Why kids need to learn about gender and sexuality | Lindsay Amer

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ูŠุฑุฌู‰ ุงู„ู†ู‚ุฑ ู†ู‚ุฑู‹ุง ู…ุฒุฏูˆุฌู‹ุง ููˆู‚ ุงู„ุชุฑุฌู…ุฉ ุงู„ุฅู†ุฌู„ูŠุฒูŠุฉ ุฃุฏู†ุงู‡ ู„ุชุดุบูŠู„ ุงู„ููŠุฏูŠูˆ.

ุงู„ู…ุชุฑุฌู…: Mohammad Abdurrahman Wadelkebeida ุงู„ู…ุฏู‚ู‘ู‚: Ayman Hosny
00:12
Alright, let's get this kicked off.
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ุญุณู†ุงู‹ุŒ ู‡ูŠุง ุจู†ุง ู†ุจุฏุฃ.
00:15
(Music)
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(ู…ูˆุณูŠู‚ู‰)
00:17
(Singing) It's OK to be gay.
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(ุบู†ุงุก) ู„ุง ุถูŽูŠู’ุฑูŽ ุฃู† ุชูƒูˆู†ูŽ ู…ุซู„ูŠ ุงู„ุฌู†ุณ.
00:20
We are different in many ways.
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ููƒู„ูŒ ู…ู€ู†ู‘ุง ูŠุฎุชู„ูู ุนู† ุงู„ุขุฎุฑ ูƒู„ูŠู€ุงู‹.
00:24
Doesn't matter if you're a boy, girl or somewhere in between,
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ู„ุง ูŠู‡ู… ู†ูˆุนูƒุŒ ุฐูƒุฑุงู‹ ูƒู†ุช ุฃู… ุฃู†ุซู‰ ุฃูˆ ุดูŠุฆุงู‹ ุขุฎุฑ ุจูŠู†ู‡ู…ุง.
00:28
we all are part of one big family.
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ูู†ุญู† ุฌู…ูŠุนุงู‹ ุฌุฒุกูŒ ู…ู† ุนุงุฆู„ุฉู ูƒุจูŠุฑุฉ ูˆุงุญุฏุฉ.
00:34
Gay means "happy."
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ู…ุซู„ูŠ ุงู„ุฌู†ุณ ูŠุนู†ูŠ "ุงู„ุณุนุงุฏุฉ".
00:37
Queer Kid Stuff.
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"ูƒูˆูŠุฑ ูƒูŠุฏ ุณุชู"
00:41
You are enough
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ุฃู†ุช ู„ุง ุชุญุชุงุฌ ุฅู„ู‰ ุงู„ู…ุฒูŠุฏ
00:43
here at Queer Kid Stuff.
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ู…ุนู†ุง ู‡ู†ุง ููŠ "ูƒูˆูŠุฑ ูƒูŠุฏ ุณุชู".
00:46
(Applause)
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(ุชุตููŠู‚)
00:53
Opening a performance with lyrics like "It's OK to be gay"
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ุฃู† ุชุจุฏุฃ ู…ุนุฒูˆูุฉ ุจูƒู„ู…ุงุช ู…ู† ู‚ุจูŠู„ "ู„ุง ุถูŽูŠู’ุฑูŽ ุฃู† ุชูƒูˆู† ู…ุซู„ูŠ ุงู„ุฌู†ุณ"
00:56
for a roomful of adults is one thing,
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ููŠ ุบุฑูุฉ ู…ู…ุชู„ุฆุฉ ุจุงู„ุฃุดุฎุงุต ุงู„ุจุงู„ุบูŠู† ูู‡ูˆ ุฃู…ุฑ ุฃู‚ู„ ุตุนูˆุจุฉู‹ุŒ
00:59
but it's entirely different for a roomful of kindergartners.
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ู…ู‚ุงุฑู†ุฉู‹ ุจุบุฑูุฉ ู…ู…ุชู„ุฆุฉ ุจุฃุทูุงู„ ุงู„ู…ุฑุงุญู„ ุงู„ุฃูˆู„ู‰ ู…ู† ุฑูŠุงุถ ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ุŒ
01:03
What you've just heard is the theme song for my web series "Queer Kid Stuff,"
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ู…ุง ุงุณุชู…ุนุชู… ุฅู„ูŠู‡ ู‚ุจู„ ู‚ู„ูŠู„ ู‡ูˆ ุงู„ู„ุญู† ุงู„ุฑุฆูŠุณ ู„ุณู„ุณู„ุชูŠ "ูƒูˆูŠุฑ ูƒูŠุฏ ุณุชู" ุนู„ู‰ ุงู„ุฅู†ุชุฑู†ุช.
01:07
where I make LGBTQ+ and social justice videos for all ages.
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ุญูŠุซู ุฃู‚ูˆู… ุจุชุตูˆูŠุฑ ููŠุฏูŠูˆู‡ุงุช ู„ูƒู„ ุงู„ุฃุนู…ุงุฑ ุนู† ู…ุฌุชู…ุน ุงู„ุชุนุฏุฏูŠุฉ ุงู„ุฌู†ุณูŠุฉ ูˆุงู„ุนุฏู„ ุงู„ุงุฌุชู…ุงุนูŠ
01:12
And when I say all ages, I mean literal babies
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ูˆุนู†ุฏู…ุง ุฃู‚ูˆู„ ูƒู„ ุงู„ุฃุนู…ุงุฑุŒ ูุฅู†ูŠ ุฃุนู†ูŠ ุญุฑููŠุงู‹ ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ุงู„ุตุบุงุฑ
01:16
to your great-great-grandma.
