The gift and power of emotional courage | Susan David

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์•„๋ž˜ ์˜๋ฌธ์ž๋ง‰์„ ๋”๋ธ”ํด๋ฆญํ•˜์‹œ๋ฉด ์˜์ƒ์ด ์žฌ์ƒ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋ฒˆ์—ญ: Yoonkeun Ji ๊ฒ€ํ† : Jihyeon J. Kim
00:13
Hello, everyone.
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์•ˆ๋…•ํ•˜์„ธ์š” ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„
00:15
Sawubona.
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์‚ฌ์šฐ๋ณด๋‚˜(Sawubona)
00:20
In South Africa, where I come from,
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์ œ ๊ณ ํ–ฅ ๋‚จ์•„ํ”„๋ฆฌ์นด ๊ณตํ™”๊ตญ์—์„œ
00:22
"sawubona" is the Zulu word for "hello."
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"์‚ฌ์šฐ๋ณด๋‚˜"๋Š” ์ค„๋ฃจ์กฑ ๋ง๋กœ "์•ˆ๋…•"์ด๋ž€ ๋œป์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:26
There's a beautiful and powerful intention behind the word
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์‚ฌ์šฐ๋ณด๋‚˜๋ผ๋Š” ๋ง์—๋Š” ์•„๋ฆ„๋‹ค์šฐ๋ฉด์„œ๋„ ๊ฐ•ํ•œ ๋œป์ด ๋‹ด๊ฒจ์žˆ๋Š”๋ฐ์š”
00:28
because "sawubona" literally translated means,
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์™œ๋ƒํ•˜๋ฉด "์‚ฌ์šฐ๋ณด๋‚˜"๋ฅผ ์ง์—ญํ•˜๋ฉด
00:31
"I see you, and by seeing you, I bring you into being."
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"๋‹น์‹ ์„ ๋ด…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‹น์‹ ์„ ๋ด„์œผ๋กœ์จ ํ•˜๋‚˜์˜ "์กด์žฌ"๋กœ ์ธ์‹ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค"์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:35
So beautiful, imagine being greeted like that.
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๋„ˆ๋ฌด ์•„๋ฆ„๋‹ต์ฃ . ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ์ด๋Ÿฐ ์ธ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ๋ฐ›์•˜๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ด ๋ณด์„ธ์š”.
00:40
But what does it take in the way we see ourselves?
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ด ๋ง์„ ํ†ตํ•ด ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ์ž์‹ ์„ ๋Œ์ด์ผœ๋ณด๋ฉด ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ๋ ๊นŒ์š”?
00:43
Our thoughts, our emotions and our stories
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ์ƒ๊ฐ, ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ๊ฐ์ •, ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ๊ฐ€
00:45
that help us to thrive
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๊ฐˆ์ˆ˜๋ก ๋ณต์žกํ•˜๊ณ  ์•ˆ ์ข‹์€ ์ผ๋งŒ ์ผ์–ด๋‚˜๋Š” ์„ธ๊ณ„์—์„œ
00:47
in an increasingly complex and fraught world?
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๋ฒ„ํ‹ธ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋„๋ก ๋„์™€์ฃผ๊ณ  ์žˆ๋‚˜์š”?
00:50
This crucial question has been at the center of my life's work.
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์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ ์งˆ๋ฌธ์ด ์ œ ์ธ์ƒ์˜ ๋ชฉํ‘œ ํ•œ ๊ฐ€์šด๋ฐ์— ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:54
Because how we deal with our inner world drives everything.
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์™œ๋ƒํ•˜๋ฉด ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์ž์‹ ์˜ ๋‚ด๋ฉด์„ธ๊ณ„๋ฅผ ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ๋Œ€ํ•˜๋Š๋ƒ์— ๋”ฐ๋ผ ๋ชจ๋“  ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋‹ฌ๋ผ์ง€๊ฑฐ๋“ ์š”.
00:58
Every aspect of how we love, how we live,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์‚ฌ๋ž‘ํ•˜๊ณ , ์‚ด์•„๊ฐ€๊ณ 
01:01
how we parent and how we lead.
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์•„์ด๋ฅผ ๋Œ๋ณด๊ณ  ์•ž์œผ๋กœ ๋‚˜์•„๊ฐ€๋Š” ์ผ
01:04
The conventional view of emotions as good or bad,
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๊ฐ์ •์„ ๋‹จ์ˆœํžˆ ์ข‹๋‹ค ๋‚˜์˜๋‹ค
01:08
positive or negative,
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ํ˜น์€ ๊ธ์ •์ ์ด๋‹ค ๋ถ€์ •์ ์ด๋‹ค๋กœ ๋‚˜๋ˆ„๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€
01:10
is rigid.
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๋”ฑ๋”ฑํ•ด์š”
01:11
And rigidity in the face of complexity is toxic.
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋ณต์žกํ•œ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ์ด ๊ฐ™์€ ์ด๋ถ„๋ฒ•์œผ๋กœ ์žฌ๋‹จํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ์œ„ํ—˜ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:16
We need greater levels of emotional agility
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ์—๊ฒ ๋ณด๋‹ค ๋†’์€ ์ˆ˜์ค€์˜ ๊ฐ์ •์  ํฌ์šฉ์ด ํ•„์š”ํ•ด์š”
01:19
for true resilience and thriving.
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์ง„์ •ํ•œ ์˜๋ฏธ์—์„œ ์ƒ์ฒ˜์—์„œ ํšŒ๋ณตํ•˜๊ณ  ๋˜ ํ–‰๋ณตํ•ด์ง€๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ์š”.
01:23
My journey with this calling
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์ด ๋ชฉํ‘œ๋ฅผ ๋‹ฌ์„ฑํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•œ ์ œ ์—ฌํ–‰์€
01:25
began not in the hallowed halls of a university,
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๋Œ€ํ•™์˜ ํ…… ๋นˆ ๊ฐ•๋‹น์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ
01:28
but in the messy, tender business of life.
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์–ด์ง€๋Ÿฌ์šฐ๋ฉด์„œ๋„ ๋”ฐ๋œปํ•œ ์‚ถ ์†์—์„œ ์‹œ์ž‘๋˜์—ˆ์–ด์š”.
01:31
I grew up in the white suburbs of apartheid South Africa,
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์ €๋Š” ํ‘์ธ์ฐจ๋ณ„์ •์ฑ…์ด ํ•œ์ฐฝ์ด๋˜ ๋‚จ์•„ํ”„๋ฆฌ์นด์˜ ๋ฐฑ์ธ ๊ต์™ธ์ง€์—ญ์—์„œ ์ž๋ž์–ด์š”.
01:35
a country and community committed to not seeing.
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์˜จ ๋‚˜๋ผ์™€ ์‚ฌํšŒ๊ฐ€ ํ‘์ธ์„ ํฌ์šฉํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๊ณ 
01:38
To denial.
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๋ถ€์ •ํ–ˆ์ฃ .
01:40
It's denial that makes 50 years of racist legislation possible
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๊ทธ ๋ถ€์ •์ด ์ธ์ข…์ฐจ๋ณ„์ ์ธ ์ •์ฑ…์„ 50๋…„์ด๋‚˜ ์ง€์†์‹œ์ผฐ๊ณ 
01:45
while people convince themselves that they are doing nothing wrong.
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๋ฐฑ์ธ๋“ค์€ ์Šค์Šค๋กœ ์•„๋ฌด ์ž˜๋ชป๋„ ์—†๋‹ค๊ณ  ํ™•์‹ ํ–ˆ์–ด์š”.
01:49
And yet, I first learned of the destructive power of denial
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ €๋Š” ๊ฐœ์ธ์ ์ธ ์ฐจ์›์—์„œ
01:53
at a personal level,
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๋ถ€์ •์ด ์–ผ๋งˆ๋‚˜ ํŒŒ๊ดด์ ์ผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š”์ง€ ์ฒ˜์Œ ์ฒดํ—˜ํ–ˆ๋Š”๋ฐ
01:55
before I understood what it was doing to the country of my birth.
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋‚˜๋ผ์—์„œ ๋ฌด์Šจ ์ผ์ด ์ผ์–ด๋‚˜๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š”์ง€ ๊นจ๋‹ซ๊ธฐ๋„ ์ „์ด์—ˆ์–ด์š”.
02:01
My father died on a Friday.
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์ œ ์•„๋ฒ„์ง€๋Š” ๊ธˆ์š”์ผ์— ๋Œ์•„๊ฐ€์…จ์–ด์š”.
02:04
He was 42 years old and I was 15.
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์•„๋ฒ„์ง€๋Š” 42์‚ด์ด์—ˆ๊ณ  ์ €๋Š” 15์‚ด์ด์—ˆ์ฃ .
