Tracee Ellis Ross: A woman's fury holds lifetimes of wisdom | TED

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์•„๋ž˜ ์˜๋ฌธ์ž๋ง‰์„ ๋”๋ธ”ํด๋ฆญํ•˜์‹œ๋ฉด ์˜์ƒ์ด ์žฌ์ƒ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋ฒˆ์—ญ: Yoonyoung Chang ๊ฒ€ํ† : Jihyeon J. Kim
00:13
So, I have a friend.
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์ œ ์นœ๊ตฌ ํ•œ ๋ช…์€
00:15
She's an actress, she's in her 60s.
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60๋Œ€์˜ ๋ฐฐ์šฐ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:18
She's super bright,
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๋งค์šฐ ๋ฐ๊ณ 
00:20
badass,
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๊ฑฐ์น ๊ณ 
00:22
emotionally intelligent.
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์ž์‹ ์˜ ๊ฐ์„ฑ์„ ์ž˜ ์••๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:24
And a couple of days before Christmas, she was at the post office.
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ํฌ๋ฆฌ์Šค๋งˆ์Šค๋ฅผ ์•ž๋‘๊ณ  ๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” ์šฐ์ฒด๊ตญ์— ๊ฐ”์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:28
It was really crowded, as it is around the holidays,
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ํœด์ผ ์ „์ด๋ผ ๋งค์šฐ ๋ณต์žกํ•˜์˜€๊ณ 
00:31
and she was filling out some forms
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๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” ์–‘์‹์„ ์ž‘์„ฑํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:33
and she was really focused.
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๊ทธ ์นœ๊ตฌ๋Š” ๋งค์šฐ ์ง‘์ค‘ํ–ˆ์ฃ .
00:35
And out of nowhere, someone moved her out of the way --
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์–ด๋””์„ ์ง€ ๋ชจ๋ฅด๊ฒŒ, ๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€ ๊ทธ๋…€๋ฅผ ๋ฐ€์–ด๋ƒˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:40
just physically put their hands on her and moved her out of the way.
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๊ทธ๋…€์˜ ๋ชธ์— ์†์„ ๋Œ€์–ด ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ๊ณณ์œผ๋กœ ๋ฐ€์–ด๋ƒˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:45
He apparently needed something that she was blocking,
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๊ทธ๋Š” ๋ถ„๋ช…ํžˆ ๊ทธ๋…€๊ฐ€ ๋ง‰๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ๋ฌด์–ธ๊ฐ€๊ฐ€ ํ•„์š”ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:48
so he moved her.
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ๊ทธ๋…€๋ฅผ ์˜ฎ๊ธด ๊ฑฐ์ฃ .
00:50
Maybe he had said something to her, maybe he didn't, she didn't hear it ...
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์–ด์ฉŒ๋ฉด ๊ทธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด ๋ญ๋ผ๊ณ  ๋งํ–ˆ์„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ณ , ๋งํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜, ๊ทธ๋…€๊ฐ€ ๋ชป ๋“ค์—ˆ์„ ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ์ฃ .
00:54
Either way, she was focused, she was filling out the form.
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์–ด๋Š ์ชฝ์ด๋˜, ๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” ์ง‘์ค‘ํ–ˆ๊ณ , ์–‘์‹์„ ์ž‘์„ฑํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:57
And the next thing you know, there were hands on her,
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ ๋Š” ๊ทธ๋…€์—๊ฒŒ ์†์ด ๋‹ฟ์•˜์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” ๋ฐ€๋ ค๋‚˜๊ฒŒ ๋˜์—ˆ์ฃ .
00:59
and she was being moved out of the way.
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01:01
He then got what he was reaching for,
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๊ทธ๋Š” ์†์„ ๋ป—์–ด ์›ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๊ฐ€์กŒ๊ณ 
01:05
whatever she was blocking,
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๊ทธ๋…€๊ฐ€ ๋ง‰๊ณ  ์žˆ๋˜ ๊ฒŒ ๋ฌด์—‡์ด๋“  ๊ฐ„์—์š”.
01:06
and went on his merry way.
