Bruce Feiler: The council of dads

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譯者: Lynn Chu 審譯者: Shelley Krishna Tsang
00:15
My story actually began when I was four years old
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我的故事從我四歲時開始
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and my family moved to a new neighborhood
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我們一家搬到了一個新區
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in our hometown of Savannah, Georgia.
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我的故居喬治亞州撤番那市
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And this was the 1960s
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那是1960年
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when actually all the streets in this neighborhood
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當時這一區的所有街道
00:26
were named after Confederate war generals.
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全以南方聯邦將領冠名
00:29
We lived on Robert E. Lee Boulevard.
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我們住在羅扙.E.李大道上
00:31
And when I was five,
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在我五歲那年
00:33
my parents gave me an orange Schwinn Sting-Ray bicycle.
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父母給我買了一台橘色的腳踏車
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It had a swooping banana seat and those ape hanger handlebars
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前傾式的座位及猿猴掛樹式的把手
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that made the rider look like an orangutan.
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讓騎上去的人看起來活像一隻狒狒
00:42
That's why they were called ape hangers.
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所以才叫「猿猴掛樹」式
00:44
They were actually modeled on hotrod motorcycles of the 1960s,
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這設計以當時廣受歡迎的摩托車為範本
00:47
which I'm sure my mom didn't know.
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我媽肯定不知道這一點
00:49
And one day I was exploring this cul-de-sac
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有一天我騎著我的腳踏車
00:52
hidden away a few streets away.
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到一條隱秘的死胡同探險
00:54
And I came back,
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回家的時侯
00:56
and I wanted to turn around and get back to that street more quickly,
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我又想抄小路折回去
00:58
so I decided to turn around in this big street
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我決定從這一絛交接的
01:01
that intersected our neighborhood,
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大街上拐彎的時候
01:03
and wham! I was hit by a passing sedan.
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碰! 的一聲,一輛車子撞上了我
01:06
My mangled body flew in one direction,
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我變形的身子飛往一個方向
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my mangled bike flew in the other.
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變形的腳踏車飛往另一個方向
01:11
And I lay on the pavement stretching over that yellow line,
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我就躺在路中的黃線上
01:14
and one of my neighbors came running over.
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鄰居朝我跑過來
01:16
"Andy, Andy, how are you doing?" she said, using the name of my older brother.
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「安迪, 安迪, 你還好嗎?」她叫著我哥哥的名字
01:19
(Laughter)
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(笑聲)
01:21
"I'm Bruce," I said, and promptly passed out.
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「我是布魯斯。」我說, 然後就昏了過去
01:24
I broke my left femur that day --
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那天,我折斷了我的左邊的大腿骨
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it's the largest bone in your body --
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身體裏最大的一跟骨頭
01:28
and spent the next two months in a body cast
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石膏打了兩個月
01:31
that went from my chin to the tip of my toe
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從下巴一直到腳趾頭
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to my right knee,
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到右膝蓋
01:35
and a steel bar went from my right knee
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一根鋼棒連著我的
01:37
to my left ankle.
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右膝蓋跟左腳踝
01:39
And for the next 38 years,
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在往後的38年裏
01:41
that accident was the only medically interesting thing
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那次意外是我的病歷上
01:43
that ever happened to me.
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最有趣的一件事。
01:46
In fact, I made a living by walking.
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然而, 我把走路變為生計
01:48
I traveled around the world, entered different cultures,
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我環遊世界, 走進不同的文化
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wrote a series of books about my travels,
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並且把我的旅程寫成書
01:52
including "Walking the Bible."
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其中包括了「聖經之旅」
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I hosted a television show by that name
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那部書更被改作同名的電視劇
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on PBS.
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在PBS播放
01:58
I was, for all the world, the "walking guy."
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大家都叫我「行者」
02:01
Until, in May 2008,
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直到2008年5月
02:04
a routine visit to my doctor
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一次例行的體檢
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and a routine blood test
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一次例行血液測試
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produced evidence in the form of an alkaline phosphatase number
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驗出我的鹼性磷酸酶值偏高
02:11
that something might be wrong with my bones.
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我的骨骼可能出了毛病
02:15
And my doctor, on a whim, sent me to get a full-body bone scan,
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我的醫生, 一時心血來潮, 叫我去做全身骨骼掃描
02:18
which showed that there was some growth in my left leg.
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結果發現我的左腿長了有一些東西
02:21
That sent me to an X-ray, then to an MRI.
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我又去做了X光和磁振造影
02:24
And one afternoon, I got a call from my doctor.
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一天下午, 我接到醫生的電話
02:28
"The tumor in your leg
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「你腿上的腫瘤
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is not consistent with a benign tumor."
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是非良性的。」
02:32
I stopped walking,
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我停下了腳步
02:34
and it took my mind a second to convert that double negative
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又過了好一會
02:37
into a much more horrifying negative.
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我才突然理解
02:39
I have cancer.
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非良性腫瘤就是癌
02:41
And to think that the tumor was in the same bone,
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你想想看, 跟38年前意外的
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in the same place in my body
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同一條骨頭
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as the accident 38 years earlier --
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的同一個位置上
02:49
it seemed like too much of a coincidence.
