Amanda Bennett: We need a heroic narrative for death

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Prevodilac: Danica Djuraskovic Lektor: Mile Živković
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So I'd like you to come back with me
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Hoću da se vratite sa mnom
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just for a few minutes
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barem na nekoliko minuta
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to a dark night in China,
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u tamnu kinesku noć
00:19
the night I met my husband.
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kada sam upoznala svog supruga.
00:22
It was a city so long ago that it was still called
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Bilo je to u jednom gradu, toliko davno
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Peking.
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da se grad još uvek zvao Peking.
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So I went to a party.
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Otišla sam na žurku
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I sat down next to a stout, middle-aged man
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i sela pored punačkog, srednjovečnog čoveka
00:34
with owl glasses and a bow tie,
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sa naočarima sa debelim okvirom i leptir mašnom
00:37
and he turned out to be a Fulbright scholar,
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za koga se ispostavilo da je stipendista Fulbrajtovog programa
00:40
there in China specifically to study
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koji je došao u Kinu sa namerom da proučava
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Sino-Soviet relations.
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bilateralne odnose između Kine i Rusije.
00:46
What a gift it was to the eager,
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Njegovo znanje je došlo kao poručeno
00:48
young foreign correspondent that I was then.
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meni, tada poletnom mladom stranom dopisniku.
00:51
I'd pump him for information,
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Ispitivala sam ga i upijala informacije,
00:53
I'm mentally scribbling notes
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pravila mentalne zabeleške
00:55
for the stories I plan to write.
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za priče koje sam htela da napišem.
00:57
I talk to him for hours.
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Pričali bismo satima.
00:59
Only months later,
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Tek posle nekoliko meseci
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I discover who he really was.
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sam otkrila ko je on u stvari.
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He was the China representative
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Bio je predstavnik
01:08
for the American Soybean Association.
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Američke asocijacije za soju u Kini.
01:12
"I don't understand. Soybeans?
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‚‚Soja? Ne razumem.
01:16
You told me you were a Fulbright scholar."
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A meni si rekao da si Fulbrajtov stipendista."
01:18
"Well, how long would you have talked to me
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‚‚Da li bi uopšte pričala sa mnom da sam ti rekao
01:20
if I told you we're in soybeans?"
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da radim sa sojom?"
01:22
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
01:25
I said, "You jerk."
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Nazvala sam ga kretenom.
01:28
Only jerk wasn't the word I used.
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Samo što to nije baš prava reč koju sam upotrebila.
01:32
I said, "You could've gotten me fired."
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Rekla sam: ‚‚Mogla sam da dobijem otkaz zbog tebe!"
01:36
And he said, "Let's get married."
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A on me je zaprosio.
01:39
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
01:41
"Travel the world and have lots of kids."
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‚‚Putovaćemo svetom i imati puno dece."
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So we did.
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Tako je i bilo.
01:46
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
01:48
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
01:53
And what an alive man Terence Bryan Foley
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Terens Brajan Foli se pokazao
01:57
turned out to be.
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kao čovek pun duha.
01:58
He was a Chinese scholar
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Bio je kineski akademik
02:00
who later, in his 60s,
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koji je kasnije, u svojim šezdesetim
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got a Ph.D. in Chinese history.
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doktorirao kinesku istoriju.
02:04
He spoke six languages,
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Govorio je šest jezika,
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he played 15 musical instruments,
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svirao petnaest instrumenata,
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he was a licensed pilot,
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imao pilotsku dozvolu,
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he had once been a San Francisco cable car operator,
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neko vreme je radio kao vozač tramvaja u San Francisku,
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he was an expert in swine nutrition,
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bio je stručnjak u polju ishrane svinja,
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dairy cattle, Dixieland jazz, film noir,
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krava muzara, Diksilend džeza, film noara
02:21
and we did travel the country, and the world,
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i jesmo proputovali našom zemljom, pa i planetom.
02:25
and we did have a lot of kids.
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I imali smo mnogo dece.
02:27
We followed my job, and it seemed like
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Pratili smo moju karijeru i činilo se
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there was nothing that we couldn't do.
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kao da ne poštoji ništa što ne možemo da postignemo.