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ ๋Š” ์œ ์œ ํžˆ ์ž๊ธฐ ๊ธธ์„ ๊ฐ”์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:09
She said that she was shocked at first --
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๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” ์ฒ˜์Œ์— ๋„ˆ๋ฌด๋‚˜ ์ถฉ๊ฒฉ์„ ๋ฐ›์•˜๋‹ค๊ณ  ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:12
yeah.
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๋„ค.
01:14
And then a fury rose up in her that she could not explain:
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ ๋Š” ์„ค๋ช…ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์—†๋Š” ๋ถ„๋…ธ๊ฐ€ ์น˜๋ฐ€์–ด ์˜ฌ๋ž์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:17
not annoyance,
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์งœ์ฆ์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ
01:19
not frustration,
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๋‹ต๋‹ตํ•จ์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ
01:21
but "fury" was the word that she used.
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"๋ถ„๋…ธ"๋ผ๋Š” ๋‹จ์–ด๋ฅผ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:24
And she went on to say,
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋งํ•˜๊ธฐ๋ฅผ
01:26
"I mean, I wanted to get physical.
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"๋‚œ ์ •๋ง ๋ณ‘์›์— ๊ฐ€์„œ ๊ฒ€์‚ฌ ๋ฐ›๊ณ  ์‹ถ์—ˆ์–ด.
01:30
I don't know -- I was furious.
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๋ชจ๋ฅด๊ฒ ์–ด, ๋‚œ ๋ถ„๋…ธํ–ˆ์–ด.
01:34
And I don't know why.
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์ด์œ ๋ฅผ ๋ชจ๋ฅด๊ฒ ์–ด.
01:36
I mean, he didn't hit me.
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๊ทธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด ๋‚˜๋ฅผ ์นœ ๊ฒƒ๋„ ์•„๋‹ˆ๊ณ 
01:38
He didn't hurt me,
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๋‹ค์น˜๊ฒŒ ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์•˜์–ด.
01:39
he didn't violate me.
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๋‚˜์—๊ฒŒ ํญ๋ ฅ์„ ํ–‰์‚ฌํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์•˜์–ด.
01:41
He moved me,
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๋‚˜๋ฅผ ์˜ฎ๊ฒผ์ง€.
01:43
and I wanted to hurt him,
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋‚œ ๊ทธ๋ฅผ ํ•œ ๋Œ€ ์น˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์—ˆ์–ด.
01:46
or at the very least,
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์•„๋‹ˆ๋ฉด ์ตœ์†Œํ•œ
01:47
run after him and yell in his face."
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๊ทธ๋ฅผ ๋”ฐ๋ผ๊ฐ€์„œ ๊ทธ ์–ผ๊ตด์— ์†Œ๋ฆฌ ์ง€๋ฅด๊ณ  ์‹ถ์—ˆ์–ด."
01:50
So later, I was left pondering this fury,
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๋‚˜์ค‘์— ์ €๋Š” ์ด ๋ถ„๋…ธ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๊ณฐ๊ณฐ์ด ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ด๋ณด์•˜์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:55
and looking for an explanation as to why, even in her telling of it,
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๊ทธ๋…€๊ฐ€ ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๋™์•ˆ์—๋„ ์™œ ๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ์ง€ ์ด์œ ๋ฅผ ์ฐพ์œผ๋ ค ํ–ˆ์ฃ .
02:00
I felt fury, too,
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์ € ์—ญ์‹œ ๋ถ„๋…ธ๋ฅผ ๋Š๊ผˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:01
and why this was a word and a feeling that I was hearing a lot about lately.
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์™œ ์ด ๋‹จ์–ด๊ฐ€ ์ตœ๊ทผ์— ๋งŽ์ด ๋“ฃ๋Š” ๋‹จ์–ด์™€ ๊ฐ์ •์ผ๊นŒ์š”.
02:07
I feel like this is the point in the room
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์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ๋Š๋‚€ ๊ฒƒ์ด ์˜ค๋Š˜์˜ ์š”์ง€์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:09
where all the men are getting a little bit uncomfortable.
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๋‚จ์„ฑ๋ถ„๋“ค์€ ์กฐ๊ธˆ ๋ถˆํŽธํ•˜๊ฒ ์ง€๋งŒ์š”.
