The new American Dream | Courtney Martin

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ูŠุฑุฌู‰ ุงู„ู†ู‚ุฑ ู†ู‚ุฑู‹ุง ู…ุฒุฏูˆุฌู‹ุง ููˆู‚ ุงู„ุชุฑุฌู…ุฉ ุงู„ุฅู†ุฌู„ูŠุฒูŠุฉ ุฃุฏู†ุงู‡ ู„ุชุดุบูŠู„ ุงู„ููŠุฏูŠูˆ.

ุงู„ู…ุชุฑุฌู…: Nawal Sharabati ุงู„ู…ุฏู‚ู‘ู‚: Ayman Mahmoud
00:12
I'm a journalist,
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ุฅู†ู†ูŠ ุตุญุงููŠุฉุŒ
00:14
so I like to look for the untold stories,
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ู„ุฐู„ูƒุŒ ูุฅู†ู†ูŠ ุฃุจุญุซู ุนู† ุงู„ู‚ุตุต ุบูŠุฑ ุงู„ู…ุญูƒูŠุฉุŒ
00:16
the lives that quietly play out under the scream of headlines.
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ุนู† ุญูŠุงุฉ ุงู„ุฐูŠู† ูŠู„ุนุจูˆู† ุจู‡ุฏูˆุก ุชุญุช ุตุฑุฎุฉ ุงู„ุฃู„ู… ู„ู„ุนู†ุงูˆูŠู† ุงู„ุฑุฆูŠุณุฉ.
00:20
I've also been going about the business of putting down roots,
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ูˆูƒู†ุชู ุฃุชุฌู‡ ุฃูŠุถู‹ุง ู†ุญูˆ ุงู„ุนู…ู„ ู„ุงุฎู…ุงุฏ ุงู„ุฌุฐูˆุฑุŒ
00:24
choosing a partner, making babies.
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ูˆุงุฎุชูŠุงุฑ ุงู„ุดุฑูŠูƒ ูˆุตูู†ุน ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„.
00:27
So for the last few years,
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ูุนู„ู‰ ู…ุฏู‰ ุงู„ุณู†ูˆุงุช ุงู„ู‚ู„ูŠู„ุฉ ุงู„ู…ุงุถูŠุฉุŒ
00:29
I've been trying to understand
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ูƒู†ุชู ุฃุญุงูˆู„ู ู…ุนุฑูุฉ
00:30
what constitutes the 21st-century good life,
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ู…ุง ุงู„ุฐูŠ ูŠุดูƒู„ู ุงู„ุญูŠุงุฉ ุงู„ุฌูŠุฏุฉ ู„ู„ู‚ุฑู† ุงู„ูˆุงุญุฏ ูˆุงู„ุนุดุฑูŠู†ุŒ
00:35
both because I'm fascinated by the moral and philosophical implications,
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ู„ุฃู†ู†ูŠ ู…ุบุฑู…ุฉ ุจูƒู„ู ู…ู† ุงู„ุขุซุงุฑ ุงู„ุฃุฎู„ุงู‚ูŠุฉ ูˆุงู„ูู„ุณููŠุฉุŒ
00:39
but also because I'm in desperate need of answers myself.
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ูˆู„ูƒู† ุฃูŠุถู‹ุง ู„ุฃู†ู†ูŠ ููŠ ุญุงุฌุฉ ู…ุงุณุฉ ู„ู…ุนุฑูุฉ ุงู„ุฃุฌูˆุจุฉ ุจู†ูุณูŠ.
00:43
We live in tenuous times.
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ู†ุนูŠุดู ููŠ ุฃุฒู…ู†ุฉ ูˆุงู‡ูŠุฉ ุถุนูŠูุฉ.
00:46
In fact, for the first time in American history,
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ููŠ ุงู„ูˆุงู‚ุนุŒ ูˆู„ุฃูˆู„ ู…ุฑุฉ ููŠ ุชุงุฑูŠุฎ ุฃู…ุฑูŠูƒุง ุŒ
00:49
the majority of parents do not think that their kids will be better off
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ู„ุง ูŠุนุชู‚ุฏ ุงู„ุบุงู„ุจูŠุฉ ุงู„ุนุธู…ู‰ ู…ู† ุงู„ุขุจุงุก ุฃู† ุฃุทูุงู„ู‡ู… ุณูŠูƒูˆู†ูˆุง ุฃูุถู„ ุญุงู„ู‹ุง
00:53
than they were.
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ุฃูƒุซุฑ ู…ู…ุง ูƒุงู†ูˆุง ู‡ู… ุนู„ูŠู‡
00:55
This is true of rich and poor, men and women.
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ูˆู‡ุฐุง ุจู†ุทุจู‚ู ุนู„ู‰ ุงู„ุบู†ูŠ ูˆุงู„ูู‚ูŠุฑุŒ ูˆุงู„ุฑุฌุงู„ ูˆุงู„ู†ุณุงุก.
00:59
Now, some of you might hear this and feel sad.
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ุงู„ุขู†ุŒ ู‚ุฏ ูŠุณู…ุนู ุจุนุถูƒู… ู‡ุฐุง ูˆูŠุดุนุฑู ุจุงู„ุญุฒู†.
01:01
After all, America is deeply invested
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ุจุนุฏ ูƒู„ ุฐู„ูƒุŒ ุงุณุชุซู…ุฑุช ุฃู…ุฑูŠูƒุง ุจุดุฏุฉ
01:04
in this idea of economic transcendence,
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ู…ู† ู‡ุฐู‡ ุงู„ููƒุฑุฉ ู…ู† ุงู„ุชููˆู‚ ุงู„ุงู‚ุชุตุงุฏูŠุŒ
01:07
that every generation kind of leapfrogs the one before it,
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ุจุฃู† ูƒู„ ุฌูŠู„ ุณูŠุชุฌุงูˆุฒ ู†ูˆุนู‹ุง ู…ุง ุงู„ุฌูŠู„ ุงู„ุฐูŠ ุณุจู‚ู‡
01:11
earning more, buying more, being more.
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ุจู…ุฒูŠุฏ ู…ู† ุงู„ูƒุณุจ ูˆุงู„ุดุฑุงุก ูˆุงู„ูˆุฌูˆุฏ.
01:15
We've exported this dream all over the world,
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ู‚ุฏ ุตุฏู‘ุฑู†ุง ู‡ุฐุง ุงู„ุญูู„ู… ุฅู„ู‰ ูƒู„ ุงู„ุนุงู„ู…ุŒ
01:17
so kids in Brazil and China and even Kenya
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ูˆุจุฐู„ูƒ ูˆุฑุซ ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ููŠ ุงู„ุจุฑุงุฒูŠู„ ูˆุงู„ุตูŠู† ูˆุญุชู‰ ูƒูŠู†ูŠุงุŒ
01:20
inherit our insatiable expectation
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ูˆุฑุซูˆุง ุชูˆู‚ุนุงุชู†ุง ุงู„ุฌุดุนุฉ
01:23
for more.
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ู…ู† ุฃุฌู„ ุงู„ู…ุฒูŠุฏ.
01:25
But when I read this historic poll for the first time,
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ู„ูƒู† ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ุฃุทุงู„ุนู ู‡ุฐู‡ ุงู„ุงู†ุชุฎุงุจุงุช ุงู„ุชุงุฑูŠุฎูŠุฉ ู„ุฃูˆู„ ู…ุฑุฉ
01:28
it didn't actually make me feel sad.
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ู„ุง ูŠุฌุนู„ู†ูŠ ููŠ ุงู„ูˆุงู‚ุน ุฃุดุนุฑู ุจุงู„ุญุฒู†
01:30
It felt like a provocation.
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ุฃุดุนุฑู ุจู†ูˆุน ู…ู† ุงู„ุงุณุชูุฒุงุฒ
01:33
"Better off" -- based on whose standards?
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ุชุณุชู†ุฏู ุฌู…ู„ุฉ "ุฃูุถู„ู ุญุงู„ู‹ุง" ู„ู…ุนุงูŠูŠุฑ ู…ูŽู†ู’ุŸ
01:37
Is "better off" finding a secure job
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ู‡ู„ ุชุฌุฏู "ุฃูุถู„ ุญุงู„ู‹ุง" ูˆุธูŠูุฉ ุขู…ู†ุฉ
01:39
that you can count on for the rest of your life?
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ูŠูู…ูƒู†ูƒู… ุงู„ุงุนุชู…ุงุฏ ุนู„ูŠู‡ุง ู„ุจู‚ูŠุฉ ุญูŠุงุชูƒู…ุŸ
01:42
Those are nearly extinct.
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ุฃุตุจุญ ุงู„ุนุซูˆุฑ ุนู„ู‰ ูˆุธูŠูุฉ ู„ุง ูˆุฌูˆุฏ ู„ู‡ุง.
01:43
People move jobs, on average, every 4.7 years,
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ูŠู†ุชู‚ู„ู ุงู„ู†ุงุณ ู„ูˆุธุงุฆู ุฌุฏูŠุฏุฉ ูƒู„ 4.7 ุณู†ุฉ ููŠ ุงู„ู…ุชูˆุณุทุŒ
01:47
and it's estimated that by 2020,
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ูˆุชุดูŠุฑู ุงู„ุชู‚ุฏูŠุฑุงุช ุฃู†ู‡ ูˆุจุญู„ูˆู„ ุนุงู… 2020ุŒ
01:49
nearly half of Americans will be freelancers.
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ุณูŠุนู…ู„ู ู†ุตู ุงู„ุฃู…ุฑูŠูƒูŠูŠู† ุชู‚ุฑูŠุจู‹ุง ู„ุญุณุงุจู‡ู… ุงู„ุฎุงุต.
01:53
OK, so is better off just a number?
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ุญุณู†ู‹ุงุŒ ู‡ู„ "ุฃูุถู„ ุญุงู„ู‹ุง" ู‡ูˆ ู…ุฌุฑุฏ ุฑู‚ู…ุŸ
01:56
Is it about earning as much as you possibly can?
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ู‡ู„ ู‡ูˆ ุงู„ูƒุณุจ ุจู‚ุฏุฑ ู…ุง ุชุณุชุทูŠุนูˆู†ุŸ
02:00
By that singular measurement, we are failing.
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ุจูˆุณุงุทุฉ ู‡ุฐุง ุงู„ู‚ูŠุงุณ ุงู„ุฃูˆุญุฏุŒ ูุฅู†ู†ุง ู†ูุดู„ู.
02:03
Median per capita income has been flat since about 2000,
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ู„ู… ูŠุชุบูŠุฑ ู…ุชูˆุณุท ู†ุตูŠุจ ุงู„ูุฑุฏ ู…ู† ุงู„ุฏุฎู„ ู…ู†ุฐ ุนุงู… 2ุŒ000ุŒ
02:07
adjusted for inflation.
