4 larger-than-life lessons from soap operas | Kate Adams

Prevodilac: Vesna Radovic Lektor: Mile Živković

In 1987, Tina Lord found herself in quite the pickle.

Godine 1987. Tina Lord se našla u popriličnom sosu.

See, this gold digger made sure she married sweet Cord Roberts

Ova sponzoruša je sve sredila da se uda za simpatičnog Korda Robertsa

just before he inherited millions.

tik pre nego što će on naslediti milione.

But when Cord found out Tina loved his money

No, kada Kord shvati da Tina voli njegov novac

as much as she loved him,

isto koliko i njega,

he dumped her.

on je ostavlja.

Cord's mother Maria was thrilled

Kordova majka Marija je bila presrećna,

until they hooked up again.

dok se oni ponovo nisu smuvali.

Marija unajmljuje Maksa Holdena da zavede Tinu,

So Maria hired Max Holden to romance Tina

and then made sure Cord didn't find out Tina was pregnant with his baby.

a onda se pobrinula da Kord ne sazna da je Tina trudna sa njegovim detetom.

So Tina, still married but thinking Cord didn't love her

Tako Tina, i dalje udata, ali u uverenju da je Kord ne voli,

flew to Argentina with Max.

odleti u Argentinu sa Maksom.

Cord finally figured out what was going on

Kord konačno shvata šta se dogodilo

and rushed after them, but he was too late.

i juri za njima, ali bilo je prekasno.

Tina had already been kidnapped,

Tinu su već kidnapovali,

strapped to a raft and sent over a waterfall.

privezali za splav i poslali put vodopada.

She and her baby were presumed dead.

Smatralo se da su ona i njena beba mrtvi.

Cord was sad for a bit,

Kord je na kratko bio tužan,

but then he bounced right back

ali je brzo stao na noge

with a supersmart archaeologist named Kate,

uz prepametnom arheološkinju po imenu Kejt.

and they had a gorgeous wedding

i svadba im je bila prekrasna

until Tina, seemingly back from the dead, ran into the church holding a baby.

sve dok se Tina nije vratila iz mrtvih i utrčala u crkvu sa bebom.

"Stanite!" vrisnula je.

"Stop!" she screamed.

"Am I too late?

"Jesam li zakasnila?

Cord, I've come so far.

Korde, došla sam izdaleka.

This is your son."

Ovo je tvoj sin."

And that, ladies and gentlemen,

I tako je, dame i gospodo,

is how the soap opera "One Life to Live" introduced a love story

sapunica "Imam jedan život" uvela ljubavnu priču

koja je trajala 25 godina.

that lasted 25 years.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

Now, if you've ever seen a soap opera,

E, sad, ako ste ikad gledali sapunicu,

you know the stories and the characters can be exaggerated, larger than life,

znate da priča i likovi mogu biti preuveličani, veći od života;

and if you're a fan, you find that exaggeration fun,

ako ste obožavalac, to preuveličavanje će vam biti zabavno,

and if you're not,

a ako niste,

maybe you find them melodramatic or unsophisticated.

možda vam bude melodramatično ili nesofisticirano.

Maybe you think watching soap operas

Možda smatrate da je gledanje sapunica

is a waste of time,

gubljenje vremena,

that their bigness means their lessons are small or nonexistent.

da se zbog tog preuveličavanja iz njih malo ili ništa može naučiti.

But I believe the opposite to be true.

No, ja verujem u suprotno.

Soap operas reflect life, just bigger.

Sapunice odslikavaju život, na većem nivou.

So there are real life lessons we can learn from soap operas,

Tako da ima šta da se nauči iz sapunica za svakodnevni život,

and those lessons are as big and adventurous

i te lekcije su isto toliko velike i avanturističke

as any soap opera storyline.

kao bilo koja fabula sapunice.

Now, I've been a fan since I ran home from the bus stop in second grade

Ja sam obožavateljka sapunica još od kad sam u drugom razredu

desperate to catch the end of Luke and Laura's wedding,

trčala kući žarko želeći da vidim kraj Lukovog i Loring venčanja,

the biggest moment in "General Hospital" history.

najveći trenutak u istoriji "Opšte bolnice".

