The lies we tell pregnant women | Sofia Jawed-Wessel

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์•„๋ž˜ ์˜๋ฌธ์ž๋ง‰์„ ๋”๋ธ”ํด๋ฆญํ•˜์‹œ๋ฉด ์˜์ƒ์ด ์žฌ์ƒ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

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Translator: Joseph Geni Reviewer: Joanna Pietrulewicz
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๋ฒˆ์—ญ: Giyoung Jung ๊ฒ€ํ† : Jihyeon J. Kim
00:12
We're going to share a lot of secrets today, you and I,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์˜ค๋Š˜ ๋งŽ์€ ๋น„๋ฐ€์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:15
and in doing so, I hope that we can lift
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๊ทธ ๊ณผ์ •์—์„œ ๋งŽ์€ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ์„น์Šค์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋Š๋ผ๋Š”
00:18
some of the shame many of us feel about sex.
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๋ถ€๋„๋Ÿฌ์›€์„ ์กฐ๊ธˆ์ด๋‚˜๋งˆ ์—†์•จ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์—ˆ์œผ๋ฉด ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:22
How many here have ever been catcalled by a stranger?
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„ ์ค‘ ๋ชจ๋ฅด๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์—๊ฒŒ์„œ ์•ผ์œ ๋ฅผ ๋ฐ›์€ ์ ์ด ์žˆ์œผ์‹  ๋ถ„?
๋งŽ์€ ์—ฌ์„ฑ๋ถ„๋“ค์ด๋„ค์š”.
00:28
Lots of women.
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00:30
For me, the time I remember best
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์ €๋Š”, ์ œ๊ฐ€ ๊ธฐ์–ตํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ”๋กœ๋Š”
00:33
is when that stranger was a student of mine.
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์ œ๊ฒŒ ๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ๋‚ฎ์„  ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด ์ œ ํ•™์ƒ์ด์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:37
He came up to me after class that night
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๊ทธ๋Š” ์ˆ˜์—…์ด ๋๋‚œ ํ›„ ๊ทธ๋‚  ์ €๋… ์ €๋ฅผ ์ฐพ์•„์™”์–ด์š”.
๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ ๋Š” ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์ด๋ฏธ ์•Œ๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ๋ง์„ ํ–ˆ์ฃ .
00:40
and his words confirmed what I already knew:
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00:43
"I am so sorry, professor.
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"๊ต์ˆ˜๋‹˜, ์ •๋ง ์ฃ„์†กํ•ด์š”.
00:45
If I had known it was you, I would never have said those things."
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๊ต์ˆ˜๋‹˜์ธ ๊ฒƒ์„ ์•Œ์•˜๋”๋ผ๋ฉด
์ „ ์ ˆ๋Œ€ ๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ์ง€ ์•Š์•˜์„ ๊ฑฐ์˜ˆ์š”"
(์›ƒ์Œ)
00:49
(Laughter)
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00:51
I wasn't a person to him until I was his professor.
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์ž๊ธฐ ๊ต์ˆ˜์ธ๊ฑธ ์•Œ๊ณ ์„œ์•ผ ์ €๋Š” ๊ทธ์—๊ฒŒ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด ๋œ ๊ฒ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:56
This concept, called objectification,
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์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ์‚ฌ๋ฌผํ™”๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ถˆ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ฐœ๋…๋กœ์„œ
์„ฑ์ฐจ๋ณ„์˜ ๊ธฐ๋ณธ์ด๋ฉฐ
00:59
is the foundation of sexism,
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01:01
and we see it reinforced through every aspect of our lives.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์ƒํ™œ ๊ณณ๊ณณ์—์„œ ์ด ํ˜„์ƒ์ด ์‹ฌํ•ด์ง€๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๋ณผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:07
We see it in the government
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์—ฌ์„ฑ์„ ์„ฑํญํ–‰์„ ํ•œ ๋‚จ์„ฑ์„
01:09
that refuses to punish men
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์ฒ˜๋ฒŒํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ์ •๋ถ€์˜ ๋Œ€์‘์—์„œ ๋ณผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:13
for raping women.
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๋˜ํ•œ ๊ด‘๊ณ ์—์„œ๋„ ์ฐพ์•„ ๋ณผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:15
We see it in advertisements.
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01:17
How many of you have seen an advertisement
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„๋“ค ์ค‘ ๊ด‘๊ณ  ์†์—์„œ
01:19
that uses a woman's breast to sell an entirely unrelated product?
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์ „ํ˜€ ๊ด€๋ จ๋„ ์—†๋Š” ์ƒํ’ˆํŒ๋งค๋ฅผ ์œ„ํ•ด ์—ฌ์„ฑ์˜ ๊ฐ€์Šด์„ ์ด์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฑธ ๋ณด์‹  ๋ถ„์€์š”?
01:26
Or movie after movie after movie
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๋˜๋Š” ์ˆ˜๋งŽ์€ ์˜ํ™”์—์„œ
01:30
that portrays women as only love interests?
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์—ฌ์„ฑ์€ ์˜ค์ง ์• ์ •์˜ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋กœ๋งŒ ๋ฌ˜์‚ฌ๋œ ๊ฒƒ์€์š”?
์ด๋Ÿฐ ์˜ˆ๋“ค์ด ๋ณ„์ผ ์•„๋‹ˆ๊ณ  ๋ฌดํ•ดํ•œ ๊ฒƒ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ๋ณด์ด์ง€๋งŒ
01:34
These examples might seem inconsequential and harmless,
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01:37
but they're insidious,
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์€๋ฐ€ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์ž‘์šฉํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:39
slowly building into a culture that refuses to see women as people.
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์กฐ๊ธˆ์”ฉ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์„ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์œผ๋กœ ๋ณด์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด
๋ฌธํ™” ์†์œผ๋กœ ์Šค๋ฉฐ ๋“ค๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:43
We see this in the school that sends home a 10-year-old girl
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์–ด๋–ค ํ•™๊ต๊ฐ€ 10์‚ด์งœ๋ฆฌ ์—ฌํ•™์ƒ์„ ์ง‘์— ๋ณด๋ƒˆ๋Š”๋ฐ
๊ทธ ํ•™์ƒ์˜ ์˜ท์ด ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ๋‚จํ•™์ƒ์˜ ํ•™์Šต์„ ์‚ฐ๋งŒํ•˜๊ฒŒ ํ•œ๋‹ค๊ณ  ํ–ˆ๋‹ต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:48
because her clothes were a distraction to boys trying to learn,
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01:51
or the government that refuses to punish men for raping women
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๋˜๋Š” ์„ฑํญํ–‰์„ ํ•œ ๋‚จ์„ฑ์„ ์ฒ˜๋ฒŒํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๋Š”
์ •๋ถ€์˜ ๋Œ€์‘์—์„œ๋„ ์ฐพ์•„ ๋ณผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๋ฐ˜๋ณต์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋ง์ด์ฃ .
