How revenge porn turns lives upside down | Darieth Chisolm

譯者: Lilian Chiu 審譯者: NAN-KUN WU

I had about five minutes before I was set to deliver a talk

我有大約五分鐘的時間，

接著就要對一群企業主演說，

to a bunch of business owners

about visibility and being on camera.

主題是能見度和面對攝影機。

After all, I was the so-called expert there,

畢竟，在那裡，我是所謂的專家，

the former 20-year television news anchor and life and business coach.

我曾當過二十年的電視新聞主播，

及人生和事業的教練。

I happened to take a look down at my cell phone just to catch the time,

我剛好低頭看了一眼 手機，想知道時間，

我注意到我有一通未接來電， 是我前夫打來的。

and I noticed that I had a missed call from my ex-husband.

I can still hear his voice.

我現在仍然能聽見他的聲音。

"Darieth, what is going on?

「戴瑞爾絲，怎麼回事？

I just got a call from some strange man who told me to go to this website,

我剛接到一個陌生人的電話，

他叫我上一個網站，

and now I'm looking at all of these photos of you naked.

現在我眼前都是你的裸照。

Your private parts are all over this website.

網站上都是你的私密處。

Who's seen this?"

誰看得到這些？」

I couldn't think. I couldn't breathe.

我無法思考。我無法呼吸。

I was so humiliated and so embarrassed and so ashamed.

我好羞愧，好丟臉，好可恥。

I felt like my world was coming to an end.

我覺得我的世界完蛋了。

And yet, this began for me months of pain and depression

然而，這只是開端， 接著是數個月的

痛苦、憂鬱、憤怒、 迷惘，以及沉默。

and anger and confusion and silence.

My manipulative, jealous, stalker ex-boyfriend

我的前男友很會操弄人、 愛嫉妒、還是個跟蹤狂，

did exactly what he said he would do:

而他做了他說他會做的事：

he put up a website with my name on it,

他架了一個網站，掛上我的名字，

and he posted this.

在網站上張貼這個。

And this.

還有這個。

And several explicit photos

還有許多清楚的照片，

that he had taken of me while I was asleep,

都是他趁我在睡覺時偷拍的，

living with him in Jamaica.

當時我們在牙買加同居。

For months prior to that, he had been sending me

在此事之前的幾個月，

他一直對我發送像這樣的威脅訊息。

threatening text messages like this.

He was trying to make me out to be some sleazy, low-life slut.

他一直要把我塑造成像 某種低級、卑鄙的蕩婦。

He had even threatened to kill me.

他甚至威脅要殺了我。

He told me that he would shoot me in my head and stab me in my heart,

他告訴我，他要對著我的頭開槍，

用刀刺進我的心臟，

simply because I wanted to end the controlling relationship.

只因為我想要結束 這段充滿控制的關係。

I couldn't believe this was happening to me.

我無法相信這種事 會發生在我身上。

I didn't even know what to call it.

我甚至不知道這種事叫什麼。

You might know it as cyberharassment or cyberbullying.

你們可能聽過的名詞 包括網路騷擾或網路霸凌。

The media calls it "revenge porn."

媒體稱它為「復仇式色情」。

I now call it "digital domestic violence."

我現在稱它為「數位家庭暴力」。

It typically stems from a relationship gone bad,

通常，它的源頭 都是一段惡化的關係，

where a controlling, jilted ex-lover can't handle rejection,

很有控制慾、被拋棄的舊情人 無法接受自己被拒絕，

so when they can't physically put their hands on you,

當他們無法在實體上對你下手時，

they use different weapons: cell phones and laptops.

他們就會用不同的武器： 手機和筆記型電腦。

The ammunition?

彈藥是什麼？照片、影片、

Photos, videos, explicit information, content -- all posted online,

清楚的資訊、內容—— 全都張貼在網路上，

without your consent.

且沒有取得你的同意。

I mean, let's face it -- we all live our lives online.

咱們面對現實吧—— 我們都生活在網路上。

And the internet is a really small world.

而網路真的是個很小的世界。

We show off our baby photos,

我們炫耀自己寶寶的照片，

we start and grow our businesses, we make new relationships,

我們創造並經營自己的事業， 我們建立新的關係，

we let the world in, one Facebook like at a time.

我們讓全世界進來， 一次一個臉書上的讚。

And you know what I found?

你們知道我發現什麼嗎？ 一個更小的世界。

An even smaller world.

One in 25 women say they have been impacted by revenge porn.

二十五名女性中就有一名說 她曾經受過復仇式色情的影響。

For women under the age of 30, that number looks like one in 10.

三十歲以下的女性， 則是十個中就有一個。

And that leaves a few of you in this audience as potential victims.

那表示在座當中有少數幾個人 就有可能會成為受害者。

You want to know what's even more alarming?

