The lies our culture tells us about what matters --- and a better way to live | David Brooks

Prevodilac: Kristina Radosavljević Lektor: Ivana Krivokuća

So, we all have bad seasons in life.

Svi smo mi imali loše periode u životu.

And I had one in 2013.

Ja sam imao jedan 2013. godine.

My marriage had just ended,

Moj brak se upravo raspao

and I was humiliated by that failed commitment.

i bio sam ponižen tom neuspelom vezom.

My kids had left home for college or were leaving.

Moja deca su napustila dom zbog fakulteta ili su se spremala da odu.

I grew up mostly in the conservative movement,

Odrastao sam u pretežno konzervativnom okruženju,

but conservatism had changed,

ali konzervatizam se menjao,

so I lost a lot of those friends, too.

tako da sam i tu izgubio dosta tih prijatelja.

And so what I did is, I lived alone in an apartment,

I šta sam radio? Živeo sam sȃm u stanu i samo radio.

and I just worked.

If you opened the kitchen drawers where there should have been utensils,

Ako biste otvorili ladicu u kuhinji gde bi trebalo da bude posuđe,

there were Post-it notes.

tamo su stajale beleške.

If you opened the other drawers where there should have been plates,

Ako biste otvorili drugu ladicu, gde je trebalo da stoje tanjiri,

I had envelopes.

ja sam tamo imao koverte.

I had work friends, weekday friends, but I didn't have weekend friends.

Imao sam prijatelje sa posla, prijatelje tokom radnih dana,

ali ne i vikend-prijatelje.

And so my weekends were these long, howling silences.

Tako da su moji vikendi bili duge, prazne tišine.

And I was lonely.

Bio sam usamljen.

And loneliness, unexpectedly, came to me in the form of --

A usamljenost je, krajnje neočekivano, došla do mene u obliku -

it felt like fear, a burning in my stomach.

kao osećaj straha, žar u želucu.

And it felt a little like drunkenness,

I pomalo kao pijanstvo -

just making bad decisions, just fluidity, lack of solidity.

pravite loše odluke, sve samo protiče, bez čvrstog oslonca.

And the painful part of that moment was the awareness

A bolan deo tog momenta je bila svesnost

that the emptiness in my apartment was just reflective of the emptiness

da je praznina mog stana samo odraz praznine u meni,

in myself,

and that I had fallen for some of the lies that our culture tells us.

i da sam naseo na neke laži koje nam naša kultura servira.

The first lie is that career success is fulfilling.

Prva laž je da nas poslovni uspeh ispunjava.

I've had a fair bit of career success,

Ja sam imao solidan uspeh u poslu,

and I've found that it helps me avoid the shame I would feel

i otkrio sam da mi to pomaže u izbegavanju sramote,

if I felt myself a failure,

ako bih se osećao promašeno,

ali mi nije donelo nikakvo pozitivno dobro.

but it hasn't given me any positive good.

The second lie is I can make myself happy,

Druga laž je da mogu sebe učiniti srećnim,

that if I just win one more victory,

samo ako ostvarim još jednu pobedu,

lose 15 pounds, do a little more yoga,

oslabim oko sedam kilograma, malo više radim jogu

I'll get happy.

i biću srećan.

And that's the lie of self-sufficiency.

E, to je laž o samodovoljnosti.

But as anybody on their deathbed will tell you,

Ali svako će vam na samrti reći

the things that make people happy is the deep relationships of life,

da su stvari koje čine ljude srećnim u stvari bliski odnosi u životu,

the losing of self-sufficiency.

gubitak samodovoljnosti.

The third lie is the lie of the meritocracy.

Treća laž je laž meritokratije.

The message of the meritocracy is you are what you accomplish.

Poruka meritokratije je da ste vi ono što ste postigli.

The myth of the meritocracy is you can earn dignity

Mit meritokratije je da možete steći dostojanstvo

by attaching yourself to prestigious brands.

povezujući sebe sa prestižnim brendovima.

The emotion of the meritocracy is conditional love,

Emocija meritokratije je uslovna ljubav,

you can "earn" your way to love.

možete „zaraditi” ljubav.

The anthropology of the meritocracy is you're not a soul to be purified,

Antropologija meritokratije je da vi niste duša koja treba da se pročisti,

you're a set of skills to be maximized.

već skup veština koje treba uvećati.

