How revenge porn turns lives upside down | Darieth Chisolm

翻译人员: Tianji (Homer) Li 校对人员: Bighead Ge

I had about five minutes before I was set to deliver a talk

在我开始跟一群商业 老板宣讲关于

to a bunch of business owners

视角和在镜头的情况前，

about visibility and being on camera.

我有大约5分钟的时间。

After all, I was the so-called expert there,

毕竟，我是所谓的专家，

the former 20-year television news anchor and life and business coach.

曾是20年电视新闻的主播员 以及生活和商业指导。

I happened to take a look down at my cell phone just to catch the time,

为了不错过时间，我偶尔 会低下头看一下手机，

and I noticed that I had a missed call from my ex-husband.

接着我发现了我前夫的未接电话。

I can still hear his voice.

我现在仍然能听到他的声音。

"Darieth, what is going on?

“达连，最近怎么样？

I just got a call from some strange man who told me to go to this website,

我刚接到一个陌生人的电话， 他让我去看这个网站

and now I'm looking at all of these photos of you naked.

现在我在看所有这些 你的裸体照片。

Your private parts are all over this website.

整个网页上都是你的隐私部位。

Who's seen this?"

谁还看过？”

I couldn't think. I couldn't breathe.

我不能思考。我不能呼吸。

I was so humiliated and so embarrassed and so ashamed.

我觉得很丢脸 非常尴尬，非常羞愧。

I felt like my world was coming to an end.

我感受到了末日的来临。

And yet, this began for me months of pain and depression

然而，这一切仅仅是 几个月痛苦和沮丧的开始

and anger and confusion and silence.

同时还有愤怒，困惑和沉寂。

My manipulative, jealous, stalker ex-boyfriend

我那专制，嫉妒， 跟踪狂前男友

did exactly what he said he would do:

照他之前威胁我的做了:

he put up a website with my name on it,

他建了一个网站， 上面有我的名字，

and he posted this.

他发布了这个。

And this.

还有这个。

And several explicit photos

还有先前我们 一起住在牙买加，

that he had taken of me while I was asleep,

他趁我熟睡时

living with him in Jamaica.

偷拍的露骨照片。

For months prior to that, he had been sending me

在那件事发生的几个月前， 他已经给我发送

threatening text messages like this.

这样的威胁短信了。

He was trying to make me out to be some sleazy, low-life slut.

他试图把我塑造成这样—— 一个卑鄙下流的荡妇。

He had even threatened to kill me.

他甚至威胁要杀了我。

He told me that he would shoot me in my head and stab me in my heart,

他警告会枪击我的头部， 并刺进我的心，

simply because I wanted to end the controlling relationship.

只是因为我想结束 被他控制的关系。

I couldn't believe this was happening to me.

我不敢相信这会发生在我身上。

I didn't even know what to call it.

我甚至不知道怎么称呼这件事。

You might know it as cyberharassment or cyberbullying.

你可能知道网络欺辱， 或者网络欺凌。

The media calls it "revenge porn."

媒体称之为“色情报复”。

I now call it "digital domestic violence."

我现在称之为“网络家庭暴力”。

It typically stems from a relationship gone bad,

它通常源于一段变坏了的感情，

where a controlling, jilted ex-lover can't handle rejection,

被抛弃的前情人 无法接受被拒绝,

so when they can't physically put their hands on you,

所以当他们不能把手 放在你身上时，

they use different weapons: cell phones and laptops.

他们选择使用不同的武器: 手机和笔记本电脑。

The ammunition?

弹药武器呢？

Photos, videos, explicit information, content -- all posted online,

照片，视频，露骨信息， 露骨内容——未经允许，

without your consent.

全部发布在网上。

I mean, let's face it -- we all live our lives online.

我是说，让我们面对现实吧 我们都在网上生活。

And the internet is a really small world.

互联网是一个非常小的世界。

We show off our baby photos,

我们炫耀我们的婴儿照片，

we start and grow our businesses, we make new relationships,

我们创立并发展我们的 业务，建立新的关系，

we let the world in, one Facebook like at a time.

我们让世界进入， 一次一个脸书。

And you know what I found?

你知道我发现了什么吗?

An even smaller world.

一个更小的世界。

One in 25 women say they have been impacted by revenge porn.

4%的女性表示他们受到了 色情报复的影响。

For women under the age of 30, that number looks like one in 10.

对于30岁以下的妇女， 这个数字似乎是10%。

And that leaves a few of you in this audience as potential victims.

剩下一些人作为潜在的受害者。

You want to know what's even more alarming?

但你知道更令人担忧的是什么?

Lack of legislation and laws to adequately protect victims

我们缺乏条款和法律充分保护受害者

and punish perpetrators.