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ุฅู„ู‰ ุญููŠุฏุงุช ุงู„ุญููŠุฏุงุช.
01:19
Now, I know what you're thinking:
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ุฃุนู„ู… ู…ุง ูŠุฌูˆู„ ููŠ ุฎุงุทุฑูƒู…:
01:22
"Whoa, they're talking about gay stuff with kids."
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"ุชู…ู‡ู„ุŒ ุฅู†ู‡ู… ูŠุชูƒู„ู…ูˆู† ุนู† ุฃู…ูˆุฑ ุชุชุนู„ู‚ ุจุงู„ู…ุซู„ูŠู‘ุฉ ุงู„ุฌู†ุณูŠุฉ ู…ุน ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„."
01:25
But talking to kids about gay stuff is actually crucial.
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ุฅู„ุง ุฃู† ุงู„ุญุฏูŠุซ ู…ุน ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ุนู† ุฃู…ูˆุฑ ุชุชุนู„ู‚ ุจุงู„ู…ุซู„ูŠู‘ุฉ ุงู„ุฌู†ุณูŠุฉ ู‡ูˆ ุฃู…ุฑ ููŠ ุบุงูŠุฉ ุงู„ุฃู‡ู…ูŠุฉ.
01:29
The American Academy of Pediatrics has found
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ุญูŠุซู ุชูˆุตู‘ู„ุช ุงู„ุฃูƒุงุฏูŠู…ูŠุฉ ุงู„ุฃู…ุฑูŠูƒูŠุฉ ู„ุทุจ ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ุŒ
01:32
that children have a solid understanding of their gender identity
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ุฃู† ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ูŠุฏุฑูƒูˆู† ู‡ูˆูŠุชู‡ู… ุงู„ุฌู†ุณูŠุฉ ูˆูŠูู‡ู…ูˆู†ู‡ุง ูู‡ู…ุงู‹ ุฌูŠุฏุงู‹
01:35
by the age of four.
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ุจุญู„ูˆู„ ุณู† ุงู„ุฑุงุจุนุฉ.
01:38
This is when children are developing their sense of self.
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ูˆุฐู„ูƒ ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ูŠุทูˆุฑ ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ุฅุญุณุงุณู‡ู… ุจุฃู†ูุณู‡ู….
01:41
They're observing the world around them,
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ูู‡ู… ูŠุฑุงู‚ุจูˆู† ุงู„ุนุงู„ู… ู…ู† ุญูˆู„ู‡ู…ุŒ
01:43
absorbing that information
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ูˆูŠุณุชุฎู„ุตูˆู† ุชู„ูƒ ุงู„ู…ุนู„ูˆู…ุงุช
01:44
and internalizing it.
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ูˆู…ู† ุซู… ูŠุณุชูˆุนุจูˆู†ู‡ุง.
01:46
Now, most parents want their children to become kind, empathetic,
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ูŠูˆุฏู‘ู ู…ุนุธู… ุงู„ุขุจุงุก ุญูŠู† ูŠุตูŠุฑ ุฃุทูุงู„ู‡ู… ุจุงู„ุบูŠู† ุฃู† ูŠูƒูˆู†ูˆุง ุนุทูˆููŠู†ุŒ ูˆู…ู‡ุฐุจูŠู€ู†ุŒ
01:50
self-confident adults,
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ูˆูˆุงุซู‚ูŠู† ู…ู† ุฃู†ูุณู‡ู…ุŒ
01:52
and exposure to diversity is an important part
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ูุงู„ุงู†ูุชุงุญ ู†ุญูˆ ุงู„ุชู†ูˆุน ู‡ูˆ ุฌุฒุก ู…ู‡ู…
01:55
of that social and emotional development.
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ู…ู† ุฐู„ูƒ ุงู„ุชุทูˆุฑ ุงู„ุงุฌุชู…ุงุนูŠ ูˆุงู„ุนุงุทููŠ.
01:59
And -- gender nonconforming kids
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ูุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ุบูŠุฑ ุงู„ู…ุชูˆุงูู‚ูŠู† ู…ุน ู‡ูˆูŠุชู‡ู… ุงู„ุฌู†ุณูŠุฉ
02:01
and trans kids and kids with trans and nonbinary and queer parents
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ูˆุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ู…ุชุญูˆู„ูˆ ุงู„ุฌู†ุณุŒ ูˆูˆุญูŠุฏูˆ ุงู„ุฌู†ุณุŒ ูˆุงู„ุขุจุงุก ุบุงู…ุถูˆ ุงู„ุฌู†ุณ
02:07
are everywhere.
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ูƒู„ ู‡ุคู„ุงุก ู…ูˆุฌูˆุฏูˆู† ููŠ ูƒู„ ู…ูƒุงู†.
