What it's like to be a parent in a war zone | Aala El-Khani

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Worldwide, over 1.5 billion people experience armed conflict.
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Di seluruh dunia, lebih 1.5 bilion orang mengalami konflik bersenjata.
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In response, people are forced to flee their country,
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Akibatnya, ramai orang terpaksa meninggalkan negara mereka,
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leaving over 15 million refugees.
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kira-kira lebih 15 juta pelarian.
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Children, without a doubt,
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Sudah tentu, kanak-kanak
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are the most innocent and vulnerable victims ...
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adalah paling tidak bersalah dan mangsa yang lemah
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but not just from the obvious physical dangers,
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tetapi bukan hanya bahaya fizikal yang boleh dilihat
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but from the often unspoken effects that wars have on their families.
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tetapi dari kesan perang yang tidak diungkapkan pada keluarga
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The experiences of war leave children at a real high risk
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Pengalaman perang mendedahkan kanak-kanak kepada risiko tinggi
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for the development of emotional and behavioral problems.
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dalam pembentukan masalah emosi dan kelakuan.
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Children, as we can only imagine,
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Bayangkan, kanak-kanak
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will feel worried, threatened and at risk.
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akan rasa bimbang, terancam dan berisiko.
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But there is good news.
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Tetapi, ada berita baik.
00:52
The quality of care that children receive in their families
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Mutu penjagaan yang kanak-kanak terima dari keluarga mereka
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can have a more significant effect on their well-being
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boleh memberi kesan yang lebih baik bagi kesejahteraan mereka
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than from the actual experiences of war that they have been exposed to.
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dari pengalaman sebenar perang yang mereka terdedah.
01:04
So actually, children can be protected
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Jadi sebenarnya, kanak-kanak boleh dilindungi
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by warm, secure parenting during and after conflict.
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dengan kasih sayang dan perlindungan ibu bapa semasa dan selepas konflik.
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In 2011, I was a first-year PhD student
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Pada 2011, saya seorang pelajar PhD tahun pertama.
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in the University of Manchester School of Psychological Sciences.
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di Universiti Manchester Sekolah Sains Psikologi.
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Like many of you here,
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Seperti anda semua di sini,
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I watched the crisis in Syria unfold in front of me on the TV.
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Saya menyaksikan krisis Syria di TV.
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My family is originally from Syria,
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Keluarga saya berasal dari Syria.
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and very early on,
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dan sejak peringkat awal,
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I lost several family members in really horrifying ways.
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Saya hilang beberapa ahli keluarga dengan cara yang menyayat hati
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I'd sit and I'd gather with my family and watch the TV.
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Saya bersama-sama keluarga saya menonton TV.
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We've all seen those scenes:
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Kami saksikan semua kejadian:
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bombs destroying buildings,
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bom memusnahkan bangunan,
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chaos, destruction
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kucar-kacir, kehancuran
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and people screaming and running.
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dan orang ramai berteriak dan berlari.
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It was always the people screaming and running that really got me the most,
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Suasana orang berteriak dan berlari benar-benar menyedihkan saya.
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especially those terrified-looking children.
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terutama wajah kanak-kanak yang ketakutan.
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I was a mother to two young, typically inquisitive children.
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Saya ibu kepada dua orang anak kecil yang gemar bertanya
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They were five and six then,
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Masa itu, mereka berumur lima dan enam tahun,
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at an age where they typically asked lots and lots of questions,
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pada umur yang biasanya mereka bertanya bermacam soalan,
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and expected real, convincing answers.
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dan mahu jawapan yang benar dan menyakinkan.
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So, I began to wonder what it might be like
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Jadi, saya mula terfikir bagaimana keadaannya
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to parent my children in a war zone and a refugee camp.
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saya menjaga anak-anak di zon perang dan kem pelarian.
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Would my children change?
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Adakah anak saya akan berubah?
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Would my daughter's bright, happy eyes lose their shine?
