Colin Grant: The son of a difficult father

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翻译人员: Ru Zha 校对人员: Panpan XIONG
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This is a photograph
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这是一张照片
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of a man whom for many years
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照片中的男人是一个很多年来
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I plotted to kill.
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我都处心积虑想杀掉的人。
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This is my father,
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他是我的父亲,
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Clinton George "Bageye" Grant.
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克林顿 乔治 "泡泡眼“ 格兰。
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He's called Bageye because he has
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他被称为“泡泡眼”是因为
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permanent bags under his eyes.
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在他的眼下永远有两个大眼袋。
00:34
As a 10-year-old, along with my siblings,
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作为一个十岁的孩子,与兄弟姐妹一同,
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I dreamt of scraping off the poison
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我设想着将除蝇纸上的
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from fly-killer paper into his coffee,
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毒药刮下来放到我父亲的咖啡中;
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grounded down glass and sprinkling it
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将玻璃摔碎然后
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over his breakfast,
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洒在他的早餐上;
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loosening the carpet on the stairs
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把台阶上的地毯弄皱,
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so he would trip and break his neck.
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这样他就会绊倒然后摔断脖子。
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But come the day, he would always
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但是,在当天他总是能
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skip that loose step,
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越过那节松了的台阶,
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he would always bow out of the house
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他总是会低着头就出门了,
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without so much as a swig of coffee
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而没有大口喝咖啡,
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or a bite to eat.
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也没有吃一口早餐。
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And so for many years,
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因此,这么多年来,
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I feared that my father would die
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我害怕我的父亲在我有机会
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before I had a chance to kill him.
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杀掉他之前就去世了。
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(Laughter)
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(笑声...)
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Up until our mother asked him to leave
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在我们的母亲让他离开,
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and not come back,
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并且再也不要回来之前,
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Bageye had been a terrifying ogre.
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“泡泡眼”一直是一个可怕的恶魔,
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He teetered permanently on the verge of rage,
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他永远都在愤怒的边缘徘徊,
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rather like me, as you see.
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这和我有些相像, 如你们现在看到的这样。
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He worked nights at Vauxhall Motors in Luton
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他在卢顿的沃克斯豪尔公司上夜班,
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and demanded total silence throughout the house,
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因此他要求在白天房子里要绝对安静。
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so that when we came home from school
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这就使得,当我们下午三点
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at 3:30 in the afternoon, we would huddle
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放学回家后,会挤在电视旁,
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beside the TV, and rather like safe-crackers,
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像破解保险箱的窃贼似的,
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we would twiddle with the volume control knob
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我们会转动电视上的声音调节钮,
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on the TV so it was almost inaudible.
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来让它的声音几乎听不见。
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And at times, when we were like this,
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每当我们这样做的时候,
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so much "Shhh," so much "Shhh"
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屋子里只会有许多
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going on in the house
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“嘘..." ”嘘..."的声音。
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that I imagined us to be like
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这让我想象我们就像
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the German crew of a U-boat
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德国U型潜艇上的船员似的,
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creeping along the edge of the ocean
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在大海的边缘悄悄潜行,
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whilst up above, on the surface,
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同时在上方的水面上,
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HMS Bageye patrolled
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“泡泡眼”号皇家海军在巡逻,
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ready to drop death charges
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随时准备着在听到第一声
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at the first sound of any disturbance.
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噪音时执行死刑。
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So that lesson was the lesson that
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所以,那节课给我的告诫正是:
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"Do not draw attention to yourself
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“无论在家里,还是在外面,
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either in the home or outside of the home."
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都不要将别人的注意力引到你身上。”
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Maybe it's a migrant lesson.
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也许这是对移民者告诫。
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We were to be below the radar,
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我们就像是暴露在雷达下的目标一样,
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so there was no communication, really,
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所以,在“泡泡眼”和我们之间
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between Bageye and us and us and Bageye,
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之际上并没有真正的交流。
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and the sound that we most looked forward to,
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而我们最期盼听到的声音,
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you know when you're a child and you want
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如大家所知那样,当你还是个孩子时,
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your father to come home and it's all going to be happy
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你盼望着你的父亲回家, 然后所以的一切都将幸福欢乐,
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and you're waiting for that sound of the door opening.
