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翻译人员: Liu Qi
校对人员: Yolanda Zhang
00:13
So, I have a friend.
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我的一个朋友,
00:15
She's an actress, she's in her 60s.
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是个女演员,60多岁了。
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She's super bright,
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她非常睿智,
00:20
badass,
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能力超群,
00:22
emotionally intelligent.
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情商很高。
圣诞节前的一天,她去了趟邮局。
00:24
And a couple of days before Christmas,
she was at the post office.
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00:28
It was really crowded,
as it is around the holidays,
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因为马上要过节了,邮局里人很多,
00:31
and she was filling out some forms
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她当时正在填表格,
00:33
and she was really focused.
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专心致志地写着。
00:35
And out of nowhere,
someone moved her out of the way --
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不知道怎么回事,
突然有人把她推开了——
00:40
just physically put their hands on her
and moved her out of the way.
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那个人就那样用手
把她推到了一边。
00:45
He apparently needed something
that she was blocking,
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很明显,我朋友挡住了
那个人需要的东西,
00:48
so he moved her.
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所以他推开了我朋友。
00:50
Maybe he had said something to her,
maybe he didn't, she didn't hear it ...
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可能他跟她说了什么,也许没有,
也可能是我朋友没听到...
不管怎样,她当时正专心填表,
00:54
Either way, she was focused,
she was filling out the form.
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然后就发现有人把手放在她身上,
00:57
And the next thing you know,
there were hands on her,
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接着她就被推开了。
00:59
and she was being moved out of the way.
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01:01
He then got what he was reaching for,
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那个人拿到了他想要的东西,
01:05
whatever she was blocking,
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被我朋友挡住的东西,
01:06
and went on his merry way.
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然后开心的走了。
01:09
She said that she was shocked at first --
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她说,她一开始感到很震惊。
01:12
yeah.
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是的。
01:14
And then a fury rose up in her
that she could not explain:
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接着一股无名怒火油然而生:
01:17
not annoyance,
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不是气恼,
01:19
not frustration,
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不是沮丧,
01:21
but "fury" was the word that she used.
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她说的是“怒火”。
01:24
And she went on to say,
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然后她接着说,
01:26
"I mean, I wanted to get physical.
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“我的意思是,我都想打人了。
01:30
I don't know -- I was furious.
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不知道怎么回事——
当时真是恼火。
01:34
And I don't know why.
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我也不知道为什么。
01:36
I mean, he didn't hit me.
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他并没有打我,
01:38
He didn't hurt me,
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没有伤害我,
01:39
he didn't violate me.
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也没有侵犯我。
01:41
He moved me,
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他只是挪开了我,
01:43
and I wanted to hurt him,
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而我却想打他,
01:46
or at the very least,
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或者至少,
01:47
run after him and yell in his face."
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追过去当面骂他一顿。
01:50
So later, I was left pondering this fury,
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和朋友分开后,我一直
在思索这种怒火,
01:55
and looking for an explanation as to why,
even in her telling of it,
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想弄明白为什么在她讲述的过程中,
02:00
I felt fury, too,
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我也感到恼怒。
02:01
and why this was a word and a feeling
that I was hearing a lot about lately.
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为什么最近总是听说
这个词和这种感受。
02:07
I feel like this is the point in the room
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我觉得现在这个会场里,
02:09
where all the men are getting
a little bit uncomfortable.
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男性们开始变得有点不安了。
02:12
(Laughter)
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(笑声)
02:13
It's OK.
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没事的。
02:15
Stay with me.
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听我说。
02:17
This fury is something
that I have been chomping on
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上一届美国总统大选以来,
02:21
since the last US presidential election.
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我一直思来想去的就是这种怒火。
02:25
And it seems that many women have.
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好像很多女性都有这种感觉。
02:28
This fury was not my friend's alone.
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恼怒的不只是我朋友一个。
02:31
Her fury was ignited
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点燃她怒火的,
02:34
by lifetimes of men
helping themselves to women's bodies
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是长久以来,男性总是未经允许,
就对女性的身体动手动脚。
02:38
without consent.
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02:41
There's a culture of men
helping themselves to women,
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这种侵犯成了一种文化,
02:44
and in this case,
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而在这个例子中,
02:45
in a seemingly innocuous way,
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从以一种看似无害的方式,
02:47
where a woman's body is like a saltshaker:
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好像女性的身体就像盐瓶一样,
02:49
"Get out of the way
so I can get to the fries" --
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“让一让,我要拿那盘薯条”——
02:52
(Laughter)
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(笑声)
02:54
to the most egregious,
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走向极其过分的,
02:56
violent
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暴力的,
02:58
and horrific situations.
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甚至毛骨悚然的境地。
03:01
I imagine that some of you
are wondering what the connection is
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我想你们中的一些人可能在想,
03:04
between the innocuous and the horrific,
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无害和毛骨悚然之间有什么联系,
03:07
two things that seem to be
on opposite ends of the spectrum.
