€ ๊ฒƒ์ด์—ˆ์ฃ .
09:01
I also wanted somebody who not only wanted two children,
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๋˜ ์ €๋Š” 2๋ช…์˜ ์ž๋…€๋ฅผ ์›ํ•˜๊ณ ,
09:04
but was going to have the same attitude toward parenting that I do,
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์ €์™€ ๊ฐ™์€ ์–‘์œก์Šคํƒ€์ผ์„ ๊ฐ€์ง„ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ,
09:07
so somebody who was going to be totally okay
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์•„์ด๊ฐ€ 3์„ธ๊ฐ€ ๋์„ ๋•Œ๋ถ€ํ„ฐ
09:09
with forcing our child to start taking piano lessons at age three,
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ํ”ผ์•„๋…ธ ๋ ˆ์Šจ์„ ๋ณด๋‚ด๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด๋‚˜
๋˜, ์ปดํ“จํ„ฐ ๊ณผํ•™ ์ˆ˜์—…์„ ๋“ฃ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์— ๋™์˜ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์„ ์›ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:13
and also maybe computer science classes if we could wrangle it.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๋…ผ์˜์„ ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋‹ค๋ฉด ๋ง์ด์ฃ .
09:18
So things like that, but I also wanted somebody
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๋˜ํ•œ, ์ €๋Š”
09:20
who would go to far-flung, exotic places, like Petra, Jordan.
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๋ฉ€๋ฆฌ ๋–จ์–ด์ง„ ์ด๊ตญ์ ์ธ ์žฅ์†Œ์— ๊ฐ€๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์ข‹์•„ํ•˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์„ ์›ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
ํŽ˜ํŠธ๋ผ, ์š”๋ฅด๋‹จ ๊ฐ™์€ ๊ณณ์ด์š”.
๋˜ ์ €๋Š” ์ €๋ณด๋‹ค ๋ชธ๋ฌด๊ฒŒ๊ฐ€
09:24
I also wanted somebody who would weigh 20 pounds more than me at all times,
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ํ•ญ์ƒ 20ํŒŒ์šด๋“œ ์ด์ƒ ๋‚˜๊ฐ€๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์„ ์›ํ–ˆ์–ด์š”.
09:27
regardless of what I weighed.
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์ œ ๋ชธ๋ฌด๊ฒŒ๊ฐ€ ์–ผ๋งˆ๊ฐ€ ๋‚˜๊ฐ€๋“ ์ง€ ๋ง์ด์—์š”.
(์›ƒ์Œ)
09:29
(Laughter)
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09:31
So I now have these 72 different data points,
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๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ 72๊ฐœ์˜ ๊ธฐ์ค€ ์ž๋ฃŒ๋ฅผ ์™„์„ฑํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:34
which, to be fair, is a lot.
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์†”์งํžˆ ์ข€ ๋งŽ์€ ํŽธ์ด์ฃ .
09:36
So what I did was, I went through and I prioritized that list.
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ๊ทธ ๋ชฉ๋ก์„ ์ฒœ์ฒœํžˆ ๋ณด๊ณ 
์šฐ์„  ์ˆœ์œ„๋ฅผ ๋งค๊ฒผ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:39
I broke it into a top tier and a second tier of points,
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๊ธฐ์ค€์„ ์ค‘์‹ฌ์œผ๋กœ 1๋“ฑ๊ธ‰, 2๋“ฑ๊ธ‰์œผ๋กœ ๋‚˜๋ˆ„๊ณ 
09:43
and I ranked everything starting at 100
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๊ฐ๊ฐ์˜ ๋ฆฌ์ŠคํŠธ์— 100๋ถ€ํ„ฐ
09:46
and going all the way down to 91,
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91๊นŒ์ง€ ์ˆœ์œ„๋ฅผ ๋งค๊ฒผ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:48
and listing things like I was looking for somebody who was really smart,
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ง„์งœ ๋˜‘๋˜‘ํ•œ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ, ์ €์™€ ๋…ผ์Ÿ์„ ํ•˜๊ณ  ์ง€์ ์œผ๋กœ ์ž๊ทน์„ ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์„
์ฐพ๊ณ  ์žˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๋“ฑ์˜ ๋ชฉ๋ก์„ ๋งŒ๋“ค์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:52
who would challenge and stimulate me,
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๊ทธ ๋ชฉ๋ก์„ 2๋“ฑ๊ธ‰ ํ•ญ๋ชฉ๊ณผ
09:54
and balancing that with a second tier and a second set of points.
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ํ•˜์œ„ ๊ธฐ์ค€์ ์— ๊ท ํ˜•์„ ๋งž์ถ”์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:57
These things were also important to me but not necessarily deal-breakers.
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์ด๋Ÿฐ ๊ฒƒ๋“ค๋„ ์ œ๊ฒ ์ค‘์š”ํ–ˆ์ง€๋งŒ,
๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ๋๋‚ผ ์ •๋„์˜ ๊ฒƒ์€ ์•„๋‹ˆ์—ˆ์ง€์š”.
