What I've learned about parenting as a stay-at-home dad | Glen Henry

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ูŠุฑุฌู‰ ุงู„ู†ู‚ุฑ ู†ู‚ุฑู‹ุง ู…ุฒุฏูˆุฌู‹ุง ููˆู‚ ุงู„ุชุฑุฌู…ุฉ ุงู„ุฅู†ุฌู„ูŠุฒูŠุฉ ุฃุฏู†ุงู‡ ู„ุชุดุบูŠู„ ุงู„ููŠุฏูŠูˆ.

ุงู„ู…ุชุฑุฌู…: Dina Ismail ุงู„ู…ุฏู‚ู‘ู‚: Ayman Mahmoud
ุญุณู†ู‹ุงุŒ ุฃุฑูŠุฏ ุฃู† ุฃุฎุจุฑูƒู… ูƒูŠู ุญุตู„ุช ุนู„ู‰ ู‚ูˆุงูŠ ุงู„ุฎุงุฑู‚ุฉ ู…ู† ุฎู„ุงู„ ุงู„ุฃุจูˆุฉ.
00:13
Alright, I want to tell you how I got my superpowers through fatherhood.
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00:18
I was working a job I hated, OK?
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ูƒู†ุช ุฃุนู…ู„ ููŠ ูˆุธูŠูุฉ ุฃูƒุฑู‡ู‡ุงุŒ ุญุณู†ุงู‹ุŸ
00:20
And I don't know if anyone here ever worked a job they hated.
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ูˆู„ุง ุฃุนู„ู… ุฅู† ูƒุงู† ูŠูˆุฌุฏ ู‡ู†ุง ุฃูŠ ุดุฎุต ุณุจู‚ ู„ู‡ ุงู„ุนู…ู„ ุจูˆุธูŠูุฉ ูŠูƒุฑู‡ู‡ุง.
00:23
Has anyone here ever worked a job they hated?
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ู‡ู„ ุณุจู‚ ู„ุฃุญุฏูƒู… ุงู„ุนู…ู„ ุจูˆุธูŠูุฉ ูŠูƒุฑู‡ู‡ุงุŸ
00:25
(Laughter)
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00:26
OK, good, because I'm not alone
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ุญุณู†ุงู‹ุŒ ู‡ุฐุง ุฌูŠุฏุŒ ู„ุณุช ูˆุญูŠุฏุงู‹ ุฅุฐุงูŽู‹
00:28
and I have something to confess; I don't want you guys to judge me.
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ูˆู„ุฏูŠ ุงุนุชุฑุงูุŒ ู„ุง ุฃุฑูŠุฏูƒู… ุฃู† ุชุญูƒู…ูˆุง ุนู„ูŠูŽ.
00:31
This feels like a safe space, is it a safe space?
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ูŠุจุฏูˆ ู‡ุฐุง ูƒู…ูƒุงู† ุขู…ู†ุŒ ู‡ู„ ู‡ูˆ ูƒุฐู„ูƒุŸ
ุงู„ุฌู…ู‡ูˆุฑ: ู†ุนู….
00:34
Audience: Yes.
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ุฌู„ูŠู† ู‡ู†ุฑูŠ: ุญุณู†ุงู‹ุŒ ูƒู†ุช ุฃุนู…ู„ ุจุงู„ูˆุธูŠูุฉ ุงู„ุชูŠ ุฃูƒุฑู‡ู‡ุงุŒ
00:35
Glen Henry: OK, I was working the job I hated,
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00:37
my manager and I were not getting along.
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ูˆู„ู… ู†ูƒู† ุฃู†ุง ูˆู…ุฏูŠุฑูŠ ุนู„ู‰ ูˆูุงู‚.
00:39
I was sitting in my car, looking in the rearview mirror,
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ูƒู†ุช ุฌุงู„ุณ ููŠ ุณูŠุงุฑุชูŠุŒ ุฃู†ุธุฑ ููŠ ุงู„ู…ุฑุขุฉ ุงู„ุฎู„ููŠุฉุŒ
00:42
trying to figure out which friend I could call
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ู…ุญุงูˆู„ุงู‹ ุงู„ุชููƒูŠุฑ ููŠ ุตุฏูŠู‚ ูŠู…ูƒู†ู†ูŠ ุงู„ุฅุชุตุงู„ ุจู‡
00:45
to call in a bomb threat,
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ู„ู„ุฅุจู„ุงุบ ุนู† ุญุงู„ุฉ ุทูˆุงุฑุฆุŒ
00:46
so I didn't have to go back in the building.
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ุจุญูŠุซ ู„ุง ุฃุนูˆุฏ ู„ู„ู…ุจู†ู‰ ู…ุฑุฉ ุฃุฎุฑู‰.
00:49
(Laughter)
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00:50
OK, this was having a lot of issues for me,
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ูƒุงู† ู‡ุฐุง ูŠุณุจุจ ู„ูŠ ุงู„ูƒุซูŠุฑ ู…ู† ุงู„ู…ุดุงูƒู„ุŒ
00:53
I was having a lot of issues at my job
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ูƒุงู† ู„ุฏู‰ ู…ุดุงูƒู„ ูƒุซูŠุฑุฉ ููŠ ุนู…ู„ูŠ
00:54
and I'd come home every day from work
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ูˆูƒู†ุช ุฃุนูˆุฏ ู„ู„ู…ู†ุฒู„ ูƒู„ ูŠูˆู… ู…ู† ุงู„ุนู…ู„
00:56
and my wife would ask me the same question.
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ู„ุชุณุฃู„ู†ูŠ ุฒูˆุฌุชูŠ ู†ูุณ ุงู„ุณุคุงู„.
00:59
And when you hate your job,
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ูˆุนู†ุฏู…ุง ุชูƒุฑู‡ ูˆุธูŠูุชูƒุŒ
01:00
this is the worst question anyone could ask you.
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ูู‡ุฐุง ุฃุณูˆุก ุณุคุงู„ ูŠู…ูƒู† ู„ุฃูŠ ุดุฎุต ุฃู† ูŠูˆุฌู‡ู‡ ู„ูƒ.
01:03
She'd say, "Hey babe, how was your day?"
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ูƒุงู†ุช ุชู‚ูˆู„ุŒ "ู…ุฑุญุจุงู‹ ุญุจูŠุจูŠุŒ ูƒูŠู ูƒุงู† ูŠูˆู…ูƒุŸ"
01:06
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
01:08
And I'd say,
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ูˆูƒุงู†ุช ุฅุฌุงุจุชูŠุŒ
01:09
"Why you bringing up old stuff?"
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"ู„ู… ุชุชุญุฏุซูŠู† ุนู† ุฃุดูŠุงุก ู…ู† ุงู„ู…ุงุถูŠุŸ"
01:10
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
01:11
I just left it, I don't want to think about that place again.
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ู„ู‚ุฏ ุชุฑูƒุช ุงู„ู…ูƒุงู† ู„ู„ุชูˆุŒ ูˆู„ุง ุฃุฑูŠุฏ ุฃู† ุฃููƒุฑ ููŠู‡ ู…ุฑุฉ ุฃุฎุฑู‰.
01:15
See, we were spending about 40 percent of my income on childcare.
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ู„ู‚ุฏ ูƒู†ุง ู†ู†ูู‚ ุญูˆุงู„ูŠ 40 ุจุงู„ู…ุฆุฉ ู…ู† ุฏุฎู„ูŠ ุนู„ู‰ ุญุถุงู†ุฉ ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„.