02:12
In the series, my stuffed bear cohost and I talk about the LGBT community,
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ููŠ ุชู„ูƒ ุงู„ุณู„ุณู„ุฉ ุชุญุฏุซู†ุง ุฃู†ุง ูˆุงู„ุฏู…ูŠุฉ ุงู„ู…ุญุจุจุฉ ู„ู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ุนู† ู…ุฌุชู…ุน ุงู„ุชุนุฏุฏูŠุฉ ุงู„ุฌู†ุณูŠุฉุŒ
02:17
activism, gender and pronouns,
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ูˆุนู† ุงู„ุฃู†ุดุทุฉ ูˆู†ูˆุน ุงู„ุฌู†ุณ ูˆุงู„ุถู…ุงุฆุฑุŒ
02:19
consent and body positivity.
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ูˆุงู„ู‚ุจูˆู„ ูˆุฅูŠุฌุงุจูŠุฉ ุงู„ุฌุณุฏ.
02:21
We tackle these topics through songs,
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ูู‚ุฏ ุชู†ุงูˆู„ู†ุง ู‡ุฐู‡ ุงู„ู…ูˆุงุถูŠุน ู…ู† ุฎู„ุงู„ ุงู„ุฃุบุงู†ูŠุŒ
02:24
not unlike the one you just heard,
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ุจุทุฑู‚ ู…ุดุงุจู‡ุฉ ู„ู…ุง ุงุณุชู…ุนุชู… ุฅู„ูŠู‡ ู‚ุจู„ ู‚ู„ูŠู„ุŒ
02:26
simple definitions and metaphors.
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ุจุงุณุชุฎุฏุงู… ู…ูุงู‡ูŠู… ูˆุงุณุชุนุงุฑุงุช ุจู„ุงุบูŠุฉ ุจุณูŠุทุฉ.
02:28
We approach these ideas, to steal a phrase from an old professor of mine,
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ู„ู‚ุฏ ุชู†ุงูˆู„ู†ุง ู‡ุฐู‡ ุงู„ุฃููƒุงุฑุŒ ู…ู† ุฃุฌู„ ุงุณุชุนุงุฑุฉ ุนุจุงุฑุฉ ู…ู† ุฃุณุชุงุฐ ู‚ุฏูŠู… ู„ูŠุŒ ุชู‚ูˆู„:
02:32
from "under the doorknob" --
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ู…ู† " ุฃุณูู„ ู…ู‚ุจุถ ุงู„ุจุงุจ"
02:35
getting down to toddler height
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ู†ุฒูˆู„ุงู‹ ุฅู„ู‰ ุงุฑุชูุงุน ุตุบูŠุฑ
02:36
and looking up at the great big world through their tiny little eyes,
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ุซู… ุงู„ู†ุธุฑ ุฅู„ู‰ ุงู„ุฃุนู„ู‰ ู†ุญูˆ ุงู„ุนุงู„ู… ุงู„ูƒุจูŠุฑ ู…ู† ุฎู„ุงู„ ุฃุนูŠู†ู‡ู… ุงู„ุตุบูŠุฑุฉ ุฌุฏุงู‹ุŒ
02:41
taking these seemingly complex ideas and simplifying them --
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ู…ุน ุฃุฎุฐ ู‡ุฐู‡ ุงู„ุฃููƒุงุฑ ุงู„ุชูŠ ุชุจุฏูˆ ู…ุนู‚ุฏุฉ ูˆู…ู† ุซู… ุชุจุณูŠุทู‡ุง ู„ู‡ู…
02:46
not dumbing them down,
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ูˆู„ูŠุณ ุงู„ุชู‚ู„ูŠู„ ู…ู†ู‡ุง
02:47
but homing in on the core concept.
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ูˆู„ูƒู† ุงู„ุชูˆุฌู‡ ู†ุญูˆ ู‡ุฐู‡ ุงู„ุฃููƒุงุฑ ู‡ูŠ ุงู„ููƒุฑุฉ ุงู„ุฃุณุงุณูŠุฉ.
02:50
Gender is about how we feel and how we express ourselves.
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ูู†ูˆุน ุงู„ุฌู†ุณ ู‡ูˆ ุนุจุงุฑุฉ ุนู…ุง ู†ุดุนุฑ ุจู‡ุŒ ูˆุนู† ูƒูŠููŠุฉ ุชุนุจูŠุฑู†ุง ุนู† ุฃู†ูุณู†ุง.
02:53
Sexuality is about love and gender and family,
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ูˆุงู„ู‡ูˆูŠุฉ ุงู„ุฌู†ุณูŠุฉ ู‡ูŠ ุนุจุงุฑุฉ ุนู† ู†ูˆุน ุงู„ุฌู†ุณ ูˆุนู† ุงู„ุฃุณุฑุฉ
02:57
not about sex.
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ูˆู„ูŠุณ ุงู„ุนู„ุงู‚ุฉ ุงู„ุฌู†ุณูŠุฉ.
02:58
And these are all ideas children can grasp.
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ูˆู‡ุฐู‡ ุฌู…ูŠุนู‡ุง ุฃููƒุงุฑ ูŠู…ูƒู† ู„ู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ูู‡ู…ู‡ุง.
