An Olympic Champion's Mindset for Overcoming Fear | Allyson Felix | TED

Prevodilac: Teodora Bisenic Lektor: Milenka Okuka

One of the scariest moments of my career

Jedan od najstrašnijih momenata u mojoj karijeri

started on a dark October morning in 2018.

počeo je mračnog oktobarskog jutra 2018.

I’m a professional athlete, and my training schedule can be a lot.

Ja sam profesionalna sportistkinja, i moj plan treninga ume da bude prenaporan.

Six days a week, five hours a day.

Šest dana u nedelji, pet sati dnevno.

It's intense.

Žestoko je.

Still, I never train that early.

Ipak, nikad ne treniram baš rano.

But on this day,

Ali tog dana,

a special type of fear brought me out at 4am before the sun.

posebna vrsta straha izmamila me je napolje u četiri ujutro pre sunca.

A fear that someone might discover a secret I'd been keeping.

Strah da bi neko mogao otkriti tajnu koju sam krila.

I was six months pregnant.

Bila sam u šestom mesecu trudnoće.

I was pregnant, and I was scared enough to train in the dark

Bila sam trudna, i plašila sam se taman toliko da treniram u mraku

so that no one would see the life that was growing inside of me.

kako niko ne bi video život koji je rastao u meni.

I feared that if a fan or someone posted a photo,

Plašila sam se da ako bi fan ili neko okačio sliku,

that my sponsor would immediately change their mind

da bi se moj sponzor smesta predomislio

about wanting to work with me.

u vezi sa saradnjom sa mnom.

I feared that I would be forced to choose between motherhood

Plašila sam se da bih bila primorana da biram između majčinstva

and being a competitive athlete.

i profesionalnog bavljenja sportom.

I feared that the career I worked so hard to build

Plašila sam se da bi karijera koju sam se toliko trudila da izgradim

would disappear just like that.

nestala tek tako.

You think I'm exaggerating, right?

Mislite da preterujem, zar ne?

How could a six-time Olympic champion, a 16-time world champion,

Kako bi šestostruka olimpijska šampionka i šesnaestostruka svetska šampionka,

a world record holder,

svetska rekorderka,

possibly think that her career might be over by doing something

uopšte mogla da pomisli da joj karijera može biti gotova jer će učiniti nešto

as natural as having a baby?

prirodno poput rađanja bebe?

Well, I'm not exaggerating.

Pa, ne preterujem.

Getting pregnant in track and field has been called the “kiss of death.”

Ostati u drugom stanju u sprintu je poznato kao „poljubac smrti”.

And it comes with a lot of fear,

I dolazi sa mnogo straha,

just like for women in many professions.

baš kao i za žene u mnogim profesijama.

I have been watching women that I respect

Gledala sam žene koje poštujem

and teammates of mine hide pregnancies

i koleginice iz tima kako kriju trudnoće

since I was 19 years old.

od kad sam imala 19 godina.

I've seen women have to make gut-wrenching decisions

Videla sam kako žene moraju da donose bolne odluke

like deciding whether to recover their health

poput odlučivanja da li da se oporave

or return to the sport.

ili da se vrate sportu.

Deciding whether to stay in the hospital with a sick child or go to a race

Odlučivanja da li da ostanu u bolnici sa bolesnim detetom ili odu na trku

so that they don't receive a further pay reduction.

kako im ne bi dodatno smanjili platu.

I know what some of you might be thinking.

Znam šta neki od vas možda misle.

We all choose to get pregnant, right?

Svi mi biramo da ostanemo u drugom stanju, zar ne?

If a sponsor doesn't want to pay an athlete

Ako sponzor ne želi da plati sportistu

who's not out on the track winning,

koji nije na stazi i pobeđuje,

that's just part of the deal, right?

to je samo deo dogovora, zar ne?

Well, I think the deal's rigged.

Pa, ja mislim da je dogovor namešten.

I think that companies want to have it both ways.

Mislim da kompanije žele i jedno i drugo.

And I think it's time we change.

