The lies our culture tells us about what matters --- and a better way to live | David Brooks

翻译人员: Cissy Yun 校对人员: Ziyao Wang

So, we all have bad seasons in life.

人生总会经历枯季。

And I had one in 2013.

我的枯季在2013年。

My marriage had just ended,

我的婚姻破裂了，

and I was humiliated by that failed commitment.

我失败的婚姻让我感到羞辱。

My kids had left home for college or were leaving.

我的孩子们离开家 去上大学了。

I grew up mostly in the conservative movement,

我在保守派运动中成长，

but conservatism had changed,

但如今，保守主义变了，

so I lost a lot of those friends, too.

因此我失去了不少老朋友。

And so what I did is, I lived alone in an apartment,

我能做的仅是 独居于公寓中，

and I just worked.

埋头工作。

If you opened the kitchen drawers where there should have been utensils,

若你在我家拉开厨具抽屉，

there were Post-it notes.

你看到会是各种便利贴。

If you opened the other drawers where there should have been plates,

你若拉开盘具抽屉，

那儿将充满信封。

I had envelopes.

I had work friends, weekday friends, but I didn't have weekend friends.

我有同事朋友，工作日的友人， 但到周末，我又是孤身一人。

And so my weekends were these long, howling silences.

我的周末是漫长的寂静。

And I was lonely.

我很孤独。

And loneliness, unexpectedly, came to me in the form of --

寂寞以意想不到的方式击垮了我，

it felt like fear, a burning in my stomach.

它像是一种恐惧， 一种胃中的焦灼感。

And it felt a little like drunkenness,

有时又像是醉酒的感觉，

just making bad decisions, just fluidity, lack of solidity.

我无法作出正确的选择， 一切都随波逐流，毫无立足点。

And the painful part of that moment was the awareness

最让我痛苦的是， 我意识到

that the emptiness in my apartment was just reflective of the emptiness

空空荡荡的公寓 只是我内心空虚的

in myself,

一种外在映射，

and that I had fallen for some of the lies that our culture tells us.

我被我们的文化中的谎言欺骗。

The first lie is that career success is fulfilling.

第一条谎言是 事业成功会让你感到满足。

I've had a fair bit of career success,

我在事业上是小有成就，

and I've found that it helps me avoid the shame I would feel

它帮助我避免那种 觉得自己是个废物的

挫败感，

if I felt myself a failure,

but it hasn't given me any positive good.

但它也给不了我 任何的正能量。

The second lie is I can make myself happy,

第二个谎言是 若我可以再胜利一次，

that if I just win one more victory,

我可以让自己变快乐。

lose 15 pounds, do a little more yoga,

像是减肥15磅，做一下瑜伽，

I'll get happy.

我就会变得开心起来。

And that's the lie of self-sufficiency.

这是“自给自足”的谎言。

But as anybody on their deathbed will tell you,

任何即将离世的人 都会跟你说，

the things that make people happy is the deep relationships of life,

人生中最愉悦的莫过于 各种深厚的交情，

the losing of self-sufficiency.

忘记自给自足的概念。

The third lie is the lie of the meritocracy.

第三个是关于 精英主义的谎言。

The message of the meritocracy is you are what you accomplish.

这个主义传递着一个信息： 你的成就造就了你。

The myth of the meritocracy is you can earn dignity

精英主义告诉人们， 他们可以通过

by attaching yourself to prestigious brands.

穿戴名牌赢得自尊。

The emotion of the meritocracy is conditional love,

精英主义是有条件的爱，

you can "earn" your way to love.

你可以努力“挣”到爱。

The anthropology of the meritocracy is you're not a soul to be purified,

精英主义不会把你看作 一个需要被救赎的灵魂，

you're a set of skills to be maximized.

而是技能被最大化利用的技能套装。

And the evil of the meritocracy

它最邪恶之处是

is that people who've achieved a little more than others

比别人取得多一点成就的人

are actually worth a little more than others.

会被看作更有价值。

And so the wages of sin are sin.

罪的代价还是罪恶。

And my sins were the sins of omission--

而我的罪在于我的疏忽，

not reaching out, failing to show up for my friends,

没有主动去社交， 没有和友人保持联系，

evasion, avoiding conflict.

回避、绕开冲突。

And the weird thing was that as I was falling into the valley --

更奇怪的是，当我 渐渐跌入低谷中时--

it was a valley of disconnection --

就与外界失联了--

a lot of other people were doing that, too.