10:02
(Laughter)
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10:04
So once I had all this done, I then built a scoring system,
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์ด ์ž‘์—…์„ ๋ชจ๋‘ ๋๋‚ธ ํ›„์—,
์ €๋Š” ์ ์ˆ˜ ์ฒด๊ณ„์„ ๋งŒ๋“ค์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:07
because what I wanted to do was to sort of mathematically calculate
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์™œ๋ƒํ•˜๋ฉด ์ œ๊ฐ€ ํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์—ˆ๋˜ ๊ฒƒ์€
๋งํ•˜์ž๋ฉด
10:11
whether or not I thought the guy that I found online
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์˜จ๋ผ์ธ์—์„œ ์ฐพ์•„๋‚ธ ๋‚จ์ž๊ฐ€ ์ €์—๊ฒŒ ์–ด์šธ๋ฆฐ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•˜๋Š”์ง€ ์•„๋‹Œ์ง€๋ฅผ
10:14
would be a match with me.
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์ˆ˜ํ•™์ ์œผ๋กœ ๊ณ„์‚ฐํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด์—ˆ๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์ด์ฃ .
10:15
I figured there would be a minimum of 700 points
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๊ณง ์ €๋Š” ์ตœ์†Œํ•œ 700์ ์ด ๋ผ์•ผ
10:18
before I would agree to email somebody or respond to an email message.
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€์—๊ฒŒ ์ด๋ฉ”์ผ์„ ๋ณด๋‚ด๊ณ 
๊ทธ ๋ฐ˜์‘์„ ๊ธฐ๋‹ค๋ ค๋ณผ ๊ฐ€์น˜๊ฐ€ ์žˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฑธ ์•Œ๊ฒŒ ๋์ฃ .
10:21
For 900 points, I'd agree to go out on a date,
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900์  ์ด์ƒ์€, ๋ฐ์ดํŠธ๋ฅผ ๋‚˜๊ฐˆ ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ์—ˆ๊ณ 
๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€๊ฐ€ 1,500์ ์˜ ๋ฌธํ„ฑ์„ ๋„˜๊ธฐ ์ „์—๋Š”
10:24
and I wouldn't even consider any kind of relationship
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10:26
before somebody had crossed the 1,500 point threshold.
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์–ด๋–ค ์ง„์ง€ํ•œ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋„ ๊ณ ๋ คํ•ด ๋ณผ ํ•„์š”๊ฐ€ ์—†๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฑธ ์•Œ๊ฒŒ ๋์ฃ .
10:30
Well, as it turns out, this worked pretty well.
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์‚ฌ์‹ค ์ด๋Ÿฐ ์ฒด๊ณ„์€ ๋งค์šฐ ์ž˜ ์ ์šฉ๋์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:33
So I go back online now.
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ๋‹ค์‹œ ์˜จ๋ผ์ธ์œผ๋กœ ๋Œ์•„๊ฐ€
10:35
I found Jewishdoc57
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Jewishdoc57์ด๋ผ๋Š” ์•„์ด๋””๋ฅผ ์“ฐ๋Š”
10:38
who's incredibly good-looking, incredibly well-spoken,
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๋งค์šฐ ์ž˜์ƒ๊ฒผ๊ณ , ๋ง๋„ ์ž˜ํ•˜๊ณ ,
10:41
he had hiked Mt. Fuji,
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ํ›„์ง€์‚ฐ์„ ๋“ฑ์‚ฐํ•ด๋ณธ ์ ๋„ ์žˆ์œผ๋ฉฐ
10:42
he had walked along the Great Wall.
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๋งŒ๋ฆฌ์žฅ์„ฑ๋„ ๊ฑธ์–ด๋ณธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์„ ์ฐพ์•„๋ƒˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:44
He likes to travel
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๊ทธ๋Š” ํฌ๋ฃจ์ฆˆ๋ฅผ ํƒ€๋Š” ์—ฌํ–‰์„ ์ œ์™ธํ•˜๋ฉด ์–ด๋–ค ์—ฌํ–‰์ด๋“  ํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์–ดํ–ˆ์ฃ .
10:45
as long as it doesn't involve a cruise ship.
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์ €๋Š” ์ƒ๊ฐํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. "๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ํ•ด๋ƒˆ์–ด!"
10:48
And I thought,
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10:49
I've done it!
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10:50
I've cracked the code.
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"๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ๋น„๋ฐ€์˜ ์ฝ”๋“œ๋ฅผ ๋šซ์–ด๋ƒˆ์–ด."
10:52
I have just found the Jewish Prince Charming
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์ €๋Š” ์ด์ œ ๋ง‰ ์ œ ๊ฐ€์กฑ์ด ๊ฟˆ๊พธ๋Š”
10:56
of my family's dreams.
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'๋งค๋ ฅ๋‚จ ์œ ๋Œ€์ธ ์™•์ž'๋ฅผ ์ฐพ์•„๋‚ธ ๊ฑฐ์ฃ .
10:58
There was only one problem:
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ๋ฐ ํ•œ ๊ฐ€์ง€ ๋ฌธ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๊ทธ๊ฐ€ ์ €๋ฅผ ์ข‹์•„ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๋Š”๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด์—ˆ์–ด์š”.
11:01
He didn't like me back.
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11:03
And I guess the one variable that I haven't considered
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ €๋Š” ์ œ๊ฐ€ ๊ณ ๋ คํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์€ ํ•˜๋‚˜์˜ ๋ณ€์ˆ˜๊ฐ€
11:06
is the competition.
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๊ฒฝ์Ÿ์ด์—ˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์•Œ๊ฒŒ ๋์ฃ .