02:12
(Laughter)
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(์›ƒ์Œ)
02:13
It's OK.
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๊ดœ์ฐฎ์•„์š”.
02:15
Stay with me.
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์ €์™€ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ํ•˜์‹œ์ฃ .
02:17
This fury is something that I have been chomping on
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์ด ๋ถ„๋…ธ๋Š” ์ง€๋‚œ ๋ฏธ๊ตญ ๋Œ€ํ†ต๋ น ์„ ๊ฑฐ๋ถ€ํ„ฐ
02:21
since the last US presidential election.
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ๊ณฑ์”น์–ด์™”๋˜ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:25
And it seems that many women have.
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๋งŽ์€ ์—ฌ์„ฑ๋“ค๋„ ๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ๊ฒƒ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ๋ณด์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:28
This fury was not my friend's alone.
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์ œ ์นœ๊ตฌ๋งŒ ์ด๋Ÿฐ ๋ถ„๋…ธ๋ฅผ ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒŒ ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:31
Her fury was ignited
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๊ทธ๋…€์˜ ๋ถ„๋…ธ๋Š”
02:34
by lifetimes of men helping themselves to women's bodies
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๋™์˜ ์—†์ด ํ‰์ƒ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์˜ ๋ชธ์„ ๋งˆ์Œ๋Œ€๋กœ ํ•˜๋Š”
02:38
without consent.
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๋‚จ์„ฑ๋“ค์— ์˜ํ•ด ํƒ€์˜ฌ๋ž์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:41
There's a culture of men helping themselves to women,
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๋‚จ์„ฑ์ด ์—ฌ์„ฑ์—๊ฒŒ ๋งˆ์Œ๋Œ€๋กœ ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฌธํ™”๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:44
and in this case,
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์ด ๊ฒฝ์šฐ๋Š”
02:45
in a seemingly innocuous way,
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๊ฒ‰์œผ๋กœ๋Š” ์•…์˜๊ฐ€ ์—†๋Š” ๊ฒƒ ๊ฐ™์ง€๋งŒ
02:47
where a woman's body is like a saltshaker:
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์—ฌ์„ฑ์˜ ๋ชธ์„ ์†Œ๊ธˆํ†ต์œผ๋กœ ์ทจ๊ธ‰ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๊ณผ ๊ฐ™์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:49
"Get out of the way so I can get to the fries" --
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"๋‚ด ํŠ€๊น€ ๋จน๊ฒŒ ๋น„์ผœ,"
02:52
(Laughter)
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(์›ƒ์Œ)
02:54
to the most egregious,
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๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ง€๋…ํ•˜๊ณ 
02:56
violent
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ํญ๋ ฅ์ ์ด๊ณ 
02:58
and horrific situations.
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๋”์ฐํ•œ ์ƒํ™ฉ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:01
I imagine that some of you are wondering what the connection is
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„ ์ค‘ ๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€๋Š” ์•…์˜ ์—†๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๊ณผ ๋”์ฐํ•œ ๊ฒƒ ๊ฐ„์˜ ์—ฐ๊ฒฐ๊ณ ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€
03:04
between the innocuous and the horrific,
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๋ฌด์—‡์ธ์ง€ ๊ถ๊ธˆํ•ด ํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ด๋ผ ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:07
two things that seem to be on opposite ends of the spectrum.
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๋‘ ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ฐ€ ์ŠคํŽ™ํŠธ๋Ÿผ ์ƒ์˜ ์–‘๋‹จ์— ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ๋ณด์ด์ง€์š”.
03:12
Well, the common thread is the spectrum.
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๋„ค, ๊ณตํ†ต์ ์€ ์ŠคํŽ™ํŠธ๋Ÿผ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:18
The innocuous makes space for the horrific.
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์•…์˜ ์—†๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ๊ณต๊ฐ„์„ ๋”์ฐํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋งŒ๋“ญ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:24
And women have to live with the effects of both
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์—ฌ์„ฑ์€ ๋‘˜ ๋‹ค ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๊ทธ ์‚ฌ์ด์— ์žˆ๋Š” ๋ชจ๋“  ๊ฒƒ๊ณผ
03:29
and everything in between.
