Carina Morillo: To understand autism, don't look away (with English subtitles) | TED

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μ•„λž˜ μ˜λ¬Έμžλ§‰μ„ λ”λΈ”ν΄λ¦­ν•˜μ‹œλ©΄ μ˜μƒμ΄ μž¬μƒλ©λ‹ˆλ‹€.

λ²ˆμ—­: Sojeong KIM κ²€ν† : Jihyeon J. Kim
00:13
"Look at me!"
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"λ‚  보렴."
00:16
That phrase turned me into an eye-contact coach.
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이 문ꡬ둜 눈 λ§žμΆ”κΈ° μ½”μΉ˜κ°€ λ˜μ—ˆμ£ .
00:22
I'm the mother of Ivan; he's 15 years old.
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μ €λŠ” 15μ‚΄ 이반의 μ—„λ§ˆμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
00:26
Ivan has autism,
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μ΄λ°˜μ€ 자폐 아동이고, 말을 μ•ˆ ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
00:28
he doesn't speak,
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00:29
and he communicates through an iPad,
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λŒ€μ‹  μ•„μ΄νŒ¨λ“œ 사진을 톡해 μ†Œν†΅ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
00:31
where his whole universe of words exists in images.
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μ΄λ°˜μ—κ²ŒλŠ” 사진이 곧 λ‹¨μ–΄μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
00:37
He was diagnosed when he was two and a half.
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이반이 2μ‚΄ 반일 λ•Œ, 진단을 λ°›μ•˜μ£ .
00:43
I still remember that day painfully.
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μ§€κΈˆλ„ κ·Έ λ•Œμ˜ 고톡이 κΈ°μ–΅λ‚©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
00:49
My husband and I felt really lost;
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λ‚¨νŽΈκ³Ό μ €λŠ” 길을 μžƒμ€ κΈ°λΆ„μ΄μ—ˆμ£ .
00:53
we didn't know where to begin.
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μ–΄λ””μ„œλΆ€ν„° μ‹œμž‘ν• μ§€ λͺ°λžμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
00:56
There was no internet,
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λ‹Ήμ‹œμ—λŠ” 인터넷도 μ—†μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
00:59
you couldn't Google information,
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κ΅¬κΈ€λ‘œ 정보λ₯Ό 찾을 수 μ—†μ—ˆμ–΄μš”.
01:02
so we made those first steps
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μš°λ¦¬λŠ” μˆœμ „νžˆ 직감에 μ˜μ‘΄ν•˜μ—¬
01:05
out of sheer intuition.
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μ²«κ±ΈμŒμ„ λ‚΄λ””λ”œ μˆ˜λ°–μ— μ—†μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
01:09
Ivan would not maintain eye contact,
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μ΄λ°˜μ€ μ œλŒ€λ‘œ λˆˆμ„ λ§ˆμ£ΌμΉ˜μ§€ λͺ»ν–ˆκ³ 
01:12
he had lost the words that he did know,
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전에 μ•Œλ˜ 단어도 μžŠμ–΄λ²„λ ΈμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
01:16
and he didn't respond to his name or to anything we asked him,
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이름을 λΆˆλŸ¬λ„ λ¬΄λ°˜μ‘μ΄μ—ˆκ³ 
μ–΄λ–€ μ§ˆλ¬Έμ—λ„ λ¬΅λ¬΅λΆ€λ‹΅μ΄μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
01:20
as if words were noise.
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말이 μ†ŒμŒμœΌλ‘œ λŠκ»΄μ§€λŠ” λ“― λ³΄μ˜€μ£ .
01:25
The only way I could know
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이반이 무슨 생각을 ν•˜κ³ 
μ–΄λ–€ κΈ°λΆ„ μƒνƒœμΈμ§€
01:29
what was going on with him,
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01:32
what he felt,
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νŒŒμ•… ν•  수 μžˆλŠ” μœ μΌν•œ 방법은
01:34
was looking him in the eye.
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λˆˆμ„ λ°”λΌλ³΄λŠ” κ²ƒμ΄μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
01:37
But that bridge was broken.
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κ·ΈλŸ¬λ‚˜ μ—°κ²°κ³ λ¦¬λŠ” 끊겨 μžˆμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
01:42
How could I teach him about life?
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μ΄λ°˜μ—κ²Œ μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ 삢을 κ°€λ₯΄μΉ κΉŒμš”?
