What we can do about the culture of hate | Sally Kohn

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So people tell me I'm a nice person ...

Dakle ljudi mi kažu da sam fina osoba...

to the point where it's part of my personal and professional identity

do te mere da je to deo moje ličnosti i profesionalnog identiteta

that I'm so nice and able to get along with anyone,

da sam toliko fina i u stanju da se slažem sa svima,

even my most fierce opponents.

čak i svojim najljućim protivnicima.

It's like my "thing," it's what I'm known for.

Nešto kao moj "fazon", nešto po čemu sam poznata.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

But what no one knows ...

Međutim, nešto što niko ne zna...

is that I was a bully.

je da sam bila siledžija.

Honestly, I didn't think about it much myself.

Iskreno, nisam mnogo razmišljala o tome.

I buried the memories for years,

Godinama sam potiskivala sećanja,

and even still, a lot of it's really hazy.

čak i danas, mnogo toga je uistinu maglovito.

Denial, by the way, apparently is also one of my things.

Poricanje, usput, očito je takođe moj fazon.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

But the more people started to praise me

No, što su me više ljudi hvalili

for being a liberal who could get along with conservatives,

jer sam liberal koji se slaže sa konzervativcima,

and the more I wrote articles about being nice

i što sam više pisala članke o pristojnosti

and gave talks about being nice,

i držala govore o pristojnosti,

the more I felt this hypocrisy creeping up inside me.

sve više sam osećala kako mi se ovo licemerje prikrada iznutra.

What if I was actually really mean?

Šta ako sam zapravo veoma zla?

When I was 10 years old,

Kada mi je bilo 10 godina,

there was a girl in my class at school named Vicky.

u mom odeljenju je bila devojčica po imenu Viki.

(Sigh)

(Uzdah)

And I tormented her ...

I ja sam je maltretirala...

mercilessly.

bespoštedno.

I mean, everyone did.

Mislim, svako je to radio.

Even the teachers picked on her.

Čak su i nastavnici imali pik na nju.

It doesn't make it any better, does it?

Ne zvuči nimalo lepše, zar ne?

Vicky was clearly a troubled kid.

Viki je očito bila dete s problemima.

She would hit herself and give herself bloody noses

Udarala bi se dok joj nos prokrvari

and she had hygiene problems --

i imala je probleme s higijenom -

she had big hygiene problems.

imala je velike probelem s higijenom.

But instead of helping this girl,

Međutim, umesto da pomognemo ovoj devojčici,

who was plainly suffering from hardships in her life ...

koja je očito patila zbog poteškoća u njenom životu...

we called her "Sticky Vicky."

zvali smo je "Smrdiviki".

I called her "Sticky Vicky."

Ja sam je zvala "Smrdiviki".

My clearest memory is standing in the empty hallway

Moje najjasnije sećanje je kako stojim u praznom hodniku

outside the fifth grade classrooms

ispred učionice u petom razredu

waiting for Vicky to come out of the bathroom,

čekajući na Viki da izađe iz toaleta,

and I have a clipboard and a pen and a survey I've made up,

i držala sam notes i olovku i anketu koju sam izmislila,

asking about shampoo preferences,

u kojoj pitam o omiljenim šamponima,

like I'm doing a study for science class or something.

kao da radim istraživanje za naučni predmet i slično.

And when Vicky comes out of the bathroom,

A kada je Viki izašla iz toaleta,

I pounce on her and I ask her what shampoo she uses.

zaskočila sam je i upitala koji šampon koristi.

Now, to put this in perspective,

Sad, da bih ovome dala kontekst,

I can't remember the names of my teachers,

ne sećam se imena nastavnika,

I can't remember the names of any of the books I read that year,

ne sećam se imena nijedne knjige koju sam pročitala te godine,

I pretty much can't remember anything from fifth grade,

skoro da se ne sećam bilo čega iz petog razreda,

but I remember that Vicky told me she used White Rain shampoo.

ali se sećam da mi je Viki rekla da koristi šampon vajt rejn.

Clear as yesterday,

Jasno kao dan,

like it just happened.

kao da se upravo desilo.

And as classes let out,

I dok je zvonilo za kraj časova,

I ran down the hall shouting at all the other kids,

jurila sam niz hodnik vičući svoj drugoj deci:

"Sticky Vicky uses White Rain shampoo.

"Smrdiviki koristi šampon vajt rejn.