很多人也正经历着这些。

And that's sort of the secret to my career;

这也算是我事业的秘密吧，

a lot of the things that happen to me

我的人生中发生的事，

are always happening to a lot of other people.

通常也会发生在其他人身上。

我是个平凡的人， 虽然我的沟通能力还行。

I'm a very average person with above average communication skills.

(Laughter)

（笑声）

And so I was detached.

我产生被孤立感的同时，

And at the same time, a lot of other people were detached

很多人也有同感， 感到自己是座孤岛，

and isolated and fragmented from each other.

与别人被拆分开。

Thirty-five percent of Americans over 45 are chronically lonely.

百分之三十五45岁以上的 美国人长期感到孤独。

Only eight percent of Americans report having meaningful conversation

只有百分之八的美国人 与他们的邻居之间

with their neighbors.

有过深度交谈。

Only 32 percent of Americans say they trust their neighbors,

只有百分之三十二的美国人， 以及百分之十八的千禧一代说

and only 18 percent of millennials.

他们信任他们的邻居。

The fastest-growing political party is unaffiliated.

发展最快的政治党派是独立的。

The fastest-growing religious movement is unaffiliated.

扩张得最快的宗教运动 也是与别的宗教无关联的。

Depression rates are rising, mental health problems are rising.

抑郁症比例在上升， 心理疾病变得更普遍。

The suicide rate has risen 30 percent since 1999.

自杀率自1999年 上升了百分之三十。

For teen suicides over the last several years,

近几年青少年自杀率

the suicide rate has risen by 70 percent.

上升了百分之七十。

Forty-five thousand Americans kill themselves every year;

每年四万五千美国人死于自杀，

72,000 die from opioid addictions;

七万两千死于鸦片类药品上瘾；

life expectancy is falling, not rising.

平均寿命在变短而不是变长。

So what I mean to tell you, I flew out here to say

所以我今天来到这里想说的是

that we have an economic crisis, we have environmental crisis,

如今人类面临着经济、环境危机

we have a political crisis.

还有政治危机。

We also have a social and relational crisis;

我们还经历着社交 与人际关系危机。

we're in the valley.

我们正处于那个低谷。

We're fragmented from each other,

人际关系支离破碎，

而政界也是谎话连篇...

we've got cascades of lies coming out of Washington ...

We're in the valley.

我们困在了这个低谷。

And so I've spent the last five years --

在过去的这五年中，

how do you get out of a valley?

我一直在思考 如何走出这个低谷。

The Greeks used to say, "You suffer your way to wisdom."

古希腊人常说说， “必经磨难，终得智慧”。

And from that dark period where I started, I've had a few realizations.

在我人生那段黑暗时光中， 我有了些许认识。

The first is, freedom sucks.

第一，自由糟透了。

Economic freedom is OK, political freedom is great,

经济自由还可以， 政治自由非常好，

social freedom sucks.

社交自由是件坏事。

The unrooted man is the adrift man.

无根之人注定要漂泊。

The unrooted man is the unremembered man, because he's uncommitted to things.

无根之人注定会被遗忘， 因为他从不会做出承诺。

Freedom is not an ocean you want to swim in,

自由不是你可畅游的海洋，

it's a river you want to get across,

而是你需跨越的一条河流，

so you can commit and plant yourself on the other side.

这样你才可以 扎根于河对岸。

The second thing I learned

我学到的第二件事是，

is that when you have one of those bad moments in life,

当坏事发生在你身上时，

you can either be broken,

你不是被打击，

or you can be broken open.

就是思维被打开。

And we all know people who are broken.

我们都认识受过打击的人。

They've endured some pain or grief, they get smaller,

他们忍受着痛苦与 悲伤，愈加变小，

they get angrier, resentful, they lash out.

愈发愤世嫉俗，抨击时事。

As the saying is,

俗话说，

"Pain that is not transformed gets transmitted."

“不被转化的痛苦会被传播”。

But other people are broken open.

另一些人的思维 会被磨难打开。

Suffering's great power is that it's an interruption of life.

磨难的破坏力在于 它会扰乱正常生活。

It reminds you you're not the person you thought you were.

