"Stumbling towards intimacy": An improvised TED Talk | Anthony Veneziale
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翻译人员: Shupeng Han
校对人员: Yinchun Rui
00:12
[This is an improvised talk (and intro)
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[这是一场即兴演讲(和介绍)
00:14
based on a suggested topic
from the audience.
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基于观众建议的话题。
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The speaker doesn't know
the content of the slides.]
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演讲者事先并不知道幻灯片的内容。]
00:20
Moderator: Our next speaker --
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主持人:有请我们的演讲者——
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(Laughter)
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(笑声)
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is an --
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他是一位 ——
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incredibly --
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极其——
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(Laughter)
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(笑声)
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Is an incredibly experienced linguist
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是一位经验极其丰富的语言学家
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working at a lab at MIT
with a small group of researchers,
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他在麻省理工学院的实验室中
与一小群研究者们一同工作,
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and through studying our language
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他们通过研究我们的语言
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and the way that we communicate
with other people,
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以及我们与他人交流的方式,
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he has stumbled upon
the secret of human intimacy.
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在无意中发现了人类亲密关系的秘密。
00:52
Here to give us his perspective,
please welcome to the stage,
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接下来让我们听听他的见解,
把舞台交给他,
安东尼·维内基亚。
00:55
Anthony Veneziale.
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00:56
(Applause)
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(掌声)
01:05
(Laughter)
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(笑声)
01:10
Anthony Veneziale: You might think
I know what you're going through.
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安东尼·维内基亚:大家可能在想
我知道你要说什么。
01:14
You might be looking at me
here on the red dot,
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你可能正注视着红圈中的我,
01:17
or you might be looking
at me on the screen.
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或是看着屏幕上的我。
01:20
There's a one sixth of a second delay.
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屏幕上有六分之一秒的延迟。
01:24
Did I catch myself? I did.
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那么我能看到我自己吗?当然。
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I could see myself before I turned,
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在我完全转身前我就能看到,
01:30
and that small delay
creates a little bit of a divide.
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但这几豪秒的延迟
让屏幕上的我和舞台上的我有些小小的不同。
01:35
(Laughter)
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(笑声)
01:39
And a divide is exactly what happens
with human language,
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类似的不对等也出现在人类的语言中,
01:44
and the processing of that language.
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以及语言加工的过程中。
01:47
I of course am working
out of a small lab at MIT.
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我的工作当然不只是
窝在麻省理工学院的一间小小实验室里。
01:52
(Laughter)
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(笑声)
01:54
And we are scraping
for every insight that we can get.
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我们尝试剖析我们可以洞察到的一切。
01:58
(Laughter)
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(笑声)
01:59
This is not often associated
with a computational challenge,
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这一般与计算挑战无关,
02:04
but in this case,
we found that persistence of vision
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但这一次,
我们发现视觉残留
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and auditory intake
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和听觉摄入
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actually have more in common
than we ever realized,
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实际上比我们之前所认为的
拥有更多的相似之处,
02:15
and we can see it in this first slide.
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我们可以看第一张幻灯片。
02:17
(Laughter)
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(笑声)
02:21
(Applause)
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(掌声)
02:25
Immediately your processing goes to,
"Is that a hard-boiled egg?"
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你立刻就会思考,
“那是一个煮熟的鸡蛋吗?”
02:29
(Laughter)
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(笑声)
02:31
"Is that perhaps the structural
integrity of the egg
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“也许正是因为这枚鸡蛋结构的完整性
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being able to sustain
the weight of what seems to be a rock?
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让它能够承受一块貌似岩石的重量。
02:39
Aha, is it in fact a real rock?"
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哦还有,那真的是一块货真价实的岩石吗?”
02:43
We go to questions
when we see visual information.
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当我们接收视觉信息时
我们会产生很多疑问,
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But when we hear information,
this is what happens.
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但如果信息来源于听觉,
就会发生这样的情况。
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(Laughter)
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(笑声)
02:56
The floodgates in our mind
open much like the streets of Shanghai.
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我们的思维闸门洞开,
就跟上海热闹的街道一样。
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(Applause)
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(笑声)
03:05
So many pieces of information to process,
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我们需要加工太多太多的信息,
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so many ideas, concepts, feelings
and, of course, vulnerabilities
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很多想法、概念、感受,
当然还有些难以启齿的内容,
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that we don't often wish to share.
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我们不太愿意分享。
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And so we hide,
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因此我们把这些隐藏起来,
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and we hide behind what we like to call
the floodgate of intimacy.