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์‚ด์•„์•ผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:33
Fellas,
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„
03:34
can you imagine you're just on your phone,
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์ „ํ™”๋ฅผ ๋ฐ›๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š”๋ฐ
03:38
and someone walks up to you and just takes it out of your hand?
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๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€๊ฐ€ ์™€์„œ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„ ์†์—์„œ ํฐ์„ ๊ฐ€์ ธ๊ฐ€๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์ƒ์ƒํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋‚˜์š”?
03:41
And they're like, "OK dude, I don't know why you're getting so upset,
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ ์„œ ์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ๋งํ•œ๋‹ค๋ฉด "์ข‹์•„, ์™œ ๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ํ™”๋‚ฌ๋Š”์ง€ ์ž˜ ๋ชจ๋ฅด๊ฒ ๋Š”๋ฐ.
03:44
I want to make a phone call.
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๋‚œ ์ „ํ™”๋ฅผ ํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ๊ฑฐ๋“ .
03:46
I'm going to give it back to you as soon as I'm done.
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ํ†ตํ™” ๋๋‚˜๊ณ  ๋ฐ”๋กœ ์ค„ ๊ฑฐ์•ผ.
03:49
Whatever."
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์–ด์จŒ๋“ ."
03:51
And then imagine if someone takes that cell phone out of your hands --
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๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€๊ฐ€ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์˜ ์†์—์„œ ํœด๋Œ€ํฐ์„ ๊ฐ€์ ธ ๊ฐ„๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ์ƒํ•ด ๋ณด์„ธ์š”.
03:55
I don't know -- once a day,
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๊ธ€์Ž„, ํ•˜๋ฃจ์— ํ•œ ๋ฒˆ
03:58
twice a day,
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ํ•˜๋ฃจ์— ๋‘ ๋ฒˆ
03:59
random times.
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์ˆ˜์‹œ๋กœ
04:01
And the explanation is,
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์„ค๋ช…์€ ์ด๋ ‡์ฃ .
04:02
"Yeah, well, I mean, you got a fancy case,"
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"์•„, ์ผ€์ด์Šค๊ฐ€ ๋ฉ‹์ง€๋„ค."
04:06
or "You shouldn't have taken it out of your pocket,"
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ํ˜น์€ "์ฃผ๋จธ๋‹ˆ์— ๋„ฃ์—ˆ์œผ๋ฉด ์•ˆ ๊ฐ€์ ธ๊ฐ”์ง€."
04:10
or "Yep. Yeah.
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ํ˜น์€ "์‘, ๊ทธ๋ž˜.
04:12
That's just the way it is."
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์›๋ž˜ ๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ๊ฑฐ์•ผ."
04:14
But somehow, no one ever talks about the person who took the cell phone.
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์™ ์ง€, ํœด๋Œ€ํฐ์„ ๊ฐ€์ ธ๊ฐ„ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด์„œ๋Š” ์•„๋ฌด๋„ ๋งํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:21
Overly simplified, I get it,
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์ง€๋‚˜์น˜๊ฒŒ ๋‹จ์ˆœํ™”ํ•œ ๊ฒƒ ์ €๋„ ์•Œ์•„์š”.
04:23
but you see where I'm going.
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ œ๊ฐ€ ๋ญ˜ ๋งํ•˜๋ ค๋Š”์ง€ ์•Œ ๊ฒ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:27
Men are so used to helping themselves, that it's like ...
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๋‚จ์„ฑ๋“ค์€ ๋งˆ์Œ๋Œ€๋กœ ํ•˜๋Š”๋ฐ ๋งค์šฐ ์ต์ˆ™ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:31
they can't help themselves.
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์Šค์Šค๋กœ ์–ด์ฉ” ์ˆ˜ ์—†๋‚˜๋ด…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:34
And not because men are fundamentally less moral,
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๋‚จ์„ฑ์ด ๊ทผ๋ณธ์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋œ ๋„๋•์ ์ด์–ด์„œ๊ฐ€ ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ
04:38
but because this is a very big blind spot for most men.