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我覺得這是不可能的巧合
02:52
So that afternoon, I went back to my house,
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那天下午, 我回到了家
02:54
and my three year-old identical twin daughters, Eden and Tybee Feiler,
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我那對三歲的同卵雙胞胎女兒, 依殿和泰必
02:57
came running to meet me.
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跑上來迎接我
02:59
They'd just turned three,
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她們剛滿三歲
03:01
and they were into all things pink and purple.
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喜歡所有粉紅和紫色的東西
03:03
In fact, we called them Pinkalicious and Purplicious --
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我們暱稱她們為粉紅仙子和紫仙子 --
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although I must say, our favorite nickname
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可是我最喜歡的暱稱
03:08
occurred on their birthday, April 15th.
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是在她們生曰的那天,4月15日,得到的。
03:10
When they were born at 6:14 and 6:46
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她們是在 2005年 4月15曰
03:13
on April 15, 2005,
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6:14 和 6:46 出生的
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our otherwise grim, humorless doctor looked at his watch,
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我們的那個嚴肅又沒幽默感的醫生
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and was like, "Hmm, April 15th -- tax day.
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看了看手表說: 「唔, 4月15,
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Early filer and late filer."
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納稅的日子, 早繳兒和晚繳兒呀」
03:24
(Laughter)
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(笑聲)
03:29
The next day I came to see him. I was like, "Doctor, that was a really good joke."
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第二天我跟他說「醫生, 你的笑話太好笑了.」
03:32
And he was like, "You're the writer, kid."
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他說「孩子,你才是作家呢!」
03:34
Anyway -- so they had just turned three,
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所以, 她們剛滿三歲
03:36
and they came and they were doing this dance they had just made up
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她們跑過來叫我欣賞她們自創的舞蹈
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where they were twirling faster and faster until they tumbled to the ground,
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她們轉呀轉, 轉到摔在地上
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laughing with all the glee in the world.
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兩個人笑成一團
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I crumbled.
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我崩潰了
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I kept imagining all the walks I might not take with them,
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我一直想像著我無法陪她們走的路
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the art projects I might not mess up,
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無法弄糟她們的美術作業
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the boyfriends I might not scowl at,
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無法朝她們的男友直皺眉頭
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the aisles I might not walk down.
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無法看到她們步入教堂
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Would they wonder who I was, I thought.
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她們會猜想我是怎麼樣的人嗎?
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Would they yearn for my approval,
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會不會盼望得到我的認可
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my love, my voice?
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我的愛, 我的聲音
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A few days later, I woke with an idea
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數天後, 我想到了一個點子
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of how I might give them that voice.
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可以讓她們聽到我的聲音
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I would reach out to six men
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我要從我的生命中
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from all parts of my life
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挑選出六個男人
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and ask them to be present
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請他們在我女兒生命中的
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in the passages of my daughters' lives.
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每個階段陪伴她們
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"I believe my girls will have plenty of opportunities in their lives,"
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「我相信我的女兒們會有光明的未來」
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I wrote these men.
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我在給這些男人的信上這樣寫:
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"They'll have loving families and welcoming homes,
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「她們會有幸福的家庭, 慈愛的家人
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but they may not have me.
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可是她們可能會失去我
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They may not have their dad.
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可能會失去她們的爸爸
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Will you help be their dad?"
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你們願不願意當她們的爸爸?」
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And I said to myself
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然後我對自己說:
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I would call this group of men "the Council of Dads."
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我會稱他們為「爸爸顧問團」
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Now as soon as I had this idea,
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一想到這個點子以後
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I decided I wouldn't tell my wife. Okay.
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我當下就決定要瞞住我老婆. 為甚麼呢?
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She's a very upbeat,
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我老婆是一個很開朗
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naturally excited person.
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很容易興奮的人
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There's this idea in this culture -- I don't have to tell you --
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大家都知道, 我們的文化裏有這麼個概念
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that you sort of "happy" your way through a problem.
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就是在困難的面前要保持快樂的精神
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We should focus on the positive.
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要樂觀的面對一切
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My wife, as I said, she grew up outside of Boston.
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我老婆在波士頓外長大
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She's got a big smile. She's got a big personality.
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她有一個大大的笑容, 熱血的心腸
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She's got big hair --
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還有大大的髮型
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although, she told me recently, I can't say she has big hair,
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我老婆不準我再說她有大大的髮型
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because if I say she has big hair,
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因為那樣讓人聽起來
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people will think she's from Texas.
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就好像她是從德州(南部)來的一樣
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And it's apparently okay to marry a boy from Georgia,
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原來嫁一個南部來的男孩是可以的
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but not to have hair from Texas.
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有一個南部的髮型卻萬萬不可
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And actually, in her defense, if she were here right now,
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不過,說 句公道話,
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she would point out that, when we got married in Georgia,
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她要是在這兒的話, 她會抗議說,
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there were three questions
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我們在喬治亞結婚的時侯,
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on the marriage certificate license,
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結婚證書上, 有三個問題
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the third of which was, "Are you related?"
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第三個問題是: 你們是否有親戚關係?
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(Laughter)
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(笑聲)
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I said, "Look, in Georgia at least we want to know.
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我說:「至少喬治亞有問呀!
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In Arkansas they don't even ask."
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在阿肯色州,他們連問一下都省了.」
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What I didn't tell her is, if she said, "Yes," you could jump.
