Finding happiness in body and soul | Eve Ensler

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翻译人员: Vivian Lee 校对人员: Yujian Li
00:26
I bet you're worried.
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我保证你们很担心。
00:28
(Laughter)
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(笑声)
00:30
I was worried.
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我也曾担心过。于是我创作了这部剧。
00:32
That's why I began this piece.
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00:33
I was worried about vaginas.
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我为阴道担心。担心我们对阴道的看法
00:37
I was worried what we think about vaginas
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00:40
and even more worried that we don't think about them.
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更担心我们对其毫不关心。
00:43
I was worried about my own vagina.
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我担心我自己的阴道
00:45
It needed a context, a culture, a community of other vaginas.
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它需要一个环境,一个文化,一个群体。
00:51
There is so much darkness and secrecy surrounding them.
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关于阴道有太多的未解之谜。
00:54
Like the Bermuda Triangle, nobody ever reports back from there.
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就像百慕大三角洲,没人能告诉我们那里有什么。
00:59
(Laughter)
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01:00
In the first place, it's not so easy to even find your vagina.
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(笑声)
首先,要找到你的阴道甚至都不太容易
01:04
Women go days, weeks, months, without looking at it.
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女人们甚至长时间不曾观察过它。
01:08
I interviewed a high-powered businesswoman;
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我曾问过一位商界女强人
01:10
she told me she didn't have time.
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她告诉我说她没空
01:13
"Looking at your vagina," she said, "is a full day's work."
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“观察你的阴道,”她说,“要耗费一整天的精力”
01:15
(Laughter)
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(笑声)
01:17
"You've got to get down there on your back, in front of a mirror,
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“你得在镜子前面躺下来
01:20
full-length preferred.
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最好是全身镜。然后要找最好的角度,
01:21
You've got to get in the perfect position with the perfect light,
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恰到好处的灯光,而灯光又被你的角度给挡住啦。
01:24
which then becomes shadowed by the angle you're at.
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01:27
You're twisting your head up, arching your back, it's exhausting."
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你得扭曲着抬起头,弓起背,这简直太累了—”
01:30
She was busy; she didn't have time.
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她太忙了,所以没时间
01:32
So I decided to talk to women about their vaginas.
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所以我便决定要跟女士们讨论下她们的阴道。
01:36
They began as casual vagina interviews,
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刚开始时是关于阴道的随意访谈,
01:39
and they turned into vagina monologues.
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而这些最终成就了《阴道独白》
01:41
I talked with over 200 women.
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我访问了超过200位女性,其中有老年人
01:44
I talked to older women, younger women,
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01:46
married women, lesbians, single women.
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年轻人,已婚妇女,女同性恋,单身女性,
01:49
I talked to corporate professionals, college professors, actors, sex workers.
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有职业女性,大学教授,演员,性工作者,
01:54
I talked to African-American women, Asian-American women,
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有非洲裔美国女性,亚裔美国女性,
01:57
Native-American women, Caucasian women, Jewish women.
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土著美国女性,白人女性,犹太女性。
02:01
OK, at first women were a little shy, a little reluctant to talk.
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开始时她们都有些害羞,不愿多谈。
02:07
Once they got going, you couldn't stop them.
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一旦打开话匣子,她们简直滔滔不绝。
02:10
Women love to talk about their vaginas, they do.
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女人喜欢讨论她们的阴道,真的。
02:14
Mainly because no one's ever asked them before.
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她们以前不谈主要因为没人问过。
02:16
(Laughter)
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02:17
Let's just start with the word "vagina" -- vagina, vagina.
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(笑声)
我们先来谈这个词——阴道,阴道。
02:23
It sounds like an infection, at best.
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它听起来象一种传染病,或者一种医疗器械。
02:25
Maybe a medical instrument.
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02:27
"Hurry, nurse, bring the vagina!"
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“快点,护士,把阴道拿过来。”
02:29
(Laughter)
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02:30
Vagina, vagina, vagina.
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(笑声)
阴道,阴道,阴道,不管你念多少次,
02:32
It doesn't matter how many times you say the word,
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02:34
it never sounds like a word you want to say.
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它听起来都不像你想说的词。
02:37
It's a completely ridiculous, totally un-sexy word.
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这是一个非常荒谬的词,毫无性感可言。
02:42
If you use it during sex, trying to be politically correct,
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如果你在床上用这个词,想要尽量显得礼貌正式些:
02:45
"Darling, would you stroke my vagina,"
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“亲爱的,你愿意靠近我的阴道吗?”便立刻让人性趣全无。
02:48
you kill the act right there.
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02:50
(Laughter)
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(笑声)
02:52
I'm worried what we call them and don't call them.
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我担心我们对她的称呼,也担心我们对她闭口不提。
02:55
In Great Neck, New York, they call it a Pussycat.