03:01
In one of my earliest episodes about gender,
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ููŠ ูˆุงุญุฏุฉ ู…ู† ุญู„ู‚ุงุชูŠ ุงู„ุณุงุจู‚ุฉ ุนู† ู†ูˆุน ุงู„ุฌู†ุณุŒ
03:03
I used the idea of pronouns
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ุงุณุชุฎุฏู…ุชู ููƒุฑุฉ ุงู„ุถู…ุงุฆุฑ
03:05
to underscore the definition and introduce gender-neutral pronouns
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ู„ู„ุชุฃูƒูŠุฏ ุนู„ู‰ ุงู„ู…ูู‡ูˆู… ูˆุงู„ุชุนุฑูŠู ุจุถู…ุงุฆุฑ ุงู„ุญูŠุงุฏ ุงู„ุฌู†ุณูŠ
03:08
like "they" and "them."
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ู…ุซู„: "ู‡ู…" ูˆ "ุฅูŠุงู‡ู…".
03:10
I encourage children to think about their own pronouns
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ุฃุดุฌุน ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ุนู„ู‰ ุงู„ุชููƒูŠุฑ ููŠ ุถู…ุงุฆุฑู‡ู…
03:13
and to ask others for theirs.
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ูˆุฃู† ูŠุณุฃู„ูˆุง ุงู„ุขุฎุฑูŠู† ุนู† ุถู…ุงุฆุฑู‡ู… ู‡ู….
03:16
In later episodes, I build on this foundation
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ููŠ ุงู„ุญู„ู‚ุงุช ุงู„ุชุงู„ูŠุฉ ู‚ู…ุชู ุจุงู„ุจู†ุงุก ุนู„ู‰ ู‡ุฐุง ุงู„ุฃุณุงุณ
03:19
and introduce big fancy words like "nonbinary" and "transgender."
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ูˆู‚ุฏู…ุช ูƒู„ู…ุงุช ู…ู†ู…ู‚ุฉ ูƒุจูŠุฑุฉ ู…ุซู„: "ุบูŠุฑ ู…ุฒุฏูˆุฌ ุงู„ุฌู†ุณ" ูˆ"ุงู„ู…ุชุญูˆู„ ุฌู†ุณูŠุงู‹".
03:24
I get emails from viewers in their 20s
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ุชู„ู‚ูŠุช ุฑุณุงุฆู„ ู…ู† ู…ุดุงู‡ุฏูŠู† ููŠ ุงู„ุนุดุฑูŠู† ู…ู† ุนู…ุฑู‡ู…ุŒ
03:26
who use my videos to explain nonbinary gender to their grandparents.
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ูƒุงู†ูˆุง ู‚ุฏ ุงุณุชุฎุฏู…ูˆุง ููŠุฏูŠูˆู‡ุงุชูŠ ู„ุดุฑุญ ู…ูู‡ูˆู… ุบูŠุฑูŠ ู…ุฒุฏูˆุฌูŠ ุงู„ุฌู†ุณ ุฅู„ู‰ ุฃุฌุฏุงุฏู‡ู….
03:32
But, I get one comment over and over again:
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ูˆู„ูƒู† ูƒุงู† ู‡ู†ุงู„ูƒ ุชุนู„ูŠู‚ ูŠุตู„ู†ูŠ ู…ุฑุงุฑุงู‹ ูˆุชูƒุฑุงุฑุงู‹:
03:38
"Let kids be kids."
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"ุฏุน ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ูŠูƒูˆู†ูˆุง ุฃุทูุงู„ุงู‹".
03:42
Well, that's a nice sentiment and all,
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ุญุณู†ุงู‹ุŒ ู‡ุฐู‡ ุนุจุงุฑุฉ ู„ุทูŠูุฉุŒ
03:44
but only if it actually includes all kids.
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ู…ุชู‰ ูƒุงู†ุช ุชุดู…ู„ ูƒู„ ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„.
03:51
Just a few weeks ago,
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ู…ู†ุฐ ุจุถุนุฉ ุฃุณุงุจูŠุนุŒ
03:53
a 15-year-old in Huntsville, Alabama
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ููŠ ู…ุฏูŠู†ุฉ ู‡ุงู†ุชุณููŠู„ ุจูˆู„ุงูŠุฉ ุฃู„ุงุจุงู…ุงุŒ ู‚ุงู… ุตุจูŠ ูŠุจู„ุบ ุงู„ุฎุงู…ุณุฉ ุนุดุฑุฉ
03:56
died by suicide after being bullied for being gay.
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ุจุงู„ุงู†ุชุญุงุฑ ุจุณุจุจ ุชุนุฑุถู‡ ู„ู„ุชู†ู€ู…ู‘ูุฑ ู„ูƒูˆู†ู‡ ู…ุซู„ูŠ ุงู„ุฌู†ุณ.
04:00
In 2018, it was a seven-year-old
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ูˆููŠ ุนุงู… 2018ุŒ ุญุฏุซ ุฐู„ูƒ ู…ุน ุทูู„ ููŠ ุงู„ุณุงุจุนุฉ ู…ู† ุนู…ุฑู‡
04:05
in Denver, Colorado.
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ููŠ ู…ุฏูŠู†ุฉ ุฏู†ูุฑ ุจูˆู„ุงูŠุฉ ูƒูˆู„ูˆุฑุงุฏูˆ.
04:08
There have been and will be many more.