(Aplauz)

(Applause)

So you can imagine how much I loved my eight years

Tako da možete zamisliti koliko sam volela osam godina provedenih

as the assistant casting director on "As the World Turns."

kao asistent kasting reditelja u "Ljubav za sva vremena".

My job was watching soap operas,

Posao mi je bio gledanje sapunica,

reading soap opera scripts

čitanje scenarija za sapunice

i intervjuisanje glumaca za sapunice.

and auditioning actors to be on soap operas.

So I know my stuff.

Poznajem ja materiju.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

And yes, soap operas

I da, sapunice

are larger than life,

su veće od života,

drama on a grand scale,

drama u velikom,

but our lives can be filled with as much intensity,

ali naši životi mogu biti ispunjeni sa isto toliko napetosti,

and the stakes can feel just as dramatic.

i ulozi mogu biti isto tako dramatični.

We cycle through tragedy and joy

Mi doživljavamo tragediju i sreću

isto kao i ovi likovi.

just like these characters.

Prelazimo granice, borimo se sa demonima i neočekivano pronalazimo spasenje,

We cross thresholds, fight demons and find salvation unexpectedly,

and we do it again and again and again,

i to radimo iznova i iznova,

but just like soaps, we can flip the script,

ali isto kao i sapunice, možemo preokrenuti scenario,

which means we can learn from these characters

što znači da možemo naučiti od ovih likova

that move like bumblebees,

koji se kreću kao bumbari,

looping and swerving through life.

vrte se u krug i lutaju kroz život.

I možemo iskoristiti te lekcije

And we can use those lessons

to craft our own life stories.

da napravimo sopstvenu životnu priču.

Soap operas teach us to push away doubt

Sapunice nas uče da odgurnemo sumnje

and believe in our capacity

i verujemo u naše sposobnosti

for bravery, vulnerability,

da budemo hrabri, ranjivi,

adaptability and resilience.

prilagodljivi i otporni.

And most importantly, they show us

I najvažnije, one nam pokazuju

it's never too late to change your story.

da nikad nije kasno promeniti svoju priču.

Hajde onda da počnemo sa lekcijom broj jedan iz sapunica:

So with that, let's start with soap opera lesson one:

predaja nije opcija.

surrender is not an option.

(Smeh)

(Laughter)

Erika Kejn iz serije "Sva moja deca", dnevna verzija Skarlet O'Hare,

"All My Children"'s Erica Kane was daytime's version of Scarlett O'Hara,

a hyperbolically self-important princess

princeza koja je sama preuveličala svoju važnost,

who deep down was scrappy and daring.

a duboko u sebi borbena i smela.

Now, in her 41 years on TV, perhaps Erica's most famous scene

Sa 41 godinom na TV-u, možda najpoznatija Erikina scena

is her alone in the woods

je kad je ona sama u šumi

suddenly face to face with a grizzly bear.

odjednom licem u lice sa grizlijem.

She screamed at the bear,

Povikala je medvedu:

"You may not do this!

"Ne možeš to da uradiš!

Do you understand me?

Razumeš li me?

You may not come near me!

Ne možeš da mi priđeš!

I am Erica Kane

Ja sam Erika Kejn

and you are a filthy beast!"

a ti si odvratna zver!"

(Smeh)

(Laughter)

And of course the bear left,

Naravno, medved je otišao,

so what that teaches us

tako da ono što možemo da naučimo

is obstacles are to be expected

je da su prepreke očekivane

and we can choose to surrender or we can stand and fight.

a mi biramo da li da se predamo ili da ustanemo i borimo se.

Pandora's Tim Westergren knows this better than most.

Tim Vestergern iz Pandore ovo zna bolje od mnogih drugih.

Možete ga čak nazvati Erikom Kejn Silicijumske doline.

You might even call him the Erica Kane of Silicon Valley.

Tim je sa suosnivačima lansirao kompaniju

Tim and his cofounders launched the company

sa dva miliona dolara kapitala.

with two million dollars in funding.

They were out of cash the next year.

Sledeće godine su bili švorc.

Now, lots of companies fold at that point, but Tim chose to fight.

Tada mnoge kompanije padaju, ali je Tim odlučio da se bori.