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这就会让你期待着家门被打开的声音。
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Well the sound that we looked forward to
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然而,我和我的兄弟姐妹所期盼的声音
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was the click of the door closing,
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是房门被关上时的声响,
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which meant he'd gone and would not come back.
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这就意味着我们的父亲出去了且不会回来了。
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So for three decades,
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因而,三十多年来,
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I never laid eyes on my father, nor he on me.
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我从未注视过父亲一眼, 而他也没注视过我。
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We never spoke to each other for three decades,
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在过去的三十多年, 我们从未交谈过,
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and then a couple of years ago, I decided
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然后,在几年前,我决定
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to turn the spotlight on him.
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将聚光灯投向他。
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"You are being watched.
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“你正在被监视,
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Actually, you are.
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真的,
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You are being watched."
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你正在被监视着”
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That was his mantra to us, his children.
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这是他对我们—他的孩子们, 所说的咒语。
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Time and time again he would say this to us.
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一次又一次他这样对我们念道。
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And this was the 1970s, it was Luton,
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这张照片就是1970年摄于卢顿,
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where he worked at Vauxhall Motors,
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他当时在沃克斯豪尔公司工作,
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and he was a Jamaican.
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他是牙买加人。
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And what he meant was,
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他说那些话的意思就是,
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you as a child of a Jamaican immigrant
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你作为一个牙买加移民者的孩子,
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are being watched
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你是时刻被人监视着的。
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to see which way you turn, to see whether
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有人监视你拐向哪条路,监视你
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you conform to the host nation's stereotype of you,
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是否遵守你所移入国家为你设立的模式,
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of being feckless, work-shy,
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表现的没有价值,游手好闲,
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destined for a life of crime.
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注定一生充满罪行。
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You are being watched,
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你正在被监视着,
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so confound their expectations of you.
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所以,把他们所有的期盼都打消吧。
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To that end, Bageye and his friends,
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最后,“泡泡眼”和他的朋友们,
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mostly Jamaican,
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大部分都是牙买加人,
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exhibited a kind of Jamaican bella figura:
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展示了一种良好的印象:
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Turn your best side to the world,
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把你最好的一面展示给世界,
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show your best face to the world.
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将你最好的面貌展现给世界。
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If you have seen some of the images
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如果你见过这些
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of the Caribbean people arriving
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四五十年代时加勒比人
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in the '40s and '50s,
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刚到达这里的图片,
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you might have noticed that a lot of the men
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你也许会发现他们中的很多人
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wear trilbies.
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戴着软毡帽。
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Now, there was no tradition of wearing trilbies in Jamaica.
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如今,牙买加人再也 没有戴软毡帽的传统了。
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They invented that tradition for their arrival here.
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他们是为了抵达这里才创立了这个传统。
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They wanted to project themselves in a way
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他们试图把自己包装成
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that they wanted to be perceived,
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他们想要别人见到的那一面。
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so that the way they looked
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所以,他们的样子
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and the names that they gave themselves
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以及他们给自己取的名字
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defined them.
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定义了他们。
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So Bageye is bald and has baggy eyes.
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因此,“泡泡眼”是一个有大眼袋的光头。
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Tidy Boots is very fussy about his footwear.
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“整洁靴子”对他的鞋子十分讲究。
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Anxious is always anxious.
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“焦虑”总是表现出很焦虑。
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Clock has one arm longer than the other.
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"钟表“的胳膊一只长一只短。
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(Laughter)
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(笑声...)
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And my all-time favorite was the guy they called Summerwear.
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长期以来我最喜欢的一位是 被叫做”夏日装着“的人。
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When Summerwear came to this country
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在60年代早期当”夏日装着“从牙买加
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from Jamaica in the early '60s, he insisted
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来到这个国家时,
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on wearing light summer suits,
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无论天气如何,
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no matter the weather,
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他都坚持穿轻便的夏日装着。
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and in the course of researching their lives,
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在我研究父辈们生活的过程时,
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I asked my mom, "Whatever became of Summerwear?"
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我问我的母亲:”夏日装着“后来发生了什么?
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And she said, "He caught a cold and died." (Laughter)
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她回答说:他得感冒去世了。(笑声...)
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But men like Summerwear
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但是,像”夏日装着“这样的人
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taught us the importance of style.