02:07
My mother whispered to me to go and say goodbye to my father
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์—„๋งˆ๋Š” ์ œ๊ฐ€ ํ•™๊ต ๊ฐ€๊ธฐ ์ „์—
02:10
before I went to school.
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์•„๋ฒ„์ง€์—๊ฒŒ ์ž‘๋ณ„ ์ธ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ํ•˜๋ผ๊ณ  ์ œ๊ฒŒ ๊ท“์†๋ง ํ–ˆ์ฃ .
02:12
So I put my backpack down and walked the passage that ran through
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์ €๋Š” ๊ฐ€๋ฐฉ์„ ๋‚ด๋ ค๋†“๊ณ  ์•”์œผ๋กœ ์ฃฝ์–ด๊ฐ€๋Š” ์•„๋ฒ„์ง€๊ฐ€ ๋ˆ„์›Œ๊ณ„์‹ 
02:15
to where the heart of our home my father lay dying of cancer.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ ์ง‘์˜ ํ•œ ๊ฐ€์šด๋ฐ์— ์žˆ๋Š” ๋ฐฉ์„ ํ–ฅํ•ด ๊ฑธ์–ด๊ฐ”์–ด์š”.
02:19
His eyes were closed, but he knew I was there.
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์•„๋ฒ„์ง€์˜ ๋ˆˆ์€ ๊ฐ๊ฒจ์žˆ์—ˆ์ง€๋งŒ ์ €๋Š” ์•„๋ฒ„์ง€๊ฐ€ ์•„์ง ์‚ด์•„๊ณ„์‹ฌ์„ ์•Œ์•˜์–ด์š”.
02:22
In his presence, I had always felt seen.
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์•„๋ฒ„์ง€ ์•ž์— ์„œ๋ฉด ์–ธ์ œ๋‚˜ ๋‚˜๋ฅผ ๋ณด๊ณ  ๊ณ„์‹ ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฑธ ์•Œ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์—ˆ์ฃ .
02:26
I told him I loved him,
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์ €๋Š” ์•„๋ฒ„์ง€์—๊ฒŒ ์‚ฌ๋ž‘ํ•œ๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋งํ–ˆ๊ณ 
02:27
said goodbye and headed off for my day.
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์ž‘๋ณ„ ์ธ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ํ•˜๊ณ  ํ•™๊ต๋กœ ํ–ฅํ–ˆ์–ด์š”.
02:31
At school, I drifted from science to mathematics to history to biology,
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ํ•™๊ต์—์„œ ์ œ๊ฐ€ ๊ณผํ•™, ์ˆ˜ํ•™, ์—ญ์‚ฌ, ์ƒ๋ฌผํ•™์„ ๋ฐฐ์šฐ๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ๋™์•ˆ
02:36
as my father slipped from the world.
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์•„๋ฒ„์ง€๋Š” ์„ธ์ƒ์„ ๋– ๋‚˜๊ณ  ๋ง์•˜์–ด์š”.
02:38
From May to July to September to November,
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5์›”์ด ๋˜๊ณ  7์›”์ด ๋˜๊ณ  9์›”, 11์›”์ด ์ฐพ์•„์™”์„ ๋•Œ
02:41
I went about with my usual smile.
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์ €๋Š” ํ‰์†Œ์˜ ๋ฏธ์†Œ๋ฅผ ๋˜์ฐพ๊ธฐ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ–ˆ์ฃ .
02:44
I didn't drop a single grade.
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ํ•œ ๊ณผ๋ชฉ๋„ ๋†“์น˜์ง€ ์•Š์•˜๊ณ 
02:46
When asked how I was doing, I would shrug and say, "OK."
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์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ์ง€๋‚ด๊ณ  ์žˆ๋ƒ๊ณ  ๋ฌผ์œผ๋ฉด ์–ด๊นจ๋ฅผ ์œผ์“ฑํ•˜๊ณค "๊ดœ์ฐฎ์•„" ํ•˜๊ณ  ๋Œ€๋‹ตํ–ˆ์ฃ .
02:51
I was praised for being strong.
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์ €๋Š” ๊ฐ•ํ•ด์ ธ์•ผ๋งŒ ํ–ˆ๊ณ 
02:54
I was the master of being OK.
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์ €๋Š” ๋ญ๋“ ์ง€ ๊ฒฌ๋”œ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ์ธ๋‚ด์˜ ๋‹ฌ์ธ ๊ฐ™์•˜์ฃ .
02:58
But back home, we struggled --
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ง‘์—์„œ๋Š” ๋‹ฌ๋ž์–ด์š”.
03:00
my father hadn't been able to keep his small business going
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์•„๋ฒ„์ง€๋Š” ๋ณ‘ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์—
03:03
during his illness.
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๋‹น์‹ ์˜ ์ž‘์€ ์‚ฌ์—…์„ ์šด์˜ํ•˜์ง€ ๋ชปํ–ˆ์–ด์š”.
03:04
And my mother, alone, was grieving the love of her life
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์–ด๋จธ๋‹ˆ ํ˜ผ์ž์„œ ์•„๋ฒ„์ง€๋ฅผ ๋– ๋‚˜๋ณด๋‚ธ ๊ฒƒ์„ ์Šฌํผํ•˜๋ฉฐ
03:07
trying to raise three children,
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3๋ช…์˜ ์•„์ด๋“ค์„ ๋Œ๋ณด๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ์• ์“ฐ๊ณ 
03:08
and the creditors were knocking.
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์ฑ„๊ถŒ์ž๋“ค์€ ๊ณ„์† ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ์ง‘์„ ์ฐพ์•„์™”์–ด์š”.
03:11
We felt, as a family, financially and emotionally ravaged.
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ํ•œ ๊ฐ€์กฑ์œผ๋กœ์„œ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ฒฝ์ œ์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋˜ ๊ฐ์ •์ ์œผ๋กœ ์™„์ „ํžˆ ๋ง๊ฐ€์กŒ์–ด์š”.
03:15
And I began to spiral down, isolated, fast.
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์ €๋Š” ๋ฌด๋„ˆ์ง€๊ธฐ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ–ˆ๊ณ  ๋น ๋ฅด๊ฒŒ ๊ณ ๋ฆฝ๋์–ด์š”.
03:20
I started to use food to numb my pain.
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๊ณ ํ†ต์„ ์žŠ๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ ๋จน๋Š”๋ฐ ์ง‘์ฐฉํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋์ฃ .
03:24
Binging and purging.
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๋จน๊ณ  ํ† ํ•˜๊ณ ํ•˜๋Š” ์ผ์ด ๊ณ„์†๋์ฃ .
03:26
Refusing to accept the full weight of my grief.
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๋‚ด ์Šฌํ””์ด ๊ฐ€์ง„ ๋ฌด๊ฒŒ๋ฅผ ์˜จ์ „ํžˆ ๋ฐ›์•„๋“ค์ด๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๊ฑฐ๋ถ€ํ•˜๋ฉด์„œ์š”.
03:31
No one knew, and in a culture that values relentless positivity,
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์•„๋ฌด๋„ ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์–ด๋–ค ๊ธฐ๋ถ„์ธ์ง€ ๋ชฐ๋ž์ฃ . ๊ธ์ •์„ฑ์„ ์ค‘์‹œํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฌธํ™” ์†์—์„œ ๋” ๊ทธ๋ ‡์ฃ .
03:35
I thought that no one wanted to know.
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์•„๋ฌด๋„ ์ €์˜ ์Šฌํ””์„ ์•Œ๊ณ  ์‹ถ์–ดํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๋Š”๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ–ˆ์–ด์š”.
03:39
But one person did not buy into my story of triumph over grief.
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์˜ค์ง ํ•œ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ ์ œ๊ฐ€ ๊ฑฐ์ง“์œผ๋กœ ๊ดœ์ฐฎ์€ ์ฒ™ ํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฑธ ์•Œ์•„์ฐจ๋ฆฐ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด ์žˆ์—ˆ์–ด์š”.
03:44
My eighth-grade English teacher fixed me with burning blue eyes
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์ค‘ํ•™๊ต 2ํ•™๋…„ ๋•Œ ์˜์–ด ์„ ์ƒ๋‹˜์ด ์ด๊ธ€์ด๊ธ€ ํƒ€์˜ค๋ฅด๋Š” ํŒŒ๋ž€ ๋ˆˆ์œผ๋กœ ์ €๋ฅผ ๋ณด์…จ์ฃ .
03:48
as she handed out blank notebooks.
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ํ…… ๋นˆ ๊ณต์ฑ…์„ ๊ฑด๋„ค์ฃผ๋ฉด์„œ์š”.