Don't use White Rain shampoo

Ne koristite vajt rejn šampon

or you'll smell like Sticky Vicky."

ili ćete da mirišete kao Smrdiviki."

I forgot about this memory for a long time.

Zaboravila sam ovo sećanje dugo vremena.

When I finally started remembering it,

Kada sam konačno počela da ga se sećam,

I immediately needed to know more.

momentalno sam morala da znam više.

I reached out to friends and eventually social media,

Obratila sam se prijateljima i naposletku društevnim mrežama

and I did everything I could to try to find Vicky.

i učinila sam sve što sam mogla da pronađem Viki.

I needed to know that she was OK,

Bilo mi je potrebno da znam da je dobro,

and that I hadn't ruined her life.

i da joj nisam uništila život.

(Sigh)

(Uzdah)

But what I quickly realized

No, ubrzo sam shvatila

was I wasn't just trying to figure out what happened to Vicky.

da nisam jedino pokušavala da saznam šta se desilo sa Viki.

I was trying to figure out what happened to me.

Pokušavala sam da saznam šta se desilo sa mnom.

When I was 10 years old,

Kada mi je bilo 10 godina,

I treated another human being like some worthless other ...

tretirala sam drugo ljudsko biće kao bezvrednog tuđina...

like I was better than her,

kao da sam bolja od nje,

and she was garbage.

a ona je šljam.

What kind of a nice person does that?

Kakva fina osoba to radi?

I mean, I know I was only a kid,

Mislim, znam da sam bila tek dete,

but not all kids do that.

ali ne postupaju sva deca tako.

Most kids don't do that, right?

Većina dece tako ne postupa, zar ne?

So, what if I wasn't nice after all?

Pa, šta ako, na kraju, uopšte nisam fina?

I was really just a hateful monster.

Zaista sam samo okrutno čudovište.

Then I started to notice myself having these mean impulses,

Onda sam počela da zapažam sebe dok imam te zlobne porive,

thinking mean thoughts

imam zlobne misli

and wanting to say them.

i želim da ih izgovorim.

Admittedly, most of my mean thoughts were about conservatives.

Priznajem, većina mojih zlobnih misli je o konzervativcima.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

Ali ne samo o konzervativcima.

But not just conservatives.

I also caught myself thinking mean things about mushy, centrist liberals

Takođe sam se uhvatila kako imam zlobne misli o pekmezavim, liberalima centra

and greedy Wall Street bankers

i pohlepnim bankarima Vol Strita

and Islamophobes

i islamofobima

and slow drivers,

i sporim vozačima

because I really hate slow drivers.

jer ja zaista mrzim spore vozače.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

And as I'd catch myself in these moments of hypocrisy,

I dok sam se hvatala u tim trenucima licemerja,

either I was just noticing them or they were getting worse,

ili sam ih tek primećivala ili su postajali sve gori,

especially in the last few years.

naročito u proteklih nekolik godina.

And as I felt more hateful --

I osećala sam sve više mržnje -

rageful, really --

gnevno, zaista -

I noticed the world around me seemed to be getting more hateful, too.

prmetila sam da i svet oko mene postaje sve više ispunjen mržnjom.

Like there was this steady undercurrent of hate

Kao da imamo istrajnu struju mržnje

bubbling up all around us

koja ključa svuda oko nas

and increasingly overflowing.

i sve češće izaziva poplave.

So the plus side, I guess,

Dakle, dobra strana, valjda,

is that I realized that hate was not just my problem,

je da sam uvidela da mržnja nije sam moj problem,

which is like, the most selfish plus side ever --

a to je poput najsebičnije dobre strane ikad -

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

because now instead of just my own hate and cruelty to try to figure out,

jer sad umesto da pokušavam da shvatim sopstvenu mržnju i okrutnost,

I had a whole world of hate I wanted to unravel

preda mnom je bio ceo svet mržnje koji sam želela da razotkrijem

and understand and fix.

i razumem i ispravim.

So I did what all overly intellectual people do when they have a problem

Pa sam uradila što i svi preterano intelektualni ljudi kad imaju problem

that they want to understand,

koji žele da razumeju,

and I wrote a book.

napisala sam knjigu.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

I wrote a book about hate.

Napisala sam knjigu o mržnji.

Spoiler alert:

Pažnja spojler:

I'm against it.

protivnica sam mržnje.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

Now at this point, you might be thinking to yourself,

Sad, u ovom momentu, možda u sebi mislite:

"Why are y'all worried about hate?