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๋Œ€๋ถ€๋ถ„ ๋‚จ์„ฑ๋“ค์˜ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ํฐ ๋งน์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:46
When someone helps themselves to a woman,
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๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€๊ฐ€ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์—๊ฒŒ ๋งˆ์Œ๋Œ€๋กœ ํ•  ๋•Œ
04:49
it not only triggers discomfort and distress,
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๋ถˆํŽธ๊ณผ ๊ณ ํ†ต๋ฟ ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ
04:54
but the unspoken experiences of our mothers' lives,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ ์—„๋งˆ๋“ค ์‚ถ์˜ ๋ฌด์–ธ์˜ ๊ฒฝํ—˜์„ ์œ ๋„ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:59
sisters' lives
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์—ฌ๋™์ƒ์˜ ์‚ถ
05:01
and generations of women before us.
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ด์ „ ์—ฌ์„ฑ ์„ธ๋Œ€ ์‚ถ์˜ ๊ฒฝํ—˜์„ ์œ ๋„ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:05
That's lifetimes of women dealing with men
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๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ํ‰์ƒ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์ด ๋‚จ์„ฑ์„ ๋Œ€์ฒ˜ํ•ด ์˜จ ๋ฐฉ์‹์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:10
who assume they know better for us than we know for ourselves,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์Šค์Šค๋กœ๋ฅผ ์•„๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๋ณด๋‹ค ๊ทธ๋“ค์ด ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์—๊ฒŒ ๋” ์ข‹์€ ๊ฒƒ์„ ์•ˆ๋‹ค ์ƒ๊ฐํ•˜๋Š”
05:15
being the property of husbands,
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๋‚จํŽธ์˜ ์†Œ์œ ๋ฌผ์ด ๋˜๊ณ 
05:18
landowners,
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์ง€์ฃผ์˜ ์†Œ์œ ๋ฌผ์ด ๋˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ
05:20
and having old, white men tell us the fate of our lady parts;
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๋Š™์€ ๋ฐฑ์ธ ๋‚จ์„ฑ์ด ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์—๊ฒŒ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์˜ ์šด๋ช…์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋งํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:26
lifetimes of having our bodies used for love and objects of desire,
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ํ‰์ƒ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ๋ชธ์€ ์‚ฌ๋ž‘๊ณผ ์š•๋ง์˜ ๋Œ€์ƒ์ด ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:31
instead of bodies that we get to wield and use as we choose;
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์„ ํƒํ•œ ๋Œ€๋กœ ๋ชธ์„ ์›€์ง์ด๊ณ  ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ๋Œ€์‹ ์—์š”.
05:39
lifetimes of knowing that whether we play by their rules or not,
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๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ๋ฒ•์น™์— ๋”ฐ๋ฅด๋Š”์ง€ ์•„๋‹Œ์ง€ ํ‰์ƒ ์•Œ๋ฉด์„œ๋„
05:42
we still have to tolerate harassment,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์—ฌ์ „ํžˆ ํฌ๋กฑ
05:46
assault
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ํญํ–‰์„ ์ฐธ์•„์•ผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:47
and even worse;
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๋” ๋‚˜์˜๊ฒŒ๋Š”
05:49
lifetimes of our bodies being used as property that can be hit and hurt,
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ํ‰์ƒ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ๋ชธ์ด ๋งž๊ณ  ๋‹ค์น˜๋Š” ์†Œ์œ ๋ฌผ๋กœ ์‚ฌ์šฉ๋˜๊ณ 
05:55
manipulated and moved
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์กฐ์ข…๋˜๊ณ  ์˜ฎ๊ฒจ์ง‘๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:58
and like objects that are not deserving of respect;
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์กด์ค‘ํ•  ๊ฐ€์น˜๊ฐ€ ์—†๋Š” ๋ฌผ๊ฑด์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ๋ง์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:03
lifetimes of not being able to express the anger of our bodies.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ ๋ชธ์˜ ํ™”๋ฅผ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์—†๋Š” ์‚ถ์ด์ฃ .
06:12
It's no wonder we feel this fury.
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์ด๋Ÿฐ ๋ถ„๋…ธ๋ฅผ ๋Š๋ผ๋Š” ๊ฒŒ ๋‹น์—ฐํ•˜์ฃ .