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ู…ุซู„ ู‡ุฐู‡ ุงู„ู‚ุตุต ู…ูˆุฌูˆุฏุฉ ูˆุณูŠูƒูˆู† ู‡ู†ุงู„ูƒ ุงู„ูƒุซูŠุฑ ุฌุฏุงู‹ ู…ู†ู‡ุง.
04:12
Lesbian, gay and bisexual teens
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ุงู„ู…ุฑุงู‡ู‚ูˆู† ู…ู† ุงู„ู…ุซู„ูŠูŠู† ูˆุงู„ู…ุซู„ูŠุงุช
04:14
are more than three times more likely to attempt suicide
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ูˆู…ุฒุฏูˆุฌูˆ ุงู„ู…ูŠู„ ุงู„ุฌู†ุณูŠุŒ ู‡ู… ุงู„ุฃูƒุซุฑ ู…ูŠู„ุงู‹ ุฅู„ู‰ ุงู„ุงู†ุชุญุงุฑ ุจุซู„ุงุซ ุฃุถุนุงู
04:17
than their heterosexual peers,
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ู…ู‚ุงุจู„ ุฃู‚ุฑุงู†ู‡ู… ู…ู† ุงู„ู…ุบุงูŠุฑูŠู† ุฌู†ุณูŠุงู‹ุŒ
04:19
and transgender teens are almost six times more likely.
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ูˆู…ุนุฏู‘ู„ ู…ุญุงูˆู„ุงุช ุงู„ู…ุฑุงู‡ู‚ูŠู† ุงู„ู…ุชุญูˆู„ูŠู† ุฌู†ุณูŠุงู‹ ู„ู„ุงู†ุชุญุงุฑ ู‡ูŠ ุณุชุฉ ุฃุถุนุงู ุฐู„ูƒ.
04:25
According to one study, roughly one third of homeless youth
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ูˆูู‚ุงู‹ ู„ุฅุญุฏู‰ ุงู„ุฏุฑุงุณุงุชุŒ ูุฅู† ุซู„ุซ ุงู„ุดุจุงุจ ุงู„ู…ุดุฑุฏูŠู† ุชู‚ุฑูŠุจุงู‹
04:28
identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual or questioning,
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ู‡ู… ู…ู† ุงู„ู…ุซู„ูŠูŠู† ุฃูˆ ุงู„ู…ุซู„ูŠุงุช ุฃูˆ ู…ุฒุฏูˆุฌูŠ ุงู„ุฌู†ุณ ุฃูˆ ู…ู† ุงู„ุบุงู…ุถูŠู† ุฌู†ุณูŠุงู‹ุŒ
04:31
and about four percent of homeless youth identify as transgender,
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ูˆุญูˆุงู„ูŠ 4% ู…ู†ู‡ู… ู‡ู… ู…ู† ุงู„ู…ุชุญูˆู„ูŠู† ุฌู†ุณูŠุงู‹ุŒ
04:36
compared with one percent of the general youth population surveyed.
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ู…ู‚ุงุฑู†ุฉู‹ ุจู€1% ู…ู† ุฅุฌู…ุงู„ูŠ ู†ุณุจุฉ ุงู„ุดุจุงุจ ุงู„ุฐูŠู† ุดู…ู„ู‡ู… ุงู„ู…ุณุญ.
04:41
According to the Human Rights Campaign,
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ูˆูˆูู€ู‚ุงู‹ ุฅู„ู‰ ูุฑูŠู‚ ุญู‚ูˆู‚ู€ูŠู‘ุŒ
04:44
there have been 128 killings of trans people
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ูุฅู† ู‡ู†ุงู„ูƒ 128 ู‚ุชูŠู„ุงู‹ ู…ู† ุงู„ู…ุชุญูˆู„ูŠู† ุฌู†ุณูŠุงู‹
04:49
in 87 cities across 32 states
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ููŠ 87 ู…ุฏูŠู†ุฉ ููŠ ุฃู†ุญุงุก 32 ุฏูˆู„ุฉ
04:53
since 2013.
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ู…ู†ุฐ ุนุงู… 2013.
04:55
And those are the only the reported cases.
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ูˆู‡ุฐู‡ ูู‚ุท ุงู„ุญุงู„ุงุช ุงู„ุชูŠ ุชู… ุงู„ุฅุจู„ุงุบ ุนู†ู‡ุง.
04:59
And 80 percent of those killings were of trans women of color.
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ูˆ80% ู…ู† ุนู…ู„ูŠุงุช ุงู„ู‚ุชู„ ู‡ุฐู‡ ูƒุงู†ุช ู„ู†ุณุงุก ู…ุชุญูˆู„ุงุช ุฌู†ุณูŠุงู‹ ู…ู† ุฐูˆุงุช ุงู„ุจุดุฑุฉ ุงู„ุณูˆุฏุงุก.
05:06
The queer situation is bleak,
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ู„ู‚ุฏ ุตุงุฑ ูˆุถุน ู…ุซู„ูŠูŠ ุงู„ุฌู†ุณ ู‚ู€ุงุชู…ุงู‹ุŒ
05:10
to say the least.
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ูˆู‡ุฐุง ุฃู‚ู„ ู…ุง ูŠูู‚ุงู„.
