The secret to giving great feedback | The Way We Work, a TED series

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2020-02-10 ใƒป TED


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The secret to giving great feedback | The Way We Work, a TED series

1,539,956 views ใƒป 2020-02-10

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ไธ‹ใฎ่‹ฑ่ชžๅญ—ๅน•ใ‚’ใƒ€ใƒ–ใƒซใ‚ฏใƒชใƒƒใ‚ฏใ™ใ‚‹ใจๅ‹•็”ปใ‚’ๅ†็”Ÿใงใใพใ™ใ€‚

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Transcriber: TED Translators admin
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็ฟป่จณ: Riaki Poniลกt ๆ กๆญฃ: Emi Kamiya
00:12
If you look at a carpenter, they have a toolbox;
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ๅคงๅทฅใ•ใ‚“ใง่จ€ใ†ใชใ‚‰ๅทฅๅ…ท็ฎฑ
00:14
a dentist, they have their drills.
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ๆญฏๅŒป่€…ใ•ใ‚“ใชใ‚‰ใƒ‰ใƒชใƒซ
00:16
In our era and the type of work most of us are doing,
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็งใŸใก็พไปฃไบบใŒๆบใ‚ใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹ ใปใจใ‚“ใฉใฎ่ทๆฅญใง
00:19
the tool we most need is actually centered
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ๆœ€ใ‚‚ๅฟ…่ฆใจใ•ใ‚Œใ‚‹ใ€Œ้“ๅ…ทใ€ใ‚’ ็ชใ่ฉฐใ‚ใ‚‹ใจ
00:21
around being able to give and receive feedback well.
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ใƒ•ใ‚ฃใƒผใƒ‰ใƒใƒƒใ‚ฏใฎใ‚„ใ‚Šใจใ‚Šใฎ ไธŠๆ‰‹ใ•ใซ่กŒใ็€ใใพใ™
00:25
[The Way We Work]
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๏ผปใ‚ทใƒชใƒผใ‚บ ๅƒใๆ–น๏ผฝ
00:29
Humans have been talking about feedback for centuries.
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ไบบ้–“ใฏใƒ•ใ‚ฃใƒผใƒ‰ใƒใƒƒใ‚ฏใซใคใ„ใฆ ไฝ•ไธ–็ด€ใ‚‚่ซ–ใ˜ใฆใใพใ—ใŸ
00:32
In fact, Confucius, way back in 500 BC,
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ใชใ‚“ใจๅญ”ๅญใงใ•ใˆ ็ด€ๅ…ƒๅ‰500ๅนดใจใ„ใ†ๅคงๆ˜”ใซ
00:35
talked about how important it is to be able to say difficult messages well.
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่จ€ใ„ใฅใ‚‰ใ„ใ“ใจใ‚’ไธŠๆ‰‹ใซไผใˆใ‚‹ใ‚นใ‚ญใƒซใŒ ใ„ใ‹ใซ้‡่ฆใ‹ใ‚’่ชžใฃใฆใ„ใพใ™
00:39
But to be honest, we're still pretty bad at it.
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ใจใ“ใ‚ใŒ ็งใŸใกใฏ ใ„ใพใ ใซ ใ“ใ‚ŒใŒๅคงใฎ่‹ฆๆ‰‹ใงใ™
00:41
In fact, a recent Gallup survey found
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ไบ‹ๅฎŸ ๆœ€่ฟ‘ใฎใ‚ฎใƒฃใƒฉใƒƒใƒ—่ชฟๆŸปใซใ‚ˆใ‚‹ใจ
00:44
that only 26 percent of employees strongly agree
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ไผš็คพๅ“กใฎใ†ใก ใ‚ใšใ‹26%ใ—ใ‹
่ทๅ ดใงๅ—ใ‘ใŸใƒ•ใ‚ฃใƒผใƒ‰ใƒใƒƒใ‚ฏใฎใŠใ‹ใ’ใง ไป•ไบ‹ใŒๆ”นๅ–„ใ—ใŸ ใจใฏๆ€ใฃใฆใ„ใชใ„ใใ†ใงใ™
00:48
that the feedback they get actually improves their work.