And the evil of the meritocracy

A zlo meritokratije

is that people who've achieved a little more than others

je da ljudi koji su postigli malo više od drugih

are actually worth a little more than others.

u stvari i vrede malo više od drugih.

And so the wages of sin are sin.

I tako se za greh plaća grehom.

And my sins were the sins of omission--

Moji grehovi su bili grehovi propusta -

not reaching out, failing to show up for my friends,

nisam pružio ruku, nisam bio tu za prijatelje,

bežanje, izbegavanje sukoba.

evasion, avoiding conflict.

And the weird thing was that as I was falling into the valley --

Čudna stvar je da, kako sam propadao u provaliju -

it was a valley of disconnection --

to je provalija izolacije -

a lot of other people were doing that, too.

mnogi drugi ljudi su takođe radili to isto.

And that's sort of the secret to my career;

I to je neka vrsta tajne moje profesije;

mnoge stvari koje mi se dešavaju

a lot of the things that happen to me

are always happening to a lot of other people.

se uvek dešavaju i velikom broju drugih ljudi.

Ja sam veoma prosečna osoba sa natprosečnim veštinama komunikacije.

I'm a very average person with above average communication skills.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

And so I was detached.

I tako sam ja bio isključen.

And at the same time, a lot of other people were detached

Istovremeno, mnogo drugih ljudi je bilo isključeno,

and isolated and fragmented from each other.

izolovano i razdvojeno jedno od drugih.

Thirty-five percent of Americans over 45 are chronically lonely.

Trideset pet procenata Amerikanaca preko 45 godina su hronično usamljeni.

Only eight percent of Americans report having meaningful conversation

Svega osam procenata Amerikanaca kaže da smisleno razgovaraju sa komšijama.

with their neighbors.

Only 32 percent of Americans say they trust their neighbors,

Svega 32% Amerikanaca kaže da veruje komšijama,

and only 18 percent of millennials.

od toga samo 18% milenijalaca.

The fastest-growing political party is unaffiliated.

Najbrže raste politička stranka neopredeljenih.

The fastest-growing religious movement is unaffiliated.

Najbrže se razvija religijski pokret neopredeljenih.

Depression rates are rising, mental health problems are rising.

Depresija je u porastu, problemi mentalnog zdravlja su u porastu.

The suicide rate has risen 30 percent since 1999.

Stopa samoubistava je porasla 30% od 1999. godine.

For teen suicides over the last several years,

Što se tiče samoubistava tinejdžera, u poslednjih nekoliko godina

the suicide rate has risen by 70 percent.

stopa samoubistava je porasla za 70%.

Forty-five thousand Americans kill themselves every year;

Svake godine se ubije 45 000 Amerikanaca;

72,000 die from opioid addictions;

od zavisnosti od narkotika umre 72 000;

life expectancy is falling, not rising.

životni vek se skraćuje, a ne produžava.

So what I mean to tell you, I flew out here to say

Ono što želim da vam kažem, doleteo sam ovamo da kažem

that we have an economic crisis, we have environmental crisis,

da imamo ekonomsku krizu, imamo ekološku krizu,

we have a political crisis.

imamo političku krizu.

We also have a social and relational crisis;

Ali isto tako imamo i društvenu i krizu u odnosima.

we're in the valley.

Mi smo u provaliji.

We're fragmented from each other,

Razdvojeni smo jedni od drugih,

we've got cascades of lies coming out of Washington ...

imamo bujice laži koje nam stižu iz Vašingtona...

We're in the valley.

Mi smo u provaliji.

And so I've spent the last five years --

Zato sam ja proveo poslednjih pet godina -

how do you get out of a valley?

kako se izlazi iz provalije?

The Greeks used to say, "You suffer your way to wisdom."

Grci su imali običaj da kažu: „Kroz patnju do mudrosti.”

And from that dark period where I started, I've had a few realizations.

Od tog mračnog perioda u kome sam počeo, shvatio sam nekoliko stvari.

The first is, freedom sucks.

Kao prvo, sloboda je bez veze.

Economic freedom is OK, political freedom is great,

Ekonomska sloboda je okej, politička sloboda je odlična,

social freedom sucks.

društvena sloboda je bez veze.

The unrooted man is the adrift man.