05:12
The YouTube comments on my videos
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ุชุนู„ูŠู‚ุงุช ุงู„ูŠูˆุชูŠูˆุจ ุงู„ุชูŠ ุชุตู„ู†ูŠ ุนู† ููŠุฏูŠูˆู‡ุงุชูŠ
05:14
are not much better.
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ู„ู… ุชูƒู† ุฃุญุณู† ุญุงู„ุงู‹.
05:17
I'm used to the harassment.
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ูู‚ุฏ ุงุนุชุฏุชู ุนู„ู‰ ุงู„ุชุญุฑุด.
05:19
I get messages daily telling me I'm a pedophile
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ุฃุชู„ู‚ู‰ ุฑุณุงุฆู„ ุจุดูƒู„ ูŠูˆู…ูŠ ุชุฎุจุฑู†ูŠ ุฃู†ู†ูŠ ุฃุณุชุบู„ ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ุฌู†ุณูŠุงู‹
05:22
and that I should kill myself in a number of increasingly creative ways.
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ูˆุฃุชู„ู‚ู‰ ุจุงุณุชู…ุฑุงุฑ ูˆุจุนุฏุฏ ู…ู† ุงู„ุทุฑู‚ ุงู„ู…ุจุชูƒุฑุฉ ุนุจุงุฑุฉ "ุนู„ูŠูƒ ุฃู† ุชู‚ุชู„ูŠ ู†ูุณูƒ".
05:26
I once had to put the word "truck" on my block list
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ุงุถุทุฑุฑุช ู…ุฑุฉ ุฅู„ู‰ ูˆุถุน ูƒู„ู…ุฉ "ุดุงุญู†ุฉ" ููŠ ู‚ุงุฆู…ุฉ ุงู„ุญุธุฑ ู„ุฏูŠ
05:29
because someone wanted me to get run over by a truck.
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ู„ุฃู† ุดุฎุตุงู‹ ู…ุง ุฏุนุง ุฃู† ุชุฏู‡ุณู†ูŠ ุดุงุญู†ุฉ.
05:32
"Shower" and "oven" are in there, too,
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ูˆุดู…ู„ุช ู‚ุงุฆู…ุฉ ุงู„ุญุธุฑ ูƒุฐู„ูƒ ูƒู„ู…ุชูŠ "ุงุบุชุณุงู„" ูˆ"ูุฑู†"
05:34
for the less creative and more disturbing Holocaust reference.
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ุจุณุจุจ ุงู„ุฅุดุงุฑุฉ ุฅู„ู‰ ู…ุญุฑู‚ุฉ ุงู„ูŠู‡ูˆุฏ ุงู„ุชูŠ ู‡ูŠ ุฃู‚ู„ ุฅุจุฏุงุนุงู‹ ูˆุฃูƒุซุฑ ุฅุฒุนุงุฌุงู‹.
05:39
When neo-Nazis marched in Charlottesville,
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ูุนู†ุฏู…ุง ุฒุญู ุงู„ู†ุงุฒูŠูˆู† ุงู„ุฌุฏุฏ ู†ุญูˆ ุดุงุฑู„ูˆุชุณููŠู„ุŒ
05:42
I was unsurprised to learn
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ู„ู… ุฃู†ุฏู‡ุด ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ุนู„ู…ุชู
05:44
that the creator of a violent Reddit meme about one of my episodes
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ุฃู† ู…ู†ุดุฆ ู…ูˆู‚ุน ูุงูŠูˆู„ู†ุช ุฑูŠุฏูŠุช ู…ูŠู… ุงุณุชูˆุญุงู‡ ู…ู† ุฅุญุฏู‰ ุญู„ู‚ุงุชูŠ
05:48
was in the tiki torch crowd.
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ูƒุงู† ุถู…ู† ุญุดูˆุฏ ุดุนู„ุฉ ุชูŠูƒูŠ. (ุญุดูˆุฏ ุฐุงุช ุนู„ุงู‚ุฉ ุจุงู„ูŠู…ูŠู† ุงู„ู…ุชุทุฑู)
05:52
This barrage of negativity is what we're up against:
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ุฅู†ู†ุง ุจุตุฏุฏ ู…ูˆุงุฌู‡ุฉ ู‡ุฐุง ุงู„ูˆุงุจู„ ู…ู† ุงู„ุณู„ุจูŠู‘ู€ุฉ.
05:55
the crushing statistics, the violence, the mental health risks,
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ูุงู„ุฅุญุตุงุฆูŠุงุช ุงู„ุตุงุฏู…ุฉุŒ ูˆุงู„ุนู†ูุŒ ูˆู…ุฎุงุทุฑ ุงู„ุตุญุฉ ุงู„ุนู‚ู€ู„ูŠุฉุŒ
05:59
the well-meaning but flawed response my parents gave me when I came out,
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ูˆุงู„ู†ูˆุงูŠุง ุงู„ุญุณู†ุฉ ูˆู„ูƒู† ุฏูˆู† ุฑุฏ ูุนู„ ู…ู„ุงุฆู… ุนู„ู‰ ู†ุญูˆ ู…ุง ู‚ุฏู‘ู… ู„ูŠ ูˆุงู„ุฏุงูŠ
06:04
that they didn't want me to have a harder life.