01:57
over and over,
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01:58
or the woman who is killed
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๋˜๋Š” ์ถค์ถ”๋Š” ๊ณณ์—์„œ ์น˜๊ทผ๋•๊ฑฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๋‚จ์ž์—๊ฒŒ
02:00
because she asked a man to stop grinding on her on the dance floor.
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๊ทธ๋งŒํ•˜๋ผ๊ณ  ํ–ˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ์ด์œ ๋กœ ์‚ดํ•ด๋‹นํ•œ ์—ฌ์„ฑ๋„ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:07
Media plays a large role in perpetuating the objectification of women.
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๋Œ€์ค‘๋งค์ฒด๋Š” ์—ฌ์„ฑ์„ ์˜๊ตฌ์ ์œผ๋กœ
์‚ฌ๋ฌผํ™”ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์— ํฐ ์—ญํ• ์„ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:13
Let's consider the classic romantic comedy.
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ํด๋ž˜์‹ ๋กœ๋งจํ‹ฑ ์ฝ”๋ฏธ๋”” ์˜ํ™”๋ฅผ ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ด ๋ด…์‹œ๋‹ค.
02:16
We're typically introduced to two kinds of women in these movies,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์ „ํ˜•์ ์œผ๋กœ ๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ์˜ํ™”์—์„œ ๋‘ ๋ถ€๋ฅ˜์˜ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์„ ๋ณด๊ฒŒ ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:20
two kinds of desirable women, anyway.
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์ •ํ™•ํžˆ ๋งํ•˜๋ฉด, ๋‘ ๋ช…์˜ ๋งค๋ ฅ์ ์ธ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์„์š”.
02:22
The first is the sexy bombshell.
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ํ•œ ๋ช…์€ ๋งค๋ ฅ์ ์ธ ๊ธˆ๋ฐœ์˜ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:25
This is the unbelievably gorgeous woman with the perfect body.
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์™„๋ฒฝํ•œ ๋ชธ๋งค๋ฅผ ์ž๋ž‘ํ•˜๋Š”
๋ฏฟ๊ธฐ์ง€ ์•Š์„ ์ •๋„๋กœ ๋งค๋ ฅ์ ์ธ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
์ฃผ์ธ๊ณต ๋‚จ์ž๋Š” ๊ทธ๋…€๋ฅผ ๊ธˆ๋ฐฉ ์•Œ์•„๋ณผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์ฃ .
02:29
Our leading man has no trouble identifying her
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02:31
and even less trouble having sex with her.
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๋˜ ๋” ์‰ฝ๊ฒŒ ๊ทธ๋…€์™€ ์ž ์ž๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€์งˆ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์–ด์š”.
02:34
The second is our leading lady,
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๋‘ ๋ฒˆ์งธ๋Š” ์ฃผ์ธ๊ณต ์—ฌ์„ฑ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:36
the beautiful but demure woman our leading man falls in love with
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์˜ˆ์˜๊ธด ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์–Œ์ „ํ•œ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์ด์ฃ .
๋‚จ์ž ์ฃผ์ธ๊ณต์€ ๊ทธ๋…€์™€ ์‚ฌ๋ž‘์— ๋น ์ง‘๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:40
despite not noticing her at first
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ํŠน๋ณ„ํ•  ๊ฒƒ ์—†๋Š” ์ฒซ ๋งŒ๋‚จ ํ˜น์€ ํ˜ธ๊ฐ์ด ์—†์—ˆ์Œ์—๋„ ๋ถˆ๊ตฌํ•˜๊ณ  ๋ง์ด์ฃ .
02:42
or not liking her if he did.
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02:45
The first is the slut.
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์ฒซ ๋ฒˆ์งธ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์€ ํ—คํ”ˆ ์—ฌ์ž์ด์ฃ .
02:47
She is to be consumed and forgotten.
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๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” ์ด์šฉ๋˜๊ณ  ๋‚˜์„œ๋Š” ์žŠํ˜€์ ธ๋ฒ„๋ฆฝ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:49
She is much too available.
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๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ์‰ฌ์›Œ์š”.
02:51
The second is desirable but modest,
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๋‘ ๋ฒˆ์งธ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์€ ๋งค๋ ฅ์ ์ด์ง€๋งŒ ํ‰๋ฒ”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:55
and therefore worthy of our leading man's future babies.
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ๋ฏ€๋กœ ๋‚จ์ž ์ฃผ์ธ๊ณต์˜ ๋ฏธ๋ž˜์˜ ์•„๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๊ฐ–๋Š”๋ฐ ์ ํ•ฉํ•˜์ฃ .
02:58
Marriage material.
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๊ฒฐํ˜ผ ์žฌ๋ฃŒ๋กœ์„œ ๋ง์ด์ฃ .
03:00
We're actually told that women have two roles,
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์—ฌ์„ฑ์€ ๋‘ ๊ฐ€์ง€ ์—ญํ• ์ด ์žˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋“ค์—ˆ์ง€๋งŒ
03:03
but these two roles have a difficult time existing within the same woman.
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์ด๋Ÿฐ ์—ญํ• ์€ ํ•œ ์—ฌ์ž๊ฐ€ ๋‹ค ๊ฐ–๊ธฐ ์–ด๋ ต์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:08
On the rare occasion that I share with a new acquaintance
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๋“œ๋ฌธ ๊ฒฝ์šฐ ๋ง‰ ์•Œ๊ฒŒ ๋œ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์—๊ฒŒ ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์„น์Šค๋ฅผ ์—ฐ๊ตฌํ•œ๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋งํ•˜๋ฉด
03:12
that I study sex,
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03:13
if they don't end the conversation right then,
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๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ๋ฐ”๋กœ ๋๋‚ด์ง€ ์•Š์œผ๋ฉด
03:16
they're usually pretty intrigued.
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๋ณดํ†ต ๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ๊ฝค ํฅ๋ฏธ๋ฅผ ๋ณด์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:19
"Oh. Tell me more."
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"๋” ์–˜๊ธฐํ•ด ๋ณด์„ธ์š”."
๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์ „ ๋” ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•˜์ฃ .
03:21
So I do.
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"์ „ ์ž„์‹  ์ค‘ ํ˜น์€ ์ถœ์‚ฐ ํ›„์˜
03:24
"I'm really interested in studying the sexual behaviors
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๋ถ€๋ถ€๊ฐ„ ์„น์Šค์— ๊ด€ํ•œ ์—ฐ๊ตฌ์— ๊ต‰์žฅํžˆ ๊ด€์‹ฌ์ด ์žˆ์–ด์š”."