06:17
And if you add in the history of race --
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์ธ์ข…์˜ ์—ญ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ์ถ”๊ฐ€ํ•œ๋‹ค๋ฉด
06:21
which is a whole other talk --
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์™„์ „ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ์ด์ง€๋งŒ
06:24
it gets exponentially more complicated.
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๊ธฐํ•˜๊ธ‰์ˆ˜์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋” ๋ณต์žกํ•ด์ง‘๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:30
When women get manhandled, we start to rationalize,
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๋‚จ์„ฑ์ด ์—ฌ์„ฑ์„ ๊ฑด๋“œ๋ฆฌ๋ฉด, ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ํ•ฉ๋ฆฌํ™”ํ•˜๊ธฐ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:33
try to figure out the ways that it was --
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์›๋ž˜ ๊ทธ๋ ‡๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•˜๋ ค ํ•˜๊ณ 
06:35
"It was probably our fault.
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"์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ์ž˜๋ชป์ผ ๊ฑฐ์•ผ.
06:36
You know what? He probably said something, and I didn't hear him.
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์•„๋งˆ๋„ ๋ญ”๊ฐ€ ๋งํ–ˆ๋Š”๋ฐ ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ๋ชป ๋“ค์€ ๊ฑฐ๊ฒ ์ง€.
06:41
I'm just overreacting.
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๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ๊ณผ์ž‰๋ฐ˜์‘ํ•œ ๊ฑฐ์•ผ.
06:42
I'm totally overreacting."
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์™„์ „ ์˜ค๋ฒ„์•ผ."
06:43
No.
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์•„๋‹ˆ.
06:45
No.
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์•„๋‹ˆ.
06:47
No.
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์•„๋‹ˆ.
06:49
No, no, no, no, no.
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์•„๋‹ˆ. ์•„๋‹ˆ. ์•„๋‹ˆ. ์•„๋‹ˆ. ์•„๋‹ˆ์—์š”.
06:52
Women have been trained to think that we are overreacting
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์—ฌ์„ฑ์€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๊ณผ์ž‰๋ฐ˜์‘ ํ•œ ๊ฒƒ์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•˜๋„๋ก ํ›ˆ๋ จ๋ฐ›์•˜์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:57
or that we're being too sensitive or unreasonable.
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ํ˜น์€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ๋ฏผ๊ฐํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๋น„์ด์„ฑ์ ์ธ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:01
We try to make sense of nonsense,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๋ง๋„ ์•ˆ ๋˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๋ง์ด ๋˜๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๋ ค ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:03
and we swallow the furious feelings.
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋ถ„๋…ธ์˜ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ์‚ผํ‚ต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:05
We try to put them into some hidden place in our minds,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ ๋งˆ์Œ์— ์ˆจ๊ฒจ์ง„ ๊ณณ ์–ด๋”˜๊ฐ€ ๋‘๋ ค ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ
07:08
but they don't go away.
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์‚ฌ๋ผ์ง€์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:11
That fury sits deep inside as we practice our smiles --
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๊ทธ ๋ถ„๋…ธ๋Š” ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๋ฏธ์†Œ๋ฅผ ์—ฐ์Šตํ•  ๋•Œ ๋‚ด๋ฉด ๊นŠ์€ ๊ณณ์— ์žˆ์ฃ .
07:16
(Giggling) "Yes, of course" --
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(๋‚„๋‚„) "๋„ค, ๋ฌผ๋ก "
07:19
and try to be pleasant.
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ฆ๊ฑฐ์šด ์ฒ™ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:20
"I know --" (Giggling) "Yes, yes, of course,"
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"๋„ค." (๋‚„๋‚„) "๋„ค, ๋„ค, ๋ฌผ๋ก ์ด์ฃ ,"
07:24
because apparently, women aren't supposed to get angry.
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์™œ๋ƒ๋ฉด ๋ถ„๋ช…ํžˆ, ์—ฌ์„ฑ์€ ํ™”๋‚ด๋ฉด ์•ˆ๋˜๋‹ˆ๊นŒ์š”.