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ูู‡ู…ุง ุญุงู„ุง ุฏูˆู† ุฃุนูŠุด ุญูŠุงุฉ ู‚ุงุณูŠุฉ.
06:07
That's what we're up against.
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ู‡ุฐุง ู‡ูˆ ู…ุง ู†ุญู†ู ุจุตุฏุฏ ู…ูˆุงุฌู‡ุชู‡.
06:10
But in the face of all that,
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ุจูŠุฏ ุฃู†ู‡ ููŠ ู…ู‚ุงุจู„ ูƒู„ ุฐู„ูƒุŒ
06:13
I choose joy.
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ุงุฎุชุฑุชู ุงู„ู…ุฑุญ.
06:16
I choose rainbows and unicorns and glitter,
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ุงุฎุชุฑุชู ู‚ูˆุณ ู‚ุฒุญ ูˆูˆุญูŠุฏุงุช ุงู„ู‚ุฑู† ูˆุงู„ุจู‡ุงุฑุฌ ุงู„ู„ุงู…ุนุฉ (ุงู„ุบู„ูŠุชุฑ)ุŒ
06:19
and I sing that it's OK to be gay with my childhood stuffed teddy bear.
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ูˆุชุบู†ูŠุช ุฃู†ู’ ู„ุง ุถูŽูŠู’ุฑูŽ ุฃู† ุชูƒูˆู† ู…ุซู„ูŠ ุงู„ุฌู†ุณุŒ ู…ุน ุฏูู…ูŠุฉ ุทููˆู„ุชูŠ.
06:26
I make queer media for kids
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ูุตู†ุนุช ุฅุนู„ุงู…ุง ู„ู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ุงู„ู…ุซู„ูŠูŠู†
06:27
because I wish I had this when I was their age.
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ู„ุฃู†ู†ูŠ ุชู…ู†ูŠุช ู„ูˆ ุชูˆูุฑ ู„ูŠ ุฐู„ูƒ ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ูƒู†ุช ููŠ ุนู…ุฑู‡ู….
06:31
I make it so others don't have to struggle through what I did,
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ูู‚ู…ุช ุจุฐู„ูƒ ุญุชู‰ ู„ุง ูŠุถุทุฑ ุงู„ุขุฎุฑูˆู† ู„ู„ู…ุนุงู†ุงุฉ ูƒู…ุง ุญุฏุซ ู…ุนูŠ.
06:35
not understanding my identity
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ุฅุฐ ู„ู… ุฃูƒู† ุฃูู‡ู… ู‡ูˆูŠุชูŠุ›
06:36
because I didn't have any exposure to who I could be.
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ู„ุฃู†ู†ูŠ ู„ู… ุฃุชุนุฑุถ ู„ุฃูŠ ุดูŠุก ูŠุนุฑู‘ูู†ูŠ ุจู…ุง ูŠู…ูƒู† ุฃู† ุฃูƒูˆู† ุนู„ูŠู‡.
06:41
I teach and spread this message through joy and positivity
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ู„ุฐุง ุนู…ุฏุชู ุฅู„ู‰ ุฃุณู„ูˆุจ ุงู„ุชุฏุฑูŠุณ ูˆู†ุดุฑ ู‡ุฐู‡ ุงู„ุฑุณุงู„ุฉ ุจุทุฑูŠู‚ุฉ ุฅูŠุฌุงุจูŠุฉ ูˆู…ุฑุญุฉ
06:45
instead of framing it around the hardships of queer life.
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ุจุฏู„ุงู‹ ู…ู† ุชุตูˆูŠุฑู‡ุง ููŠ ู…ุนุงู†ุงุฉ ุงู„ู…ุซู„ูŠูŠู† ุฌู†ุณูŠุงู‹ ุฎู„ุงู„ ุญูŠุงุชู‡ู….
06:48
I want kids to grow up and into themselves
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ุฃูุฑูŠุฏู ู…ู† ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ุจุฃู† ูŠูƒุจุฑูˆุง ุจู…ุง ู‡ู… ุนู„ูŠู‡ุŒ
06:51
with pride for who they are and who they can be,
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ูˆุฃู† ูŠูุฎุฑูˆุง ุจุฃู†ูุณู‡ู… ุจู…ุง ู‡ู… ุนู„ูŠู‡ ูˆุจู…ุง ูŠู…ูƒู†ู‡ู… ุฃู† ูŠูƒูˆู†ูˆุง ุนู„ูŠู‡ุŒ
06:54
no matter who they love or what they wear or what pronouns they use.
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ุจุบุถ ุงู„ู†ุธุฑ ุนู† ู…ู† ูŠุญุจูˆู†ุŒ ุฃูˆ ู…ุง ูŠู„ุจุณูˆู†ุŒ ุฃูˆ ุฅู„ู‰ ุงู„ุถู…ุงุฆุฑ ุงู„ุชูŠ ูŠุณุชุฎุฏู…ูˆู†ู‡ุง.
06:58
And I want them to love others for their differences,
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ุฃุฑูŠุฏ ู…ู†ู‡ู… ุฃู† ูŠุญุจูˆุง ุงู„ุขุฎุฑูŠู† ุนู„ู‰ ุงุฎุชู„ุงูุงุชู‡ู…ุŒ
07:02
not in spite of them.