01:19
We had one child.
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ูƒุงู† ู„ุฏูŠู†ุง ุทูู„ ูˆุงุญุฏ.
01:21
And we were pregnant with our second child.
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ูˆูƒุงู†ุช ุฒูˆุฌุชูŠ ุญุงู…ู„ ููŠ ุทูู„ู†ุง ุงู„ุซุงู†ูŠ.
01:23
And we were trying to figure out how we were going to fix this whole thing
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ูˆูƒู†ุง ู†ุญุงูˆู„ ุฅูŠุฌุงุฏ ุทุฑูŠู‚ุฉ ู„ุญู„ ู‡ุฐุง ุงู„ุฃู…ุฑ
01:27
of this money situation, and she said,
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ุงู„ุฎุงุต ุจูˆุถุนู†ุง ุงู„ู…ุงู„ูŠุŒ ูˆู‚ุงู„ุช ู„ูŠุŒ
01:29
"Hey, babe, I've got a great idea."
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"ุญุณู†ุงู‹ ุญุจูŠุจูŠุŒ ู„ุฏูŠ ููƒุฑุฉ ู‡ุงุฆู„ุฉ."
01:31
I said, "What's up?"
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ู‚ู„ุช: "ู…ุง ู‡ูŠุŸ"
01:32
She said, "I think you'd be a great stay-at-home dad."
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ู‚ุงู„ุช: "ุฃุนุชู‚ุฏ ุฃู†ูƒ ุณุชูƒูˆู† ุฑุจ ู…ู†ุฒู„ ู‡ุงุฆู„."
01:35
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
01:37
I was like, "Why would you say something like that?"
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ู‚ู„ุช: "ู„ู… ุชู‚ูˆู„ูŠู† ุดูŠุฆุงู‹ ูƒู‡ุฐุงุŸ"
01:39
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
01:40
She said, "Because babies like you."
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ู‚ุงู„ุช: "ู„ุฃู† ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ุชุญุจูƒ."
01:42
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
01:44
I was like, "No, they don't."
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ู‚ู„ุช ู„ู‡ุง: "ู„ุงุŒ ู„ุง ูŠูุนู„ูˆู†."
01:45
She was like, "No, they do like you.
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ูู‚ุงู„ุช: "ุจู„ู‰ุŒ ู‡ู… ูŠุญุจูˆู†ูƒ ุจุงู„ูุนู„."
01:47
And I think it would be great
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ูˆุงุนุชู‚ุฏ ุฃู†ู‡ ุณูŠูƒูˆู† ู…ู† ุงู„ุฑุงุฆุน
01:49
for our children to see what love looks like, coming from a father."
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ู„ุฃุทูุงู„ู†ุง ุฃู† ูŠุดุนุฑูˆุง ุจู…ุนู†ู‰ ุงู„ุญุจ ู…ู† ุฎู„ุงู„ ุฃุจูŠู‡ู…."
01:54
I was like, OK.
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ู‚ู„ุช: ุญุณู†ุงู‹.
01:55
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
01:58
So, I had issues with this,
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ู„ู‚ุฏ ูƒุงู† ู„ุฏูŠ ู…ุดุงูƒู„ ู…ุน ู‡ุฐุง ุงู„ุฃู…ุฑุŒ
02:00
because I haven't seen a lot of stay-at-home dads before
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ู„ุฃู†ู†ูŠ ู„ู… ูŠุณุจู‚ ู„ูŠ ุฃู† ุฑุฃูŠุช ู…ู† ู‚ุจู„ ุขุจุงุก ู…ู‚ูŠู…ุฉ ููŠ ุงู„ู…ู†ุฒู„
02:03
and I thought men would judge me, so get this, I said this --
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ูˆููƒุฑุช ุจุฃู† ุงู„ุฑุฌุงู„ ุณูˆู ุชู‚ูˆู… ุจุงู„ุญูƒู… ุนู„ูŠูŽุŒ ู„ุฐุง ู‚ู„ุช ู„ู‡ุง
02:06
please don't be offended -- I said,
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- ูˆุฑุฌุงุกู‹ ู„ุง ุชุดุนุฑูˆุง ุจุงู„ุฅุณุชูŠุงุก- ู‚ู„ุช:
02:09
"Uh, you know, that sounds boring.
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"ุชุนู„ู…ูŠู†ุŒ ูŠุจุฏูˆ ู‡ุฐุง ู…ู…ู„ุงู‹.
02:11
And what do stay-at-home moms do all day, anyway?"
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ู…ุงุฐุง ุชูุนู„ ุงู„ุฃู…ู‡ุงุช ุงู„ู…ู‚ูŠู…ุฉ ุจุงู„ู…ู†ุฒู„ ุทูˆุงู„ ุงู„ูŠูˆู…ุŒ ุนู„ู‰ ุฃูŠุฉ ุญุงู„ุŸ"
02:14
Audience: Ooh!
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ุงู„ุฌู…ู‡ูˆุฑ: ุฃูˆูˆู‡!
02:18
She smiled at me a smile only a woman full of knowledge can smile
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ูˆุงุจุชุณู…ุช ู„ูŠ ุฅุจุชุณุงู…ุฉ ุงู…ุฑุฃุฉ ุฐุงุช ุฏุฑุงูŠุฉ ุจุจูˆุงุทู† ุงู„ุฃู…ูˆุฑ
02:22
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
02:23
and said, "Well, this should be easy for you.
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ูˆู‚ุงู„ุช: "ุญุณู†ุงู‹ุŒ ุณูŠูƒูˆู† ู‡ุฐุง ุณู‡ู„ุงู‹ ุจุงู„ู†ุณุจุฉ ู„ูƒ.
02:26
And it will save us some money, it seems like a no-brainer."
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ูˆุณูŠูˆูุฑ ุนู„ูŠู†ุง ุจุนุถ ุงู„ู…ุงู„ุŒ ู„ุง ูŠุญุชุงุฌ ุงู„ุฃู…ุฑ ู„ู„ุชููƒูŠุฑ."
02:29
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
02:30
Fast-forward six months,
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ุจุนุฏ ุณุชุฉ ุดู‡ูˆุฑุŒ
02:32
I'd been a stay-at-home dad for about a week.
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ุฃุตุจุญุช ุฑุจ ู…ู†ุฒู„ ู„ุญูˆุงู„ูŠ ุฃุณุจูˆุน.
02:34
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
02:35
I was standing in my bathroom, looking into the mirror
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ูƒู†ุช ุฃู‚ู ููŠ ุงู„ุญู…ุงู…ุŒ ุฃู†ุธุฑ ู„ู„ู…ุฑุขุฉ
02:39
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
02:40
crying, tears --
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ุฃุจูƒูŠุŒ ุฏู…ูˆุน--
02:41
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
02:43
running all down my face.
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ุชู†ุณุงุจ ุนู„ู‰ ูˆุฌู‡ูŠ.
02:45
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
02:47
My one-and-a-half-year-old was banging on the bathroom door --
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ูˆุฅุจู†ูŠ ุฐูˆ ุงู„ุนุงู… ูˆู†ุตู ูŠู‚ุฑุน ุจุดุฏุฉ ุนู„ู‰ ุจุงุจ ุงู„ุญู…ุงู…
02:50
because I locked them out, you know --
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-ู„ุฃู†ู†ูŠ ุฃุบู„ู‚ุชู‡ ุนู„ู‰ ู†ูุณูŠุŒ ูƒู…ุง ุชุนู„ู…ูˆู†-
02:52
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
02:53
crying, tears running down his face.