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00:51
Those numbers are pretty dismal.
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ใ‹ใชใ‚Šๆƒจใ‚ใชๆ•ฐๅญ—ใงใ™
00:53
So what's going on?
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ๅ•้กŒใฏไฝ•ใ‹ใจใ„ใ†ใจ
00:54
The way that most people give their feedback
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ๅคงๆŠตใฎไบบใฎใƒ•ใ‚ฃใƒผใƒ‰ใƒใƒƒใ‚ฏๆ–นๆณ•ใฏ
00:56
actually isn't brain-friendly.
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่„ณใจใฎ็›ธๆ€งใŒๆ‚ชใ
00:58
People fall into one of two camps.
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ไธปใซ๏ผ’ใ‚ฟใ‚คใƒ—ใซๅˆ†ใ‹ใ‚Œใพใ™
01:00
Either they're of the camp that is very indirect and soft
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็‰‡ใ‚„ ้žๅธธใซ้ ๅ›žใ—ใง ๆŸ”ใ‚‰ใ‹ใ„่จ€ใ„ๆ–นใชใฎใง
01:04
and the brain doesn't even recognize that feedback is being given
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่žใๆ‰‹ใฎ่„ณใฏ ใƒ•ใ‚ฃใƒผใƒ‰ใƒใƒƒใ‚ฏใ‚’ ๅ—ใ‘ใŸใ“ใจใซๆฐ—ใฅใใ‚‚ใ—ใชใ„ใ‹
01:07
or it's just simply confused,
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ๅ˜ใซๆททไนฑใ™ใ‚‹ใ ใ‘ใจใ„ใ†็ตๆžœใซ
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or they fall into the other camp of being too direct,
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็‰‡ใ‚„ ้ ๆ…ฎใŒใชใ•ใ™ใŽใ‚‹ใŸใ‚
01:11
and with that, it tips the other person into the land of being defensive.
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็›ธๆ‰‹ใ‚’่‡ชๅทฑ้˜ฒ่ก›ไฝ“ๅ‹ขใซ ่ฟฝใ„่พผใ‚“ใงใ—ใพใ†็ตๆžœใซใชใ‚Šใพใ™
01:16
There's this part of the brain called the amygdala,
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่„ณใซใฏๆ‰ๆกƒไฝ“ใจใ„ใ†้ƒจๅˆ†ใŒใ‚ใฃใฆ
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and it's scanning at all times to figure out
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ๅ—ใ‘ๅ–ใ‚‹ๆƒ…ๅ ฑใซๅธธใซ็›ฎใ‚’ๅ…‰ใ‚‰ใ›
็คพไผš็š„ใช่„…ๅจใŒๅซใพใ‚Œใ‚‹ใ‹ใฉใ†ใ‹ใ‚’ ๅˆคๆ–ญใ—ใฆใ„ใพใ™
01:21
whether the message has a social threat attached to it.
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With that, we'll move forward to defensiveness,
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ใใฎๅˆคๆ–ญใซใ‚ˆใ‚Š ๅ‰ใซๅ‡บใฆ้˜ฒ่ก›ใ—ใŸใ‚Š
01:26
we'll move backwards in retreat,
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ๅพŒ้€€ใ—ใฆ้€ƒ้ฟใ—ใŸใ‚Šใ™ใ‚‹ใ‚ใ‘ใงใ™ใŒ
01:28
and what happens is the feedback giver then starts to disregulate as well.
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ใใ‚Œใ‚’ๅ—ใ‘ใฆ ไปŠๅบฆใฏ ใƒ•ใ‚ฃใƒผใƒ‰ใƒใƒƒใ‚ฏใ—ใŸๅดใ‚‚่ชฟๅญใ‚’ๅดฉใ—
01:32
They add more ums and ahs and justifications,
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่จ€ใ„ใ‚ˆใฉใ‚“ใ ใ‚Š ๆญฃๅฝ“ๅŒ–ใ‚’ๅง‹ใ‚ใŸใ‚Šใ—ใพใ™ใ‹ใ‚‰
01:35
and the whole thing gets wonky really fast.