07:29
That fury that my friend felt holds centuries
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๋‚ด ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ๋Š๋‚€ ๊ทธ ๋ถ„๋…ธ๋Š” ์ˆ˜ ์„ธ๊ธฐ์— ๊ฑธ์นœ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:35
of never being able to directly address or express our indignation,
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๊ฒฐ์ฝ” ์ง์ ‘ ์ฒ˜๋ฆฌํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๋ถ„ํ•จ์„
07:43
our frustration
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๋‹ต๋‹ตํ•จ์„
07:44
and our rage.
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๊ฒฉ๋ถ„ํ•จ์„ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์—†๋Š” ๊ฑฐ์ฃ .
07:48
When someone thinks they can help themselves to our bodies,
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๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€๊ฐ€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ๋ชธ์„ ์ž๊ธฐ ๋งˆ์Œ๋Œ€๋กœ ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•œ๋‹ค๋ฉด
07:51
it not only ignites the current fury,
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๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ํ˜„์žฌ์˜ ๋ถ„๋…ธ๋ฅผ ์ผ๊นจ์šฐ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ ๋ฟ ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ
07:55
but it lights up the past.
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๊ณผ๊ฑฐ๋„ ๋ถˆ์ง€ํ”ผ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:59
What seems like a benign moment at the post office
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์šฐ์ฒด๊ตญ์—์„œ์˜ ์•„๋ฌด์ผ ์•„๋‹Œ ๋“ฏ ๋ณด์ด๋Š” ์ˆœ๊ฐ„์€
08:03
is actually an anger grenade.
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์‹ค์ œ๋กœ๋Š” ๋ถ„๋…ธ ์ˆ˜๋ฅ˜ํƒ„์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:07
Well,
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์Œ
08:08
kaboom!
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์šฐ๋ฅด๋ฅด ๊ฝ!
08:12
Today, the global collection of women's experiences
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์˜ค๋Š˜๋‚  ์ „์„ธ๊ณ„ ์—ฌ์„ฑ๋“ค์˜ ๊ฒฝํ—˜์€
08:16
can no longer be ignored.
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๋” ์ด์ƒ ๋ฌด์‹œ๋  ์ˆ˜ ์—†์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:19
Time's up on thinking that we're overreacting
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๊ณผ์ž‰ ๋ฐ˜์‘ํ–ˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ํ˜น์€
08:21
or "This is just the way it is."
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"์›๋ž˜ ๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ๊ฑฐ์•ผ." ๋ผ๋Š” ์ƒ๊ฐ์„ ๋ฉˆ์ถ”๊ณ 
08:24
Time's up on women being held responsible
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๋‚จ์„ฑ์˜ ๋‚˜์œ ํ–‰๋™์ด ์—ฌ์„ฑ ์ฑ…์ž„์ด๋ž€ ๊ฒƒ์„ ๋ฉˆ์ถฐ์•ผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:28
for men's bad behavior.
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08:31
It is men's responsibility to change men's bad behavior.
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๋‚จ์„ฑ์˜ ๋‚˜์œ ํ–‰๋™์„ ๋ฐ”๊พธ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋‚จ์„ฑ์˜ ์ฑ…์ž„์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:38
(Applause)
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(๋ฐ•์ˆ˜)
08:46
Our culture is shifting,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ ๋ฌธํ™”๋Š” ๋ฐ”๋€Œ๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:48
and it's time.
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ด์ œ๋Š” ๋ฐ”๋€” ๋•Œ์ฃ .
08:52
So my fellow women
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์—ฌ์„ฑ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„
08:54
and our gentle men,
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์‹ ์‚ฌ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„
08:58
as we are here together within this particular window
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์ง€๊ธˆ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์—ฌ๊ธฐ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์žˆ๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์—
09:02
of this large-scale movement towards women's equality,
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์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ์—ฌ์„ฑ ํ‰๋“ฑ์„ ํ–ฅํ•œ ๋Œ€๊ทœ๋ชจ ์šด๋™
09:08
and as we envision a future that does not yet exist,
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ง€๊ธˆ๊นŒ์ง€ ์—†์—ˆ๋˜ ๋ฏธ๋ž˜๋ฅผ ์กฐ๋งํ•˜๋ฉด์„œ
09:12
we both have different invitations.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ ๋ชจ๋‘๋Š” ๊ฐ์ž ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์ดˆ๋Œ€๋ฅผ ๋ฐ›์•˜์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:15
Men,
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๋‚จ์„ฑ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„
09:18
I call you in as allies,
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์ €๋Š” ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์„ ๋™์ง€๋กœ ์ดˆ๋Œ€ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:23
as we work together towards change.