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ูŠุจูƒูŠุŒ ูˆุชู†ู‡ู…ุฑ ุงู„ุฏู…ูˆุน ุนู„ู‰ ูˆุฌู‡ู‡.
02:56
And my newborn was in the bassinet, crying, tears running down his face.
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ูˆุทูู„ูŠ ุญุฏูŠุซ ุงู„ูˆู„ุงุฏุฉ ููŠ ู…ู‡ุฏู‡ุŒ ูŠุจูƒูŠุŒ ูˆุงู„ุฏู…ูˆุน ุชู†ู‡ู…ุฑ ุนู„ู‰ ูˆุฌู‡ู‡.
03:00
I looked at myself in the mirror, and I said ...
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ู†ุธุฑุช ู„ู†ูุณูŠ ููŠ ุงู„ู…ุฑุขุฉุŒ ูˆู‚ู„ุช...
03:03
"Which friend can you call to call in a bomb threat?
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"ุฃูŠ ุตุฏูŠู‚ ูŠู…ูƒู†ูƒ ู…ูƒุงู„ู…ุชู‡ ู„ู„ุฅุจู„ุงุบ ุนู† ุญุงู„ุฉ ุทูˆุงุฑุฆุŸ
03:06
We've got to get out of here."
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ุนู„ูŠู†ุง ุฃู† ู†ุบุงุฏุฑ ู…ู† ู‡ู†ุง."
03:07
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
03:09
See, I had traded my manager for my children.
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ู„ู‚ุฏ ู‚ู…ุช ุจุงุณุชุจุฏุงู„ ู…ุฏูŠุฑูŠ ุจุฃุทูุงู„ูŠ.
03:13
I didn't know what I got myself into.
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ู„ุณุช ุฃุฏุฑูŠ ู…ุง ูˆุฑุทุช ู†ูุณูŠ ุจู‡.
03:14
I thought I knew everything about being a stay-at-home parent,
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ูƒู†ุช ุฃุญุณุจ ุฃู†ู†ูŠ ุฃุนุฑู ูƒู„ ุดูŠุก ุญูˆู„ ูƒูˆู†ูƒ ูˆุงู„ุฏู‹ุง ู…ู‚ูŠู… ููŠ ุงู„ุจูŠุชุŒ
03:18
and in fact, I knew nothing at all.
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ูˆููŠ ุงู„ูˆุงู‚ุนุŒ ู„ู… ุฃูƒู† ุฃุนู„ู… ุดูŠุฆุงู‹ ุนู„ู‰ ุงู„ุฅุทู„ุงู‚.
03:21
Because even though my manager was --
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ู„ุฃู†ู‡ ุจุงู„ุฑุบู… ู…ู† ุฃู† ู…ุฏูŠุฑูŠ ูƒุงู†..
03:23
well, at least my children were a lot cuter than my manager,
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ุญุณู†ุงู‹ุŒ ุนู„ู‰ ุงู„ุฃู‚ู„ ุฃุทูุงู„ูŠ ูƒุงู†ูˆุง ุฃู„ุทู ุจูƒุซูŠุฑ ู…ู† ู…ุฏูŠุฑูŠุŒ
03:27
they were just as demanding.
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ู„ูƒู†ู‡ู… ูƒุงู†ูˆุง ูƒุซูŠุฑูŠ ุงู„ุทู„ุจุงุช ู…ุซู„ู‡ ุจุงู„ุถุจุท.
03:29
(Video) Child: Wipe my butt.
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(ููŠุฏูŠูˆ) ุทูู„: ุงู…ุณุญ ู…ุคุฎุฑุชูŠ.
03:31
Papa, wipe my butt.
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ุจุงุจุงุŒ ุงู…ุณุญ ู…ุคุฎุฑุชูŠ.
03:34
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
03:35
Wipe my butt.
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ุงู…ุณุญ ู…ุคุฎุฑุชูŠ.
03:38
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
03:45
GH: What had I gotten myself into?
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ุฌู„ูŠู† ู‡ู†ุฑูŠ: ู…ุง ุงู„ุฐูŠ ูˆุฑุทุช ู†ูุณูŠ ููŠู‡ุŸ
03:47
I thought I knew everything about being a stay-at-home parent --
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ูƒู†ุช ุฃุญุณุจ ุฃู†ู†ูŠ ุฃุนู„ู… ูƒู„ ุดูŠุก ุญูˆู„ ูƒูˆู†ูƒ ูˆุงู„ุฏู‹ุง ู…ู‚ูŠู… ููŠ ุงู„ุจูŠุชุŒ
03:50
in fact, I knew nothing.
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ููŠ ุงู„ูˆุงู‚ุนุŒ ู„ู… ุฃูƒู† ุฃุนู„ู… ุฃูŠ ุดูŠุก.
03:52
I thought that all I had to do was feed them,
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ุธู†ู†ุช ุฃู† ูƒู„ ู…ุง ุนู„ู‰ูŽ ูุนู„ู‡ ู‡ูˆ ุฅุทุนุงู…ู‡ู…ุŒ
03:54
change their diapers, and they'd be fine.
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ุชุบูŠูŠุฑ ุงู„ุญูุงุถุŒ ูˆุณูŠูƒูˆู†ูˆุง ุจุฎูŠุฑ ู‡ูƒุฐุง.
03:56
Like, I really thought that's it.
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ู„ู‚ุฏ ุธู†ู†ุช ุจุงู„ูุนู„ ุฃู† ุงู„ุฃู…ุฑ ูƒุฐู„ูƒ.
03:59
"Sesame Street" on TV, keep them distracted,
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ุงุนุฑุถ ู„ู‡ู… "ุนุงู„ู… ุณู…ุณู…" ุนู„ู‰ ุงู„ุชู„ูุงุฒุŒ ุงุจู‚ูŠู‡ู… ู…ุดุบูˆู„ูŠู†ุŒ
04:02
apple sauce in a bowl, milk in a bottle, they'd be fine.
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ุถุน ู„ู‡ู… ุตูˆุต ุชูุงุญ ููŠ ูˆุนุงุกุŒ ูˆุญู„ูŠุจ ููŠ ุฒุฌุงุฌุฉุŒ ูˆุณูŠูƒูˆู†ูˆุง ุจุฎูŠุฑ.
04:05
But if you leave children alone,
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ูˆู„ูƒู† ุฅุฐุง ุชุฑูƒุช ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ุจู…ูุฑุฏู‡ู…ุŒ
04:07
they'll get into just a little bit of mischief.
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ุณูŠุชุณุจุจูˆุง ุจุจุนุถ ุงู„ุฃุฐู‰.
04:09
(Video) Child: Hi.
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(ููŠุฏูŠูˆ) ุทูู„: ู…ุฑุญุจุงู‹.
04:12
GH: Where is the powder?
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ุฌู„ูŠู† ู‡ู†ุฑูŠ: ุฃูŠู† ุงู„ุจูˆุฏุฑุฉุŸ
04:15
Child: I don't know.
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ุทูู„: ู„ุง ุฃุนู„ู….
04:17
GH: Well, where did you put it, where did it --
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ุฌู„ูŠู† ู‡ู†ุฑูŠ: ุญุณู†ุงู‹ุŒ ุฃูŠู† ูˆุถุนุชู‡ุงุŒ ุฃูŠู†..
04:21
Who did it?
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ู…ู† ูุนู„ ู‡ุฐุงุŸ
04:22
Child 1: No, you did it! Child 2: No, you did it!