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ใ‚ใฃใจใ„ใ†้–“ใซ ใ‚ฎใ‚ฏใ‚ทใƒฃใ‚ฏใ—ใฆใ—ใพใ†ใ‚ใ‘ใงใ™
01:38
It doesn't have to be this way.
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ใงใ‚‚ ๅฏพ็ญ–ใฏๅฏ่ƒฝใงใ™
01:39
I and my team have spent many years going into different companies
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็งใŸใกใฎใƒใƒผใƒ ใฏไฝ•ๅนดใ‚‚ใ‹ใ‘ใฆ ๆง˜ใ€…ใชไผๆฅญใ‚’ๅ›žใ‚Š
01:43
and asking who here is a great feedback giver.
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็คพๅ†…ใฎใƒ•ใ‚ฃใƒผใƒ‰ใƒใƒƒใ‚ฏใฎ้”ไบบใ‚’ ๆŒ‡ๅใ—ใฆใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใ„ใพใ—ใŸ
01:46
Anybody who's named again and again,
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็นฐใ‚Š่ฟ”ใ—ๅๅ‰ใŒๆŒ™ใŒใฃใŸไบบใซใฏ
01:48
we actually bring into our labs to see what they're doing differently.
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ๅฎŸ้š›ใซ็ ”็ฉถๆ‰€ใซๆฅใฆใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใ„ ใ‚„ใ‚Šๆ–นใฎใฉใ“ใŒ้•ใ†ใ‹่ฆณๅฏŸใ—ใพใ—ใŸ
01:52
And what we find is that there's a four-part formula
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ใ“ใ†ใ—ใฆ็™บ่ฆ‹ใ—ใŸใฎใŒ ๏ผ”ใ‚นใƒ†ใƒƒใƒ—ๆง‹ๆˆใฎใ€Œๆฅตๆ„ใ€ใง
01:55
that you can use to say any difficult message well.
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ใ“ใ‚Œใ‚’ไฝฟใˆใฐ ใฉใ‚“ใช่จ€ใ„ใฅใ‚‰ใ„ใ“ใจใ‚‚ ไธŠๆ‰‹ใซไผใˆใ‚‰ใ‚Œใพใ™
01:58
OK, are you ready for it? Here we go.
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ๆบ–ๅ‚™ใฏใ„ใ„ใงใ™ใ‹๏ผŸ ใงใฏ่กŒใใพใ™
02:00
The first part of the formula is what we call the micro-yes.
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ใƒ•ใ‚ฃใƒผใƒ‰ใƒใƒƒใ‚ฏใฎๆฅตๆ„ ใใฎ๏ผ‘๏ผšๅไป˜ใ‘ใฆใ€Œๅฐใ•ใชใ‚คใ‚จใ‚นใ€
02:03
Great feedback givers begin their feedback
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ใƒ•ใ‚ฃใƒผใƒ‰ใƒใƒƒใ‚ฏใฎ้”ไบบใฏ ใพใšใฏใ˜ใ‚ใซ
02:06
by asking a question that is short but important.
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็Ÿญใ„ใ‘ใ‚Œใฉ ๅคงไบ‹ใช่ณชๅ•ใ‚’ใ—ใพใ™
02:09
It lets the brain know that feedback is actually coming.
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ใใ†ใ™ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใง ใƒ•ใ‚ฃใƒผใƒ‰ใƒใƒƒใ‚ฏใŒๆฅใ‚‹ใจ ๅ—ใ‘ๆ‰‹ใฎ่„ณใซ็Ÿฅใ‚‰ใ›ใพใ™
02:13
It would be something, for example, like,
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ไพ‹ใˆใฐใ“ใ†ใ„ใ†่ณชๅ•ใงใ™
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"Do you have five minutes to talk about how that last conversation went"
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ใ€Œ๏ผ•ๅˆ†ใ ใ‘ๆ™‚้–“ใ‚ใ‚‹๏ผŸ ใ•ใฃใใฎๅฏพๅฟœใฎไปถใชใ‚“ใ ใ‘ใฉใ€
ใ€Œๆฅญๅ‹™ๆ”นๅ–„ใฎใ‚ขใ‚คใƒ‡ใ‚ขใŒใ‚ใ‚‹ใ‚“ใ ใ‘ใฉ
02:19
or "I have some ideas for how we can improve things.