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ูˆู„ูŠุณ ุฑุบู… ุฃู†ูู‡ู….
07:05
I think fostering this pride and empathy
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ุฃุนุชู‚ุฏ ุฃู† ุชุนุฒูŠุฒ ุงู„ุซู‚ุฉ ุจุงู„ู†ูุณ ูˆุงู„ุชุนุงุทู
07:08
will make the world a kinder and more equal place
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ุณูŠุฌุนู„ ุงู„ุนุงู„ู… ู…ูƒุงู†ุงู‹ ุฃูƒุซุฑ ู„ุทูุงู‹ ูˆุฃูƒุซุฑ ู…ุณุงูˆุงุฉู‹ ูˆุนุฏู„ุงุŒ
07:13
and combat the bigotry and hate that festers in our world.
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ู…ู† ุดุฃู†ู‡ ู…ุญุงุฑุจุฉ ุงู„ุชุนุตุจ ูˆุงู„ูƒุฑุงู‡ูŠุฉ ุงู„ุชูŠ ุชูุดุช ุณู…ูˆู…ู‡ู…ุง ููŠ ุนุงู„ู…ู†ุง.
07:20
So, talk to a kid about gender.
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ู„ุฐุงุŒ ุชุญุฏู‘ุซ ุฅู„ู‰ ุทูู„ูƒ ุนู† ู†ูˆุน ุงู„ุฌู†ุณ.
07:25
Talk to a kid about sexuality.
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ุชุญุฏู‘ุซ ุฅู„ู‰ ุทูู„ูƒ ุนู† ุงู„ู‡ูˆูŠุฉ ุงู„ุฌู†ุณูŠุฉ.
07:27
Teach them about consent.
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ุนู„ู…ูˆู‡ู… ุนู† ุงู„ุฑุถุง ูˆุงู„ู‚ุจูˆู„.
07:29
Tell them it is OK for boys to wear dresses
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ุฃุฎุจุฑูˆู‡ู… ุฃู† ู„ุง ู…ุดูƒู„ุฉ ุฃู† ูŠุฑุชุฏูŠ ุงู„ุฃูˆู„ุงุฏ ุงู„ูุณุงุชูŠู†
07:32
and for girls to speak up.
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ูˆุฃู† ุชุชุญุฏุซ ุงู„ูุชูŠุงุช ุจุตูˆุชู ู…ุฑุชูุน.
07:35
Let's spread radical queer joy.
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ุฏุนูˆู†ุง ู†ู†ุดุฑ ุงู„ุจู‡ุฌุฉ ุจูŠู† ู…ุฌุชู…ุน ุงู„ุชุนุฏุฏูŠุฉ ุงู„ุฌู†ุณูŠุฉ.
07:40
Thank you.
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ุดูƒุฑุงู‹ ู„ูƒู….
07:41
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ุญูˆู„ ู‡ุฐุง ุงู„ู…ูˆู‚ุน

ุณูŠู‚ุฏู… ู„ูƒ ู‡ุฐุง ุงู„ู…ูˆู‚ุน ู…ู‚ุงุทุน ููŠุฏูŠูˆ YouTube ุงู„ู…ููŠุฏุฉ ู„ุชุนู„ู… ุงู„ู„ุบุฉ ุงู„ุฅู†ุฌู„ูŠุฒูŠุฉ. ุณุชุฑู‰ ุฏุฑูˆุณ ุงู„ู„ุบุฉ ุงู„ุฅู†ุฌู„ูŠุฒูŠุฉ ุงู„ุชูŠ ูŠุชู… ุชุฏุฑูŠุณู‡ุง ู…ู† ู‚ุจู„ ู…ุฏุฑุณูŠู† ู…ู† ุงู„ุฏุฑุฌุฉ ุงู„ุฃูˆู„ู‰ ู…ู† ุฌู…ูŠุน ุฃู†ุญุงุก ุงู„ุนุงู„ู…. ุงู†ู‚ุฑ ู†ู‚ุฑู‹ุง ู…ุฒุฏูˆุฌู‹ุง ููˆู‚ ุงู„ุชุฑุฌู…ุฉ ุงู„ุฅู†ุฌู„ูŠุฒูŠุฉ ุงู„ู…ุนุฑูˆุถุฉ ุนู„ู‰ ูƒู„ ุตูุญุฉ ููŠุฏูŠูˆ ู„ุชุดุบูŠู„ ุงู„ููŠุฏูŠูˆ ู…ู† ู‡ู†ุงูƒ. ูŠุชู… ุชู…ุฑูŠุฑ ุงู„ุชุฑุฌู…ุงุช ุจุงู„ุชุฒุงู…ู† ู…ุน ุชุดุบูŠู„ ุงู„ููŠุฏูŠูˆ. ุฅุฐุง ูƒุงู† ู„ุฏูŠูƒ ุฃูŠ ุชุนู„ูŠู‚ุงุช ุฃูˆ ุทู„ุจุงุช ุŒ ูŠุฑุฌู‰ ุงู„ุงุชุตุงู„ ุจู†ุง ุจุงุณุชุฎุฏุงู… ู†ู…ูˆุฐุฌ ุงู„ุงุชุตุงู„ ู‡ุฐุง.

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