"Zašto se sekiraš zbog mržnje?

You didn't hate Vicky.

Nisi mrzela Viki.

Bullying isn't hate."

Siledžijstvo nije mržnja."

Isn't it?

Je li tako?

Gordon Allport,

Gordon Alport,

the psychologist who pioneered the study of hate in the early 1900s,

psiholog koji je bio pionir istraživanja mržnje iz ranih 1900-ih,

developed what he called a "scale of prejudice."

razvio je nešto što se naziva "skalom predrasuda".

At one end are things like genocide and other bias-motivated violence.

Na jednom kraju su pojave poput genocida i ostalo nasilje motivisano predrasudama.

But at the other end

Ali na drugom kraju

are things like believing that your in-group

su pojave poput ubeđenja da je grupa kojoj pripadate

is inherently superior to some out-group,

po prirodi superiorna nekoj drugoj grupi;

or avoiding social interaction with those others.

ili izbegavanje društvenih interakcija sa tim drugima.

Isn't that all hate?

Zar nije sve to mržnja?

I mean, it wasn't an accident

Mislim, nije slučajno

that I was a rich kid picking on a poor kid,

da sam ja bila bogato dete koje maltretira siromašno dete

or that Vicky, it turns out, would eventually end up being gay.

ili da je Viki, kako će se ispostaviti, naposletku ispala gej.

Poor kids and gay kids are more likely to be bullied,

Siromašnu i gej decu češće maltretiraju,

even by kids who also end up being gay.

čak i ona deca koja će takođe da ispadnu gej.

I know there was a lot going on in my little 10-year-old mind.

Znam da se svašta dešavalo u mom malom umu 10-ogodišnjakinje.

I'm not saying hate was the only reason I picked on Vicky

Ne kažem da je mržnja jedini razlog što sam maltretirala Viki

or even that I was consciously hateful or anything,

ili, pak, da sam svesno mrzela i slično,

but the fact is,

ali činjenica je

the people we discriminate against in our public policies and in our culture

da ljude koje diskriminišemo u našim javnim politikama i kulturi

are also the groups of people most likely to be bullied in school.

su takođe grupe ljudi koje najčešće maltretiraju u školi.

That is not just a coincidence.

Ne radi se o pukoj slučajnosti.

That's hate.

To je mržnja.

I am defining hate in a broad way

Mržnju definišem široko

because I think we have a big problem.

jer verujem da imamo veliki problem.

And we need to solve all of it, not just the most extremes.

I moramo čitavog da ga rešimo, a ne samo najekstremnije slučajeve.

So for instance,

Dakle, na primer,

we probably all agree that marching down the street,

svi ćemo se verovatno složiti da je marširanje ulicom

chanting about you should take away rights from some group of people

dok uzvkujete kako bi trebalo uzeti prava nekoj grupi ljudi

because of their skin color or their gender,

zbog njihove boje kože ili roda,

we'd all agree that's hate, right? OK.

svi ćemo se složiti da je to mržnja, zar ne? U redu.

What if you believe that group of people is inferior,

Šta ako verujete da je ta grupa ljudi inferiorna,

but you don't say it?

ali to ne izgovarate?

Is that hate?

Da li je to mržnja?

Or what if you believe that group of people is inferior

Ili šta ako verujete da je ta grupa ljudi inferiorna,

but you aren't aware that you believe it --

ali niste svesni da u to verujete -

what's known as implicit bias.

a to se smatra implicitnom predrasudom.

Is that hate?

Da li je to mržnja?

I mean they all have the same roots, don't they?

Mislim, sve one imaju zajednički koren, zar ne?

In the historic patterns of racism and sexism

U istorijskim obrascima rasizma i seksizma

that have shaped our history and still infect our society today.

koji su oblikovali našu istoriju i dalje inficiraju naša društva.

Isn't it all hate?

Zar to nije mržnja?

I'm not saying they're the same thing,

Ne govorim da je to jedno te isto,

just like I am not saying

isto kao što ne govorim

that being a bully is as bad as being a Nazi,

da je biti siledžija jednako loše kao biti nacista,

just like I'm not saying that being a Nazi is the same thing as punching a Nazi ...

isto kao što ne govorim da je biti nacista isto što i odalamiti nacistu...

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

But hating a Nazi is still hate, right?

Međutim, mržnja prema nacistima je i dalje mržnja, zar ne?

What about hating someone who isn't as enlightened as you?