I mislim da je vreme za promenu.

Sports companies love to tell women that they can have it all.

Sportske kompanije obožavaju da govore ženama da mogu da imaju sve.

They can do it all, they can be it all.

Mogu da rade sve, mogu da budu sve.

We've all seen those inspirational ads.

Svi smo videli one inspirativne reklame.

I remember meeting with Nike leadership in 2010,

Sećam se da sam se sastala sa glavešinama Najkija 2010,

and they told me about an initiative they sponsored called the Girl Effect.

i rekli su mi za inicijativu koju su sponzorisali zvanu Efekat devojke.

They promoted adolescent girls as the key to improving societies

Promovisali su adolescentkinje kao ključ za poboljšanje društava

around the globe.

širom planete.

They said they believed in women and girls.

Rekli su da veruju u žene i devojke.

And if I joined Nike,

I ako bih se priključila Najkiju,

I could empower them.

mogla bih da ih osnažim.

And I believed that.

I poverovala sam u to.

But guess what?

Međutim, pogodite šta?

Girls come from somewhere.

Devojke dolaze odnekud.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

And women having babies during childrearing years

I to da žene rađaju decu tokom reproduktivnog perioda

is something that should be celebrated, not punished.

je nešto što bi trebalo slaviti, ne kažnjavati.

It should be a part of a normal, thriving, professional, athletic career.

Trebalo bi da bude deo normalne, uspešne, profesionalne, sportske karijere.

And women in all fields should never feel the need

I žene na svim poljima ne bi trebalo nikad da osete potrebu

to hide a pregnancy, at 4am, in the dark,

da kriju trudnoću, u četiri ujutro, u mraku,

so that they won't be photographed doing that thing that they love.

kako ne bi bile uslikane radeći to što vole.

Thank you.

Hvala vam.

(Applause)

(Aplauz)

Remember how scared I told you I was when I was on the track that day?

Sećate se koliko sam vam rekla da sam bila uplašena kad sam bila na stazi tog dana?

My mind was racing with the consequences of my decision to start a family.

Um mi je bio ispunjen posledicama moje odluke da osnujem porodicu.

I had already been going through

Već sam prolazila kroz

a difficult renegotiation period with Nike,

težak pregovarački period sa Najkijem,

and they were already offering me 70 percent less

i već su mi nudili 70 procenata manje

than what I had previously been making.

od onog što sam ranije zarađivala.

And that was even before they knew about the baby.

A to je bilo još pre nego što su znali za bebu.

Don't even get me started with the ageism

Da ne počinjem sa starosnom diskriminacijom

that is embedded in the capitalist dream.

koja je čvrsto usađena u kapitalistički san.

So when I told them about my pregnancy,

Tako da, kada sam im rekla za svoju trudnoću,

I asked for a clause in the contract

tražila sam klauzulu u ugovoru

that specified they wouldn't reduce my pay

u kojoj bi bilo naznačeno da mi neće smanjiti platu

within 12 months of giving birth.

narednih 12 meseci od porođaja.

They said yes.

Rekli su „da”.

But -- you knew there was going to be a "but", right?

Ali - znali ste da će biti „ali”, je l’ da?

But it was only a yes for me.

Ali, bilo je to „da” samo za mene.

They weren't ready to offer that same protection for all female athletes.

Nisu bili spremni da ponude istu zaštitu za sve sportistkinje.

They weren't ready to set the precedent.

Nisu bili spremni da postave presedan.

A couple of days later, my agent called me.

Nekoliko dana kasnije, pozvao me je moj agent.

Nike wanted to use me in a commercial for the Women's World Cup.

Iz Najkija su želeli mene u reklami za Svetsko prvenstvo za žene.

I couldn't believe it.

Nisam mogla da verujem.

Nike wanted to use me to tell women and girls

Iz Najkija su želeli da kažem ženama i devojkama

that they could do anything,

kako mogu sve,

even though the contract before me said the exact opposite.

iako je ugovor preda mnom rekao upravo suprotno.