03:26
of pregnant and postpartum couples."
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03:28
At this point I get a different kind of response.
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์ด ์‹œ์ ์—์„œ ์ €๋Š” ์กฐ๊ธˆ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ๋ฐ˜์‘์„ ๋ณด๊ฒŒ ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:32
(Laughter)
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(์›ƒ์Œ)
03:34
"Oh. Huh.
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"์Œ.."
"ํ .."
03:36
Do pregnant people even have sex?
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์ž„์‹ ํ•œ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ์„น์Šค๋ฅผ ํ•˜๊ธฐ๋Š” ํ•ด์š”?
์„ฑ์ ์ธ ์š•๊ตฌ๋‚˜ ์˜ค๋ฅด๊ฐ€์ฆ˜ ์—ฐ๊ตฌ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ด ๋ณธ ์  ์žˆ์–ด์š”?
03:40
Have you thought about studying sexual desire
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03:44
or orgasms?
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๊ทธ ์—ฐ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ํฅ๋ฏธ๋กœ์šธ ๊ฑธ์š”, ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์„น์‹œํ•˜๊ณ ์š”.
03:45
That would be interesting, and sexy."
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์ž„์‹ ํ•œ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์˜ ์‚ฌ์ง„์„ ๋ณด์•˜์„ ๋•Œ ์ฒ˜์Œ ์ƒ๊ฐ๋‚˜๋Š” ๋‹จ์–ด๋Š” ๋ฌด์—‡์ธ๊ฐ€์š”?
03:50
Tell me. What are the first words that come to mind
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03:52
when you picture a pregnant woman?
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03:55
I asked this question in a survey of over 500 adults,
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์ „ ์ด ์งˆ๋ฌธ์„ ์„ฑ์ธ๋“ค 500๋ช… ์ด์ƒ์—๊ฒŒ ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:58
and most responded with "belly" or "round"
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๋Œ€๋ถ€๋ถ„์˜ ๋Œ€๋‹ต์€ "๋ฐฐ" ๋˜๋Š” "๋‘ฅ๊ธ€๋‹ค"
04:02
and "cute."
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  "๊ท€์—ฝ๋‹ค".
๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ๋†€๋ž์ง€๋Š” ์•Š์•˜์ฃ .
04:05
This didn't surprise me too much.
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04:06
What else do we label as cute?
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๋ณดํ†ต ๊ท€์—ฝ๋‹ค๋Š” ๋ง์„ ๋ˆ„๊ตฌ์—๊ฒŒ ํ•˜์ฃ ?
04:09
Babies. Puppies. Kittens.
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์•„๊ธฐ, ๊ฐ•์•„์ง€, ๊ณ ์–‘์ด
04:12
The elderly. Right?
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๋…ธ์ธ๋“ค, ๊ทธ๋ ‡์ฃ ?
(์›ƒ์Œ)
04:14
(Laughter)
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๋ฐ˜๋ฉด์— ์„ฑ์ธ์—๊ฒŒ ๊ท€์—ฝ๋‹ค๋Š” ๋ง์„ ํ•  ๋•
04:17
When we label an adult as cute, though,
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04:19
we take away a lot of their intelligence,
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๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ๋งŽ์€ ์ง€์„ฑ์ด๋‚˜ ๋ณต์žกํ•œ ์š”์†Œ๋“ค์„ ๋ฐฐ์ œํ•ด ๋ฒ„๋ฆฝ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:22
their complexity.
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04:24
We reduce them to childlike qualities.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ทธ๋“ค์„ ์•„์ด๊ฐ™์ด ์ทจ๊ธ‰ํ•ด๋ฒ„๋ฆฌ์ฃ .
์ €๋Š” ๋˜ํ•œ ์ด์„ฑ์• ์ž์ธ ๋‚จ์„ฑ์—๊ฒŒ
04:27
I also asked heterosexual men
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04:29
to imagine a woman that they're partnered with is pregnant,
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ํŒŒํŠธ๋„ˆ์ธ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์ด ์ž„์‹ ์„ ํ–ˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ด๋ณด๋ผ๊ณ  ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:32
and then asked women to imagine that they are pregnant,
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๋˜ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์—๊ฒŒ๋Š” ์ž์‹ ๋“ค์ด ์ž„์‹ ์„ ํ–ˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ๊ฐ€์ •ํ•ด๋ณด๋„๋ก ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:35
and then tell me the first words that come to mind
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๊ทธ๋“ค์ด ์„น์Šค์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ƒ๊ฐํ–ˆ์„ ๋•Œ
04:37
when they imagine having sex.
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์ฒ˜์Œ ์ƒ๊ฐ๋‚˜๋Š” ๋‹จ์–ด๋ฅผ ์ €์—๊ฒŒ ์•Œ๋ ค๋‹ฌ๋ผ๊ณ  ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:40
Most of the responses were negative.
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๋Œ€๋ถ€๋ถ„์˜ ๋ฐ˜์‘์€ ๋ถ€์ •์ ์ด์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:44
"Gross."
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"์—ญ๊ฒน๋‹ค"
04:45
"Awkward."
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"์–ด์ƒ‰ํ•˜๋‹ค"
"์„น์‹œํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๋‹ค"
04:47
"Not sexy." "Odd."
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"์ด์ƒํ•˜๋‹ค"
04:49
"Uncomfortable."
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"๋ถˆํŽธํ•˜๋‹ค"
04:51
"How?"
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"์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ํ•˜์ง€?"
04:52
(Laughter)
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(์›ƒ์Œ)
04:55
"Not worth the trouble." "Not worth the risk."
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"๋ฌธ์ œ๋ฅผ ๊ฐ์ˆ˜ํ•  ๊ฐ€์น˜๊ฐ€ ์—†์–ด" "์œ„ํ—˜์˜ ๊ฐ€์น˜๊ฐ€ ์—†์–ด"
04:58
That last one really stuck with me.
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์ด ๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰ ๋ง์€ ์ •๋ง ์ถฉ๊ฒฉ์ด์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:01
We might think that because we divorce pregnant women and moms from sexuality,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์•„๋งˆ๋„ ์ž„์‹ ํ•œ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์ด๋‚˜ ์—„๋งˆ๋ฅผ ์„น์Šค์™€ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์ƒ๊ฐํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์„ ๊ฒ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:06
we are removing the constraints of sexual objectification.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์„ฑ์  ์‚ฌ๋ฌผํ™”๋ฅผ ๋ฐฉํ•ดํ•˜๋Š” ์š”์†Œ๋ฅผ ์ง€์›Œ๋ฒ„๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:11
They experience less sexism. Right?
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๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ์š•๊ตฌ๋ฅผ ๋œ ๋Š๋ผ๋Š”์ฃ , ๊ทธ๋ ‡์ฃ ?