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她不知道的是, 假如她回答「是」,
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You don't need the 30-day waiting period.
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連30天的等侯期都可以省掉
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Because you don't need the get-to-know-you session at that point.
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因為已經不需要瞭解期
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So I wasn't going to tell her about this idea,
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所以我不準備告訴她我今天的點子
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but the next day I couldn't control myself, I told her.
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但是第二天我就敝不住告訴她了
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And she loved the idea,
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她非常喜歡我的點子
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but she quickly started rejecting my nominees.
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可是她馬上否定了我的所有人選
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She was like, "Well, I love him, but I would never ask him for advice."
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她說: 「我是很喜歡他沒錯, 可是我不會聽取他的建議。」
05:48
So it turned out that starting a council of dads
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原來成立「爸爸顧問團」
05:50
was a very efficient way to find out
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可以讓我馬上瞭解到
05:52
what my wife really thought of my friends.
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我老婆對我朋友的看法
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(Laughter)
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(笑聲)
05:56
So we decided that we needed a set of rules,
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我們決定先開出一些條件
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and we came up with a number.
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我們想到了以下這些:
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And the first one was no family, only friends.
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第一, 必需是朋友而不是家人
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We thought our family would already be there.
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因為家人本來就會陪在身邊
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Second, men only.
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第二, 必需是男性
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We were trying to fill the dad-space in the girls' lives.
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因為他們要取替的是爸爸的角色
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And then third, sort of a dad for every side.
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第三, 我們需要各式各樣的父親
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We kind of went through my personality
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我們稍為分析了我的個性
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and tried to get a dad who represented each different thing.
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要盡量找一個父親來取替我的每一方面
06:15
So what happened was I wrote a letter to each of these men.
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然後我給他們每個人寫了一封信
06:17
And rather than send it,
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我決定不用寄的
06:19
I decided to read it to them in person.
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而要親自唸給他們聽
06:22
Linda, my wife, joked that it was like having six different marriage proposals.
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蓮達, 我老婆, 取笑我說這就像求婚六次一樣
06:25
I sort of friend-married each of these guys.
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我跟他們每一個人都結下一段不解之緣。
06:28
And the first of these guys was Jeff Schumlin.
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第一個是傑夫. 史密林
06:30
Now Jeff led this trip I took to Europe
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他是我去歐州旅遊時的嚮導。
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when I graduated from high school in the early 1980s.
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那是1980代初, 我剛高中畢業
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And on that first day we were in this youth hostel in a castle.
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在一個城堡的青年旅館裏住下來的頭一晚
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And I snuck out behind,
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我從後門偷偷溜了出去
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and there was a moat, a fence and a field of cows.
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外面有一絛護城河, 一面圍牆, 跟一大堆牛
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And Jeff came up beside me and said,
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傑夫從我的旁邊走上來說:
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"So, have you ever been cow tipping?"
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「喂! 你有沒有試過推倒過一頭牛? 」
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I was like, "Cow tipping?
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「推倒一頭牛? 」 我問
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He was like, "Yeah. Cows sleep standing up.
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他說: 「對呀! 牛是站著睡的
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So if you approach them from behind, down wind,
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所以你要從後方, 下風處繞過去
06:54
you can push them over and they go thud in the mud."
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你一推, 牠們就會啪一聲倒到泥巴裏去」
06:56
So before I had a chance to determine whether this was right or not,
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在我還沒來得及決定這是對還是不對以前
06:59
we had jumped the moat, we had climbed the fence,
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我們己經跳過護城河, 翻過籬笆
07:01
we were tiptoeing through the dung
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踮著腳繞過牛糞
07:03
and approaching some poor, dozing cow.
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來到了一頭可憐的,酣睡中的牛的身邊。
07:07
So a few weeks after my diagnosis,
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所以在我診斷出來的兩個禮拜後
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we went up to Vermont,
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我們去了佛蒙特州一趟
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and I decided to put Jeff as the first person in the Council of Dads.
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去邀請傑夫成為爸爸顧問團的第一名成員。
07:14
And we went to this apple orchard, and I read him this letter.
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在一個蘋果園裏, 我把信唸讀給了他聽
07:17
"Will you help be their dad?"
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「你願不願意成為她們的父親? 」
07:19
And I got to the end -- he was crying and I was crying --
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我唸完以後, 他在哭, 我也在哭
07:21
and then he looked at me, and he said, "Yes."
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然後, 他看著我, 他說: 「好的。」
07:23
I was like, "Yes?"
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我反問他: 「好甚麼?」
07:25
I kind of had forgotten there was a question at the heart of my letter.
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我早就忘了信的主旨就是在提問。
07:27
And frankly, although I keep getting asked this,
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老實說,我雖然考慮了很多,
07:29
it never occurred to me that anybody would turn me down
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可是我卻沒有想過
07:31
under the circumstances.
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會有人在這種情況下拒絕我。
07:34
And then I asked him a question, which I ended up asking to all the dads
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然後我問了他一個問題,一個我後來問了所有爸爸的問題,
07:37
and ended up really encouraging me to write this story down in a book.
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而最後它更鼓勵我把這個故事寫進書裡。
07:40
And that was, "What's the one piece of advice
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那問題是: 「假如你要給我女兒
07:42
you would give to my girls?"
