Eve Ensler: Embrace your inner girl

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Namaste. Good morning.
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I'm very happy to be here in India.
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And I've been thinking a lot about what I have learned
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over these last particularly 11 years
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with V-Day and "The Vagina Monologues,"
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traveling the world,
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essentially meeting with women and girls across the planet
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to stop violence against women.
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What I want to talk about today
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is this particular cell,
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or grouping of cells, that is in each and every one of us.
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And I want to call it the girl cell.
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And it's in men as well as in women.
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I want you to imagine that this particular grouping of cells
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is central to the evolution of our species
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and the continuation of the human race.
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And I want you imagine that at some point in history
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a group of powerful people invested in owning and controlling the world
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understood that the suppression of this particular cell,
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the oppression of these cells,
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the reinterpretation of these cells,
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the undermining of these cells,
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getting us to believe in the weakness of these cells
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and the crushing, eradicating, destroying,
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reducing these cells,
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basically began the process of killing off the girl cell,
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which was, by the way, patriarchy.
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I want you to imagine that the girl is a chip
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in the huge macrocosm of collective consciousness.
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And it is essential to balance, to wisdom
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and to actually the future of all of us.
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And then I want you to imagine that this girl cell
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is compassion,
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and it's empathy, and it's passion itself,
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and it's vulnerability,
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and it's openness, and it's intensity,
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and it's association, and it's relationship,
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and it is intuitive.
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And then let's think how compassion informs wisdom,
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and that vulnerability is our greatest strength,
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and that emotions have inherent logic,
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which lead to radical, appropriate, saving action.
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And then let's remember that we've been taught
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the exact opposite by the powers that be,
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that compassion clouds your thinking,
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that it gets in the way,
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that vulnerability is weakness,
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that emotions are not to be trusted,
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and you're not supposed to take things personally,
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which is one of my favorites.
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I think the whole world has essentially
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been brought up not to be a girl.
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How do we bring up boys? What does it mean to be a boy?
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To be a boy really means not to be a girl.
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To be a man means not to be a girl.
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To be a woman means not to be a girl.
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To be strong means not to be a girl.
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To be a leader means not to be a girl.
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I actually think that
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being a girl is so powerful
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that we've had to train everyone not to be that.
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(Laughter)
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And I'd also like to say that the irony
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of course, is that denying girl,
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suppressing girl, suppressing emotion,
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refusing feeling has lead thus here.
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Where we have now come to live in a world where
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the most extreme forms of violence,
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the most horrific poverty,
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genocide, mass rapes,
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the destruction of the Earth, is completely out of control.
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And because we have suppressed our girl cells
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and suppressed our girl-ship,
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we do not feel what is going on.
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So, we are not being charged with
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the adequate response to what is happening.
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I want to talk a little bit about
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the Democratic Republic of Congo.
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For me, it was the turning point of my life.
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I have spent a lot of time there in the last three years.
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I feel up to that point I had seen a lot in the world,
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a lot of violence.
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I essentially lived in the rape mines of the world for the last 12 years.
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But the Democratic Republic of Congo
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really was the turning point in my soul.
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I went and I spent time
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in a place called Bukavu
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in a hospital called the Panzi Hospital,
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with a doctor who was as close to a saint as any person I've ever met.
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His name is Dr. Denis Mukwege.
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In the Congo, for those of you who don't know,
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there has been a war raging for the last 12 years,
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a war that has killed nearly six million people.
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It is estimated that somewhere between 300,000 and 500,000 women
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have been raped there.
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When I spent my first weeks at Panzi hospital
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I sat with women
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who sat and lined up every day to tell me their stories.
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Their stories were so horrific,
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and so mind-blowing and so on the other side of human existence,
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that to be perfectly honest with you, I was shattered.
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And I will tell you that what happened
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is through that shattering,
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listening to the stories of eight-year-old girls who had their insides eviscerated,
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who had guns and bayonets and things shoved inside them
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so they had holes, literally, inside them
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where their pee and poop came out of them.
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Listening to the story of 80-year-old women
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who were tied to chains and circled,
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and where groups of men would come and rape them periodically,
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all in the name of economic exploitation
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to steal the minerals so the West can have it and profit from them.