它会提醒你， 你与想象中的自己不一样。

The theologian Paul Tillich said

神学家保罗·提利时说

what suffering does is it carves through what you thought was the floor

磨难会穿透你以为是

of the basement of your soul,

你的灵魂最深的地方，

and it carves through that, revealing a cavity below,

露出一个蛀洞,

and it carves through that, revealing a cavity below.

然后再往深处挖掘， 露出又一个蛀洞。

You realize there are depths of yourself you never anticipated,

你触及到深度是 你从未预料到的，

and only spiritual and relational food will fill those depths.

而能填补那深层空虚的只有 精神粮食和人际关系。

And when you get down there, you get out of the head of the ego

当你到达那深处， 你会忘记自我，

触及心灵，

and you get into the heart,

the desiring heart.

充满渴求的心灵。

The idea that what we really yearn for is longing and love for another,

我们真正想要的是 对他人的爱与思念，

the kind of thing that Louis de Bernières described in his book,

路易·德博尼尔在他的书中 写过有关的感受。

"Captain Corelli's Mandolin."

在《柯莱利上尉的曼陀林》中，

He had an old guy talking to his daughter

他写了一个老人和他女儿诉说

about his relationship with his late wife,

他与去世的妻子的故事，

and the old guy says,

老人说到，

"Love itself is whatever is leftover when being in love is burned away.

“爱的本质是热爱之火 烧尽时剩下的一切。

And this is both an art and a fortunate accident.

这既是一种艺术， 也是幸运的巧合。

Your mother and I had it.

你妈妈和我有幸拥有它。

We had roots that grew towards each other underground,

我们的根在地底深深缠绕，

and when all the pretty blossoms had fallen from our branches,

当那些美丽的花瓣 从树枝上凋落时，

we discovered that we are one tree and not two."

我们发现，我们早已 融为一棵大树。”

That's what the heart yearns for.

这是我们心之所求。

The second thing you discover is your soul.

第二件事是 你会认识自己的灵魂。

Now, I don't ask you to believe in God or not believe in God,

我并非要传教， 让你去相信上帝，

but I do ask you to believe that there's a piece of you

但我希望你可以相信

你的一部分是无形，无色，无量的，

that has no shape, size, color or weight,

but that gives you infinite dignity and value.

但它能给予你无限的自尊和价值。

Rich and successful people don't have more of this

富有、成功人士并不会

than less successful people.

比那些尚未成功之人 多一丝的灵魂。

Slavery is wrong because it's an obliteration of another soul.

奴隶制之所以是错的 是因为它试图抹杀一个灵魂。

Rape is not just an attack on a bunch of physical molecules,

强奸不仅是对肉体的折磨，

it's an attempt to insult another person's soul.

更是对一个灵魂的亵渎。

And what the soul does is it yearns for righteousness.

灵魂渴求的是正义。

The heart yearns for fusion with another, the soul yearns for righteousness.

心之所求是与另一颗心的融合， 而灵魂之所求则是正义。

And that led to my third realization, which I borrowed from Einstein:

这也让我意识到第三件事， 这里我借用爱因斯坦的话：

"The problem you have is not going to be solved

“用产生问题的 思维解决问题

是行不通的。

at the level of consciousness on which you created it.

You have to expand to a different level of consciousness."

你要拓展思维至新的层次”。

So what do you do?

那么我们应该怎么办呢?

第一件事是，让自己 全身投入于朋友之间，

Well, the first thing you do is you throw yourself on your friends

and you have deeper conversations that you ever had before.

与他们进行从未有过的深层交谈。

第二件事有些不同，

But the second thing you do,

你需要独自融入大自然。

you have to go out alone into the wilderness.

你需要去到一个地方， 在那儿没有任何人会是你的观众，

You go out into that place where there's nobody there to perform,

在这里你的自尊心 毫无用处并逐渐粉碎，

and the ego has nothing to do, and it crumbles,

只有那时，你才可以被爱。

and only then are you capable of being loved.

I have a friend who said that when her daughter was born,

我有一个朋友告诉我， 当她女儿出生时，

she realized that she loved her more than evolution required.

她意识到，她爱女儿多过于进化所需。

(Laughter)

（笑声）

And I've always loved that.

我太喜欢这句话了。

(Applause)

（掌声）

Because it talks about the peace that's at the deep of ourself,

因为它讲述的是我们 内心深处的平静，

our inexplicable care for one another.

我们对彼此难以言述的关心。

And when you touch that spot, you're ready to be rescued.