Čovek bez korena je napušten čovek.

The unrooted man is the unremembered man, because he's uncommitted to things.

Čovek bez korena je zaboravljen čovek, zato što nije posvećen ničemu.

Freedom is not an ocean you want to swim in,

Sloboda nije okean u kome želite da zaplivate,

it's a river you want to get across,

to je reka koju želite da pređete,

so you can commit and plant yourself on the other side.

kako biste mogli da se posvetite i posadite sebe na drugoj strani.

The second thing I learned

Druga stvar koju sam naučio

is that when you have one of those bad moments in life,

jeste da, kada imate loše momente u životu,

you can either be broken,

možete se ili slomiti,

or you can be broken open.

ili se otvoriti pri padu.

And we all know people who are broken.

Svi znamo ljude koji su slomljeni.

They've endured some pain or grief, they get smaller,

Pretrpeli su neki bol ili tugu, smanjili se,

postali ljuti, ogorčeni, agresivni.

they get angrier, resentful, they lash out.

As the saying is,

Kao što izreka kaže:

"Pain that is not transformed gets transmitted."

„Bol koji se ne pretvori u nešto biva prenesen.”

But other people are broken open.

Ali postoje ljudi koji se otvore kroz svoj pad.

Suffering's great power is that it's an interruption of life.

Velika snaga patnje je što ona prekida život.

It reminds you you're not the person you thought you were.

Podseća vas da niste osoba koja ste mislili da jeste.

The theologian Paul Tillich said

Teolog Pol Tilih kaže

what suffering does is it carves through what you thought was the floor

da patnja u stvari rezbari po onome što je bio pod

of the basement of your soul,

podruma vaše duše,

and it carves through that, revealing a cavity below,

i ona rezbari kroz dno otkrivajući šupljine ispod,

and it carves through that, revealing a cavity below.

rezbari kroz dno, otkrivajući šupljine ispod.

You realize there are depths of yourself you never anticipated,

Shvatate da u vama postoje dubine koje niste nikada upoznali,

and only spiritual and relational food will fill those depths.

i jedino duhovna hrana i bliskost mogu ispuniti te dubine.

And when you get down there, you get out of the head of the ego

A kada se spustite dole, izađete iz glave svog ega

i dođete do srca,

and you get into the heart,

the desiring heart.

srca punog želja.

The idea that what we really yearn for is longing and love for another,

Ideja da je ono za čim stvarno žudimo pripadnost i ljubav prema drugima,

the kind of thing that Louis de Bernières described in his book,

to su stvari koje je Lui De Bernije opisao u svojoj knjizi

"Captain Corelli's Mandolin."

„Mandolina kapetana Korelija”.

He had an old guy talking to his daughter

Tu je jedan starac pričao sa ćerkom

about his relationship with his late wife,

o svom odnosu sa pokojnom ženom,

and the old guy says,

i starac je rekao:

"Love itself is whatever is leftover when being in love is burned away.

„Ljubav sama po sebi je ono što ostane kada zaljubljenost izgori.

And this is both an art and a fortunate accident.

I to je i umetnost i srećna okolnost.

Your mother and I had it.

Tvoja majka i ja smo imali to.

We had roots that grew towards each other underground,

Naše korenje je raslo pod zemljom jedno prema drugome,

and when all the pretty blossoms had fallen from our branches,

i kada je sve prelepo cveće opalo sa naših grana,

we discovered that we are one tree and not two."

otkrili smo da smo jedno drvo, a ne dva.”

That's what the heart yearns for.

To je ono čemu srce žudi.

The second thing you discover is your soul.

Druga stvar koju otkrijete je vaša duša.

Now, I don't ask you to believe in God or not believe in God,

Ne tražim od vas da verujete ili ne verujete u boga,

but I do ask you to believe that there's a piece of you

ali tražim da verujete da postoji jedan vaš delić

koji nema oblik, veličinu, boju ni težinu,

that has no shape, size, color or weight,

ali vam daje beskonačno dostojanstvo i vrednost.

but that gives you infinite dignity and value.

Rich and successful people don't have more of this

Bogati i uspešni ljudi nemaju toga više

than less successful people.

od onih koji su manje uspešni.

Slavery is wrong because it's an obliteration of another soul.

Ropstvo je loše zato što predstavlja uništenje druge duše.

