Why you should bring your whole self to work | The Way We Work, a TED series

A leader is steady, firm, decisive, unwavering.

Prevoditelj: Sanda L Recezent: Ivan Stamenković

Never let 'em see you sweat, always have an answer.

[The Way We Work]

My name is Dan, I'm a partner at a global creative consultancy.

Vođa je stabilan, čvrst, odlučan, nepokolebljiv.

But there's another side to me:

Ne dozvoli da vide da se preznojavaš, uvijek imaj odgovor.

Carrie Dragshaw,

the character I created on Instagram.

[Način na koji radimo]

As I thought about my double life, I couldn't help but wonder ...

Zovem se Dan i partner sam u globalnoj tvrtci za kreativno savjetovanje.

When your true self is a little nontraditional,

Ali postoji i moja druga strana:

how much of it can you really bring to the office?

Carrie Dragshaw,

lik kojeg sam stvorio na Instagramu.

For some of us is authenticity off-limits?

Razmišljajući o svom dvostrukom životu, morao sam se zapitati ...

For the first 10 years of my career,

Kada je tvoje pravo ja pomalo netradicionalno,

I thought there was one way to be a leader:

koliki dio sebe možeš zaista prenijeti u ured?

decisive and serious.

But that's not me.

Je li za neke od nas autentičnost izvan dosega?

So I'd put on basically office drag to fit the role:

Prvih 10 godina svoje karijere

I'd talk in a deeper voice, try to hold in my hand motions.

mislio sam da je samo jedan način da se bude vođa:

I'm someone who gets really excited about things,

odlučan i ozbiljan.

so I'd temper that.

Ali to nisam ja.

I had this little voice in my head, telling me,

Zato sam u uredu bio drugačija osoba kako bi se uklopio u ulogu:

"You're too gay, too feminine, too flamboyant."

govorio bih dubljim glasom i pokušavao smanjiti pokrete ruku.

I had one well-intentioned adviser who said,

Ja sam netko tko se jako uzbudi zbog raznih stvari,

"Everyone knows you're gay. And that's great.

pa bih to ublažio.

But you don't need to beat them over the head with it."

Imao sam glasić u glavi koji mi je govorio:

Cut to: me in a tutu, for Halloween 2016.

„Previše si gay, previše ženstven, previše upadljiv.“

Jedna dobronamjerna savjetnica mi je rekla:

I dressed up as my favorite TV show character, Carrie Bradshaw,

„Svi znaju da si gay i to je super.

thinking my friends would get a kick out of it.

Ali ne moraš im to gurati pod nos.“

And then, things got crazy.

Premotajmo film na mene u suknjici na Noć vještica 2016. godine.

The post went viral, and at first it was pure fun.

I started getting these incredible messages from people

Obukao sam se kao moj omiljeni lik iz TV serije, Carrie Bradshaw,

about how happy it made them,

how it encouraged them to be their authentic selves.

misleći da će se moji prijatelji oduševiti.

A onda je krenulo.

And I started to think,

maybe this is the time to tell that little voice in my head to just shut up

Objava je postala viralna i prvo je to bila čista zabava.

Počeo sam dobivati nevjerojatne poruke od ljudi

and let myself be me.

o tome koliko ih je to usrećilo,

But then things got a little too big.

kako ih je potaklo da i sami postanu autentični.

Carrie Dragshaw was everywhere -- In the "New York Post", "US Weekly" --

Počeo sam razmišljati

kako je možda vrijeme da kažem tom glasiću u glavi da jednostavno zašuti

and I got terrified:

"What would my bosses think?

Would my coworkers still respect me as a leader?

i pusti me da budem svoj.

What would my clients think?"

A onda su stvari poprimile prevelike dimenzije.

I thought I was going to have to get a different job.

Carrie Dragshaw je bila posvuda - u "New York Postu", "US Weeklyju" -

But then, something happened, something small.

I got a text from my boss, it wasn't long, it just said,

i bio sam prestravljen:

„Što će pomisliti moji šefovi?

"Wow, Cosmo!"

Hoće li me kolege i dalje poštivati kao vođu?

With a link to an article that had just gone up about me.

Što će moji klijenti pomisliti?“

Pomislio sam da ću morati naći drugi posao.

And it let me put that little, scared voice away

Ali zatim se nešto dogodilo, jedna sitnica.

and just be excited about this whole new world,

Dobio sam kratku poruku od šefa, samo je pisalo:

rather than freaked out.