11:08
Who are all of the other women on these dating sites?
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์ด๋Ÿฐ ๋ฐ์ดํŠธ ์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ์˜ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์—ฌ์ž๋“ค์€
๋„๋Œ€์ฒด ๋ˆ„๊ตด๊นŒ์š”?
11:12
I found SmileyGirl1978.
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SmileyGirl1978์ด๋ž€ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์„ ์ฐพ์•„๋ƒˆ์ฃ .
11:16
She said she was a "Fun girl who is Happy and Outgoing."
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๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” "๋ช…๋ž‘ํ•˜๊ณ  ์‚ฌ๊ต์ ์ธ ์žฌ๋ฏธ์žˆ๋Š” ์—ฌ์ž"๋ผ๊ณ  ์ž๊ธธ ์†Œ๊ฐœํ–ˆ๋”๊ตฐ์š”.
11:19
She listed her job as "teacher."
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๊ทธ๋…€์˜ ์ง์—…์„ ์„ ์ƒ๋‹˜์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ์ ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:20
She said she is "silly, nice and friendly."
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๋˜ "ํ‘ผ์ˆ˜๊ฐ™์ง€๋งŒ, ๋ฉ‹์žˆ๊ณ  ๋‹ค์ •ํ•˜๋‹ค"๊ณ  ์ ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:23
She likes to make people laugh "alot."
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๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์„ ์›ƒ๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ '์•„์ฃผ' ์ข‹์•„ํ•œ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ ์—ˆ๊ตฌ์š”.
11:25
At this moment I knew,
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์ด ์‹œ์ ์— ์ด๋ฅด์ž ์ €๋Š”
11:27
clicking profile after profile that looked like this,
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๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์˜ ํ”„๋กœํ•„์„ ์—ฐ์ด์–ด ์ฐพ์•„๋ณด๋ฉด์„œ
11:30
that I needed to do some market research.
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์‹œ์žฅ ์กฐ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ์ข€ ํ•ด์•ผ๊ฒ ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฑธ ๊นจ๋‹ฌ์•˜์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์ €๋Š” 10๊ฐœ์˜ ๊ฐ€์งœ ๋‚จ์ž ํ”„๋กœํ•„์„ ๋งŒ๋“ค์—ˆ์ฃ .
11:33
So I created 10 fake male profiles.
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11:35
Now, before I lose all of you --
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์ž ๊น, ๋‹ค๋“ค ์ €์—๊ฒŒ ์งˆ์ƒ‰ํ•˜๊ธฐ ์ „์—,
11:38
(Laughter) --
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(์›ƒ์Œ)
์ €๋Š” ์ด๊ฒƒ์„
11:41
understand that I did this strictly to gather data
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์—„๋ฐ€ํžˆ ๋งํ•ด์„œ ์ด ์‹œ์Šคํ…œ์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋Š”
11:46
about everybody else in the system.
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๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์˜ ์ž๋ฃŒ๋ฅผ ๋ชจ์œผ๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:47
I didn't carry on crazy Catfish-style relationships with anybody.
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๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค๊ณผ ๋น„์ •์ƒ์ ์ธ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ํ•˜์ง„ ์•Š์•˜์–ด์š”.
11:52
I really was just scraping their data.
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์ €๋Š” ๊ทธ์ € ๋‹จ์ˆœํžˆ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์ด๋“ค์˜ ์ž๋ฃŒ๋ฅผ ์ถ•์ ํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ์—ˆ์„ ๋ฟ์ด์—์š”.
11:54
But I didn't want everybody's data.
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๋‹จ ์ œ๊ฐ€ ๋ชจ๋“  ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์˜ ์ž๋ฃŒ๋ฅผ ์›ํ–ˆ๋˜ ๊ฒƒ์€ ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:56
I only wanted data on the women who were going to be attracted
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์ €๋Š” ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์ •๋ง ๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์€
๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ๋‚จ์ž๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ๋งค๋ ฅ์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋ณด์ผ๋งŒํ•œ
11:59
to the type of man that I really, really wanted to marry.
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ์—ฌ์ž๋“ค์˜ ์ž๋ฃŒ๋งŒ์„ ์›ํ–ˆ์–ด์š”. (์›ƒ์Œ)
12:02
When I released these men into the wild,
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ์ด ๊ฐ€์งœ ๋‚จ์ž๋“ค์˜ ํ”„๋กœํ•„์„ ์˜ฌ๋ฆด ๋•Œ
12:06
I did follow some rules.
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์ €๋Š” ๋ช‡๊ฐ€์ง€ ๊ทœ์น™์„ ๋”ฐ๋ž์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
12:07
So I didn't reach out to any woman first.
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์•„๋ฌด ์—ฌ์ž์—๊ฒŒ๋‚˜ ์—ฐ๋ฝ์„ ํ•˜์ง„ ์•Š์•˜์–ด์š”.
12:09
I just waited to see who these profiles were going to attract,
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์ „ ๋‹จ์ง€ ์ด ํ”„๋กœํ•„๋“ค์ด ๋ˆ„๊ตฌ์˜ ๊ด€์‹ฌ์„ ๋„๋Š”์ง€ ์•Œ๊ณ  ์‹ถ์—ˆ๊ณ ,
12:12
and mainly what I was looking at was two different data sets.