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Adakah sinar pada wajah anak saya akan jadi kelam?
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Would my son's really relaxed and carefree nature become fearful and withdrawn?
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Adakah sikap anak lelaki saya yang santai dan bebas akan menjadi ketakutan?
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How would I cope?
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Bagaimana saya menanganinya?
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Would I change?
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Adakah saya akan berubah?
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As psychologists and parent trainers,
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Sebagai ahli psikologi dan jurulatih ibu bapa,
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we know that arming parents with skills in caring for their children
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kita tahu memberikan ibu bapa kemahiran menjaga anak mereka
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can have a huge effect on their well-being,
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ada kesan yang besar pada kesejahteraan mereka,
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and we call this parent training.
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dan kita panggil sebagai latihan ibu bapa.
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The question I had was,
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Persoalan saya ialah,
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could parent training programs be useful for families
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adakah program latihan ibu bapa berguna kepada keluarga
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while they were still in war zones or refugee camps?
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yang berada dalam zon perang atau kem pelarian?
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Could we reach them with advice or training
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Bolehkah kita dampingi dengan nasihat atau latihan?
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that would help them through these struggles?
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yang membantu mereka melalui kesukaran ini?
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So I approached my PhD supervisor,
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Jadi saya bertemu penyelia PhD saya,
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Professor Rachel Calam,
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Profesor Rachel Calam,
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with the idea of using my academic skills to make some change in the real world.
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untuk gunakan kemahiran akademik saya untuk mengubah dunia.
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I wasn't quite sure what exactly I wanted to do.
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Saya tidak pasti apa yang saya mahu lakukan.
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She listened carefully and patiently,
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Beliau mendengar dengan teliti dan sabar.
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and then to my joy she said,
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tiba-tiba beliau berkata,
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"If that's what you want to do, and it means so much to you,
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"Jika anda mahu lakukannya, dan ia amat bermakna kepada anda,
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then let's do it.
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lakukanlah.
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Let's find ways to see if parent programs
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Mari cari jalan jika program ibu bapa
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can be useful for families in these contexts."
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berguna untuk keluarga dalam konteks itu."
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So for the past five years, myself and my colleagues --
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Sejak lima tahun lalu, saya dan rakan kerja saya,
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Prof. Calam and Dr. Kim Cartwright --
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Prof. Calam dan Dr. Kim Cartwright,
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have been working on ways to support families
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berusaha bagamana untuk menyokong keluarga
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that have experienced war and displacement.
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yang pernah mengalami perang dan penghijrahan.
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Now, to know how to help families that have been through conflict
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Untuk tahu cara membantu keluarga yang telah melalui konflik
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support their children,
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membantu anak-anak mereka,
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the first step must obviously be to ask them what they're struggling with,
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langkah pertama tentunya tanyakan mereka masalah yang dihadapi,
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right?
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betul, kan?
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I mean, it seems obvious.
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Maksud saya, ia jelas.
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But it's often those that are the most vulnerable,
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Tetapi biasanya, golongan yang paling lemah,
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that we're trying to support,
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itulah yang kita cuba sokong,
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that we actually don't ask.
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tetapi sebenarnya mereka yang tidak ditanya.
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How many times have we just assumed we know exactly the right thing
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Berapa kerap kita andaikan kita tahu perkara yang betul
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that's going to help someone or something without actually asking them first?
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untuk membantu seseorang atau sesuatu tanpa bertanya lebih dahulu?
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So I travelled to refugee camps in Syria and in Turkey,
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Jadi, saya kunjungi kem pelarian di Syria dan Turki,
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and I sat with families, and I listened.
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dan duduk bersama mereka sekeluarga dan mendengar.
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I listened to their parenting challenges,
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Saya mendengar cabaran sebagai ibu bapa,
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I listened to their parenting struggles
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saya mendengar kesukaran sebagai ibu bapa
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and I listened to their call for help.