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教会了我们个人风格的重要性。
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Maybe they exaggerated their style
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也许他们过度夸大了自身的风格,
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because they thought that they were not considered
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因为他们觉得自己是被人们
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to be quite civilized,
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看作是不文明的,
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and they transferred that generational attitude
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并且,他们还把他们那一代人的态度
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or anxiety onto us, the next generation,
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或焦虑传到了下一代——我们的身上。
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so much so that when I was growing up,
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以致于当我渐渐长大时,
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if ever on the television news or radio
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只要在电视新闻或者收音机上
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a report came up about a black person
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出现关于一个黑人犯罪
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committing some crime —
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的报道,
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a mugging, a murder, a burglary —
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比如行凶抢劫,谋杀,盗窃等,
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we winced along with our parents,
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我们和父母都会一同避开,
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because they were letting the side down.
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因为这些报道会让我们失落。
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You did not just represent yourself.
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你不仅仅代表着你自己
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You represented the group,
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而代表着整个群体。
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and it was a terrifying thing to come to terms with,
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这是需要忍受的一件很可怕的事,
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in a way, that maybe you were going
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在某种程度上,人们很可能
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to be perceived in the same light.
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会以同样的目光看待你。
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So that was what needed to be challenged.
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所以这就是需要被挑战的。
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Our father and many of his colleagues
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我们的父亲和他的许多同事
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exhibited a kind of transmission but not receiving.
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展现出了一种传播而不是接收。
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They were built to transmit but not receive.
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他们生来就是为了传播而不是接收的。
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We were to keep quiet.
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我们被要求保持安静。
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When our father did speak to us,
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当父亲对我们说话时,
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it was from the pulpit of his mind.
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那是来自他思想的讲坛。
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They clung to certainty in the belief
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他们是如此依附于那些信仰的正确性,
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that doubt would undermine them.
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以致于任何怀疑都会诋毁他们。
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But when I am working in my house
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但是,当次我在家中工作和写作时,
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and writing, after a day's writing, I rush downstairs
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在完成了一天的写作后,我冲下楼梯
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and I'm very excited to talk about Marcus Garvey or Bob Marley
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我非常激动得想谈论 马克思·加维或巴布·马里,
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and words are tripping out of my mouth like butterflies
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言辞像蝴蝶似的从我嘴中飞出,
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and I'm so excited that my children stop me,
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我如此兴奋以致于我的孩子们打断了我,
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and they say, "Dad, nobody cares."
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他们说:爸爸,没人在乎这些。
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(Laughter)
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(笑声...)
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But they do care, actually.
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但是,事实上,他们是在乎的。
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They cross over.
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他们穿过你,
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Somehow they find their way to you.
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不知怎么,他们寻找到了通向你的道路。
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They shape their lives according to the narrative of your life,
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他们参照你生活的叙述来 塑造着他们自己的生活,
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as I did with my father and my mother, perhaps,
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也许,正如我和我的父母做的那样,
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and maybe Bageye did with his father.
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也许也像”泡泡眼“和他父亲那样。
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And that was clearer to me
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在我研究我父亲生活的过程中,
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in the course of looking at his life
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我对这一点的理解越来越清晰,
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and understanding, as they say,
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而且我明白了,正如他们说的那样,
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the Native Americans say,
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美国原住民所说的那样,
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"Do not criticize the man until you can walk
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”不要在你没有经历过他人所经历的事
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in his moccasins."
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之前就随意评论他。
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But in conjuring his life, it was okay
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但是,在他魔术般的人生中,
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and very straightforward to portray
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在描述19世纪70年代生活
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a Caribbean life in England in the 1970s
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于英国的加勒比人时,
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with bowls of plastic fruit,
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用桌上摆着的几碗塑料水果,
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polystyrene ceiling tiles,
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聚苯乙烯天花板,
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settees permanently sheathed
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以及永远罩着刚买来时的透明塑料罩的长沙发
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in their transparent covers that they were delivered in.
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来描述他们是即正确有直率的。
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But what's more difficult to navigate
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但是,两代之间的
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is the emotional landscape
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情感鸿沟则
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between the generations,
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是更难以跨越的,
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and the old adage that with age comes wisdom
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古话说道:智慧会随着年龄增长,
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is not true.