„Opa, Cosmopolitan!“

That's the power of one person,

sometimes all it takes is one ally to make you feel comfortable.

S linkom na članak o meni koji je upravo bio objavljen.

Zbog toga sam taj uplašeni glasić stavio na stranu

And my coworkers started acting differently.

i jednostavno bio oduševljen ovim novim svijetom,

They became more open, more playful with me,

it was as if knowing this other side of me

umjesto da budem izbezumljen.

To je moć jedne osobe.

gave them permission to be more of themselves as well.

Ponekad je potreban samo jedan saveznik da biste se osjećali ugodno.

I thought that openness and vulnerability

would actually decrease my standing with my team.

Moji kolege su počeli drugačije se ponašati.

Postali su otvoreniji, razigraniji sa mnom,

But it's done the opposite.

kao da im je to što su znali tu moju drugu stranu,

Two years in,

I never could have imagined that this part of me would not just be embraced,

dozvolilo da i sami budu više svoji.

Mislio sam da će otvorenost i ranjivost

but could actually help my career.

zapravo umanjiti moj ugled u timu.

Now, I'm lucky.

I work in New York City,

No, dogodilo se suprotno.

in an office where creativity is valued

Nakon dvije godine na poslu

and I was already pretty established in my career when all of this started.

nisam mogao zamisliti da će ovaj dio mene ne samo biti prihvaćen,

Maybe that's you, maybe it isn't.

već da će zaista pomoći mojoj karijeri.

But all of this has taught me so much

Imam sreće.

about just the importance of bringing your whole self to work.

Radim u New Yorku,

na radnom mjestu gdje se cijeni kreativnost

i već sam bio dovoljno uhodan u karijeri kada je sve to počelo.

And it's really challenged my own misperceptions

about what it takes to be successful.

Možda se možete tu pronaći, a možda ne.

There's no one kind of way to be a leader.

Ali sve ovo me je toliko naučilo

It's about finding your strengths and finding ways to amplify them.

o važnosti unošenja cijelog sebe u poslu.

Before, if a meeting was hard, I'd put on my perfect leader mask.

To je zaista dovelo u pitanje moja pogrešna shvaćanja

toga što je potrebno za uspjeh.

Now, I can say, "Gosh, that was frustrating."

Ne postoji jedinstven način da se bude vođa.

We can talk about challenges and struggles in an open way,

Trebate otkriti svoje jake strane i pronaći načine da ih uvećate.

rather than everybody pretending that they're fine until it's too late.

Prije, ako bi sastanak postao naporan, stavio bih svoju savršenu masku vođe.

Concealing an identity takes work.

Sada mogu reći: „Ovo je stvarno bilo mučno.“

Think of all the wasted energy spent pretending,

Možemo otvoreno razgovarati o problemima i onome što nas muči,

wishing you were someone different.

What's most interesting to me, though, is that in this big study of covering,

umjesto da se svi pretvaraju da su u redu dok ne bude kasno.

Skrivanje identiteta iziskuje napor.

93 percent of those who say they're doing it

also believe their organization values inclusion.

Pomislite na svu tu energiju potrošenu na pretvaranje,

u želji da ste netko drugi.

So clearly, our workplaces and all of our strange inner voices

Ali najzanimljivije mi je što u jednoj velikoj studiji o sakrivanju,

have a long way to go on acceptance.

93% onih koji kažu da to rade,

There's a big difference between adapting and disguising.

vjeruje i da njihova organizacija cijeni uključenost.

And I think I learned that a little late.

Dakle, jasno je da naša radna mjesta i svi naši čudni unutrašnji glasovi

Personally, I'm taking all of this as a call to be the ally

tek trebaju prijeći dug put do prihvaćanja.

who, like my boss did for me,

lets people know that it's OK to open up.

Postoji velika razlika između prilagođavanja i prikrivanja.

If you're gay, or proud of your ethnic background,

Mislim da sam to pomalo kasno spoznao.

or have a disability or are deeply religious,

Ja osobno sve ovo shvaćam kao poziv da budem saveznik

see what it's like being your full self at work.

koji, kao što je moj šef učinio za mene,

You might be pleasantly surprised.

daje ljudima do znanja da je u redu otvoriti se.

Ako ste gay ili ste ponosni na svoju etničku pripadnost,

imate invaliditet ili ste duboko religiozni,

vidite kako je kada ste na poslu sasvim vjerni sebi.

Možda se ugodno iznenadite.