02:33
So when we found the cancer,
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Kada smo saznali da ima rak
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it doesn't seem strange to us at all
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nije nam se uopšte činilo čudnim što smo
02:39
that without saying a word to each other,
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bez ijedne izgovorene reči
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we believed that,
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oboje verovali da ukoliko
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if we were smart enough
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budemo dovoljno pametni
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and strong enough and brave enough,
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jaki, hrabri
02:51
and we worked hard enough,
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i ukoliko se dovoljno potrudimo
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we could keep him from dying ever.
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mogli bismo da ga spasimo od smrti - zauvek.
02:58
And for years, it seemed like we were succeeding.
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Godinama nam se činilo kao da imamo uspeha.
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The surgeon emerged from the surgery.
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Hirurg se pojavio iz operacione sale.
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What'd he say? He said what surgeons always say:
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I šta je rekao? Ono što uvek i govore:
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"We got it all."
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‚‚Uspeli smo da izvadimo ceo tumor".
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Then there was a setback when the pathologists
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Pojavila se prepreka na putu kada
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looked at the kidney cancer closely.
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su patolozi pregledali njegov rak bubrega.
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It turned out to be a rare,
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Ispostavilo se da je imao redak,
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exceedingly aggressive type,
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izuzetno agresivni tip raka
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with a diagnosis that was almost universally fatal
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sa skoro stoprocentno fatalnom dijagnozom
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in several weeks at most.
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u roku od nekoliko nedelja u najboljem slučaju.
03:23
And yet, he did not die.
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Ipak, nije umro.
03:27
Mysteriously, he lived on.
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Iznenađujuće, ali preživeo je.
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He coached Little League for our son.
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Bio je trener u timu male lige našeg sina,
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He built a playhouse for our daughter.
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napravio kućicu za lutke našoj ćerki.
03:35
And meanwhile, I'm burying myself in the Internet
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U međuvremenu, ja sam provodila vreme na internetu
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looking for specialists.
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u potrazi za specijalistima.
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I'm looking for a cure.
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Tražila sam lek.
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So a year goes by
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Tako je prošla cela godina,
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before the cancer, as cancers do,
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a onda se rak, kao što obično i biva,
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reappears,
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vratio
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and with it comes another death sentence,
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i sa njim i još jedna smrtna presuda.
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this time nine months.
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Ovog puta je glasila devet meseci života.
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So we try another treatment, aggressive, nasty.
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Pokušali smo sa novom, agresivnom i groznom terapijom
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It makes him so sick, he has to quit it,
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koja ga je toliko namučila da smo prestali sa lečenjem.
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yet still he lives on.
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Ponovo je preživeo.
04:03
Then another year goes by.
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Prošla je još jedna godina.
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Two years go by.
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Još dve.
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More specialists.
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Još specijalista.
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We take the kids to Italy.
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Odveli smo decu u Italiju.
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We take the kids to Australia.
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Odveli smo ih i u Australiju.
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And then more years pass,
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Prođe još nekoliko godina
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and the cancer begins to grow.
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i tumor je počeo da raste.
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This time, there's new treatments on the horizon.
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Ovog puta su nam na raspolaganju novi načini lečenja.
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They're exotic. They're experimental.
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Egzotičniji, eksperimentalni,
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They're going to attack the cancer in new ways.
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koji će napasti tumor na neki novi način.
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So he enters a clinical trial, and it works.
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Ubačen je u uspešan program kliničkog ispitivanja lekova.
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The cancer begins to shrink,
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Tumor je počeo da se smanjuje
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and for the third time,
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i po treći put
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we've dodged death.
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smo uspeli da izbegnemo smrt.
04:37
So now I ask you,
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Sada ja vas pitam
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how do I feel
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šta mislite kako sam se osećala
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when the time finally comes
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kada je konačno došlo vreme
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and there's another dark night,
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i pred nama je još jedna tamna noć
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sometime between midnight and 2 a.m.?
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negde između ponoći i dva ujutru?
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This time it's on the intensive care ward
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Ovaj put se nalazimo na odeljenju intenzivne nege
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when a twentysomething resident
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i stažista od dvadeset i kusur godina
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that I've never met before
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koga nikad u životu nisam videla
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tells me that Terence is dying,
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me obaveštava da će Terens
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perhaps tonight.
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najverovatnije večeras umreti.
05:02
So what do I say when he says,
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Šta mislite šta sam uradila kada me je pitao
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"What do you want me to do?"
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šta želim da urade?
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There's another drug out there.
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Rekla sam da ima još lekova.
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It's newer. It's more powerful.