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02:21
Can I share them with you?"
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่žใ„ใฆใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใˆใ‚‹๏ผŸใ€
02:22
This micro-yes question does two things for you.
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ใ“ใฎใ€Œๅฐใ•ใชใ‚คใ‚จใ‚นใ€ๅผใฎ่ณชๅ•ใซใฏ ๏ผ’ใคใฎๅฝนๅ‰ฒใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™
02:25
First of all, it's going to be a pacing tool.
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๏ผ‘ใคใฏ ใ‚„ใ‚Šใจใ‚Šใฎใƒšใƒผใ‚นใ‚’ไฝœใ‚‹ใ“ใจ
02:27
It lets the other person know that feedback is about to be given.
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ใ“ใ‚Œใ‹ใ‚‰ใƒ•ใ‚ฃใƒผใƒ‰ใƒใƒƒใ‚ฏใŒๆฅใ‚‹ใจ ็›ธๆ‰‹ใซ็Ÿฅใ‚‰ใ›ใ‚‹ใ“ใจใŒใงใใพใ™
02:30
And the second thing it does is it creates a moment of buy-in.
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ใ‚‚ใ†๏ผ‘ใคใฏ ใƒ•ใ‚ฃใƒผใƒ‰ใƒใƒƒใ‚ฏใฎ ๅ—ใ‘ๅ…ฅใ‚Œไฝ“ๅ‹ขใ‚’ไฝœใ‚‹ใจใ„ใ†ใ‚‚ใฎ
02:34
I can say yes or no to that yes or no question.
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ใ‚คใ‚จใ‚นใ‹ใƒŽใƒผใฎ๏ผ’ๆŠžใชใ‚‰ ใฉใกใ‚‰ใ‚’้ธใถใ‚‚่‡ชๅˆ†ๆฌก็ฌฌใงใ™
02:36
And with that, I get a feeling of autonomy.
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ใ‚ˆใฃใฆ ่‡ชๅˆ†ใงๆฑบใ‚ใŸใจใ„ใ†ๅฎŸๆ„ŸใŒๅพ—ใ‚‰ใ‚Œใพใ™
02:39
The second part of the feedback formula is going to be giving your data point.
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ใƒ•ใ‚ฃใƒผใƒ‰ใƒใƒƒใ‚ฏใฎๆฅตๆ„ ใใฎ๏ผ’๏ผšๅ…ทไฝ“็š„ใช่จผๆ‹ ใ‚’็คบใ™
02:43
Here, you should name specifically what you saw or heard,
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ๅ…ทไฝ“็š„ใซไฝ•ใ‚’่ฆ‹ใŸใฎใ‹ใƒป่žใ„ใŸใฎใ‹ใ‚’่จ€ใ„
02:46
and cut out any words that aren't objective.
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ๅฎข่ฆณ็š„ใงใชใ„่จ€่‘‰ใฏไธ€ๅˆ‡็œใใพใ™
02:49
There's a concept we call blur words.
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ใ€Œใผใ‹ใ—่จ€่‘‰ใ€ใจใ„ใ†่€ƒใˆๆ–นใŒใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™ใŒ
02:51
A blur word is something that can mean different things to different people.
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่žใๆ‰‹ใซใ‚ˆใฃใฆ ้•ใ†ๆ„ๅ‘ณใซๅ–ใ‚Œใ‚‹่กจ็พใฎใ“ใจใงใ™
ใผใ‹ใ—่จ€่‘‰ใฏๅ…ทไฝ“ๆ€งใซๆฌ ใ‘ใพใ™
02:55
Blur words are not specific.