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一個建議, 你會說甚麼? 」
07:44
And Jeff's advice was,
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傑夫的建議是:
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"Be a traveller, not a tourist.
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「當一個旅人,不要當一個遊客。
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Get off the bus. Seek out what's different.
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走下公車, 找找看不一樣的事物。
07:51
Approach the cow."
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朝那頭牛走過去。」
07:53
"So it's 10 years from now," I said,
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我問他: 「假如十年以後
07:55
"and my daughters are about to take their first trip abroad, and I'm not here.
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我的女兒第一次出國旅遊, 而我己經不在了
07:58
What would you tell them?"
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你會對她們說甚麼? 」
08:00
He said, "I would approach this journey
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他說: 「妳們對一趟旅程
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as a young child might approach a mud puddle.
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應該抱著孩子對泥坑的態度
08:04
You can bend over and look at your reflection in the mirror
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你可以彎下身來看自己的倒影
08:07
and maybe run your finger and make a small ripple,
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你可以用你的手指去泛起一陣漣漪
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or you can jump in and thrash around
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又或者, 你可以縱身跳進去
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and see what it feels like, what it smells like."
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親自去體會那感受, 那氣味」
08:15
And as he talked he had that glint in his eye
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說這的時侯他的眼中放著異彩
08:17
that I first saw back in Holland --
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就好像當年在荷蘭的時侯一樣
08:19
the glint that says, "Let's go cow tipping,"
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那異彩在說: 「走, 我們推牛去!」
08:21
even though we never did tip the cow,
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雖然我們並沒有推倒那一頭牛
08:24
even though no one tips the cow,
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雖然從來沒有人推過倒一頭牛
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even though cows don't sleep standing up.
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雖然牛根本不是站住睡的
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He said, "I want to see you back here girls, at the end of this experience,
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他說: 「當妳們旅途回來以後
08:33
covered in mud."
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我要看到妳們混身泥巴。」
08:38
Two weeks after my diagnosis, a biopsy confirmed
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我診斷後兩個禮拜, 一個活切
08:40
I had a seven-inch osteosarcoma
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証實了我的左大腿上有一個
08:42
in my left femur.
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七吋的骨肉瘤
08:44
Six hundred Americans a year get an osteosarcoma.
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每一年有600個美國人患上骨肉瘤
08:47
Eighty-five percent are under 21.
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85% 在 21歲以下
08:49
Only a hundred adults a year
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每年只有100個成人
08:51
get one of these diseases.
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患上這個疾病
08:53
Twenty years ago, doctors would have cut off my leg and hoped,
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二十年前, 醫生會切除我的腿
08:56
and there was a 15 percent survival rate.
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然後寄望那15% 的生存機會
08:59
And then in the 1980's, they determined
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但在80年代, 他們決定
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that one particular cocktail of chemo could be effective,
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一種特定的雞尾酒療法可能有效
09:04
and within weeks I had started that regimen.
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幾星期內我就開始了療程
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And since we are in a medical room,
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在醫務室裏
09:09
I went through four and a half months of chemo.
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我的化療持續了4個半月
09:11
Actually I had Cisplatin, Doxorubicin
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我用了順鉑 (Cisplatin), 多柔比星 (Doxoubicin)
09:13
and very high-dose Methotrexate.
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跟大劑量的甲氨蝶呤 (Methotrexate)
09:16
And then I had a 15-hour surgery
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還熬過了一個15個小時的手術
09:18
in which my surgeon, Dr. John Healey
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我的外科醫師, 約翰. 喜利醫生
09:20
at Memorial Sloan-Kettering Hospital in New York,
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在紐約斯隆-凱特林紀念醫院裏
09:22
took out my left femur
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取出了我的左大腿骨
09:24
and replaced it with titanium.
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以鈦金屬取代
09:27
And if you did see the Sanjay special,
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假如你有看桑傑醫生的特集
09:29
you saw these enormous screws
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你就會看到這些大大的螺絲
09:31
that they screwed into my pelvis.
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擰進了我的骨盆中
09:33
Then he took my fibula from my calf,
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然後他從我的小腿肚中
09:36
cut it out and then relocated it to my thigh,
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取出腓骨
09:39
where it now lives.
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移放到大腿內
09:41
And what he actually did was he de-vascularized it from my calf
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這個過程已包括切斷小腿內腓骨上
09:44
and re-vascularized it in my thigh
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的所有血管, 再在大腿上重新接連
09:46
and then connected it
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再把腓骨接到
09:48
to the good parts of my knee and my hip.
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健康的膝蓋跟骨盆上
09:51
And then he took out a third of my quadriceps muscle.
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然後他把我的股四頭肌切掉 1/3
09:54
This is a surgery so rare
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這項手術非常罕有
09:56
only two human beings have survived it before me.
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在我之前只有兩個人成功生存下來
09:59
And my reward for surviving it
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而我成功的獎勵
10:01
was to go back for four more months of chemo.
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則是再4個月的化療
10:04
It was, as we said in my house,
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在我家裏, 我們把這一年
10:06
a lost year.
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叫作失去的一年
10:08
Because in those opening weeks, we all had nightmares.