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Novih, jačih.
05:11
He started it just two weeks ago.
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Leči se tek dve nedelje.
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Perhaps there's still hope ahead.
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Možda još uvek ima nade.
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So what do I say?
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Šta sam rekla?
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I say, "Keep him alive if you can."
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Rekla sam da ga drže u životu ako mogu.
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And Terence died six days later.
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Terens je preminuo posle šest dana.
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So we fought, we struggled, we triumphed.
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Borili smo se, opirali, pobeđivali.
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It was an exhilarating fight,
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Bila je to uzbudljiva borba
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and I'd repeat the fight today
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i sve bih ponovo isto uradila
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without a moment's hesitation.
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bez imalo premišljanja.
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We fought together, we lived together.
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Živeli smo i borili se zajedno.
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It turned what could have been
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Ono što je moglo da bude
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seven of the grimmest years of our life
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sedam najstrašnijih godina našeg života,
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into seven of the most glorious.
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postalo je sedam najveličanstvenijih.
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It was also an expensive fight.
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To je bila skupa borba.
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It was the kind of fight and the kind of choices
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Takva vrsta borbe i takve odluke,
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that everyone here agrees
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složićete se,
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pump up the cost of end-of-life care,
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cede budžet namenjen brizi umirućih pacijenata
05:56
and of healthcare for all of us.
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i zdravstvenog osiguranja svih nas.
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And for me, for us,
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Ja, odnosno nas dvoje
06:01
we pushed the fight right over the edge,
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smo se borili koliko smo mogli,
06:03
and I never got the chance to say to him
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tako da nisam imala prilike da mu kažem
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what I say to him now almost every day:
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ono što mu sada često govorim:
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"Hey, buddy, it was a hell of a ride."
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‚‚Hej, druže, bilo nam je lepo dok je trajalo."
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We never got the chance to say goodbye.
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Nismo imali prilike da se oprostimo
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We never thought it was the end.
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zato što nismo mislili da mu se bliži kraj.
06:18
We always had hope.
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Nadali smo se.
06:23
So what do we make of all of this?
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Šta možemo da izvučemo iz mog iskustva?
06:27
Being a journalist, after Terence died,
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Pošto sam novinar, nakon Terensove smrti
06:31
I wrote a book, "The Cost Of Hope."
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napisala sam knjigu ‚‚Cena nade".
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I wrote it because I wanted to know
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Napisala sam je zato što sam htela da znam
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why I did what I did,
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zašto sam radila to što sam radila,
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why he did what he did,
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zašto je on radio to što je radio
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why everyone around us did what they did.
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i zašto su ljudi oko nas radili to što su radili.
06:42
And what did I discover?
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Šta sam otkrila?
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Well, one of the things I discovered is that
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Za početak sam došla do zaključka
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experts think that one answer to
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da stručnjaci misle da se jedan način da se odreaguje
06:48
what I did at the end was a piece of paper,
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u toj situaciji nalazi na parčetu papira,
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the advance directive,
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neke vrste biološkog testamenta koji bi pomogao
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to help families get past the seemingly irrational choices.
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porodicama da se izbore sa naizgled iracionalnim izborima.
06:58
Yet I had that piece of paper.
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Imala sam taj papir kod sebe.
07:02
We both did.
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Oboje smo ga imali.
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And they were readily available.
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Bio nam je lako dostupan.
07:05
I had them right at hand.
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Uvek pri ruci.
07:07
Both of them said the same thing:
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Na oba papira je pisalo jedno te isto:
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Do nothing if there is no further hope.
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ništa ne činiti ukoliko nema nade za izlečenje.
07:14
I knew Terence's wishes
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Znala sam Terensove želje
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as clearly and as surely as I knew my own.
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jasno i sigurno kao što sam znala i sopstvene.
07:20
Yet we never got to no further hope.
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Nije došlo do toga da prestanemo da se nadamo.
07:25
Even with that clear-cut paper in our hands,
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Čak i sa tim parčetom papira u rukama
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we just kept redefining hope.
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mi nismo gubili nadu.
07:32
I believed I could keep him from dying,
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Bila sam uverena da mogu da ga spasim od smrti
07:37
and I'd be embarrassed to say that if I hadn't seen
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i bilo bi me sramota da to izgovorim da nisam
07:40
so many people and have talked to so many people
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pričala i upoznala gomilu ljudi
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who have felt exactly the same way.