05:14
Not exactly.
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๊ผญ ๊ทธ๋ ‡์ง€๋Š” ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:15
What happens instead is a different kind of objectification.
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๊ทธ ๋Œ€์‹ ์— ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์ข…๋ฅ˜์˜ ์‚ฌ๋ฌผํ™”๊ฐ€ ์ผ์–ด๋‚ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
์ด ํ˜„์ƒ์„ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ์„ค๋ช…ํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•œ ์ €์˜ ๋…ธ๋ ฅ ์ค‘ ํ•˜๋‚˜๋Š”
05:19
In my efforts to explain this to others,
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05:22
one conversation led to the Venus of Willendorf,
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๋นŒ๋ Œ๋„๋ฅดํ”„์˜ ๋น„๋„ˆ์Šค์— ๊ด€ํ•œ ๋Œ€ํ™”์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:25
a Paleolithic figurine scholars assumed was a goddess of love and beauty,
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๊ตฌ์„๊ธฐ ์กฐ๊ฐ์ƒ ํ•™์ž๋“ค์€ ๋นŒ๋ Œ๋„๋ฅดํ”„์˜ ๋น„๋„ˆ์Šค๋ฅผ
์‚ฌ๋ž‘๊ณผ ๋ฏธ์˜ ์—ฌ์‹ ์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ๊ฐ€์ •ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:30
hence the name Venus.
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์ด๋ฆ„์ด ๋น„๋„ˆ์Šค์ธ ๊ฒƒ์ด์ฃ .
05:32
This theory was later revised, though,
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๊ทธ ์ด๋ก ์€ ๋‚˜์ค‘์— ๊ฐœ์ •๋์ง€๋งŒ์š”.
05:34
when scholars noted the sculptor's obvious focus
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ํ•™์ž๋“ค์€ ๊ทธ ์กฐ๊ฐ์ƒ์˜ ํŠน์ง•์„ ๊ธฐ๋กํ•  ๋•Œ ์ƒ์‹์  ํŠน์ง•์— ์ง‘์ค‘ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:38
on the figurine's reproductive features:
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05:41
large breasts, considered ideal for nursing;
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ํฐ ๊ฐ€์Šด, ์œก์•„๋ฅผ ์œ„ํ•œ ์ด์ƒ์  ์กฐ๊ฑด์ธ ๋‘ฅ๊ธ€๊ณ  ์ž„์‹ ํ•œ ๊ฒƒ ๊ฐ™์€ ๋ฐฐ.
05:45
a round, possibly pregnant belly;
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05:47
the remnants of red dye, alluding to menstruation or birth.
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์ƒ๋ฆฌ๋‚˜ ํƒ„์ƒ์„ ์•”์‹œํ•˜๋Š” ๋นจ๊ฐ„์—ผ๋ฃŒ ํ”์ ์ด์š”.
05:52
They also assumed that she was meant to be held or placed lying down
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๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ๋˜ํ•œ ๊ทธ๋…€๊ฐ€ ์˜๋„์ ์œผ๋กœ ์•ˆ๊ฒจ์žˆ๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๋ˆ„์›Œ์žˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ–ˆ์–ด์š”.
์™œ๋ƒํ•˜๋ฉด ๊ทธ๋…€์˜ ์ž‘์€ ๋ฐœ๋กœ๋Š” ์Šค์Šค๋กœ ์„ค ์ˆ˜ ์—†์„ ๊ฒƒ ๊ฐ™๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์ด์ฃ .
05:56
because her tiny feet don't allow her to be freestanding.
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06:00
She also had no face.
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๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” ์–ผ๊ตด๋„ ์—†์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:02
For this reason, it was assumed that she was a representation of fertility
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์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ์ด์œ ๋กœ ๋น„๋„ˆ์Šค๋Š” ์ธ๊ฐ„์˜ ๋ฌ˜์‚ฌ๊ฐ€ ์•„๋‹Œ
06:06
and not a portrait of a person.
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๋‹ค์‚ฐ์„ ์ƒ์ง•ํ•œ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์—ฌ๊ฒจ์กŒ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:09
She was an object.
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๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” ๊ด€์‹ฌ์˜ ๋Œ€์ƒ์ด์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:11
In the history of her interpretation,
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๊ทธ๋…€๋ฅผ ํ•ด์„ํ•ด ์˜จ ์—ญ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ์‚ดํŽด๋ณด๋ฉด
06:13
she went from object of ideal beauty and love
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๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” ๋ฏธ์™€ ์‚ฌ๋ž‘์˜ ์ด์ƒ์  ๋Œ€์ƒ์—์„œ ๋ฒˆ์‹์˜ ๋Œ€์ƒ์œผ๋กœ ์˜ฎ๊ฒจ ๊ฐ”์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:16
to object of reproduction.
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์ €๋Š” ์ด๋Ÿฐ ๋ณ€ํ™”๊ฐ€ ์กฐ๊ฐ์ƒ์œผ๋กœ์„œ์˜ ์‹ค์ œ ๋ชฉ์ ๋ณด๋‹ค๋Š”
06:19
I think this transition speaks more
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06:21
about the scholars who have interpreted her purpose
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๊ทธ๋…€์˜ ๋ชฉ์ ์„ ํ•ด์„ํ•œ ํ•™์ž๋“ค์„ ๋” ๋Œ€๋ณ€ํ•œ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:25
than the actual purpose of the figurine herself.
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06:30
When a woman becomes pregnant,
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์—ฌ์„ฑ์ด ์ž„์‹ ์„ ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋˜๋ฉด
06:32
she leaves the realm of men's sexual desire
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๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” ๋‚จ์„ฑ์˜ ์„ฑ์  ์š•๊ตฌ ์˜์—ญ์—์„œ ์ œ์™ธ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:36
and slides into her reproductive and child-rearing role.
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ ๋Š” ๋ฒˆ์‹๊ณผ ์ž๋…€ ์–‘์œก์œผ๋กœ ์—ญํ• ์ด ๋ฐ”๋€Œ๊ฒŒ ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:40
In doing so, she also becomes
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ๋Š” ๋™์‹œ์— ์—ฌ์„ฑ์€ ๊ณต๋™์ฒด์˜ ์žฌ์‚ฐ์ด ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:43
the property of the community,
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06:45
considered very important but only because she's pregnant. Right?
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๋‹จ์ง€ ์ž„์‹ ์„ ํ–ˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ์ด์œ ๋กœ ๊ต‰์žฅํžˆ ์ค‘์š”ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์—ฌ๊ฒจ์ง€์ง€์š”, ๊ทธ๋ ‡์ฃ ?
