Why kids need to learn about gender and sexuality | Lindsay Amer

翻译人员: Zongmin Liu 校对人员: psjmz mz

Alright, let's get this kicked off.

好的，我们开始吧。

(Music)

（音乐）

(Singing) It's OK to be gay.

（唱歌）做同性恋是可以的。

We are different in many ways.

我们在很多方面都不一样。

Doesn't matter if you're a boy, girl or somewhere in between,

不管你是男孩，女孩还是介于两者之间，

we all are part of one big family.

我们全是大家庭的一员。

Gay means "happy."

同性（Gay）的意思是“快乐”。

Queer Kid Stuff.

Queer Kid Stuff 。

You are enough

在Queer Kid Stuff这里

你是足够好的人。

here at Queer Kid Stuff.

(Applause)

（鼓掌）

Opening a performance with lyrics like "It's OK to be gay"

以“做同性恋是可以的”这样的歌词开场，

for a roomful of adults is one thing,

对一屋子成年观众是一回事，

but it's entirely different for a roomful of kindergartners.

但对一屋子小朋友来说，就完全不同了。

What you've just heard is the theme song for my web series "Queer Kid Stuff,"

你们刚才听到的是我的系列视频 “Queer Kid Stuff”的主题曲，

where I make LGBTQ+ and social justice videos for all ages.

内容是关于LGBT和社会公平的， 面向所有年龄层。

And when I say all ages, I mean literal babies

这里的“所有年龄层”， 真的是指从婴儿，

to your great-great-grandma.

到你的曾祖母。

Now, I know what you're thinking:

现在，你们应该在想：

"Whoa, they're talking about gay stuff with kids."

“哇哦，他们居然跟小朋友谈同性恋的事情。”

But talking to kids about gay stuff is actually crucial.

但跟小朋友谈同性恋的事情 实际上非常重要。

The American Academy of Pediatrics has found

美国儿科学会发现

that children have a solid understanding of their gender identity

儿童对性别认同的建立

by the age of four.

在4岁前就完成了。

This is when children are developing their sense of self.

这是儿童发展自我意识的时期。

他们观察周围的世界，

They're observing the world around them,

absorbing that information

吸收信息，

and internalizing it.

并进行内化。

Now, most parents want their children to become kind, empathetic,

现在，大多数的父母希望孩子能 成长为善良、有同理心、

self-confident adults,

自信的人，

and exposure to diversity is an important part

而了解性别多样性的存在，

of that social and emotional development.

是社交和情感发展的重要部分。

And -- gender nonconforming kids

而且，非常规性别的儿童，

and trans kids and kids with trans and nonbinary and queer parents

跨性别儿童，父母是跨性别、 非二元性别或者非异性恋的儿童，

are everywhere.

到处都有。

In the series, my stuffed bear cohost and I talk about the LGBT community,

在这些视频里，我的熊玩偶主持人 和我讨论LGBT社群，

activism, gender and pronouns,

行动主义，性别与性别代词，

consent and body positivity.

同意和对身体的积极认同。

We tackle these topics through songs,

我们通过歌曲来探讨这些话题，

not unlike the one you just heard,

就像你们刚才听到的那首，

simple definitions and metaphors.

直白的定义和比喻。

We approach these ideas, to steal a phrase from an old professor of mine,

在介绍这些观点时， 用我以前一位教授的话说，就是

from "under the doorknob" --

要“从门把手下”开始——

要降低到孩子的高度，

getting down to toddler height

and looking up at the great big world through their tiny little eyes,

通过他们小小的眼睛 仰望这个大大的世界，

taking these seemingly complex ideas and simplifying them --

讲述这些看似复杂的概念，简化它们——

not dumbing them down,

不是傻瓜化，

but homing in on the core concept.

而是关注核心概念。

Gender is about how we feel and how we express ourselves.

性别是关于我们 如何感受自我，表达自我。

Sexuality is about love and gender and family,

性取向是关于爱、性别和家庭，

not about sex.

而不是性。

And these are all ideas children can grasp.

这些都是儿童能理解的概念。

In one of my earliest episodes about gender,

在早期关于性别的视频里，

I used the idea of pronouns

我使用性别代词的概念，

to underscore the definition and introduce gender-neutral pronouns

强调定义并引入性别中立代词，

like "they" and "them."

例如“他们”（主格）和“他们”（宾格）。

I encourage children to think about their own pronouns

我鼓励孩子思考他们自己的代词

and to ask others for theirs.

并询问其他人的代词。

In later episodes, I build on this foundation

在后面的视频，我在这基础上

and introduce big fancy words like "nonbinary" and "transgender."

引入一些大的花哨词， 像“非二元性别”和“跨性别”。

I get emails from viewers in their 20s

我收到了一些20多岁的观众的邮件，

who use my videos to explain nonbinary gender to their grandparents.

他们用我的视频， 给祖父母解释非二元性别。

But, I get one comment over and over again:

但是，我无数次收到同一条评论：

"Let kids be kids."

“让孩子保持童真吧。”

Well, that's a nice sentiment and all,

好吧，这个观点没问题，

but only if it actually includes all kids.

但前提是它要囊括所有的孩子。

Just a few weeks ago,

就在几周前，

a 15-year-old in Huntsville, Alabama

在阿拉巴马州亨茨维尔市， 一个15岁的孩子

died by suicide after being bullied for being gay.