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์ฃผ๋กœ ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์ฐพ๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฑด ๋‹ค๋ฅธ 2์ข…๋ฅ˜์˜ ์ž๋ฃŒ์˜€์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
12:16
So I was looking at qualitative data,
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์ €๋Š” ์งˆ์ ์ธ ์ž๋ฃŒ,
12:17
so what was the humor, the tone,
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์ฆ‰, ์ด๋Ÿฐ ์—ฌ์ž๋“ค์ด ๊ณตํ†ต์ ์œผ๋กœ ๊ฐ–๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ์œ ๋จธ, ๋งํˆฌ,
12:19
the voice, the communication style
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๋ชฉ์†Œ๋ฆฌ, ์†Œํ†ต ๋ฐฉ์‹
12:21
that these women shared in common?
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๋“ฑ์„ ์ฐพ๊ธฐ๋กœ ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
12:23
And also quantitative data,
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๋˜, ์–‘์ ์ธ ์ž๋ฃŒ,
12:24
so what was the average length of their profile,
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์ฆ‰ ๊ทธ ์—ฌ์ž๋“ค ํ”„๋กœํ•„์˜ ํ‰๊ท ์ ์ธ ๊ธธ์ด,
12:26
how much time was spent between messages?
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์—ฐ๋ฝํ•˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ์ด์— ์–ผ๋งˆ๋‚˜ ๊ธด ์‹œ๊ฐ„์ด ์žˆ์—ˆ๋Š”๊ฐ€? ๋“ฑ์„ ์ฐพ์•˜์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
์ œ๊ฐ€ ์ง„์งœํ•˜ ๋ ค๊ณ  ํ–ˆ๋˜ ๊ฒƒ์€,
12:29
What I was trying to get at here was that I figured, in person,
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ๊ฐœ์ธ์œผ๋กœ์„œ
12:32
I would be just as competitive as a SmileyGirl1978.
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SmileyGirl1978๋งŒํผ
๋งค๋ ฅ์ ์ด ๋˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
12:35
I wanted to figure out how to maximize my own profile online.
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์ €๋Š” ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๋ฉด ์ €์˜
์˜จ๋ผ์ธ ํ”„๋กœํ•„์„ ๊ทน๋Œ€ํ™”ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š”์ง€ ์•Œ๊ณ  ์‹ถ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
12:40
Well, one month later,
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ํ•œ๋‹ฌ ์ฏค ํ›„์—,
12:42
I had a lot of data, and I was able to do another analysis.
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์ €๋Š” ๋งŽ์€ ์ž๋ฃŒ๋ฅผ ๋ชจ์•˜๊ณ , ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ๋ถ„์„์„ ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
12:46
And as it turns out, content matters a lot.
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ํ”„๋กœํ•„์˜ ๋‚ด์šฉ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•˜๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด์—ˆ์ฃ .
12:49
So smart people tend to write a lot --
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๋˜‘๋˜‘ํ•œ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์€ ๋งŽ์€ ๊ฒƒ๋“ค์„ ์“ฐ๋Š” ์„ฑํ–ฅ์ด ์žˆ์—ˆ์–ด์š”.
3์ฒœ, 4์ฒœ,
12:52
3,000, 4,000, 5,000 words about themselves,
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5์ฒœ๊ฐœ์˜ ๋‹จ์–ด๋ฅผ ๊ทธ๋“ค ์ž์‹ ์„ ์†Œ๊ฐœํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ์ผ์ฃ .
12:55
which may all be very, very interesting.
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋ชจ๋‘ ํ•˜๋‚˜๊ฐ™์ด ํฅ๋ฏธ๋กœ์šด ์†Œ๊ฐœ์˜€์–ด์š”.
12:57
The challenge here, though, is that the popular men and women
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์—ฌ๊ธฐ์„œ ์–ด๋ ค์› ๋˜ ๊ฒƒ์€
์ธ๊ธฐ์žˆ๋Š” ๋‚จ์ž๋‚˜ ์—ฌ์ž๋“ค์€,
13:00
are sticking to 97 words on average
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ํ‰๊ท ์ ์œผ๋กœ 97๊ฐœ์˜ ๋‹จ์–ด๋“ค์„
13:03
that are written very, very well,
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์•„์ฃผ, ์•„์ฃผ ์ž˜ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ–ˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
13:05
even though it may not seem like it all the time.
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๋ฌผ๋ก  ํ•ญ์ƒ ๊ทธ๋žฌ๋˜ ๊ฒƒ์€ ์•„๋‹ˆ์ง€๋งŒ์š”.
13:08
The other hallmark of the people who do this well
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์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ์˜จ๋ผ์ธ ๋ฐ์ดํŠธ๋ฅผ ์ž˜ํ•˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์˜ ๋˜ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ํŠน์ง•์€
13:10
is that they're using non-specific language.
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๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ๋ถˆํŠน์ •ํ•œ ์–ธ์–ด๋ฅผ ์“ด๋‹ค๋Š” ์ ์ด์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค๋ฉด,
13:13
So in my case,
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13:14
"The English Patient" is my most favorite movie ever,
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"์ž‰๊ธ€๋ฆฌ์‰ฌ ํŽ˜์ด์…˜ํŠธ"๋Š” ์ œ๊ฐ€ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ข‹์•„ํ•˜๋Š” ์˜ํ™”์ธ๋ฐ,
13:17
but it doesn't work to use that in a profile,
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ํ”„๋กœํ•„์— ๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ์ ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋„์›€์ด ๋˜์ง€ ์•Š์•˜์–ด์š”.