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02:56
So for example, if I say "You shouldn't be so defensive"
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ไพ‹ใˆใฐใ€Œใใ‚“ใชใซใƒ ใ‚ญใซใชใ‚‰ใชใใฆใ‚‚ใ€
03:00
or "You could be more proactive."
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ใ€Œใ‚‚ใฃใจ่‡ชๅˆ†ใ‹ใ‚‰ๅ‹•ใ“ใ†ใ‚ˆใ€ใชใฉ
03:02
What we see great feedback givers doing differently
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ใƒ•ใ‚ฃใƒผใƒ‰ใƒใƒƒใ‚ฏใฎ้”ไบบใฎใ‚„ใ‚Šๆ–นใŒ ้•ใ†ใจใ“ใ‚ใฏ
03:04
is they'll convert their blur words into actual data points.
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ใผใ‹ใ—่จ€่‘‰ใ‚’ ๅ…ทไฝ“็š„ใช่จผๆ‹ ใซๅค‰ๆ›ใ™ใ‚‹ใจใ„ใ†็‚นใงใ™
03:08
So for example, instead of saying,
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ไพ‹ใˆใฐ
ใ€Œๅ›ใฏๅฝ“ใฆใซใชใ‚‰ใชใ„ใ€ใงใฏใชใ
03:10
"You aren't reliable,"
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03:12
we would say, "You said you'd get that email to me by 11,
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ใ€Œไพ‹ใฎใƒกใƒผใƒซ 11ๆ™‚ใพใงใซ ้€ใฃใฆใใ‚Œใ‚‹ใฃใฆ่ฉฑใ ใฃใŸใ‘ใฉ
03:15
and I still don't have it yet."
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ใพใ ๆฅใฆใชใ„ใ‚ˆใ€ใจ่จ€ใ„ใพใ™
03:17
Specificity is also important when it comes to positive feedback,
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ๅ…ทไฝ“ๆ€งใŒๅคงไบ‹ใชใฎใฏ ใƒใ‚ธใƒ†ใ‚ฃใƒ–ใชใƒ•ใ‚ฃใƒผใƒ‰ใƒใƒƒใ‚ฏใงใ‚‚ๅŒใ˜ใงใ™
03:20
and the reason for that is that we want to be able to specify exactly
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ใจใ„ใ†ใฎใ‚‚ ใ“ใ“ใงใ‚‚ๆ˜Ž็ขบใซ ๅ…ทไฝ“ไพ‹ใ‚’ๆŒ™ใ’ใŸใ„ใจใ“ใ‚ใ ใ‹ใ‚‰ใงใ™
03:24
what we want the other person to increase or diminish.
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็›ธๆ‰‹ใซ ไฝ•ใ‚’ๅข—ใ‚„ใ— ไฝ•ใ‚’ๆธ›ใ‚‰ใ—ใฆใปใ—ใ„ใฎใ‹
03:27
And if we stick with blur words,
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ใ ใ‹ใ‚‰ ใผใ‹ใ—่จ€่‘‰ใ‚’ใ‚„ใ‚ใชใ„ใจ
03:29
they actually won't have any clue particularly
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ๅ…จใไผใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ›ใ‚“ ไฝ•ใ‚’ใ™ในใใ‹ใŒใ‚ใ‹ใ‚‰ใชใ„ใฎใง
03:31
what to do going forward to keep repeating that behavior.
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่กŒๅ‹•ใ‚’ๅฎš็€ใ•ใ›ใ‚ˆใ†ใŒใชใ„ใฎใงใ™
03:34
The third part of the feedback formula is the impact statement.
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ใƒ•ใ‚ฃใƒผใƒ‰ใƒใƒƒใ‚ฏใฎๆฅตๆ„ ใใฎ๏ผ“๏ผšๅฝฑ้Ÿฟใ‚’ไผใˆใ‚‹
03:37
Here, you name exactly how that data point impacted you.