์ €๋Š” ์ด๊ฒƒ์„ ๋นŒ๋ Œ๋„๋ฅดํ”„ ํšจ๊ณผ๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ถ€๋ฆ…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:50
I've taken to calling this the Willendorf effect,
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06:52
and once again we see it reinforced in many aspects of her life.
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๋‹ค์‹œ ๋งํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ, ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์—ฌ์„ฑ์˜ ์‚ถ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ ์š”์†Œ์—์„œ
์ด ํ˜„์ƒ์ด ๋Š˜์–ด๋‚˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๋ณผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:57
Has anyone here ever been visibly pregnant?
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„ ์ค‘ ์ž„์‹ ํ•œ ๊ฒƒ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ๋ณด์ด์‹  ์ ์ด ์žˆ์œผ์‹ ๊ฐ€์š”?
06:59
(Laughter)
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(์›ƒ์Œ)
07:00
Yeah. Lots of you, right?
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๋„ค, ๋งŽ์ด๋“ค ๊ณ„์‹œ์ฃ ?
07:02
So how many of you ever had a stranger touch your belly during pregnancy,
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์ž„์‹  ์ค‘์— ๋ชจ๋ฅด๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์˜ ๋ฐฐ๋ฅผ ๋งŒ์ง„ ์ ์ด ์žˆ์œผ์‹  ๋ถ„?
07:06
maybe without even asking your permission first?
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์•„๋งˆ ๋งŒ์ ธ๋„ ๋˜๋Š”์ง€ ๋ฌผ์–ด๋ณด์ง€๋„ ์•Š์•˜์„ ๊ฑฐ์˜ˆ์š”.
07:09
Or told what you can and cannot eat
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๋˜๋Š” ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ๋จน์„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๊ณผ ๋จน์ง€ ์•Š์•„์•ผ ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•˜์ฃ 
07:12
by somebody who is not your doctor, your medical care provider?
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์˜์‚ฌ๋„, ์˜๋ฃŒ ๊ด€๊ณ„์ž๋„ ์•„๋‹Œ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ๋ง์ด์ฃ .
07:16
Or asked private questions about your birth plan?
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๋˜๋Š” ์ž๋…€๊ณ„ํš ๋“ฑ ๊ฐœ์ธ์ ์ธ ์งˆ๋ฌธ์„ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณค ์™œ ๊ทธ ์„ ํƒ๋“ค์ด ๋ชจ๋‘ ํ‹€๋ ธ๋Š”์ง€ ๋งํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๋“ ๊ฐ€์š”?
07:20
And then told why those choices are all wrong?
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07:23
Yeah, me too.
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๋„ค, ์ €๋„ ๊ฒฝํ—˜ํ–ˆ์–ด์š”.
07:24
Or had a server refuse to bring you a glass of wine?
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๋˜๋Š” ์›จ์ดํ„ฐ๊ฐ€ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์—๊ฒŒ ์™€์ธ ์ œ๊ณต์„ ๊ฑฐ๋ถ€ํ•˜์ฃ ?
์ด ๋ถ€๋ถ„์—์„œ ๋ฉˆ์นซํ•  ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ์ง€๋งŒ, ์ž˜ ๋“ค์–ด๋ณด์„ธ์š”.
07:29
This one might give you pause, I know, but stay with me.
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07:31
This is a huge secret.
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์—ฌ๊ธฐ์—๋Š” ํฐ ๋น„๋ฐ€์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:33
It is actually safe to drink in moderation during pregnancy.
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์‚ฌ์‹ค ์ž„์‹  ์ค‘์˜ ์ ๋‹นํ•œ ์Œ์ฃผ๋Š” ์•ˆ์ „ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:38
Many of us don't know this
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๋งŽ์€ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ์ด ์‚ฌ์‹ค์„ ๋ชจ๋ฆ…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
์™œ๋ƒํ•˜๋ฉด ์˜์‚ฌ๋“ค์€
07:40
because doctors don't trust pregnant women with this secret --
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์ด ๋น„๋ฐ€์„ ์•„๋Š” ์ž„์‹ ํ•œ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์„ ๋ฏฟ์ง€ ์•Š๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์ด์ฃ 
07:43
(Laughter)
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(์›ƒ์Œ)
07:49
especially if she's less educated or a woman of color.
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ํŠนํžˆ ๊ต์œก์„ ๋ฐ›์ง€ ์•Š์•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜, ์œ ์ƒ‰์ธ์ข… ์—ฌ์„ฑ์€์š”.
07:53
What this tells us is,
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์ด๊ฒƒ์ด ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์—๊ฒŒ ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€
07:55
this Willendorf effect, it's also classist and racist.
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๊ทธ ๋นŒ๋ Œ๋„๋ฅดํ”„ ํšจ๊ณผ์ด๋ฉฐ ๋˜ํ•œ ๊ณ„๊ธ‰์ฐจ๋ณ„, ์ธ์ข…์ฐจ๋ณ„์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:59
It's present when the government reminds women
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์ •๋ถ€๋Š” ๋งค๋ฒˆ ์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ๋‚™ํƒœ๋ฐ˜๋Œ€ ๋ฒ•์•ˆ์œผ๋กœ
08:05
with every new anti-choice bill
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์ž๊ถ์ด ์—ฌ์„ฑ ์ž์‹ ์˜ ๊ฒƒ์ด ์•„๋‹˜์„ ์—ฌ์„ฑ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ์ƒ๊ธฐ์‹œํ‚ต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:08
that the contents of her uterus are not her own,
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๋˜๋Š” ์‚ฐ๋ถ€์ธ๊ณผ ์˜์‚ฌ๊ฐ€ ๋งํ•˜๊ธฐ๋ฅผ
08:11
or when an ob-gyn says,
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08:13
"While it's safe to have sex during pregnancy,
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"์ž„์‹ฌ ์ค‘์— ์„น์Šค๋ฅผ ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ์•ˆ์ „ํ•˜๊ธฐ๋Š” ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ
08:15
sometimes you never know.
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๋ฌด์Šจ ์ผ์ด ์ƒ๊ธธ์ง€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์žฅ๋‹ดํ•˜์ง€ ๋ชปํ•ด์š”.
08:16
Better safe than sorry, right?"
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์กฐ์‹ฌํ•˜๋Š”๊ฒŒ ์ข‹์ง€ ์•Š์„๊นŒ์š”?"
08:19
She's denied basic privacy and bodily autonomy
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์—ฌ์„ฑ๋“ค์€ "์ข‹์€ ์—„๋งˆ๊ฐ€ ๋œ๋‹ค"๋Š” ๋ช…๋ชฉ ์•„๋ž˜
08:23
under the guise of "be a good mother."