和惩罚罪犯。

There's only one federal bill pending;

只有一条悬而未决的联邦法案;

it's called the ENOUGH Act, by Senator Kamala Harris.

它被称为 “够了（ENOUGH）法案”， 由参议员卡玛拉·哈里斯提出。

It would criminalize revenge porn.

它将色情报复定为犯罪。

But that could take years to pass.

但它可能需要数年时间才会通过。

So what are we left with in the meantime?

除此之外还剩下什么呢?

Flimsy civil misdemeanors.

微不足道的民事处罚。

Currently, only 40 states and DC have some laws in place for revenge porn.

目前，只有40个州和华盛顿特区 制定了一些针对色情报复的法律。

And those penalties vary -- we're talking $500 fines.

这些惩罚还不是固定的—— 通常只是500美元的罚款。

Five hundred dollars?

500美元？！！

Are you kidding me?

你在跟我开玩笑吧？

Women are losing their jobs.

女性正在失去工作。

They're suffering from damaged relationships

她们忍受着残缺的关系和

and damaged reputations.

受损的名誉所带来的痛苦。

They're falling into illness and depression.

她们饱受疾病和抑郁的折磨。

And the suicide rates are climbing.

自杀率也不断攀升。

You're looking at a woman who spent 11 months in court,

试想一位在法庭上 待了11个月，

thirteen trips to the courthouse

去了13次法院，

and thousands of dollars in legal fees,

以及将几千美元花在 法律费用的女性。

just to get two things:

只为实现两件事：

a protection from cyberstalking and cyberabuse,

为防止网络跟踪和网络暴力，

otherwise known as a PFA,

简称为PFA，

and language from a judge

还有法官的宣判

that would force a third-party internet company

强制第三方网站公司

to remove the content.

删除有关内容。

It's expensive, complicated and confusing.

这种经历是昂贵，复杂和令人困惑的。

And worse, legal loopholes and jurisdictional issues drag this out

更糟糕的是，法律漏洞 以及司法问题

for months,

导致了这个问题出现了几个月

while my private parts were on display for months.

我的私处就被展出了几个月。

How would you feel if your naked body was exposed for the world to see,

当站在世界的舞台，如果你赤身裸体， 你会有什么感觉？

and you waited helplessly for the content to be removed?

你会不会无助地等待， 想要要删除内容?

Eventually, I stumbled upon a private company

后来，我偶然间发现了一家私人公司

to issue a DMCA notice to shut the website down.

可以根据DMCA条约关闭那个网站。

DMCA -- Digital Millennium Copyright Act.

DMCA——数字千年版权法。

It's a law that regulates digital material and content.

这是一项管控网络 材料与内容的法律。

Broadly, the aim of the DMCA is to protect both copyright owners and consumers.

一般来说，DMCA目的是保护 版权所有者和消费者。

So get this:

所以留意我说的:

people who take and share nude photos own the rights to those selfies,

拍摄和分享裸照的人 拥有这些相片的权利，

so they should be able to issue a DMCA to have the content removed.

他们理论上可以执行 DMCA条款，删除内容。

But not so fast --

但没这么简单——

because the other fight we're dealing with

因为我们还要处理另一场

is noncompliant and nonresponsive third-party internet companies.

与不合规、拒绝回应的 第三方互联网公司的斗争。

And oh -- by the way,

哦，顺便说一下，

even in consenting relationships,

即使在两厢情愿的关系中，

just because you get a nude photo or a naked pic,

因为你得到一张裸照，

does not give you the right to share it,

并不代表你有权利分享它，

even [without] the intent to do harm.

即使你没想伤害谁。

Back to my case,

回到我的例子上，

which happens to be further complicated

我这个情况更复杂，

because he was stalking and harassing me from another country,

因为他在另一个国家 跟踪我，骚扰我，

making it nearly impossible to get help here.

使得我几乎不可能在当地寻求帮助。

But wait a minute -- isn't the internet international?

但是等一下，这不是 国际互联网的事吗?

Shouldn't we have some sort of policy in place

难道我们不应该制定某种 通用保护的政策吗?

that broadly protects us, regardless to borders or restrictions?

无论边界与限制。

I just couldn’t give up; I had to keep fighting.

我无法放弃; 我将继续战斗。

So I willingly, on three occasions,

所以我默许了，有三次，

allowed for the invasion of both my cell phone and my laptop

当我的手机和笔记本电脑

by the Department of Homeland Security and the Jamaican Embassy

被国土安全局，还有牙买加大使馆

for thorough forensic investigation,

进行彻底的法庭调查时，

because I had maintained all of the evidence.

因为我保存了所有的证据。

I painstakingly shared my private parts with the all-male investigative team.