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在纽约大颈镇,人们通常叫它“小猫咪”(pussy-cat)。
02:58
A woman told me there her mother used to tell her,
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有人告诉我,她的妈妈以前经常对她说:
03:01
"Don't wear panties, dear, underneath your pajamas.
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“亲爱的,别在你的睡衣里面穿小裤裤”
03:03
You need to air out your Pussycat."
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你得让你的小猫咪透透气。”
03:05
(Laughter)
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(笑声)
03:09
In Westchester, they call it a Pooki,
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在威斯切斯特它被称作pooky, 在新泽西被称作twat
03:11
in New Jersey, a twat.
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03:13
There's Powderbox, derriere, a Pooky, a Poochi, a Poopi,
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其它叫法还有powder-box, derriere, pooky, poochy, poopy
03:18
a Poopelu, a Pooninana, a Padepachetchki, a Pal, and a Piche.
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poopaloo, pooninana, padepachetchki, pow, peach
03:22
(Laughter)
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(笑声)
03:24
There's Toadie, Dee Dee, Nishi, Dignity, Coochi Snorcher,
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另外还可以别称作toadie, dee dee, nishi, dignity, coochie, snocher, cooter
03:29
Cooter, Labbe, Gladys Seagelman, VA,
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labi, gladis siegelman, va, wee-wee, whore-spot, nappy dugout
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Wee wee, Horsespot, Nappy Dugout,
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Mongo, Ghoulie, Powderbox, a Mimi in Miami,
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mungo, ghoulie, powder-box, 在迈阿密叫mimi
03:45
a Split Knish in Philadelphia ...
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在费城叫split knish, 在布朗克斯区叫schmende
03:47
(Laughter)
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03:48
and a Schmende in the Bronx.
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03:50
(Laughter)
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03:51
I am worried about vaginas.
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(笑声)
我为阴道而担心。
03:54
This is how the "Vagina Monologues" begins.
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所以便有了《阴道独白》。
03:57
But it really didn't begin there.
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但这并不是最初的起源,一切从我和一个女人的谈话开始。
04:00
It began with a conversation with a woman.
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04:03
We were having a conversation about menopause,
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我们在讨论关于绝经期的话题,
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and we got onto the subject of her vagina,
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然后聊到了阴道,
04:08
which you'll do if you're talking about menopause.
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因为这是无法避免的一个方面。
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And she said things that really shocked me about her vagina --
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她谈到她的阴道,让我吃了一惊
04:13
that it was dried-up and finished and dead --
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她说它干涸了,没用了,不复生机,我对此感到惊讶。
04:15
and I was kind of shocked.
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04:17
So I said to a friend casually,
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所以我又随意地问了另一个朋友,“你怎么看你的阴道?”
04:18
"Well, what do you think about your vagina?"
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04:20
And that woman said something more amazing,
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那个女人说出了更让我吃惊的话,
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and then the next woman said something more amazing,
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然后下一个女人又一次使我震惊,
04:25
and before I knew it, every woman was telling me
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很快,每个女人都告诉我很棒的故事,
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I had to talk to somebody about their vagina
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我感到必须跟其他人谈谈阴道,因为她们有很棒的故事,
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because they had an amazing story,
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就这样我一步步滑向了阴道的“深渊”。
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and I was sucked down the vagina trail.
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04:33
(Laughter)
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(笑声)
04:34
And I really haven't gotten off of it.
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真的,我到现在也无法逃脱,如果我年轻的时候你告诉我,
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I think if you had told me when I was younger
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等我长大后,每一次我逛鞋店时,
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that I was going to grow up, and be in shoe stores,
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04:41
and people would scream out, "There she is, the Vagina Lady!"
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都有人对着我大喊,“看哪!是那个'阴道女士'。”
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I don't know that that would have been my life ambition.
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我还真不知道自己会不会以此作为毕生志向。
04:47
(Laughter)
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(笑声)
04:48
But I want to talk a little bit about happiness,
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我想谈下幸福
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and the relationship to this whole vagina journey,
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以及幸福同这整个阴道之旅的关系,
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because it has been an extraordinary journey
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因为这8年对我来说,是一段非凡的旅程。
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that began eight years ago.
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04:56
I think before I did the "Vagina Monologues,"
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我想在我创作《阴道独白》之前
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I didn't really believe in happiness.
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我并不相信幸福。
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I thought that only idiots were happy, to be honest.
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坦白地说,那时我觉得只有傻瓜才会幸福。
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I remember when I started practicing Buddhism 14 years ago,
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还记得14年前当我开始修习佛教的时候,
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and I was told that the end of this practice was to be happy,
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他们告诉我修行的最终是得到幸福。
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I said, "How could you be happy and live in this world of suffering
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我回答:“活在这个多灾多难的痛苦世界
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and live in this world of pain?"