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dan saya dengar laungan mereka untuk bantuan.
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And sometimes that was just paused,
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Adakalanya, kami hanya terdiam,
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as all I could do was hold hands with them
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apa saya boleh buat hanya genggam tangan
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and just join them in silent crying and prayer.
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bersama mereka, menangis dan berdoa.
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They told me about their struggles,
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Mereka beritahu saya mengenai perjuangan mereka,
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they told me about the rough, harsh refugee camp conditions
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mereka beritahu saya keadaan kem pelarian yang sukar,
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that made it hard to focus on anything but practical chores
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tidak boleh fokus melainkan tugasan yang penting
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like collecting clean water.
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seperti mengambil air bersih.
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They told me how they watched their children withdraw;
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Mereka beritahu bagaimana anak-anak mereka berubah;
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the sadness, depression, anger,
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kesedihan, kemurungan, kemarahan,
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bed-wetting, thumb-sucking, fear of loud noises,
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kencing malam, menghisap jari, takut bunyi bising,
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fear of nightmares --
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takut mimpi ngeri -
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terrifying, terrifying nightmares.
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mimpi yang sangat, sangat mengerikan.
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These families had been through what we had been watching on the TV.
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Keluarga-keluarga ini telah mengalami apa yang kita saksikan di TV.
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The mothers --
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Ibu-ibu,
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almost half of them were now widows of war,
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hampir separuh mereka kini janda-janda perang
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or didn't even know if their husbands were dead or alive --
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atau tidak tahu jika suami mereka mati atau hidup,
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described how they felt they were coping so badly.
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menceritakan kesukaran menghadapi keadaan ini.
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They watched their children change and they had no idea how to help them.
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Mereka saksikan anak mereka berubah tetapi tidak tahu cara membantu mereka.
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They didn't know how to answer their children's questions.
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Mereka tidak tahu menjawab soalan anak-anak mereka.
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What I found incredibly astonishing and so motivational
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Apa yang saya dapati begitu menakjubkan dan memberangsangkan
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was that these families were so motivated to support their children.
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adalah keluarga ini sungguh terdorong untuk membantu anak-anak mereka.
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Despite all these challenges they faced,
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Walau berdepan dengan cabaran ini,
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they were trying to help their children.
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mereka cuba membantu anak-anak mereka.
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They were making attempts at seeking support from NGO workers,
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Mereka cuba mendapatkan sokongan pekerja NGO,
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from refugee camp teachers,
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dari guru-guru kem pelarian,
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professional medics,
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pakar perubatan profesional
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other parents.
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ibu bapa yang lain.
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One mother I met had only been in a camp for four days,
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Seorang ibu yang saya temui baru empat hari berada di kem
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and had already made two attempts
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dan sudah membuat dua percubaan
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at seeking support for her eight-year-old daughter
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untuk dapatkan bantuan bagi anaknya berumur lapan tahun
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who was having terrifying nightmares.
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yang mengalami mimpi yang mengerikan.
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But sadly, these attempts are almost always useless.
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Malangnya, percubaannya selalunya tidak berhasil.
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Refugee camp doctors, when available,
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Doktor kem pelarian, jika ada,
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are almost always too busy,
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selalu terlalu sibuk
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or don't have the knowledge or the time for basic parenting supports.
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atau tidak ada pengetahuan atau masa untuk bantuan asas ibu bapa.
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Refugee camp teachers and other parents are just like them --
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Guru kem pelarian dan ibu bapa lain sama seperti mereka,
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part of a new refugee community who's struggling with new needs.
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masyarakat pelarian yang baru yang terpaksa memenuhi keperluan baru.
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So then we began to think.
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Jadi, kita mula berfikir.
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How could we help these families?
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Bagaimana boleh kita membantu keluarga ini?
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The families were struggling with things much bigger than they could cope with.
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Keluarga ini bergelut dengan masalah lebih besar dari yang mampu ditangani.