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在剛開始的幾個星期, 每個人都不斷的在做惡夢
10:11
And one night I had a nightmare that I was walking through my house,
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一天晚上, 我夢到自己在家裏走著
10:13
sat at my desk and saw photographs of someone else's children
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然後坐到書桌前卻看到別人家小孩的照片
10:16
sitting on my desk.
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放在我的案頭上
10:18
And I remember a particular one night that, when you told that story of --
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我又記得一個晚上, 它讓我想到了
10:21
I don't know where you are Dr. Nuland --
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紐蘭醫生 -- 我不知道你現在在哪 –-
10:23
of William Sloane Coffin --
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他告訴我關於威廉.科芬
10:25
it made me think of it.
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的故事的那一個晚上
10:27
Because I was in the hospital after, I think it was my fourth round of chemo
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因為當我在醫院裏, 經過了4回的化療以後
10:30
when my numbers went to zero, and I had basically no immune system.
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我幾乎完全沒有免疫力了
10:33
And they put me in an infectious disease ward at the hospital.
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他們讓我住進隔離病房
10:36
And anybody who came to see me had to cover themselves in a mask
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所有來看我的人都要戴上口罩
10:39
and cover all of the extraneous parts of their body.
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把所有外露的肢體遮蓋起來
10:43
And one night I got a call from my mother-in-law
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一天晚,我岳母來電話說
10:45
that my daughters, at that time three and a half,
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我當時只有三歲半的女兒
10:47
were missing me and feeling my absence.
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在想我
10:50
And I hung up the phone,
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我掛上了電話
10:52
and I put my face in my hands,
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把頭埋到手裏
10:54
and I screamed this silent scream.
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發出了無聲的尖叫
10:58
And what you said, Dr. Nuland -- I don't know where you are --
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然後你說的話, 紐蘭醫生
11:00
made me think of this today.
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讓我今天想到了這件事
11:02
Because the thought that came to my mind
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因為我當時的想法
11:04
was that the feeling that I had
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和當時的感受
11:06
was like a primal scream.
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就像一聲原始的吶喊
11:08
And what was so striking --
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最深刻的--
11:10
and one of the messages I want to leave you here with today --
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也我今天想要對你們表達的 –
11:13
is the experience.
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是當時的感受
11:15
As I became less and less human --
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當我越來越不成人形的時候
11:18
and at this moment in my life, I was probably 30 pounds less than I am right now.
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我的體重要比現在輕了30磅
11:21
Of course, I had no hair and no immune system.
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我沒有頭髮也沒有免疫力
11:24
They were actually putting blood inside my body.
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他們甚至要把血輸進我的體內
11:27
At that moment I was less and less human,
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我感覺自己越來越不像一個人
11:29
I was also, at the same time,
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同時, 我卻又好像
11:31
maybe the most human I've ever been.
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比甚麼時侯都更像一個人
11:34
And what was so striking about that time
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那時侯, 最不可思議的是
11:37
was, instead of repulsing people,
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別人不但沒有排斥我
11:39
I was actually proving to be a magnet for people.
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反而好像比平常更喜歡接近我
11:41
People were incredibly drawn.
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好像蜜蜂見到蜜糖一樣
11:43
When my wife and I had kids, we thought it would be all-hands-on-deck.
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我們小孩出生的時候, 以為大家會同心協力
11:46
Instead, it was everybody running the other way.
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結果是一盤散沙
11:48
And when I had cancer, we thought it'd be everybody running the other way.
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現在我患上癌症, 以為大家會像一盤散沙
11:51
Instead, it was all-hands-on-deck.
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反而大家都同心協力
11:53
And when people came to me,
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大家來看我的時侯
11:55
rather than being incredibly turned off by what they saw --
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不旦沒有被我
11:57
I was like a living ghost --
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活死人模樣嚇跑
11:59
they were incredibly moved
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反而被我打動
12:01
to talk about what was going on in their own lives.
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而向我敞開心屝
12:04
Cancer, I found, is a passport to intimacy.
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癌症, 我發現, 是通往誠懇的捷徑
12:07
It is an invitation, maybe even a mandate,
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是一個邀請, 甚至是一個要求
12:09
to enter the most vital arenas of human life,
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去參與人生最必要
12:12
the most sensitive and the most frightening,
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也是最可怕的舞台
12:14
the ones that we never want to go to,
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雖然我們常常會裹足不前
12:16
but when we do go there,
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可是當我們一旦抵達那裏
12:18
we feel incredibly transformed when we do.
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我們便會經歷到那前所未有的蛻變
12:21
And this also happened to my girls as they began to see,
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那正好是我女兒剛開始懂事的時候
12:24
and, we thought, maybe became an ounce more compassionate.
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我希望她們能學得更有愛心
12:27
One day, my daughter Tybee,
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一天, 我女兒泰必跑來跟我說:
12:29
Tybee came to me, and she said, "I have so much love for you in my body, daddy,
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「爸爸, 我是這麼的愛你,
12:32
I can't stop giving you hugs and kisses.
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想要一直抱你, 親你。
12:34
And when I have no more love left, I just drink milk,
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假如我把愛都用光了, 我就去喝牛奶
12:37
because that's where love comes from."
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因為牛奶會補充我的愛。」
12:39
(Laughter)
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(笑聲)
12:41
And one night my daughter Eden came to me.