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怎么能奢求幸福?" 那时我将幸福跟其他东西混淆了
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I mistook happiness for a lot of other things,
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like numbness or decadence or selfishness.
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比如麻木,颓废和自私。
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And what happened through the course of the "Vagina Monologues"
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通过这出《阴道独白》
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and this journey is, I think I have come to understand
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以及这段由此展开的旅程,我逐渐开始
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a little bit more about happiness.
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更理解幸福的含义。
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There are three qualities I want to talk about.
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我想谈其中的3个特点。
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One is seeing what's right in front of you,
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一是正视你眼前的事物,然后谈论它,
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and talking about it, and stating it.
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描述它。我想我从谈论阴道中体会到
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I think what I learned from talking about the vagina
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05:44
and speaking about the vagina, is it was the most obvious thing --
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即使它是再明显不过的事物--
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it was right in the center of my body and the center of the world --
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它在我身体的中心,在世界的中心
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and yet it was the one thing nobody talked about.
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但却没有人讨论它。
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The second thing is that what talking about the vagina did
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其次,对阴道的讨论
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is it opened this door which allowed me to see
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替我打开了一扇门,让我发现
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that there was a way to serve the world to make it better.
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这个世界能够变得更好的方式。
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And that's where the deepest happiness has actually come from.
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而这正是最深层次的幸福所在。
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And the third principle of happiness, which I've realized recently:
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关于幸福的第三个原则,我是最近才领悟到的。
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Eight years ago, this momentum and this energy, this "V-wave" started --
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八年前,这股能量巨大的“V浪潮”开始席卷世界——
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and I can only describe it as a "V-wave" because, to be honest,
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我只能把它形容为“V浪潮”是因为,坦白地说
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I really don't understand it completely; I feel at the service of it.
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我并不能完全理解它,感觉我是任由它支配的。
06:22
But this wave started, and if I question the wave,
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但它开始兴起了,如果我心存怀疑,
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or try to stop the wave or look back at the wave,
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或试图阻止,或回首张望,
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I often have the experience of whiplash
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我就经常会有一种备受煎熬的感觉,
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or the potential of my neck breaking.
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但如果我顺应潮流
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But if I go with the wave,
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06:34
and I trust the wave and I move with the wave,
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给予信任,随之前进,我就能到达另一个高度
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I go to the next place, and it happens logically and organically and truthfully.
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它的发生是如此顺理成章,自然和真实。
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And I started this piece, particularly with stories and narratives,
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当我开始创作此剧时,尤其是关于其中的故事和叙述,
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and I was talking to one woman and that led to another woman
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我同一位又一位的妇女交谈,
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and that led to another woman.
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然后我将这些故事记录下来,
06:52
And then I wrote those stories down,
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06:53
and I put them out in front of other people.
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融入戏剧,开始公演。
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And every single time I did the show at the beginning,
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开始时每出公演之后,
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women would literally line up after the show,
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都有很多女人排着队来找我,
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because they wanted to tell me their stories.
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因为她们想告诉我她们的故事。
07:03
And at first I thought, "Oh great, I'll hear about wonderful orgasms,
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刚开始时我想:“太棒了,我会听到最棒的性高潮,
最美满的性生活,还有女人们是多么爱她们的阴道。”
07:07
and great sex lives, and how women love their vaginas."
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07:09
But in fact, that's not what women lined up to tell me.
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但实际上,这并不是她们要告诉我的。
07:13
What women lined up to tell me was how they were raped,
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她们告诉我的,是她们如何被强奸,
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and how they were battered, and how they were beaten,
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如何被虐待,被殴打,
07:18
and how they were gang-raped in parking lots,
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如何在停车场被轮奸,
07:21
and how they were incested by their uncles.
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如何被叔叔舅舅侵犯。
07:23
And I wanted to stop doing the "Vagina Monologues,"
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那时我几乎想停止《阴道独白》的公演,
07:25
because it felt too daunting.
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因为这一切让我恐惧。我觉得自己像一位战地摄影师,
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I felt like a war photographer who takes pictures of terrible events,
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拍下了最恐怖的事件,却无力阻止。
07:30
but doesn't intervene on their behalf.
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07:33
And so in 1997, I said, "Let's get women together.
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所以在1997年,我说,“让我们把这些女人们集合起来。
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What could we do with this information
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看看我们能帮这些受侵害的女人做些什么。
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that all these women are being violated?"
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07:42
And it turned out, after thinking and investigating,
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结果,通过我的思考和调查,
07:45
that I discovered -- and the UN has actually said this recently --
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我发现——联合国最近也得出了相似的结论——
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that one out of every three women on this planet
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世界上三分之一的女性,
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will be beaten or raped in her lifetime.
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在她的一生中将会被殴打或者强暴。
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That's essentially a gender;
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而女性是这个星球上最基本的性别,最基本的资源啊。
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that's essentially the resource of the planet, which is women.