03:51
She said, "Write what you're feeling.
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์„ ์ƒ๋‹˜์ด ๋งํ–ˆ์–ด์š”. "๋„ค๊ฐ€ ๋Š๋ผ๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์ ์–ด๋ผ.
03:55
Tell the truth.
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์ง„์‹ค์„ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•ด๋ผ.
03:56
Write like nobody's reading."
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์•„๋ฌด๋„ ์ฝ์ง€ ์•Š๋Š”๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•˜๊ณ  ๋ง์ด์•ผ."
04:00
And just like that,
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๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ์ €๋Š”
04:01
I was invited to show up authentically to my grief and pain.
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์ œ ์Šฌํ””๊ณผ ๊ณ ํ†ต์„ ์†”์งํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋“œ๋Ÿฌ๋‚ผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ์ฒซ ๋ฐœ์„ ๋‚ด๋””๋Ž ์ฃ .
04:05
It was a simple act
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๋‹จ์ˆœํ•œ ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์ด์—ˆ์ง€๋งŒ
04:07
but nothing short of a revolution for me.
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์ €์—๊ฒ ํ•˜๋‚˜์˜ ํ˜๋ช…์ด๋‚˜ ๋งˆ์ฐฌ๊ฐ€์ง€์˜€์–ด์š”.
04:11
It was this revolution that started in this blank notebook
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30๋…„ ์ „
04:15
30 years ago
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๋ฐ”๋กœ ์ด ํ˜๋ช…์ด ํ…… ๋นˆ ๊ณต์ฑ…์„ ์ฑ„์šธ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋„๋ก ๋„์™€์ฃผ์—ˆ๊ณ 
04:17
that shaped my life's work.
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์ œ ์ธ์ƒ์˜ ๊ณผ์ œ๋ฅผ ๊นจ๋‹ซ๊ฒŒ ํ•ด์ฃผ์—ˆ์–ด์š”.
04:20
The secret, silent correspondence with myself.
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์กฐ์šฉํ•˜๊ณ  ์€๋ฐ€ํ•œ, ์ž๊ธฐ ์ž์‹ ๊ณผ์˜ ๋Œ€ํ™”์ฃ .
04:24
Like a gymnast,
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์ฒด์กฐ ์„ ์ˆ˜์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ
04:25
I started to move beyond the rigidity of denial
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์ €๋Š” ๋ถ€์ •(denial)์˜ ์—„๊ฒฉํ•จ์—์„œ ๋ฒ—์–ด๋‚˜
04:30
into what I've now come to call
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ๊ฐ์ •์  ํฌ์šฉ์ด๋ผ ๋ถ€๋ฅด๋Š”
04:32
emotional agility.
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์ง€๊ธˆ์˜ ๋ชจ์Šต์— ๋‹ค๋‹ค๋ฅด๊ฒŒ ๋์–ด์š”.
04:38
Life's beauty is inseparable from its fragility.
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์‚ถ์˜ ์•„๋ฆ„๋‹ค์›€์€ ๊ทธ ์—ฐ์•ฝํ•จ์—์„œ ๋”ฐ๋กœ ๋–ผ์–ด๋‚ผ ์ˆ˜ ์—†์–ด์š”
04:43
We are young until we are not.
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์ถฉ๋ถ„ํžˆ ์„ฑ์žฅํ•˜๊ธฐ ์ „๊นŒ์ง€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์–ด๋ฆฐ ์กด์žฌ์ผ ์ˆ˜ ๋ฐ–์— ์—†์–ด์š”.
04:45
We walk down the streets sexy
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๊นจ๋‹ซ์ง€ ๋ชปํ•  ๋•Œ๊นŒ์ง€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ณ„์†
04:47
until one day we realize that we are unseen.
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๋งค๋ ฅ์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋ณด์ด๋Š” ๊ธธ ์œ„์—์„œ ํ—ค๋ฉ”์ฃ .
04:53
We nag our children and one day realize
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์•„์ด๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ์ž”์†Œ๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ๋Š˜์–ด๋†“๋‹ค๊ฐ€ ์–ด๋Š๋‚  ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊นจ๋‹ซ์ฃ .
04:55
that there is silence where that child once was,
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์•„์ด๋“ค์ด ์žˆ๋˜ ๊ณณ์—๋Š” ์ ๋ง‰๋งŒ์ด ํ๋ฅด๊ณ 
04:58
now making his or her way in the world.
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๊ทธ ์• ๋“ค์€ ์ด์ œ ์ž๊ธฐ ์ธ์ƒ์„ ์ฐพ์•„ ์„ธ์ƒ์œผ๋กœ ๋‚˜๊ฐ”๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„์š”.
05:01
We are healthy until a diagnosis brings us to our knees.
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๋ณ‘์ด ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ์ขŒ์ ˆ์‹œํ‚ค๊ธฐ ์ „๊นŒ์ง€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ฑด๊ฐ•ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:07
The only certainty is uncertainty,
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์œ ์ผํ•˜๊ฒŒ ํ™•์‹คํ•œ ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋ถˆํ™•์‹ค์„ฑ์ด๊ณ 
05:09
and yet we are not navigating this frailty successfully or sustainably.
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๊ทธ๋Ÿผ์—๋„ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์ด ์•ฝ์ ์„ ์„ฑ๊ณต์ ์œผ๋กœ, ๋˜ ์žฅ๊ธฐ์ ์ธ ๊ด€์ ์—์„œ ํ•ด๊ฒฐํ•˜์ง€ ๋ชปํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ์–ด์š”.
05:14
The World Health Organization tells us that depression
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์„ธ๊ณ„๋ณด๊ฑด๊ธฐ๊ตฌ(WHO)์— ๋”ฐ๋ฅด๋ฉด ์šฐ์šธ์ฆ์ด ๋ชจ๋“  ๊ฒƒ์„ ์ œ์น˜๊ณ 
05:17
is now the single leading cause of disability globally --
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์ „์„ธ๊ณ„์—์„œ ์žฅ์• ๋ฅผ ์ผ์œผํ‚ค๋Š” ๊ฐ€์žฅ ํฐ ์›์ธ์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:21
outstripping cancer,
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์•”๋ณด๋‹ค
05:23
outstripping heart disease.
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์‹ฌ์žฅ ์งˆํ™˜๋ณด๋‹ค ๋” ํฌ๊ฒŒ ๋ง์ด์ฃ .
05:26
And at a time of greater complexity,
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์„ธ์ƒ์ด ๋ณต์žกํ•ด์งˆ์ˆ˜๋ก
05:30
unprecedented technological, political and economic change,
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ „์— ์—†๋˜ ์‹ ๊ธฐ์ˆ ์ด ๋“ฑ์žฅํ•˜๊ณ  ์ •์น˜์ , ๊ฒฝ์ œ์  ๋ณ€ํ™”๊ฐ€ ๊ฐ€์ค‘๋ ์ˆ˜๋ก
05:34
we are seeing how people's tendency
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์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์€ ๋”์šฑ ๋”
05:36
is more and more to lock down into rigid responses to their emotions.
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์Šค์Šค๋กœ์˜ ๊ฐ์ •์— ์—„๊ฒฉํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋ฐ˜์‘ํ•˜๋ ค ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:42
On the one hand we might obsessively brood on our feelings.
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์–ด๋–ค ๋ฉด์—์„œ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์Šค์Šค๋กœ์˜ ๊ฐ์ •์— ์ง€๋‚˜์น˜๊ฒŒ ํœ˜๋‘˜๋ฆฌ๋Š”์ง€๋„ ๋ชฐ๋ผ์š”.
05:46
Getting stuck inside our heads.
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์ž๊ธฐ ์ƒ๊ฐ์—์„œ ๋น ์ ธ๋‚˜์˜ค์ง€ ๋ชปํ•˜๊ณ 
05:48
Hooked on being right.
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์˜ฌ๋ฐ”๋ฅด๊ฒŒ ํ–‰๋™ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ์ง‘์ฐฉํ•˜์ฃ .
05:51
Or victimized by our news feed.
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๋˜๋Š” ์นœ๊ตฌ๋“ค์˜ SNS ์†Œ์‹์˜ ํฌ์ƒ์–‘์ด ๋˜๊ธฐ๋„ ํ•ด์š”.
05:55
On the other, we might bottle our emotions,
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์•„๋‹ˆ๋ฉด ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ๋ณ‘ ์†์— ๋‹ด์€ ๊ฒƒ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ
05:57
pushing them aside
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๋ฉ€๋ฆฌ ์น˜์›Œ๋ฒ„๋ฆฐ ์ฑ„
05:59
and permitting only those emotions deemed legitimate.