He maxed out 11 credit cards and racked up six figures in personal debt

Došao je do limita na 11 kreditnih kartica i nakrcao šestocifreni lični dug,

and it still wasn't enough.

a opet nije imao dovoljno.

So every two weeks for two years on payday he stood in front of his employees

Tako je svake dve nedelje, dve godine na dan plate izlazio pred zaposlene

and he asked them to sacrifice their salaries,

i zamolio bi ih da žrtvuju svoje plate,

i upalilo je.

and it worked.

More than 50 people deferred two million dollars,

Više od 50 ljudi priložilo je dva miliona dolara,

and now, more than a decade later,

i sada, više od deceniju kasnije,

Pandora is worth billions.

Pandora vredi milijarde.

When you believe that there is a way

Kada verujete da postoji način

around or through whatever is in front of you,

oko ili kroz bilo šta što se nađe ispred vas,

that surrender is not an option,

predaja nije opcija,

you can overcome enormous obstacles.

možete prevazići ogromne prepreke.

Which brings us to soap opera lesson two:

To je uvod u drugu lekciju iz sapunica:

sacrifice your ego and drop the superiority complex.

žrtvujte svoj ego i odbacite kompleks superiornosti.

Now, this is scary.

E, sad, ovo je strašno.

It's an acknowledgment of need or fallibility.

To je priznavanje potrebe ili mane.

Maybe it's even an admission

Možda je to čak i priznanje

that we're not as special as we might like to think.

da nismo toliko posebni koliko smo mislili.

Stefani Forester iz "Hrabrih i Lepih"

Stephanie Forrester of "The Bold and the Beautiful"

thought she was pretty darn special.

mislila je da je neviđeno posebna.

She thought she was so special,

Mislila je da je toliko posebna

she didn't need to mix with the riffraff from the valley,

da ne treba da se meša sa ološem iz doline,

and she made sure valley girl Brooke knew it.

a pobrinula se da to Bruk iz doline i sazna.

But after nearly 25 years of epic fighting,

Ali skoro 25 godina nakon epskog sukoba,

Stephanie got sick and let Brooke in.

Stefani se razbolela i pustila Bruk da dođe.

They made amends,

Pomirile su se,

archenemies became soul mates

arhineprijatelji su postali srodne duše

and Stephanie died in Brooke's arms,

i Stefani je umrla na rukama Bruk,

i evo je naša poruka.

and here's our takeaway.

Drop your ego.

Ostavite svoj ego.

Ne vrti se sve oko vas.

Life is not about you.

It's about us,

U igri smo svi,

and our ability to experience joy

i naša sposobnost da iskusimo radost

and love and to improve our reality

i ljubav i da popravimo našu stvarnost

comes only when we make ourselves vulnerable

dolazi tek onda kada shvatimo da smo ranjivi

and we accept responsibility for our actions

i kada preuzmemo odgovornost za naše postupke

i ne-postupke,

and our inactions,

kind of like Howard Schultz, the CEO of Starbucks.

nešto kao Hauard Šulc, direktor Starbaksa.

Now, after a great run as CEO,

Nakon sjajne uloge kao direktora,

Howard stepped down in 2000,

Hauard je sišao sa te pozicije 2000,

and Starbucks quickly overextended itself

i Starbaks je brzo precenio sebe

and stock prices fell.

i akcije na berzi su pale.

Howard rejoined the team in 2008,

Hauard se opet pridružio timu 2008,

and one of the first things he did

i jedna od prvih stvari koje je uradio

was apologize to all 180,000 employees.

bila je da se izvini 180 000 zaposlenih.

He apologized.

Izvinio se.

And then he asked for help, honesty, and ideas in return.

A potom ih je zamolio da mu zauzvrat daju pomoć, čestitost i ideje.

And now, Starbucks has more than doubled

Starbaks je više nego udvostručio

its net revenue since Howard came back.

vrednost od kad se Huard vratio.

Žrtvujte svoju želju da budete u pravu i na sigurnom sve vreme.

So sacrifice your desire to be right or safe all the time.

Tako ne pomažete nikome, a najmanje sebi.

It's not helping anyone, least of all you.

Sacrifice your ego.

Žrtvujte svoj ego.

Soap opera lesson three:

Lekcija broj tri iz sapunica:

evolution is real.

evolucija je stvarna.

You're not meant to be static characters.