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08:00
So in 1997 we got all these incredible women together and we said,
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所以1997年,我们把这些了不起的女性聚集在一起思考:
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"How can we use the play, this energy, to stop violence against women?"
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“如何利用这出戏剧,这股能量,来阻止针对女性的暴力呢?”
08:07
And we put on one event in New York City, in the theater,
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于是我们在纽约的剧院里举办了一场活动,
08:10
and all these great actors came -- from Susan Sarandon,
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我们得到了很多优秀演员的支持,比如Susan Sarandon
08:13
to Glenn Close, to Whoopi Goldberg --
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Glenn Close和Whoopi Goldberg,我们在当天晚上的演出
08:14
and we did one performance on one evening,
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成功地掀起了这股浪潮,这股能量
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and that catalyzed this wave, this energy.
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And within five years,
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五年内,这不可思议的改变逐渐发生
08:24
this extraordinary thing began to happen.
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One woman took that energy and she said, "I want to bring this wave,
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一个女人被这种精神感染,她说,“我要将这股浪潮
08:30
this energy, to college campuses,"
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这股能量带入大学校园。”所以她开始排练这出戏
08:32
and so she took the play and she said,
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"Let's use the play and have performances once a year,
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她说,“让我们每年演出一次
08:37
where we can raise money to stop violence against women
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然后筹集善款,把反对针对女性的暴力的行动
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in local communities all around the world."
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传播到世界的每一个角落。”
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And in one year, it went to 50 colleges, and then it expanded.
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1年内,这出戏剧进入了50所高校,然后逐渐递增。
08:46
And over the course of the last six years,
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在过去的6年时间里
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it's spread and it's spread and it's spread around the world.
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它已经成功地传播到了世界各处。
08:52
What I have learned is two things:
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在此过程中我意识到两件事。一是针对女性的暴力
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one, that the epidemic of violence towards women is shocking; it's global;
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其范围是令人的震惊。这是个全球性的问题
09:02
it is so profound and it is so devastating,
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它非常严重和具有破坏性,
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and it is so in every little pocket of every little crater,
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它无孔不入
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of every little society that we don't even recognize it,
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而我们没有意识到,
09:09
because it's become ordinary.
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是因为它太普遍了。我曾去过阿富汗,
09:11
This journey has taken me to Afghanistan,
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where I had the extraordinary honor and privilege
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有幸被特殊照顾去到了塔利班统治下的一些地方,
09:17
to go into parts of Afghanistan under the Taliban.
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我穿着蒙住全身的长袍,
09:21
I was dressed in a burqa and I went in with an extraordinary group,
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在一个名为“阿富汗女性革命联盟”的组织掩护下,
09:25
called the Revolutionary Association of the Women of Afghanistan.
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进入了阿富汗,
09:28
And I saw firsthand how women had been stripped
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在那里我亲眼见证女性是怎样被剥夺了
09:32
of every single right that was possible to strip women of --
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每一项人身权利。
09:36
from being educated, to being employed,
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她们不能受教育,不能工作
09:38
to being actually allowed to eat ice cream.
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甚至不能吃冰淇淋
09:41
For those of you who don't know,
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有些人可能还不知道,在塔利班统治下,吃冰淇淋是违法的
09:43
it was illegal to eat ice cream under the Taliban.
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And I actually saw and met women who had been flogged
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我甚至亲眼看见有女性因为被发现吃香草冰淇淋
09:49
for being caught eating vanilla ice cream.
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而被鞭挞。
09:51
I was taken to the secret ice cream-eating place in a little town,
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我还被带到了小镇上的一个秘密的吃冰淇淋的地方,
09:56
where we went to a back room, and women were seated
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走进里屋,女人们围坐在那里,
09:59
and a curtain was pulled around us, and they were served vanilla ice cream.
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周围拉上帘幕,有人给她们递上香草冰淇淋。
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And women lifted their burqas and ate this ice cream.
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女人们掀开面纱,开始享用,
10:06
And I don't think I ever understood pleasure until that moment,
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而我直到那时才明白快乐是什么,
10:09
and how women have found a way to keep their pleasure alive.
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以及这些女性如何想办法将这种快乐延续下去。
10:13
It has taken me, this journey, to Islamabad,
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我还去到了伊斯兰堡,在那里
10:15
where I have witnessed and met women with their faces melted off.
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我们见到了毁容的女性。
10:19
It has taken me to Juarez, Mexico, where I was a week ago,
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我的旅程延续到了墨西哥的华雷斯,一周前,
10:23
where I have literally been there in parking lots,
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我在那里的停车场亲眼看见
10:25
where bones of women have washed up
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有女性的骨头像垃圾一样被扔在那里,
10:27
and been dumped next to Coca-Cola bottles.
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就在汽水瓶旁边。
10:31
It has taken me to universities all over this country,
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我去过全国各地的高校
10:34
where girls are date-raped and drugged.