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这并不是真的。
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With age comes the veneer of respectability
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年龄会带来受人尊敬的表象,
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and a veneer of uncomfortable truths.
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和令人不适的真理的表象。
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But what was true was that my parents,
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但真相是,我的父母,
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my mother, and my father went along with it,
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我的母亲和父亲都同意的是,
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did not trust the state to educate me.
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他们并不信任所在州立学校对我进行的教育。
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So listen to how I sound.
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所以听听我说的话吧。
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They determined that they would send me to a private school,
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他们决定把我送去一所私立学校,
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but my father worked at Vauxhall Motors.
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但是我的父亲在沃克斯豪尔公司工作,
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It's quite difficult to fund a private school education
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这使得为私立学校付学费,同时
08:14
and feed his army of children.
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并为他所有的孩子提供食物是十分困难的。
08:16
I remember going on to the school
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我记得去那所学校参加入学测试时,
08:18
for the entrance exam, and my father said
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我父亲对神父说
08:20
to the priest — it was a Catholic school —
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那是一所天主教学校
08:24
he wanted a better "heducation" for the boy,
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他希望这个孩子能得到更好的”角“育,
08:28
but also, he, my father,
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但是,同样,他,我的父亲,
08:31
never even managed to pass worms,
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从未打算要通过卫生检查,
08:34
never mind entrance exams.
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更不在意入学考试了。
08:36
But in order to fund my education,
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但是为了资助我的学费,
08:38
he was going to have to do some dodgy stuff,
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他打算做些投机取巧的事,
08:41
so my father would fund my education
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所以,我父亲打算通过在他的车后备箱
08:44
by trading in illicit goods from the back of his car,
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贩卖非法货品来为我付学费,
08:48
and that was made even more tricky because
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但更为棘手的是
08:49
my father, that's not his car by the way.
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那辆车甚至并不是我父亲的。
08:51
My father aspired to have a car like that,
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我父亲他一直期望有一辆那样的车,
08:53
but my father had a beaten-up Mini,
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但他仅有的是一辆破旧的Mini,
08:55
and he never, being a Jamaican coming to this country,
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作为一个牙买加移民,
09:00
he never had a driving license,
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他从未获得驾照,
09:02
he never had any insurance or road tax or MOT.
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也从未交过保险和道路税,也没参加驾照考试。
09:06
He thought, "I know how to drive;
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他认为:“我知道如何开车,
09:08
why do I need the state's validation?"
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为什么还需要州政府来验证?”
09:11
But it became a little tricky when we were stopped by the police,
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但是,这就使得在警察让我们 停下来时比较棘手,
09:13
and we were stopped a lot by the police,
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而警察又常常让我停下来,
09:15
and I was impressed by the way
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我对我父亲与警察交涉的方式
09:16
that my father dealt with the police.
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印象深刻。
09:18
He would promote the policeman immediately,
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他会立刻让警察升职,
09:21
so that P.C. Bloggs became Detective Inspector Bloggs
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在谈话的过程中,警察布洛格斯
09:25
in the course of the conversation
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变成了探长布洛格斯,
09:26
and wave us on merrily.
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然后愉快的向我们挥手告别。
09:28
So my father was exhibiting what we in Jamaica
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这就是我父亲在展示我们
09:30
called "playing fool to catch wise."
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牙买加人称之为的“扮猪吃老虎”的智慧。
09:34
But it lent also an idea
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但是,这也许以另一种想法也能解释,
09:38
that actually he was being diminished
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就是实际上,他被警察贬低
09:40
or belittled by the policeman —
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和轻视了,
09:42
as a 10-year-old boy, I saw that —
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作为一个十岁的男孩,我看出了这点,
09:44
but also there was an ambivalence towards authority.
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但是还是一种对当权者的一种矛盾心理。
09:46
So on the one hand, there was
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所以,一方面
09:48
a mocking of authority,
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是对当权的嘲讽,
09:50
but on the other hand, there was a deference
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但是,另一方面,
09:52
towards authority,
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是对当权者的敬重,
09:54
and these Caribbean people
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且这些加勒比人,
09:56
had an overbearing obedience towards authority,
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以一种非常显著且奇怪的方式
10:00
which is very striking, very strange in a way,
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对当权者者极其服从,
10:02
because migrants are very courageous people.
