What working parents really need from workplaces | The Way We Work, a TED series

Transcriber: Leslie Gauthier Reviewer:

Every parent is a working parent,

Translator: Aidi Kerjaan Reviewer: Hafizh Alfarisi

Setiap orang tua itu bekerja, baik bekerja di luar atau di dalam rumah.

whether they have a job outside of the home or not.

[The Way We Work]

[Cara Kita Bekerja]

(Musik)

Saat aku memasuki kantor, aku bangun tiga jam lebih awal,

When Angela shows up at the office,

know that Angela has been up for at least three hours,

had her hand covered in human excrement,

tanganku berlumuran kotoran manusia.

unwedged a small person

Lalu, aku mengeluarkan anak yang terjepit di antara mesin cuci dan dinding,

who has become lodged in between the washing machine and the wall,

gotten down on her hands and knees and picked up oatmeal off the carpet.

merangkak untuk membersihkan tumpahan oatmeal di karpet.

Domestic labor,

Itulah tugas rumah tangga, hal yang menjadikan kami orang tua.

which is what parenting is and everything that goes along with parenting,

Tidak hanya mengurus anak.

it’s not just taking care of a child;

it’s keeping a household running,

Kami membuat rumah tangga tetap berfungsi,

washing dishes,

mencuci piring dan baju, membuat jadwal yang ketat

doing laundry,

it’s keeping the schedule tight.

Kita beranggapan tugas rumah tangga diselesaikan oleh istri di rumah.

We again assume that that work will be done by a wife who’s at home.

The reality has progressed beyond where we’re at policy-wise.

Kenyataannya telah bergeser di luar praktik umumnya.

Most people need multiple sources of income,

Kebanyakan orang butuh beragam sumber penghasilan.

Perempuan ingin bekerja di luar rumah,

women want to work outside of the home --

we’re still expected to do all of the same things.

tapi diharapkan mengerjakan tugas yang sama.

And so now we outsource a lot of that parenting work

Kita pun menyerahkan tugas mengasuh anak ke orang luar,

to other women,

ke perempuan lain, terutama dari kulit berwarna.

and mainly women of color.

Kita tidak memberikannya upah dan nilai budaya

We don’t give it financial, cultural value,

and so we don’t see it as real work.

sehingga kita tidak melihatnya sebagai pekerjaan.

Care is really the backbone of our society.

Pengasuhanlah yang menopang masyarakat.

Tugas itu membuat pekerjaan yang lain ada.

That work is what makes all other work possible.

So how should we support parents in the workplace?

Jadi, bagaimana mendukung orang tua yang bekerja?

[Support family leave]

[Galangkan cuti keluarga]

There are only two industrialized countries in the entire world

Hanya ada dua negara industri

that don’t guarantee some paid family leave,

yang tidak menjamin cuti keluarga berbayar.

and the United States is one of them.

Amerika Serikat adalah salah satunya.

Kita harusnya iri kepada Ghana, Brazil, Turki, Serbia, Jepang

We should be envying Ghana,

Brazil, Turkey, Serbia, Japan,

the United Kingdom,

Britania Raya, Norwegia, Belanda, Swedia.

Norway, the Netherlands, Sweden --

we’re lagging behind the world on this.

Negara kita tertinggal akan hal ini.

When I say paid family leave,

Saat kubilang cuti keluarga berbayar, maksudku bukan cuma cuti melahirkan,

I’m not talking about necessarily just newborn maternity leave.

That includes paternity leave,

tapi juga cuti ayah, semua gender, keluarga yang baru mengadopsi anak,

all genders,

families that are adopting and welcoming a new child into their home,

people bringing foster children into their home,

orang-orang yang membawa anak asuh ke rumah,

taking care of aging parents.

atau merawat orang tua sepuh.

You know, at some point in your life,

Pada titik tertentu, orang yang kau kasihi akan membutuhkan bantuan.

someone that you love and care about is going to need help.

Kau berhak mengambil cuti untuk mengurusnya.

You should have the right to take time to take care of them.

People do their best work

Orang-orang akan bekerja lebih baik

when they feel seen and supported by the people that they work for.

saat merasa didukung oleh orang yang mempekerjakannya.

Sederhana sekali.

It’s pretty simple.

[Listen to parents]

[Dengarkan orang tua]

Menjadi orang tua sering dinilai sebagai kelemahan di tempat kerja.

Being a parent is often seen as a weakness in the workplace.

You come back and people make a lot of assumptions about you.

Saat kau pulang, orang-orang membuat beragam anggapan tentangmu.