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ุงู„ุทูู„ ุงู„ุฃูˆู„: ู„ุงุŒ ุฃู†ุช ูุนู„ุชู‡ุง! ุงู„ุทูู„ ุงู„ุซุงู†ูŠ: ู„ุงุŒ ุฃู†ุช ูุนู„ุชู‡ุง!
04:25
Child 1: No, you did it! Child 2: No, you did it!
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ุงู„ุทูู„ ุงู„ุฃูˆู„: ู„ุงุŒ ุฃู†ุช ูุนู„ุชู‡ุง! ุงู„ุทูู„ ุงู„ุซุงู†ูŠ: ู„ุงุŒ ุฃู†ุช ูุนู„ุชู‡ุง!
04:28
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
04:30
GH: You know what else I thought I knew about being a stay-at-home parent?
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ุฌู„ูŠู† ู‡ู†ุฑูŠ: ุชุนู„ู…ูˆู† ู…ุง ุงู„ุฐูŠ ุธู†ู†ุช ุฃูŠุถุงู‹ ุฃู†ู†ูŠ ุฃุนุฑูู‡ ุญูˆู„ ูƒูˆู†ูƒ ูˆุงู„ุฏุงู‹ ู…ู‚ูŠู… ููŠ ุงู„ุจูŠุชุŸ
04:34
I thought that all I had to do was take them to the park once a week,
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ุธู†ู†ุช ุฃู† ูƒู„ ู…ุง ุนู„ูŠูŽ ูุนู„ู‡ ู‡ูˆ ุฃุฎุฐู‡ู… ู„ู„ุญุฏูŠู‚ุฉ ู…ุฑุฉ ููŠ ุงู„ุฃุณุจูˆุนุŒ
04:37
because if I took them to the park once a week, they'd be fine.
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ู„ุฃู†ู†ูŠ ุฅุฐุง ุฃุฎุฐุชู‡ู… ู„ู„ุญุฏูŠู‚ุฉ ู…ุฑุฉ ููŠ ุงู„ุฃุณุจูˆุนุŒ ุณูŠูƒูˆู†ูˆุง ุจุฎูŠุฑ.
04:41
In fact, I knew nothing at all.
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ููŠ ุงู„ูˆุงู‚ุนุŒ ุฃู†ุง ู„ุง ุฃุนู„ู… ุฃูŠ ุดูŠุก ุนู„ู‰ ุงู„ุฅุทู„ุงู‚.
04:43
OK.
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ุญุณู†ุงู‹.
04:44
If you take kids to park every day then that means they get dirty every day.
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ุฅุฐุง ุฃุฎุฐุช ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ู„ู„ุญุฏูŠู‚ุฉ ูŠูˆู…ูŠู‹ุง ูู‡ุฐุง ูŠุนู†ูŠ ุฃู†ู‡ู… ุณูŠุชุณุฎูˆู† ูƒู„ ูŠูˆู….
04:49
If they got dirty every day, they need baths every day,
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ูˆุฅุฐุง ุงุชุณุฎูˆุง ูƒู„ ูŠูˆู…ุŒ ูุณูŠุญุชุงุฌูˆู† ู„ุฃุฎุฐ ุญู…ุงู… ูƒู„ ูŠูˆู…
04:51
if they got baths every day --
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ูˆุฅุฐุง ุฃุฎุฐูˆุง ุญู…ุงู… ูƒู„ ูŠูˆู…..
04:54
I just don't think you understand, see, having two kids under two,
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ุฃุนุชู‚ุฏ ุฃู†ูƒู… ู„ุง ุชูู‡ู…ูˆู† ุงู„ุฃู…ุฑ ุฌูŠุฏุงู‹ุŒ ูุฅุฐุง ูƒุงู† ู„ุฏูŠูƒ ุทูู„ูŠู† ุชุญุช ุณู† ุงู„ุณู†ุชูŠู†ุŒ
04:57
you end up changing over 20 dirty diapers a day, OK.
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ุณูŠู†ุชู‡ูŠ ุจูƒ ุงู„ุญุงู„ ุจุชุบูŠูŠุฑ 20 ุญูุงุถ ู…ุชุณุฎ ููŠ ุงู„ูŠูˆู…ุŒ ุญุณู†ุงู‹.
05:01
And if you give them a bath, that's just more nakedness.
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ูˆุฅุฐุง ุฃุนุทูŠุชู‡ู… ุญู…ุงู…ุงู‹ุŒ ูู‡ุฐุง ูŠุนู†ูŠ ู…ุฒูŠุฏุงู‹ ู…ู† ุงู„ุชุนุฑูŠ.
05:04
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
05:05
And a higher probability of getting peed on,
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ูˆุงุญุชู…ุงู„ูŠุฉ ุฃูƒุจุฑ ู„ุฃู† ูŠุชู… ุงู„ุชุจูˆู„ ุนู„ูŠูƒุŒ
05:07
and no one likes getting peed on, even if it's from a baby.
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ูˆู„ุง ุฃุญุฏ ูŠุญุจ ุฃู† ูŠุชู… ุงู„ุชุจูˆู„ ุนู„ูŠู‡ุŒ ุญุชู‰ ุฅุฐุง ูƒุงู† ู…ู† ุทูู„.
05:11
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
05:12
But I read this article by Father Lee
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ูˆู„ูƒู†ู†ูŠ ู‚ุฑุฃุช ุชู„ูƒ ุงู„ู…ู‚ุงู„ุฉ ุจูˆุงุณุทุฉ (ุงู„ุฃุจ ู„ูŠ)
05:14
which cites a survey done by two detergent companies, Omo and Persil.
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ูˆุงู„ุชูŠ ุชุณุชุดู‡ุฏ ุจุงุณุชุทู„ุงุน ุฑุฃูŠ ุฃุฌุฑุชู‡ ุดุฑูƒุชุงู† ู„ู„ู…ู†ุธูุงุชุŒ ุงูˆู…ูˆ ูˆุจุฑุณูŠู„.
05:18
And they did this study and it said, that at two hours a day,
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ูˆู‚ุฏ ุฃุฌุฑูˆุง ุชู„ูƒ ุงู„ุฏุฑุงุณุฉ ุงู„ุชูŠ ุชู‚ูˆู„ุŒ ุฅู†ู‡ ู„ู…ุฏุฉ ุณุงุนุชูŠู† ููŠ ุงู„ูŠูˆู…ุŒ
05:21
prisoners get more outside time than children.
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ูŠุญุตู„ ุงู„ุณุฌู†ุงุก ุนู„ู‰ ู…ุฒูŠุฏ ู…ู† ุงู„ูˆู‚ุช ุจุงู„ุฎุงุฑุฌ ุฃูƒุซุฑ ู…ู† ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„.
05:25
That convicted me and so we went outside.
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ุงู„ุฃู…ุฑ ุงู„ุฐูŠ ุฃุฏุงู†ู†ูŠ ูˆุจู†ุงุก ุนู„ูŠู‡ ุฐู‡ุจู†ุง ู„ู„ุฎุงุฑุฌ.