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这二者看似分居情感空间的两端。
03:12
Well, the common thread is the spectrum.
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而二者之间的线索正是情感空间。
03:18
The innocuous makes space
for the horrific.
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无害为毛骨悚然腾出了空间。
03:24
And women have to live
with the effects of both
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女性不得不受二者影响,
03:29
and everything in between.
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在二者之间生存。
03:33
Fellas,
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各位,
03:34
can you imagine you're just on your phone,
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你能想象当你在打电话的时候,
03:38
and someone walks up to you
and just takes it out of your hand?
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有人走过来,然后直接
把电话从你手中拿走吗?
03:41
And they're like, "OK dude,
I don't know why you're getting so upset,
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而他们却一副无所谓的表情,
“哥们,我不知道这有什么好生气的。
03:44
I want to make a phone call.
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我想打个电话。
03:46
I'm going to give it back to you
as soon as I'm done.
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打完电话就还给你。
没什么大不了的。”
03:49
Whatever."
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03:51
And then imagine if someone takes
that cell phone out of your hands --
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再想像一下,如果每天都有人
03:55
I don't know -- once a day,
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从你手中拿走电话,
03:58
twice a day,
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或者一天两次,
03:59
random times.
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无数次。
04:01
And the explanation is,
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理由是,
04:02
"Yeah, well, I mean,
you got a fancy case,"
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“你的手机壳很好看,”
04:06
or "You shouldn't have
taken it out of your pocket,"
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或者“你不该把手机从兜里拿出来,”
04:10
or "Yep. Yeah.
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或者“是啊,没错。
04:12
That's just the way it is."
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我就是拿了。“
04:14
But somehow, no one ever talks about
the person who took the cell phone.
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但是没有人去职责指责
那个拿别人手机的人。
04:21
Overly simplified, I get it,
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我知道我说的有点简单粗暴。
04:23
but you see where I'm going.
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但是你们知道我想说的是什么。
04:27
Men are so used to helping
themselves, that it's like ...
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男性太习惯于不问自取,
04:31
they can't help themselves.
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就好像他们会情不自禁一样。
04:34
And not because men
are fundamentally less moral,
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并不是因为男性天生道德感不强,
04:38
but because this is a very big
blind spot for most men.
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而是因为对于大多数男性
来说,这是一大盲点。
04:46
When someone helps themselves to a woman,
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当有人下意识地替女性做主时,
04:49
it not only triggers
discomfort and distress,
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就会勾起我们那些难过,痛苦,
甚至难言的经历,
04:54
but the unspoken experiences
of our mothers' lives,
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曾经存在于我们母亲的生命中,
04:59
sisters' lives
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我们姐妹的生命中,
05:01
and generations of women before us.
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乃至古往今来所有女性的生命中。
05:05
That's lifetimes of women dealing with men
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世世代代,女性都要
和那些男性打交道,
05:10
who assume they know better for us
than we know for ourselves,
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他们自以为比女性自己
更明白什么是为我们好,
05:15
being the property of husbands,
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成为丈夫的财产,
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landowners,
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地主的财产,
05:20
and having old, white men tell us
the fate of our lady parts;
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由着白人老头决定
我们女性私处的命运;
05:26
lifetimes of having our bodies used
for love and objects of desire,
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世世代代,我们的身体
成为爱和欲望的对象,
05:31
instead of bodies that we get to wield
and use as we choose;
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而不是按照我们自己的选择
来支配我们的身体;
05:39
lifetimes of knowing that whether
we play by their rules or not,
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世世代代,不论我们是不是
按照他们的规则生活,
05:42
we still have to tolerate harassment,
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我们仍然不得不忍受骚扰,
05:46
assault
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攻击,
05:47
and even worse;
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甚至更糟糕的行为;
05:49
lifetimes of our bodies being used
as property that can be hit and hurt,
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世世代代,我们的身体就像
物品,可以被殴打,伤害,
05:55
manipulated and moved
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被摆布,被推开,
05:58
and like objects that are not
deserving of respect;
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像物品一样不值得尊重。
06:03
lifetimes of not being able to express
the anger of our bodies.
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世世代代,我们无法表达身体的愤怒。
06:12
It's no wonder we feel this fury.
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难怪我们会感到恼怒。
06:17
And if you add in the history of race --
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如果追溯到种族的历史——
06:21
which is a whole other talk --
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那是另一个话题了——
06:24
it gets exponentially more complicated.
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这种怒火会变得加倍复杂。
06:30
When women get manhandled,
we start to rationalize,
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当女性受到粗暴对待时,我们
开始试图将该行为合理化,
06:33
try to figure out the ways that it was --
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试着弄清其中的原因——
06:35
"It was probably our fault.