Šta ako mrzite nekoga ko nije prosvećen koliko i vi?

See, what I learned

Vidite, spoznala sam

is that we all are against hate

da smo svi mi protiv mržnje

and we all think hate is a problem.

i svi mi mislimo da je ona problem.

We think it's their problem,

Smatramo da je njihov problem,

not our problem.

ne naš problem.

They're hateful.

Oni mrze.

I mean, if I think the people who didn't vote like me

Mislim, ako smatram ljude koji nisu glasali kao ja

are stupid racist monsters who don't deserve to call themselves Americans,

glupim, rasističkim čudovištima koja ne zaslužuju da se nazivaju Amerikancima,

alright, fine, I'm not being nice,

u redu, dobro, nisam fina,

I get it.

razumem.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

I'm not hateful, I'm just right, right?

Ne mrzim, samo sam u pravu, je li tako?

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

Wrong.

Nije tako.

We all hate.

Svi mi mrzimo.

And I do not mean that in some abstract, generic sense.

I ne mislim to u nekakvom apstraktnom, uopštenom smislu.

I mean all of us ...

Mislim svi mi...

me and you.

ja i vi.

That sanctimonious pedestal of superiority on which we all place ourselves,

Taj uzvišeni presto superiornosti na koji smeštamo sebe,

that they are hateful and we are not,

gde su oni puni mržnje, a mi nismo

is a manifestation of the essential root of hate:

je otelotvorenje suštinskog korena mržnje:

that we are fundamentally good and they are not,

gde smo mi temeljno dobri, a oni nisu,

which is what needs to change.

a to mora da se promeni.

So in trying to understand and solve hate,

Pa, pokušavajući da razumem i rešim problem mržnje,

I read every book and every research study I could find,

pročitala sam sve knjige i sva istraživanja koja sam našla,

but I also went and talked to some former Nazis

ali sam takođe išla da razgovaram sa nekim bivšim nacistima

and some former terrorists

i nekim bivšim teroristima

and some former genocidal killers,

i nekim bvšim genocidnim ubicama

because I figured if they could figure out how to escape hate,

jer sam razmišljala, ako su oni mogli da shvate kako da uteknu mržnji,

surely the rest of us could.

svakako da i mi ostali možemo.

Let me give you just one example of the former terrorist I spent time with

Daću vam samo jedan primer bivšeg teroriste sa kojim sam se družila

in the West Bank.

u Vest Benku.

When Bassam Aramin was 16 years old,

Kada je Basamu Araminu bilo 16 godina,

he tried to blow up an Israeli military convoy with a grenade.

pokušao je granatom da raznese izraelski vojni konvoj.

He failed, fortunately,

Srećom, nije uspeo,

but he was still sentenced to seven years in prison.

ali su ga i dalje osudili na sedam godina zatvora.

When he was in prison, they showed a film about the Holocaust.

Dok je bio u zatvoru prikazali su film o Holokaustu.

Up until that point,

Do tog trenutka,

Bassam had thought the Holocaust was mostly a myth.

Basam je mislio kako je Holokaust uglavnom mit.

He went to go watch the film

Pošao je da gleda film

because he thought he would enjoy seeing Jews get killed.

jer je mislio da će da uživa posmatrajući kako ubijaju Jevreje.

But when he saw what really happened, he broke down crying.

No, kada je video šta se zaista dogodilo, slomio se u suzama.

And eventually, after prison,

I vremenom će, nakon zatvora,

Bassam went on to get a master's degree in Holocaust studies

Basam se zaputiti i steći diplomu mastera na studijama o Holokaustu

and he founded an organization where former Palestinian combatants

i osnovao je organizaciju gde se bivši palestinski

and Israeli combatants come together,

i izraelski borci okupljaju,

work together, try to find common ground.

rade zajedno, pokušavaju da nađu zajednički jezik.

By his own account, Bassam used to hate Israelis,

Prema sopstvenim rečima, Basam je nekad mrzeo Izraelce,

but through knowing Israelis and learning their stories

ali upoznajući Izraelce i učeći njihove priče

and working together for peace,

i radeći zajedno s njima zarad mira,

he overcame his hate.

prevazišao je mržnju.

Bassam says he still doesn't hate Israelis,

Basam kaže kako i dalje ne mrzi Izraelce,

even after the Israeli military --

čak i nakon što je izraelska vojska -

shot and killed his [10]-year-old daughter, Abir,

upucala i ubila njegovu desetogodišnju kćerku Abir

while she was walking to school.

dok je išla u školu.