Niste tu da biste bili statični lik.

On television, static equals boring and boring equals fired.

Na televiziji, statično znači dosadno a dosadno znači otkaz.

Characters are supposed to grow and change.

Likovi bi trebalo da rastu i da se menjaju.

Now, on TV, those dynamic changes

E, sad, na TV-u, ove dinamične promene

mogu da nadomeste neke grube prelaze,

can make for some rough transitions,

particularly when a character is played by one person yesterday

posebno kada jednog lika igra jedna osoba juče,

and played by someone new today.

a druga osoba danas.

Recasting happens all the time on soaps.

Glumačka postava se u sapunicama menja sve vreme.

Over the last 20 years,

U prethodnih 20 godina,

four different actors have played the same key role

četiri različita glumca igrala su istu ključnu ulogu

of Carly Benson on "General Hospital."

Karli Benson u "Opštoj bolnici".

Each new face triggered a change in the character's life and personality.

Svako novo lice uzrokovalo je promenu u životu lika i njegovoj ličnosti.

Now, there was always an essential nugget of Carly in there,

Naravno da je tu uvek ostajala osnovna Karlina crta,

but the character and the story adapted to whomever was playing her.

ali likovi i priča su se prilagođavali onome ko ju je igrao.

And here's what that means for us.

A evo šta to znači za nas.

While we may not swap faces in our own lives,

Jeste da ne možemo da menjamo lica u realnom životu,

ali možemo da se razvijamo.

we can evolve too.

We can choose to draw a circle around our feet and stay in that spot,

Možemo da biramo da li da nacrtamo krug oko sebe i da tu ostanemo,

or we can open ourselves to opportunities

ili možemo da se otvorimo ka mogućnostima

like Carly, who went from nursing student to hotel owner,

poput Karli, koja je od učenice medicinske škola postala vlasnik hotela,

or like Julia Child.

ili poput Džulije Čajld.

Julia was a World War II spy,

Džulija je bila špijun u Drugom svetskom ratu;

and when the war ended, she got married, moved to France,

kada se rat završio, udala se, preselila u Francusku,

and decided to give culinary school a shot.

i odlučila da pokuša sa školom kuvanja.

Džulija, njene knjige i njena TV emisija potpuno su promenile američku kuhinju.

Julia, her books and her TV shows revolutionized the way America cooks.

We all have the power to initiate change in our lives,

Svi mi imamo moć da promenimo nešto u našim životima,

to evolve and adapt.

da se razvijamo i prilagođavamo.

We make the choice,

Mi pravimo taj izbor,

but sometimes life chooses for us, and we don't get a heads up.

ali ponekad život bira umesto nas, a mi ne budemo spremni.

Iznenada nam udari šamar.

Surprise slams us in the face.

You're flat on the ground, the air is gone,

Nađemo se na zemlji, bez vazduha,

and you need resuscitation.

i treba nam veštačko disanje.

So thank goodness for soap opera lesson four:

I zato hvala nebesima za lekciju broj četiri iz sapunica:

moguće je oživeti.

resurrection is possible.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

(Applause)

(Aplauz)

In 1983, "Days of Our Lives"' Stefano DiMera died of a stroke,

Godina 1983, "Dani naših života", Stefano DiMera umire od šloga,

ali ne stvarno, jer već 1984.

but not really, because in 1984

he died when his car plunged into the harbor,

umire kada se njegov auto upadne u luku,

and yet he was back in 1985 with a brain tumor.

a opet, vraća se 1985. sa tumorom na mozgu.

(Smeh)

(Laughter)

Ali pre nego što ga tumor ubije,

But before the tumor could kill him,

Marlena shot him, and he tumbled off a catwalk to his death.

Marlena ga ustreli, i on sa modne piste ode u smrt.

And so it went for 30 years.

I sve tako 30 godina.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

Even when we saw the body,

Čak i kad smo videli njegovo telo,

we knew better.

nismo se dali prevariti.

He's called the Phoenix for a reason.

Ne zove se on Feniks bez razloga.

And here's what that means for us.

A evo šta to znači za nas.

Sve dok se šou emituje,

As long as the show is still on the air,

or you're still breathing,

ili sve dok dišete,

nothing is permanent.

ništa nije stalno.