当你触及那个层次， 你就可以被救赎了。

The hard thing about when you're in the valley

当你处在低谷中时， 最难的事莫过于

无法独自爬出这个低洼；

is that you can't climb out;

somebody has to reach in and pull you out.

有人需要伸出援手，将你拉出。

It happened to me.

这也发生在了我身上。

I got, luckily, invited over to a house by a couple named Kathy and David,

我有幸被凯茜和大卫夫妇邀请

and they were --

去他们家。

They had a kid in the DC public school, his name's Santi.

他们的孩子桑提在 华盛顿的公立学校读书。

Santi had a friend who needed a place to stay

桑提的一个朋友 需要找个地方住，

因为他的妈妈有些健康问题。

because his mom had some health issues.

And then that kid had a friend and that kid had a friend.

而那个朋友也认识个 需要帮助的朋友，以此类推。

When I went to their house six years ago,

当我去到他们家做客时，

I walk in the door, there's like 25 around the kitchen table,

我走进门，餐桌旁 坐着二十五个人，

a whole bunch sleeping downstairs in the basement.

还有一些正在地下室睡着。

I reach out to introduce myself to a kid,

我正要向一个孩子做自我介绍，

and he says, "We don't really shake hands here.

他说道， “我们这儿可不流行握手，

We just hug here."

抱一个吧。“

And I'm not the huggiest guy on the face of the earth,

我虽不是地球上 最喜欢拥抱的人，

but I've been going back to that home every Thursday night when I'm in town,

但有着什么一直吸引着我， 在每周四去到他们家时，

and just hugging all those kids.

与这些孩子一个个拥抱问好。

They demand intimacy.

他们想与你亲密无间。

They demand that you behave in a way where you're showing all the way up.

他们需要你完全放开自我。

And they teach you a new way to live,

他们教会你一种全新的生活方式，

which is the cure for all the ills of our culture

可以治愈所有文化之殇，

which is a way of direct -- really putting relationship first,

这其实很简单，就是将 人际关系放在第一位，

not just as a word, but as a reality.

并非空谈，而要实践。

And the beautiful thing is, these communities are everywhere.

而最美好之处就是， 这种团体无处不在。

I started something at the Aspen Institute called "Weave: The Social Fabric."

我在阿斯彭研究所建立了 “织：社会之网”。

这是我们的标志。

This is our logo here.

And we plop into a place and we find weavers anywhere, everywhere.

我们发现身边有很多织网者。

We find people like Asiaha Butler, who grew up in --

像是艾依莎·巴特勒 --

who lived in Chicago, in Englewood, in a tough neighborhood.

她居住在芝加哥的英格伍德， 那是一个危险的街区。

And she was about to move because it was so dangerous,

因为身处危险地段， 她正想要搬家，

and she looked across the street and she saw two little girls

但她看到路对边， 有两个小女孩

playing in an empty lot with broken bottles,

在空停车场里玩碎瓶子。

and she turned to her husband and she said, "We're not leaving.

她转头和她丈夫说， “我们不搬了。

We're not going to be just another family that abandon that."

我们不能像其他家庭那样 一走了之，丢下这里不管。”

And she Googled "volunteer in Englewood," and now she runs R.A.G.E.,

她马上搜索了“英格伍德志愿者”， 现在她管理着“R.A.G.E”，

the big community organization there.

那里最大的社区组织。

Some of these people have had tough valleys.

很多人都经历过人生的低谷。

I met a woman named Sarah in Ohio who came home from an antiquing trip

我遇见一个叫莎拉的女士， 她在一段古董之旅结束回家后，

and found that her husband had killed himself and their two kids.

发现她丈夫杀了她的 两个孩子后自杀了。

She now runs a free pharmacy, she volunteers in the community,

她现在管理一所免费药房， 在社区里积极做志愿工作，

she helps women cope with violence, she teaches.

帮助并教其他女性处理暴力事件，

She told me, "I grew from this experience because I was angry.

“我能从这段经历里成长， 是因为我很愤怒”，她说，

I was going to fight back against what he tried to do to me

“我要反击并通过改变这个世界

by making a difference in the world.

来向他宣战。

See, he didn't kill me.

他没能杀了我。

My response to him is,

我想对他说，

'Whatever you meant to do to me, screw you, you're not going to do it.'"