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๋ณ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ์œ„ํ•ด ํ•จ๊ป˜ ํ•ด์•ผ ํ•˜๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:27
May you be accountable and self-reflective,
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ์ฑ…์ž„ ์žˆ๊ณ , ์Šค์Šค๋กœ ์„ฑ์ฐฐํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ณ 
09:33
compassionate and open.
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์ž์• ๋กญ๊ณ , ๊ฐœ๋ฐฉ์ ์ด๊ธธ ๋ฐ”๋ž๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:38
May you ask how you can support a woman and be of service to change.
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์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ์—ฌ์„ฑ์„ ์ง€์›ํ• ์ง€ ๋ฌป๊ณ  ๋ณ€ํ™”์— ๋„์›€์ด ๋  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ธธ ๋ฐ”๋ž๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:44
And may you get help if you need it.
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ํ•„์š”์‹œ ๋„์›€ ๋ฐ›์„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ธธ ๋ฐ”๋ž๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:48
And women,
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์—ฌ์„ฑ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„
09:51
I encourage you
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์ €๋Š” ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด
09:54
to acknowledge your fury.
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๋ถ„๋…ธ๋ฅผ ์ธ์ •ํ•˜๊ณ 
09:57
Give it language.
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๋ง๋กœ ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ธธ ๋ฐ”๋ž๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:00
Share it in safe places of identification
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์•ˆ์ „ํ•œ ๊ณณ์—์„œ ์•ˆ์ „ํ•œ ๋ฐฉ์‹์œผ๋กœ
10:03
and in safe ways.
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๊ณต์œ ํ•˜์„ธ์š”.
10:07
Your fury is not something to be afraid of.
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์˜ ๋ถ„๋…ธ๋Š” ๋‘๋ ค์›Œ ํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ด ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:11
It holds lifetimes of wisdom.
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๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ํ‰์ƒ์˜ ์ง€ํ˜œ๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€์ง‘๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:15
Let it breathe
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์ˆจ์‰ฌ๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๊ณ 
10:19
and listen.
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๋“ค์–ด๋ณด์„ธ์š”.
10:21
Thank you.
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๊ฐ์‚ฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:22
(Applause)
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(๋ฐ•์ˆ˜)
10:29
Thank you.
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๊ฐ์‚ฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:30
(Applause)
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์ด ์›น์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ ์ •๋ณด

์ด ์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ๋Š” ์˜์–ด ํ•™์Šต์— ์œ ์šฉํ•œ YouTube ๋™์˜์ƒ์„ ์†Œ๊ฐœํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ „ ์„ธ๊ณ„ ์ตœ๊ณ ์˜ ์„ ์ƒ๋‹˜๋“ค์ด ๊ฐ€๋ฅด์น˜๋Š” ์˜์–ด ์ˆ˜์—…์„ ๋ณด๊ฒŒ ๋  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฐ ๋™์˜์ƒ ํŽ˜์ด์ง€์— ํ‘œ์‹œ๋˜๋Š” ์˜์–ด ์ž๋ง‰์„ ๋”๋ธ” ํด๋ฆญํ•˜๋ฉด ๊ทธ๊ณณ์—์„œ ๋™์˜์ƒ์ด ์žฌ์ƒ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋น„๋””์˜ค ์žฌ์ƒ์— ๋งž์ถฐ ์ž๋ง‰์ด ์Šคํฌ๋กค๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜๊ฒฌ์ด๋‚˜ ์š”์ฒญ์ด ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒฝ์šฐ ์ด ๋ฌธ์˜ ์–‘์‹์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜์—ฌ ๋ฌธ์˜ํ•˜์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค.

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