我艰难地与全为男性的调查团队 “共享”我的隐私部位。

And it was an embarrassing, humiliating additional hoop to jump through.

这是一种尴尬， 羞辱，不必要的经历。

But then something happened.

但后来发生了一些事情。

Jamaican authorities actually arrested him.

牙买加当局逮捕了他。

He's now facing charges under their malicious communications act,

他现在面临着《恶意通信法案》的指控，

and if found guilty, could face thousands of dollars in fines

如果罪名成立，他可能 会面临数千美元的罚款

and up to 10 years in prison.

以及十年的牢狱之灾。

And I've also learned that my case is making history --

我也了解到， 我的案例创造了历史——

it is the first international case under this new crime.

这是第一个关于这类 新罪行的国际案例。

Wow, finally some justice.

哇，正义的审判终于到来。

But this got me to thinking.

但这引发了我的深思。

Nobody deserves this.

没有人应该受到这种行为。

Nobody deserves this level of humiliation

没有人应该忍受 这样一级的羞辱

and having to jump through all of these hoops.

以及不得不经历 所有这些折腾。

Our cyber civil rights are at stake.

我们的网络公民权利岌岌可危。

Here in the United States, we need to have clear, tough enforcement;

在美国，我们需要明确、强硬的执法;

we need to demand the accountability and responsiveness from online companies;

我们需要问责制 以及来自网络公司的回应;

we need to promote social responsibilities for posting, sharing and texting;

我们需要促进社会责任 用于发帖、分享和发短信;

and we need to restore dignity to victims.

我们需要恢复受害者的尊严。

And what about victims

那么受害者呢?

who neither have the time, money or resources to wage war,

谁也没有发动战争的 时间，金钱或资源，

who are left disempowered, mislabeled and broken?

他们被剥夺了权利， 错误的认知，以及被伤害。

Two things:

还有两件事：

release the shame and end the silence.

摆脱羞耻，打破沉默。

Shame is at the core of all of this.

羞耻是这一切的核心。

And for every silent prisoner of shame,

对于每一个沉默的耻辱囚犯，

it's the fear of judgment that's holding you hostage.

是恐惧束缚你， 将你囚如人质

And the price to pay is the stripping away of your self-worth.

以及付出的代价是 自我价值的剥离。

The day I ended my silence, I freed myself from shame.

当我打破沉默的那一天， 我从羞愧中解脱出来。

And I freed myself from the fear of judgment

我把自己从被批判的恐惧牢笼中挣脱出来

from the one person who I thought would judge me the most --

从我最担心会评价误解我的人那里——

my son,

我的儿子，

who actually told me,

他告诉我，

"Mom, you are the strongest person that I know.

“妈，你是我认识的最勇敢的人。

You can get through this.

你可以的。

And besides, mom -- he chose the wrong woman to mess with."

除此之外，妈，他惹错人了。“

(Laughter)

（笑声）

(Applause)

（鼓掌）

It was on that day that I decided to use my platform

在那天，我决定使用我的平台

and my story and my voice.

我的故事和我的嗓音。

And to get started, I asked myself this one simple question:

为了开始，我问自己 一个简单的问题:

Who do I need to become now?

我现在需要成为什么样的人?

That question, in the face of everything that I was challenged with,

面对所有的挑战，

transformed my life and had me thinking about all kinds of possibilities.

它们改变了我的人生，使我全面思考。

I now own my story, I speak my truth,

我现在拥有我的故事， 我说出我的真相，

and I'm narrating a new chapter in my life.

我正在叙述我人生的新篇章。

It's called "50 Shades of Silence."

它叫做 “沉默的50道阴影”

It's a global social justice project,

这是一个全球性的 社会正义项目，

and we're working to film an upcoming documentary

我们正在拍摄一个 快要上映的的纪录片

to give voice and dignity to victims.

通过它来激励受害者， 重塑她们的尊严。

If you are a victim or you know someone who is, know this:

如果你是受害者，或者你知道有人是 记住这一点:

in order to be empowered, you have to take care of yourself,

为了变强，你必须照顾好自己，

and you have to love yourself.

你也必须做到自爱。

You have to turn your anger into action,

你必须把愤怒转化为行动，

your pain into power

转化为力量

and your setback into a setup for what's next for your life.

还有战胜挫折，直面人生。

This is a process, and it's a journey of self-discovery

这是一个自我发现的过程， 也是一个旅程。

that might include forgiveness.

其中充斥着宽恕。

But it definitely requires bravery, confidence and conviction.

但这确实需要勇气， 信心和信念。

I call it:

我称它为：

finding your everyday courage.

找到你每天的勇气。

Thank you.

谢谢。

（掌声，呐喊）

(Applause)