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์˜ค์ง ์Šค์Šค๋กœ ํ—ˆ๋ฝํ•œ ๊ฐ์ •๋งŒ์„ ๋ฐ›์•„๋“ค์ด๋ ค ํ•˜๋Š”์ง€๋„ ๋ชฐ๋ผ์š”.
06:04
In a survey I recently conducted with over 70,000 people,
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ํ•œ ์„ค๋ฌธ์กฐ์‚ฌ์—์„œ ์ €๋Š” 7๋งŒ๋ช…์˜ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์„ ๋Œ€์ƒ์œผ๋กœ ์กฐ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ํ–ˆ๋Š”๋ฐ์š”.
06:07
I found that a third of us --
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๊ทธ ์ค‘ 3๋ถ„์˜ 1์ด
06:09
a third --
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๋„ค 3๋ถ„์˜ 1์ด์š”
06:11
either judge ourselves for having so-called "bad emotions,"
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์Šค์Šค๋กœ "๋‚˜์œ ๊ฐ์ •"์„ ๊ฐ–๊ณ  ์žˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์‘๋‹ตํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:16
like sadness,
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์ฆ‰ ์Šฌํ””์ด๋‚˜
06:18
anger or even grief.
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๋ถ„๋…ธ, ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋น„ํ†ตํ•จ์ด์š”.
06:22
Or actively try to push aside these feelings.
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๋˜๋Š” ์œ„์˜ ๋‚˜์œ ๊ฐ์ •๋“ค์„ ์˜์‹ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์œผ๋ ค๊ณ  ๋…ธ๋ ฅํ–ˆ์–ด์š”.
06:27
We do this not only to ourselves,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์Šค์Šค๋กœ์—๊ฒŒ ๋ฟ๋งŒ ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ
06:28
but also to people we love, like our children --
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์‚ฌ๋ž‘ํ•˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ, ์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด ์•„์ด๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ๋„ ๋˜‘๊ฐ™์ด ํ–‰๋™ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:31
we may inadvertently shame them out of emotions seen as negative,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๋ถ€์ง€๋ถˆ์‹๊ฐ„์— ์‚ฌ๋ž‘ํ•˜๋Š” ์ด๋“ค์ด ์ง€๋‹Œ ๋ถ€์ •์ ์ธ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ๋ฌด์‹œํ•˜๊ณ 
06:35
jump to a solution,
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ํ•ด๊ฒฐ์ฑ…๋งŒ์„ ์ œ์‹œํ•จ์œผ๋กœ์จ
06:37
and fail to help them
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๋ถ€์ •์ ์ธ ๊ฐ์ • ์—ญ์‹œ๋„
06:39
to see these emotions as inherently valuable.
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๋ณธ๋ž˜ ์ค‘์š”ํ•จ์„ ์•Œ๋ ค์ฃผ์ง€ ๋ชปํ•˜๋Š” ์ง€๋„ ๋ชจ๋ฆ…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:45
Normal, natural emotions are now seen as good or bad.
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๋ณดํ†ต ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ๊ฐ์ •์€ ์ข‹๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๋‚˜์˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๋‘ ๊ฐ€์ง€๋กœ ๋‚˜๋‰˜์ฃ .
06:52
And being positive has become a new form of moral correctness.
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๊ธ์ •์ ์œผ๋กœ ์‚ฌ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ๋„๋•์  ์˜ฌ๋ฐ”๋ฆ„์˜ ๊ธฐ์ค€์ด ๋˜์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:59
People with cancer are automatically told to just stay positive.
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์•”์— ๊ฑธ๋ฆฐ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์€ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋ ˆ ๊ธ์ •์ ์œผ๋กœ ์ƒ๊ฐํ•˜๋ ค ๋…ธ๋ ฅํ•˜์ฃ .
07:06
Women, to stop being so angry.
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์—ฌ์ž๋“ค์€ ํ™”๋ฅผ ๋‚ด์ง€ ์•Š์œผ๋ ค๊ณ  ํ•˜๊ณ ์š”
07:11
And the list goes on.
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๊ทธ ์˜ˆ๋Š” ๋„ˆ๋ฌด๋‚˜ ๋งŽ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:14
It's a tyranny.
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ด๊ฑด ์ผ์ข…์˜ ๋…์žฌ์—์š”.
07:16
It's a tyranny of positivity.
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๊ธ์ •์˜ ๋…์žฌ๋ง์ด์—์š”.
07:20
And it's cruel.
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋„ˆ๋ฌด๋‚˜ ์ž”์ธํ•˜์ฃ .
07:23
Unkind.
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๋ถˆ์นœ์ ˆํ•˜๊ณ .
07:25
And ineffective.
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๋น„ํšจ์œจ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:27
And we do it to ourselves,
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๊ทธ๋Ÿผ์—๋„ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์ด ํ–‰๋™์„ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ์ž์‹ ์—๊ฒŒ
07:30
and we do it to others.
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๋˜ ํƒ€์ธ์—๊ฒŒ ์Šค์Šค๋Ÿผ์—†์ด ํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ์–ด์š”.
07:33
If there's one common feature
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๋ถ€์ •์  ๊ฐ์ •์ด ๊ฐ€์ง„ ๋˜ ํ•˜๋‚˜์˜ ๊ณตํ†ต์ ์ด ์žˆ๋‹ค๋ฉด
07:36
of brooding, bottling or false positivity, it's this:
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๋ฐ”๋กœ ์ด๊ฒƒ์ด์ฃ .
07:40
they are all rigid responses.
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๋ชจ๋‘๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์—„๊ฒฉํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋ฐ˜์‘ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋œ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:44
And if there's a single lesson we can learn
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๋งŒ์•ฝ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์•„ํŒŒ๋ฅดํŠธํ—ค์ดํŠธ์˜ ์˜ˆ๊ณ ๋œ ์‹คํŒจ์—์„œ
07:46
from the inevitable fall of apartheid
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๋ฐฐ์šธ ์ ์ด ํ•œ ๊ฐ€์ง€ ์žˆ๋‹ค๋ฉด
07:49
it is that rigid denial doesn't work.
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๋ฐ”๋กœ ๋‹จ์ˆœํžˆ ๋ถ€์ •ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๋งŒ์œผ๋กœ๋Š” ์•„๋ฌด๊ฒƒ๋„ ํ•ด๊ฒฐํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์—†๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:53
It's unsustainable.
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ๋ฐฉ์‹์œผ๋กœ๋Š” ์˜ค๋ž˜ ๊ฐˆ ์ˆ˜ ์—†์–ด์š”.
07:55
For individuals, for families,
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๊ฐœ์ธ์œผ๋กœ์„œ, ๊ฐ€์กฑ์œผ๋กœ์„œ,
07:58
for societies.
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๋˜ ์‚ฌํšŒ๋กœ์„œ ๋ง์ด์ฃ .
08:00
And as we watch the ice caps melt,
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๋งŒ๋…„์„ค์ด ๋…น๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๋ณด๊ณ  ์žˆ๋…ธ๋ผ๋ฉด
08:04
it is unsustainable for our planet.
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์ง€๊ธˆ๊นŒ์ง€์˜ ์‚ถ์˜ ๋ฐฉ์‹์œผ๋กœ๋Š” ์ง€๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ๊ฒฌ๋ŽŒ๋‚ด์ง€ ๋ชปํ•œ๋‹จ ์ƒ๊ฐ์ด ๋“ค๊ฒ ์ฃ .
08:09
Research on emotional suppression shows
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๊ฐ์ •์  ์–ต์ œ์— ๊ด€ํ•œ ์—ฐ๊ตฌ๋ฅผ ๋ณด๋ฉด
08:11
that when emotions are pushed aside or ignored,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์ž์‹ ์˜ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ๋ฌด์‹œํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ์–ต๋ˆ„๋ฅผ ๋•Œ
08:14
they get stronger.
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์˜คํžˆ๋ ค ๊ทธ ๊ฐ์ •๋“ค์ด ๋” ๊ฐ•ํ•ด์ง„๋‹ค๊ณ  ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:16
Psychologists call this amplification.
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์‹ฌ๋ฆฌํ•™์ž๋“ค์€ ์ด๋ฅผ ์ฆํญ์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ถ€๋ฅด๋Š”๋ฐ์š”.
08:18
Like that delicious chocolate cake in the refrigerator --
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๋ƒ‰์žฅ๊ณ  ์•ˆ์˜ ๋‹ฌ์ฝคํ•œ ์ดˆ์ฝœ๋ฆฟ ์ผ€์ต์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ
08:23
the more you try to ignore it ...
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๋ฌด์‹œํ•˜๋ ค ํ•˜๋ฉด ํ• ์ˆ˜๋ก ...