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有很多女孩子遭到约会强奸和迷奸。
10:37
I have seen terrible, terrible, terrible violence.
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我见识过了极度残酷的暴力行为。
10:41
But I have also recognized, in the course of seeing that violence,
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在面对暴力和现实的过程中,
10:45
that being in the face of things and seeing actually what's in front of us
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我也意识到直面事实
是摆脱抑郁,自卑和无价值感的
10:49
is the antidote to depression,
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10:52
and to a feeling that one is worthless and has no value.
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一种很好的办法。
10:56
Because before the "Vagina Monologues,"
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在创作《阴道独白》之前,
10:58
I will say that 80 percent of my consciousness was closed off
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对于现实中发生的惨剧
11:01
to what was really going on in this reality,
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我必须承认自己80%的良知不为所动。
11:03
and that closing-off closed off my vitality and my life energy.
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这种麻木阻碍了我的生命活力和激情。
11:08
What has also happened is in the course of these travels --
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在这些旅途中的所发生的——
11:11
and it's been an extraordinary thing --
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确实是很特别的经历——我走到世界上的任何地方
11:14
is that every single place that I have gone to in the world,
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都会遇到新的“物种”。
11:17
I have met a new species.
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11:18
And I really love hearing about all these species at the bottom of the sea.
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我非常喜欢听她们这些新人类谈论她们深藏海底的的故事。
11:22
And I was thinking about how being with these extraordinary people
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我刚在想关于和这些
非凡的人们共事时,
11:25
on this particular panel,
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11:27
that it's beneath, beyond and between,
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这些形形色色的人们,
11:30
and the vagina kind of fits into all those categories.
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有着各种各样的阴道故事。
11:33
(Laughter)
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(笑声)
11:34
But one of the things I've seen is this species --
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关于这些我所见过的杰出女性
11:37
and it is a species, and it is a new paradigm,
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她们像是新的物种,新的典范,
11:39
and it doesn't get reported in the press or in the media
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但是媒体从来不报导
11:42
because I don't think good news ever is news,
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因为我估计好消息从来都算不上新闻,
11:45
and I don't think people who are transforming the planet
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我也不认为正在改变世界的人们
11:48
are what gets the ratings on TV shows.
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可以在电视节目上取得高收视率。
11:51
But every single country I have been to --
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但在我曾去过的每个国家——在过去的6年里
11:53
and in the last six years, I've been to about 45 countries,
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我到过45个国家,还有很多小的城市,乡村和小镇
11:56
and many tiny little villages and cities and towns --
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11:59
I have seen something what I've come to call "vagina warriors."
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我遇见了很多被我称作“阴道卫士”的人。
12:03
A "vagina warrior" is a woman, or a vagina-friendly man,
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“阴道卫士”通常是女性,或者同情女性遭遇的男性,
12:07
who has witnessed incredible violence or suffered it,
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他们曾目睹或经历过残酷的暴力行为,
12:10
and rather than getting an AK-47 or a weapon of mass destruction
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不同于抄起刀枪大肆报复,
12:15
or a machete,
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她们用身体默默承受,
12:17
they hold the violence in their bodies;
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12:20
they grieve it; they experience it; and then they go out
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用心灵哀悼和感悟,然后走出家门
12:24
and devote their lives to making sure it doesn't happen to anybody else.
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投入毕生的努力来确保这些事不会再发生在别人身上。
12:28
I have met these women everywhere on the planet,
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我在世界各地都见识过这样的女性。
12:31
and I want to tell a few stories,
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我想给你们讲一些故事,
12:33
because I believe that stories are the way that we transmit information,
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因为我认为故事是传递信息的最好载体,
12:37
where it goes into our bodies.
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它让我们感同身受。我认为关于在TED做演讲
12:39
And I think one of the things about being at TED that's been very interesting
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最有趣的一点是
12:43
is that I live in my body a lot,
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我现在更多的用身体感知世界,而不再常常用大脑感知。
12:45
and I don't live in my head very much anymore.
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12:47
And this is a very heady place.
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而TED恰恰是一个注重大脑的地方。
12:49
And it's been really interesting to be in my head
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对我来说用大脑感知是件很有趣的事。
12:51
for the last two days; I've been very disoriented --
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在过去的两天里,我非常迷茫——
12:54
(Laughter)
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(笑声)
12:55
because I think the world, the V-world, is very much in your body.
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因为我觉得这个V世界是关于身体的。
12:59
It's a body world, and the species really exists in the body.
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这是个用身体感知的世界,我们这个物种其实是存在于身体中(而非大脑中),
13:02
And I think there's a real significance in us attaching our bodies to our heads,
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我认为在身体和大脑之间建立联系
是具有重要意义的——这种身脑分隔
13:07
that that separation has created a divide
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造成了目的和意图的分离。
13:10
that is often separating purpose from intent.