13:21
because that's a superficial data point,
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์™œ๋ƒํ•˜๋ฉด ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ํ”ผ์ƒ์ ์ธ ์ž๋ฃŒ์ธ๋ฐ,
๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€ ์ €์™€ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์ทจํ–ฅ์„ ๊ฐ–๊ณ  ์žˆ์–ด์„œ
13:23
and somebody may disagree
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13:24
and decide they don't want to go out
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3์‹œ๊ฐ„ ๋™์•ˆ ๊ทน์žฅ์— ์•‰์•„์žˆ๊ณ  ์‹ถ์ง€ ์•Š๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์—
์ €์™€ ๋ฐ์ดํŠธ๋ฅผ ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์œผ๋ ค ํ•  ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์ด์ฃ .
13:26
because they didn't like sitting through the three-hour movie.
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๋˜ํ•œ, ๊ธ์ •์ ์ธ ์–ธ์–ด๊ฐ€ ์•„์ฃผ ์ค‘์š”ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
13:29
Also, optimistic language matters a lot.
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์ง€๊ธˆ ์ด๊ฒƒ์€
13:31
So this is a word cloud
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13:32
highlighting the most popular words that were used
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์ธ๊ธฐ ๋งŽ์€ ์—ฌ์ž๋“ค ์‚ฌ์ด์—์„œ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ž์ฃผ ์‚ฌ์šฉ๋œ ๋‹จ์–ด๋ฅผ
13:34
by the most popular women,
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๋ณด์—ฌ์ค๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
13:36
words like "fun" and "girl" and "love."
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"์žฌ๋ฏธ์žˆ๋Š”", "์—ฌ์ž", "์‚ฌ๋ž‘" ๊ฐ™์€ ๋‹จ์–ด๋“ค ๋ง์ด์ฃ .
13:38
And what I realized was not that I had to dumb down my own profile.
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๋˜ ํ•˜๋‚˜ ๊นจ๋‹ฌ์€ ๊ฒƒ์€
์ œ ํ”„๋กœํ•„์„ '๋œ ๋˜‘๋˜‘ํ•ด' ๋ณด์ด๋„๋ก ํ–ˆ์–ด์•ผ ํ•œ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด์—ˆ์–ด์š”.
13:42
Remember, I'm somebody who said
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๊ธฐ์–ต๋‚˜์‹œ์ฃ ? ์ €๋Š” ์ € ์ž์‹ ์„
13:43
that I speak fluent Japanese and I know JavaScript
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์ผ๋ณธ์–ด์— ๋Šฅํ•˜๊ณ  ์ž๋ฐ”์Šคํฌ๋ฆฝํŠธ๋ฅผ ๋‹ค๋ฃฐ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ์—ฌ์ž๋ผ๊ณ  ์ ์—ˆ๊ณ ,
13:46
and I was okay with that.
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ๊ฒƒ๋“ค์„ ์ข‹์•„ํ•œ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
13:48
The difference is that it's about being more approachable
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์ฐจ์ด์ ์€ ํƒ€์ธ์—๊ฒŒ ๋” ์ ‘๊ทผํ•˜๊ธฐ ์‰ฌ์šด ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด ๋˜๊ณ ,
13:51
and helping people understand the best way to reach out to you.
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๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ์ž์‹ ์—๊ฒŒ ์ ‘๊ทผํ•˜๋Š”
์‰ฌ์šด ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์„ ์•Œ๊ฒŒ๋” ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด์—ˆ์ฃ .
13:55
And as it turns out, timing is also really, really important.
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๋˜ ํ•œ๊ฐ€์ง€, ํƒ€์ด๋ฐ์ด ์ •๋ง, ์ •๋ง ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€์˜
13:58
Just because you have access to somebody's mobile phone number
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ํœด๋Œ€ํฐ ๋ฒˆํ˜ธ๋ฅผ ์•Œ๊ณ  ์žˆ๊ฑฐ๋‚˜
14:01
or their instant message account
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์ด๋ฉ”์ผ ์ฃผ์†Œ๋ฅผ ์•Œ๊ณ  ์žˆ๊ณ 
14:03
and it's 2 o'clock in the morning and you happen to be awake,
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์ƒˆ๋ฒฝ 2์‹œ์— ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ๊นจ์–ด์žˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ํ•ด์„œ
๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์ด ๊ทธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๊ณผ ์—ฐ๋ฝํ•˜๊ธฐ ์ข‹์€ ์‹œ๊ฐ„์ด๋ผ๋Š” ๋œป์€ ์•„๋‹ˆ๋‹ˆ๊นŒ์š”.
14:06
doesn't mean that that's a good time to communicate with those people.
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์ด๋Ÿฐ ์˜จ๋ผ์ธ ๋ฐ์ดํŠธ ์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ์—์„œ ์ธ๊ธฐ ์žˆ๋Š” ์—ฌ์ž๋“ค์€
14:09
The popular women on these online sites
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14:11
spend an average of 23 hours in between each communication.
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ํ‰๊ท  23์‹œ๊ฐ„ ๊ฐ„๊ฒฉ์„ ๋‘๊ณ 
์—ฐ๋ฝํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
14:15
And that's what we would normally do in the usual process of courtship.