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๊ธฐ๋ณธ์  ์‚ฌ์ƒํ™œ๊ณผ ์‹ ์ฒด์˜ ์ž์œ ๊ถŒ์„ ๋ถ€์ •๋‹นํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์—ฌ์„ฑ์ด ์Šค์Šค๋กœ ๊ฒฐ์ •ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋ฏฟ์ง€ ์•Š์•„์š”.
08:26
We don't trust her to make her own decisions.
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๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” ๊ท€์—ฌ์›Œ์š”, ๊ธฐ์–ตํ•˜์„ธ์š”?
08:29
She's cute, remember?
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08:33
When we tell women
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์„ ์„ฑ์  ์พŒ๋ฝ์œผ๋กœ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•  ๋•Œ
08:36
that sexual pleasure -- excuse me.
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์ฃ„์†กํ•ด์š”.
์—ฌ์„ฑ์—๊ฒŒ ์ž„์‹  ์ค‘์˜ ์„น์Šค๊ฐ€ ์œ„ํ—˜์„ ๊ฐ์ˆ˜ํ•  ๊ฐ€์น˜๊ฐ€ ์—†๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€
08:39
When we tell women that sex isn't worth the risk during pregnancy,
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08:43
what we're telling her is that her sexual pleasure doesn't matter.
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๊ทธ๋…€์˜ ์„ฑ์  ์พŒ๋ฝ์€ ์ค‘์š”ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๋‹ค๊ณ  ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:48
So what we are telling her is that she in fact doesn't matter,
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์‚ฌ์‹ค ๊ทธ๋…€๊ฐ€ ์ค‘์š”ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:51
even though the needs of her fetus are not at odds with her own needs.
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๋ฑƒ์† ํƒœ์•„ ์š”๊ตฌ๋Š” ๊ทธ๋…€ ์ž์‹ ์˜ ์š”๊ตฌ์™€ ์ƒ์ถฉ๋˜์ง€ ์•Š๋Š”๋ฐ๋„ ๋ง์ด์ฃ .
์˜๋ฃŒ ์ œ๊ณต์ž๋“ค, ์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค๋ฉด ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์‚ฐ๋ถ€์ธ๊ณผํ•™ํšŒ๋Š”
08:57
So medical providers,
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08:59
such as the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists
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์ž„์‹  ์ค‘ ์„น์Šค์˜ ์•ˆ์ „์„ฑ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด
09:02
have the opportunity to educate about the safety of sex during pregnancy.
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๊ต์œกํ•  ๊ธฐํšŒ๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:07
So what do the experts say?
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ๋ฉด ์ „๋ฌธ๊ฐ€๋“ค์€ ๋ญ๋ผ๊ณ  ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ• ๊นŒ์š”?
09:09
ACOG actually has no public official statement
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๋ฏธ๊ตญ์‚ฐ๋ถ€์ธ๊ณผํ•™ํšŒ๋Š” ์‚ฌ์‹ค ์ž„์‹  ์ค‘ ์„น์Šค์˜ ์•ˆ์ „์„ฑ์— ํ•ด์„œ
09:12
about the safety of sex during pregnancy.
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๊ณต์‹์ ์ธ ์ž…์žฅ์„ ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ณ  ์žˆ์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๋ฉ”์ด์š” ์˜๋ฃŒ์›์˜ ์ง€์นจ์€ ๋Œ€๋ถ€๋ถ„ ๊ธ์ •์ ์ด์ง€๋งŒ
09:16
Guidance from the Mayo Clinic is generally positive
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์‚ฌ์ „ ๊ฒฝ๊ณ ์™€ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์‹œ์ž‘๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:19
but presented with a caveat:
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09:21
"Although most women can safely have sex throughout pregnancy,
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"์ž„์‹  ์ค‘ ์„น์Šค๋Š” ๋Œ€๋ถ€๋ถ„์˜ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์—๊ฒŒ ์•ˆ์ „ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ
09:24
sometimes it's best to be cautious."
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์ฃผ์˜๋ฅผ ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋ฐ”๋žŒ์งํ•˜๋‹ค."
09:26
Some women don't want to have sex during pregnancy,
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์–ด๋–ค ์—ฌ์„ฑ๋“ค์€ ์ž„์‹  ์ค‘ ์„น์Šค๋ฅผ ์›์น˜ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๊ทธ๊ฑด ๊ดœ์ฐฎ์•„์š”.
09:30
and that's OK.
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09:31
Some women do want to have sex during pregnancy,
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์–ด๋–ค ์—ฌ์„ฑ๋“ค์€ ์ž„์‹  ์ค‘์— ์„น์Šค๋ฅผ ํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์–ดํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:33
and that's OK, too.
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๊ทธ๊ฒƒ๋„ ์—ญ์‹œ ๊ดœ์ฐฎ์•„์š”.
09:35
What needs to stop is society telling women
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์ค‘์š”ํ•œ ๊ฒƒ์€ ์‚ฌํšŒ๊ฐ€ ์—ฌ์„ฑ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ๊ทธ๋“ค์ด ๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ๋ชธ์œผ๋กœ
09:38
what they can and cannot do with their bodies.
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ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๊ณผ ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์—†๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๋ฉˆ์ถ”๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:41
(Applause)
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(๋ฐ•์ˆ˜)
์ž„์‹ ํ•œ ์—ฌ์„ฑ๋“ค์€ ์Šค์Šค๋กœ ์ž๋ฆฝํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์—†๋Š”
09:48
Pregnant women are not faceless, identity-less vessels of reproduction
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์–ผ๊ตด๊ณผ ์ž์•„ ์—†๋Š” ๋ฒˆ์‹์šฉ ๋„๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:52
who can't stand on their own two feet.
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ๋‚˜ ์‚ฌ์‹ค, ์ง„์งœ ๋น„๋ฐ€์€
09:56
But the truth is, the real secret is,
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09:58
we tell all women that their sexual pleasure doesn't matter.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๋ชจ๋“  ์—ฌ์„ฑ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ
๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ์„ฑ์  ์พŒ๋ฝ์€ ์ค‘์š”ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๋‹ค๊ณ  ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:02
We refuse to even acknowledge that women who have sex with women
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๋™์„ฑ๊ณผ ์„น์Šค๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€์ง€๋Š” ์—ฌ์„ฑ๋“ค
ํ˜น์€ ์•„์ด๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ณ  ์‹ถ์ง€ ์•Š์€ ์—ฌ์„ฑ๋“ค์ด
10:06
or women who don't want children even exist.
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์กด์žฌํ•œ๋‹ค๋Š” ์‚ฌ์‹ค๋„ ์ธ์ •ํ•˜๋ ค๊ณ  ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:08
"Oh, it's just a phase ...
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"๊ทธ๊ฑด ๊ทธ๋ƒฅ ํ•œ ๊ณผ์ •์ผ ๋ฟ์ด์•ผ
10:10
she just needs the right man to come along."
