How we can end sexual harassment at work | Gretchen Carlson

"All I wanted was a much-deserved promotion,

and he told me to 'Get up on the desk

and spread 'em.'"

"All the men in my office wrote down on a piece of paper

the sexual favors that I could do for them.

All I had asked for was an office with a window."

"I asked for his advice about how I could get a bill out of committee;

he asked me if I brought my kneepads."

Those are just a few of the horrific stories

that I heard from women over the last year,

as I've been investigating workplace sexual harassment.

And what I found out

is that it's an epidemic across the world.

It's a horrifying reality for millions of women,

when all they want to do every day

is go to work.

Sexual harassment doesn't discriminate.

You can wear a skirt,

hospital scrubs,

army fatigues.

You can be young or old,

married or single,

black or white.

You can be a Republican, a Democrat or an Independent.

I heard from so many women:

police officers,

members of our military,

financial assistants,

actors, engineers, lawyers,

bankers, accountants, teachers ...

journalists.

Sexual harassment, it turns out,

is not about sex.

It's about power,

and about what somebody does to you

to try and take away your power.

And I'm here today

to encourage you to know that you can take that power back.

(Applause)

On July 6, 2016,

I jumped off a cliff all by myself.

It was the scariest moment of my life;

an excruciating choice to make.

I fell into an abyss all alone,

not knowing what would be below.

But then, something miraculous started to happen.

Thousands of women started reaching out to me

to share their own stories of pain and agony and shame.

They told me that I became their voice --

they were voiceless.

And suddenly, I realized that even in the 21st century,

every woman still has a story.

Like Joyce,

a flight attendant supervisor

whose boss, in meetings every day,

would tell her about the porn that he'd watched the night before

while drawing penises on his notepad.

She went to complain.

She was called "crazy" and fired.

Like Joanne, Wall Street banker.

Her male colleagues would call her that vile c-word every day.

She complained --

labeled a troublemaker,

never to do another Wall Street deal again.

Like Elizabeth, an army officer.

Her male subordinates would wave one-dollar bills in her face,

and say, "Dance for me!"

And when she went to complain to a major,

he said, "What? Only one dollar?

You're worth at least five or ten!"

After reading,

replying to all

and crying over all of these emails,

I realized I had so much work to do.

Here are the startling facts:

one in three women -- that we know of --

have been sexually harassed in the workplace.

Seventy-one percent of those incidences never get reported.

Why?

Because when women come forward,

they're still called liars and troublemakers

and demeaned and trashed

and demoted and blacklisted

and fired.

Reporting sexual harassment can be, in many cases, career-ending.

Of all the women that reached out to me,

almost none are still today working in their chosen profession,

and that is outrageous.

I, too, was silent in the beginning.

It happened to me at the end of my year as Miss America,

when I was meeting with a very high-ranking TV executive

in New York City.

I thought he was helping me throughout the day,

making a lot of phone calls.

We went to dinner,

and in the back seat of a car, he suddenly lunged on top of me

and stuck his tongue down my throat.

I didn't realize that to "get into the business" -- silly me --

he also intended to get into my pants.

And just a week later,

when I was in Los Angeles meeting with a high-ranking publicist,

it happened again.

Again, in a car.

And he took my neck in his hand,

and he shoved my head so hard into his crotch,

I couldn't breathe.

These are the events that suck the life out of all of your self-confidence.

These are the events that, until recently,

I didn't even call assault.

And this is why we have so much work to do.

After my year as Miss America,

I continued to meet a lot of well-known people,

including Donald Trump.

When this picture was taken in 1988,

nobody could have ever predicted where we'd be today.

(Laughter)

Me, fighting to end sexual harassment in the workplace;

he, president of the United States

in spite of it.

And shortly thereafter, I got my first gig in television news

in Richmond, Virginia.

Check out that confident smile with the bright pink jacket.

Not so much the hair.

(Laughter)

I was working so hard to prove that blondes have a lot of brains.

But ironically, one of the first stories I covered

was the Anita Hill hearings in Washington, DC.

And shortly thereafter,

I, too, was sexually harassed in the workplace.

I was covering a story in rural Virginia,

and when we got back into the car,

my cameraman started saying to me,

wondering how much I had enjoyed when he touched my breasts

when he put the microphone on me.

And it went downhill from there.

I was bracing myself against the passenger door --

this was before cellphones.

I was petrified.

I actually envisioned myself rolling outside of that door

as the car was going 50 miles per hour like I'd seen in the movies,

and wondering how much it would hurt.