08:26
(Laughter)
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08:30
the greater its hold on you.
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๊ฑฐ๊ธฐ์— ๋”์šฑ ์ง‘์ฐฉํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋œ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด์ฃ .
08:34
You might think you're in control of unwanted emotions when you ignore them,
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์€ ์ž์‹ ์„ ๋ถ€์ ์ ˆํ•œ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ๋ฌด์‹œํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ๋Šฅ์ˆ™ํ•˜๋‹ค ์—ฌ๊ธธ์ง€๋„ ๋ชจ๋ฅด์ง€๋งŒ
08:38
but in fact they control you.
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์‚ฌ์‹ค์€ ๊ทธ ๊ฐ์ •๋“ค์ด ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์„ ์ง€๋ฐฐํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด์ฃ .
08:42
Internal pain always comes out.
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๊ฐ์ •์ ์ธ ๊ณ ํ†ต์€ ๊ฒฐ๊ตญ ํ‘œ์ถœ๋˜๊ณ  ๋ง™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:45
Always.
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์–ธ์ œ๋‚˜์š”.
08:46
And who pays the price?
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๋ˆ„๊ฐ€ ๊ทธ ๋Œ“๊ฐ€๋ฅผ ์ง€๋ถˆํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋ ๊นŒ์š”?
08:49
We do.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ ์ž์‹ ์ด์ฃ .
08:50
Our children,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ ์•„์ด๋“ค
08:52
our colleagues,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ๋™๋ฃŒ
08:55
our communities.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ ์‚ฌํšŒ๊ฐ€์š”.
09:01
Now, don't get me wrong.
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์•„๋‹ˆ์š” ์˜คํ•ดํ•˜์ง€ ๋งˆ์„ธ์š”.
09:03
I'm not anti-happiness.
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์ €๋Š” ๋ฐ˜ ํ–‰๋ณต์ฃผ์˜์ž๊ฐ€ ์•„๋‹ˆ์—์š”.
09:06
I like being happy.
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์ €๋„ ํ–‰๋ณตํ•ด์ง€๊ณ  ์‹ถ์ฃ 
09:07
I'm a pretty happy person.
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์ €๋Š” ๊ฝค ํ–‰๋ณตํ•œ ํŽธ์— ์†ํ•ด์š”.
09:10
But when we push aside normal emotions to embrace false positivity,
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๋ถ€์ •์  ๊ฐ์ •์„ ๋ฌด์‹œํ•œ ์ฑ„ ๊ฑฐ์ง“ ๊ธ์ •์„ ๊ฐ€์žฅํ•  ๋•Œ
09:15
we lose our capacity to develop skills to deal with the world as it is,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์Šค์Šค๋กœ๋ฅผ ๋ฐœ์ „์‹œํ‚ฌ ๊ธฐํšŒ์™€ ์„ธ์ƒ์„ ๋งˆ์ฃผํ•  ๋Šฅ๋ ฅ์„ ์žƒ์–ด์š”.
09:22
not as we wish it to be.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๋ฐ”๋ผ๋Š” ๋ฐฉํ–ฅ๊ณผ ๋ฐ˜๋Œ€๋กœ ๋ง์ด์ฃ ,
09:24
I've had hundreds of people tell me what they don't want to feel.
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์ €๋Š” ๋ถ€์ •์  ๊ฐ์ •์—๊ฒŒ์„œ ๋ฒ—์–ด๋‚˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์–ดํ•˜๋Š” ๋งŽ์€ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์„ ๋งŒ๋‚ฌ์–ด์š”.
09:29
They say things like,
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๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ๋ชจ๋‘
09:30
"I don't want to try because I don't want to feel disappointed."
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"๋ถ€์ •์  ๊ฐ์ •์œผ๋กœ ์ธํ•ด ์ƒ์ฒ˜๋ฐ›์„๊นŒ๋ด ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ๋“ค์„ ๋Œ์–ด์•ˆ๊ณ  ์‹ถ์ง€ ์•Š์•„์š”"
09:35
Or, "I just want this feeling to go away."
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๋˜๋Š” "๊ทธ๋ƒฅ ํ˜๋ ค๋ณด๋‚ด๊ณ  ์‹ถ์–ด์š”" ๋ผ๊ณ  ๋งํ•˜์ฃ .
09:41
"I understand," I say to them.
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"์ €๋„ ์•Œ์•„์š”"๋ผ๊ณ  ์ €๋Š” ๋งํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:44
"But you have dead people's goals."
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"ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๊ทธ๊ฑด ์ฃฝ์€ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“คํ•œํ…Œ๋‚˜ ์–ด์šธ๋ฆฌ์ง€ ์•Š์„๊นŒ์š”."
09:47
(Laughter)
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(์›ƒ์Œ)
09:52
(Applause)
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(๋ฐ•์ˆ˜)
09:58
Only dead people
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์˜ค์ง ์ฃฝ์€ ์ด๋“ค๋งŒ์ด
10:00
never get unwanted or inconvenienced by their feelings.
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์›ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๋ถˆํŽธํ•œ ๊ฐ์ •์—๊ฒŒ์„œ ๋ฒ—์–ด๋‚  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์ฃ .
10:04
(Laughter)
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(์›ƒ์Œ)
10:05
Only dead people never get stressed,
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์˜ค์ง ์ฃฝ์€ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค๋งŒ์ด ์ŠคํŠธ๋ ˆ์Šค๋ฅผ ๋ฐ›์ง€ ์•Š๊ณ 
10:09
never get broken hearts,
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๋งˆ์Œ ์•„ํŒŒํ•˜๋Š” ์ผ๋„ ์—†๊ณ ์š”.
10:11
never experience the disappointment that comes with failure.
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์‹คํŒจํ–ˆ์„ ๋•Œ ์‹ค๋งํ•˜๋Š” ์ผ๋„ ๊ฒฐ์ฝ” ์—†์ฃ .
10:17
Tough emotions are part of our contract with life.
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์•„ํ”ˆ ๊ฐ์ •๋“ค๋„ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ์‚ถ์˜ ์ผ๋ถ€์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:21
You don't get to have a meaningful career
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์ŠคํŠธ๋ ˆ์Šค์™€ ๋ถˆ์•ˆ ์—†์ด๋Š”
10:24
or raise a family
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์ข‹์€ ๊ฒฝ๋ ฅ์„ ์Œ“๊ฑฐ๋‚˜
10:26
or leave the world a better place
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๊ฐ€์กฑ์„ ๋ถ€์–‘ํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜
10:28
without stress and discomfort.
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์ข€ ๋” ๋‚˜์€ ์„ธ๊ณ„๋ฅผ ๋งŒ๋“ค ์ˆ˜ ์—†์–ด์š”.
10:32
Discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life.
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๋ถˆ์•ˆ์€ ์ข€ ๋” ์˜๋ฏธ์žˆ๋Š” ์ธ์ƒ์„ ์‚ด๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ๋‚ด๋Š” ์ž…์žฅ๋ฃŒ๊ฐ™์€ ๊ฒƒ์ด์ฃ .
10:39
So, how do we begin to dismantle rigidity
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์ž ๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ๋ฉด ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ๋”ฑ๋”ฑํ•จ์„ ๋ฒ„๋ฆฌ๊ณ 
10:42
and embrace emotional agility?
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๊ฐ์ •์  ํฌ์šฉ์˜ ๊ฒฝ์ง€์— ์ด๋ฅผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์„๊นŒ์š”?
10:45
As that young schoolgirl,
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ์–ด๋ฆฐ ํ•™์ƒ์ผ ๋•Œ,
10:47
when I leaned into those blank pages,
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์ €๋Š” ํ…… ๋นˆ ๊ณต์ฑ…์— ์—ด์‹ฌํžˆ ์ œ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ํ„ธ์–ด๋†“์œผ๋ฉด์„œ
10:50
I started to do away with feelings
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ๊ฒฝํ—˜ํ•ด์•ผ๋งŒ ํ–ˆ๋˜ ๊ฐ์ •๋“ค๊ณผ
10:53
of what I should be experiencing.
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์ด๋ณ„ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์„ ๋ฐฐ์› ์–ด์š”.
10:57
And instead started to open my heart to what I did feel.
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๊ทธ ๋Œ€์‹  ์ œ๊ฐ€ ๋Š๋‚€ ๊ฐ์ •๋“ค์— ๋งˆ์Œ์„ ์—ด๊ธฐ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ–ˆ์ฃ .
11:01
Pain.
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๊ณ ํ†ต
11:02
And grief.
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์Šฌํ””
11:04
And loss.
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์ƒ์‹ค
11:06
And regret.