I knew what I had to do.

Znala sam šta moram da uradim.

I knew I had to leave.

Znala sam da moram da odem.

I knew I was afraid,

Znala sam da sam se plašila,

but I did it anyways.

ali ipak sam to uradila.

I wrote an op-ed in "The New York Times"

Napisala sam kolumnu u Njujork tajmsu

calling out Nike's maternity policy,

prozivajući politiku zaštite materinstva kompanije Najki,

and I wasn't the only one.

i nisam bila jedina.

(Applause)

(Aplauz)

My teammates and I, we helped turn the tide.

Kolege iz tima i ja, pomogli smo da se stvari preokrenu.

Now, Nike offers eighteen months maternity protection

Sada, Najki nudi osamnaest meseci materinske zaštite

and other sponsors --

a drugi sponzori -

(Applause)

(Aplauz)

And other sponsors like Altra, Nuun, Brooks and Burton,

A drugi sponzori poput kompanija Altra, Nun, Bruks i Barton,

they came forward and they announced their new guarantees for female athletes

istupili su i objavili svoje nove garancije za sportistkinje

who start families while being sponsored.

koje osnuju porodice tokom perioda trajanja sponzorstva.

Too late for me,

Prekasno za mene,

but amazing for the women coming up now.

ali sjajno za žene koje sad dolaze.

I didn't resign with Nike, and I'm here to tell the tale.

Nisam dala otkaz kod Najkija, i ovde sam da bih ispričala priču.

But more than that,

Međutim, više od toga,

I'm here to tell you that you can do it, too.

ovde sam da bih vam rekla da i vi to možete.

Once you find the courage to believe in yourself,

Kada jednom smognete snage da verujete u sebe,

your own worth, your own values,

u svoju vrednost, svoje vrednosti,

it gets easier.

postane lakše.

It's when you take a stand

Kada zauzmete stav,

that you start to understand how to overcome that fear

tada počinjete da shvatate kako prevazići taj strah

and how to make a change for yourself and sometimes for others.

i kako promeniti stvari za sebe, a nekad i za druge.

I went on to find a new sponsor

Posle sam našla drugog sponzora

in the female-led, female-focused Athleta,

u kompaniji Atleta koju vode žene za žene

and they helped me --

i pomogli su mi -

(Applause)

(Aplauz)

And they helped me challenge

I pomogli su mi da osporim

the International Olympic Committee's childcare policy.

politiku brige o deci Međunarodnog olimpijskog komiteta.

Together, we raised 200,000 dollars

Zajedno, skupili smo 200 000 dolara

for female athletes to be able to afford childcare when they go to races.

za sportistkinje kako bi mogle da priušte brigu o deci kada odu na trke.

Because women have babies,

Zato što žene imaju decu,

and these children don't disappear when the races begin.

a ova deca ne nestaju kada počnu trke.

I made it back to the Olympics two years after giving birth.

Vratila sam se na Olimpijske igre dve godine nakon porođaja.

I won a gold and a bronze.

Osvojila sam zlato i bronzu.

(Applause and cheers)

(Aplauz i navijanje)

And I became the most decorated American track and field athlete of all time.

I postala sam najodlikovaniji američki sprinter svih vremena.

All while my daughter was watching.

Dok je sve vreme moja ćerka gledala.

Audience: Aww.

Publika: Aaa.

AF: I was running for so much more than for medals

AF: Trčala sam za mnogo više nego za medalje

or for a time on the track.

ili za vreme na stazi.

I was running as a representation for women and for mothers

Trčala sam kao predstavnik žena i majki

and for anybody who had been told that their story was over.

kao i bilo koga kome je rečeno da je njihova priča završena.

I remember crossing that line in Tokyo and having such a sense of fulfillment.

Sećam se da sam prešla tu liniju u Tokiju i osetila takvo ispunjenje.