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My mind was so shattered.
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But what happened for me is that that shattering
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actually emboldened me
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in a way I have never been emboldened.
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That shattering, that opening of my girl cell,
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that kind of massive breakthrough of my heart
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allowed me to become more courageous, and braver,
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and actually more clever
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than I had been in the past in my life.
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I want to say that I think the powers that be
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know that empire-building
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is actually -- that feelings get in the way of empire-building.
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Feelings get in the way of the mass acquisition of the Earth,
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and excavating the Earth, and destroying things.
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I remember, for example, when my father,
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who was very, very violent, used to beat me.
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And he would actually say, while he was beating me,
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"Don't you cry. Don't you dare cry."
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Because my crying somehow exposed his brutality to him.
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And even in the moment he didn't want to be reminded
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of what he was doing.
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I know that we have systematically annihilated the girl cell.
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And I want to say we've annihilated it in men as well as in women.
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And I think in some ways
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we've been much harsher to men
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in the annihilation of their girl cell.
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(Applause)
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I see how boys have been brought up, and I see this across the planet:
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to be tough, to be hardened,
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to distance themselves from their tenderness, to not cry.
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I actually realized once in Kosovo,
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when I watched a man break down,
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that bullets are actually hardened tears,
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that when we don't allow men to have their girl self
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and have their vulnerability, and have their compassion,
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and have their hearts, that they become hardened and hurtful
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and violent.
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And I think we have taught men to be secure
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when they are insecure,
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to pretend they know things when they don't know things,
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or why would we be where we are?
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To pretend they're not a mess when they are a mess.
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And I will tell you a very funny story.
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On my way here on the airplane, I was walking up and down the aisle of the plane.
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And all these men, literally at least 10 men,
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were in their little seats watching chick flicks.
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And they were all alone, and I thought, "This is the secret life of men."
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(Laughter)
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I've traveled, as I said,
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to many, many countries,
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and I've seen, if we do what we do to the girl inside us
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then obviously it's horrific to think
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what we do to girls in the world.
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And we heard from Sunitha yesterday,
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and Kavita about what we do to girls.
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But I just want to say that
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I've met girls with knife wounds and cigarette burns,
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who are literally being treated like ashtrays.
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I've seen girls be treated like garbage cans.
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I've seen girls who were beaten by their mothers
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and brothers and fathers and uncles.
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I've seen girls starving themselves to death in America
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in institutions to look like some idealized version of themselves.
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I've seen that we cut girls and we control them
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and we keep them illiterate,
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or we make them feel bad about being too smart.
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We silence them. We make them feel guilty
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for being smart. We get them to behave,
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to tone it down, not to be too intense.
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We sell them, we kill them as embryos,
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we enslave them, we rape them.
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We are so accustomed to robbing girls
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of the subject of being the subjects of their lives
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that we have now actually objectified them
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and turned them into commodities.
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The selling of girls is rampant across the planet.
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And in many places they are worth less than goats and cows.
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But I also want to talk about the fact that
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if one in eight people on the planet
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are girls between the ages of 10 to 24,
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they are they key, really, in the developing world,
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as well as in the whole world, to the future of humanity.
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And if girls are in trouble because they face systematic disadvantages
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that keep them where society wants them to be,
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including lack of access to healthcare,
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education, healthy foods,
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labor force participation.
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The burden of all the household tasks
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usually falls on girls and younger siblings,
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which ensures that they will never overcome these barriers.
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The state of girls, the condition of girls,
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will, in my belief -- and that's the girl inside us
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and the girl in the world -- determine whether
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the species survives.
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And what I want to suggest is that,
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having talked to girls, because I just finished a new book called
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"I Am an Emotional Creature: The Secret Life of Girls Around the World,"
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I've been talking to girls for five years,
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and one of the things that I've seen is true everywhere
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is that the verb that's been enforced on girl
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is the verb "to please."
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Girls are trained to please.
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I want to change the verb.
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I want us all to change the verb.
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I want the verb to be "educate,"
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or "activate," or "engage,"
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or "confront," or "defy," or "create."