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koji su se isto tako osećali.
07:44
Right up until days before his death,
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Do samog kraja, poslednjih dana njegovog života
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I felt strongly
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imala sam snažno
07:52
and powerfully, and, you might say, irrationally,
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i neko bi rekao iracionalno uverenje
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that I could keep him from dying ever.
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da ga mogu spasiti od smrti - zauvek.
08:01
Now, what do the experts call this?
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Kako stručnjaci nazivaju ovo osećanje?
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They say it's denial.
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Kažu da je to poricanje.
08:07
It's a strong word, isn't it?
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Prilično snažna reč, zar ne?
08:09
Yet I will tell you that denial
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Reći ću vam da poricanje istine
08:11
isn't even close to a strong enough word
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nije ni približno odgovarajuća reč
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to describe what those of us
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koja bi objasnila ono kroz šta
08:19
facing the death of our loved ones go through.
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ljudi suočeni sa smrću voljene osobe prolaze.
08:23
And I hear the medical professionals say,
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Mogu da čujem medicinske radnike koji govore
08:25
"Well, we'd like to do such-and-such,
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da bi voleli da postupe na određeni način
08:27
but the family's in denial.
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ali porodice bolesnika poriču istinu.
08:29
The family won't listen to reason.
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Kažu da članovi porodice ne slušaju glas razuma
08:32
They're in denial.
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i odbijaju da prihvate istinu.
08:34
How can they insist on this treatment at the end?
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Pitaju se zašto i dalje insistiramo na lečenju.
08:36
It's so clear, yet they're in denial."
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Sve je jasno, a mi i dalje odbijajamo da vidimo istinu.
08:39
Now, I think this maybe isn't
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Smatram da to nije
08:41
a very useful way of thinking.
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baš najkorisniji način razmišljanja.
08:44
It's not just families either.
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To se ne odnosi samo na porodice pacijenata.
08:47
The medical professionals too,
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I medicinsko osoblje
08:49
you out there, you're in denial too.
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da, baš vi, i vi poričete istinu.
08:52
You want to help. You want to fix.
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Želite da pomognete, da popravite stvar.
08:55
You want to do.
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Hoćete da uradite nešto.
08:57
You've succeeded in everything you've done,
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Dovršili ste sve što ste pokušali
09:00
and having a patient die,
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i kada vam pacijenti svejedno umiru
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well, that must feel like failure.
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mora da se osećate kao gubitnici.
09:05
I saw it firsthand.
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Znam iz ličnog iskustva.
09:07
Just days before Terence died,
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Nekoliko dana pre Terensove smrti,
09:10
his oncologist said,
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onkolog mi je rekao:
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"Tell Terence that better days are just ahead."
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da prenesem Terensu da ga čekaju bolji dani.
09:15
Days before he died.
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To je bilo nekoliko dana pre nego što je umro.
09:17
Yet Ira Byock,
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Ipak, Ajra Bajok,
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the director of palliative medicine at Dartmouth
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direktor palijativne medicine na Dartmutu,
09:21
said, "You know, the best doctor in the world
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mi je rekao da ni najbolji lekar na svetu
09:24
has never succeeded in making anyone immortal."
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nije nijednog čoveka učinio besmrtnim.
09:29
So what the experts call "denial," I call "hope,"
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Ono što stručnjaci smatraju poricanjem, za mene je nada.
09:35
and I'd like to borrow a phrase
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Volela bih da sada pozajmim termin
09:38
from my friends in software design.
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koji koriste softverski inženjeri.
09:41
You just redefine denial and hope,
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Ako promenimo značenja reči ‚‚poricanje" i ‚‚nada",
09:44
and it becomes a feature of being human.
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one postaju samo jedne od karakteristika čoveka.
09:48
It's not a bug.
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Nada nije greška u kompjuterskom programu.
09:49
It's a feature.
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Ona je samo jedna od njegovih karakteristika.
09:52
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
09:55
So we need to think more constructively
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Moramo da podrobnije razmislimo
09:59
about this very common, very profound
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o ovoj čestoj, veoma dubokoj
10:03
and very powerful human emotion.
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i jakoj ljudskoj emociji.
10:07
It's part of the human condition,
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Ona je deo ljudskog postojanja
10:09
and yet our system and our thinking
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a ipak naš sistem i način razmišljanja
10:12
isn't built to accommodate it.