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13:13
And the connection between body and head
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而身体和大脑的联系则将两者合而为一。
13:17
often brings those things into union.
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13:19
I want to talk about three particular people that I've met,
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我想告诉你们我遇到过的三个典型人物
13:22
vagina warriors, who really transformed my understanding
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三位阴道卫士,她们真正改变了
13:26
of this whole principle and species,
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我对整个信念和这些女性的看法,
13:28
and one is a woman named Marsha Lopez.
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第一位是名叫Marsha Lopez的女性
13:31
Marsha Lopez was a woman I met in Guatemala.
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我是在危地马拉认识她的
13:34
She was 14 years old, and she was in a marriage
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她当时14岁,已婚,
13:37
and her husband was beating her on a regular basis.
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她的丈夫经常打她,
13:40
And she couldn't get out,
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她不能逃脱,因为她沉溺于这段婚姻关系,
13:41
because she was addicted to the relationship,
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13:44
and she had no money.
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而且她没有钱。她的妹妹
13:45
Her sister was younger than her, and she applied --
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13:47
we had a "Stop Rape" contest a few years ago in New York --
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申请参加了我们几年前在纽约举行的“停止强暴”的比赛,
13:52
and she applied, hoping that she would become a finalist
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她希望能够入围决赛,
13:55
and she could bring her sister.
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这样她就能把她的姐姐带到纽约来。
13:56
She did become a finalist; she brought Marsha to New York.
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她确实成功了,她把Marsha带到了纽约。
14:01
And at that time,
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那次我们举行了一个不同凡响的“V日”活动
14:02
we did this extraordinary V-Day at Madison Square Garden,
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在麦迪逊花园广场,我们的票销售一空
14:04
where we sold out the entire testosterone-filled dome --
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14:08
18,000 people standing up to say "Yes" to vaginas,
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一万八千名激情澎湃的人一起
宣誓发对暴力,那是个很了不起的改变。
14:11
which was really a pretty incredible transformation.
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14:14
And she came, and she witnessed this,
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她在那里见证了这一切,然后决定
14:16
and she decided that she would go back and leave her husband,
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回去后离开她的丈夫,
14:19
and that she would bring V-Day to Guatemala.
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还要把“V日”也带到危地马拉。
14:21
She was 21 years old.
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她21岁的时候,我去了危地马拉,
14:23
I went to Guatemala and she had sold out the National Theater of Guatemala.
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她卖光了危地马拉国家剧院所有的票。
14:28
And I watched her walk up on stage in her red short dress and high heels,
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我看着她穿着红色短裙和高跟鞋走上舞台
14:32
and she stood there and said, "My name is Marsha.
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站在那里对所有人说:“我是Marsha,
我曾忍受家庭暴力长达5年
14:36
I was beaten by my husband for five years. He almost murdered me.
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我的丈夫几乎置我于死地。我离开了他,你们也可以。”
14:40
I left and you can, too."
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14:42
And the entire 2,000 people went absolutely crazy.
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然后全场2000人都陷入疯狂状态。
14:46
There's a woman named Esther Chávez who I met in Juarez, Mexico.
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还有一个是叫Esther Chavez的女人,
我在墨西哥的华雷斯遇到她。
14:49
And Esther Chávez was a brilliant accountant in Mexico City.
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她住在墨西哥城,是名出色的会计,已经72岁了,
14:53
She was 72 years old and she was planning to retire.
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正计划退休。
14:56
She went to Juarez to take care of an ailing aunt,
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她去华雷斯照顾生病的阿姨,在此期间
15:00
and in the course of it, she began to discover what was happening
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她逐渐发现有女性在华雷斯
15:03
to the murdered and disappeared women of Juarez.
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被谋杀或失踪。
15:06
She gave up her life; she moved to Juarez.
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她继而放弃了舒适的晚年生活,搬去了华雷斯,
15:09
She started to write the stories which documented the disappeared women.
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她开始记录那些失踪的女性。
15:13
300 women have disappeared in a border town because they're brown and poor.
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有300位女性凭空消失在这个边境小镇
只因为她们是贫穷的黑人。
15:17
There has been no response to the disappearance,
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没有人关心她们失踪了,
15:19
and not one person has been held accountable.
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没有人对此负责。
15:21
She began to document it.
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她便开始记录整理,还成立了一个“朋友之家”的组织,
15:23
She opened a center called Casa Amiga, and in six years,
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15:26
she has literally brought this to the consciousness of the world.
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在6年内,她甚至让这个现象
引起了全世界的注意。
15:30
We were there a week ago,
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一个星期前,我们在那里同7000人一起走上大街——
15:31
when there were 7,000 people in the street, and it was truly a miracle.