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If we teach girls to change the verb
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we will actually enforce the girl inside us
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and the girl inside them.
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And I have to now share a few stories
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of girls I've seen across the planet
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who have engaged their girl,
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who have taken on their girl in spite of
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all the circumstances around them.
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I know a 14-year-old girl in the Netherlands,
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for example, who is demanding that she take a boat
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and go around the entire world by herself.
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There is a teenage girl who just recently
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went out and knew that she needed 56 stars
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tattooed on the right side of her face.
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There is a girl, Julia Butterfly Hill,
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who lived for a year in a tree
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because she wanted to protect the wild oaks.
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There is a girl who I met 14 years ago in Afghanistan
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who I have adopted as my daughter
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because her mother was killed. Her mother was a revolutionary.
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And this girl, when she was 17 years old,
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wore a burqa in Afghanistan,
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and went into the stadiums
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and documented the atrocities that were going on towards women,
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underneath her burqa, with a video.
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And that video became the video that went out all over the world
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after 9/11 to show what was going on in Afghanistan.
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I want to talk about Rachel Corrie
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who was in her teens when she stood in front of an Israeli tank
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to say, "End the occupation."
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And she knew she risked death and she was literally gunned down
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and rolled over by that tank.
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And I want to talk about a girl that I just met recently
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in Bukavu, who was impregnated by her rapist.
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And she was holding her baby.
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And I asked her if she loved her baby.
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And she looked into her baby's eyes and she said,
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"Of course I love my baby. How could I not love my baby?
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It's my baby and it's full of love."
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The capacity for girls to overcome situations
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and to move on levels, to me, is mind-blowing.
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There is a girl named Dorcas, and I just met her in Kenya.
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Dorcas is 15 years old,
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and she was trained in self-defense.
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A few months ago she was picked up on the street
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by three older men.
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They kidnapped her, they put her in a car.
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And through her self-defense, she grabbed their Adam's apples,
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she punched them in the eyes
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and she got herself free and out of the car.
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In Kenya, in August,
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I went to visit one of the V-Day safe houses for girls,
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a house we opened seven years ago
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with an amazing woman named Agnes Pareyio.
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Agnes was a woman who was cut when she was a little girl,
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she was female genitally mutilated.
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And she made a decision as many women do across this planet,
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that what was done to her would not be enforced and done
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to other women and girls.
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So, for years Agnes walked through the Rift valley.
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She taught girls what a healthy vagina looked like,
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and what a mutilated vagina looked like.
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And in that time she saved many girls. And when we met her
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we asked her what we could do for her,
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and she said, "Well, if you got me a Jeep I could get around a lot faster."
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So, we got her a Jeep. And then she saved 4,500 girls.
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And then we asked her, "Okay, what else do you need?"
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And she said, "Well, now, I need a house."
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So, seven years ago Agnes built the first V-Day safe house
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in Narok, Kenya, in the Masai land.
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And it was a house where girls could run away,
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they could save their clitoris, they wouldn't be cut,
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they could go to school.
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And in the years that Agnes has had the house,
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she has changed the situation there.
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She has literally become deputy mayor.
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She's changed the rules.
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The whole community has bought in to what she's doing.
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When we were there she was doing a ritual
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where she reconciles girls, who have run away, with their families.
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And there was a young girl named Jaclyn.
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Jaclyn was 14 years old and she was in her Masai family
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and there's a drought in Kenya.
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So cows are dying, and cows are the most
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valued possession.
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And Jaclyn overheard her father
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talking to an old man about
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how he was about to sell her for the cows.
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And she knew that meant she would be cut.
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She knew that meant she wouldn't go to school.
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She knew that meant she wouldn't have a future.
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She knew she would have to marry that old man, and she was 14.
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So, one afternoon, she'd heard about the safe house,
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Jaclyn left her father's house
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and she walked for two days, two days
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through Masai land.
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She slept with the hyenas. She hid at night.
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She imagined her father killing her on one hand,
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and Mama Agnes greeting her,
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with the hope that she would greet her when she got to the house.
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And when she got to the house she was greeted.
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Agnes took her in, and Agnes loved her,
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and Agnes supported her for the year.