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ne može da se nosi sa njom.
10:15
So Terence told me a story on that long-ago night,
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Terens mi je ispričao priču te davne noći
10:18
and I believed it.
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u koju sam ja poverovala.
10:20
Maybe I wanted to believe it.
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Možda sam htela da poverujem u nju.
10:23
And during Terence's illness, I, we,
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Tokom Terensove bolesti smo,
10:28
we wanted to believe the story
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hteli smo da verujemo u priču
10:30
of our fight together too.
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o zajedničkoj borbi.
10:33
Giving up the fight -- for that's how it felt,
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Ako odustanemo, takav je bio osećaj,
10:36
it felt like giving up --
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činilo nam se da odustajemo
10:38
meant giving up not only his life
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ne samo od njegovog života
10:41
but also our story,
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već i od naše priče -
10:45
our story of us as fighters,
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priče o nama kao borcima,
10:47
the story of us as invincible,
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priče o nepobedivim nama.
10:50
and for the doctors, the story of themselves
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Za doktore je to značilo da odustanu od priče
10:52
as healers.
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o njima kao isceliteljima.
10:55
So what do we need?
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Šta je ono što nam treba?
10:57
Maybe we don't need a new piece of paper.
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Možda nam ne treba novo parče papira.
11:00
Maybe we need a new story,
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Možda nam treba nova priča
11:03
not a story about giving up the fight
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koja nije priča o odustajanju,
11:07
or of hopelessness,
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o beznađu,
11:09
but rather a story of victory and triumph,
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več priča o pobedi i trijumfu,
11:13
of a valiant battle and, eventually,
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o viteškoj borbi i naposletku,
11:18
a graceful retreat,
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dostojanstvenom povlačenju.
11:20
a story that acknowledges
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To bi bila priča u kojoj se priznaje
11:23
that not even the greatest general defeats every foe,
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da čak ni najbolji general ne može da pobedi svakog neprijatelja
11:27
that no doctor has ever succeeded
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kao što ni najbolji doktor nije uspeo
11:29
in making anyone immortal,
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da ikoga učini besmrtnim
11:32
and that no wife, no matter how hard she tried,
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i da nijedna žena, ma kako se trudila,
11:38
has ever stopped even the bravest,
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nije spasila čak ni najhrabrijeg,
11:42
wittiest and most maddeningly lovable husband
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najdovitljivijeg čoveka koga je nemoguće ne voleti,
11:47
from dying when it was his time to go.
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od smrti kada mu je bilo vreme.
11:51
People did mention hospice,
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Ljudi su savetovali da ga pošaljem
11:53
but I wouldn't listen.
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u dom za palijativnu negu, ali sam ja odbijala.
11:56
Hospice was for people who were dying,
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To mesto je za ljude na samrti,
12:00
and Terence wasn't dying.
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a Terens nije umirao.
12:03
As a result, he spent just four days in hospice,
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Na kraju je proveo samo četiri dana u domu
12:06
which I'm sure, as you all know,
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što je, kao što već znate
12:08
is a pretty typical outcome,
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i bilo za očekivati,
12:10
and we never said goodbye
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a mi nismo stigli da se oprostimo
12:11
because we were unprepared for the end.
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zato što nismo bili spremni za kraj.
12:14
We have a noble path to curing the disease,
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Imamo plemeniti cilj izlečenja bolesti,
12:18
patients and doctors alike,
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kako pacijenti, tako i lekari,
12:21
but there doesn't seem to be
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ali, čini se da ne postoji
12:23
a noble path to dying.
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dostojanstveni način da se umre.
12:25
Dying is seen as failing,
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Smrt izjednačujemo sa gubitništvom.
12:28
and we had a heroic narrative
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Imali smo mit
12:31
for fighting together,
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o herojskoj borbi,
12:33
but we didn't have a heroic narrative for letting go.
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ali ne i o herojskim suočavanjem sa smrću.
12:38
So maybe we need a narrative
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Možda nam je neophodna priča
12:42
for acknowledging the end, and for saying goodbye,
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koja bi nam pomogla da prihvatimo kraj i oprostimo se.
12:46
and maybe our new story will be
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Možda će tada naša priča biti priča
12:48
about a hero's fight, and a hero's goodbye.
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o borbi i opraštanju koji su dostojni heroja.