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ํ›„ํšŒ
11:09
Research now shows
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ํ•œ ์—ฐ๊ตฌ์— ๋”ฐ๋ฅด๋ฉด
11:12
that the radical acceptance of all of our emotions --
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ๋ชจ๋“  ๊ฐ์ •์„ ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ทธ๋Œ€๋กœ ๋ฐ›์•„๋“ค์ผ ๋•Œ
11:15
even the messy, difficult ones --
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์•„๋ฌด๋ฆฌ ํฌ์šฉํ•˜๊ธฐ ์–ด๋ ต๊ณ  ํž˜๋“  ๊ฒƒ์ด๋ผ๋„
11:17
is the cornerstone to resilience, thriving,
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๊ทธ๊ฒƒ๋“ค์„ ๋ฐ›์•„๋“ค์—ฌ์•ผ ๋‹ค์‹œ ํšŒ๋ณตํ•˜๊ณ  ์ฆ๊ฒ๊ฒŒ
11:20
and true, authentic happiness.
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์ง„์ •ํ•œ ์˜๋ฏธ์—์„œ ํ–‰๋ณต์„ ๋ˆ„๋ฆด ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:25
But emotional agility is more that just an acceptance of emotions.
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ œ๊ฐ€ ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฐ์ •์˜ ํฌ์šฉ์€ ๋‹จ์ˆœํ•œ ์ˆ˜์šฉ ๊ทธ ์ด์ƒ์„ ์˜๋ฏธํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:30
We also know that accuracy matters.
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๋˜ํ•œ ์ •ํ™•ํ•œ ๋‹จ์–ด๋ฅผ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๋„ ์ค‘์š”ํ•˜์ฃ .
11:33
In my own research, I found that words are essential.
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ์‹ค์‹œํ•œ ์—ฐ๊ตฌ์—์„œ ์ €๋Š” ๋ง์ด ์ค‘์š”์„ฑ์„ ๊นจ๋‹ฌ์•˜์–ด์š”.
11:37
We often use quick and easy labels to describe our feelings.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์ž์‹ ์˜ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ์„ค๋ช…ํ•  ๋•Œ ๊ฐ„๋‹จํ•˜๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ด๋‚ด๊ธฐ ์‰ฌ์šด ๋‹จ์–ด๋“ค์„ ์ž์ฃผ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜์ฃ .
11:40
"I'm stressed" is the most common one I hear.
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"์ŠคํŠธ๋ ˆ์Šค ๋ฐ›๋Š”๋‹ค"๋ผ๋Š” ๋ง์€ ์ œ๊ฐ€ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ž์ฃผ ๋“ฃ๋Š” ๋ง์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:43
But there's a world of difference between stress and disappointment
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ŠคํŠธ๋ ˆ์Šค์™€ ์‹ค๋ง๊ฐ ์‚ฌ์ด์—๋Š” ํฐ ์ฐจ์ด๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์ฃ .
11:46
or stress and that knowing dread of "I'm in the wrong career."
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๋˜๋Š” "๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ์ž˜๋ชป๋œ ๊ธธ์„ ์„ ํƒํ–ˆ๋‹ค"๋Š” ์‚ฌ์‹ค์„ ๊นจ๋‹ฌ์•˜์„ ๋•Œ๋„ ๋งˆ์ฐฌ๊ฐ€์ง€์ฃ .
11:51
When we label our emotions accurately,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์ž์‹ ์˜ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ์ •ํ™•ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์ด๋ฆ„ ๋ถ™์ผ ๋•Œ
11:53
we are more able to discern the precise cause of our feelings.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ๊ฐ์ •์ด ์–ด๋””์—์„œ ๋น„๋กฏ๋๋Š”์ง€ ์ข€ ๋” ์ž˜ ์•Œ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:57
And what scientists call the readiness potential in our brain
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๊ณผํ•™์ž๋“ค์ด ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ๋‡Œ ์†์˜ "์ž ์žฌ์  ์ค€๋น„ (readiness potential)"
12:00
is activated, allowing us to take concrete steps.
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๊ฐ€ ํ™œ์„ฑํ™”๋˜๋ฉด, ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์ข€ ๋” ๊ตฌ์ฒด์ ์ธ ๊ณ„ํš์„ ์ถ”์ง„ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ฒŒ ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
12:04
But not just any steps -- the right steps for us.
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๊ทธ์ € ๊ตฌ์ฒด์ ์ด๊ธฐ๋งŒ ํ•œ๊ฒŒ ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ ์˜ฌ๋ฐ”๋ฅธ ๊ฑธ์Œ์„ ๋‚ด๋”›๋Š” ๊ฑฐ์ฃ .
12:07
Because our emotions are data.
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์™œ๋ƒํ•˜๋ฉด ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ๊ฐ์ •์€ ํ•˜๋‚˜์˜ ๋ฐ์ดํ„ฐ์ด๋‹ˆ๊นŒ์š”.
12:10
Our emotions contain flashing lights to things that we care about.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ๊ฐ์ •์€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๊ฑฑ์ •ํ•˜๋Š” ์ผ์ด ๋ฌด์—‡์ธ์ง€ ์•Œ๋ ค์ฃผ๋Š” ๋“ฑ๋Œ€์™€ ๊ฐ™์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
12:14
We tend not to feel strong emotion
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์„ธ์ƒ์ด ๋†’์ด ํ‰๊ฐ€ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ๋‹ค๋ฃจ๊ธฐ ํž˜๋“  ๊ฐ์ •์—
12:17
to stuff that doesn't mean anything in our worlds.
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ํœ˜๋‘˜๋ฆฌ์ง€ ์•Š์œผ๋ ค๋Š” ๊ฒฝํ–ฅ์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
12:22
If you feel rage when you read the news,
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ๋‰ด์Šค๋ฅผ ๋ณด๊ณ  ๋ถ„๋…ธ๋ฅผ ๋Š๋‚€๋‹ค๋ฉด
12:24
that rage is a signpost, perhaps, that you value equity and fairness --
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๊ทธ ๋ถ„๋…ธ๋Š” ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ํ‰๋“ฑ๊ณผ ๊ณตํ‰์„ ๋†’์ด ํ‰๊ฐ€ํ•จ์„ ์•Œ๋ ค์ฃผ๋Š” ์ง€ํ‘œ๊ฐ€ ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
12:29
and an opportunity to take active steps
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์˜ ์‚ถ์„ ์˜ณ์€ ๋ฐฉํ–ฅ์œผ๋กœ ์ด๋„๋Š” ๊ตฌ์ฒด์ ์ธ ํ–‰๋™์„
12:31
to shape your life in that direction.
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ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ธฐํšŒ๋ฅผ ์–ป๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด์ฃ .
12:35
When we are open to the difficult emotions,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๋‹ค๋ฃจ๊ธฐ ํž˜๋“  ๊ฐ์ •์— ๋งˆ์Œ์˜ ๋ฌธ์„ ์—ด ๋•Œ
12:37
we are able to generate responses that are values-aligned.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์— ์˜๋ฏธ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฐ€์น˜์— ์ž…๊ฐํ•ด ์˜ฌ๋ฐ”๋ฅธ ๋ฐ˜์‘์„ ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
12:41
But there's an important caveat.
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ํ•œ ๊ฐ€์ง€ ์ฃผ์˜ํ•ด์•ผ ํ•  ์ ์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
12:43
Emotions are data, they are not directives.
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๊ฐ์ •์€ ๋ฐ์ดํ„ฐ์ด์ง€ ์ง€์‹œ๊ฐ€ ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
12:46
We can show up to and mine our emotions for their values
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ฐ์ •์„ ๋“œ๋Ÿฌ๋‚ด๊ณ  ๊ทธ ๊ฐ€์น˜๋ฅผ ๋ฐœ๊ฒฌํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์ง€๋งŒ
12:49
without needing to listen to them.
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์ด๋Š” ๊ทธ ๊ฐ์ •์— ํ•„์š” ์ด์ƒ์œผ๋กœ ํœ˜๋‘˜๋ฆฌ์ง€ ์•Š๊ณ ๋„ ๊ฐ€๋Šฅํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
12:52
Just like I can show up to my son in his frustration with his baby sister --
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์•„๊ธฐ ์—ฌ๋™์ƒ์ด ์ƒ๊ฒจ์„œ ๋‘๋ ค์›Œํ•˜๋Š” ์ œ ์•„๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ์ œ๊ฐ€ ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ์š”.
12:58
but not endorse his idea that he gets to give her away
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๊ทธ๋ ‡๋‹ค๊ณ  ํ•ด์„œ ์•„๋“ค์ด ์‡ผํ•‘๋ชฐ์—์„œ ๋งŒ๋‚œ ์ฒซ ๋ฒˆ์งธ ๋‚ฏ์„  ์ด์—๊ฒŒ
13:01
to the first stranger he sees in a shopping mall.