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ู„ูŠุชูƒูŠู ู…ุน ุงู„ุชุถุฎู….
02:10
All right, so is better off getting a big house with a white picket fence?
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ุญุณู†ู‹ุงุŒ ู‡ู„ "ุฃูุถู„ ุญุงู„ู‹ุง" ู‡ูˆ ุงู„ุญุตูˆู„ ุนู„ู‰ ู…ู†ุฒู„ ูƒุจูŠุฑ ู…ุญุงุท ุจุณูˆุฑ ุฎุดุจูŠ ุฃุจูŠุถุŸ
02:14
Less of us are doing that.
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ุฃู‚ู„ ู…ู†ุง ูŠูุนู„ ุฐู„ูƒ.
02:16
Nearly five million people lost their homes in the Great Recession,
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ู„ู‚ุฏ ูู‚ุฏ 5 ู…ู„ุงูŠูŠู† ุดุฎุต ู…ู†ุงุฒู„ู‡ู… ููŠ ูุชุฑุฉ ุงู„ูƒุณุงุฏ ุงู„ูƒุจูŠุฑุŒ
02:20
and even more of us sobered up about the lengths we were willing to go --
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ูˆุฃุฏุฑูƒ ุฃูƒุซุฑ ู…ู† ุฐู„ูƒ ุงู„ุนุฏุฏ ุญูˆู„ ู…ุฏู‰ ุฑุบุจุชู‡ ู„ู„ู‚ูŠุงู… ุจุฐู„ูƒ--
02:24
or be tricked into going, in many predatory cases --
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ุฃูˆ ู‚ุฏ ุชู… ุฎุฏุงุนู‡ ู„ู„ู‚ูŠุงู… ุจุฐู„ูƒ ููŠ ุญุงู„ุงุช ุฌุดุนุฉ ุนุฏูŠุฏุฉ --
02:27
to hold that deed.
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ู„ู„ุชู…ุณูƒ ุจุฐู„ูƒ ุงู„ุนู…ู„.
02:29
Home-ownership rates are at their lowest since 1995.
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ู…ุนุฏู„ุงุช ุชู…ู„ูƒ ุงู„ู…ู†ุงุฒู„ ููŠ ููŠ ุฃุฏู†ู‰ ู…ุณุชูˆูŠุงุชู‡ุง ู…ู†ุฐ ุนุงู… 1995.
02:34
All right, so we're not finding steady employment,
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ุญุณู†ู‹ุงุŒ ู†ุญู†ู ู„ุง ู†ุฌุฏ ูุฑุต ุงู„ุนู…ู„ ุงู„ู…ุณุชู‚ุฑุฉุŒ
02:37
we're not earning as much money,
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ูˆู„ุง ู†ูƒุณุจู ุงู„ูƒุซูŠุฑ ู…ู† ุงู„ู…ุงู„ุŒ
02:39
and we're not living in big fancy houses.
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ูˆู„ุง ู†ุนูŠุด ููŠ ู…ู†ุงุฒู„ ูƒุจูŠุฑุฉ ูุฎู…ุฉ.
02:42
Toll the funeral bells
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ุชู‚ุฑุนู ุงู„ุฃุฌุฑุงุณ ู„ุฅุนู„ุงู† ูˆูุงุฉ
02:44
for everything that made America great.
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ูƒู„ ุดูŠุก ูŠุฌุนู„ู ุฃู…ุฑูŠูƒุง ุจู„ุฏู‹ุง ุนุธูŠู…ู‹ุง.
02:48
But,
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ู„ูƒู†ุŒ
02:49
are those the best measurements of a country's greatness,
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ู‡ู„ ู‡ุฐู‡ ุงู„ุฃู…ูˆุฑ ู‡ูŠ ุฃูุถู„ ุงู„ู‚ูŠุงุณุงุช ู„ุนุธู…ุฉ ุฏูˆู„ุฉ ู…ุงุŒ
02:53
of a life well lived?
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ู„ุญูŠุงุฉ ุทูŠุจุฉ ุงู„ุนูŠุดุŸ
02:55
What I think makes America great is its spirit of reinvention.
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ุฃุนุชู‚ุฏู ุฃู† ู…ุง ูŠุฌุนู„ ุฃู…ุฑูŠูƒุง ุนุธูŠู…ุฉ ู‡ูˆ ุฑูˆุญู‡ุง ููŠ ุชุฌุฏูŠุฏ ุงู„ุงุจุชูƒุงุฑ.
03:00
In the wake of the Great Recession,
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ููŠ ุฃุนู‚ุงุจ ุงู„ูƒุณุงุฏ ุงู„ูƒุจูŠุฑ.
03:01
more and more Americans are redefining what "better off" really means.
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ูŠุนูŠุฏู ุงู„ู…ุฒูŠุฏ ูˆุงู„ู…ุฒูŠุฏ ู…ู† ุงู„ุฃู…ุฑูŠูƒูŠูŠู† ุชุนุฑูŠู ู…ุนู†ู‰ ู…ุงุฐุง ุชุนู†ูŠ "ุฃูุถู„ ุญุงู„ู‹ุง".
03:06
Turns out, it has more to do with community and creativity
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ุงุชุถุญ ุฃู† "ุฃูุถู„ ุญุงู„ู‹ุง" ุชุชุนู„ู‚ ุฃูƒุซุฑ ุจุงู„ู…ุฌุชู…ุน ูˆุงู„ุงุจุฏุงุน
03:10
than dollars and cents.
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ู…ู† ุงู„ุฏูˆู„ุงุฑุงุช ูˆุงู„ุณู†ุชุงุช.
03:12
Now, let me be very clear:
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ุงู„ุขู†ุŒ ุฏุนูˆู†ูŠ ุฃูƒูˆู† ูˆุงุถุญุฉ ุฌุฏู‹ุง:
03:15
the 14.8 percent of Americans living in poverty need money,
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ูŠุญุชุงุฌู 14.8% ู…ู† ุงู„ุฃู…ุฑูŠูƒูŠูŠู† ุงู„ุฐูŠู† ูŠุนูŠุดูˆู† ููŠ ูู‚ุฑ ุฅู„ู‰ ุงู„ู…ุงู„ุŒ
03:20
plain and simple.
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ุจูƒู„ ุจุณุงุทุฉ ูˆูˆุถูˆุญ.
03:22
And all of us need policies that protect us from exploitation
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ูˆู†ุญุชุงุฌู ุฌู…ูŠุนู‹ุง ุฅู„ู‰ ุงู„ุณูŠุงุณุงุช ุงู„ุชูŠ ุชุญู…ูŠู†ุง ู…ู† ุงู„ุงุณุชุบู„ุงู„
03:25
by employers and financial institutions.
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ู…ู† ู‚ุจู„ ุฃุตุญุงุจ ุงู„ุนู…ู„ ูˆุงู„ู…ุคุณุณุงุช ุงู„ู…ุงู„ูŠุฉ.
03:29
Nothing that follows is meant to suggest that the gap between rich and poor
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ูˆู„ุง ุดูŠุก ูŠุชุจุนู ุฐู„ูƒ ู…ู† ุงู„ู…ูุชุฑุถ ุฃู† ูŠู‚ุชุฑุญ ุฃู† ุงู„ูุฌูˆุฉ ุจูŠู† ุงู„ุบู†ูŠ ูˆุงู„ูู‚ูŠุฑ
03:33
is anything but profoundly immoral.
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ู‡ูŠ ุฃูŠ ุดูŠุก ุณูˆู‰ ุฃู†ู‡ุง ุบูŠุฑ ุฃุฎู„ุงู‚ูŠุฉ ุจุดุฏุฉ.
03:38
But,
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ู„ูƒู†ุŒ
03:39
too often we let the conversation stop there.
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ู†ุญู†ู ู†ุณู…ุญู ููŠ ูƒุซูŠุฑู ู…ู† ุงู„ุฃุญูŠุงู† ู„ู„ู†ู‚ุงุด ุฃู† ูŠุชูˆู‚ู ู‡ู†ุงูƒ.
03:42
We talk about poverty as if it were a monolithic experience;
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ู†ุชุญุฏุซู ุนู† ุงู„ูู‚ุฑ ูˆูƒุฃู†ู‡ ุชุฌุฑุจุฉ ู…ุชุฌุงู†ุณุฉ
03:46
about the poor as if they were solely victims.
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ุจุดุฃู† ุงู„ูู‚ุฑุงุก ูˆูƒุฃู†ู‡ู… ู…ุฌุฑุฏ ุถุญุงูŠุง.
03:50
Part of what I've learned in my research and reporting
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ุงู„ุดูŠุก ุงู„ุฐูŠ ุชุนู„ู…ุชู‡ ู…ู† ุจุญุซูŠ ูˆุฅุนุฏุงุฏ ุชู‚ุฑูŠุฑูŠ
03:53
is that the art of living well
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ู‡ูˆ ุฃู† ูู† ุงู„ุนูŠุด ุจุดูƒู„ ุฌูŠุฏ
03:55
is often practiced most masterfully
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ู‡ูˆ ููŠ ุงู„ุบุงู„ุจ ู…ุง ูŠูู…ุงุฑุณ ุจุจุฑุงุนุฉ ุดุฏูŠุฏุฉ
03:58
by the most vulnerable.
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ู…ู† ู‚ุจู„ ุงู„ุฃูƒุซุฑ ุถุนูู‹ุง.
04:02
Now, if necessity is the mother of invention,
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ุงู„ุขู†ุŒ ุฅุฐุง ูƒุงู†ุช ุงู„ุญุงุฌุฉ ุฃู… ุงู„ุงุฎุชุฑุงุนุŒ
04:04
I've come to believe
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ุฃุตุจุญุชู ุฃุนุชู‚ุฏ
04:06
that recession can be the father of consciousness.
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ุฃู†ู‡ ูŠู…ูƒู†ู ู„ู„ูƒุณุงุฏ ุฃู† ูŠูƒูˆู† ุงู„ุฃุจ ู„ู„ูˆุนูŠ ูˆุงู„ุงุฏุฑุงูƒ.
04:10
It confronts us with profound questions,
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ูˆุฃู†ู‡ ูŠูˆุงุฌู‡ู†ุง ุจุฃุณุฆู„ุฉ ุนู…ูŠู‚ุฉุŒ
04:13
questions we might be too lazy or distracted to ask
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ุฃุณุฆู„ุฉ ุฑุจู…ุง ู†ูƒูˆู† ุจุทูŠุฆูŠูŠู† ุฌุฏู‹ุง ุฃูˆ ู…ุชุญูŠุฑูŠู† ููŠ ุทุฑุญู‡ุง
04:16
in times of relative comfort.