12:53
Terence loved poetry,
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Terens je voleo poeziju
12:55
and the Greek poet Constantine Cavafy
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a grčki pesnik Konstantin Kavafi
12:59
is one of my favorite poets.
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je jedan od mojih omiljenih pesnika.
13:01
So I'll give you a couple lines from him.
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Evo nekoliko njegovih stihova.
13:04
This is a poem about Mark Antony.
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Ova pesma je o Marku Antoniju
13:06
You know Mark Antony, the conquering hero,
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Znate Marka Antonija, heroja i osvajača?
13:09
Cleopatra's guy?
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Kleopatrinog tipa?
13:11
Actually, one of Cleopatra's guys.
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To jest, jednog od njenih tipova.
13:13
And he's been a pretty good general.
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A bio je i solidan general.
13:16
He's won all the fights,
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Osvojio je sve bitke u kojima je učestvovao,
13:17
he's eluded all the people that are out to get him,
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utekao svima koji su ga jurili
13:19
and yet this time, finally,
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i naposletku je
13:21
he's come to the city of Alexandria
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stigao u Aleksandriju
13:23
and realized he's lost.
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i shvatio da je izgubio bitku.
13:24
The people are leaving. They're playing instruments.
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Ljudi odlaze, sviraju instrumente,
13:26
They're singing.
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pevaju,
13:27
And suddenly he knows he's been defeated.
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a on shvata da je poražen.
13:30
And he suddenly knows
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Konačno shvata
13:32
he's been deserted by the gods,
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da bogovi više nisu na njegovoj strani
13:35
and it's time to let go.
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i da je vreme da prestane da se bori.
13:37
And the poet tells him what to do.
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Pesnik mu govori šta mu je činiti.
13:39
He tells him how to say a noble goodbye,
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Govori mu da se dostojanstveno oprosti,
13:42
a goodbye that's fit for a hero.
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onako kako priliči jednom heroju.
13:46
"As if long-prepared,
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‚‚Kao da si spreman godinama,
13:48
as if courageous,
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kao junak,
13:51
as it becomes you
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kao što priliči tebi
13:54
who were worthy of such a city,
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što si bio zaslužan takvog jednog grada,
13:56
approach the window with a firm step,
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priđi prozoru sigurna koraka
13:58
and with emotion,
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i slušaj sa uzbuđenjem
14:01
but not with the entreaties
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ali ne proklinjući
14:03
or the complaints of a coward,
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ili tužeći poput kukavice,
14:06
as a last enjoyment,
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kao poslednje svoje zadovoljstvo
14:08
listen to the sounds,
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slušaj zvuke
14:10
the exquisite instruments of the musical troops,
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i sjajne instrumente muzičara
14:13
and bid her farewell,
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i pozdravi je,
14:16
the Alexandria you are losing."
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Aleksandriju koju si izgubio."
14:20
That's a goodbye for a man who was larger than life,
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To je poslednji pozdrav čoveka koji je bio veći od samog života,
14:24
a goodbye for a man
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poslednji pozdrav čoveka
14:26
for whom anything,
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kome se ništa,
14:28
well, almost anything,
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pa, skoro ništa
14:31
was possible,
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nije činilo nemogućim,
14:33
a goodbye for a man who kept hope alive.
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čoveka koji nije gubio nadu.
14:36
And isn't that what we're missing?
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Zar nije to ono što nam nedostaje?
14:38
How can we learn that people's decisions
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Kako to da ljudi donose odluke
14:40
about their loved ones
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o njima dragim osobama
14:42
are often based strongly, powerfully,
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često na osnovu snažnih,
14:45
many times irrationally,
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iracionalnih osećanja,
14:48
on the slimmest of hopes?
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baziranih na najtanjoj mogućoj nadi?
14:51
The overwhelming presence of hope
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Nada je nadmoćna
14:54
isn't denial.
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i nije isto što i poricanje.
14:55
It's part of our DNA as humans,
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Ona je deo naše DNK
14:58
and maybe it's time our healthcare system --
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i možda je krajnje vreme da naš zdravstveni sistem -
15:00
doctors, patients, insurance companies, us,
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lekari, pacijenti, osiguranje, mi sami
15:05
started accounting for the power of that hope.
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shvatimo snagu nade.
15:09
Hope isn't a bug.
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Nada nije greška u programu.
15:11
It's a feature.
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Ona je karakteristika programa.
15:13
Thank you.
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Hvala na pažnji.
15:16
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
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