想知道什麼更令人擔憂嗎？

Lack of legislation and laws to adequately protect victims

缺乏立法和法律，

無法提供受害者適當的保護， 或給行兇者應得的懲罰。

and punish perpetrators.

There's only one federal bill pending;

只有一項聯邦法案，目前還待決；

it's called the ENOUGH Act, by Senator Kamala Harris.

是參議員卡瑪拉哈里斯提出的 「ENOUGH（夠了）」法案，

It would criminalize revenge porn.

它會將復仇式色情歸為犯罪行為。

But that could take years to pass.

但可能要花上數年才能通過法案。

So what are we left with in the meantime?

所以，在這期間，我們還有什麼？

Flimsy civil misdemeanors.

很不周密的民事輕罪。

Currently, only 40 states and DC have some laws in place for revenge porn.

目前，只有四十個州及華盛頓特區

有一些能處理復仇色情的法律。

And those penalties vary -- we're talking $500 fines.

罰款各有不同—— 我們在談的是 500 美元的罰款。

Five hundred dollars?

500 美元？你在跟我開玩笑嗎？

Are you kidding me?

Women are losing their jobs.

女性丟掉了工作。

They're suffering from damaged relationships

她們的關係受到損害， 名譽受到損害。

and damaged reputations.

They're falling into illness and depression.

她們因此生病和陷入憂鬱。

And the suicide rates are climbing.

自殺比率在攀升。

You're looking at a woman who spent 11 months in court,

你們現在看著的這個女人， 花了十一個月在法庭上，

thirteen trips to the courthouse

跑了法庭大樓十三趟，

and thousands of dollars in legal fees,

花費數千美元的訴訟費，

just to get two things:

只得到兩樣東西：

a protection from cyberstalking and cyberabuse,

網路跟蹤和網路虐待的保護令，

otherwise known as a PFA,

也就是一般所知的 PFA，

and language from a judge

以及法官要求第三方網路公司

that would force a third-party internet company

to remove the content.

將內容移除。

It's expensive, complicated and confusing.

這實在是既昂貴又複雜， 還很讓人困惑。

And worse, legal loopholes and jurisdictional issues drag this out

更糟的是，法律漏洞和轄區議題

又讓這件事拖延了幾個月，

for months,

while my private parts were on display for months.

在這幾個月間我的私密處 就繼續被展示著。

How would you feel if your naked body was exposed for the world to see,

如果你的裸體被公開給全世界看， 你會有什麼感受？

and you waited helplessly for the content to be removed?

且你只能無助地 等待著內容被移除？

Eventually, I stumbled upon a private company

最終，我偶然碰見了 一間私人公司，

to issue a DMCA notice to shut the website down.

發佈了 DMCA 通知， 將該網站關閉。

DMCA -- Digital Millennium Copyright Act.

DMCA —— 數位千禧年著作權法。

It's a law that regulates digital material and content.

這項法律是用來規範 數位素材和內容用的。

Broadly, the aim of the DMCA is to protect both copyright owners and consumers.

廣義來說，DMCA 的目標是要保護

版權的所有人以及消費者。

So get this:

所以，要了解： 拍攝和分享裸照的人，

people who take and share nude photos own the rights to those selfies,

擁有那些自拍照的權利，

so they should be able to issue a DMCA to have the content removed.

所以他們應該能夠透過 DMCA 來將內容移除。

But not so fast --

但沒有這麼快——因為

because the other fight we're dealing with

我們在處理的另一個爭論，

is noncompliant and nonresponsive third-party internet companies.

是那些不服從且不回應的 第三方網路公司。

And oh -- by the way,

喔——順便一提，

even in consenting relationships,

即使是在同意的關係中，

just because you get a nude photo or a naked pic,

你取得了一張裸照或裸圖，

does not give you the right to share it,

也不表示你有權分享它，

even [without] the intent to do harm.

即使你並沒有任何傷害人的意圖。

Back to my case,

回到我的案例，

which happens to be further complicated

它剛好又更複雜，

because he was stalking and harassing me from another country,

因為他是從另一個國家 跟蹤和騷擾我，

making it nearly impossible to get help here.

我在這裡幾乎是不可能得到協助。

But wait a minute -- isn't the internet international?

但，等一下—— 網路不是國際的嗎？

Shouldn't we have some sort of policy in place

我們難道沒有已經實施的政策

that broadly protects us, regardless to borders or restrictions?

可以廣泛地保護我們， 跨越國界或不受限制？

I just couldn’t give up; I had to keep fighting.

我就是無法放棄； 我得要繼續奮鬥。

So I willingly, on three occasions,

所以，我出於自願，在三個場合，

allowed for the invasion of both my cell phone and my laptop

允許國土安全部以及牙買加大使館

by the Department of Homeland Security and the Jamaican Embassy

侵入我的手機和筆記型電腦，

for thorough forensic investigation,

以做徹底的鑑識調查，

because I had maintained all of the evidence.

因為我還保有所有的證據。

I painstakingly shared my private parts with the all-male investigative team.