05:28
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(ููŠุฏูŠูˆ) (ู…ูˆุณูŠู‚ู‰)
05:38
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
05:41
GH: See, I knew nothing about being a stay-at-home parent,
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ุฌู„ูŠู† ู‡ู†ุฑูŠ: ุฑุฃูŠุชู…ุŒ ุฃู†ุง ู„ุง ุฃุนู„ู… ุดูŠุก ุชู…ุงู…ุงู‹ ุนู† ูƒูˆู†ูƒ ุฑุจ ู…ู†ุฒู„ุŒ
05:43
and once I embraced the fact that I knew nothing,
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ูˆููŠ ุงู„ู„ุญุธุฉ ุงู„ุชูŠ ุชู‚ุจู„ุช ููŠู‡ุง ุญู‚ูŠู‚ุฉ ุฃู†ู†ูŠ ู„ุง ุฃุนู„ู… ุฃูŠ ุดูŠุกุŒ
05:46
I began to learn from my new managers.
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ุจุฏุฃุช ุงู„ุชุนู„ู… ู…ู† ู…ุฏุฑุงุฆูŠ ุงู„ุฌุฏุฏ.
05:48
And I always was told
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ูˆู‚ุฏ ุฃูุจู„ุบุช ุฏุงุฆู…ู‹ุง
05:49
that as a stay-at-home parent, you get no sleep.
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ุจุฃู† ูƒูˆู†ูƒ ุฑุจ ู…ู†ุฒู„ุŒ ูู‡ุฐุง ูŠุฌุนู„ูƒ ู„ุง ุชุญุตู„ ุนู„ู‰ ุฃูŠ ู‚ุณุท ู…ู† ุงู„ู†ูˆู….
05:53
Or as a parent in general, you get no sleep.
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ุฃูˆ ูƒูˆู†ูƒ ูˆุงู„ุฏ ุนู…ูˆู…ู‹ุงุŒ ูุฃู†ุช ู„ุง ุชู†ุงู… ุฅุทู„ุงู‚ู‹ุง.
05:55
But that's not true, because if you sleep when they do,
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ูˆู„ูƒู† ู‡ุฐุง ุบูŠุฑ ุตุญูŠุญุŒ ู„ุฃู†ูƒ ุฅุฐุง ู†ู…ุช ูˆุฃุทูุงู„ูƒ ู†ุงุฆู…ูˆู†ุŒ
05:58
you actually can get some sleep.
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ุณูŠู…ูƒู†ูƒ ุงู„ุญุตูˆู„ ุนู„ู‰ ุจุนุถ ุงู„ู†ูˆู….
05:59
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
06:02
You know what else I thought as a stay-at-home parent?
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ุชุนู„ู…ูˆู† ู…ุง ุงู„ุฐูŠ ูƒู†ุช ุฃุธู†ู‡ ุฃูŠุถู‹ุง ูƒูˆุงู„ุฏ ู…ู‚ูŠู… ุจุงู„ู…ู†ุฒู„ุŸ
06:05
I though I knew that the best way to teach kids right from wrong
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ุญุณุจุช ุฃู†ู†ูŠ ุฃุนู„ู… ุฃู† ุฃูุถู„ ุทุฑูŠู‚ุฉ ู„ุชุนู„ูŠู… ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ุงู„ุตูˆุงุจ ู…ู† ุงู„ุฎุทุฃ
06:08
was to discipline them,
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ู‡ูŠ ุชุฃุฏูŠุจู‡ู…ุŒ
06:09
because that would make sure they understood right from wrong,
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ู„ุฃู† ู‡ุฐุง ุณูŠุถู…ู† ุชูู‡ู…ู‡ู… ู„ู„ุตูˆุงุจ ู…ู† ุงู„ุฎุทุฃุŒ
06:12
the pain, the fear -- that would teach them.
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ุงู„ุฃู„ู…ุŒ ุงู„ุฎูˆู.. ูƒููŠู„ ุจุชุนู„ูŠู…ู‡ู….
06:14
But the truth is, the best way to teach my children right from wrong
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ูˆู„ูƒู† ุงู„ุญู‚ูŠู‚ุฉ ู‡ูŠ ุฃู† ุฃูุถู„ ุทุฑูŠู‚ุฉ ู„ุชุนู„ูŠู… ุฃุทูุงู„ูŠ ุงู„ุตูˆุงุจ ู…ู† ุงู„ุฎุทุฃ
06:18
is to teach them.
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ู‡ูŠ ุนู† ุทุฑูŠู‚ ุชุนู„ูŠู…ู‡ู… ุจุงู„ูุนู„.
06:19
Take out a whiteboard and draw pictures and make connections
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ุฎุฐ ู„ูˆุญุฉ ุจูŠุถุงุก ูˆุงุฑุณู… ุตูˆุฑู‹ุง ูˆุงุฎู„ู‚ ุฑูˆุงุจุท
06:22
that they can understand.
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ูŠู…ูƒู†ู‡ู… ูู‡ู…ู‡ุง.
06:23
That was the best way.
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ุชู„ูƒ ู‡ูŠ ุฃูุถู„ ุทุฑูŠู‚ุฉ.
06:26
A lot of these images you're seeing are coming from my YouTube channel,
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ุงู„ุนุฏูŠุฏ ู…ู† ุงู„ุตูˆุฑ ุงู„ุชูŠ ุชุฑูˆู†ู‡ุง ู‡ูŠ ู…ู† ู‚ู†ุงุชูŠ ุนู„ู‰ ุงู„ูŠูˆุชูŠูˆุจุŒ
06:30
"Beleaf in Fatherhood."
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".Beleaf in Fatherhood"
06:31
I document the misadventures of being a stay-at-home dad.
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ุฃู‚ูˆู… ุจุชุณุฌูŠู„ ุงู„ุดู‚ุงุก ุงู„ู†ุงุชุฌ ุนู† ูƒูˆู†ูŠ ุฑุจ ู…ู†ุฒู„.
06:34
And it's not perfect, it's just showing that I'm trying.
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ูˆู‡ูŠ ู„ูŠุณุช ู…ุซุงู„ูŠุฉุŒ ูู‚ุท ุชุธู‡ุฑ ุฃู†ู†ูŠ ุฃุญุงูˆู„.
06:37
And I'm not trying to be an example
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ูˆุฃู†ุง ู„ุง ุฃุญุงูˆู„ ุฃู† ุฃูƒูˆู† ู†ู…ูˆุฐุฌุงู‹
06:38
but just proof that it's possible for whoever else is doing this.
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ูˆู„ูƒู† ู…ุฌุฑุฏ ุฏู„ูŠู„ ุฃู† ุงู„ุฃู…ุฑ ู…ู…ูƒู†ู‹ุง ู„ุฃูŠ ุดุฎุต ุขุฎุฑ ูŠูุนู„ ู‡ุฐุง.
06:43
You know what I also knew about being a stay-at-home parent?
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ุฃุชุนู„ู…ูˆู† ู…ุง ุนุฑูุชู‡ ุฃูŠุถู‹ุง ุญูˆู„ ูƒูˆู†ูƒ ูˆุงู„ุฏุงู‹ ู…ู‚ูŠู… ุจุงู„ู…ู†ุฒู„ุŸ
06:46
I knew that children needed love,
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ุนู„ู…ุช ุฃู† ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ูŠุญุชุงุฌูˆู† ู„ู„ุญุจุŒ
06:48
but I just didn't know what love looked like.
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ูˆู„ูƒู†ูŠ ูู‚ุท ู„ู… ุฃูƒู† ุฃุนู„ู… ูƒูŠู ูŠุจุฏูˆ ุงู„ุญุจ.