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一天晚上, 我女兒依殿跑來我那
12:43
And as I lifted my leg out of bed,
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當我把腳抬起來的時侯
12:45
she reached for my crutches and handed them to me.
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她便把拐杖拿了給我
12:48
In fact, if I cling to one memory of this year,
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我這一年最珍貴的回憶
12:50
it would be walking down a darkened hallway
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便是走下一條暗暗的走廊
12:52
with five spongy fingers
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還有那五支小小的手指
12:54
grasping the handle underneath my hand.
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跟我一起抓住拐杖
12:56
I didn't need the crutch anymore,
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我己經不需要拐杖了
12:58
I was walking on air.
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因為整個人是輕飄飄的
13:01
And one of the profound things that happened
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其中最深刻的
13:03
was this act of actually connecting to all these people.
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便是加深了人與人之間的關係
13:06
And it made me think -- and I'll just note for the record --
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這又讓我想到 -- 讓我強調這一點 --
13:08
one word that I've only heard once actually
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一個我只聽過一次的詞
13:10
was when we were all doing Tony Robbins yoga yesterday --
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當我們昨天在做瑜珈的時侯
13:13
the one word that has not been mentioned in this seminar actually
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一個我今天一直沒有提到的詞
13:15
is the word "friend."
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-- 友誼
13:17
And yet from everything we've been talking about --
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可是在所有我們談到的話裡 –
13:19
compliance, or addiction, or weight loss --
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比方承諾、癖好、或減肥 --
13:21
we now know that community is important,
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我們現在知道團隊很重要
13:23
and yet it's one thing we don't actually bring in.
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可我們往往都不曾提到。
13:26
And there was something incredibly profound
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其中最深刻的
13:28
about sitting down with my closest friends
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就是跟最親密的好友坐下來
13:30
and telling them what they meant to me.
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告訴他們他們對我有多重要。
13:32
And one of the things that I learned is that over time,
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然後我弄明白了一件事情,
13:34
particularly men, who used to be non-communicative,
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以往男性多半不擅長表達自已
13:37
are becoming more and more communicative.
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現在也慢慢的開始學會了。
13:39
And that particularly happened -- there was one in my life --
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其中最好的例子
13:41
is this Council of Dads
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便是我這個爸爸顧問團
13:43
that Linda said, what we were talking about,
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我老婆說我們就好像一群女人
13:45
it's like what the moms talk about at school drop-off.
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送孩子上學的時侯說長道短一樣。
13:48
And no one captures this modern manhood to me
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而最瞭解這種現代男人的
13:50
more than David Black.
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便是大衛. 布拉克。
13:52
Now David is my literary agent.
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現在大衛是我的出版經紀人。
13:54
He's about five-foot three and a half on a good day,
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他大概有五尺三寸半高
13:56
standing fully upright in cowboy boots.
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假如他穿牛仔靴又站得直挺挺的話
13:58
And on kind of the manly-male front, he answers the phone --
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他接電話的時侯
14:01
I can say this I guess because you've done it here --
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倒是男子氣十足的
14:03
he answers the phone, "Yo, motherfucker."
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「喂? 那個他媽的王八呀? 」
14:06
He gives boring speeches about obscure bottles of wine,
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他總喜歡滔滔不絕沉悶的談論沒人聽過的酒
14:09
and on his 50th birthday he bought a convertible sports car --
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在50歲生曰那天他買了開蓬車
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although, like a lot of men, he's impatient; he bought it on his 49th.
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跟很多男人一樣, 他很沒耐性, 49歲就買了
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But like a lot of modern men, he hugs, he bakes,
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可是, 像很多的現代男人, 他會擁抱, 會烘烤
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he leaves work early to coach Little League.
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會從公司早退去教小孩打球
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Someone asked me if he cried when I asked him to be in the council of dads.
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有人問我,找他參加爸爸顧問團的時,他哭了沒?
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I was like, "David cries when you invite him to take a walk."
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我說: 「你找他散步他也會哭!」
14:25
(Laughter)
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(笑聲)
14:27
But he's a literary agent,
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可是他是一個出版經紀人,
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which means he's a broker of dreams in a world where most dreams don't come true.
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是一個在夢想極少成真的世界裡的夢想經紀人
14:32
And this is what we wanted him to capture --
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這就是他在爸爸顧問團裡的任務
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what it means to have setbacks and then aspirations.
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怎樣從挫折中重拾抱負。
14:37
And I said, "What's the most valuable thing you can give to a dreamer?"
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我問他: 「你會給夢想家甚麼樣的建議呢? 」
14:40
And he said, "A belief in themselves."
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他說: 「要相信自已。」
14:43
"But when I came to see you," I said, "I didn't believe in myself.
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「可是當我來找你的時侯」, 我說, 「我一點都不相信自已。
14:45
I was at a wall."
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我四處碰壁。」
14:47
He said, "I don't see the wall," and I'm telling you the same,
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他跟我說: 「我可沒看見甚麼牆壁。」我今天也要這樣對你們說
14:49
Don't see the wall.
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不要看到牆壁。
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You may encounter one from time to time,
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也許你偶然會遇上
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but you've got to find a way to get over it, around it, or through it.
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那就找一個方法克服它, 繞過去, 穿過去都行
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But whatever you do, don't succumb to it.