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藏在所谓的“亲密关系”这道闸门的后面。
03:20
(Laughter)
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(笑声)
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And what might that floodgate be holding?
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那么这扇闸门想守住什么呢?
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What is the dike upon which it is built?
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守住这扇闸门的堤坝又是什么呢?
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Well, first off --
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首先——
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(Laughter)
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(笑声)
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we found that it's different
for six different genotypes.
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我们发现这有六个不同的基因型。
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(Applause)
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(掌声)
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And, of course, we can start
categorizing these genotypes
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当然,我们可以开始
对这些基因型进行分类。
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into a neuronormative experience
and a neurodiverse experience.
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分为神经规范性体验和神经多样性体验。
03:57
(Laughter)
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(笑声)
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On the right-hand side of the screen,
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在我右手边的屏幕上,
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you're seeing spikes
for the neurodiverse thinking.
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你可以看到神经多样性思维的峰值。
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Now, there are generally
only two emotional states
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通常只有在两种情绪状态下,
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that a neurodiverse brain can tabulate
and keep count of at any given time,
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神经多样性思维可以随时统计和计数,
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thereby eliminating the possibility
for them to be emotionally, sometimes,
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从而消除它变得情绪化的可能性,
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attuned to the present situation.
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有时候它也会顺势而变。
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But on the left-hand side,
you can see the neuronormative brain,
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但在我的左手边,
你可以看到神经规范性思维,
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which can often handle
about five different pieces
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它通常可以随时处理五种不同类型的
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of emotional cognitive information
at any given time.
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情感认知信息。
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These are the slight variances
that you are seeing
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你所见到的有些差异很小,
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in the 75, 90 and 60 percentile,
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例如百分之75、90和60,
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and then of course
that dramatic difference
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还有一些差异很大,
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of the 25, 40 and 35 percentile.
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比如25、40和35这三个百分数。
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(Laughter)
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(笑声)
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But of course, what is the neural network
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当然,是怎样的神经网络
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that is helping to bridge and build
these different discrepancies?
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在帮助我们沟通和建立这些不同的差异?
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(Laughter)
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(笑声)
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Fear.
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恐惧。
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(Laughter)
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(笑声)
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(Applause)
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(掌声)
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And as we all know,
fear resides in the amygdala,
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我们都知道,
恐惧产生于杏仁核,
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and it is a very natural response,
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是一种非常自然的生理反应,
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and it is very closely linked
with visual perception.
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与人们的视觉感知息息相关。
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It is not as closely linked
with verbal perception,
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它与我们的言语感知
并没有那么紧密的联系,
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so our fear receptors
often will be going off
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因此我们的恐惧感受器官
会逐渐退化
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in advance of any of our cognitive usage
around verbal and words
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在任何我们的认知作用之前
在言语、词汇
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and cues of language.
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以及语言线索方面。
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So as we see these fear moments,
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所以当我们看到这些恐怖时刻时,
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we of course are taken aback.
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我们自然会大吃一惊。
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We stumble in a certain direction,
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我们在某一方面失足,
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generally away from the intimacy.
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自然会在这一方面疏远开来。
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(Laughter)
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(笑声)
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Now of course, there's a difference
between the male perception
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当然,男性的感知不同于
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and the female perception
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女性的感知,
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and of trans and those who are in between,
all of those as well,
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也不同于变性者或其他性别者的感知,
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and outside of the gender spectrum.
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亦不同于性别谱之外的人群的感知。
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(Laughter)
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(笑声)
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But fear is the central
underlying underpinning
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但是恐惧是核心基础
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of all of our response systems.
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在我们所有的反应系统中。
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Fight-or-flight is one of the earliest,
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战斗或是逃跑是
我们最早对环境的反应行为,
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some say reptilian,
response to our environment.
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也有人说是爬行。
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How can we disengage or unhook ourselves
from the horns of the amygdala?
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那我们如何才能
从杏仁核的号角声中脱离开来呢?
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(Laughter)
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(笑声)
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Well, I'd like to tell you
the secret right now.
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那么现在我就告诉你这个秘密。
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(Applause)
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(掌声)
06:33
This is all making
much, much too much sense.
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这一切都非常,
太能讲得通了。
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(Laughter)
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(笑声)
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The secret lies
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这个秘密就是
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in turning our backs to one another,
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彼此间相互隐瞒。
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and I know that that sounds
absolutely like the opposite
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我知道这个理论和你们期望的
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of what you were expecting,
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恰恰相反,
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but when in a relationship
you turn your back to your partner
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但是当你处于一段恋爱中时,
你隐瞒对方,
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and place your back upon their back --
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你的另一半也对你有所隐瞒,
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(Laughter)
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(笑声)
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you eliminate visual cues.