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์ด ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์ผ์ƒ์ ์ธ
์—ฐ์• ์—์„œ ํ•˜๋Š” ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ์ง„ํ–‰ ๊ณผ์ •์ด๊ธฐ๋„ ํ•˜์ฃ .
14:19
And finally --
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰์œผ๋กœ, ์‚ฌ์ง„์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
14:21
there were the photos.
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์ธ๊ธฐ ์žˆ๋Š” ๋ชจ๋“  ์—ฌ์„ฑ๋“ค์€
14:23
All of the women who were popular showed some skin.
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๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ํ”ผ๋ถ€๋ฅผ ์ผ๋ถ€๋ถ„ ๋…ธ์ถœํ–ˆ๋”๊ตฐ์š”.
14:26
They all looked really great,
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๋ชจ๋‘ ๋›ฐ์–ด๋‚œ ์™ธ๋ชจ๋ฅผ ๊ฐ–๊ณ  ์žˆ๊ณ ,
14:28
which turned out to be in sharp contrast
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ์˜ฌ๋ฆฐ ์‚ฌ์ง„๊ณผ๋Š”
14:31
to what I had uploaded.
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๋งค์šฐ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ๊ฒƒ์ด์—ˆ์–ด์š”.
14:32
(Laughter)
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14:34
Once I had all of this information,
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์ด ๋ชจ๋“  ์ •๋ณด๋ฅผ ๊ฐ–์ถ”๊ณ  ๋‚˜์ž,
14:36
I was able to create a super profile,
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์ €๋Š” ๋Œ€๋‹จํ•œ ํ”„๋กœํ•„์„ ๋งŒ๋“ค ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์—ˆ์ฃ ,
14:38
so it was still me,
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์—ฌ์ „ํžˆ ์ €์˜€์ง€๋งŒ,
14:40
but it was me optimized now for this ecosystem.
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์ด๋Ÿฐ ์ƒํƒœ๊ณ„์—์„œ ์ตœ์ ํ™”๋œ ํ”„๋กœํ•„ ๋ง์ด์—์š”.
14:44
And as it turns out, I did a really good job.
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๊ฒฐ๊ตญ ์ €๋Š” ์„ฑ๊ณต์„ ๊ฑฐ๋’€๋‹ค๊ณ  ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ฒ ๋„ค์š”.
14:49
I was the most popular person online.
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ์˜จ๋ผ์ธ ๊ต์ œ ์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ์—์„œ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์œ ๋ช…ํ•œ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด ๋์œผ๋‹ˆ๊นŒ์š”.
14:52
(Laughter)
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(์›ƒ์Œ)
14:54
(Applause)
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(๋ฐ•์ˆ˜)
14:58
And as it turns out, lots and lots of men wanted to date me.
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋งŽ๊ณ  ๋งŽ์€ ๋‚จ์ž๋“ค์ด ์ €์™€ ๋ฐ์ดํŠธ๋ฅผ ํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์–ดํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
15:02
So I call my mom, I call my sister, I call my grandmother.
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์ €๋Š” ์—„๋งˆ, ์–ธ๋‹ˆ, ํ• ๋จธ๋‹ˆ์—๊ฒŒ ์ „ํ™”๋ฅผ ๊ฑธ์–ด
์ด ์—„์ฒญ๋‚œ ๋‰ด์Šค์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋“ค๋ ค์คฌ์ฃ .
15:05
I'm telling them about this fabulous news,
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๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ๋งํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. "์ž˜ ๋๋‹ค!"
15:07
and they say, "This is wonderful! How soon are you going out?"
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"๋ฐ์ดํŠธ๋Š” ์–ธ์ œ ํ•  ๊ฑฐ๋‹ˆ?"
15:10
I said, "Actually, I'm not going to go out with anybody."
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์ €๋Š” ๋งํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. "๊ธ€์Ž„, ์‚ฌ์‹ค ๋‚œ ๋ˆ„๊ตฌํ•˜๊ณ ๋„ ๋ฐ์ดํŠธํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์„ ๊ฑฐ์•ผ."
15:13
Because remember, in my scoring system,
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์™œ๋ƒํ•˜๋ฉด ๊ธฐ์–ตํ•ด๋ณด์„ธ์š”. ์ €์˜ ์ ์ˆ˜ ์ฒด๊ณ„์—์„œ
15:15
they have to reach a minimum threshold of 700 points,
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์ ˆ ๋งŒ๋‚  ๋‚จ์ž๋“ค์€ ์ตœ์†Œํ•œ 700์ ์„ ๋„˜์–ด์•ผํ–ˆ๋Š”๋ฐ
15:17
and none of them have done that.
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๋ˆ„๊ตฌ๋„ ๊ทธ๋ ‡์งˆ ๋ชปํ–ˆ๊ฑฐ๋“ ์š”.
15:19
They said, "What? You're still being too damn picky."
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๊ทธ๋“ค์ด ๋งํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. "๋ญ? ๋„Œ ์•„์ง๋„ ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ๊นŒ๋‹ค๋กญ๊ฒŒ ๊ตด์–ด."