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因为移民者都是十分有勇气的人。
10:05
They leave their homes. My father and my mother
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他们远走他乡。
10:08
left Jamaica and they traveled 4,000 miles,
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我的父母离开牙买加,然后旅行了四千英里,
10:12
and yet they were infantilized by travel.
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即便如此,他们仍不擅长旅行。
10:16
They were timid,
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他们非常胆小,
10:17
and somewhere along the line,
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而不知在前行道路上的何处,
10:19
the natural order was reversed.
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自然的秩序被颠倒了,
10:21
The children became the parents to the parent.
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孩子们反而成为了父母们的父母。
10:26
The Caribbean people came to this country with a five-year plan:
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加勒比人是带着他们的五年 计划来到这个国家的:
10:29
they would work, some money, and then go back,
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即他们工作,赚钱,然后回加勒比,
10:31
but the five years became 10, the 10 became 15,
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但是“五年”变成了十年, 接着十年变成了十五年,
10:33
and before you know it, you're changing the wallpaper,
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接下来,在你还未意识到时, 你正在换家中的墙纸,
10:36
and at that point, you know you're here to stay.
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也就是在这时,你才知道自己要留在这里了。
10:39
Although there's still the kind of temporariness
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尽管,我父母依旧觉得留在这里
10:42
that our parents felt about being here,
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是一种暂时性的事,
10:44
but we children knew that the game was up.
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但是我们这些孩子都知道游戏已经结束了。
10:49
I think there was a feeling that
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我认为,这是一种觉得
10:51
they would not be able to continue with the ideals
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他们没有能力继续他们所期盼的
10:57
of the life that they expected.
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理想生活的感觉。
10:59
The reality was very much different.
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而现实是与之如此不同。
11:01
And also, that was true of the reality
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此外,我父亲试图教育我
11:03
of trying to educate me.
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这一现实也是真的。
11:04
Having started the process, my father did not continue.
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是他开始教育我的, 但他并没有坚持下来。
11:08
It was left to my mother to educate me,
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而是留给我母亲来继续教育我,
11:11
and as George Lamming would say,
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正如乔治·雷明说的那样,
11:14
it was my mother who fathered me.
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是我的母亲扮演了我父亲的角色。
11:17
Even in his absence, that old mantra remained:
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即便他缺席了,他古老的”咒语“依旧存在:
11:20
You are being watched.
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你正在被监视着。
11:21
But such ardent watchfulness can lead to anxiety,
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但是如此炽热的注视会导致焦虑,
11:25
so much so that years later, when I was investigating
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这就使得许多年后,当我在研究
11:27
why so many young black men
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为何如此多的黑人青年
11:28
were diagnosed with schizophrenia,
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被诊断为精神分裂症,
11:30
six times more than they ought to be,
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该疾病在他们身上的发病率是他们原本发病率的六倍,
11:33
I was not surprised to hear the psychiatrist say,
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而且在我听到心理医生说:”黑人们
11:36
"Black people are schooled in paranoia."
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在恐吓中被教育“时我并不感到吃惊。
11:41
And I wonder what Bageye would make of that.
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我很好奇”泡泡眼“对此有何想法。
11:44
Now I also had a 10-year-old son,
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现在,我自己也有了一个十岁的儿子,
11:47
and turned my attention to Bageye
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我便开始把注意力转向”泡泡眼“
11:50
and I went in search of him.
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我开始寻找他。
11:51
He was back in Luton, he was now 82,
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他回到了卢顿,他当时已经82岁了,
11:55
and I hadn't seen him for 30-odd years,
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而我已经有三十几年没见过他了,
11:58
and when he opened the door,
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当他来开门时,
12:00
I saw this tiny little man with lambent, smiling eyes,
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我看见这个瘦小的男人眼中带着隐约的笑意,
12:04
and he was smiling, and I'd never seen him smile.
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他在冲我微笑,而我之前从未见他笑过。
12:06
I was very disconcerted by that.
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这使我感到非常惊惶。
12:09
But we sat down, and he had a Caribbean friend with him,
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但是,我们坐下后,而且他有 位加勒比朋友正与他一起,
12:12
talking some old time talk,
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我父亲正与他聊一陈年往事,
12:15
and my father would look at me,
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我父亲看向我,
12:17
and he looked at me as if I would
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他看向我的样子
12:19
miraculously disappear as I had arisen.