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The Syrian crisis made it clear
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Krisis Syria jelas membuktikan
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how incredibly impossible it would be to reach families on an individual level.
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amat mustahil untuk dapat membantu keluarga secara individu.
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How else could we help them?
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Apakah cara lain yang boleh kita bantu mereka?
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How would we reach families at a population level
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Bagaiaman boleh kita dekati keluarga secara ramai
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and low costs
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dan rendah kos
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in these terrifying, terrifying times?
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dalam masa yang menakutkan ini?
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After hours of speaking to NGO workers,
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Selepas berjam-jam berbincang dengan pekerja NGO,
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one suggested a fantastic innovative idea
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seorang mencadangkan satu idea innovatif yang hebat
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of distributing parenting information leaflets via bread wrappers --
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iaitu mengedarkan maklumat keibubapaan melalui bungkusan roti.
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bread wrappers that were being delivered to families in a conflict zone in Syria
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Bungkusan roti yang diedarkan kepada keluarga di zon konflik Syria
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by humanitarian workers.
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oleh para pekerja kemanusiaan.
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So that's what we did.
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Jadi, itulah yang kami lakukan.
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The bread wrappers haven't changed at all in their appearance,
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Tidak ada apa-apa perubahan pada bungkusan roti itu
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except for the addition of two pieces of paper.
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melainkan ada dua keping kertas yang dilampirkan.
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One was a parenting information leaflet that had basic advice and information
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Satu ialah risalah keibubapaan yang memberikan maklumat asas
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that normalized to the parent what they might be experiencing,
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mengenai apa yang ibu bapa sedang alami
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and what their child might be experiencing.
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dan apa yang anak mereka mungkin alami.
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And information on how they could support themselves and their children,
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Dan maklumat mengenai cara mereka boleh membantu diri dan anak mereka,
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such as information like spending time talking to your child,
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seperti meluangkan masa berbual-bual dengan anak mereka,
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showing them more affection,
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menunjukkan lebih kasih sayang kepada mereka,
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being more patient with your child,
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lebih bersabar terhadap anak anda,
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talking to your children.
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berbual dengan anak anda.
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The other piece of paper was a feedback questionnaire,
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Kertas yang satu lagi ialah soalan-soalan maklum balas.
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and of course, there was a pen.
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Dan sudah tentu, disertakan pen.
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So is this simply leaflet distribution,
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Jadi, adakah ini sekadar pengedaran risalah
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or is this actually a possible means of delivering psychological first aid
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atau ini sebenarnya satu cara menyebarkan bantuan awal psikologi
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that provides warm, secure, loving parenting?
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untuk memberikan sentuhan ibu bapa yang menyayangi, meyakinkan?
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We managed to distribute 3,000 of these in just one week.
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Kami berjaya mengedarkan 3,000 bungkusan dalam hanya seminggu.
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What was incredible was we had a 60 percent response rate.
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Apa yang menakjubkan ialah kami menerima kadar respons 60 peratus.
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60 percent of the 3,000 families responded.
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60 peratus respons daripada 3,000 keluarga.
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I don't know how many researchers we have here today,
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Saya tidak tahu berapa ramai pengkaji yang hadir pada hari ini,
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but that kind of response rate is fantastic.
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tetapi kadar respons seperti itu adalah hebat.
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To have that in Manchester would be a huge achievement,
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Respons seperti itu jika di Manchester adalah satu pencapaian,
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let alone in a conflict zone in Syria --
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apa lagi jika di zon konflik di Syria.
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really highlighting how important these kinds of messages were to families.
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Ia benar-benar menunjukkan pentingnya mesej ini kepada keluarga.
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I remember how excited and eager we were for the return of the questionnaires.
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Saya masih ingat, betapa gembira bila menerima maklum balas itu kembali.
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The families had left hundreds of messages --
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Keluarga itu meninggalkan ratusan mesej
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most incredibly positive and encouraging.