When the story about Harvey Weinstein came to light --

one the most well-known movie moguls in all of Hollywood --

the allegations were horrific.

But so many women came forward,

and it made me realize what I had done meant something.

(Applause)

He had such a lame excuse.

He said he was a product of the '60s and '70s,

and that that was the culture then.

Yeah, that was the culture then,

and unfortunately, it still is.

Why?

Because of all the myths

that are still associated with sexual harassment.

"Women should just take another job and find another career."

Yeah, right.

Tell that to the single mom working two jobs,

trying to make ends meet,

who's also being sexually harassed.

"Women --

they bring it on themselves."

By the clothes that we wear

and the makeup that we put on.

Yeah, I guess those hoodies that Uber engineers wear in Silicon Valley

are just so provocative.

"Women make it up."

Yeah, because it's so fun and rewarding

to be demeaned and taken down.

I would know.

"Women bring these claims because they want to be famous and rich."

Our own president said that.

I bet Taylor Swift,

one of the most well-known and richest singers in the world,

didn't need more money or fame

when she came forward with her groping case

for one dollar.

And I'm so glad she did.

Breaking news:

the untold story about women and sexual harassment in the workplace:

women just want a safe, welcoming

and harass-free environment.

That's it.

(Applause)

So how do we go about getting our power back?

I have three solutions.

Number one:

we need to turn bystanders and enablers into allies.

Ninety-eight percent of United States corporations right now

have sexual harassment training policies.

Seventy percent have prevention programs.

But still, overwhelmingly,

bystanders and witnesses don't come forward.

In 2016,

the Harvard Business Review called it the "bystander effect."

And yet -- remember 9/11.

Millions of times we've heard,

"If you see something,

say something."

Imagine how impactful that would be if we carried that through

to bystanders in the workplace regarding sexual harassment --

to recognize and interrupt these incidences;

to confront the perpetrators to their face;

to help and protect the victims.

This is my shout-out to men:

we need you in this fight.

And to women, too --

enablers to allies.

Number two:

change the laws.

How many of you out there know

whether or not you have a forced arbitration clause

in your employment contract?

Not a lot of hands.

And if you don't know, you should,

and here's why.

TIME Magazine calls it,

right there on the screen,

"The teeny tiny little print in contracts

that keeps sexual harassment claims unheard."

Here's what it is.

Forced arbitration takes away your Seventh Amendment right

to an open jury process.

It's secret.

You don't get the same witnesses or depositions.

In many cases, the company picks the arbitrator for you.

There are no appeals,

and only 20 percent of the time does the employee win.

But again, it's secret,

so nobody ever knows what happened to you.

This is why I've been working so diligently

on Capitol Hill in Washington, DC

to change the laws.

And here's what I tell the Senators:

sexual harassment is apolitical.

Before somebody harasses you,

they don't ask you if you're a Republican or Democrat first.

They just do it.

And this is why we should all care.

Number three:

be fierce.

It starts when we stand tall,

and we build that self-confidence.

And we stand up and we speak up,

and we tell the world what happened to us.

I know it's scary,

but let's do it for our kids.

Let's stop this for the next generations.

I know that I did it for my children.

They were paramount in my decision-making

about whether or not I would come forward.

My beautiful children,

my 12-year-old son, Christian,

my 14-year-old daughter, Kaia.

And boy, did I underestimate them.

The first day of school last year

happened to be the day my resolution was announced,

and I was so anxious about what they would face.

My daughter came home from school and she said,

"Mommy, so many people asked me what happened to you over the summer."

Then she looked at me in the eyes

and she said, "And mommy,

I was so proud

to say that you were my mom."

And two weeks later,

when she finally found the courage to stand up to two kids

who had been making her life miserable,

she came home to me and she said,

"Mommy, I found the courage to do it

because I saw you do it."

(Applause)

You see, giving the gift of courage is contagious.

And I hope that my journey has inspired you,

because right now, it's the tipping point.

We are watching history happen.

More and more women are coming forward and saying,

"Enough is enough."

(Applause)

Here's my one last plea to companies.

Let's hire back all those women whose careers were lost

because of some random jerk.

Because here's what I know about women:

we will not longer be underestimated, intimidated or set back;

we will not be silenced by the ways of the establishment

or the relics of the past.

No.

We will stand up and speak up

and have our voices heard.

We will be the women we were meant to be.

And above all,

we will always be fierce.

Thank you.

(Applause)