Resurrection is possible.

Vaskrsenje je moguće.

Now, of course, just like life,

E, sad, naravno, baš kao i život,

soap operas do ultimately meet the big finale.

sapunice jednom dođu do velike završnice.

CBS canceled my show, "As The World Turns," in December 2009,

CBS je ukinuo moju seriju, "Ljubav za sva vremena" decembra 2009,

and we shot our final episode

snimili smo poslednju epizodu

in June 2010.

juna 2010.

It was six months of dying

Bilo je to šest meseci umiranja

and I rode that train right into the mountain.

i vozila sam se u tom vozu koji je išao pravo ka planini.

And even though we were in the middle of a huge recession

I iako smo bili usred ogromne recesije

i milioni ljudi su se borili da nađu posao,

and millions of people were struggling to find work,

I somehow thought everything would be OK.

nekako sam mislila da će sve biti okej.

Tako sam popakovala decu i stan u Bruklinu,

So I packed up the kids and the Brooklyn apartment,

and we moved in with my in-laws

i preselili smo se kod muževljevih

in Alabama.

u Alabamu.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

Three months later, nothing was OK.

Tri meseca kasnije, ništa nije bilo okej.

That was when I watched the final episode air,

Tada sam gledala poslednju epizodu koja se emitovala,

and I realized the show was not the only fatality.

i shvatila sam da nije bila žrtva samo ta serija.

Žrtva sam bila i ja.

I was one too.

Bila sam nezaposlena i živela na drugom spratu

I was unemployed and living on the second floor

of my in-laws' home,

u muževljevoj kući,

and that's enough to make anyone feel dead inside.

i to je dovoljno da se svako oseti mrtvim iznutra.

(Smeh)

(Laughter)

Ali znala sam da moja priča nije gotova,

But I knew my story wasn't over,

that it couldn't be over.

da ne može biti gotova.

I just had to tap into everything I had ever learned about soap operas.

Samo je trebalo da pogledam u sve što sam ikad naučila o sapunicama.

I had to be brave like Erica and refuse to surrender,

Morala sam da budem hrabra poput Erike i odbijem da se predam,

so every day, I made a decision to fight.

i tako sam svakog dana, odlučivala da se borim.

Morala sam da budem ranjiva kao Stefani

I had to be vulnerable like Stephanie

and sacrifice my ego.

i da žrtvujem svoj ego.

Morala sam da tražim pomoć mnogo puta u raznim državama.

I had to ask for help a lot of times across many states.

I had to be adaptable like Carly

Morala sam da se prilagođavam kao Karli

and evolve my skills, my mindset, and my circumstances,

i da razvijam svoje veštine, način razmišljanja i ono što me okružuje,

and then I had to be resilient, like Stefano,

a onda sam morala da budem otporna, kao Stefano,

and resurrect myself and my career

i vaskrsnem sebe i svoju karijeru

like a phoenix from the ashes.

poput feniksa iz pepela.

Eventually I got an interview.

Konačno su me pozvali na razgovor.

After 15 years in news and entertainment,

Nakon 15 godina u vestima i šou biznisu,

nine months of unemployment

9 meseci bez posla

and this one interview,

i ovog jednog razgovora,

I had an offer for an entry level job.

dobila sam ponudu za posao za početnika.

Imala sam 37 godina

I was 37 years old

and I was back from the dead.

i vratila sam se iz mrtvih.

We will all experience what looks like an ending,

Svi ćemo iskusiti ono što nam izgleda kraj,

and we can choose to make it a beginning.

i možemo od njega napraviti novi početak.

Nešto poput Tine, koja je na čudesan način preživela vodopad,

Kind of like Tina, who miraculously survived that waterfall,

and because I hate to leave a cliffhanger hanging,

i zato što mrzim da ostavljam stvari nedovršene.

Tina and Cord did get divorced,

Tina i Kord se jesu razveli,

ali su se venčavali opet još tri puta pre nego što je serija ukinuta 2012.

but they got remarried three times before the show went off the air in 2012.

I zapamtite,

So remember,

as long as there is breath in your body,

sve dok dišete,

it's never too late to change your story.

nikad nije kasno da promenite vašu priču.

Thank you.

Hvala vam.

(Applause)

(Aplauz)