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好像我会像我突然出现那样乍然的消失。
12:23
And he turned to his friend, and he said,
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接着,他转向他的朋友,说到:
12:25
"This boy and me have a deep, deep connection,
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“这个男孩和我有着很深的联系,
12:28
deep, deep connection."
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很深,很深的联系。”
12:31
But I never felt that connection.
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但是我从没感觉到这种联系。
12:32
If there was a pulse, it was very weak
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如果我们之间有某种脉动,那也非常弱
12:35
or hardly at all.
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或者基本没有。
12:38
And I almost felt in the course of that reunion
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我几乎快要觉得,在重聚的过程中,
12:40
that I was auditioning to be my father's son.
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我是在为担当我父亲的儿子试镜。
12:44
When the book came out,
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当书出版时,
12:46
it had fair reviews in the national papers,
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它在国家报纸上有着不错的评论,
12:48
but the paper of choice in Luton is not The Guardian,
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但是在卢顿,人们选择的包装并不是卫报,
12:51
it's the Luton News,
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而是卢顿新闻,
12:54
and the Luton News ran the headline about the book,
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卢顿新闻将这本书作为了头条,
12:57
"The Book That May Heal a 32-Year-Old Rift."
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标题写道:“一本能够愈合32年的裂痕的书”。
13:03
And I understood that could also represent
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并且我理解这可能也代表了
13:06
the rift between one generation and the next,
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两代之间的裂痕,
13:08
between people like me and my father's generation,
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像是我和我父亲这一代人之间的这种裂痕,
13:12
but there's no tradition in Caribbean life
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但是在加勒比人的生活中,
13:14
of memoirs or biographies.
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并没有记录回忆或者写传记的传统。
13:16
It was a tradition that you didn't chat about your business in public.
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那只有不在公共场合谈论私事的传统。
13:20
But I welcomed that title, and I thought actually, yes,
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但是我很喜欢这个标题, 而且我认为正是如此,
13:25
there is a possibility that this
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这也许提供了让我们进行一次
13:27
will open up conversations that we'd never had before.
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从未有过的谈话的可能性。
13:31
This will close the generation gap, perhaps.
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也许,这能使我们之间的代沟变小。
13:35
This could be an instrument of repair.
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这也可能成为修复我们之间关系的工具。
13:38
And I even began to feel that this book
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我甚至开始觉得我父亲
13:40
may be perceived by my father
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会将这本书理解为
13:43
as an act of filial devotion.
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是一种孝心的展现。
13:47
Poor, deluded fool.
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这个傻子。
13:51
Bageye was stung by what he perceived to be
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”泡泡眼“被激怒了,因为他认为
13:55
the public airing of his shortcomings.
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这本书使公众知道了他的缺点。
13:58
He was stung by my betrayal,
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他被我的背叛激怒了,
14:01
and he went to the newspapers the next day
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第二天,他去了报纸发行处
14:03
and demanded a right of reply,
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并且要求他们给他回应的权利,
14:04
and he got it with the headline
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接着,他得到了次日的头条:
14:06
"Bageye Bites Back."
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”泡泡眼的回击“。
14:09
And it was a coruscating account of my betrayal.
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这是一个备受瞩目的对我的背叛做出的解释,
14:12
I was no son of his.
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我不是他的儿子。
14:15
He recognized in his mind that his colors
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他意识到他的颜面扫地,
14:17
had been dragged through the mud, and he couldn't allow that.
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被污泥沾染,而他不能允许这样的事发生。
14:20
He had to restore his dignity, and he did so,
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他必须要重建他的尊严,他也这么做了。
14:22
and initially, although I was disappointed,
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虽然,一开始我对此很失望,
14:25
I grew to admire that stance.
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但是我渐渐开始钦佩他的立场了。
14:26
There was still fire bubbling through his veins,
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尽管他已经82岁了,
14:30
even though he was 82 years old.
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但他的血管中仍有澎湃的火球。
14:33
And if it meant that we would now return
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如果这意味着我们可能重新
14:36
to 30 years of silence,
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回到那互不交谈的30年,
14:39
my father would say, "If it's so, then it's so."