01:47
When I did things he liked, he would look at me,
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이반이 μ’‹μ•„ν•˜λŠ” κ±Έ ν•˜λ©΄
κ·Έλ•Œ μ•„μ΄λŠ” 절 λ°”λΌλ³΄μ•˜κ³ 
01:51
and we were connected.
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μš°λ¦¬λŠ” μ„œλ‘œ μ—°κ²°λ˜μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
01:53
So I dedicated myself to working with him on those things,
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이런 μˆœκ°„μ΄ 자주있길 κΈ°λŒ€ν•˜λ©°
01:57
so we would have more and more eye-contact moments.
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아이가 μ’‹μ•„ν•˜λŠ” κ±Έ μ°ΎλŠ” 데 μ§‘μ€‘ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
02:03
We would spend hours and hours playing tag with his older sister, Alexia,
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이반의 λˆ„λ‚˜ μ•Œλ ‰μ‹œμ•„μ™€ ν•¨κ»˜
λͺ‡ μ‹œκ°„ λ™μ•ˆ 술래작기λ₯Ό ν•˜κ³€ ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
02:10
and when we said: "I caught you!"
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μš°λ¦¬κ°€ "와! μž‘μ•˜λ‹€!"라고 λ§ν•˜λ©΄
02:14
he would look around for us,
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μ΄λ°˜μ€ λˆˆμ§“μœΌλ‘œ 우리λ₯Ό μ°Ύμ•˜μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
02:16
and at that moment, I could feel he was alive.
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κ·Έ μˆœκ°„, 아듀이 μ‚΄μ•„μžˆλ‹€κ³  λŠκΌˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
02:24
We also hold a record for hours spent in a swimming pool.
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수영μž₯에도 μž₯μ‹œκ°„ λ¨Έλ¬Όλ €μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
02:31
Ivan always had a passion for water.
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μ΄λ°˜μ€ 물에 λŒ€ν•΄ 큰 열정을 λ³΄μ˜€μ–΄μš”.
02:35
I remember when he was two and a half,
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아이가 두 μ‚΄ λ°˜μ΄μ—ˆμ„ λ•Œ
02:39
on a rainy winter day,
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λΉ„κ°€ 많이 λ‚΄λ¦¬λ˜ κ²¨μšΈλ‚ 
02:42
I was taking him to an indoor pool,
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μ‹€λ‚΄ 수영μž₯으둜 ν–₯ν•˜κ³  μžˆμ—ˆμ£ .
02:45
because even on rainy days we'd go swimming.
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ꢂ은 날씨도 μ•„λž‘κ³³ν•˜μ§€ μ•Šμ•˜μ£ .
02:49
We were on the highway, and I took the wrong exit.
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κ³ μ†λ„λ‘œλ₯Ό λ‹¬λ¦¬λ˜ 쀑
그만 길을 잘λͺ» λ“€μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
02:54
He burst into tears and cried inconsolably, nonstop,
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μ΄λ°˜μ€ λ©ˆμΆ”μ§€ μ•Šκ³  ν•˜μ—Όμ—†μ΄ μšΈμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
02:58
until I turned back.
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λ°”λ₯ΈκΈΈλ‘œ μ§„μž…ν•΄μ„œμ•Ό λˆˆλ¬Όμ„ λ©ˆμ·„μ–΄μš”.
03:00
Only then did he calm down.
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κ·Έμ œμ•Ό 진정이 λ˜μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
03:03
How was it possible that a two and a half year old
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이름을 λΆˆλŸ¬λ„ 닡이 μ—†λ˜ 2μ‚΄ 반의 아이가
μ•ˆκ°œκ°€ μžμš±ν•˜κ³  λΉ„κ°€ μŸμ•„μ§€λŠ” λ‚ 
03:07
didn't respond to his own name,
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03:09
yet in the middle of the rain and fog, where I couldn't see anything,
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저도 μ•Œμ•„λ³΄κΈ° νž˜λ“€μ—ˆλ˜ 길을
03:13
he knew the exact route?
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κΈ°μ–΅ν•œλ‹€λŠ” 것이 μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ κ°€λŠ₯ν• κΉŒμš”?
03:20
That's when I realized that Ivan had an exceptional visual memory,
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μš°μˆ˜ν•œ μ‹œκ° κΈ°μ–΅λ ₯을 κ°€μ‘Œλ˜ κ²λ‹ˆλ‹€.
03:25
and that that would be my way in.