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ููŠ ุฃูˆู‚ุงุช ู…ุฑูŠุญุฉ ู†ุณุจูŠู‹ุง.
04:19
How should we work?
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ูƒูŠู ู„ู†ุง ุฃู† ู†ุนู…ู„ุŸ
04:20
How should we live?
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ูˆูƒูŠู ูŠุฌุจู ุนู„ูŠู†ุง ุฃู† ู†ุนูŠุดุŸ
04:22
All of us, whether we realize it or not,
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ุฌู…ูŠุนู†ุงุŒ ุณูˆุงุก ูƒู†ุง ุฃุฏุฑูƒู†ุง ุฐู„ูƒ ุฃูˆ ู„ุงุŒ
04:25
seek answers to these questions,
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ู†ุจุญุซู ุนู† ุฅุฌุงุจุงุช ู„ู‡ุฐู‡ ุงู„ุฃุณุฆู„ุฉุŒ
04:26
with our ancestors kind of whispering in our ears.
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ูƒู†ูˆุน ู…ู† ุฃู† ุฃุณู„ุงูู†ุง ูŠู‡ู…ุณูˆู† ููŠ ุขุฐุงู†ู†ุง.
04:31
My great-grandfather was a drunk in Detroit,
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ูƒุงู† ุฌุฏูŠ ุงู„ูƒุจูŠุฑ ู…ุฏู…ู†ู‹ุง ุนู„ู‰ ุงู„ูƒุญูˆู„ ููŠ ุฏูŠุชุฑูˆูŠุชุŒ
04:35
who sometimes managed to hold down a factory job.
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ุงู„ุฐูŠ ุชู…ูƒู‘ู† ู…ู† ุงู„ุงุณุชู…ุฑุงุฑ ุจูˆุธูŠูุฉ ููŠ ู…ุตู†ุน.
04:38
He had, as unbelievable as it might sound,
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ูƒุงู† ู„ุฏูŠู‡ุŒ ูˆูƒู…ุง ูŠุจุฏูˆ ุฃู†ู‡ ุดูŠุก ู„ุง ูŠุตุฏู‚ุŒ
04:41
21 children,
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21 ุทูู„ู‹ุงุŒ
04:43
with one woman, my great-grandmother,
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ู…ู† ุงู…ุฑุฃุฉ ูˆุงุญุฏุฉุŒ ู‡ูŠ ุฌุฏุชูŠ ุงู„ูƒุจูŠุฑุฉ.
04:45
who died at 47 years old of ovarian cancer.
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ุงู„ุชูŠ ุชูˆููŠุช ููŠ ุนู…ุฑ 47 ุณู†ุฉ ุจุณุจุจ ุณุฑุทุงู† ุงู„ู…ุจุงูŠุถ.
04:49
Now, I'm pregnant with my second child,
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ุงู„ุขู†ุŒ ุฃู†ุง ุญุงู…ู„ ููŠ ุทูู„ูŠ ุงู„ุซุงู†ูŠุŒ
04:51
and I cannot even fathom what she must have gone through.
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ูˆู„ุง ุฃุณุชุทูŠุน ุญุชู‰ ูู‡ู… ู…ุง ุงู„ุฐูŠ ู…ุฑุช ุฌุฏุชูŠ ุงู„ูƒุจูŠุฑุฉ ุจู‡.
04:56
And if you're trying to do the math -- there were six sets of twins.
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ูˆู„ูˆ ุญุงูˆู„ุชู… ุญุณุงุจู‡ุง ุฑูŠุงุถูŠู‹ุง-- ูƒุงู† ู‡ู†ุงูƒ ุณุช ู…ุฌู…ูˆุนุงุช ู…ู† ุงู„ุชูˆุงุฆู….
05:00
So my grandfather, their son,
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ู„ุฐู„ูƒุŒ ูุฃุตุจุญ ุฌุฏูŠุŒ ุงุจู†ู‡ู…ุงุŒ
05:03
became a traveling salesman,
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ุจุงุฆุนู‹ุง ุฑุญุงู„ุงุŒ
05:05
and he lived boom and bust.
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ูˆุนุงุด ูุชุฑุชูŠ ุงู„ุงุฒุฏู‡ุงุฑ ูˆุงู„ูƒุณุงุฏ.
05:06
So my dad grew up answering the door for debt collectors
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ูˆูƒุจุฑ ูˆุงู„ุฏูŠ ูˆู‡ูˆ ูŠุฌูŠุจู ุนู„ู‰ ู…ุญุตู„ู‘ูŠ ุงู„ุฏูŠูˆู†
05:10
and pretending his parents weren't home.
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ูˆูŠุชุธุงู‡ุฑ ุฃู† ูˆุงู„ุฏูŠู‡ ู„ูŠุณุง ููŠ ุงู„ู…ู†ุฒู„.
05:12
He actually took his braces off himself with pliers in the garage,
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ุฅู†ู‡ ููŠ ุงู„ุญู‚ูŠู‚ุฉ ุงู‚ุชู„ุน ุฏุนุงู…ุฉ ุฃุณู†ุงู†ู‡ ุจู†ูุณุฉ ุจูˆุงุณุทุฉ ูƒู…ู‘ุงุดุฉ ููŠ ุงู„ูƒุฑุงุฌุŒ
05:17
when his father admitted he didn't have money
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ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ุงุนุชุฑู ูˆุงู„ุฏู‡ ุฃู†ู‡ ู„ุง ูŠู…ู„ูƒู ุงู„ู…ุงู„
05:19
to go back to the orthodontist.
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ู„ู„ุนูˆุฏุฉ ุฅู„ู‰ ุฃุฎุตุงุฆูŠ ุชู‚ูˆูŠู… ุงู„ุฃุณู†ุงู†.
05:21
So my dad, unsurprisingly,
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ูˆุจุฐู„ูƒ ุฃุตุจุญ ูˆุงู„ุฏูŠุŒ ูˆู‡ุฐุง ู„ุง ูŠุซูŠุฑู ุงู„ุฏู‡ุดุฉุŒ
05:24
became a bankruptcy lawyer.
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ู…ุญุงู…ูŠู‹ุง ู…ูู„ุณู‹ุง.
05:26
Couldn't write this in a novel, right?
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ู„ุง ูŠู…ูƒู†ูƒู… ูƒุชุงุจุฉ ุฐู„ูƒ ููŠ ุฑูˆุงูŠุฉุŒ ุฃู„ูŠุณ ูƒุฐู„ูƒุŸ
05:29
He was obsessed with providing a secure foundation
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ูƒุงู† ู‡ุงุฌุณ ูˆุงู„ุฏูŠ ุงู„ุฃูˆู„ ุชูˆููŠุฑ ู‚ุงุนุฏุฉ ุขู…ู†ุฉ
05:32
for my brother and I.
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ู…ู† ุฃุฌู„ ุฃุฎูŠ ูˆู„ูŠ.
05:34
So I ask these questions by way of a few generations of struggle.
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ู„ุฐู„ูƒุŒ ูุฅู†ู†ูŠ ุฃุทุฑุญู ู‡ุฐู‡ ุงู„ุฃุณุฆู„ุฉ ุจุงู„ู†ูŠุงุจุฉ ุนู† ุนุฏุฉ ุฃุฌูŠุงู„ ู…ู† ุงู„ูƒูุงุญุŒ
05:38
My parents made sure that I grew up on a kind of steady ground
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ุนู…ู„ ูˆุงู„ุฏูŠู‘ ู„ู„ุชุฃูƒุฏ ู„ู†ุดุฃุชูŠ ุนู„ู‰ ู†ูˆุน ู…ู† ุงู„ุฃุฑุถูŠุฉ ุงู„ู…ุณุชู‚ุฑุฉ
05:41
that allows one to question and risk and leap.
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ุงู„ุชูŠ ุชุณู…ุญู ู„ู„ุดุฎุต ุจุงู„ุณุคุงู„ ูˆุงุชุฎุงุฐ ุงู„ู…ุฎุงุทุฑ ูˆุงู„ู…ุถูŠ ู‚ุฏู…ู‹ุง.
05:45
And ironically, and probably sometimes to their frustration,
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ูˆุงู„ู…ูุงุฑู‚ุฉุŒ ูˆุฑุจู…ุง ุฃุญูŠุงู†ู‹ุง ู„ุดุนูˆุฑู‡ู…ุง ุจุงู„ุงุญุจุงุท
05:49
it is their steadfast commitment to security
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ู‡ูˆ ุงู„ุชุฒุงู…ู‡ู…ุง ุงู„ุฑุงุณุฎ ุจุงู„ุฃู…ุงู†
05:52
that allows me to question its value,
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ุงู„ุฐูŠ ุณู…ุญ ู„ูŠ ู„ู…ู†ุงู‚ุดุฉ ู‚ูŠู…ุชู‡
05:55
or at least its value as we've historically defined it
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ุฃูˆ ุนู„ู‰ ุงู„ุฃู‚ู„ ู‚ูŠู…ุชู‡ ูƒู…ุง ุญุฏุฏู†ุงู‡ ุชุงุฑูŠุฎูŠู‹ุง
05:58
in the 21st century.
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ููŠ ุงู„ู‚ุฑู† ุงู„ูˆุงุญุฏ ูˆุงู„ุนุดุฑูŠู†.
06:00
So let's dig into this first question:
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ู„ุฐู„ูƒุŒ ุฏุนูˆู†ุง ู†ุณุจุฑู ุบูˆุฑ ุงู„ุณุคุงู„ ุงู„ุฃูˆู„:
06:03
How should we work?
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ูƒูŠู ูŠุฌุจู ุฃู† ู†ุนู…ู„ุŸ
06:06
We should work like our mothers.
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ูŠุฌุจู ุฃู† ู†ุนู…ู„ ู…ุซู„ ุฃู…ู‡ุงุชู†ุง.
06:09
That's right -- we've spent decades
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ู‡ุฐุง ุตุญูŠุญ-- ู„ู‚ุฏ ุฃู…ุถูŠู†ุง ุนู‚ูˆุฏู‹ุง ู…ู† ุงู„ุฒู…ู†
06:11
trying to fit women into a work world built for company men.
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ู†ุญุงูˆู„ ุงุญุชูˆุงุก ุงู„ู†ุณุงุก ููŠ ุนุงู„ู… ุงู„ุนู…ู„ ุงู„ุฐูŠ ุฎูุตุต ู„ู…ุคุณุณุงุช ุงู„ุฑุฌุงู„.