Rape is not just an attack on a bunch of physical molecules,

Silovanje nije samo napad na gomilu fizičkih molekula,

it's an attempt to insult another person's soul.

to je pokušaj da se uvredi duša druge osobe.

And what the soul does is it yearns for righteousness.

A ono za čim duša žudi je pravednost.

The heart yearns for fusion with another, the soul yearns for righteousness.

Srce žudi za spajanjem sa drugim bićem, a duša žudi za pravednošću.

And that led to my third realization, which I borrowed from Einstein:

To nas vodi do mog trećeg otkrovenja, koje sam pozajmio od Ajnštajna:

"The problem you have is not going to be solved

„Problem koji imate se neće rešiti

at the level of consciousness on which you created it.

na nivou svesti na kome je stvoren.

You have to expand to a different level of consciousness."

Morate se proširiti do drugih nivoa svesnosti.”

So what do you do?

Šta treba da radimo?

Well, the first thing you do is you throw yourself on your friends

Prva stvar koju treba da uradite jeste da se otvorite pred prijateljima

and you have deeper conversations that you ever had before.

i da vodite dublje razgovore nego što ste ih pre vodili.

But the second thing you do,

Ali druga stvar koju morate uraditi je da morate otići sami u divljinu.

you have to go out alone into the wilderness.

You go out into that place where there's nobody there to perform,

Idite na mesto gde nema nikoga pred kim ćete se pretvarati,

and the ego has nothing to do, and it crumbles,

i gde ego nema šta da radi, pa će se smrviti.

Tek tada ćete biti sposobni da budete voljeni.

and only then are you capable of being loved.

I have a friend who said that when her daughter was born,

Imam prijateljicu koji kaže da je, kada se njena ćerka rodila,

she realized that she loved her more than evolution required.

shvatila da je voli više nego što to evolucija zahteva.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

And I've always loved that.

To me je uvek oduševljavalo.

(Applause)

(Aplauz)

Because it talks about the peace that's at the deep of ourself,

Zato što to govori o miru koji se nalazi duboko u nama,

our inexplicable care for one another.

našoj neizrecivoj brizi za drugoga.

And when you touch that spot, you're ready to be rescued.

Kada stignete do te tačke, spremni ste za spasenje.

The hard thing about when you're in the valley

Teška stvar je da, kada ste na dnu,

is that you can't climb out;

ne možete se uspeti,

somebody has to reach in and pull you out.

već neko mora da vam pruži ruku i povuče vas napolje.

It happened to me.

To se desilo meni.

I got, luckily, invited over to a house by a couple named Kathy and David,

Pozvan sam, srećom, u kuću para po imenu Keti i Dejvid,

and they were --

a oni su bili -

They had a kid in the DC public school, his name's Santi.

Imali su sina u državnoj školi u Vašingtonu, po imenu Santi.

Santi had a friend who needed a place to stay

Santi je imao prijatelja kome je trebalo prenoćište

because his mom had some health issues.

jer mu je mama bila bolesna.

And then that kid had a friend and that kid had a friend.

Onda je taj klinac imao prijatelja, a on je opet imao prijatelja.

When I went to their house six years ago,

Kada sam otišao do njih pre šest godina,

I walk in the door, there's like 25 around the kitchen table,

video sam da ih je oko 25 oko kuhinjskog stola,

a whole bunch sleeping downstairs in the basement.

čitava gomila ih je spavala u podrumu.

I reach out to introduce myself to a kid,

Pružio sam ruku da se predstavim klincu,

and he says, "We don't really shake hands here.

a on mi je rekao: „Mi se u stvari i ne rukujemo ovde.

We just hug here."

Mi se ovde zagrlimo.”

And I'm not the huggiest guy on the face of the earth,

Ja nisam baš tip koji voli grljenje najviše na svetu,

but I've been going back to that home every Thursday night when I'm in town,

ali odlazim u tu kuću svakog četvrtka uveče ako sam u gradu,

and just hugging all those kids.

i jednostavno izgrlim svu tu decu.

They demand intimacy.

Oni zahtevaju bliskost.

They demand that you behave in a way where you're showing all the way up.

Oni zahtevaju da se ponašate tako da ste potpuno prisutni.