You're not invited to go on work trips

Kau pun tak diundang dalam perjalanan kerja.

because assumptions are made that you don’t want to do that,

Karena ada anggapan kau tidak menginginkannya atau tak bisa.

or you can’t.

Anggapan itu bisa melemahkan, mengecilkan hati, dan membuat orang tua

And that can be really disempowering to people,

and it’s really discouraging

and it makes them --

in a period of time that’s already stressful --

yang keadaan sebelumnya tertekan malah makin buruk.

can make you feel even worse.

[Talk to parents]

[Bicara ke orang tua]

Asking a coworker about how things are going at home

Menanyakan rekan kerja mengenai

keadaan di rumahnya atau mengenai anaknya

or with their kid,

making people feel like they don’t have to hide that.

membuatnya merasa tidak harus menutupi hal tersebut.

“What’s up with your two-year-old?”

“Bagaimana kabar anak balitamu?” Minta tunjukkan foto anaknya.

Ask to see a picture of their child.

[Be flexible]

[Jadilah fleksibel]

For parents, the hours between 5-8pm are really crucial.

Bagi orang tua, waktu pukul 17.00 sampai 20.00 sangat penting

It’s sometimes the only time you really have with your kids.

Terkadang cuma itu waktu mereka bisa bersama anaknya.

You’re often running to pick them up somewhere

Saat mereka menjemput anak dari suatu tempat

or to relieve someone from doing childcare.

atau menggantikan tugas pengasuh anak.

I would much rather send a few emails at 8:30pm than be on a call at 5pm.

Lebih baik kukirim surel pada pukul 20.30 daripada ditelepon pada pukul 17.00.

And so I think emphasizing and creating a culture of work

Menurutku, menciptakan dan menekankan budaya kerja,

where it’s the work that gets done,

di mana tugaslah yang diselesaikan atau tugas dan hasil akhirlah yang utama

the work is what matters,

the end result is what matters,

as opposed to tracking time in a traditional way,

sebagai lawan dari model tradisional yang terikat waktu,

dapat menguntungkan begitu jalur komunikasinya dibuka.

and opening up the lines of communication around that can be really beneficial.

Letting a coworker know that you have their back

Beri tahu rekan kerjamu bahwa kau mendukungnya.

if they want to say that 4:45 doesn’t work for them as a meeting time,

Jika dia tak bisa ikut rapat pada pukul 16.45,

kau pun akan mengatakan tak bisa ikut rapat juga.

that you’ll step in and say that you can’t do it either, right?

Just something to show solidarity.

Itulah cara menunjukkan solidaritas.

[Oh yeah ... ]

[Oh, ya ... ]

One other thing,

Satu lagi,

as a former breastfeeding mother in an office place --

sebagai ibu yang pernah menyusui di kantor, maksudnya memompa ASI,

a pumping mother --

I should say that if you want to clean out your office fridge every now and then,

bagiku ketika kau mau membersihkan kulkas kantor,

kau melakukan hal luar biasa untuk ibu yang memompa ASI.

that is a really beautiful thing to do for a pumping mother,

because I used to do that in my office.

Aku pernah melakukannya di kantor

karena kutaruh tas pendingin kecilku yang berisi ASI

I would put my little cooler that had breast milk amid like

di antara botol-botol saus salad berusia setahun,

year-old bottles of salad dressing,

pad thai that had become petrified,

pad thai yang telah membusuk, hal-hal menjijikkan.

just gross stuff.

Tak satu pun mau membersihkannya.

And no one should have to do that, right?

Lakukan hal kecil yang membuat perubahan besar di hidup orang lain.

Again, a very, very small thing

that makes a big difference in someone’s life.

In striving to be as efficient as possible,

Dalam usaha menjadi seefisien mungkin, mencapai sesuatu, menjadi produktif,

as achieving,

as productive as possible,

we’ve drifted away from this notion of care

kita makin mengabaikan bila mengasuh anak merupakan pekerjaan penting.

and parenting being important work.

Kita butuh membahas hal ini

But we need to talk about these things

and bring parenting and family life out into the open,

serta menjadikan pengasuhan dan keluarga sebagai hal yang terbuka.

because we can't fix problems that we don't see.

Kita tidak bisa memperbaiki masalah yang tak terlihat,

We can’t fix problems that we don’t talk about.

tak bisa memperbaikinya tanpa membicarakannya.

It really doesn’t have to be this hard

Hal ini mestinya tidak dipersulit

dan kita bisa melakukan banyak hal untuk orang lain.

and we can do much more to support people.