06:16
And many have done backbends to fit in,
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ูˆูƒูˆู‘ู† ุงู„ุนุฏูŠุฏ ุงู†ุญู†ุงุกุงุช ุธู‡ุฑูŠุฉ ู„ูŠุตู„ุญ ู„ู‡ุงุŒ
06:18
but others have carved a more unconventional path,
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ูˆู„ูƒู† ุดู‚ู‘ ุงู„ุนุฏูŠุฏ ุฃูƒุซุฑ ุทุฑูŠู‚ุฉ ุบูŠุฑ ุบุงุฏูŠุฉุŒ
06:21
creating a patchwork of meaning and money
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ู„ุตู†ุน ุฎู„ูŠุทู‹ุง ู…ู† ุงู„ู…ุนู†ู‰ ูˆุงู„ู…ุงู„
06:23
with enough flexibility to do what they need to do
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ุจู…ุฑูˆู†ุฉ ูƒุงููŠุฉ ู„ู„ู‚ูŠุงู… ุจู…ุง ูŠุชุนูŠู†ู ุนู„ูŠู‡ู† ุนู…ู„ู‡
06:26
for those that they love.
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ู…ู† ุฃุฌู„ ู‡ุคู„ุงุก ุงู„ุฐูŠู† ูŠุญุจูˆู†.
06:28
My mom called it "just making it work."
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ุชุณู…ูŠู‡ุง ูˆุงู„ุฏุชูŠ "ู„ุฌุนู„ู‡ุง ูู‚ุท ุชุนู…ู„".
06:31
Today I hear life coaches call it "a portfolio career."
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ูˆุงู„ูŠูˆู… ุฃุณู…ุนู ู…ุณุชุดุงุฑูŠ ูˆู…ุฏุฑุจูŠ ุงู„ุญูŠุงุฉ ูŠุทู„ู‚ูˆู† ุนู„ูŠู‡ "ุญู‚ูŠุจุฉ ุงู„ู…ู‡ู†ุฉ".
06:35
Whatever you call it,
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ู…ู‡ู…ุง ูƒู†ุชู… ุชุณู…ูˆู†ู‡.
06:37
more and more men are craving these whole, if not harried, lives.
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ูŠุดู‚ู ุงู„ู…ุฒูŠุฏ ูˆุงู„ู…ุฒูŠุฏ ู…ู† ุงู„ุฑุฌุงู„ ู‡ุฐู‡ ุงู„ุนูŠุดุฉ ุงู„ูƒุงู…ู„ุฉุŒ ุฅู† ู„ู… ูŠูƒูˆู†ูˆุง ูŠุบุฒูˆู†ู‡ุงุŒ
06:43
They're waking up to their desire and duty to be present fathers and sons.
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ุฅู†ู‡ู… ูŠุณุชูŠู‚ุธูˆู† ู„ุฑุบุจุชู‡ู… ูˆูˆุงุฌุจู‡ู… ู„ูŠูƒูˆู†ูˆุง ุงู„ุขุจุงุก ูˆุงู„ุฃุจู†ุงุก ุงู„ุญุงู„ูŠูŠู†.
06:48
Now, artist Ann Hamilton has said,
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ุงู„ุขู†ุŒ ู‚ุงู„ุช ูู†ุงู†ุฉ ุงู„ุฃุนู…ุงู„ ุงู„ู…ุฑูƒุจุฉุŒ ุขู† ู‡ุงู…ู„ุชูˆู†ุŒ
06:51
"Labor is a way of knowing."
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"ุงู„ุนู…ู„ ู‡ูˆ ูˆุณูŠู„ุฉ ู„ู„ู…ุนุฑูุฉ."
06:54
Labor is a way of knowing.
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ุงู„ุนู…ู„ ู‡ูˆ ูˆุณูŠู„ุฉ ู„ู„ู…ุนุฑูุฉ.
06:55
In other words, what we work on
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ูˆุจุนุจุงุฑุฉ ุฃุฎุฑู‰ุŒ ู…ุง ู†ุนู…ู„ู ุนู„ูŠู‡
06:57
is what we understand about the world.
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ู‡ูˆ ู…ุง ู†ูู‡ู…ู‡ ุนู† ุงู„ุนุงู„ู….
07:01
If this is true, and I think it is,
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ุฅู† ูƒุงู† ู‡ุฐุง ุตุญูŠุญู‹ุงุŒ ูˆุฃุนุชู‚ุฏู ุฃู†ู‡ ูƒุฐู„ูƒุŒ
07:03
then women who have disproportionately cared for the little ones
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ูุจุงู„ุชุงู„ูŠุŒ ูุงู„ู†ุณุงุก ุงู„ู„ูˆุงุชูŠ ูŠุฑุนูŠู† ุจุดูƒู„ ุบูŠุฑ ู„ุงุฆู‚ ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ุงู„ุตุบุงุฑ
07:06
and the sick ones and the aging ones,
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ูˆู‡ุคู„ุงุก ุงู„ู…ุฑุถู‰ ูˆูƒุจุงุฑ ุงู„ุณู†ุŒ
07:08
have disproportionately benefited
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ู‚ุฏ ุงุณุชูุฏู† ุจุดูƒู„ ุบูŠุฑ ู…ู†ุณุฌู…
07:11
from the most profound kind of knowing there is:
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ู…ู† ุงู„ู†ูˆุน ุงู„ุฃูƒุซุฑ ุนู…ู‚ู‹ุง ู„ู…ุนุฑูุฉ ุฃู† ู‡ู†ุงูƒ:
07:15
knowing the human condition.
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ู…ุนุฑูุฉ ุงู„ุญุงู„ุฉ ุงู„ุฅู†ุณุงู†ูŠุฉ.
07:18
By prioritizing care,
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ูˆุนู† ุทุฑูŠู‚ ุงุนุทุงุก ุงู„ุฃูˆู„ูˆูŠุฉ ู„ู„ุฑุนุงูŠุฉุŒ
07:20
men are, in a sense, staking their claim
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ูุงู„ุฑุฌุงู„ุŒ ุจู…ุนู†ู‰ุŒ ูŠุฎุงุทุฑูˆุง ุจู…ุทุงู„ุจู‡ู…
07:23
to the full range of human existence.
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ุฅู„ู‰ ุญูŠุฒ ุงู„ูˆุฌูˆุฏ ุงู„ุฅู†ุณุงู†ูŠ ุนู„ู‰ ุงุชุณุงุนู‡.
07:27
Now, this means the nine-to-five no longer works for anyone.
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ุงู„ุขู†ุŒ ูŠุนู†ูŠ ู‡ุฐุง ุฃู† ูˆู‚ุช ุงู„ุนู…ู„ ู…ู† (9 ุฅู„ู‰ 5) ู„ู… ุชุนุฏ ุชุนู…ู„ ู„ู„ุฌู…ูŠุน.
07:30
Punch clocks are becoming obsolete, as are career ladders.
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ุฃุตุจุญุช ุณุงุนุงุช ุชุณุฌูŠู„ ูˆู‚ุช ุงู„ุนู…ู„ ุจุงุฆุฏุฉ ูƒู…ุง ุงู„ุณู„ุงู„ู… ุงู„ูˆุธูŠููŠุฉ.
07:33
Whole industries are being born and dying every day.
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ุชูˆู„ุฏู ูˆุชู…ูˆุชู ุตู†ุงุนุงุช ุจุฃูƒู…ู„ู‡ุง ูƒู„ ูŠูˆู….
07:36
It's all nonlinear from here.
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ุฅู†ู‡ุง ุฌู…ูŠุนู‹ุง ู…ุณุงุฑุงุช ูˆุธูŠููŠุฉ ู…ุชู‚ุทุนุฉ ู…ู† ู‡ู†ุง.
07:39
So we need to stop asking kids,
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ู„ุฐู„ูƒุŒ ู†ุญุชุงุฌู ุฃู† ู†ุชูˆู‚ู ู„ุณุคุงู„ ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ุŒ
07:41
"What do you want to be when you grow up?"
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"ู…ุงุฐุง ุชุฑูŠุฏููˆู† ุฃู† ุชูƒูˆู†ูˆุง ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ุชูƒุจุฑูˆุงุŸ"
07:43
and start asking them, "How do you want to be when you grow up?"
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ูˆู†ุจุฏุฃ ููŠ ุณุคุงู„ู‡ู…ุŒ "ูƒูŠู ุชุฑุบุจูˆุง ุฃู† ุชูƒูˆู†ูˆุง ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ุชูƒุจุฑูˆุงุŸ"
07:47
Their work will constantly change.
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ุณูŠุชุบูŠุฑ ุนู…ู„ู‡ู… ุจุงุณุชู…ุฑุงุฑ.
07:49
The common denominator is them.
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ุงู„ู‚ุงุณู… ุงู„ู…ุดุชุฑูƒ ู‡ูˆ ู‡ู….
07:51
So the more they understand their gifts
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ู„ุฐู„ูƒุŒ ูุจู‚ุฏุฑ ุงุฏุฑุงูƒู‡ู… ู„ู…ูˆุงู‡ุจู‡ู…
07:53
and create crews of ideal collaborators,
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ูˆุงู†ุดุงุฆู‡ู… ุญุดุฏ ู…ู† ุงู„ู…ุชุนุงูˆู†ูŠู† ุงู„ู…ุซุงู„ูŠูŠู†ุŒ
07:55
the better off they will be.
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ูุณูŠูƒูˆู†ูˆุง "ุฃูุถู„ ุญุงู„ู‹ุง".
07:58
The challenge ahead is to reinvent the social safety net
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ูุงู„ุชุญุฏูŠ ุงู„ู‚ุงุฏู… ู‡ูˆ ุงุนุงุฏุฉ ุงุจุชูƒุงุฑ ุดุจูƒุฉ ุงู„ุฃู…ุงู† ุงู„ุงุฌุชู…ุงุนูŠ
08:01
to fit this increasingly fragmented economy.
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ู„ุชุชู„ุงุฆู… ู…ุน ุงู„ุงู‚ุชุตุงุฏ ุงู„ู…ุถุนุถุน ุนู„ู‰ ู†ุญูˆู ู…ุชุฒุงูŠุฏ.
08:04
We need portable health benefits.
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ู†ุญู†ู ุจุญุงุฌุฉ ุฅู„ู‰ ุงู„ููˆุงุฆุฏ ุงู„ุตุญูŠุฉ ุงู„ู…ุชู†ู‚ู„ุฉ.
08:06
We need policies that reflect that everyone deserves to be vulnerable
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ู†ุญุชุงุฌู ู„ุณูŠุงุณุงุช ุชุนูƒุณู ุฃู† ูƒู„ ูˆุงุญุฏู ู…ู†ู‘ุง ูŠุณุชุญู‚ ุฃู† ูŠูƒูˆู† ุนุฑุถุฉ ู„ู„ุนุฌุฒุŒ
08:09
or care for vulnerable others,
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ุฃูˆ ูŠุนุชู†ูŠ ุจุนุงุฌุฒูŠู† ุขุฎุฑูŠู†ุŒ
08:11
without becoming destitute.