And they teach you a new way to live,

I uče vas novom načinu života,

koji je lek za sve bolesti naše kulture,

which is the cure for all the ills of our culture

which is a way of direct -- really putting relationship first,

koji je put direktnog - stvarnog stavljanja odnosa na prvo mesto,

not just as a word, but as a reality.

ne samo rečima, već stvarno.

And the beautiful thing is, these communities are everywhere.

A divna stvar je što su ove zajednice svugde.

I started something at the Aspen Institute called "Weave: The Social Fabric."

Započeo sam nešto na Institutu Aspen, pod nazivom: „Tkanje: materijal društva”.

This is our logo here.

Ovo je naš logo.

And we plop into a place and we find weavers anywhere, everywhere.

Upadnemo negde i nađemo tkače svugde.

We find people like Asiaha Butler, who grew up in --

Pronalazimo ljude poput Ajše Batler, koja je odrasla u -

who lived in Chicago, in Englewood, in a tough neighborhood.

koja je živela u Čikagu u Englevudu, u nezgodnom kraju.

And she was about to move because it was so dangerous,

Razmišljala je da se odseli zato što je bilo veoma opasno,

and she looked across the street and she saw two little girls

pogledala je prekoputa i videla dve devojčice

playing in an empty lot with broken bottles,

kako se igraju na praznom igralištu sa slomljenim flašama.

and she turned to her husband and she said, "We're not leaving.

Okrenula se prema svom mužu i rekla: „Ne selimo se.

We're not going to be just another family that abandon that."

Nećemo biti još jedna porodica koja je ovo napustila.”

And she Googled "volunteer in Englewood," and now she runs R.A.G.E.,

Izguglala je „volontiranje u Englevudu” i sada tamo vodi R.A.G.E,

the big community organization there.

veliku lokalnu organizaciju.

Some of these people have had tough valleys.

Neki od ovih ljudi su imali teške padove.

I met a woman named Sarah in Ohio who came home from an antiquing trip

Upoznao sam ženu po imenu Sara iz Ohaja koja se vratila kući s puta

and found that her husband had killed himself and their two kids.

i saznala da je njen muž ubio njihovo dvoje dece i sebe.

She now runs a free pharmacy, she volunteers in the community,

Ona sada vodi besplatnu apoteku, volontira u zajednici,

she helps women cope with violence, she teaches.

pomaže ženama da se uhvate u koštac sa nasiljem, predaje.

She told me, "I grew from this experience because I was angry.

Rekla mi je: „Iz ovog iskustva sam izrasla zato što sam bila ljuta,

I was going to fight back against what he tried to do to me

borila sam se protiv onoga što je on pokušao da mi uradi

by making a difference in the world.

time što ću promeniti nešto na ovom svetu.

See, he didn't kill me.

Vidiš, nije me ubio.

My response to him is,

Moj odgovor njemu je:

'Whatever you meant to do to me, screw you, you're not going to do it.'"

„Šta god si mislio da mi uradiš, šipak, nećeš mi to uraditi.“

These weavers are not living an individualistic life,

Ovi tkači ne žive odvojene živote,

they're living a relationist life, they have a different set of values.

oni žive povezane živote, imaju drugačiji skup vrednosti.

They have moral motivations.

Imaju moralnu motivaciju.

They have vocational certitude, they have planted themselves down.

Imaju profesionalnu sigurnost, oni su pustili korenje.

I met a guy in Youngstown, Ohio,

Upoznao sam lika u Jangstaunu u Ohaju

who just held up a sign in the town square,

koji je držao transprarent na gradskom trgu:

"Defend Youngstown."

„Odbranite Jangstaun”.

They have radical mutuality,

Oni imaju ekstremno zajedništvo,

and they are geniuses at relationship.

i geniiji su u međuljudskim odnosima.

There's a woman named Mary Gordon

Jedna žena po imenu Meri Gordon

who runs something called Roots of Empathy.

vodi nešto pod nazivom „Koreni empatije“.

Oni pokupe gomilu dece, osmaka,

And what they do is they take a bunch of kids, an eighth grade class,

they put a mom and an infant,

i stave ih zajedno sa mamama i bebama,

and then the students have to guess what the infant is thinking,

a onda đaci moraju da pogode o čemu beba razmišlja,

kako bi ih učili empatiji.

to teach empathy.