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無論如何
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Don't give in to the wall.
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就是不要屈服。
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My home is not far from the Brooklyn Bridge,
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我家離布魯克林橋不遠
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and during the year and a half I was on crutches,
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在我柱著拐杖的一年半中
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it became a sort of symbol to me.
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它成了我人生的指標
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So one day near the end of my journey,
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一天,在我的旅程將近結束時
15:11
I said, "Come on girls, let's take a walk across the Brooklyn Bridge."
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我對女兒說: 「走, 我們過布魯克林橋去!」
15:14
We set out on crutches.
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我帶著拐杖出發
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I was on crutches, my wife was next to me,
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我柱著拐杖, 老婆在一旁
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my girls were doing these rockstar poses up ahead.
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女兒們走在前頭邊走邊搗笑
15:21
And because walking was one of the first things I lost,
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因為走路是我最先失去的東西
15:24
I spent most of that year
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我花了幾乎那一整年
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thinking about this most elemental of human acts.
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去思考這個人類最基本的動作
15:28
Walking upright, we are told,
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我們常聽說, 直立走路
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is the threshold of what made us human.
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是人跟其他動物最大的分別
15:33
And yet, for the four million years humans have been walking upright,
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可是40萬年來
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the act is essentially unchanged.
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這姿勢卻從未改變過
15:38
As my physical therapist likes to say,
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我的物理治療師最愛說:
15:40
"Every step is a tragedy waiting to happen."
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「一步一驚心。」
15:43
You nearly fall with one leg,
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一條腿快摔跤了
15:45
then you catch yourself with the other.
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才用另一條撐住
15:48
And the biggest consequence of walking on crutches --
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用拐杖走路的結果 –
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as I did for a year and a half --
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像我整整練了一年半 –
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is that you walk slower.
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便是走路走慢了。
15:54
You hurry,
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你匆匆忙忙的走
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you get where you're going, but you get there alone.
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到目的地的時侯, 你是孤單一人
15:59
You go slow, you get where you're going,
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你慢慢的走
16:01
but you get there with this community
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到目的地的時侯, 身邊卻有一大群
16:03
you built along the way.
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你路上遇到的人。
16:05
At the risk of admission, I was never nicer
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不瞞你說, 那是我一生中
16:07
than the year I was on crutches.
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最和藹可親的一年。
16:09
200 years ago,
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200年前
16:11
a new type of pedestrian appeared in Paris.
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巴黎出現了一種新的行人
16:14
He was called a "flaneur," one who wanders the arcades.
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他們叫做漫游者,在有拱廊的街道上漫遊
16:17
And it was the custom of those flaneurs
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這些漫游者有一種習慣
16:20
to show they were men of leisure
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為了表明他們是悠閒人士
16:22
by taking turtles for walks
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他們會帶著烏龜去散步
16:24
and letting the reptile set the pace.
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然後以烏龜的步速走。
16:27
And I just love this ode to slow moving.
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然後我愛上了這個慢步之歌
16:29
And it's become my own motto for my girls.
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它也成為我給女兒的座右銘
16:32
Take a walk with a turtle.
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帶烏龜去散步
16:34
Behold the world in pause.
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從靜止中看世界
16:37
And this idea of pausing
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而這個靜止的觀念
16:39
may be the single biggest lesson I took from my journey.
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也是我這趟旅程中最大的收穫
16:42
There's a quote from Moses
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摩西有一句名言:
16:44
on the side of the Liberty Bell,
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在自由鐘的旁邊
16:46
and it comes from a passage in the book of Leviticus,
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出自利未記
16:49
that every seven years you should let the land lay fallow.
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就是每7年要讓大地歇一歇
16:52
And every seven sets of seven years,
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然後每7個7年
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the land gets an extra year of rest
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要讓它休息一整年。
16:57
during which time all families are reunited
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然後家庭要趁這空檔團聚
16:59
and people surrounded with the ones they love.
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被心愛的人包圍
17:02
That 50th year is called the jubilee year,
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所以第50年又叫歡樂年
17:05
and it's the origin of that term.
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這便是它的出處。
17:07
And though I'm shy of 50,
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雖然我還不倒50歲
17:09
it captures my own experience.
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但我卻瞭解這點
17:11
My lost year was my jubilee year.
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我那失去的一年便是我的歡樂年。
17:14
By laying fallow,
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我的休息
17:16
I planted the seeds for a healthier future
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會讓我以後更健康
17:18
and was reunited with the ones I love.
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也讓我加深了跟我親愛的人的關係。
17:21
Come the one year anniversary of my journey,
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在我旅程的一周年紀念時
17:23
I went to see my surgeon, Dr. John Healey --
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我去看了我的外科醫生, 約翰喜利醫生
17:25
and by the way, Healey, great name for a doctor.
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喜利是一個很適合醫生的名字 (Healey中的Heal有康復的意思)
17:29
He's the president of the International Society of Limb Salvage,
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他也是國際保肢學會的會長
17:32
which is the least euphemistic term I've ever heard.
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那是我所聽過最婉轉的說法。
17:35
And I said, "Dr. Healey, if my daughters come to you one day
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我問說: 「喜利醫生, 假如一天我的女兒來問你
17:38
and say, 'What should I learn from my daddy's story?'