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ุฏูˆู† ุฃู† ูŠุตุจุญ ู…ูุนุฏู….
08:13
We need to seriously consider a universal basic income.
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ู†ุญุชุงุฌู ู„ู„ู†ุธุฑ ุจุฌุฏูŠุฉ ููŠ ู†ุธุงู… ุงู„ุฏุฎู„ ุงู„ุฃุณุงุณูŠ ุงู„ุนุงู„ู…ูŠ.
08:15
We need to reinvent labor organizing.
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ู†ุญู†ู ู†ุญุชุงุฌู ู„ุงุนุงุฏุฉ ุงุจุชูƒุงุฑ ุชู†ุธูŠู… ุงู„ุนู…ู„.
08:18
The promise of a work world that is structured to actually fit
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ู†ุญุชุงุฌู ู„ุชุนู‡ุฏ ุนุงู„ู… ุงู„ุนู…ู„ ุงู„ุฐูŠ ุจูู†ูŠ ู„ูŠุชู†ุงุณุจ ูุนู„ูŠู‹ุง
08:22
our 21st century values,
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ู…ุน ู‚ูŠู…ู†ุง ููŠ ุงู„ู‚ุฑู† ุงู„ูˆุงุญุฏ ูˆุงู„ุนุดุฑูŠู†ุŒ
08:24
not some archaic idea about bringing home the bacon,
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ูˆู„ูŠุณ ุจุนุถ ุงู„ุฃููƒุงุฑ ุงู„ู‚ุฏูŠู…ุฉ ุญูˆู„ ุฌู„ุจ ู„ุญู… ุงู„ุฎู†ุฒูŠุฑ ุงู„ู…ู‚ุฏุฏ ุฅู„ู‰ ุงู„ุจูŠุช-
08:27
is long overdue --
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ุงู„ุฐูŠ ุทุงู„ ุงู†ุชุธุงุฑู‡--
08:29
just ask your mother.
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ุงุณุฃู„ูˆุง ุฃู…ู‡ุงุชูƒู… ูู‚ุท.
08:31
Now, how about the second question:
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ุงู„ุขู†ุŒ ู…ุงุฐุง ุนู† ุงู„ุณุคุงู„ ุงู„ุซุงู†ูŠ:
08:33
How should we live?
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ูƒูŠู ูŠุฌุจู ุนู„ูŠู†ุง ุฃู† ู†ุนูŠุดุŸ
08:35
We should live
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ูŠุฌุจู ุฃู† ู†ุนูŠุด
08:37
like our immigrant ancestors.
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ู…ุซู„ ุฃุณู„ุงูู†ุง ุงู„ู…ู‡ุงุฌุฑูŠู†.
08:41
When they came to America,
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ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ุญุถุฑูˆุง ุฅู„ู‰ ุฃู…ุฑูŠูƒุง.
08:42
they often shared apartments, survival tactics, child care --
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ุฅู†ู‡ู… ุชู‚ุงุณู…ูˆุง ููŠ ุงู„ุบุงู„ุจ ุงู„ุดู‚ู‚ ูˆูˆุณุงุฆู„ ุงู„ุจู‚ุงุก ุฃุญูŠุงุกุŒ ูˆุงู„ุนู†ุงูŠุฉ ุจุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„--
08:46
always knew how to fill one more belly,
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ุนุฑููˆุง ุฏุงุฆู…ู‹ุง ูƒูŠู ูŠุชู‚ุงุณู…ูˆู† ุงู„ู„ู‚ู…ุฉุŒ
08:48
no matter how small the food available.
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ู…ู‡ู…ุง ูƒุงู†ุช ูƒู…ูŠุฉ ุงู„ุทุนุงู… ุงู„ู…ุชุงุญุฉ ู‚ู„ูŠู„ุฉ.
08:51
But they were told that success meant leaving the village behind
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ูˆู„ูƒู† ู‚ูŠู„ ู„ู‡ู… ุฃู† ุงู„ู†ุฌุงุญ ูŠุนู†ูŠ ุชุฑูƒ ุงู„ู‚ุฑูŠุฉ ูˆุฑุงุกู‡ู…
08:55
and pursuing that iconic symbol of the American Dream,
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ูˆู…ู„ุงุญู‚ุฉ ุงู„ุฑู…ุฒ ุงู„ุงุจุฏุงุนูŠ ู„ู„ุญูู„ู… ุงู„ุฃู…ุฑูŠูƒูŠ.
08:58
the white picket fence.
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ุงู„ุณูŠุงุฌ ุงู„ุฎุดุจูŠ ุงู„ุฃุจูŠุถ.
09:00
And even today, we see a white picket fence
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ูˆุญุชู‰ ุฃู†ู†ุง ุงู„ูŠูˆู… ู†ุฑู‰ ุงู„ุณูŠุงุฌ ุงู„ุฎุดุจูŠ ุงู„ุฃุจูŠุถ
09:02
and we think success, self-possession.
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ูˆู†ููƒุฑ ุจุงู„ู†ุฌุงุญ ูˆุจุงู„ุชู…ู„ูƒ.
09:04
But when you strip away the sentimentality,
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ูˆู„ูƒู† ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ู†ุชุฌุฑุฏู ู…ู† ุงู„ุนุงุทูุฉุŒ
09:07
what it really does is divides us.
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ู…ุง ุงู„ุฐูŠ ูŠุญุฏุซู ุญู‚ุงู‹ ู‡ูˆ ู…ุง ูŠูุฑู‚ู†ุง.
09:10
Many Americans are rejecting the white picket fence
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ูŠุฑูุถู ุงู„ุนุฏูŠุฏ ู…ู† ุงู„ุฃู…ุฑูŠูƒูŠูŠู† ุงู„ุณูŠุงุฌ ุงู„ุฎุดุจูŠ ุงู„ุฃุจูŠุถ
09:12
and the kind of highly privatized life that happened within it,
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ูˆู†ูˆุน ุงู„ุญูŠุงุฉ ุงู„ุฎุงุตุฉ ู„ู„ุบุงูŠุฉ ุงู„ุชูŠ ุชุญุฏุซู ุฏุงุฎู„ู‡ุŒ
09:16
and reclaiming village life,
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ูˆูŠุทุงู„ุจูˆู† ุจุนูˆุฏุฉ ุญูŠุงุฉ ุงู„ุฑูŠูุŒ
09:17
reclaiming interdependence instead.
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ูˆุงุณุชุนุงุฏุฉ ุงู„ุชุฑุงุจุท ุจุฏู„ู‹ุง ู…ู† ุฐู„ูƒ.
09:21
Fifty million of us, for example,
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ู…ุซู„ู‹ุงุŒ ูŠุนูŠุด 50 ู…ู„ูŠูˆู† ุดุฎุต ู…ู†ู‘ุง
09:22
live in intergenerational households.
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ูŠุนูŠุดูˆุง ููŠ ู…ู†ุงุฒู„ ุชุญูˆูŠ ุนุฏุฉ ุฃุฌูŠุงู„.
09:26
This number exploded with the Great Recession,
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ูˆุงุฒุฏุงุฏ ู‡ุฐุง ุงู„ุนุฏุฏ ู…ุน ุงู„ูƒุณุงุฏ ุงู„ูƒุจูŠุฑุŒ
09:28
but it turns out people actually like living this way.
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ู„ูƒู† ุงุชุถุญ ุฃู† ุงู„ู†ุงุณ ุชูุญุจู ุงู„ุนูŠุด ุจู‡ุฐู‡ ุงู„ุทุฑูŠู‚ุฉ ูุนู„ู‹ุงุŒ
09:31
Two-thirds of those who are living with multiple generations under one roof
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ูˆูŠู‚ูˆู„ู ุซู„ุซุง ุฃูˆู„ุฆูƒ ุงู„ุฐูŠู† ูŠุนูŠุดูˆู† ู…ุน ุนุฏุฉ ุฃุฌูŠุงู„ ุชุญุช ุณู‚ูู ูˆุงุญุฏ
09:35
say it's improved their relationships.
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ูŠู‚ูˆู„ูˆู† ุฃู† ุนู„ุงู‚ุงุชู‡ู… ู‚ุฏ ุชุญุณู‘ู†ุช.
09:38
Some people are choosing to share homes not with family,
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ูŠุฎุชุงุฑู ุจุนุถ ุงู„ู†ุงุณ ุชู‚ุงุณู… ุงู„ู…ู†ุงุฒู„ ู„ูŠุณ ู…ุน ุนุงุฆู„ุงุชู‡ู…ุŒ
09:40
but with other people who understand the health and economic benefits
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ู„ูƒู† ู…ุน ุฃู†ุงุณ ุขุฎุฑูŠู† ูŠูู‡ู…ูˆู† ุงู„ููˆุงุฆุฏ ุงู„ุตุญูŠุฉ ูˆุงู„ุงู‚ุชุตุงุฏูŠุฉ
09:44
of daily community.
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ู„ู„ู…ุฌุชู…ุน ูƒู„ ูŠูˆู….
09:46
CoAbode, an online platform for single moms looking to share homes
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ูŠุจุญุซู CoAbodeุŒ ุจุฑู†ุงู…ุฌ ุนู„ู‰ ุงู„ุฅู†ุชุฑู†ุชุŒ ุนู† ุฃู…ู‡ุงุช ุนุงุฒุจุงุช ู„ูŠุชู‚ุงุณู…ู† ุงู„ู…ู†ุงุฒู„
09:49
with other single moms,
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ู…ุน ุฃู…ู‡ุงุช ุนุงุฒุจุงุช ุฃุฎุฑูŠุงุชุŒ
09:51
has 50,000 users.
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ู„ุฏู‰ CoAbode ุฎู…ุณูŠู† ุฃู„ู ู…ุณุชุฎุฏู….
09:53
And people over 65 are especially prone
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ูˆุงู„ุฃุดุฎุงุต ููˆู‚ 65 ุนุงู… ุฎุงุตุฉ ู‡ู… ุนุฑุถุฉ
09:56
to be looking for these alternative living arrangements.
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ู„ู„ุจุญุซ ุนู† ู…ุซู„ ู‡ุฐู‡ ุงู„ุชุฑุชูŠุจุงุช ุงู„ุจุฏูŠู„ุฉ ู„ู„ู…ุนูŠุดุฉ.
10:00
They understand that their quality of life
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ู„ู‚ุฏ ุฃุฏุฑูƒูˆุง ุฃู† ู†ูˆุนูŠุฉ ุญูŠุงุชู‡ู…
10:02
depends on a mix of solitude and solidarity.