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ๅ…ˆใปใฉๅ…ทไฝ“็š„ใซ่ฟฐในใŸไบ‹ๆŸ„ใŒ ่‡ชๅˆ†ใซใฉใ†ๅฝฑ้Ÿฟใ—ใŸใ‹่ชฌๆ˜Žใ—ใพใ™
03:40
So, for example, I might say, "Because I didn't get the message,
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ไพ‹ใˆใฐ ใ“ใ‚“ใชๅ†…ๅฎนใงใ™
ใ€Œใƒกใƒผใƒซใ‚’ๅพ…ใฃใฆใ„ใ‚‹้–“ ไป•ไบ‹ใŒๆญขใพใฃใฆ ๅ…ˆใซ้€ฒใ‚ใชใ‹ใฃใŸใ€
03:43
I was blocked on my work and couldn't move forward"
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ใ€Œใ‚นใƒˆใƒผใƒชใƒผใฎ่ถณใ—ๆ–นใŒ ใจใฆใ‚‚ใ‚ˆใ‹ใฃใŸใจๆ€ใ†
03:46
or "I really liked how you added those stories,
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03:48
because it helped me grasp the concepts faster."
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ใŠใ‹ใ’ใงใ‚ณใƒณใ‚ปใƒ—ใƒˆใ‚’ ใ™ใฃใจ็†่งฃใงใใŸใ‚ˆใ€
03:50
It gives you a sense of purpose
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ใ™ใ‚‹ใจ ๅ…ˆใซๅ‡บใ—ใŸ่จผๆ‹ ใซ
03:52
and meaning and logic between the points,
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็›ฎ็š„ใ‚„ๆ„ๅ‘ณใ‚„็†ๅฑˆใŒๅŠ ใ‚ใฃใฆ
03:55
which is something the brain really craves.
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่„ณใŒๆฑ‚ใ‚ใ‚‹ๆƒ…ๅ ฑใŒใงใใ‚ใŒใ‚Šใพใ™
03:57
The fourth part of the feedback formula is a question.
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ใƒ•ใ‚ฃใƒผใƒ‰ใƒใƒƒใ‚ฏใฎๆฅตๆ„ ใใฎ๏ผ”๏ผš่ณชๅ•ใง็ต‚ใˆใ‚‹
04:01
Great feedback givers wrap their feedback message with a question.
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ใƒ•ใ‚ฃใƒผใƒ‰ใƒใƒƒใ‚ฏใฎ้”ไบบใฏ ๆœ€ๅพŒใ‚’่ณชๅ•ใง็ท ใ‚ใพใ™
04:05
They'll ask something like,
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ใ“ใ‚“ใชใตใ†ใซๅฐ‹ใญใพใ™
04:06
"Well, how do you see it?"
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ใ€Œใฉใ†ๆ€ใ†๏ผŸใ€
04:08
Or "This is what I'm thinking we should do,
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ใ€Œ็งใฏใ“ใ†ใ™ใ‚‹ใจใ‚ˆใ•ใใ†ใช ๆฐ—ใŒใ™ใ‚‹ใ‚“ใ ใ‘ใฉ
04:10
but what are your thoughts on it?"
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ๆ„่ฆ‹ใ‚’ใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใˆใชใ„ใ‹ใช๏ผŸใ€
04:12
What it does is it creates commitment rather than just compliance.
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ใ™ใ‚‹ใจ ๅพ“ใ†ใฎใงใฏใชใ ่ฒฌไปปใ‚’ๆŒใฃใฆ้–ขใ‚ใ‚ใ†ใจใ™ใ‚‹ๅงฟๅ‹ขใŒ็”Ÿใพใ‚Œ
04:15
It makes the conversation no longer be a monologue,
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ใ“ใกใ‚‰ใŒไธ€ๆ–น็š„ใซ ใƒ€ใƒฉใƒ€ใƒฉ่ฉฑใ™ใ“ใจใฏใชใใชใ‚Š
04:18
but rather becomes a joint problem-solving situation.
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ๅ”ๅŠ›ใ—ใฆๅ•้กŒใ‚’่งฃๆฑบใ™ใ‚‹ใŸใ‚ใฎ ๅฏพ่ฉฑใŒๅง‹ใพใ‚Šใพใ™
04:22
But there's one last thing.