I looked down at my feet

Pogledala sam dole u stopala

and for the first time in my entire career,

i prvi put u svojoj karijeri

I wasn't wearing Adidas,

nisam nosila Adidas,

I wasn't wearing Nike.

nisam nosila Najki,

I was wearing Saysh,

nosila sam Sejš,

the women's footwear brand that I founded,

žensku marku obuće koju sam osnovala,

designed for and by women,

dizajniranu za žene i od strane žena,

when I was left without a footwear sponsor.

kada sam ostala bez sponzora za obuću.

Because I was tired of not being valued or able to show up fully as myself.

Jer sam bila umorna od toga da me ne cene ili da ne mogu da se potpuno predstavim.

I learned that my voice has power,

Naučila sam da moj glas ima moć,

and when I bet on myself, change is possible.

i kada se kladim na sebe, promena je moguća.

During the pandemic,

Tokom pandemije,

we all saw what happens when that thin line

svi smo videli šta se dešava kada se ta tanka linija

between our professional and personal lives permanently blurs.

između naših poslovnih i ličnih života trajno zamagli.

We have seen women step back, give up, drop out,

Videli smo žene kako uzmiču, dižu ruke, odustaju,

as having it all became doing it all,

kao da je imati sve postalo raditi sve,

and doing it all became impossible.

a raditi sve postalo nemoguće.

We have got to stop forcing people to choose between parenting

Moramo prestati da primoravamo ljude da biraju između roditeljstva

and doing the work that they love.

i bavljanja poslom koji vole.

And we've got to stop pretending that we're not making those decisions

I moramo prestati da se pretvaramo da mi ne donosimo te odluke,

because the results affect us all.

jer rezultati utiču na sve nas.

Not just women, but men and our children, too.

Ne samo na žene, nego i na muškarce i na našu decu, takođe.

By creating the environment that we all live, work,

Tako što ćemo stvoriti okruženje u kom svi živimo,

love and raise our families in.

radimo, volimo i podižemo svoje porodice.

Isn't it past time that we call out the hypocrisy

Zar nije krajnje vreme da javno kritikujemo licemerje

and create a new normal?

i stvorimo novu normalu?

One with real generosity, humanity and truth at the center,

Onu sa pravom velikodušnošću, humanošću i istinom u središtu,

not some misplaced sense of what business is or does.

ne neku deplasiranu zamisao toga šta biznis jeste ili čime se bavi.

We should say what we will tolerate.

Trebalo bi da kažemo šta ćemo tolerisati.

And as we all recover from the pandemic that has flattened us,

I kako se svi oporavljamo od pandemije koja nas je uništila,

let's just not rebuild the same version of the broken system that we had before.

nemojmo da gradimo opet istu verziju lošeg sistema koji smo imali ranije.

But let's learn and create something new.

Nego naučimo i stvorimo nešto novo.

Each one of us has a role to play.

Svako od nas ima da odigra svoju ulogu.

And you don’t have to be an Olympian

I ne morate biti olimpijac

to create change for yourself or for others.

kako biste napravili promenu za sebe i za druge.

Everyone in this room can bet on themselves.

Svako u ovoj prostoriji može da se kladi na sebe.

It will typically happen in moments of fear

To će se obično desiti u momentima straha

when you don't see the path forward.

kada ne vidite put ispred sebe.

In my own experience, it was a terrifying decision,

Iz mog ličnog iskustva, bila je to užasavajuća odluka,

but that will be your first clue.

ali to će biti vaš prvi trag.

That feeling of being terrified is your invitation to create change.

Taj osećaj užasa je vaš poziv da napravite promenu.

You have to acknowledge those feelings,

Morate prihvatiti ta osećanja,

you have to brave them, and you have to fight to move forward.

morate ih hrabriti i morate se boriti kako biste išli napred.

It won't be easy.

Neće biti lako.

You will be afraid.

Bićete uplašeni.

Your voice will shake.

Glas će vam drhtati.

But what I can absolutely promise you

Ali ono što mogu da vam obećam

is that it will be worth it.

jeste da će biti vredno truda.

Thank you.

Hvala vam.

(Applause)

(Aplauz)