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ุชุนุชู…ุฏู ุนู„ู‰ ุฎู„ูŠุท ู…ู† ุงู„ูˆุญุฏุฉ ูˆุงู„ุชุถุงู…ู†.
10:07
Which is true of all of us when you think about it,
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ูˆู‡ุฐุง ุตุญูŠุญ ู„ูƒู„ ูˆุงุญุฏู ู…ู†ุง ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ุชููƒุฑูˆู† ููŠ ุฐู„ูƒ.
10:10
young and old alike.
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ุงู„ุตุบุงุฑ ูˆุงู„ูƒุจุงุฑ ุนู„ู‰ ุญุฏู ุณูˆุงุก.
10:11
For too long, we've pretended that happiness is a king in his castle.
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ู„ูุชุฑุฉ ุทูˆูŠู„ุฉ ู…ู† ุงู„ุฒู…ู†ุŒ ุชุธุงู‡ุฑู†ุง ุฃู† ุงู„ุณุนุงุฏุฉ ู‡ูŠ ุงู„ู…ู„ูƒ ููŠ ู‚ุตุฑุฉ.
10:16
But all the research proves otherwise.
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ูˆู„ูƒู† ุจุฑู‡ู†ู‘ุช ุงู„ุจุญูˆุซ ุนูƒุณ ุฐู„ูƒ.
10:19
It shows that the healthiest, happiest and even safest --
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ุฃุธู‡ุฑุช ุฃู† ุงู„ุฃูƒุซุฑ ุตุญุฉ ูˆุณุนุงุฏุฉ ูˆุญุชู‰ ุฃู…ู†ู‹ุง--
10:22
in terms of both climate change disaster, in terms of crime, all of that --
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ู…ู† ู†ุงุญูŠุฉ ูƒู„ู ู…ู† ูƒุงุฑุซุฉ ุงู„ุชุบูŠุฑ ุงู„ู…ู†ุงุฎูŠ ูˆุงู„ุฌุฑูŠู…ุฉุŒ ูƒู„ ู‡ุคู„ุงุก--
10:28
are Americans who live lives intertwined with their neighbors.
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ู‡ู… ู…ู† ุงู„ุฃู…ุฑูŠูƒูŠูŠู† ุงู„ุฐูŠู† ูŠุนูŠุดูˆู† ุญูŠุงุชู‡ู… ู…ุชุฑุงุจุทุฉ ู…ุน ุฌูŠุฑุงู†ู‡ู….
10:32
Now, I've experienced this firsthand.
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ู„ู‚ุฏ ุฌุฑุจุชู ุฐู„ูƒ ุจู†ูุณูŠ.
10:35
For the last few years, I've been living in a cohousing community.
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ุนู„ู‰ ู…ุฏู‰ ุงู„ุณู†ูˆุงุช ุงู„ู‚ู„ูŠู„ุฉ ุงู„ู…ุงุถูŠุฉุŒ ุฃุนูŠุดู ููŠ ู…ุฌุชู…ุน ูŠุชู‚ุงุณู…ู ู…ู†ุงุฒู„ู‡.
10:38
It's 1.5 acres of persimmon trees,
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ู…ุณุงุญุชู‡ 1.5 ูุฏุงู† ู…ู† ุฃุดุฌุงุฑ ูุงูƒู‡ุฉ ุงู„ูƒุงูƒุงุŒ
10:41
this prolific blackberry bush that snakes around a community garden,
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ูˆุฃุดุฌุงุฑ ุงู„ุนู„ูŠู‚ ุงู„ู…ุซู…ุฑุฉ ุงู„ุชูŠ ุชุฏูˆุฑู ุงู„ุฃูุงุนูŠ ุญูˆู„ ุญุฏูŠู‚ุฉ ุงู„ู…ู„ูƒูŠุฉ ุงู„ู…ุดุชุฑูƒุฉุŒ
10:45
all smack-dab, by the way, in the middle of urban Oakland.
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ูˆุจุงู„ู…ู†ุงุณุจุฉุŒ ุฅู†ู‡ ุชู…ุงู…ู‹ุง ููŠ ูˆุณุท ุฃูˆูƒู„ุงู†ุฏ ุงู„ู…ุชุญุถุฑุฉ.
10:49
The nine units are all built to be different,
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ู‚ุฏ ุชู… ุจู†ุงุก ุชุณุน ูˆุญุฏุงุช ู„ุชูƒูˆู† ู…ุฎุชู„ูุฉุŒ
10:51
different sizes, different shapes,
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ู…ุฎุชู„ูุฉ ุงู„ุฃุญุฌุงู… ูˆุงู„ุฃุดูƒุงู„ุŒ
10:53
but they're meant to be as green as possible.
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ู„ูƒู† ูƒุงู† ู…ู† ุงู„ู…ูุชุฑุถ ุฃู† ุชูƒูˆู† ุฎุถุฑุงุก ู‚ุฏุฑ ุงู„ุงู…ูƒุงู†.
10:55
So big, shiny black solar cells on our roof
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ุชูˆุฌุฏ ุฃู„ูˆุงุญ ุดู…ุณูŠุฉ ุถุฎู…ุฉุŒ ุณูˆุฏุงุก ู„ุงู…ุนุฉ ููˆู‚ ุณุทุญู†ุง
10:57
mean our electricity bill rarely exceeds
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ูŠุนู†ูŠ ุฃู† ูุงุชูˆุฑุฉ ุงู„ูƒู‡ุฑุจุงุก ู†ุงุฏุฑู‹ุง ู…ุง ุชุชุฌุงูˆุฒ
10:59
more than five bucks in a month.
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ุฃูƒุซุฑ ู…ู† ุฎู…ุณุฉ ุฏูˆู„ุงุฑุงุช ุดู‡ุฑูŠู‹ุง.
11:01
The 25 of us who live there are all different ages and political persuasions
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ูˆูŠุนูŠุดู ู‡ู†ุงูƒ 25 ุดุฎุตู‹ุง ู…ู† ู…ุฎุชู„ู ุงู„ุฃุนู…ุงุฑ ูˆุงู„ู…ูŠูˆู„ ุงู„ุณูŠุงุณูŠุฉ
11:05
and professions,
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ูˆุงู„ู…ู‡ู†ุŒ
11:06
and we live in homes that have everything a typical home would have.
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ูˆู†ุนูŠุดู ููŠ ู…ู†ุงุฒู„ ู„ุฏูŠู‡ุง ูƒู„ ุดูŠุก ู…ู…ุง ูŠุญูˆูŠู‡ ุงู„ู…ู†ุฒู„ ุงู„ู†ู…ูˆุฐุฌูŠ.
11:10
But additionally,
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ูˆู„ูƒู† ุจุงู„ุฅุถุงูุฉ ุฅู„ู‰ ุฐู„ูƒุŒ
11:11
we share an industrial-sized kitchen and eating area,
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ู†ุชู‚ุงุณู…ู ู…ุทุจุฎู‹ุง ู…ุฌู‡ุฒู‹ุง ุจุงู„ูˆุณุงุฆู„ ูˆู…ุณุงุญุฉ ู„ุชู†ุงูˆู„ ุงู„ุทุนุงู…ุŒ
11:13
where we have common meals twice a week.
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ุญูŠุซู ู†ุชู†ุงูˆู„ ูˆุฌุจุงุชู†ุง ุงู„ู…ุดุชุฑูƒุฉ ู…ุฑุชูŠู† ุฃุณุจูˆุนูŠู‹ุง.
11:15
Now, people, when I tell them I live like this,
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ุงู„ุขู†ุŒ ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ุฃู‚ูˆู„ู ู„ู„ู†ุงุณ ุฃู†ู†ูŠ ุฃุนูŠุดู ู‡ูƒุฐุงุŒ
11:18
often have one of two extreme reactions.
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ูŠูƒูˆู† ู„ุฏูŠู‡ู… ุฃุญูŠุงู†ู‹ุง ูˆุงุญุฏู‹ุง ู…ู† ุฑุฏูŠู† ู…ุชุทุฑููŠู†
11:20
Either they say, "Why doesn't everyone live like this?"
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ุฅู…ู‘ุง ุฃู† ูŠู‚ูˆู„ูˆุงุŒ "ู„ู…ุงุฐุง ูŠุนูŠุดู ูƒู„ ูˆุงุญุฏ ู‡ูƒุฐุงุŸ"
11:22
Or they say, "That sounds totally horrifying.
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ุฃูˆ ูŠู‚ูˆู„ูˆุงุŒ "ูŠุจุฏูˆ ุฐู„ูƒ ู…ุฑูˆุนู‹ุง ุชู…ุงู…ู‹ุง.
11:25
I would never want to do that."
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ู„ุง ู†ุฑุบุจู ุฅุทู„ุงู‚ู‹ุง ู„ู„ู‚ูŠุงู… ุจุฐู„ูƒ."
11:27
So let me reassure you: there is a sacred respect for privacy among us,
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ุฏุนูˆู†ูŠ ุฃุคูƒุฏ ู„ูƒู… ู…ุฑุฉ ุฃุฎุฑู‰: ูŠูˆุฌุฏ ู‡ู†ุงูƒ ุงู„ุงุญุชุฑุงู… ุงู„ู…ู‚ุฏุณ ุจูŠู†ู†ุงุŒ
11:32
but also a commitment to what we call "radical hospitality" --
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ูˆู„ูƒู† ุฃูŠุถู‹ุง ุงู„ุงู„ุชุฒุงู… ู„ู…ุง ู†ุณู…ูŠู‡ "ุงู„ุถูŠุงูุฉ ุงู„ุฃุตูŠู„ุฉ"--
11:37
not the kind advertised by the Four Seasons,
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ู„ูŠุณุช ู…ู† ุงู„ู†ูˆุน ุงู„ุงุนู„ุงู†ูŠ ู…ู† ู‚ุจู„ ูู†ุงุฏู‚ ุงู„ูุตูˆู„ ุงู„ุฃุฑุจุนุฉุŒ
11:40
but the kind that says that every single person is worthy of kindness,
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ูˆู„ูƒู†ู‡ุง ู…ู† ุงู„ู†ูˆุน ุงู„ุฐูŠ ูŠู‚ูˆู„ ุฃู† ูƒู„ ุดุฎุต ูŠุณุชุญู‚ู ุงู„ุนุทูุŒ
11:46
full stop, end of sentence.
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ูƒู„ุงู… ู†ู‡ุงุฆูŠ.
11:49
The biggest surprise for me of living in a community like this?