(Sigh)

(Uzdah)

Bassam even forgave the soldier who killed his daughter.

Basam je čak oprostio vojniku koji mu je ubio kćerku.

That soldier, he taught me,

Taj vojnik, podučavao me je,

was just a product of the same hateful system as he was.

prosto je proizvod istog sistema mržnje kao što je i sam bio.

If a former terrorist ...

Ako bivši terorista...

if a terrorist can learn to stop hating

ako terorista može da nauči da prestane da mrzi

and still not hate when their child is killed,

i i dalje da ne mrzi kada mu ubiju dete,

surely the rest of us can stop our habits

svakako da i mi ostali možemo da prekinemo naše navike

of demeaning and dehumanizing each other.

da unižavamo i onečovečujemo jedni druge.

And I will tell you there are stories like Bassam's all over the world,

I tvrdim da priče poput Basamove postoje širom sveta,

plus study after study after study

plus istraživanje za istraživanjem

that says, no, we are neither designed nor destined as human beings to hate,

koje kaže, ne, niti smo stvoreni niti smo osuđeni kao ljudska bića na mržnju,

but rather taught to hate by the world around us.

već nas je pre svet oko nas podučio mržnji.

I promise you,

Obećavam vam

none of us pops out of the womb hating black people or Republicans.

da niko od nas nije iskočio iz utrobe mrzeći crnce ili Republikance.

There is nothing in our DNA that makes us hate Muslims or Mexicans.

Ništa u našoj DNK ne postoji zbog čega mrzimo muslimane ili Meksikance.

For better or for worse,

Bilo kako bilo,

we are all a product of the culture around us.

svi smo mi proizvod kulture koja nas okružuje.

And the good news is,

A dobre vesti su:

we're also the ones who shape that culture,

mi smo takođe ti koji oblikuju tu kulturu,

which means we can change it.

što znači da je možemo promeniti.

The first step is starting to recognize the hate inside ourselves.

Prvi korak je da počnemo da prepoznajemo mržnju u nama samima.

We need to catch ourselves

Moramo da hvatamo sebe

and our hateful thoughts in all their forms

i naše misli pune mržnje u svim njihovim oblicima

in all of us ...

u svima nama...

and work to challenge our ideas and assumptions.

i da težimo izazivanju naših ideja i pretpostavki.

That doesn't happen overnight,

To se ne dešava preko noći,

I am telling you right here,

to vam ja kažem,

it is a lifelong journey, but it's one we all need to take.

radi se o celoživotnom putovanju, na koje svi moramo da krenemo.

And then second:

A potom pod dva:

if we want to challenge the hate in our societies,

ako želimo da se suprotstavimo mržnji u našim društvima,

we need to promote policies and institutions and practices

moramo da promovišemo zakone, institucije i prakse

that connect us as communities.

koje nas povezuju kao zajednice.

Literally, like integrated neighborhoods and schools.

Bukvalno, poput integrisanih komšiluka i škola.

That by the way is the reason to support integration.

To je, usput, razlog za podršku integraciji.

Not just because it's the right thing to do,

Ne samo zato što je to nešto ispravno,

but because integration systematically combats hate.

već zato što se integracija sistematski bori sa mržnjom.

There are studies that teenagers who participate

Postoje istraživanja da tinejdžeri koji učestvuju u rasno integrisanim

in racially integrated classes and activities reduce their racial bias.

učionicama i aktivnostima imaju manje rasnih predrasuda.

And when little kids go to racially integrated kindergartens

A kada dečica pohađaju rasno integrisane vrtiće

and elementary schools --

i osnovne škole -

they develop less bias to begin with.

u startu razvijaju manje predrasuda.

But the fact is in so many ways and in so many places around our world,

Međutim, činjenica je da na razne načine i na mnogim mestima širom sveta,

we are separated from each other.

razdvojeni smo jedni od drugih.

In the United States, for instance,

U Sjedinjenim Državama, na primer,

three-quarters of white people don't have any non-white friends.

tri četvrtine belaca nemaju nebelačke prijatelje.