06:50
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(ููŠุฏูŠูˆ) (ู…ูˆุณูŠู‚ู‰)
06:57
GH: It turns out putting diapers on your head
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ุฌู„ูŠู† ู‡ู†ุฑูŠ: ุชุจูŠู† ุฃู† ูˆุถุน ุงู„ุญูุงุถ ุนู„ู‰ ุฑุฃุณูƒ
07:00
and play-fighting until the kids fall asleep
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ูˆุงู„ู„ุนุจ ุญุชู‰ ูŠู†ุงู… ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„
07:02
is a great way to love your kids.
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ู‡ูŠ ุทุฑูŠู‚ุฉ ุฑุงุฆุนุฉ ู„ุญุจ ุฃุทูุงู„ูƒ.
07:04
So, I was learning a lot,
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ูƒู†ุช ุฃุชุนู„ู… ุงู„ูƒุซูŠุฑุŒ
07:07
but it's not all fun and boogers, is it?
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ูˆู„ูƒู† ุงู„ุฃู…ุฑ ู„ูŠุณ ู…ู…ุชุนู‹ุง ุฏุงุฆู…ู‹ุงุŒ ุฃู„ูŠุณ ูƒุฐู„ูƒุŸ
07:09
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
07:11
I asked a group of stay-at-home parents what's the hardest thing,
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ุณุฃู„ุช ู…ุฌู…ูˆุนุฉ ู…ู† ุงู„ุฃู‡ุงู„ูŠ ุงู„ู…ู‚ูŠู…ูŠู† ุจุงู„ู…ู†ุฒู„ ุนู† ุฃุตุนุจ ุดู‰ุกุŒ
07:14
the thing they underestimated most about being stay-at-home parents,
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ุฃูƒุซุฑ ู…ุง ุงุณุชุฎููˆุง ุจู‡ ุญูˆู„ ูƒูˆู†ู‡ู… ุฃู‡ู„ ู…ู‚ูŠู…ูŠู† ููŠ ุงู„ู…ู†ุฒู„ุŒ
07:18
and they said that the loneliness was one of those things.
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ูˆู‚ุงู„ูˆุง ุฃู† ุงู„ุดุนูˆุฑ ุจุงู„ูˆุญุฏุฉ ูƒุงู† ุฃุญุฏ ุชู„ูƒ ุงู„ุฃุดูŠุงุก.
07:20
Not having someone else to talk to, feeling inadequate,
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ุนุฏู… ูˆุฌูˆุฏ ุดุฎุต ุขุฎุฑ ู„ุชุชุญุฏุซ ู…ุนู‡ุŒ ุงู„ุดุนูˆุฑ ุจุงู„ู†ู‚ุตุŒ
07:23
feeling selfish for wanting me-time.
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ุงู„ุดุนูˆุฑ ุจุงู„ุฃู†ุงู†ูŠุฉ ู„ุฑุบุจุชูƒ ููŠ ุงู„ุญุตูˆู„ ุนู„ู‰ ูˆู‚ุช ุฎุงุต ุจูƒ.
07:26
And nursery rhymes suck.
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ูˆุฃุบุงู†ูŠ ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ุณูŠุฆุฉ ู„ู„ุบุงูŠุฉ.
07:28
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
07:29
Like, really, "Mary Had a Little Lamb" is cool the first couple of times,
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ูู€ "ู…ุงุฑูŠ ู„ุฏูŠู‡ุง ุญู…ู„ ุตุบูŠุฑ" ุฌูŠุฏุฉ ุญู‚ุงู‹ ููŠ ุฃูˆู„ ู…ุฑุชูŠู†ุŒ
07:33
but after all these years on repeat,
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ูˆู„ูƒู† ุจุนุฏ ุงู„ุชูƒุฑุงุฑ ูƒู„ ุชู„ูƒ ุงู„ุณู†ูˆุงุชุŒ
07:35
you wonder why Mary just ain't make herself a wool skirt
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ุชุชุนุฌุจ ู„ู… ู„ุง ุชู‚ูˆู… ู…ุงุฑูŠ ุจุญูŠุงูƒุฉ ุฌูˆู†ู„ุฉ ู…ู† ุงู„ุตูˆู ู„ู†ูุณู‡ุง
07:38
and have lamb chops, you know what I'm saying?
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ู…ุน ุดุฑุงุฆุญ ู…ู† ู„ุญู… ุงู„ุถุฃู†ุŒ ุชูู‡ู…ูˆู† ู…ุง ุฃุนู†ูŠู‡ุŸ
07:40
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
07:42
The one thing I underestimated most was the emotional fatigue.
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ุฅู† ุฃูƒุซุฑ ู…ุง ุงุณุชู‡ูˆู†ุช ุจู‡ ู‡ูˆ ุงู„ุชุนุจ ุงู„ุนุงุทููŠ.
07:45
See, I was an artist, so I'd write songs for other artists.
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ู„ู‚ุฏ ูƒู†ุช ูู†ุงู†ู‹ุงุŒ ู„ุฐุง ูƒู†ุช ุฃูƒุชุจ ุฃุบุงู†ูŠ ู„ูู†ุงู†ูŠู† ุขุฎุฑูŠู†
07:48
Because that's how I made money from home.
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ู„ุฃู† ุชู„ูƒ ู‡ูŠ ุงู„ุทุฑูŠู‚ุฉ ุงู„ุชูŠ ุฃุฌู†ูŠ ุจู‡ุง ุงู„ู…ุงู„ ู…ู† ุงู„ู…ู†ุฒู„.
07:51
But when you're with your kids all day, you become emotionally tired.
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ูˆู„ูƒู† ุญูŠู† ุชูƒูˆู† ู…ุน ุฃุทูุงู„ูƒ ุทูˆุงู„ ุงู„ูŠูˆู…ุŒ ุชุตุจุญ ู…ุฌู‡ุฏุงู‹ ุนุงุทููŠุงู‹.
07:55
And that means all your creativity comes from your emotions,
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ูˆู‡ุฐุง ูŠุนู†ูŠ ุฃู† ูƒู„ ุฅุจุฏุงุนูƒ ูŠุฃุชูŠ ู…ู† ู…ุดุงุนุฑูƒุŒ
07:58
so youโ€™re just tapped out, you're done.
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ู„ุฐุง ุฃู†ุช ู…ูุณุชุบู„ ุชู…ุงู…ุงู‹ุŒ ู…ู†ุชู‡ูŠ.
08:00
So you become done with time.
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ุชุตุจุญ ู…ูุณุชู‡ู„ูƒ ุชู…ุงู…ุงู‹ ู…ุน ู…ุฑูˆุฑ ุงู„ูˆู‚ุช.
08:04
Nap time, time-tables, time-out, time like to cook,
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ูˆู‚ุช ุงู„ู‚ูŠู„ูˆู„ุฉุŒ ุงู„ุฌุฏุงูˆู„ ุงู„ุฒู…ู†ูŠุฉุŒ ุงู„ูˆู‚ุช ุงู„ู…ุณุชู‚ุทุนุŒ ูˆู‚ุช ู„ู„ุทุจุฎุŒ
08:07
with all types of time, you're just done.
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ูˆู…ุน ูƒู„ ุฃู†ูˆุงุน ุงู„ูˆู‚ุช ู‡ุฐู‡ุŒ ุชุตุจุญ ู…ูู†ุชู‡ูŠ.
08:09
You had no time for anything.
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ู„ุง ูˆู‚ุช ู„ุฏูŠูƒ ู„ุฃูŠ ุดู‰ุก.
08:11
And some people are done with their spouse as a stay-at-home parent.