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ุงู„ู…ูุงุฌุฃุฉ ุงู„ูƒุจุฑู‰ ุจุงู„ู†ุณุจุฉ ุฅู„ูŠ ู„ู„ุนูŠุด ููŠ ู…ุฌู…ุชุน ู…ู† ู‡ุฐุง ุงู„ู‚ุจูŠู„ุŒ
11:53
You share all the domestic labor -- the repairing, the cooking, the weeding --
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ุฃู†ูƒู… ุชุดุงุฑูƒูˆู† ูƒู„ ุงู„ุฃุนู…ุงู„ ุงู„ู…ู†ุฒู„ูŠุฉ ูƒุงู„ุชุตู„ูŠุญ ูˆุงู„ุทู‡ูŠ ูˆุฅุฒุงู„ุฉ ุงู„ุฃุนุดุงุจ ุงู„ุถุงุฑุฉ --
11:57
but you also share the emotional labor.
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ูˆู„ูƒู† ุฃูŠุถู‹ุง ุชุดุงุฑูƒูˆู† ุงู„ุนู…ู„ ุงู„ุนุงุทููŠ.
11:59
Rather than depending only on the idealized family unit
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ุจุฏู„ู‹ุง ู…ู† ุงู„ุงุนุชู…ุงุฏ ุนู„ู‰ ูˆุญุฏุฉ ุงู„ุนุงุฆู„ุฉ ุงู„ู…ุซุงู„ูŠุฉ ูู‚ุท
12:02
to get all of your emotional needs met,
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ู„ุชู„ุจูŠุฉ ูƒู„ ุงุญุชูŠุงุฌุงุชูƒู… ุงู„ุนุงุทููŠุฉุŒ
12:04
you have two dozen other people that you can go to
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ู„ุฏูŠูƒู… ุงู„ุนุดุฑุงุช ู…ู† ุงู„ู†ุงุณ ูŠู…ูƒู†ูƒู… ุงู„ุฐู‡ุงุจ ุฅู„ูŠู‡ู…
12:06
to talk about a hard day at work
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ู„ู„ุญุฏูŠุซ ุนู† ูŠูˆู… ุนู…ู„ ุดุงู‚
12:08
or troubleshoot how to handle an abusive teacher.
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ุงูˆ ุญู„ ู…ุดูƒู„ุฉ ูƒูŠููŠุฉ ุงู„ุชุนุงู…ู„ ู…ุน ุฃุณุชุงุฐ ู…ุชุนุณู ุงุณุชุจุฏุงุฏูŠ.
12:12
Teenagers in our community will often go to an adult that is not their parent
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ุณูŠุฐู‡ุจู ุงู„ู…ุฑุงู‡ู‚ูˆู† ููŠ ู…ุฌุชู…ุนู†ุง ุฅู„ู‰ ุดุฎุต ุจุงู„ุบ ู„ูŠุณ ุฃุญุฏ ูˆุงู„ุฏูŠู‡
12:17
to ask for advice.
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ู„ุทู„ุจ ุงู„ู†ุตูŠุญุฉ.
12:19
It's what bell hooks called "revolutionary parenting,"
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ู‡ุฐุง ู‡ูˆ ู…ุง ุฃุทู„ู‚ุช ุนู„ูŠู‡ ุงู„ู†ุงุดุทุฉ ุงู„ุฅุฌุชู…ุงุนูŠุฉ "ุจูŠู„ ู‡ูˆูƒุณ" "ุชุฑุจูŠุฉ ุงู„ุฃุจู†ุงุก ุงู„ุซูˆุฑูŠุฉ"ุŒ
12:22
this humble acknowledgment
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ู‡ุฐุง ุงู„ุงุนุชุฑุงู ุงู„ู…ุชูˆุงุถุน
12:24
that kids are healthier when they have a wider range of adults
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ุจุฃู† ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ุงูุถู„ ุตุญูŠู‹ุง ุนู†ุฏู…ุง ูŠูƒูˆู† ู„ุฏูŠู‡ู… ู…ุฌู…ูˆุนุฉ ูˆุงุณุนุฉ ู…ู† ุงู„ูƒุจุงุฑ
12:27
to emulate and count on.
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ู„ู…ุญุงูƒุงุชู‡ู… ูˆุงู„ุงุนุชู…ุงุฏ ุนู„ูŠู‡ู….
12:30
Turns out, adults are healthier, too.
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ุชุจูŠู† ุฃู† ุงู„ูƒุจุงุฑ ู‡ู… ุฃูŠุถู‹ุง ุฃูุถู„ ุตุญูŠุงู‹.
12:33
It's a lot of pressure,
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ูŠูƒู…ู†ู ู‡ู†ุงูƒ ุงู„ูƒุซูŠุฑ ู…ู† ุงู„ุถุบุท
12:35
trying to be that perfect family behind that white picket fence.
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ููŠ ู…ุญุงูˆู„ุฉ ุฃู† ุชูƒูˆู†ูˆุง ุชู„ูƒ ุงู„ุนุงุฆู„ุฉ ุงู„ู…ุซุงู„ูŠุฉ ูˆุฑุงุก ุฐู„ูƒ ุงู„ุณูˆุฑ ุงู„ุฎุดุจูŠ ุงู„ุฃุจูŠุถ.
12:40
The "new better off," as I've come to call it,
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"ุฃูุถู„ ุญุงู„ู‹ุง ุงู„ุญุฏูŠุซุฉ" ูƒู…ุง ุงุณู…ูŠู‡ุงุŒ
12:42
is less about investing in the perfect family
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ู‡ูŠ ุงุณุชุซู…ุงุฑ ุฃู‚ู„ ููŠ ุงู„ุนุงุฆู„ุฉ ุงู„ู…ุซุงู„ูŠุฉ
12:45
and more about investing in the imperfect village,
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ูˆู…ุฒูŠุฏ ู…ู† ุงู„ุฅุณุชุซู…ุงุฑ ููŠ ุงู„ุฑูŠู ุบูŠุฑ ุงู„ู…ูƒุชู…ู„ุŒ
12:49
whether that's relatives living under one roof,
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ุณูˆุงุก ูƒุงู† ู‡ู†ุงูƒ ุฃู‚ุงุฑุจ ูŠุนูŠุดูˆู† ุชุญุช ุณู‚ูู ูˆุงุญุฏ
12:51
a cohousing community like mine,
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ููŠ ู…ุฌุชู…ุน ุงู„ู…ู†ุงุฒู„ ุงู„ู…ุดุชุฑูƒุฉ ู…ุซู„ูŠุŒ
12:53
or just a bunch of neighbors who pledge to really know
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ุฃูˆ ู…ุฌุฑุฏ ู…ุฌู…ูˆุนุฉ ู…ู† ุงู„ุฌูŠุฑุงู† ุงู„ุฐูŠู† ุงู„ุชุฒู…ูˆุง ู„ู…ุนุฑูุฉ
12:56
and look out for one another.
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ูˆุฑุนุงูŠุฉ ุจุนุถู‡ู… ุงู„ุจุนุถ ุญู‚ู‹ุง.
12:58
It's good common sense, right?
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ุฅู†ู‡ ุงู„ุงุญุณุงุณ ุงู„ุณู„ูŠู… ุงู„ุฌูŠุฏุŒ ุฃู„ูŠุณ ูƒุฐู„ูƒุŸ
13:00
And yet, money has often made us dumb
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ูˆุญุชู‰ ุงู„ุขู†ุŒ ู…ุง ุฒุงู„ุช ุงู„ุฃู…ูˆุงู„ ุชุฌุนู„ู†ุง ู…ุบูู„ูŠู† ููŠ ู…ุนุธู… ุงู„ุฃุญูŠุงู†
13:03
about reaching out.
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ุญูˆู„ ุงู„ุชูˆุงุตู„.
13:05
The most reliable wealth
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ุงู„ุซุฑูˆุฉ ุงู„ุฃูƒุซุฑ ู‚ูˆุฉ ูˆูุนุงู„ูŠุฉ
13:07
is found in relationship.
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ู‚ุฏ ูˆูุฌุฏุช ููŠ ุงู„ุนู„ุงู‚ุฉ ุจูŠู† ุงู„ุจุดุฑ.
13:11
The new better off is not an individual prospect at all.
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ูู„ูŠุณ "ุงูุถู„ ุญุงู„ู‹ุง ุงู„ุญุฏูŠุซุฉ" ู‡ูŠ ุงู…ูƒุงู†ูŠุฉ ุงู„ูุฑุฏ ุงุทู„ุงู‚ู‹ุง.
13:15
In fact, if you're a failure or you think you're a failure,
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ููŠ ุงู„ุญู‚ูŠู‚ุฉุŒ ุฅุฐุง ูƒุงู† ุฃุญุฏูƒู… ูุงุดู„ู‹ุง ุงูˆ ูŠุนุชู‚ุฏู ุฃู†ู‡ ูุงุดู„ู‹ุงุŒ
13:18
I've got some good news for you:
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ุนู†ุฏูŠ ุจุนุถ ุงู„ุฃุฎุจุงุฑ ุงู„ุฌูŠุฏุฉ ู…ู† ุฃุฌู„ูƒู…:
13:20
you might be a success by standards you have not yet honored.
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ู‚ุฏ ุชุญู‚ู‚ูˆู† ุงู„ู†ุฌุงุญ ุนู† ุทุฑูŠู‚ ุงู„ู†ู…ุงุฐุฌ ุงู„ุชูŠ ู„ู… ุชุญุชุฑู…ูˆู†ู‡ุง ุจุนุฏ.
13:24
Maybe you're a mediocre earner but a masterful father.
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ู‚ุฏ ุชูƒูˆู†ูˆู† ุฐูˆูŠ ุฏุฎู„ ู…ุชูˆุณุทุŒ ู„ูƒู†ูƒู… ุขุจุงุก ุฑุงุฆุนูˆู†
13:28
Maybe you can't afford your dream home,
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ู‚ุฏ ุชูƒูˆู†ูˆู† ุบูŠุฑ ู‚ุงุฏุฑูŠู† ุนู„ู‰ ุญู„ู… ุชู…ู„ูƒ ู…ู†ุฒู„ุŒ
13:30
but you throw legendary neighborhood parties.
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ู„ูƒู† ูŠู…ูƒู†ูƒู… ุชุฎุทูŠุท ุญูู„ุงุช ุฃุณุทูˆุฑูŠุฉ ู„ุฃุญูŠุงุฆูƒู… ุงู„ุณูƒู†ูŠุฉ.
13:34
If you're a textbook success,
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ุฅุฐุง ูƒุงู† ู†ุฌุงุญูƒู… ู†ุธุฑูŠู‹ุง ูู‚ุทุŒ
13:36
the implications of what I'm saying could be more grim for you.