15:22
Well, not too long after that, I found this guy, Thevenin,
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๊ทธ ํ›„๋กœ ์˜ค๋ž˜ ๋˜์ง€ ์•Š์•„์„œ,
์ €๋Š” ์ด ๋‚จ์ž, ํ…Œ๋ฒ ๋‹Œ์„ ์ฐพ์•˜์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
15:25
and he said that he was culturally Jewish,
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๊ทธ๋Š” ๊ต์–‘์žˆ๋Š” ์œ ํƒœ์ธ ์ง‘์•ˆ ์ถœ์‹ ์ด๋ฉฐ,
๊ทธ์˜ ์ง์—…์ด ๋ถ๊ทน ๋ฐ”๋‹ค ์‚ฌ์ž ์ƒˆ๋ผ ์‚ฌ๋ƒฅ๊พผ์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ๋งํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
15:29
he said that his job was an arctic baby seal hunter,
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์ €๋Š” ๊ทธ๊ฒŒ ๋งค์šฐ ๋ง˜์— ๋“ค์—ˆ์–ด์š”.
15:32
which I thought was very clever.
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15:34
He talked in detail about travel.
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๊ทธ๋Š” ์—ฌํ–‰์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ž์„ธํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋“ค๋ ค์คฌ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
15:37
He made a lot of really interesting cultural references.
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๊ทธ๋Š” ์•„์ฃผ ํฅ๋ฏธ๋กœ์šด ๋ฌธํ™”์  ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ๋“ค์„ ๋งŽ์ด ๋“ค๋ ค ์คฌ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
15:39
He looked and talked exactly like what I wanted,
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๊ทธ๋Š” ์ •ํ™•ํžˆ ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์›ํ–ˆ๋˜๋Œ€๋กœ ์ƒ๊ฒผ๊ณ , ๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ๋ง์„ ํ–ˆ๊ณ 
15:42
and immediately, he scored 850 points.
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๊ณง๋ฐ”๋กœ 850์ ์„ ๊ธฐ๋กํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
15:45
It was enough for a date.
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๋ฐ์ดํŠธํ• ๋งŒํ•œ ๊ฐ€์น˜๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์—ˆ์ฃ .
15:47
Three weeks later, we met up in person
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3์ฃผ ํ›„์—, ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์‹ค์ œ๋กœ ๋งŒ๋‚˜
15:49
for what turned out to be a 14-hour-long conversation
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์ด ์ปคํ”ผ์ˆ์—์„œ ์ € ๋ ˆ์Šคํ† ๋ž‘์„ ์˜ค๊ฐ€๋ฉฐ 14์‹œ๊ฐ„ ๋™์•ˆ
๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ๋‚˜๋ˆด์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
15:53
that went from coffee shop to restaurant
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15:55
to another coffee shop to another restaurant,
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๋˜ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์ปคํ”ผ์ˆ, ๋˜ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ๋ ˆ์Šคํ† ๋ž‘,
15:57
and when he dropped me back off at my house that night
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋ฐค์— ๊ทธ๊ฐ€ ์ €๋ฅผ ์ง‘๊นŒ์ง€ ๋ฐ”๋ž˜๋‹ค์ฃผ์—ˆ์„ ๋•Œ
15:59
I re-scored him --
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์ €๋Š” ๋‹ค์‹œ ์ ์ˆ˜๋ฅผ ๋งค๊ฒผ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
[ 1,050์ ! ]
16:01
[1,050 points!]
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16:02
Thought, you know what,
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๊ทธ๊ฑฐ ์•„์„ธ์š”?
16:03
this entire time, I haven't been picky enough.
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์ „ ์ด ๋ชจ๋“  ๊ณผ์ •์—์„œ ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์ถฉ๋ถ„ํžˆ ๊นŒ๋‹ค๋กญ๊ฒŒ ๊ตด์ง€ ์•Š์•˜๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ด์š”.
16:06
Well, a year and a half after that,
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๊ทธ ํ›„๋กœ 1๋…„ ๋ฐ˜์ด ์ง€๋‚˜์„œ,
16:08
we were non-cruise ship traveling
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ํฌ๋ฃจ์ฆˆ๋Š” ์•„๋‹ˆ์—ˆ์ง€๋งŒ ๋ฐฐ๋ฅผ ํƒ€๊ณ 
16:11
through Petra, Jordan,
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ํŽ˜ํŠธ๋ผ, ์š”๋ฅด๋‹จ์„ ์—ฌํ–‰ํ–ˆ๊ณ ,
16:13
when he got down on his knee and proposed.
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๊ทธ๋•Œ ๊ทธ๋Š” ๋ฌด๋ฆŽ์„ ๊ฟ‡๊ณ  ์ €์—๊ฒŒ ํ”„๋กœํฌ์ฆˆ๋ฅผ ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
16:16
A year after that, we were married,
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๊ทธ๋กœ๋ถ€ํ„ฐ 1๋…„ํ›„, ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ฒฐํ˜ผ์„ ํ–ˆ๊ณ 
16:19
and about a year and a half after that,
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๊ทธ ํ›„๋กœ 1๋…„ ๋ฐ˜์ด ์ง€๋‚˜ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ๋”ธ,
16:21
our daughter, Petra, was born.
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ํŽ˜ํŠธ๋ผ๊ฐ€ ํƒœ์–ด๋‚ฌ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
16:23
Audience: Oh!
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(๋ฐ•์ˆ˜)
16:25
(Applause)
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16:27
[What it means...]