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๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” ํ•จ๊ป˜ ํ•  ์ข‹์€ ๋‚จ์ž๋ฅผ ํ•„์š”๋กœ ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฑฐ์•ผ"
์—ฌ์„ฑ์ด ์„น์Šค๋ฅผ ํ•˜๋Š” ์ด์œ ๋Š” ๊ฐ„๋‹จํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:14
Every time a woman has sex
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10:16
simply because it feels good,
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๊ธฐ๋ถ„์ด ์ข‹๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:18
it is revolutionary.
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์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ํ˜๋ช…์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:20
She is revolutionary.
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๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” ํ˜๋ช…๊ฐ€์ด์ฃ .
10:22
She is pushing back against society's insistence
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๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” ์—ฌ์„ฑ์€ ๋‚จ์„ฑ์˜ ์พŒ๋ฝ ๋˜๋Š” ๋ฒˆ์‹์„ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ๋งŒ
10:25
that she exist simply for men's pleasure
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์กด์žฌํ•œ๋‹ค๋Š” ์‚ฌํšŒ์˜ ์ฃผ์žฅ์— ๋งž์„œ๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:27
or for reproduction.
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10:30
A woman who prioritizes her sexual needs is scary,
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์ž์‹ ์˜ ์„ฑ์  ์š•๊ตฌ๋ฅผ ์šฐ์„ ์ˆœ์œ„๋กœ ๋‘๋Š” ์—ฌ์„ฑ์€ ๋ฌด์„ญ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:34
because a woman who prioritizes her sexual needs prioritizes herself.
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์™œ๋ƒํ•˜๋ฉด ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ๊ทธ๋…€ ์ž์‹ ์„ ์šฐ์„ ์œผ๋กœ ์—ฌ๊ธด๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์˜๋ฏธํ•˜๋‹ˆ๊นŒ์š”.
10:39
(Applause)
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(๋ฐ•์ˆ˜)
10:43
That is a woman demanding that she be treated as an equal.
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๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋™๋“ฑํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋Œ€์šฐ๋ฐ›๊ฒ ๋‹ค๋Š” ์—ฌ์„ฑ์˜ ์š”๊ตฌ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:47
That is a woman who insists
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๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์—๊ฒŒ ๊ถŒ๋ ฅ์˜ ํ…Œ์ด๋ธ”์—์„œ ์ž์‹ ์˜ ์ž๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ๋งŒ๋“ค๋ผ๊ณ 
10:49
that you make room for her at the table of power,
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์š”๊ตฌํ•˜๋Š” ์—ฌ์„ฑ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:52
and that is the most terrifying of all
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋ชจ๋‘๊ฐ€ ๋‘๋ ค์›Œํ•˜๋Š” ์ผ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:54
because we can't make room for her
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์™œ๋ƒํ•˜๋ฉด ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๊ฐ€์ง„ ์—ฌ๋ถ„์˜ ์ž๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ํฌ๊ธฐํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๊ณ ์„œ๋Š”
10:57
without some of us giving up the extra space we hold.
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๊ทธ๋…€์˜ ์ž๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ๋งŒ๋“ค ์ˆ˜ ์—†๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:02
(Applause)
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11:08
I have one last secret for you.
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์„ ์œ„ํ•œ ๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰ ๋น„๋ฐ€ ํ•˜๋‚˜๊ฐ€ ๋” ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:10
I am the mother of two boys
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์ €๋Š” ์•„๋“ค ๋‘˜์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:12
and we could use your help.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์˜ ๋„์›€์ด ํ•„์š”ํ•  ๊ฒƒ ๊ฐ™์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:15
Even though my boys hear me say regularly
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์ •๊ธฐ์ ์œผ๋กœ ์•„์ด๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์„ ๋™๋“ฑํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์ธ์‹ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€
๋‚จ์„ฑ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ์ค‘์š”ํ•˜๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•˜๊ณ 
11:20
that it's important for men to recognize women as equals
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11:23
and they see their father modeling this,
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๋˜ ๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ์•„๋ฒ„์ง€๊ฐ€ ์—ญํ• ๋ชจ๋ธ์ด ๋˜์–ด์ฃผ์ง€๋งŒ
์šฐ๋ฆฌ ๊ฐ€์ •์„ ๋” ๊ฐ•ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๋Š” ์ผ๋“ค์ด ์ „ ์„ธ๊ณ„์—์„œ ์ผ์–ด๋‚˜๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๋ฐ”๋ž๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:26
we need what happens in the world to reinforce what happens in our home.
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11:30
This is not a men's problem or a women's problem.
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์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ๋‚จ์„ฑ ํ˜น์€ ์—ฌ์„ฑ๋งŒ์˜ ๋ฌธ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:33
This is everyone's problem,
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์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ๋ชจ๋‘์˜ ๋ฌธ์ œ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:35
and we all play a role in dismantling systems of inequality.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ ๋ชจ๋‘๊ฐ€ ๋ถˆํ‰๋“ฑ ํ•ด์ฒด ์‹œ์Šคํ…œ์—์„œ ์—ญํ• ์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:40
For starters, we have got to stop telling women
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๊ทธ ์‹œ์ž‘์œผ๋กœ
์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์—ฌ์„ฑ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ๋ชธ์œผ๋กœ ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๊ณผ ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์—†๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„
11:43
what they can and cannot do with their bodies.
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๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๋ฉˆ์ถฐ์•ผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:45
(Applause)
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(๋ฐ•์ˆ˜)
11:50
This includes not treating pregnant women like community property.
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์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ์ž„์‹  ์—ฌ์„ฑ๋“ค์„ ๊ณต๋™์ฒด ์žฌ์‚ฐ์œผ๋กœ ์—ฌ๊ธฐ์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๋„ ํฌํ•จ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๋ชจ๋ฅด๋Š” ์—ฌ์„ฑ์—๊ฒŒ ๋ฐฐ๋ฅผ ๋งŒ์ ธ๋„ ๋˜๋Š”์ง€ ๋ฌป์ง€๋„ ๋งˆ์„ธ์š”.
11:54
If you don't know her, don't even ask to touch her belly.
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11:57
You wouldn't anybody else.
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๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ ๋ชธ์—๋Š” ๊ทธ๋ ‡์ง€ ์•Š์ž–์•„์š”.
11:59
Don't tell her what she can and cannot eat.
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๋จน์–ด์•ผ ํ•  ๊ฒƒ๊ณผ ๋ง์•„์•ผ ํ•  ๊ฒƒ์„ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•˜์ง€ ๋งˆ์„ธ์š”.
12:01
Don't ask her private details about her medical decisions.