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那么你们就消除了视觉线索。
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(Laughter)
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(笑声)
07:05
(Applause)
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(掌声)
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You are more readily available
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我们就更容易
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to failing first,
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先失败,
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and failing first --
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而先失败——
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(Laughter)
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(笑声)
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far outweighs the lengths we go to
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价值远远超过我们去
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to appeal to others,
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吸引他人,
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to our partners and to ourselves.
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吸引我们的另一半和我们自己。
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We spend billions and billions of dollars
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我们花费了数十亿美元
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on clothing, on makeup,
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在衣服和化妆品上,
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on the latest trend of glasses,
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在最潮的眼镜上,
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but what we don't spend money and time on
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但是我们从不花费金钱和时间
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is connecting with each other
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在联络彼此上。
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in a way that is truthful
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联络彼此才是真实的、
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and honest
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诚挚的、
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and stripped of those visual receptors.
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剥去那些低级视觉感受的方式。
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(Applause)
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(掌声)
08:00
(Laughter)
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(笑声)
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It sounds hard, doesn't it?
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听起来很难,是吗?
08:04
(Laughter)
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(笑声)
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But we want to be aggressive about this.
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但是我们要对此有冲劲。
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We don't want to just sit on the couch.
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我们不能总是闲坐在沙发上。
08:20
As a historian said earlier today,
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正如一位历史学家
今天早些时候所说的,
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it's important to get up
and circumvent sometimes that couch.
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把屁股离开沙发是很重要。
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And how can we do it?
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那么我们应当怎么做?
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Well yes, ice is a big part of it.
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没错,
I、C、E是其中重要的一部分,
08:34
Insights, compassion and empathy:
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洞察力、同情心和共情。
08:37
I, C, E.
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这就是所谓的I、C、E。
08:39
(Applause)
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(掌声)
08:51
And when we start using this ice method,
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当我们开始使用这种方法的时候,
08:56
well, the possibilities become
much bigger than us.
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可能性比我们想象的要大很多。
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In fact, they become smaller than you.
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但事实上,可能性将会变小。
09:06
On a molecular level,
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从分子的层面上来说,
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I believe that that insight
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我相信洞察力
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is the unifying theme
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是共通的主题之一,
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for every talk you have seen so far at TED
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无论是你迄今为止
看过的哪一集TED,
09:16
and will continue as we of course embark
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并且这一主题还将持续下去
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on this journey here on this tiny planet,
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在我们渺小星球的短暂旅程之中,
09:25
on the ledge, on the precipice,
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无论是悬崖还是峭壁,
09:28
as we are seeing, yes,
death is inevitable.
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正如我们所看到的那样,
死亡不可避免。
09:32
(Laughter)
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(笑声)
09:34
Will it meet all of us at the same time,
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死亡对于我们来说是否会同时到来,
09:37
I think, is the variable we are inquiring.
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我想这是我们正持续探索的问题。
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(Laughter)
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(笑声)
09:46
I think that timeline gets a bit longer
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我觉得时间会变得长一些,
09:49
when we use ice
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当我们用ICE的方式,
09:50
and when we rest our backs
upon one another
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当我们背靠背
09:55
and build together,
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一起努力,
09:57
leaving behind the fear
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当我们将恐惧抛在脑后,
09:59
and working towards --
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并携手并进之时——
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(Laughter)
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(笑声)
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they'll edit this part out --
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他们会把这部分编辑出来的——
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(Laughter)
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(笑声)
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a ripened experience of love,
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成熟的爱、
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compassion,
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同情
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intimacy based on a truth
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以及亲密关系都建立在一个事实之上
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that you are sharing from your mind's eye
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那就是你的分享来源于你的头脑、
10:32
and the heart that we all can touch,
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你的心灵中我们都能触碰到的部分、
10:36
tactilely feel,
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我们都能感知到的部分,
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have maybe potentially a mushy experience
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也许可能是一次并不愉快的经历,
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that we don't just throw out
because it is browned,
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但我们不会因为它变质了
就随意丢弃,
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but let us slice in half
the experience we have gathered,
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我们会把以前的经验一分为二,
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let us seed what the heart, the core,
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我们会在内心深处最中心的地带播种,
10:56
the seed of that idea in each of us is,
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把我们的想法埋在种子里,
10:59
and let us share it back to back.
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并放心踏实地互相分享。
11:01
Thank you very much.
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感谢聆听。
11:02
(Applause)
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(掌声)
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