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She went to school and she found her voice,
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and she found her identity, and she found her heart.
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Then, her time was ready
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when she had to go back to talk to her father
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about the reconciliation, after a year.
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I had the privilege of being in the hut
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when she was reunited with her father and reconciled.
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In that hut, we walked in,
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and her father and his four wives were sitting there,
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and her sisters who had just returned because
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they had all fled when she had fled,
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and her primary mother, who had been beaten
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in standing up for her with the elders.
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When her father saw her and saw who she had become,
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in her full girl self,
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he threw his arms around her and broke down crying.
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He said, "You are beautiful. You have grown into a gorgeous woman.
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We will not cut you.
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And I give you my word, here and now,
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that we will not cut your sisters either."
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And what she said to him was,
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"You were willing to sell me for four cows,
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and a calf and some blankets.
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But I promise you, now that I will be educated
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I will always take care of you,
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and I will come back and I will build you a house.
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And I will be in your corner for the rest of your life."
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For me, that is the power of girls.
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And that is the power of transformation.
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I want to close today
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with a new piece from my book.
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And I want to do it tonight
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for the girl in everybody here.
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And I want to do it for Sunitha.
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And I want to do it for the girls that Sunitha talked about yesterday,
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the girls who survive, the girls who can become somebody else.
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But I really want to do it for each and every person here,
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to value the girl in us,
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to value the part that cries,
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to value the part that's emotional,
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to value the part that's vulnerable,
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to understand that's where the future lies.
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This is called "I'm An Emotional Creature."
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And it happened because I met a girl in Watts, L.A.
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I was asking girls if they like being a girl,
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and all the girls were like, "No, I hate it. I can't stand it.
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It's all bad. My brothers get everything."
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And this girl just sat up and went, "I love being a girl.
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I'm an emotional creature!"
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(Laughter)
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This is for her:
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I love being a girl.
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I can feel what you're feeling
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as you're feeling inside the feeling before.
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I am an emotional creature.
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Things do not come to me as intellectual theories
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or hard-pressed ideas.
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They pulse through my organs and legs and burn up my ears.
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Oh, I know when your girlfriend's really pissed off,
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even though she appears to give you what you want.
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I know when a storm is coming.
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I can feel the invisible stirrings in the air.
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I can tell you he won't call back. It's a vibe I share.
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I am an emotional creature.
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I love that I do not take things lightly.
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Everything is intense to me,
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the way I walk in the street, the way my momma wakes me up,
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the way it's unbearable when I lose, the way I hear bad news.
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I am an emotional creature.
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I am connected to everything and everyone. I was born like that.
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Don't you say all negative
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that it's only only a teenage thing,
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or it's only because I'm a girl.
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These feelings make me better.
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They make me present. They make me ready. They make me strong.
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I am an emotional creature.
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There is a particular way of knowing.
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It's like the older women somehow forgot.
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I rejoice that it's still in my body.
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Oh, I know when the coconut's about to fall.
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I know we have pushed the Earth too far.
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I know my father isn't coming back,
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and that no one's prepared for the fire.
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I know that lipstick means more than show,
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and boys are super insecure,
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and so-called terrorists are made, not born.
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I know that one kiss
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could take away all my decision-making ability.
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(Laughter)
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And you know what? Sometimes it should.
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This is not extreme. It's a girl thing,
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what we would all be if the big door inside us flew open.
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Don't tell me not to cry, to calm it down,
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not to be so extreme, to be reasonable.
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I am an emotional creature.
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It's how the earth got made, how the wind continues to pollinate.
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You don't tell the Atlantic Ocean to behave.
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I am an emotional creature.
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Why would you want to shut me down or turn me off?
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I am your remaining memory.
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I can take you back.
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Nothing's been diluted.
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Nothing's leaked out.
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I love, hear me, I love
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that I can feel the feelings inside you,
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even if they stop my life,
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even if they break my heart,
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even if they take me off track,
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they make me responsible.
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I am an emotional, I am an emotional,
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incondotional, devotional creature.
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And I love, hear me,
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I love, love, love being a girl.
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Can you say it with me?
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I love, I love, love, love
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being a girl!
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Thank you very much.
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(Applause)
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