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이반의 세계λ₯Ό 이해할 문이 μ—΄λ ΈμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
03:29
So I started taking pictures of everything,
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κ·Έλ•ŒλΆ€ν„° λͺ¨λ“ κ±Έ μ‚¬μ§„μœΌλ‘œ λ‚¨κ²ΌμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
03:32
and teaching him what life was like,
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사진을 ν•œ μž₯μ”© 보여주며
03:34
showing it to him, picture by picture.
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삢에 λŒ€ν•΄ κ°€λ₯΄μ³€μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
03:39
Even now, it's the way Ivan communicates
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μ΄λ°˜μ€ μ§€κΈˆλ„ μ‚¬μ§„μœΌλ‘œ μ†Œν†΅ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
03:44
what he wants,
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μ›ν•˜λŠ” 것과 ν•„μš”ν•œ 것을 λ§ν•˜κ³ 
03:46
what he needs
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03:48
and also what he feels.
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μžμ‹ μ˜ 감정도 ν‘œν˜„ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
03:53
But it wasn't just Ivan's eye contact that mattered.
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κ·ΈλŸ¬λ‚˜ 이반의 μ‹œμ„ λ§Œ μ€‘μš”ν•œ 게 μ•„λ‹ˆμ—ˆμ£ .
03:58
Everyone else's did, too.
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νƒ€μΈλ“€μ˜ μ‹œμ„ λ„ μžˆμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
04:02
How could I make people see not only his autism,
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μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ ν•˜λ©΄
μ‚¬λžŒλ“€μ΄ μžνλ§Œμ„ 보지 μ•Šκ³ 
04:06
but see him the person
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아이 자체λ₯Ό λ΄μ€„κΉŒμš”?
04:09
and everything he can give;
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μ•„μ΄μ˜ λŠ₯λ ₯κ³Ό
04:12
everything he can do;
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κ°€λŠ₯성을 보고
04:15
the things he likes and doesn't like,
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우리처럼 μ’‹μ•„ν•˜κ³  μ‹«μ–΄ν•˜λŠ”κ²Œ μžˆλŠ”
04:17
just like any one of us?
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μ•„μ΄μ˜ λͺ¨μŠ΅μ„ 봐주길 λ°”λžμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
04:21
But for that, I also had to give of myself.
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이λ₯Ό μœ„ν•΄, 제 λͺ«μ„ ν•΄μ•Ό ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
04:25
I had to have the strength to let him go,
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λ§ˆμŒμ„ λ‹€μž‘κ³  아이λ₯Ό λ†“μ•„μ€˜μ•Ό ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
04:28
which was extremely difficult.
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무척 νž˜λ“€μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
04:33
Ivan was 11 years old,
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이반이 11μ„Έ 되던 ν•΄
04:35
and he went for treatment in a neighborhood near our house.
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집 근처 λ™λ„€μ—μ„œ 치료λ₯Ό λ°›μ•˜μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
04:40
One afternoon, while I was waiting for him,
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μ–΄λŠ λ‚  μ˜€ν›„, 아이λ₯Ό κΈ°λ‹€λ¦¬λ˜ μ €λŠ”
04:44
I went into a greengrocer,
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μ±„μ†Œκ°€κ²Œμ— λ“€μ–΄κ°”μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
04:46
a typical neighborhood store with a little bit of everything.
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λͺ¨λ“  것을 μ‘°κΈˆμ”© νŒŒλŠ” ν‰λ²”ν•œ κ°€κ²Œμ˜€μ£ .
04:50
While doing the shopping,
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이것저것 사닀가
04:51
I started talking to Jose, the owner.
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κ°€κ²Œ 주인인 ν˜Έμ„Έμ™€ λŒ€ν™”ν•˜κ²Œ λ˜μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
04:56
I told him about Ivan,
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μ΄λ°˜μ—κ²Œ 자폐증이 μžˆλ‹€κ³  λ§ν–ˆμ£ .
04:58
that he had autism,
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05:01
and that I wanted him to learn to walk down the street by himself,
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μ €λŠ” 이반이 λ‹€λ₯Έ μ‚¬λžŒμ˜ 도움 없이도
05:05
without anyone holding his hand.