So in addition to promoting those proactive solutions,

Pa, uz promovisanje proaktivnih rešenja,

the other thing we need to do is upend the hate in our institutions

druga stvar koju moramo da uradimo je da okončamo mržnju u našim institucijama

and our policies

i našim politikama

that perpetuate dehumanization and difference

koje ovekovečuju dehumanizaciju i različitost

and otherizing and hate,

i tuđinstvo i mržnju,

like systems of sexual harassment and sexual assault in the workplace,

poput sistema seksualnog uznemiravanja i seksualnih napada na radnom mestu

or our deeply racially imbalanced

ili naših duboko rasno neuravnoteženih

and deeply racially biased criminal "justice" system.

i duboko rasno pristrasnih sistema kriminalne "pravde".

We need to change that.

Moramo to da promenimo.

Again, it will not happen overnight.

Opet, neće se desiti preko noći.

It needs to happen.

Mora da se desi.

And then ...

A potom...

when we connect together

kada se međusobno povežemo

in these connection spaces,

u ovim prostorima povezivanja,

facilitated by connection systems,

obezbeđenim sistemima povezivanja,

we need to change the way we talk to each other

moramo da promenimo način na koji međusobno razgovaramo

and connect with one another

i međusobno se povezujemo

and relate with generosity and open-mindedness

i da se odnosimo sa darežljivošću i otvorenošću,

and kindness and compassion

pristojnošću i saosećajnošću,

and not hate.

a ne mržnjom.

And that's it.

I to je to.

That's it.

To je to.

(Applause)

(Aplauz)

I have solved it all, right?

Rešila sam ga skroz, zar ne?

That's it.

To je to.

That is pretty much --

To je uglavnom -

there's a few details --

postoji nekoliko detalja -

but that's pretty much all we have to do.

ali to je uglavnom sve što treba da uradimo.

It's not that complicated, right?

Nije komplikovano, zar ne?

But it's hard.

Ali jeste teško.

The hate that we feel towards certain groups of people

Mržnja koju osećamo prema određenim grupama ljudi

because of who they are or what they believe

zbog toga ko su ili u šta veruju

is so ingrained in our minds and in our society

je toliko usađena u naš um i u naša društva

that it can feel inevitable

da se može činiti neizbežnom

and impossible to change.

i da je nemoguće promeniti.

Change is possible.

Promena je moguća.

Just look at the terrorist who became a peace activist.

Samo pogledajte teroristu koji je postao aktivista za mir.

Or look at the bully who learned to apologize to her victim.

Ili pogledajte nasilnicu koja je naučila kako da se izvini žrtvi.

The entire time I was traveling around the Middle East and Rwanda

Sve vreme dok sam putovala širom Srednjeg istoka i Ruande

and across the United States,

i širom Sjedinjenih Država,

hearing these unbelievable stories of people in communities

slušajući ove neverovatne priče o ljudima i zajednicama

who had left entire histories of hate behind,

koji su za sobom ostavili čitave istorije mržnje,

I was still looking for Vicky.

i dalje sam tragala za Viki.

Toliko je teško bilo naći da sam unajmila privatnog detektiva

It was so hard find her that I hired a private investigator

and he found her.

i on je našao.

I mean, he sort of found her.

Mislim, na neki način je našao.

The truth is, it became clear that the person I'm calling Vicky

Uistinu, postalo je jasno da je osoba koju nazivam Viki

had gone to extraordinary lengths to hide her identity.

učinila nemoguće da sakrije svoj identitet.

But anyway, a year after I began my journey,

Međutim, kako god, godinu nakon što sam započela putovanje,

I wrote Vicky an apology.

napisala sam izvinjenje za Viki.

And a few months later,

A nekoliko meseci kasnije,

she wrote back.

odgovorila je.

(Sigh)

(Uzdah)

I'm not going to lie,

Neću vas lagati,

I wanted to be forgiven.

želela sam da mi oprosti.

I wasn't.

Nije.

(Sigh)

(Uzdah)

She offered me sort of conditional forgiveness.

Ponudila mi je neki vid uslovnog oprosta.

What she wrote was ...

Napisala je sledeće...

"Messages such as yours cannot absolve you of your past actions.

"Poruke slične tvojoj ne mogu da te oslobode postupaka iz prošlosti.

The only way to do that is to improve the world,

Jedini način da to postigneš je da unaprediš svet,

prevent others from behaving in similar ways

da sprečiš druge da se slično ponašaju

and foster compassion."

i da gajiš saosećajnost."

And Vicky's right.

A Viki je u pravu.

Which is why I'm here.

Zbog toga sam ovde.

Thank you.

Hvala vam.

(Applause)

(Aplauz)