‘无论你怎样试图伤害我， 去你的，你就是不行。' "

These weavers are not living an individualistic life,

这些织网者都不以 个人主义的方式生活，

they're living a relationist life, they have a different set of values.

他们重视人际关系， 有一套不同的价值观。

They have moral motivations.

他们充满道德积极性。

They have vocational certitude, they have planted themselves down.

他们愿意发声， 他们平易近人。

I met a guy in Youngstown, Ohio,

我曾在俄亥俄州的 扬斯敦遇见一个人，

他当时在镇中心 举着一块牌子，

who just held up a sign in the town square,

上面写着：“捍卫扬斯敦”。

"Defend Youngstown."

They have radical mutuality,

他们有着超前的集体感，

and they are geniuses at relationship.

他们是人际关系方面天才。

There's a woman named Mary Gordon

有一位叫玛丽·戈登的女士

who runs something called Roots of Empathy.

运营着“同理心种子计划”。

他们聚集一群八年级的孩子，

And what they do is they take a bunch of kids, an eighth grade class,

they put a mom and an infant,

找到一对母婴，

and then the students have to guess what the infant is thinking,

并让这些学生猜 婴儿在想些什么，

to teach empathy.

由此来培养他们的同理心。

There was one kid in a class who was bigger than the rest

课上有一个孩子， 看起来比其他人都要大，

because he'd been held back, been through the foster care system,

他留了几级并且 一直住在寄养家庭，

他亲眼目睹了他母亲被杀。

seen his mom get killed.

And he wanted to hold the baby.

他想要抱抱这个婴儿。

And the mom was nervous because he looked big and scary.

那个妈妈有些紧张，因为男孩 人高马大，有些吓人。

But she let this kid, Darren, hold the baby.

但她仍让这个名叫 达伦的男孩抱了婴儿。

He held it, and he was great with it.

他抱着小孩，做得特别棒。

He gave the baby back and started asking questions about parenthood.

他把孩子递还给了妈妈， 开始问有关当父母的问题。

And his final question was,

他最后的问题是，

"If nobody has ever loved you, do you think you can be a good father?"

“若从没有人爱过你， 你还可能成为一个好父亲吗？”

And so what Roots of Empathy does

这就是“同理心种子计划”的力量，

is they reach down and they grab people out of the valley.

他们伸出援手， 将人拉出低谷。

And that's what weavers are doing.

这也是织网者所做的。

Some of them switch jobs.

他们中的一些人换了工作。

Some of them stay in their same jobs.

另一些会待在同一个岗位上。

But one thing is, they have an intensity to them.

但他们都有着同样的热情。

I read this --

我正在读 --

E.O. Wilson wrote a great book called "Naturalist," about his childhood.

E·O·威尔森写的一本关于 他童年的书，叫《自然主义者》。

When he was seven, his parents were divorcing.

他七岁时，他的父母要离婚。

And they sent him to Paradise Beach in North Florida.

他们把他送到 北佛罗里达的天堂滩。

And he'd never seen the ocean before.

他从未见过海洋。

And he'd never seen a jellyfish before.

没见过水母。

He wrote, "The creature was astonishing. It existed beyond my imagination."

他写道： “这种生物太惊奇了。 它存在于我想象力之外”。

He was sitting on the dock one day

有天，他坐在码头上，

and he saw a stingray float beneath his feet.

看到一条魟鱼在他脚下游过。

And at that moment, a naturalist was born in the awe and wonder.

那一刻，在敬畏和惊奇中， 一个自然主义者诞生了。

And he makes this observation:

他发现，

that when you're a child,

当你是个孩子时，

you see animals at twice the size as you do as an adult.

会把动物看作 大人眼中两倍大。

And that has always impressed me,

这打动了我，

because what we want as kids is that moral intensity,

因为我们所需的正是 孩子所有的强烈道德感，

to be totally given ourselves over to something

让我们完全臣服于某物，

and to find that level of vocation.

找到那种使命感。

And when you are around these weavers,

当你身边围绕着这些织网者时，

they see other people at twice the size as normal people.

他们会将别人看作两倍大，

They see deeper into them.

他们看人更深，

And what they see is joy.

他们看到乐趣。

On the first mountain of our life, when we're shooting for our career,

在人生第一座大山上， 我们的事业刚刚起步时，

we shoot for happiness.

我们追逐的是幸福感。

And happiness is good, it's the expansion of self.