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ูˆุจุนุถ ุงู„ุฃุดุฎุงุต ู„ุฏูŠู‡ู… ู…ุดุงูƒู„ ู…ุน ุฃุฒูˆุงุฌู‡ู… ุงู„ู…ู‚ูŠู…ูŠู† ุจุงู„ู…ู†ุฒู„.
08:15
Because the spouse just doesn't get it.
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ู„ุฃู†ู‡ู… ู„ุง ูŠุชูู‡ู…ูˆู† ุงู„ุฃู…ุฑ.
08:18
I was talking to a friend of mine, he said,
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ูƒู†ุช ุฃุชุญุฏุซ ู…ุน ุตุฏูŠู‚ ู„ูŠุŒ ูˆู‚ุงู„ ุŒ
08:20
"Man, I come home from work,
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" ุฃุฐู‡ุจ ู„ู„ู…ู†ุฒู„ ุจุนุฏ ุงู„ุนู…ู„ุŒ
08:23
drawers are open, clothes hanging outside the drawers,
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ู„ุฃุฌุฏ ุงู„ุฃุฏุฑุงุฌ ู…ูุชูˆุญุฉุŒ ุงู„ู…ู„ุงุจุณ ู…ุนู„ู‚ุฉ ุฎุงุฑุฌ ุงู„ุฏูˆุงู„ูŠุจุŒ
08:27
the kids are still in their pajamas ...
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ุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ู…ุงุฒุงู„ูˆุง ูŠุฑุชุฏูˆู† ู…ู„ุงุจุณ ุงู„ู†ูˆู…...
08:29
And it can't be that hard to have dinner ready when I get home, right?"
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ูˆู„ุง ูŠู…ูƒู† ุฃู† ูŠูƒูˆู† ุชุฌู‡ูŠุฒ ุงู„ุนุดุงุก ุนู†ุฏ ูˆุตูˆู„ูŠ ู„ู„ู…ู†ุฒู„ ุฃู…ุฑ ุจู‡ุฐู‡ ุงู„ุตุนูˆุจุฉุŒ ุฃู„ูŠุณ ูƒุฐู„ูƒุŸ
08:32
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
08:34
Start to freak out, you know what I'm saying?
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ุจุฏุฃุช ุฃุดุนุฑ ุจุงู„ุฎูˆูุŒ ุฃุชูู‡ู…ูˆู† ู‚ุตุฏูŠุŸ
08:36
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
08:38
He was trying to confide in me --
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ูƒุงู† ูŠุญุงูˆู„ ุฃู† ูŠุจูˆุญ ู„ูŠ..
08:40
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
08:41
I said, "You have no idea what you're talking about."
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ู‚ู„ุช: "ู„ูŠุณ ู„ุฏูŠูƒ ุฃูŠุฉ ููƒุฑุฉ ุนู…ุง ุชุชุญุฏุซ ุนู†ู‡"
08:44
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
08:46
She wakes up every morning, tired from the night before,
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ูู‡ูŠ ุชุณุชูŠู‚ุธ ูƒู„ ุตุจุงุญุŒ ู…ุชุนุจุฉ ู…ู† ุงู„ู„ูŠู„ุฉ ุงู„ุณุงุจู‚ุฉุŒ
08:49
baby attached to her breast, dropping this kid off at school,
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ู‡ู†ุงูƒ ุทูู„ ู…ู„ุชุตู‚ ุจุตุฏุฑู‡ุงุŒ ูˆุขุฎุฑ ุชูˆุตู„ู‡ ู„ู„ู…ุฏุฑุณุฉุŒ
08:52
and taking this one to the park.
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ูˆุชุฃุฎุฐ ู‡ุฐุง ู„ู„ุญุฏูŠู‚ุฉ.
08:53
Laundry piles up to the skies,
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ุฃูƒูˆุงู… ุงู„ุบุณูŠู„ ุชุตู„ ุญุฏ ุงู„ุณู…ุงุกุŒ
08:55
he has a conversation on the phone for an hour with your mom
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ุชุฌุฑู‰ ู…ุญุงุฏุซุฉ ุนุจุฑ ุงู„ู‡ุงุชู ู…ุน ูˆุงู„ุฏุชูƒ ู„ู…ุฏุฉ ุณุงุนุฉ
08:58
about God knows what,
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ุงู„ู„ู‡ ุฃุนู„ู… ุญูˆู„ ู…ุงุฐุงุŒ
08:59
takes the dog you wanted for a walk ...
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ุชุฃุฎุฐ ุงู„ูƒู„ุจ ุงู„ุฐูŠ ุฃุฑุฏุชู‡ ุฃู†ุช ู„ู„ุชู…ุดูŠุฉ ...
09:01
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
09:02
And nobody died, bro.
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ูˆู„ู… ุชุญุฏุซ ุฎุณุงุฆุฑ ูŠุง ุตุฏูŠู‚ูŠ.
09:05
She kept your kids alive all day, that's hard."
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ู„ู‚ุฏ ุฃุจู‚ุช ุฃุทูุงู„ูƒ ุนู„ู‰ ู‚ูŠุฏ ุงู„ุญูŠุงุฉ ุทูˆุงู„ ุงู„ูŠูˆู…ุŒ ูˆู‡ุฐุง ุตุนุจ."
09:07
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
09:10
I have become an advocate for stay-at-home parents.
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ู„ู‚ุฏ ุฃุตุจุญุช ู…ุญุงู…ูŠุงู‹ ู„ุญู‚ูˆู‚ ุงู„ุฃู‡ู„ ุงู„ู…ู‚ูŠู…ูŠู† ุจุงู„ู…ู†ุฒู„.
09:13
Why?
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ู„ู…ุงุฐุงุŸ
09:14
Because finally, I was standing in their shoes.
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ู„ุฃู†ู†ูŠ ุฃุฎูŠุฑุงู‹ุŒ ุฃุตุจุญุช ูˆุงุญุฏุงู‹ ู…ู†ู‡ู….
09:17
Because when you're standing in someone else's shoes,
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ู„ุฃู†ูƒ ุนู†ู…ุง ุชูƒูˆู† ููŠ ู…ูˆู‚ุน ุฃุญุฏู‡ู…ุŒ
09:20
you see the world from a different perspective.
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ุชุฑู‰ ุงู„ุนุงู„ู… ู…ู† ู…ู†ุธูˆุฑ ู…ุฎุชู„ู.
09:22
And when you start to take steps, it feels like baby steps, wobbling.
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ูˆุนู†ุฏู…ุง ุชุจุฏุฃ ููŠ ุฃุฎุฐ ุฎุทูˆุงุชุŒ ูุชุจุฏูˆ ู…ุซู„ ุฎุทูˆุงุช ุงู„ุทูู„ุŒ ู…ุชุฐุจุฐุจ.
09:26
But then they turn into stomps.
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ูˆู„ูƒู†ู‡ุง ุชุชุญูˆู„ ุณุฑูŠุนุงู‹ ู„ุฎุทู‰ ูˆุงุซู‚ุฉ.
09:28
And you start making footprints for the next generation to walk in.
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ูˆุชุจุฏุฃ ููŠ ุญูุฑ ุขุซุงุฑ ุฃู‚ุฏุงู… ู„ู„ุฌูŠู„ ุงู„ุชุงู„ูŠ ู„ู„ุณูŠุฑ ุนู„ู‰ ุฎุทุงู‡ุง.
09:33
See, we're walking on a certain path, as parents.