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혼자 κ±·λŠ” 법을 배우길 λ°”λžμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
05:08
So I decided to ask Jose if Thursdays around 2pm,
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용기λ₯Ό λ‚΄μ–΄ ν˜Έμ„Έμ—κ²Œ λ¬Όμ–΄λ³΄μ•˜μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
ν˜Ήμ‹œ 맀주 λͺ©μš”일 μ˜€ν›„ 두 μ‹œ
05:13
Ivan could come and help him arrange the water bottles on the shelves,
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이반이 μ •λ¦¬ν•˜λŠ”κ±Έ 무척 μ’‹μ•„ν•˜λŠ”λ°
물병을 μ •λ¦¬ν•˜λŸ¬ 와도 λ˜λŠ”μ§€ λ¬Όμ—ˆμ£ .
05:17
because he loved to organize things.
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05:19
And as a reward, he could buy some chocolate cookies,
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μƒμœΌλ‘œ 초콜릿 과자면 μΆ©λΆ„ν•˜λ‹€κ³ μš”.
05:23
which were his favorite.
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이반이 μ’‹μ•„ν•˜λŠ” κ³Όμžμ˜€μ£ .
05:27
He said "yes" right away.
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ν˜Έμ„ΈλŠ” λ°”λ‘œ μŠΉλ‚™ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
05:30
So that's how it went for a year:
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κ·Έ ν›„ 일 λ…„ λ™μ•ˆ
05:33
Ivan would go to Jose's greengrocer,
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μ΄λ°˜μ€ ν˜Έμ„Έμ˜ μ±„μ†Œκ°€κ²Œμ— κ°”μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
05:37
help him arrange the shelves of water bottles
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물병이 μ§„μ—΄λœ μ„ λ°˜μ„ μ •λ¦¬ν–ˆμ§€μš”.
ν•œ 치의 μ°©μ˜€λ„ 없이 λ¬Όλ³‘μ˜ μƒν‘œκ°€
05:40
with the labels perfectly lined up on the same side,
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λ‚˜λž€νžˆ ν•œ 쀄에 μ •λ ¬λ˜μ–΄ μžˆμ—ˆμ–΄μš”.
05:45
and he would leave happy with his chocolate cookies.
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μ΄λ°˜μ€ 초콜릿 과자λ₯Ό λ“€κ³ 
ν–‰λ³΅ν•΄ν•˜λ©° μ§‘μœΌλ‘œ λŒμ•„μ™”μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
05:55
Jose is not an expert in autism.
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ν˜Έμ„ΈλŠ” 자폐증 μ „λ¬Έκ°€κ°€ μ•„λ‹™λ‹ˆλ‹€.
06:01
There is no need to be an expert
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전문가일 ν•„μš”κ°€ μ „ν˜€ μ—†μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
06:05
nor do anything heroic to include someone.
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κΌ­ μ˜μ›…μ΄ μ•„λ‹ˆλΌλ„ ν¬μš©ν•  수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
06:11
We just need to be there --
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μš°λ¦¬λŠ” κ·Έμ €
06:14
(Applause)
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(λ°•μˆ˜)
06:22
(Applause ends)
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06:25
Really, no heroic deed --
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λ„€, μ˜μ›…μ  ν–‰μœ„κ°€ 없어도
06:28
we simply need to be close.
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λ‹€λ§Œ κ°€κΉŒμ΄μ„œ μ§€μΌœλ³΄λ©΄ λ©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
06:33
And if we are afraid of something
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ν˜Ήμ‹œ 두렀움이 μ°Ύμ•„μ˜€κ±°λ‚˜
06:36
or we don't understand something,
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이해 μ•ˆλ˜λŠ” 뢀뢄이 μžˆλ‹€λ©΄ μ§ˆλ¬Έν•©μ‹œλ‹€.
06:38
we need to ask.
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06:41
Let's be curious
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ν˜ΈκΈ°μ‹¬μ„ κ°€μ§‘μ‹œλ‹€.
06:44
but never indifferent.
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κ·ΈλŸ¬λ‚˜ μ ˆλŒ€ λ¬΄κ΄€μ‹¬ν•˜μ§€ λ§™μ‹œλ‹€.
06:50
Let's have the courage to look each other in the eye,
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용기λ₯Ό 가지고 μ„œλ‘œμ˜ λˆˆμ„ λ°”λΌλ΄…μ‹œλ‹€.
06:56
because by looking,
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우리의 λˆˆλΉ›μ΄
06:58
we can open a whole world to someone else.
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λˆ„κ΅°κ°€μ—κ²Œ μƒˆλ‘œμš΄ 세상을 μ—΄μ–΄μ€λ‹ˆλ‹€.
07:02
(Applause)
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(λ°•μˆ˜)
07:05
(Cheers)
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(κ°ˆμ±„)
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