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我父亲可能会说:“如果是这样,那就只能如此了。”
14:45
Jamaicans will tell you that there's no such thing as facts,
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牙买加可能会说没有诸如“事实”这样的事,
14:48
there are only versions.
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只有不同的版本。
14:50
We all tell ourselves the versions of the story
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人们总是讲述自己不同版本的故事,
14:53
that we can best live with.
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他们所能承受的最佳版本。
14:56
Each generation builds up an edifice
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每代人都建造了自己的知识结构,
14:58
which they are reluctant or sometimes unable
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这使得他们不情愿或者有时不能
15:00
to disassemble,
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拆解这些结构,
15:03
but in the writing, my version of the story
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但是在我的写作中,我的故事版本
15:06
began to change,
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开始改变了,
15:08
and it was detached from me.
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它与我自身分离了,
15:12
I lost my hatred of my father.
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我不再厌恶我父亲了。
15:15
I did no longer want him to die or to murder him,
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我不再盼望着他去世或者想要谋杀他了,
15:20
and I felt free,
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而且我感觉到了一种解脱,
15:24
much freer than I'd ever felt before.
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我以前从未感觉到如此自由。
15:29
And I wonder whether that freedness
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并且我很好奇这种自由是否
15:31
could be transferred to him.
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能够传递给我的父亲。
15:36
In that initial reunion,
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在最初的重聚中,
15:40
I was struck by an idea that I had
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我突然想到,
15:42
very few photographs of myself
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我小的时候
15:46
as a young child.
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很少有自己的独照。
15:48
This is a photograph of me,
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这是一张我的照片,
15:50
nine months old.
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是九个月大时的我。
15:53
In the original photograph,
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在原始的照片中,
15:55
I'm being held up by my father, Bageye,
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我是被我父亲“泡泡眼”高高举起的,
15:58
but when my parents separated, my mother
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但是在我父母分开后,我母亲
16:00
excised him from all aspects of our lives.
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将他从我们生活中的各方面都剔除了。
16:03
She took a pair of scissors and cut him out of every photograph,
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她拿剪刀把每张照片中的父亲都减掉了,
16:07
and for years, I told myself the truth of this photograph
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许多年来,我告诉自己, 这些照片的真相是:
16:10
was that you are alone,
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我是孤单一人的,
16:13
you are unsupported.
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我是不被支持的。
16:16
But there's another way of looking at this photograph.
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但是,还有另一种方式来看这些照片。
16:18
This is a photograph that has the potential
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这是有着重聚潜质
16:21
for a reunion,
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的照片,
16:23
a potential to be reunited with my father,
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和我父亲重聚的潜质,
16:26
and in my yearning to be held up by my father,
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在我希望被父亲高高举起的渴望中,
16:30
I held him up to the light.
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我将他举向了聚光灯前。
16:33
In that first reunion,
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第一次的重聚时,
16:36
it was very awkward and tense moments,
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那是气氛既尴尬又紧张的时刻,
16:38
and to lessen the tension,
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为了减缓紧张的氛围,
16:39
we decided to go for a walk.
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我们决定去散散步。
16:43
And as we walked, I was struck
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在我们散步的途中,
16:45
that I had reverted to being the child
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我突然发现,我又变回了孩子,
16:47
even though I was now towering above my father.
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尽管我比父亲高了很多。
16:50
I was almost a foot taller than my father.
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我几乎比父亲高一尺,
16:53
He was still the big man,
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但他仍旧是个大人,
16:55
and I tried to match his step.
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而我试图跟上他的步伐。
17:00
And I realized that he was walking
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接着我意识到,
17:02
as if he was still under observation,
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他正在以仍被人注视着的方式走路,
17:04
but I admired his walk.
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但我钦佩他的这种走路方式。
17:07
He walked like a man
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他像世界杯决赛失败的人
17:10
on the losing side of the F.A. Cup Final
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那样走着路,
17:13
mounting the steps to collect his condolence medal.
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一步步登上阶梯领取他的安慰奖。
17:16
There was dignity in defeat.
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在失败中流露出了尊严。
17:20
Thank you.
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谢谢。
17:22
(Applause)
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(掌声...)
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