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์˜ํ•™์  ๊ฒฐ์ •์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ๊ฐœ์ธ์  ์‚ฌํ•ญ์„ ๋ฌป์ง€ ๋งˆ์„ธ์š”.
12:04
This also includes understanding
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๋˜ํ•œ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ๊ฐœ์ธ์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋‚™ํƒœ์— ๋ฐ˜๋Œ€ํ•œ๋‹ค๊ณ  ํ•˜๋”๋ผ๋„
12:06
that even if you are personally against abortion,
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12:09
you can still fight for a woman's right to choose.
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์—ฌ์ „ํžˆ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์˜ ์„ ํƒํ•  ๊ถŒ๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ์œ„ํ•ด ์‹ธ์šธ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
12:12
When it comes to women's equality, the two need not oppose one another.
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์—ฌ์„ฑ ํ‰๋“ฑ์„ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ๋ผ๋ฉด ๊ทธ ๋‘˜์€ ์„œ๋กœ์˜ ๋ฐ˜๋Œ€ํŽธ์— ์„ค ํ•„์š”๊ฐ€ ์—†์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
12:16
If you're somebody who has sex with women,
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ํ˜น์‹œ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ์—ฌ์„ฑ๊ณผ ์„น์Šค๋ฅผ ํ•œ๋‹ค๋ฉด
12:19
prioritize her pleasure.
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๊ทธ๋…€์˜ ๊ธฐ์จ์„ ์šฐ์„ ์‹œํ•˜์„ธ์š”.
12:20
If you don't know how, ask.
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์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๋Š”์ง€ ๋ชจ๋ฅธ๋‹ค๋ฉด ๋ฌผ์–ด๋ณด์„ธ์š”.
ํ˜น์‹œ ์•„์ด๊ฐ€ ์žˆ๋‹ค๋ฉด
12:24
If you have children --
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12:25
(Laughter)
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(์›ƒ์Œ)
12:27
have conversations about sex as early as possible,
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์„น์Šค์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€๋Šฅํ•œ ํ•œ ๋นจ๋ฆฌ ๊ฐ€์ง€์„ธ์š”.
12:31
because kids don't look up s-e-x in the dictionary anymore.
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์™œ๋ƒํ•˜๋ฉด ์•„์ด๋“ค์€ ๋”์ด์ƒ SEX๋ฅผ ์‚ฌ์ „์—์„œ ์ฐพ์ง€ ์•Š์œผ๋‹ˆ๊นŒ์š”.
12:35
They look it up on the internet.
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๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ์ธํ„ฐ๋„ท์—์„œ ์ฐพ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
12:38
And when you're having those conversations about sex,
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์„น์Šค์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ํ•œ๋‹ค๋ฉด
12:41
don't center them on reproduction only.
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์˜ค์ง ์ƒ์‹์—๋งŒ ์ง‘์ค‘ํ•˜์ง€ ๋งˆ์„ธ์š”.
12:43
People have sex for many reasons,
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์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์€ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ ๊ฐ€์ง€ ์ด์œ ์—์„œ ์„น์Šค๋ฅผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
12:45
some because they want a baby,
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์–ด๋–ค ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์€ ์•„์ด๋ฅผ ์›ํ•ด์„œ ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ
12:47
but most of us have sex because it feels good.
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๋งŽ์€ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์€ ๊ธฐ๋ถ„์ด ์ข‹์œผ๋‹ˆ๊นŒ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
12:50
Admit it.
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์ธ์ •ํ•˜์„ธ์š”.
12:52
And regardless of whether you have children or not,
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ์•„์ด๊ฐ€ ์žˆ๋“  ์—†๋“  ์ƒ๊ด€์—†์ด
12:55
support comprehensive sex education that doesn't shame our teenagers.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ์‹ญ ๋Œ€๋“ค์„ ๋„์™€์ค„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋„๋ก ์ข…ํ•ฉ์  ์„ฑ๊ต์œก์„ ์ง€์ง€ํ•ด์ฃผ์„ธ์š”.
12:59
(Applause)
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(๋ฐ•์ˆ˜)
10๋Œ€๋“ค์˜ ์„ฑ์ ์š•๊ตฌ์™€ ํ–‰๋™์„ ๋ถ€๋„๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ํ•ด์„œ๋Š”
13:08
Nothing positive comes from shaming teens
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13:10
for their sexual desires, behaviors,
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์„ฑ๋ณ‘์ด๋‚˜ ์ž„์‹ ํ…Œ์ŠคํŠธ ๊ฒ€์‚ฌ์—์„œ ์–‘์„ฑ์ด ๋‚˜์˜ค๊ฒŒ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
13:14
other than positive STD and pregnancy tests.
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13:18
Every single day, we are all given the opportunity
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๋งค์ผ ๋ถˆํ‰๋“ฑํ•œ ์ƒํ™ฉ์„ ์—†์•จ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ธฐํšŒ๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€์ง‘๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
13:21
to disrupt patterns of inequality.
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13:24
I think we can all agree that it's worth the trouble to do so.
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์ œ ์ƒ๊ฐ์—๋Š” ์ด๊ฒƒ์ด ์‹ธ์šธ ๋งŒํ•œ ๊ฐ€์น˜๊ฐ€ ์žˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์—
๋ชจ๋‘ ๋™์˜ํ•  ๊ฒƒ ๊ฐ™์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๊ฐ์‚ฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
13:29
Thank you.
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13:30
(Applause)
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(๋ฐ•์ˆ˜)
์ด ์›น์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ ์ •๋ณด

์ด ์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ๋Š” ์˜์–ด ํ•™์Šต์— ์œ ์šฉํ•œ YouTube ๋™์˜์ƒ์„ ์†Œ๊ฐœํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ „ ์„ธ๊ณ„ ์ตœ๊ณ ์˜ ์„ ์ƒ๋‹˜๋“ค์ด ๊ฐ€๋ฅด์น˜๋Š” ์˜์–ด ์ˆ˜์—…์„ ๋ณด๊ฒŒ ๋  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฐ ๋™์˜์ƒ ํŽ˜์ด์ง€์— ํ‘œ์‹œ๋˜๋Š” ์˜์–ด ์ž๋ง‰์„ ๋”๋ธ” ํด๋ฆญํ•˜๋ฉด ๊ทธ๊ณณ์—์„œ ๋™์˜์ƒ์ด ์žฌ์ƒ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋น„๋””์˜ค ์žฌ์ƒ์— ๋งž์ถฐ ์ž๋ง‰์ด ์Šคํฌ๋กค๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜๊ฒฌ์ด๋‚˜ ์š”์ฒญ์ด ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒฝ์šฐ ์ด ๋ฌธ์˜ ์–‘์‹์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜์—ฌ ๋ฌธ์˜ํ•˜์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค.

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