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这确实是个奇迹——当我们在街上游行时,
15:35
And as we walked through the streets,
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15:37
the people of Juarez, who normally don't even come into the streets,
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华雷斯那些因为治安混乱几乎从不上街的人们
15:40
because the streets are so dangerous,
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哭泣着见证和支持这些
15:42
literally stood there and wept,
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15:43
to see that other people from the world had showed up
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为了这个特殊的群体
15:46
for that particular community.
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而从世界各地到来的人。
15:48
There's another woman, named Agnes.
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还有一位叫做Agnes。
15:50
And Agnes, for me, epitomizes what a vagina warrior is.
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对我来说,Agnes是典型的“阴道卫士”。
15:55
I met her three years ago in Kenya.
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我三年前在肯尼亚认识了她。Agnes小时候受到过伤害,
15:58
And Agnes was mutilated as a little girl;
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16:01
she was circumcised against her will when she was 10 years old,
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她在10岁的时候被强制割去了阴蒂,
她下定决心
16:05
and she really made a decision
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16:07
that she didn't want this practice to continue anymore in her community.
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不再让这种仪式在当地继续下去。
16:11
So when she got older, she created this incredible thing:
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长大一些后,她创造了一个难以置信的东西
16:14
it's an anatomical sculpture of a woman's body, half a woman's body.
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那是一个女性身体的解剖模型,下半身的模型,
16:19
And she walked through the Rift Valley,
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她穿越大裂谷
16:21
and she had vagina and vagina replacement parts,
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带着展示阴道各部位的模型
16:25
where she would teach girls and parents and boys and girls
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告诉少男少女及家长们健康的阴道是什么样子,
16:27
what a healthy vagina looks like, and what a mutilated vagina looks like.
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被割去阴蒂的阴道是什么样子。
16:31
And in the course of her travel --
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she walked literally for eight years through the Rift Valley,
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在8年的旅途中,她穿越了大裂谷
16:36
through dust, through sleeping on the ground,
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跋山涉水,餐风露宿;由于马赛族是游牧民族,
16:38
because the Maasai are nomads,
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16:40
and she would have to find them, and they would move,
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她必须沿路找寻他们;当他们迁徙之后,
16:44
and she would find them again --
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她又再次找到她们——她使1500名女孩免于阴蒂切除。
16:45
she saved 1,500 girls from being cut.
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16:48
And in that time, she created an alternative ritual,
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同时,她创造出了另一种仪式
16:51
which involved girls coming of age without the cut.
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使适龄女孩不再需要被割去阴蒂。
16:54
When we met her three years ago,
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3年前我们遇到她的时候,
16:57
we said, "What could V-Day do for you?"
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我们问她:“V日能为你做些什么吗?”
16:58
And she said, "Well, if you got me a jeep, I could get around a lot faster."
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她说:“嗯,如果能给我一辆吉普车,我就能移动地更快些。”
17:02
(Laughter)
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(笑声)
17:03
So we bought her a jeep.
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于是我们给她买了辆吉普车。在她拥有吉普车的那年,
17:04
And in the year that she had the jeep, she saved 4,500 girls from being cut.
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她成功拯救了4500名女孩。于是我们又问她,
17:09
So we said to her, "What else could we do for you?"
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“Agnes,我们还能为你做什么?”她回答说,
17:12
She said, "Well, Eve, if you gave me some money,
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“如果你们能给我些钱,
17:14
I could open a house and girls could run away,
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我就能开一个庇护所,女孩子们能够逃到这里受保护。”
17:16
and they could be saved."
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17:18
And I want to tell this little story about my own beginnings,
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在这里我想插一个关于我自己如何开始这一切的小故事
17:21
because it's very interrelated to happiness and Agnes.
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因为这与我讲的幸福以及Agnes的故事很相关。
17:25
When I was a little girl -- I grew up in a wealthy community;
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当我还是个小女孩的时候——我成长在
一个富裕的社区,那是一个白色的中产阶级社区——
17:29
it was an upper-middle class white community,
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17:32
and it had all the trappings and the looks
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有华丽的外部装饰,
以及一幅幸福完美生活的表象。
17:35
of a perfectly nice, wonderful, great life.
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17:39
And everyone was supposed to be happy in that community,
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在那个社区里,每个人都应该很幸福
17:41
and, in fact, my life was hell.
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但实际上我活在水深火热之中。我同酒鬼父亲住在一起,
17:43
I lived with an alcoholic father
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17:45
who beat me and molested me, and it was all inside that.
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他总是打我,骚扰我,这都存在于美丽表象之下。
17:48
And always as a child I had this fantasy that somebody would come and rescue me.
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小时候我总会幻想有人会来到我的身边拯救我。
17:53
And I actually made up a little character whose name was Mr. Alligator.
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实际上我还给这个人取了名字,叫鳄鱼先生,
17:56
I would call him up when things got really bad,
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当情况很糟的时候我就会召唤他,
17:59
and say it was time to come and pick me up.