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ู†ุญู† ู†ุชุฎุฐ ู…ุณุงุฑ ู…ุญุฏุฏ ูƒุฃู‡ุงู„ูŠ.
09:35
We're all in this together.
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ู†ุญู† ุฌู…ูŠุนุง ููŠ ู‡ุฐุง ู…ุนุงู‹.
09:36
No one can deny that family is one of the biggest foundations
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ู„ุง ูŠู…ูƒู† ู„ุฃุญุฏ ุฃู† ูŠู†ูƒุฑ ุฃู† ุงู„ุนุงุฆู„ุฉ ูˆุงุญุฏุฉ ู…ู† ุฃูƒุจุฑ ุงู„ุฑูƒุงุฆุฒ
09:39
in anyone's life.
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ููŠ ุญูŠุงุฉ ุฃูŠ ุดุฎุต.
09:41
And we're all walking on this path,
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ูˆุฌู…ูŠุนู†ุง ู†ุณูŠุฑ ููŠ ู‡ุฐุง ุงู„ุทุฑูŠู‚ุŒ
09:42
and we're pulling these thickets out of the way, and these thorns,
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ูˆุฃุซู†ุงุก ุณูŠุฑู†ุง ู†ู†ุฒุน ุชู„ูƒ ุงู„ุฃุฏุบุงู„ุŒ ูˆุชู„ูƒ ุงู„ุฃุดูˆุงูƒ ุจุนูŠุฏุงู‹ ุนู† ุทุฑูŠู‚ู†ุงุŒ
09:46
making it easier for the ones coming after us.
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ู„ุชุณู‡ูŠู„ ุงู„ุทุฑูŠู‚ ุนู„ู‰ ู…ู† ูŠุนู‚ุจู†ุง.
09:48
It turns out, parenting has a lot more to do with landscaping.
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ุงุชุถุญ ุฃู† ุชุฑุจูŠุฉ ุงู„ุฃุจู†ุงุก ุชุชุนู„ู‚ ูƒุซูŠุฑุงู‹ ุจุงู„ู…ู†ุงุธุฑ ุงู„ุทุจูŠุนูŠุฉ.
09:53
And learning.
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ูˆุงู„ุชุนู„ู….
09:54
More than teaching.
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ุฃูƒุซุฑ ู…ู† ุงู„ุชุนู„ูŠู….
09:58
And the best thing to do is to show up for class.
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ูˆุฃูุถู„ ุดูŠุก ุชูุนู„ู‡ ู‡ูˆ ุฃู† ุชุญุถุฑ ุงู„ุตู.
10:01
Be present is what I learned as a stay-at-home dad.
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ุฃู† ุฃูƒูˆู† ุญุงุถุฑุงู‹ ู‡ูˆ ู…ุง ุชุนู„ู…ุชู‡ ูƒุฃุจ ู…ู‚ูŠู… ุจุงู„ู…ู†ุฒู„.
10:06
And let your presence be a gift.
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ูˆุงุฌุนู„ ู…ู† ุญุถูˆุฑูƒ ุนุทูŠุฉ.
10:08
(Video) Shh.
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(ููŠุฏูŠูˆ) ุตู‡.
10:09
(Door unlocking)
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(ุจุงุจ ูŠููุชุญ)
10:15
Hi!
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ู…ุฑุญุจุงู‹!
10:16
(Children giggling)
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(ุฃุทูุงู„ ูŠุถุญูƒูˆู†)
10:19
(Laughter)
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(ุถุญูƒ)
10:22
GH: This was me, coming home from tour one day.
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ุฌู„ูŠู† ู‡ู†ุฑูŠ: ูƒุงู† ู‡ุฐุง ุฃู†ุงุŒ ุนุงุฆุฏ ู„ู„ู…ู†ุฒู„ ุจุนุฏ ุฌูˆู„ุฉ ููŠ ุฃุญุฏ ุงู„ุฃูŠุงู….
10:25
I thought that the father was supposed to pursue the child.
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ุงุนุชู‚ุฏุช ุฃู†ู‡ ูƒุงู† ู…ู† ุงู„ู…ูุชุฑุถ ุฃู† ูŠุชุงุจุน ุงู„ุฃุจ ุงู„ุทูู„.
10:29
But it turns out the father makes himself present.
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ูˆู„ูƒู† ุงุชุถุญ ุฃู† ุงู„ุฃุจ ุนู„ูŠู‡ ุฃู† ูŠุฌุนู„ ู†ูุณู‡ ุญุงุถุฑุงู‹.
10:33
And the children run after him.
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ูˆุงู„ุฃุทูุงู„ ุชู„ุงุญู‚ู‡.
10:35
And that right there is a superpower.
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ูˆุฐู„ูƒ ููŠ ุญุฏ ุฐุงุชู‡ ู‚ูˆุฉ ุฎุงุฑู‚ุฉ.
10:38
And that right there, my friends, is everything.
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ูˆู‡ุฐุง ูŠุง ุฃุตุฏู‚ุงุฆูŠ ู‡ูˆ ูƒู„ ุดูŠุก.
10:41
Thank you.
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ุดูƒุฑุงู‹.
10:42
(Applause)
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(ุชุตููŠู‚)
ุญูˆู„ ู‡ุฐุง ุงู„ู…ูˆู‚ุน

ุณูŠู‚ุฏู… ู„ูƒ ู‡ุฐุง ุงู„ู…ูˆู‚ุน ู…ู‚ุงุทุน ููŠุฏูŠูˆ YouTube ุงู„ู…ููŠุฏุฉ ู„ุชุนู„ู… ุงู„ู„ุบุฉ ุงู„ุฅู†ุฌู„ูŠุฒูŠุฉ. ุณุชุฑู‰ ุฏุฑูˆุณ ุงู„ู„ุบุฉ ุงู„ุฅู†ุฌู„ูŠุฒูŠุฉ ุงู„ุชูŠ ูŠุชู… ุชุฏุฑูŠุณู‡ุง ู…ู† ู‚ุจู„ ู…ุฏุฑุณูŠู† ู…ู† ุงู„ุฏุฑุฌุฉ ุงู„ุฃูˆู„ู‰ ู…ู† ุฌู…ูŠุน ุฃู†ุญุงุก ุงู„ุนุงู„ู…. ุงู†ู‚ุฑ ู†ู‚ุฑู‹ุง ู…ุฒุฏูˆุฌู‹ุง ููˆู‚ ุงู„ุชุฑุฌู…ุฉ ุงู„ุฅู†ุฌู„ูŠุฒูŠุฉ ุงู„ู…ุนุฑูˆุถุฉ ุนู„ู‰ ูƒู„ ุตูุญุฉ ููŠุฏูŠูˆ ู„ุชุดุบูŠู„ ุงู„ููŠุฏูŠูˆ ู…ู† ู‡ู†ุงูƒ. ูŠุชู… ุชู…ุฑูŠุฑ ุงู„ุชุฑุฌู…ุงุช ุจุงู„ุชุฒุงู…ู† ู…ุน ุชุดุบูŠู„ ุงู„ููŠุฏูŠูˆ. ุฅุฐุง ูƒุงู† ู„ุฏูŠูƒ ุฃูŠ ุชุนู„ูŠู‚ุงุช ุฃูˆ ุทู„ุจุงุช ุŒ ูŠุฑุฌู‰ ุงู„ุงุชุตุงู„ ุจู†ุง ุจุงุณุชุฎุฏุงู… ู†ู…ูˆุฐุฌ ุงู„ุงุชุตุงู„ ู‡ุฐุง.

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