幸福感是不错， 它是自我的膨胀。

You win a victory,

你赢了一场战役，

you get a promotion, your team wins the Super Bowl,

你升职了，你的队伍 赢得了超级碗，

you're happy.

你很开心。

Joy is not the expansion of self, it's the dissolving of self.

但乐趣不是自我膨胀， 而是自我溶解。

It's the moment when the skin barrier disappears between a mother and her child,

乐趣存在于母亲和她孩子 之间再无肌肤之隔时，

it's the moment when a naturalist feels just free in nature.

乐趣会在一个自然主义者 在大自然中放飞自我时出现。

It's the moment where you're so lost in your work or a cause,

当你完全沉浸在工作和事业中，

you have totally self-forgotten.

乐趣会在你忘乎自我时找到你。

And joy is a better thing to aim for than happiness.

寻找乐趣比追逐幸福更好。

I collect passages of joy, of people when they lose it.

我一直在收集人们 描写乐趣的文字。

One of my favorite is from Zadie Smith.

其中我最喜欢的是 扎迪·史密斯写的一段。

In 1999, she was in a London nightclub,

1999年，她在伦敦的一家夜店，

looking for her friends, wondering where her handbag was.

她一边寻找她的的朋友， 一边在找自己的手袋。

And suddenly, as she writes,

她写道，“突然间，

"... a rail-thin man with enormous eyes reached across a sea of bodies

一个有着大眼睛的精瘦男人

for my hand.

越过人海，向我伸出手。

He kept asking me the same thing over and over, 'Are you feeling it?'

他一遍遍地问我同一个问题， ‘你感受到了吗？’

My ridiculous heels were killing me, I was terrified that I might die,

我正受着高跟鞋的折磨， 担心着我的人身安全，

yet I felt simultaneously overwhelmed with delight

但同时，我心中充满了喜悦，

that 'Can I Kick It?' should happen to be playing

因为 ‘Can I Kick It?’ 这首歌

on this precise moment in the history of the world

正好在人类历史的 这个特定时刻

on the sound system,

在这家夜店的音响中播出，

and it was now morphing into 'Teen Spirit.'

现在，正慢慢渐进到 ‘Teen Spirit’ 这首歌。

I took the man's hand, the top of my head blew away,

我握住了那个男人的手， 我完全被震住了，

we danced, we danced, we gave ourselves up to joy."

我们不停地跳着舞，无比快乐”。

And so what I'm trying to describe is two different life mindsets.

所以说，我尝试描述的 是两种生活方式。

The first mountain mindset, which is about individual happiness and career success.

第一种“登山模式”有关 个人幸福和事业成功。

And it's a good mindset, I have nothing against it.

我不反对这种价值观， 因为它没什么问题。

But we're in a national valley,

但我们的国家正处在低谷中，

because we don't have the other mindset to balance it.

正因为我们缺少另一种 生活方式来维持平衡。

We no longer feel good about ourselves as a people,

我们不再为自己感到高兴，

we've lost our defining faith in our future,

我们已失去了对未来的信念，

we don't see each other deeply, we don't treat each other as well.

我们不再与人交往颇深， 我们不再友善地对待他人。

And we need a lot of changes.

我们急需改变。

We need an economic change and environmental change.

我们需要经济和环境的改变。

But we also need a cultural and relational revolution.

但我们同时也需要文化 和社会关系上的革命。

We need to name the language of a recovered society.

我们需要一种语言来 描述这个正在恢复的社会。

And to me, the weavers have found that language.

对我来说，织网者 找到了这一语言。

My theory of social change is that society changes

我认为，社会改变在于

when a small group of people find a better way to live,

一些人找到更好的生活方式，

and the rest of us copy them.

而其他人效仿。

And these weavers have found a better way to live.

这些织网者已经找到了 一个更好的生活方式。

And you don't have to theorize about it.

你无须将它理论化。

They are out there as community builders all around the country.

他们作为团体的建造者 遍布在这个国家的每个角落。

We just have to shift our lives a little,

我们只需稍微 改变一下自己的生活，

so we can say, "I'm a weaver, we're a weaver."

这样我们就能说， “我是一个织网者，我们都是织网者。”

And if we do that,

当我们都这样做时，

the hole inside ourselves gets filled,

我们内心的空虚将被填补，

but more important, the social unity gets repaired.

更重要的是， 整个社会将被修复。

Thank you very much.

谢谢。

(Applause)

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