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16:30
Obviously, I'm having a fabulous life, so --
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๋ช…๋ฐฑํžˆ, ์ €๋Š” ์žฌ๋ฏธ์žˆ๋Š” ์ธ์ƒ์„ ์‚ด๊ณ  ์žˆ์ฃ 
16:33
(Laughter)
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(์›ƒ์Œ)
16:34
The question is, what does all of this mean for you?
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๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰ ์งˆ๋ฌธ์€, ์ด ๋ชจ๋“  ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ๊ฐ€ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„๊ป˜ ๋ฌด์Šจ ์˜๋ฏธ๊ฐ€ ์žˆ๋ƒ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
16:37
Well, as it turns out, there is an algorithm for love.
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์Œ, ์‚ฌ๋ž‘์—๋„ ์•Œ๊ณ ๋ฆฌ์ฆ˜์ด ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์œผ๋กœ ๋ณด์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
16:40
It's just not the ones that we're being presented with online.
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๊ทธ๊ฑด ์˜จ๋ผ์ธ์ƒ์—์„œ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๋ณด์—ฌ์ง€๋Š” ๋ชจ์Šต์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ,
16:44
In fact, it's something that you write yourself.
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์‚ฌ์‹ค์€, ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ์Šค์Šค๋กœ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ๋‚จํŽธ์ด๋‚˜ ์•„๋‚ด๊ฐ์„ ์ฐพ๊ณ  ์žˆ๋‹ค๋ฉด,
16:47
So whether you're looking for a husband or a wife
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16:49
or you're trying to find your passion
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๋˜๋Š” ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์˜ ์—ด์ •์„ ์ข‡๊ฑฐ๋‚˜,
16:51
or you're trying to start a business,
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์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ์‚ฌ์—…์„ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ•˜๊ณ ์ž ํ•œ๋‹ค๋ฉด,
์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ํ•ด์•ผ๋˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ์‚ฌ์‹ค
16:53
all you have to really do is figure out your own framework
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16:55
and play by your own rules,
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„ ๋งŒ์˜ ํ‹€์„ ๋งŒ๋“ค๊ณ  ์ž์‹ ๋งŒ์˜ ๊ทœ์น™ ์†์—์„œ ๋…ธ๋‹ˆ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
16:57
and feel free to be as picky as you want.
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์›ํ•˜๋Š” ๋งŒํผ ์–ผ๋งˆ๋“ ์ง€ ๊นŒ๋‹ค๋กœ์›Œ์ง€์„ธ์š”.
17:00
Well, on my wedding day,
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์ œ ๊ฒฐํ˜ผ์‹ ๋‚ ,
17:01
I had a conversation again with my grandmother,
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์ €๋Š” ์ œ ํ• ๋จธ๋‹ˆ์™€ ๋‹ค์‹œ ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ๋‚˜๋ˆด์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
ํ• ๋จธ๋‹ˆ๊ฐ€ ๋ง์”€ํ•˜์‹œ๋”๊ตฐ์š”. "๊ทธ๋ž˜, ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ํ‹€๋ ธ๋‚˜๋ณด๋‹ค"
17:04
and she said, "All right, maybe I was wrong.
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17:06
It looks like you did come up with a really, really great system.
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"๋„ค๊ฐ€ ์ •๋ง ์ข‹์€,
๋ฉ‹์ง„ ์ฒด์ œ์„ ๋งŒ๋“ค์—ˆ๋‚˜๋ณด๊ตฌ๋‚˜,
17:09
Now, your matzah balls ...
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์ž, ๋„ค '๋งˆ์กฐ ํŒŒํ‹ฐ(์œ ๋Œ€์ธํŒŒํ‹ฐ)'๋Š”
๋”ฑ๋”ฑํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๊ณ , ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฌ์›Œ์•ผ๊ฒ ๋‹ค"
17:13
They should be fluffy, not hard."
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17:14
(Laughter)
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ €๋Š” ํ• ๋จธ๋‹ˆ์˜ ์ถฉ๊ณ ์— ๋”ฐ๋ฅด๊ธฐ๋กœ ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
17:16
And I'll take her advice on that.
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17:17
(Applause)
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(๋ฐ•์ˆ˜)
์ด ์›น์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ ์ •๋ณด

์ด ์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ๋Š” ์˜์–ด ํ•™์Šต์— ์œ ์šฉํ•œ YouTube ๋™์˜์ƒ์„ ์†Œ๊ฐœํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ „ ์„ธ๊ณ„ ์ตœ๊ณ ์˜ ์„ ์ƒ๋‹˜๋“ค์ด ๊ฐ€๋ฅด์น˜๋Š” ์˜์–ด ์ˆ˜์—…์„ ๋ณด๊ฒŒ ๋  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฐ ๋™์˜์ƒ ํŽ˜์ด์ง€์— ํ‘œ์‹œ๋˜๋Š” ์˜์–ด ์ž๋ง‰์„ ๋”๋ธ” ํด๋ฆญํ•˜๋ฉด ๊ทธ๊ณณ์—์„œ ๋™์˜์ƒ์ด ์žฌ์ƒ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋น„๋””์˜ค ์žฌ์ƒ์— ๋งž์ถฐ ์ž๋ง‰์ด ์Šคํฌ๋กค๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜๊ฒฌ์ด๋‚˜ ์š”์ฒญ์ด ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒฝ์šฐ ์ด ๋ฌธ์˜ ์–‘์‹์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜์—ฌ ๋ฌธ์˜ํ•˜์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค.

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