There was one kid in a class who was bigger than the rest

Bio je jedan dečak u razredu koji je bio veći od ostalih

because he'd been held back, been through the foster care system,

zato što je dosta propustio u školi, bio je u sistemu hraniteljske porodice,

seen his mom get killed.

video kako mu ubijaju majku.

And he wanted to hold the baby.

I on je želeo da drži bebu.

And the mom was nervous because he looked big and scary.

Mama je bila nervozna zato što je bio velik i zastrašujući.

But she let this kid, Darren, hold the baby.

Alii je ipak pustila tog klinca, Darena, da drži bebu.

He held it, and he was great with it.

Držao ju je i odlično mu je išlo.

He gave the baby back and started asking questions about parenthood.

Vratio je bebu i počeo da se raspituje o roditeljstvu.

And his final question was,

Njegovo poslednje pitanje je bilo:

"If nobody has ever loved you, do you think you can be a good father?"

„Ako vas niko nikada nije voleo, da li mislite da možete biti dobar otac?”

And so what Roots of Empathy does

Ono što „Koreni empatije“ rade

is they reach down and they grab people out of the valley.

jeste da pruže ruku i čupaju ljude sa dna.

To je ono što tkači rade.

And that's what weavers are doing.

Some of them switch jobs.

Neki od njih menjaju poslove.

Some of them stay in their same jobs.

Neki ostaju na istim poslovima.

But one thing is, they have an intensity to them.

Ali stvar je u tome što oni imaju strast prema njima.

I read this --

Pročitao sam ovo -

E.O. Wilson wrote a great book called "Naturalist," about his childhood.

E. O. Vilson je napisao sjajnu knjigu pod nazivom „Prirodnjak”,

o svom detinjstvu.

When he was seven, his parents were divorcing.

Kada je imao sedam godina, roditelji su mu se razveli.

And they sent him to Paradise Beach in North Florida.

Poslali su ga u Paradajs Bič u Severnoj Floridi.

And he'd never seen the ocean before.

Nikada pre nije video okean.

And he'd never seen a jellyfish before.

Nikada pre nije video ni meduzu.

He wrote, "The creature was astonishing. It existed beyond my imagination."

Napisao je: „Biće je bilo neverovatno, prevazišlo je sva moja očekivanja.”

He was sitting on the dock one day

Jednog dana, sedeo je na obali

and he saw a stingray float beneath his feet.

i video ražu kako pluta ispod njegovih nogu.

And at that moment, a naturalist was born in the awe and wonder.

U tom momentu se rodio prirodnjak iz čuđenja i radoznalosti.

And he makes this observation:

On beleži sledeću opasku:

that when you're a child,

da, kada ste dete,

you see animals at twice the size as you do as an adult.

vidite životinje duplo veće nego što to odrasli vide.

And that has always impressed me,

To me je uvek fasciniralo,

because what we want as kids is that moral intensity,

jer ono što mi kao deca želimo jeste ta moralna strast,

to be totally given ourselves over to something

da se u potpunosti predamo nečemu

and to find that level of vocation.

i da pronađemo taj nivo profesije.

And when you are around these weavers,

Kada ste u okruženju ovih tkača,

they see other people at twice the size as normal people.

oni vide druge ljude kao duplo veće u odnosu na normalne ljude.

They see deeper into them.

Oni ih vide dublje.

And what they see is joy.

I ono što vide je radost.

On the first mountain of our life, when we're shooting for our career,

Na prvoj planini života, kada težimo ka karijeri,

we shoot for happiness.

mi tražimo sreću.

And happiness is good, it's the expansion of self.

Sreća je dobra, to je proširenje sebe.

You win a victory,

Pobedili ste,

you get a promotion, your team wins the Super Bowl,

dobili ste unapređenje, vaš tim je pobedio na Super boulu,

you're happy.

srećni ste.

Joy is not the expansion of self, it's the dissolving of self.

Radost nije proširenje sebe, to je razrešenje od sebe.

It's the moment when the skin barrier disappears between a mother and her child,

To je momenat kada barijera u vidu kože nestaje između majke i njenog deteta,

it's the moment when a naturalist feels just free in nature.

to je momenat kada se prirodnjak oseća jednostavno slobodno u prirodi.