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“可能是我的错。
06:36
You know what? He probably said
something, and I didn't hear him.
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你知道吗,可能他说了
什么,是我自己没听见。
06:41
I'm just overreacting.
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我有点小题大作了。
06:42
I'm totally overreacting."
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是我太小题大作了。“
06:43
No.
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不。
06:45
No.
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没有。
06:47
No.
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不是这样的。
06:49
No, no, no, no, no.
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这样想就大错特错了。
06:52
Women have been trained
to think that we are overreacting
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一直以来,女性都被要求
去反省自己小题大作,
06:57
or that we're being too sensitive
or unreasonable.
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反省自己的敏感和无理。
07:01
We try to make sense of nonsense,
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我们试着去理解这些无理的事情,
07:03
and we swallow the furious feelings.
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然后我们咽下恼火的情绪。
07:05
We try to put them into
some hidden place in our minds,
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试着把怒火放到
脑海中隐蔽的地方,
07:08
but they don't go away.
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但是怒火并没有消失。
07:11
That fury sits deep inside
as we practice our smiles --
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当我们练习微笑的时候,
怒火依然在脑海深处——
07:16
(Giggling) "Yes, of course" --
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(咯咯笑)“是的,当然”——
努力让自己笑脸迎人。
07:19
and try to be pleasant.
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07:20
"I know --" (Giggling)
"Yes, yes, of course,"
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“我知道——” (咯咯笑)
“是,是,当然了,”
07:24
because apparently, women
aren't supposed to get angry.
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因为很明显,大家都
认为女性不应该生气。
07:29
That fury that my friend felt
holds centuries
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我朋友感受的那种恼火
承载了数个世纪以来,
07:35
of never being able to directly address
or express our indignation,
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未能直接说出,或抒发出来的愤慨,
07:43
our frustration
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挫败,
07:44
and our rage.
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和愤怒。
07:48
When someone thinks
they can help themselves to our bodies,
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当有人认为他们可以
替我们的身体做主时,
07:51
it not only ignites the current fury,
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不仅点燃了现下的怒火,
07:55
but it lights up the past.
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更点燃了过去。
07:59
What seems like a benign moment
at the post office
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在邮局看似无害的一幕,
08:03
is actually an anger grenade.
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其实是一枚愤怒的手榴弹。
08:07
Well,
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然后,
08:08
kaboom!
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轰!
08:12
Today, the global collection
of women's experiences
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今天全球女性的经历,
08:16
can no longer be ignored.
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已不能再被忽视了。
08:19
Time's up on thinking
that we're overreacting
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别再怪自己小题大作了,
08:21
or "This is just the way it is."
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或者觉得“本来就是这样的吧。”
08:24
Time's up on women being held responsible
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现在不再是女性
为男性的错误行为负责的时候了。
08:28
for men's bad behavior.
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08:31
It is men's responsibility
to change men's bad behavior.
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男性应该负责改变自己的不当行为。
08:38
(Applause)
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(掌声)
08:46
Our culture is shifting,
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我们的文化正在变迁,
08:48
and it's time.
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是时候改变了。
08:52
So my fellow women
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我的女性同胞们,
08:54
and our gentle men,
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我们的绅士们,
08:58
as we are here together
within this particular window
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我们在此相聚一堂,
09:02
of this large-scale movement
towards women's equality,
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在这个大规模女性平等
运动的特殊窗口,
09:08
and as we envision a future
that does not yet exist,
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当我们展望着一个尚未来临的未来,
09:12
we both have different invitations.
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我们收到了不同的请柬。
09:15
Men,
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男性们,
09:18
I call you in as allies,
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来吧,我的盟友们,
09:23
as we work together towards change.
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让我们一同向着变迁,携手同行。
09:27
May you be accountable
and self-reflective,
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愿你们富有责任心,自省心,
09:33
compassionate and open.
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同情心和包容心。
09:38
May you ask how you can support a woman
and be of service to change.
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愿你们去了解如何支持
女性,如何推动变革。
09:44
And may you get help if you need it.
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愿你们在需要的时候得到帮助。
09:48
And women,
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女性们,
09:51
I encourage you
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我要鼓励你们
09:54
to acknowledge your fury.
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去认识你的怒火。
09:57
Give it language.
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用语言去表达你的怒火。
10:00
Share it in safe places of identification
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在安全的地方,
10:03
and in safe ways.
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以安全的方式分享你的怒火。
10:07
Your fury is not something
to be afraid of.
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不要害怕你的怒火。
10:11
It holds lifetimes of wisdom.
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它承载了世代的智慧。
10:15
Let it breathe
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让它呼吸,
10:19
and listen.
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聆听它。
10:21
Thank you.
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谢谢大家。
10:22
(Applause)
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(掌声)
10:29
Thank you.
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感谢大家。
10:30
(Applause)
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