我很難過地將我的私密處 分享給全是男性的調查團隊。

And it was an embarrassing, humiliating additional hoop to jump through.

我又承受了這羞辱 又尷尬的額外磨難。

But then something happened.

但接著，有影響產生了。

Jamaican authorities actually arrested him.

牙買加當權機關真的逮捕了他。

He's now facing charges under their malicious communications act,

他現在要面臨違反該國 惡意溝通法的指控，

and if found guilty, could face thousands of dollars in fines

若被判有罪，可能會被 處以數千美元的罰金，

and up to 10 years in prison.

以及最高十年有期徒刑。

And I've also learned that my case is making history --

我也得知，我的案例 創造了歷史——

it is the first international case under this new crime.

它是這種新型犯罪的 第一個國際案例。

Wow, finally some justice.

哇，終於，正義伸張了。

But this got me to thinking.

但這讓我做了些思考。

Nobody deserves this.

沒有人應該承受這種事。

Nobody deserves this level of humiliation

沒有人應該受到這種程度的羞辱、

and having to jump through all of these hoops.

走過這麼多磨難。

Our cyber civil rights are at stake.

我們的網路公民權利 正在危急關頭。

Here in the United States, we need to have clear, tough enforcement;

在美國這裡，我們需要

清楚、強硬的執行；

we need to demand the accountability and responsiveness from online companies;

我們需要要求線上公司 負責任並做出回應；

we need to promote social responsibilities for posting, sharing and texting;

我們需要推動張貼、分享， 和發送訊息的社會責任；

and we need to restore dignity to victims.

我們需要把尊嚴還給受害者。

And what about victims

還有一些受害者，

who neither have the time, money or resources to wage war,

沒有時間、金錢，或資源 來打戰，他們該怎麼辦？

who are left disempowered, mislabeled and broken?

他們落得無能為力，被貼上 錯誤的標籤，陷入沮喪當中。

Two things:

兩件事：

release the shame and end the silence.

放下羞恥，終結沉默。

Shame is at the core of all of this.

這一切的核心就是羞恥。

And for every silent prisoner of shame,

對羞恥的所有沉默囚犯來說，

it's the fear of judgment that's holding you hostage.

挾持他們的正是對於被評斷的恐懼。

And the price to pay is the stripping away of your self-worth.

要付出的代價， 是剝去你的自我價值。

The day I ended my silence, I freed myself from shame.

我終結沉默的那一天， 就讓我不再受羞恥的擺佈。

And I freed myself from the fear of judgment

我不再害怕被他人評斷，

from the one person who I thought would judge me the most --

包括我認為最會 評斷我的那個人——

my son,

我兒子，

who actually told me,

結果他卻告訴我：

"Mom, you are the strongest person that I know.

「媽，你是我所認識最堅強的人。

You can get through this.

你能渡過這件事的。

And besides, mom -- he chose the wrong woman to mess with."

此外，媽——他惹錯女人了。」

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

(Applause)

（掌聲）

It was on that day that I decided to use my platform

在那一天，我決定運用我的平台、

and my story and my voice.

我的故事，和我的聲音。

And to get started, I asked myself this one simple question:

一開始，我先問我自己 一個簡單的問題：

Who do I need to become now?

我現在需要變成誰？

That question, in the face of everything that I was challenged with,

在面對我受到挑戰的 一切時，那個問題

transformed my life and had me thinking about all kinds of possibilities.

轉變了我的人生， 讓我去思考各種可能性。

I now own my story, I speak my truth,

現在，我承認我的故事， 我說出我的真相，

and I'm narrating a new chapter in my life.

我在講述我人生的新篇章。

It's called "50 Shades of Silence."

它叫做「沉默的五十道陰影」。

It's a global social justice project,

它是一項全球性的社會正義計畫，

and we're working to film an upcoming documentary

我們正在拍攝 一部即將問世的紀錄片，

to give voice and dignity to victims.

將聲音和尊嚴還給受害者。

If you are a victim or you know someone who is, know this:

如果你是受害者或者你認識 任何受害者，請記住：

in order to be empowered, you have to take care of yourself,

若想要有能力做點什麼， 你得要能照顧好你自己，

and you have to love yourself.

你得要愛你自己。

You have to turn your anger into action,

你得要把你的憤怒轉為行動，

your pain into power

把你的痛苦轉為力量，

and your setback into a setup for what's next for your life.

把你的挫折轉為 未來人生境遇的準備。

This is a process, and it's a journey of self-discovery

這是一個過程， 是一段自我發現的旅程，

that might include forgiveness.

它可能會需要有寬恕。

But it definitely requires bravery, confidence and conviction.

但它肯定會需要 勇氣、信心，和信念。

I call it:

我稱它為：

finding your everyday courage.

找到你每天日常的勇氣。

Thank you.

謝謝。

(Applause)

（掌聲）