因为是同性恋被欺凌后自杀。

In 2018, it was a seven-year-old

2018年，在科罗拉多州丹佛市

in Denver, Colorado.

一个7岁的孩子也有相同遭遇。

There have been and will be many more.

这样的事发生过很多次， 将来也还会有很多。

Lesbian, gay and bisexual teens

女同性恋，男同性恋，双性恋青年

are more than three times more likely to attempt suicide

意图自杀的比例

是同龄异性恋者的3倍多，

than their heterosexual peers,

and transgender teens are almost six times more likely.

而跨性别青年差不多是6倍。

According to one study, roughly one third of homeless youth

一项研究表明，大约1/3 无家可归的青年

identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual or questioning,

被认为是男女同性恋、双性恋或者性别存疑，

and about four percent of homeless youth identify as transgender,

有大约4%无家可归的青年人 被认为是跨性别者，

相比之下，这个比例 在普通的青年人口调查中只有1%。

compared with one percent of the general youth population surveyed.

According to the Human Rights Campaign,

根据“人权战线”的数据，

there have been 128 killings of trans people

从2013年开始，

在32个州的87个城市

in 87 cities across 32 states

发生了128起针对跨性别者的杀人案。

since 2013.

And those are the only the reported cases.

这还只是被报道了的案件。

And 80 percent of those killings were of trans women of color.

其中80%的受害者是 有色人种的跨性别女性。

The queer situation is bleak,

非异性恋者的处境是艰难的，

to say the least.

毫不夸张地说。

The YouTube comments on my videos

我的视频在YouTube上的评论

are not much better.

也好不到哪儿去。

I'm used to the harassment.

我对那些骚扰已经习惯了。

I get messages daily telling me I'm a pedophile

每天我都会收到信息， 说我是个恋童癖，

and that I should kill myself in a number of increasingly creative ways.

我应该自杀，他们甚至还提供了 越来越多的有创意的自杀方法。

I once had to put the word "truck" on my block list

我曾经把“卡车”这个词屏蔽，

because someone wanted me to get run over by a truck.

因为有人想让我被卡车撞死。

"Shower" and "oven" are in there, too,

屏蔽的还有“淋浴”和“烤箱”，

for the less creative and more disturbing Holocaust reference.

针对那些缺乏创意 却更让人不安的杀戮方法。

When neo-Nazis marched in Charlottesville,

当新纳粹分子在夏洛茨维尔游行时，

I was unsurprised to learn

我得知在那些举着火把的游行者中，

that the creator of a violent Reddit meme about one of my episodes

就有那位在Reddit上 发布针对我的暴力视频的人时，

was in the tiki torch crowd.

我一点也不觉得惊讶。

This barrage of negativity is what we're up against:

这一连串的消极问题是我们要面对的：

the crushing statistics, the violence, the mental health risks,

糟糕的统计数据、暴力、心理健康风险，

the well-meaning but flawed response my parents gave me when I came out,

还有出柜时父母给我的 充满善意却错误的回应，

that they didn't want me to have a harder life.

他们希望我能活得轻松些。

That's what we're up against.

这就是我们要面对的。

But in the face of all that,

但在面对这些问题时，

I choose joy.

我选择快乐应对。

I choose rainbows and unicorns and glitter,

我选择彩虹、独角兽和光芒，

and I sing that it's OK to be gay with my childhood stuffed teddy bear.

我和小时候的熊玩偶一起唱 “同性恋也是可以的”。

I make queer media for kids

我为孩子们制作同性恋科普视频，

because I wish I had this when I was their age.

因为我多希望，我在小时候 就能看到这些视频。

I make it so others don't have to struggle through what I did,

我拍这些视频，所以其他人 不用经历我曾经的挣扎，

我不理解自我，

not understanding my identity

because I didn't have any exposure to who I could be.

因为我从来不知道，自己可以成为谁。

I teach and spread this message through joy and positivity

我通过快乐和积极性来 教育和传播这些信息

instead of framing it around the hardships of queer life.

而不是刻画同性恋生活的难处。

I want kids to grow up and into themselves

我希望孩子能骄傲地成长，

with pride for who they are and who they can be,

为今天的自己和未来的自己而自豪，

no matter who they love or what they wear or what pronouns they use.

无论他们爱的是谁， 穿的是什么，使用什么称呼。

And I want them to love others for their differences,

我希望他们因为各自的差异而相爱，

not in spite of them.

而不是忽略它们。

I think fostering this pride and empathy

我觉得，鼓励这种自豪感与同理心

will make the world a kinder and more equal place

能让世界变得更友善，更公平，

and combat the bigotry and hate that festers in our world.

能与腐蚀这个世界的偏见和仇恨战斗。

So, talk to a kid about gender.

所以，和孩子聊聊性别吧。

Talk to a kid about sexuality.

跟他们聊聊性取向。

Teach them about consent.

教他们如何拒绝。

Tell them it is OK for boys to wear dresses

告诉他们，男孩子可以穿裙子，

and for girls to speak up.

女孩子也可以大声说话。

Let's spread radical queer joy.

让我们一起为同性恋发声。

Thank you.

谢谢。

(Applause)

（鼓掌）