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๋™์ƒ์„ ์ค˜๋ฒ„๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๊นŒ์ง€ ํ—ˆ๋ฝํ•˜์ง€๋Š” ์•Š์ง€๋งŒ์š”.
13:03
(Laughter)
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(์›ƒ์Œ)
13:05
We own our emotions, they don't own us.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ๊ฐ–๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด์ง€, ๊ฐ์ •์ด ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ๊ฐ–๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
13:09
When we internalize the difference between how I feel in all my wisdom
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์ž์‹ ์ด ์ตœ์„ ์œผ๋กœ ์—ฌ๊ธฐ๋Š” ๊ฐ์ •๊ณผ
13:13
and what I do in a values-aligned action,
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๊ฐ€์น˜์žˆ๋Š” ํ–‰๋™์˜ ์‚ฌ์ด์˜ ์ฐจ์ด๋ฅผ ๋‚ด์žฌํ™”ํ•  ๋•Œ
13:17
we generate the pathway to our best selves
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ฐ์ •์„ ํ†ตํ•ด ๊ฐ€์žฅ ๋ฉ‹์ง„ ๋‚˜๋กœ ํ–ฅํ•˜๋Š”
13:20
via our emotions.
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๊ธธ์„ ๋งŒ๋“ค ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
13:24
So, what does this look like in practice?
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์ž ๊ทธ๋Ÿผ ์‹ค์ œ ์ƒํ™ฉ์—์„œ๋Š” ์–ด๋–จ๊นŒ์š”?
13:28
When you feel a strong, tough emotion,
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ๋‹ค๋ฃจ๊ธฐ ํž˜๋“ , ๊ฒฉ๋ ฌํ•œ ๊ฐ์ •์— ํœฉ์‹ธ์ด๋ ค ํ•  ๋•Œ
13:30
don't race for the emotional exits.
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๋ฒ—์–ด๋‚˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ๋…ธ๋ ฅํ•˜์ง€ ๋งˆ์„ธ์š”.
13:33
Learn its contours, show up to the journal of your hearts.
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๊ทธ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ์ž์„ธํžˆ ๊ด€์ฐฐํ•˜๊ณ , ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์˜ ๋งˆ์Œ์„ ๋‚˜ํƒ€๋‚ด๋Š” ์ผ์ง€๋กœ ํ™œ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
13:37
What is the emotion telling you?
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ๋งˆ์ฃผํ•œ ๊ฐ์ •์€ ๋ฌด์—‡์„ ๋งํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ๋‚˜์š”?
13:41
And try not to say "I am," as in, "I'm angry" or "I'm sad."
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๋˜ ๊ฐ€๋Šฅํ•œ ํ•œ "๋‚˜๋Š”"์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ํ•˜์ง€ ๋งˆ์„ธ์š”. ๊ฐ€๋ น "๋‚œ ํ™”๋‚ฌ์–ด" ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ฉด "๋‚œ ์Šฌํผ"์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ์š”.
13:45
When you say "I am"
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด "๋‚˜๋Š”"์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ๋งํ•  ๋•Œ
13:46
it makes you sound as if you are the emotion.
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์ด๋Š” ๋งˆ์น˜ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ๋Š๋ผ๋Š” ๊ฐ์ • ๊ทธ ์ž์ฒด์ธ ๊ฒƒ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ๋“ค๋ฆฝ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
13:49
Whereas you are you, and the emotion is a data source.
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ๋‚˜ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์€ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด๊ณ  ๊ฐ์ •์€ ๊ทธ์ € ๋ฐ์ดํ„ฐ์˜ ์›์ฒœ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
13:52
Instead, try to notice the feeling for what it is:
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๋Œ€์‹ ์—, ๊ฐ์ •์„ ๊ทธ ์ž์ฒด๋กœ ์ธ์‹ํ•˜๋ ค๊ณ  ํ•ด๋ณด์„ธ์š”.
13:55
"I'm noticing that I'm feeling sad"
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"๋‚œ ์Šฌํ””์ด๋ผ๋Š” ๊ฐ์ •์„ ๋Š๊ปด"
13:56
or "I'm noticing that I'm feeling angry."
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๋˜๋Š” "๋‚œ ๋ถ„๋…ธ๋ผ๋Š” ๊ฐ์ •์„ ๋Š๊ปด"๋ผ๊ณ ์š”.
14:00
These are essential skills for us,
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์ด๋Š” ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ์ž์‹ ์—๊ฒŒ
14:02
our families, our communities.
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๋˜ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ๊ฐ€์กฑ, ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ์‚ฌํšŒ๋ฅผ ์œ„ํ•ด ํ•„์ˆ˜์ ์ธ ๊ธฐ์ˆ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
14:04
They're also critical to the workplace.
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์ผํ„ฐ์—์„œ๋„ ๋ฌผ๋ก  ์ค‘์š”ํ•˜๊ฒ ์ฃ .
14:08
In my research,
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ์‹ค์‹œํ•œ ์—ฐ๊ตฌ์—์„œ
14:09
when I looked at what helps people to bring the best of themselves to work,
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์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ์ผํ•  ๋•Œ ์ตœ๊ณ ์˜ ๋Šฅ๋ฅ ์„ ๋ฐœํœ˜ํ•˜๋„๋ก ๋•๋Š” ์š”์ธ์ด ๋ฌด์—‡์ธ์ง€ ์‚ดํŽด๋ณด๋‹ˆ
14:12
I found a powerful key contributor:
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์•„์ฃผ ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์š”์ธ์„ ๋ฐœ๊ฒฌํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
14:14
individualized consideration.
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๋ฐ”๋กœ ๊ฐœ์ธํ™”๋œ ์‚ฌ๊ณ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
14:17
When people are allowed to feel their emotional truth,
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์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์€ ์ž์‹ ์ด ๋Š๋ผ๋Š” ๊ฐ์ •์„ ๊ทธ๋Œ€๋กœ ๋ฐ›์•„๋“ค์ผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ฒŒ ๋˜๋ฉด
14:20
engagement, creativity and innovation flourish in the organization.
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์กฐ์ง ๋‚ด์—์„œ ์ฐธ์—ฌ๋„, ์ฐฝ์กฐ์„ฑ, ํ˜์‹ ์„ฑ์ด ์ฆ๊ฐ€ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์œผ๋กœ ๋‚˜ํƒ€๋‚ฌ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
14:25
Diversity isn't just people,
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๋‹ค์–‘์„ฑ์€ ๋‹จ์ˆœํžˆ ์™ธ๊ฒฌ์œผ๋กœ๋งŒ ๋‚˜ํƒ€๋‚˜์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
14:27
it's also what's inside people.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ ๋‚ด๋ถ€์—๋„ ์กด์žฌํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ์ฃ .
14:29
Including diversity of emotion.
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๊ฐ์ •์˜ ๋‹ค์–‘์„ฑ์„ ๋น„๋กฏํ•ด
14:34
The most agile, resilient individuals, teams,
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๊ฐ€์žฅ ๊ฐ์ • ๋ณ€ํ™”์— ๋ฏผ๊ฐํ•˜๊ณ , ์‰ฝ๊ฒŒ ํšŒ๋ณตํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฐœ์ธ, ํŒ€
14:38
organizations, families, communities
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์กฐ์ง, ๊ฐ€์กฑ, ์‚ฌํšŒ๋Š” ๋ชจ๋‘
14:40
are built on an openness to the normal human emotions.
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์ธ๊ฐ„์˜ ์ผ๋ฐ˜์ ์ธ ๊ฐ์ •์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ํฌ์šฉ์„ ๊ธฐ์ดˆ๋กœ ํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
14:44
It's this that allows us to say,
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์ด๋Ÿฐ ํฌ์šฉ์ด ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ณณ์—์„œ๋ผ์•ผ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์Šค์Šค๋กœ์—๊ฒŒ ์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ๋ฌผ์„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
14:46
"What is my emotion telling me?"
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"๋‚ด ๊ฐ์ •์€ ๋‚ด๊ฒŒ ๋ฌด์Šจ ๋ง์„ ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฑธ๊นŒ"
14:48
"Which action will bring me towards my values?"
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"์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ํ–‰๋™ํ•ด์•ผ ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ์ค‘์š”์‹œํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฐ€์น˜๋ฅผ ์ €๋ฒ„๋ฆฌ์ง€ ์•Š์„๊นŒ"
14:51
"Which will take me away from my values?"