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对它说:鳄鱼先生你该出现把我带走了。
18:01
And I would pack a little bag and wait for Mr. Alligator to come.
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然后我就会去打个小包等着鳄鱼先生来。
18:05
Now, Mr. Alligator never did come,
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鳄鱼先生从未真的出现,
18:07
but the idea of Mr. Alligator coming actually saved my sanity
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但它会出现这的个想法使我不至于崩溃,
18:11
and made it OK for me to keep going,
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使我能够在逆境中坚持下去,因为我相信
18:13
because I believed, in the distance,
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总有一天会有人来拯救我。
18:15
there would be someone coming to rescue me.
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18:18
Cut to 40-some odd years later,
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40多年以后,我们来到肯尼亚
18:20
we go to Kenya, and we're walking,
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我们长途跋涉来到刚开业的那座庇护所——
18:23
we arrive at the opening of this house.
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18:26
And Agnes hadn't let me come to the house for days,
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Agnes几天来一直没有让我过去
18:28
because they were preparing this whole ritual.
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因为她们在为开业仪式做准备。
我想告诉你们一个很棒的故事,当Agnes刚开始
18:31
I want to tell you a great story.
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18:32
When Agnes first started fighting
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在她的族群为反对阴蒂切除而奋斗时,
18:34
to stop female genital mutilation in her community,
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18:36
she had become an outcast, and she was exiled and slandered,
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她成了族群的弃儿,她遭到驱逐和诽谤
18:40
and the whole community turned against her.
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整个族群都与她为敌。
18:42
But being a vagina warrior, she kept going,
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但是,作为一名杰出的斗士,她坚持了下来。
18:44
and she kept committing herself to transforming consciousness.
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持续为转变观念付出自己的努力。
18:48
And in the Maasai community,
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对马赛族来说,牛羊是最值钱的物品。
18:49
goats and cows are the most valued possession.
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18:52
They're like the Mercedes-Benz of the Rift Valley.
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他们就相当于大裂谷的奔驰车。
18:57
And she said two days before the house opened,
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她说,庇护所成立前2天,有两个人
18:59
two different people arrived to give her a goat each,
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来到这里,一人给了她一只羊,然后她告诉我
19:02
and she said to me,
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19:03
"I knew then that female genital mutilation would end one day in Africa."
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“我那时就知道总有一天女性割礼在非洲将不复存在。”
19:08
Anyway, we arrived, and when we arrived,
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长话短说,当我们到达那里时
19:12
there were hundreds of girls dressed in red homemade dresses --
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有上百名女孩穿着自制的红色裙装——
19:16
which is the color of the Maasai and the color of V-Day --
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红色是马萨伊族的代表色,也是V日的代表色
19:19
and they greeted us.
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她们热情迎接我们,她们唱起自己编的歌
19:20
They had made up these songs that they were singing,
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歌唱着苦难的终止,
19:23
about the end of suffering and the end of mutilation,
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割礼的终止,然后她们陪着我们一起走在路上
19:25
and they walked us down the path.
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19:27
It was a gorgeous day in the African sun,
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那是非洲阳光下美好的一天,
19:29
and the dust was flying and the girls were dancing,
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路上尘土飞扬,女孩子们载歌载舞,
19:32
and there was this house, and it said, "V-Day Safe House for the Girls."
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不远处有座房子,写着“V日女性庇护所”
19:36
And it hit me in that moment that it had taken 47 years,
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我霎时感悟,尽管等了47年
19:42
but that Mr. Alligator had finally shown up.
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但鳄鱼先生终于还是出现了
19:45
And he had shown up, obviously,
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显然,我耗费了很长时间,才理解到他是以这么一种方式现身的。
19:47
in a form that it took me a long time to understand,
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19:50
which is that when we give in the world what we want the most,
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就是说,当我们为他人,为世界实现我们自己最渴望的事情时,
我们受伤的心灵便逐渐愈合。
19:55
we heal the broken part inside each of us.
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19:59
And I feel, in the last eight years,
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我深深感受到,在过去的8年里,
20:01
that this journey -- this miraculous vagina journey --
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由V日带来的奇妙旅行
20:05
has taught me this really simple thing,
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教给了我这件很简单的事,即幸福来源于行动,
20:07
which is that happiness exists in action;
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20:12
it exists in telling the truth and saying what your truth is;
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它存在于说出事实和自我坦白之中,
20:16
and it exists in giving away what you want the most.
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它存在于奉献内心最渴望的东西。
20:20
And I feel that knowledge and that journey
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我觉得这个感悟和这个旅程
20:24
has been an extraordinary privilege,
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对我来说无比荣幸,
20:26
and I feel really blessed
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我觉得非常幸运今天能够来到这里告诉你们这些。
20:28
to have been here today to communicate that to you.
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20:30
Thank you very much.
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非常感谢。
20:31
(Applause)
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(掌声)
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