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ูุงู„ู†ุชุงุฆุฌ ุงู„ู…ุชุฑุชุจุฉ ุนู„ู‰ ู…ุง ุณุฃู‚ูˆู„ู‡ ูŠู…ูƒู† ุฃู† ูŠูƒูˆู† ุฃูƒุซุฑ ุงุญุจุงุทู‹ุง ุจุงู„ู†ุณุจุฉ ุฅู„ูŠูƒู….
13:40
You might be a failure by standards you hold dear
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ุฑุจู…ุง ุชูƒูˆู†ูˆุง ูุงุดู„ูˆู† ู…ู† ู‚ุจู„ ุงู„ู…ุจุงุฏู‰ุก ุงู„ุชูŠ ุชุคู…ู†ูˆู† ุจู‡ุง
13:43
but that the world doesn't reward.
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ู„ูƒู† ู‡ุฐุง ู…ุง ู„ุง ูŠุนุทูŠู‡ ุงู„ุนุงู„ู….
13:46
Only you can know.
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ูŠู…ูƒู†ูƒู… ู…ุนุฑูุฉ ูู‚ุท.
13:49
I know that I am not a tribute
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ุฃุนุฑูู ุฃู†ู†ูŠ ู„ุณุช ู…ู…ุชู†ุฉ
13:52
to my great-grandmother,
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ู„ุฌุฏุชูŠ ุงู„ูƒุจูŠุฑุฉุŒ
13:54
who lived such a short and brutish life,
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ุงู„ุชูŠ ุนุงุดุช ุญูŠุงุฉ ู‚ุตูŠุฑุฉ ูˆู‚ุงุณูŠุฉุŒ
13:56
if I earn enough money to afford every creature comfort.
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ู„ูˆ ูƒู†ุชู ุฃูƒุณุจู ุจู…ุง ูŠูƒููŠ ู…ู† ุงู„ู…ุงู„ ู„ุดุฑุงุก ุฑุงุญุฉ ูƒู„ ู…ุฎู„ูˆู‚.
14:00
You can't buy your way out of suffering or into meaning.
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ู„ุง ูŠู…ูƒู†ูƒู… ุดุฑุงุก ุทุฑูŠู‚ุชูƒู… ู…ู† ุงู„ู…ุนุงู†ุงุฉ ุฃูˆ ุงู„ุฃู‡ู…ูŠุฉ.
14:03
There is no home big enough
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ู„ุง ูŠูˆุฌุฏ ู…ู†ุฒู„ ูƒุจูŠุฑ ุจู…ุง ููŠู‡ ุงู„ูƒูุงูŠุฉ
14:05
to erase the pain that she must have endured.
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ู„ู…ุญูˆ ุงู„ุฃู„ู… ุงู„ุฐูŠ ูƒุงู† ุนู„ู‰ ุฌุฏุชูŠ ุงู„ูƒุจูŠุฑุฉ ุชุญู…ู„ู‡.
14:09
I am a tribute to her
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ุฃู†ุง ู…ู…ุชู†ุฉ ู„ู‡ุง
14:10
if I live a life as connected and courageous as possible.
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ุฅุฐุง ุนุดุชู ุญูŠุงุฉ ู…ุชูˆุงุตู„ุฉ ูˆุดุฌุงุนุฉ ู‚ุฏุฑ ุงู„ุฅู…ูƒุงู†.
14:16
In the midst of such widespread uncertainty,
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ููŠ ูˆุณุท ู…ุซู„ ุนุฏู… ุงู„ูŠู‚ูŠู† ุงู„ุณุงุฆุฏ ุนู„ู‰ ู†ุทุงู‚ ูˆุงุณุนุŒ
14:19
we may, in fact, be insecure.
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ู‚ุฏ ู†ูƒูˆู† ุบูŠุฑ ุขู…ู†ูŠู† ููŠ ุงู„ูˆุงู‚ุน
14:22
But we can let that insecurity make us brittle
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ู„ูƒู† ูŠู…ูƒู†ู†ุง ุงู„ุณู…ุงุญ ู„ุนุฏู… ุงู„ุฃู…ุงู† ู„ุฌุนู„ู†ุง ุถุนุงู
14:25
or supple.
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ุงูˆ ู…ุทูˆุงุนูŠู†.
14:26
We can turn inward, lose faith in the power of institutions to change --
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ูŠู…ูƒู†ู ู„ู†ุง ุฃู† ู†ุชู‚ูˆู‚ุน ูˆู†ูู‚ุฏ ุงู„ุซู‚ุฉ ููŠ ู‚ูˆุฉ ุงู„ู…ุคุณุณุงุช ู„ุงุญุฏุงุซ ุงู„ุชุบูŠูŠุฑ--
14:31
even lose faith in ourselves.
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ูˆุญุชู‰ ูู‚ุฏุงู† ุงู„ุซู‚ุฉ ููŠ ุฃู†ูุณู†ุง.
14:34
Or we can turn outward,
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ุฃูˆ ูŠู…ูƒู†ู†ุง ุงู„ุฅู†ูุชุงุญุŒ
14:36
cultivate faith in our ability to reach out, to connect, to create.
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ูˆุตู‚ู„ ุงูŠู…ุงู†ู†ุง ูˆุซู‚ุชู†ุง ููŠ ู‚ุฏุฑุชู†ุง ุนู„ู‰ ุงู„ูˆุตูˆู„ ูˆุงู„ุชูˆุงุตู„ ูˆุงู„ุงุจุฏุงุน.
14:43
Turns out, the biggest danger
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ุงุชุถุญ ุฃู† ุงู„ุฎุทุฑ ุงู„ุฃูƒุจุฑ
14:46
is not failing to achieve the American Dream.
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ู‡ูˆ ู„ูŠุณ ุงู„ูุดู„ ููŠ ุชุญู‚ูŠู‚ ุงู„ุญู„ู… ุงู„ุฃู…ุฑูŠูƒูŠ.
14:49
The biggest danger is achieving a dream
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ุงู„ุฎุทุฑ ุงู„ุฃูƒุจุฑ ู‡ูˆ ุชุญู‚ูŠู‚ ุงู„ุญู„ู…
14:52
that you don't actually believe in.
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ุงู„ุฐูŠ ู„ุง ุชุคู…ู†ูˆู† ููŠู‡ ุญู‚ูŠู‚ุฉู‹.
14:55
So don't do that.
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ู„ู‡ุฐุงุŒ ู„ุง ุชูุนู„ูˆุง ุฐู„ูƒ.
14:57
Do the harder, more interesting thing,
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ุงูุนู„ูˆุง ุงู„ุดูŠุก ุงู„ุฃุตุนุจ ูˆุงู„ุฃูƒุซุฑ ุงุซุงุฑุฉ ู„ู„ุงู‡ุชู…ุงู…
14:59
which is to compose a life where what you do every single day,
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ุงู„ุฐูŠ ูŠุดูƒู„ ุงู„ุญูŠุงุฉ ุญูŠุซ ู…ุง ุชูุนู„ูˆู†ู‡ ูƒู„ ูŠูˆู…ุŒ
15:03
the people you give your best love and ingenuity and energy to,
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ูŠุนุทูŠ ุฃูุถู„ ุงู„ุญุจ ูˆุงู„ุงุจุฏุงุน ูˆุงู„ุทุงู‚ุฉ ู„ู„ู†ุงุณ ุงู„ุฐูŠู† ุชุชุนุงู…ู„ูˆู† ู…ุนู‡ู…ุŒ
15:07
aligns as closely as possible with what you believe.
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ูˆุงู„ุฐูŠ ูŠุชู…ุงุดู‰ ู‚ุฏุฑ ุงู„ุฅู…ูƒุงู† ู…ุน ู…ุง ุชุคู…ู†ูˆู† ุจู‡.
15:11
That, not something as mundane as making money,
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ู‡ุฐุงุŒ ูˆู„ูŠุณ ุงู„ุดูŠุก ุงู„ุฏู†ูŠูˆูŠ ู„ูƒุณุจ ุงู„ู…ุงู„ุŒ
15:14
is a tribute to your ancestors.
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ู‡ูˆ ุชูƒุฑูŠู… ู„ุขุจุงุฆูƒู… ูˆุฃุณู„ุงููƒู….
15:16
That is the beautiful struggle.
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ู‡ุฐุง ู‡ูˆ ุงู„ูƒูุงุญ ุงู„ุฌู…ูŠู„.
15:20
Thank you.
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ุดูƒุฑู‹ุง ู„ูƒู…
15:22
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ุญูˆู„ ู‡ุฐุง ุงู„ู…ูˆู‚ุน

ุณูŠู‚ุฏู… ู„ูƒ ู‡ุฐุง ุงู„ู…ูˆู‚ุน ู…ู‚ุงุทุน ููŠุฏูŠูˆ YouTube ุงู„ู…ููŠุฏุฉ ู„ุชุนู„ู… ุงู„ู„ุบุฉ ุงู„ุฅู†ุฌู„ูŠุฒูŠุฉ. ุณุชุฑู‰ ุฏุฑูˆุณ ุงู„ู„ุบุฉ ุงู„ุฅู†ุฌู„ูŠุฒูŠุฉ ุงู„ุชูŠ ูŠุชู… ุชุฏุฑูŠุณู‡ุง ู…ู† ู‚ุจู„ ู…ุฏุฑุณูŠู† ู…ู† ุงู„ุฏุฑุฌุฉ ุงู„ุฃูˆู„ู‰ ู…ู† ุฌู…ูŠุน ุฃู†ุญุงุก ุงู„ุนุงู„ู…. ุงู†ู‚ุฑ ู†ู‚ุฑู‹ุง ู…ุฒุฏูˆุฌู‹ุง ููˆู‚ ุงู„ุชุฑุฌู…ุฉ ุงู„ุฅู†ุฌู„ูŠุฒูŠุฉ ุงู„ู…ุนุฑูˆุถุฉ ุนู„ู‰ ูƒู„ ุตูุญุฉ ููŠุฏูŠูˆ ู„ุชุดุบูŠู„ ุงู„ููŠุฏูŠูˆ ู…ู† ู‡ู†ุงูƒ. ูŠุชู… ุชู…ุฑูŠุฑ ุงู„ุชุฑุฌู…ุงุช ุจุงู„ุชุฒุงู…ู† ู…ุน ุชุดุบูŠู„ ุงู„ููŠุฏูŠูˆ. ุฅุฐุง ูƒุงู† ู„ุฏูŠูƒ ุฃูŠ ุชุนู„ูŠู‚ุงุช ุฃูˆ ุทู„ุจุงุช ุŒ ูŠุฑุฌู‰ ุงู„ุงุชุตุงู„ ุจู†ุง ุจุงุณุชุฎุฏุงู… ู†ู…ูˆุฐุฌ ุงู„ุงุชุตุงู„ ู‡ุฐุง.

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