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"์–ด๋–ค ํ–‰๋™์ด ๋‚ด ๊ฐ€์น˜๋ฅผ ์ €๋ฒ„๋ฆฌ๊ฒŒ ๋งŒ๋“ค๊นŒ"
14:55
Emotional agility is the ability to be with your emotions
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๊ฐ์ •์  ํฌ์šฉ์€ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์˜ ๊ฐ์ •์„
14:59
with curiosity, compassion,
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ํ˜ธ๊ธฐ์‹ฌ๊ณผ ์—ด์ •์„ ์ง€๋‹Œ ์ฑ„ ํ’ˆ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด๋ฉฐ
15:02
and especially the courage to take values-connected steps.
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ํŠนํžˆ ๊ฐ€์น˜๋ฅผ ์•Œ์•„๋ณด๋Š” ๋ˆˆ์„ ๊ฐ–๋Š” ์šฉ๊ธฐ๊ฐ€ ๋˜์–ด์ค„ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
15:07
When I was little,
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ์–ด๋ ธ์„ ๋•Œ
15:09
I would wake up at night terrified by the idea of death.
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์ €๋Š” ์ฃฝ์Œ์ด ์ฃผ๋Š” ๊ณตํฌ์— ์งˆ๋ ค ์ž  ์ž๋‹ค ๊นจ์–ด๋‚˜๊ณค ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
15:11
My father would comfort me with soft pats and kisses.
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์•„๋ฒ„์ง€๋Š” ์ €๋ฅผ ์•ˆ์‹ฌ์‹œ์ผœ ์ฃผ๋ ค๊ณ  ์ €๋ฅผ ํ† ๋‹ฅ์ด๋ฉฐ ํ‚ค์Šค๋ฅผ ํ•ด์ฃผ๊ณค ํ–ˆ์—ˆ์ง€์š”.
15:15
But he would never lie.
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ ˆ๋Œ€ ๊ฑฐ์ง“๋ง์€ ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์œผ์…จ์–ด์š”.
15:18
"We all die, Susie," he would say.
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"์ˆ˜์ง€(Susie)์•ผ, ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๋ชจ๋‘ ์ฃฝ๋Š”๋‹ค." ์•„๋ฒ„์ง€๋Š” ๋ง์”€ํ•˜์…จ์–ด์š”.
15:21
"It's normal to be scared."
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"๊ฒ๋จน๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋‹น์—ฐํ•œ ์ผ์ด์•ผ"
15:24
He didn't try to invent a buffer between me and reality.
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์•„๋ฒ„์ง€๋Š” ์ €์™€ ํ˜„์‹ค ์‚ฌ์ด์— ์–ด๋– ํ•œ ๋ณดํ˜ธ๋ฒฝ๋„ ์„ธ์šฐ๋ ค ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์•˜์ฃ .
15:29
It took me a while to understand
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์•„๋ฒ„์ง€์˜ ๋œป์€ ๋‚˜์ค‘์—์„œ์•ผ ๊นจ๋‹ฌ์„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
15:30
the power of how he guided me through those nights.
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ๋‘๋ ค์šด ๋ฐค๋“ค์„ ๋ฒ„ํ‹ธ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋„๋ก ์ด๋Œ์–ด์ค€ ์•„๋ฒ„์ง€์˜ ํž˜์„์š”.
15:34
What he showed me is that courage is not an absence of fear;
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์•„๋ฒ„์ง€๊ฐ€ ์ œ๊ฐ€ ๋ณด์—ฌ์ฃผ์‹  ๊ฒƒ์€ ๊ณตํฌ๋ฅผ ์—†์• ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ์—ˆ์–ด์š”
15:39
courage is fear walking.
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์šฉ๊ธฐ๋ž€ ๋‘๋ ค์›€ ์†์—์„œ๋„ ๊ฑธ์–ด๋‚˜๊ฐ€๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
15:44
Neither of us knew that in 10 short years,
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10๋…„์ด๋ผ๋Š” ์งง์€ ์‚ฌ์ด์—
15:47
he would be gone.
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์•„๋ฒ„์ง€๊ฐ€ ๋Œ์•„๊ฐ€์‹ค ์ค„์€ ๋ชฐ๋ž์–ด์š”.
15:48
And that time for each of us is all too precious
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์•„๋ฒ„์ง€์™€ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ํ•œ ๊ทธ 10๋…„์˜ ์‹œ๊ฐ„์€ ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ์†Œ์ค‘ํ•˜๊ณ 
15:51
and all too brief.
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๋„ˆ๋ฌด ์งง์•˜์–ด์š”.
15:54
But when our moment comes
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์—๊ฒŒ
15:57
to face our fragility,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ๋‚˜์•ฝํ•จ๊ณผ ๋งˆ์ฃผํ•ด์•ผ ํ•˜๋Š” ์ˆœ๊ฐ„์ด ์ฐพ์•„์˜ฌ ๋•Œ
15:59
in that ultimate time,
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์ตœํ›„์˜ ์ˆœ๊ฐ„์—
16:01
it will ask us,
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๊ทธ ์ˆœ๊ฐ„์ด ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์—๊ฒŒ ์งˆ๋ฌธํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
16:03
"Are you agile?"
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"๋„ˆ๋Š” ํฌ์šฉ๋ ฅ์ด ์žˆ๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด๋ƒ"
16:05
"Are you agile?"
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"๋„ˆ๋Š” ๊ฐ์ •์ ์œผ๋กœ ์—ด๋ฆฐ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด๋ƒ"
16:07
Let the moment be an unreserved "yes."
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๊ทธ ๋•Œ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์•„๋ฌด ๋ง์„ค์ž„ ์—†์ด "์˜ˆ"๋ผ๊ณ  ๋‹ต์„ ํ•ฉ์‹œ๋‹ค.
16:12
A "yes" born of a lifelong correspondence with your own heart.
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์‚ถ์„ ์‚ฌ๋Š” ๋‚ด๋‚ด ์ž์‹ ์˜ ๋งˆ์Œ๊ณผ ์”จ๋ฆ„ํ•˜๋ฉฐ ์–ป์€ "์˜ˆ"๋ผ๋Š” ๋‹ต์ด์š”.
16:17
And in seeing yourself.
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ž์‹ ์„ ๋Œ์•„๋ณด์„ธ์š”.
16:20
Because in seeing yourself,
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์™œ๋ƒํ•˜๋ฉด ๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ํ•จ์œผ๋กœ์จ
16:23
you are also able to see others, too:
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์€ ํƒ€์ธ์„ ๋Œ์•„๋ณผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ฒŒ ๋˜๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
16:27
the only sustainable way forward
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๊ทธ๊ฒƒ๋งŒ์ด ์—ฐ์•ฝํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์•„๋ฆ„๋‹ค์šด ์„ธ๊ณ„๋กœ ๋‚˜์•„๊ฐˆ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š”
16:30
in a fragile, beautiful world.
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์ง€์† ๊ฐ€๋Šฅํ•œ ์œ ์ผํ•œ ๊ธธ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
16:34
Sawubona.
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์‚ฌ์šฐ๋ณด๋‚˜(Sawubona)
16:36
And thank you.
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๊ฐ์‚ฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
16:37
(Laughter)
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(์›ƒ์Œ)
16:38
Thank you.
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๊ฐ์‚ฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
16:39
(Applause)
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(๋ฐ•์ˆ˜)
16:42
Thank you.
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๊ฐ์‚ฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
16:43
(Applause)
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(๋ฐ•์ˆ˜)
์ด ์›น์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ ์ •๋ณด

์ด ์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ๋Š” ์˜์–ด ํ•™์Šต์— ์œ ์šฉํ•œ YouTube ๋™์˜์ƒ์„ ์†Œ๊ฐœํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ „ ์„ธ๊ณ„ ์ตœ๊ณ ์˜ ์„ ์ƒ๋‹˜๋“ค์ด ๊ฐ€๋ฅด์น˜๋Š” ์˜์–ด ์ˆ˜์—…์„ ๋ณด๊ฒŒ ๋  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฐ ๋™์˜์ƒ ํŽ˜์ด์ง€์— ํ‘œ์‹œ๋˜๋Š” ์˜์–ด ์ž๋ง‰์„ ๋”๋ธ” ํด๋ฆญํ•˜๋ฉด ๊ทธ๊ณณ์—์„œ ๋™์˜์ƒ์ด ์žฌ์ƒ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋น„๋””์˜ค ์žฌ์ƒ์— ๋งž์ถฐ ์ž๋ง‰์ด ์Šคํฌ๋กค๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜๊ฒฌ์ด๋‚˜ ์š”์ฒญ์ด ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒฝ์šฐ ์ด ๋ฌธ์˜ ์–‘์‹์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜์—ฌ ๋ฌธ์˜ํ•˜์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค.

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