It's the moment where you're so lost in your work or a cause,

To je momenat kada ste toliko zadubljeni u svoj posao ili nešto drugo,

you have totally self-forgotten.

da ste potpuno zaboravili na sebe.

And joy is a better thing to aim for than happiness.

A radost je mnogo bolja stvar od sreće.

I collect passages of joy, of people when they lose it.

Ja prikupljam delove radosti ljudi kada se izgube u nečemu.

One of my favorite is from Zadie Smith.

Jedna od mojih omiljenih je od Zajdi Smit.

In 1999, she was in a London nightclub,

Godine 1999. ona je bila u londonskom noćnom klubu,

looking for her friends, wondering where her handbag was.

tražeći svoje prijatelje, pitajući se gde joj je tašnica.

And suddenly, as she writes,

Odjednom, kako je napisala:

"... a rail-thin man with enormous eyes reached across a sea of bodies

„...čovek tanak kao grana sa ogromnim očima posegao je,

for my hand.

preko mora tela, za mojom rukom.

He kept asking me the same thing over and over, 'Are you feeling it?'

Stalno me je pitao jedno te isto: „Osećaš li to?”

My ridiculous heels were killing me, I was terrified that I might die,

Glupe štikle su me ubijale i bojala sam se da mogu umreti,

yet I felt simultaneously overwhelmed with delight

ali sam istovremeno bila preplavljena oduševljenjem

that 'Can I Kick It?' should happen to be playing

što je pesma „Can I Kick It?”

išla u ovom dragocenom momentu istorije sveta

on this precise moment in the history of the world

on the sound system,

na zvučniku,

i sada je prelazila u „Teen Spirit”.

and it was now morphing into 'Teen Spirit.'

I took the man's hand, the top of my head blew away,

Prihvatila sam ruku čoveka i otkačila se.

we danced, we danced, we gave ourselves up to joy."

Plesali smo, plesali i prepustili se radosti.”

And so what I'm trying to describe is two different life mindsets.

Ono što pokušavam da opišem su dva različita sistema razmišljanja.

The first mountain mindset, which is about individual happiness and career success.

Prvi je sistem planine, koji se zasniva na ličnoj sreći i uspehu u poslu.

And it's a good mindset, I have nothing against it.

To je dobar sistem razmišljanja, nemam ništa protiv njega.

But we're in a national valley,

Ali mi se nalazimo na nacionalnom dnu,

because we don't have the other mindset to balance it.

zato što nemamo razvijen drugi način razmišljanja

da održavamo ravnotežu.

We no longer feel good about ourselves as a people,

Više se ne osećamo dobro kao narod,

we've lost our defining faith in our future,

izgubili smo veru u budućnost,

we don't see each other deeply, we don't treat each other as well.

ne gledamo jedni druge dublje, ne ophodimo se dobro jedni prema drugima.

And we need a lot of changes.

I potrebno nam je puno promena.

We need an economic change and environmental change.

Potrebne su nam ekonomske promene i ekološke promene.

But we also need a cultural and relational revolution.

Ali nam isto tako treba i kulturna promena i promena u odnosima.

We need to name the language of a recovered society.

Potrebno nam je da imenujemo jezik oporavljenog društva.

And to me, the weavers have found that language.

Za mene, tkači su našli taj jezik.

My theory of social change is that society changes

Moja teorija društvene promene jeste da se društvo menja

when a small group of people find a better way to live,

kada mala grupa ljudi pronađe bolji način življenja,

and the rest of us copy them.

a mi ostali ih kopiramo.

And these weavers have found a better way to live.

Ovi tkači su našli bolji način življenja.

And you don't have to theorize about it.

Nema potrebe za teoretisanjem oko toga.

They are out there as community builders all around the country.

Oni su prisutni širom zemlje kao graditelji društva.

We just have to shift our lives a little,

Samo treba malo da promenimo naše živote,

so we can say, "I'm a weaver, we're a weaver."

i možemo da kažemo: „Ja sam tkač, mi smo tkači.”

And if we do that,

Ako to uradimo,

the hole inside ourselves gets filled,

naše celo unutrašnje biće će biti ispunjeno,

but more important, the social unity gets repaired.

ali što je još važnije, društveno jedinstvo će se popraviti.

Thank you very much.

Hvala vam mnogo.

(Applause)

(Aplauz)