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「我該從我爸的故事中得到甚麼教訓? 」
17:40
what would you tell them?"
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你會怎樣回答?
17:42
He said, "I would tell them what I know,
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他說: 「我會照實回答
17:44
and that is everybody dies,
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每一個人都會死
17:48
but not everybody lives.
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可是不是每一個人都活過
17:51
I want you to live."
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我希望妳們能體驗人生。」
17:53
I wrote a letter to my girls
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我給我女兒寫了一封信
17:55
that appears at the end of my book, "The Council of Dads,"
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信被登在我「爸爸顧問團」一書的最後
17:57
and I listed these lessons,
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我把這些教訓都寫下來了
17:59
a few of which you've heard here today:
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有幾個你們今天也聽到了
18:01
Approach the cow, pack your flipflops,
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朝那頭牛走去, 帶著你的拖鞋
18:03
don't see the wall,
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不要看到牆璧
18:05
live the questions,
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要體驗人生
18:07
harvest miracles.
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相信奇跡。
18:09
As I looked at this list -- to me it was sort of like a psalm book of living --
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我列的清單, 就像人生的詩篇
18:12
I realized, we may have done it for our girls,
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我這才發現, 雖然這是為女兒寫的
18:15
but it really changed us.
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最後卻改變了我們。
18:17
And that is, the secret of the Council of Dads,
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這就是爸爸顧問團的秘密
18:19
is that my wife and I did this
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我跟我老婆一開始
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in an attempt to help our daughters,
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是為了女兒而做的
18:24
but it really changed us.
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最後卻改變了我們。
18:26
So I stand here today
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我今天站在這兒
18:28
as you see now, walking without crutches or a cane.
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就像你看到的, 不需要再依賴拐杖。
18:32
And last week I had my 18-month scans.
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上周我做了手術後18個月的掃描
18:34
And as you all know,
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大家都知道
18:36
anybody with cancer has to get follow-up scans.
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患了癌症的人都需要做跟進掃描
18:38
In my case it's quarterly.
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我的是每3個月一次
18:40
And all the collective minds in this room, I dare say,
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我敢說, 在座所有人的腦汁加在一起
18:42
can never find a solution for scan-xiety.
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都想不出能讓我不緊張的方法
18:45
As I was going there, I was wondering, what would I say
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去檢查的途中, 我一直在想,
18:47
depending on what happened here.
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按照檢查結果而定, 我該說甚麼。
18:51
I got good news that day,
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那天我收到了好消息
18:53
and I stand here today cancer-free,
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今天我的身體裏沒有癌細胞
18:55
walking without aid
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可以不用拐杖走路
18:57
and hobbling forward.
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步履蹣跚的前進。
19:00
And I just want to mention briefly in passing -- I'm past my time limit --
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我只想要總括一下 -- 我已經超時 --
19:03
but I just want to briefly mention in passing
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我只想要總括一下
19:05
that one of the nice things that can come out of a conference like this
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參加這種聚會的美事之一就是
19:07
is, at a similar meeting,
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在另一個類似的聚會中,
19:09
back in the spring,
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在春天的時侯,
19:11
Anne Wojcicki heard about our story
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安.沃西基聽到了我的故事
19:13
and very quickly -- in a span of three weeks --
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而非常快的 -- 在短短3周內 --
19:15
put the full resources of 23andMe,
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動用了「23與我」所有的力量
19:17
and we announced an initiative in July
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在7月中我們倡議
19:20
to get to decode the genome
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要拆解
19:22
of anybody, a living person
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所有患者的
19:25
with a heart tissue, bone sarcoma.
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骨肉瘤的基因组
19:28
And she told me last night, in the three months since we've done it,
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她昨天晚上告訴我, 在3個月內
19:31
we've gotten 300 people who've contributed to this program.
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已經有300個人參與。
19:34
And the epidemiologists here will tell you,
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流行病學家會告訴你
19:36
that's half the number of people who get the disease
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那是在美國一年內
19:38
in one year in the United States.
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所有患上這種疾病的一半人數。
19:40
So if you go to 23andMe,
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所以你可以去「23與我」 (23andMe)
19:42
or if you go to councilofdads.com, you can click on a link.
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或去councilofdads.com,點擊一個連結
19:45
And we encourage anybody to join this effort.
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我們鼓勵所有人來參與。
19:48
But I'll just close what I've been talking about
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在今天最後
19:51
by leaving you with this message:
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我要說的是:
19:53
May you find an excuse to reach out to some long-lost pal,
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希望你們可以找到一個接觸
19:55
or to that college roommate,
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昔曰好友或大學室友的藉口
19:57
or to some person you may have turned away from.
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或一個你遠離了的人。
19:59
May you find a mud puddle to jump in someplace,
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希望你們找到一個可以跳進去的泥坑
20:02
or find a way to get over, around, or through any wall
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或找到一個可以越過那面
20:04
that stands between you and one of your dreams.
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堵在你跟你夢想之間的牆的方法。
20:07
And every now and then,
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偶而
20:09
find a friend, find a turtle,
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找一個朋友,找一只烏龜
20:11
and take a long, slow walk.
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長長地、 慢慢地、 散一散步。
20:14
Thank you very much.
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謝謝你們
20:17
(Applause)
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