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ๆœ€ๅพŒใซใ‚‚ใ†๏ผ‘ใค
04:23
Great feedback givers not only can say messages well,
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ใƒ•ใ‚ฃใƒผใƒ‰ใƒใƒƒใ‚ฏใฎ้”ไบบใฏ ไผใˆๆ–นใŒไธŠๆ‰‹ใ„ใ ใ‘ใงใฏใชใ
04:26
but also, they ask for feedback regularly.
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่‡ชๅˆ†ใธใฎใƒ•ใ‚ฃใƒผใƒ‰ใƒใƒƒใ‚ฏใ‚’ๅฎšๆœŸ็š„ใซๆฑ‚ใ‚ใพใ™
04:29
In fact, our research on perceived leadership
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ไบ‹ๅฎŸ ใƒชใƒผใƒ€ใƒผใ‚ทใƒƒใƒ—ใฎ่ช่ญ˜ใฎใ•ใ‚Œๆ–นใ‚’ ็ ”็ฉถใ—ใŸใจใ“ใ‚
04:31
shows that you shouldn't wait for feedback to be given to you --
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ไธŽใˆใ‚‰ใ‚Œใ‚‹ใƒ•ใ‚ฃใƒผใƒ‰ใƒใƒƒใ‚ฏ ใคใพใ‚Š
ใ€Œใƒ—ใƒƒใ‚ทใƒฅ๏ผˆๆŠผใ™๏ผ‰ๅž‹ใ€ใƒ•ใ‚ฃใƒผใƒ‰ใƒใƒƒใ‚ฏ ใŒๆฅใ‚‹ใฎใ‚’ๅพ…ใคใ‚ˆใ‚Š
04:35
what we call push feedback --
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04:37
but rather, you should actively ask for feedback,
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่‡ชๅˆ†ใ‹ใ‚‰ๆฑ‚ใ‚ใŸๆ–นใŒ่‰ฏใ„ ใจใ„ใ†็ตๆžœใŒๅ‡บใพใ—ใŸ
04:39
what we call pulling feedback.
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ใ€Œใƒ—ใƒซ๏ผˆๅผ•ใ๏ผ‰ๅž‹ใ€ใƒ•ใ‚ฃใƒผใƒ‰ใƒใƒƒใ‚ฏใงใ™
04:41
Pulling feedback establishes you as a continual learner
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ใƒ—ใƒซๅž‹ใƒ•ใ‚ฃใƒผใƒ‰ใƒใƒƒใ‚ฏใ‚’ไฝฟใ†ใจ ๅญฆใณ็ถšใ‘ใ‚‹ไบบใจใ„ใ†ๅฎš่ฉ•ใŒๅพ—ใ‚‰ใ‚Œ
04:45
and puts the power in your hands.
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ๅฝฑ้ŸฟๅŠ›ใŒ่บซใซใคใใพใ™
04:47
The most challenging situations
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ๆฅตใ‚ใฆๅŽณใ—ใ„็Šถๆณใซใฏ
ๆฅตใ‚ใฆๅทงใฟใชใƒ•ใ‚ฃใƒผใƒ‰ใƒใƒƒใ‚ฏใŒ ๆฑ‚ใ‚ใ‚‰ใ‚Œใ‚‹ใ‚‚ใฎใงใ™
04:49
are actually the ones that call for the most skillful feedback.
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04:52
But it doesn't have to be hard.
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ใงใ‚‚ๅˆ‡ใ‚ŠๆŠœใ‘ใ‚‹ๆ–นๆณ•ใฏใ‚ใ‚Šใพใ™
04:53
Now that you know this four-part formula,
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ใ”็ดนไป‹ใ—ใŸ๏ผ”ใ‚นใƒ†ใƒƒใƒ—ใฎๆฅตๆ„ใ‚’ ใ‚ขใƒฌใƒณใ‚ธใ—ใฆ
04:55
you can mix and match it to make it work for any difficult conversation.
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้›ฃใ—ใ„ๅ ด้ขใซๅฏพๅฟœใ™ใ‚‹ใ‚ˆใ†ใซใ—ใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†
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