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yang kebanyakannya amat positif dan menggalakkan.
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But my favorite has got to be,
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Tetapi yang paling saya suka ialah
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"Thank you for not forgetting about us and our children."
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"Terima kasih kerana tidak melupakan kami dan anak-anak kami."
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This really illustrates the potential means
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Ia benar-benar menunjukkan potensi
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of the delivery of psychological first aid to families,
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menyebarkan bantuan awal psikologi kepada keluarga
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and the return of feedback, too.
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dan menerima kembali maklum balas.
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Just imagine replicating this using other means
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Bayangkan, menyebarkannya melalui cara yang lain
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such as baby milk distribution, or female hygiene kits,
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seperti melalui pengedaran susu bayi atau perkakas kebersihan wanita
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or even food baskets.
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atau dalam bakul makanan.
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But let's bring this closer to home,
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Mari bicara sesuatu yang hampir dengan kita
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because the refugee crisis
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sebab krisis pelarian ini
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is one that is having an effect on every single one of us.
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menjejas setiap kita.
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We're bombarded with images daily of statistics and of photos,
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Setiap hari kita dihujani dengan statistik dan gambar,
08:50
and that's not surprising,
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dan bukan sesuatu yang menghairankan,
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because by last month,
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sebab sehingga bulan lalu,
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over one million refugees had reached Europe.
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lebih satu juta pelarian telah sampai di Eropah.
08:56
One million.
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Satu juta.
08:58
Refugees are joining our communities,
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Pelarian kini menyertai masyarakat kita,
09:01
they're becoming our neighbors,
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mereka menjadi jiran-jiran kita,
09:03
their children are attending our children's schools.
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anak-anak mereka menghadiri sekolah anak-anak kita.
09:07
So we've adapted the leaflet to meet the needs of European refugees,
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Jadi kami menyesuaikan risalah itu untuk keperluan pelarian Eropah
09:11
and we have them online, open-access,
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dan ada dalam talian, boleh dibaca oleh sesiapa,
09:13
in areas with a really high refugee influx.
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di kawasan yang ada jumlah pelarian yang sangat ramai.
09:16
For example, the Swedish healthcare uploaded it onto their website,
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Contohnya, pihak kesihatan Sweden muat naik di laman web mereka.
09:19
and within the first 45 minutes,
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Dalam masa 45 minit pertama,
09:21
it was downloaded 343 times --
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ia dimuat turun 343 kali...
09:25
really highlighting how important it is
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benar-benar menunjukkan betapa penting
09:27
for volunteers, practitioners and other parents
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bagi sukarelawan, pengamal dan ibu bapa yang lain
09:29
to have open-access, psychological first-aid messages.
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mempunyai mesej bantuan awal psikologi yang mudah dicapai.
09:35
In 2013, I was sitting on the cold, hard floor of a refugee camp tent
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Pada 2013, saya duduk di lantai dingin dalam khemah kem pelarian
09:41
with mothers sitting around me as I was conducting a focus group.
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bersama ibu-ibu sedang saya menjalankan kumpulan fokus.
09:45
Across from me stood an elderly lady
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Di depan saya seorang wanita tua berdiri dengan
09:47
with what seemed to be a 13-year-old girl lying beside her,
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seorang budak perempuan, seperti, berumur 13 tahun berbaring di sebelahnya
09:51
with her head on the elderly lady's knees.
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dengan kepalanya di lutut wanita tua itu.
09:53
The girl stayed quiet throughout the focus group,
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Budak perempuan itu senyap di sepanjang kumpulan fokus,
09:56
not talking at all,
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langsung tidak bercakap,
09:58
with her knees curled up against her chest.
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dengan lututnya mengerekot di dadanya.
10:00
Towards the end of the focus group,
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Di penghujung kumpulan fokus itu,
10:02
and as I was thanking the mothers for their time,
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sedang saya ucap terima kasih kepada ibu-ibu kerana luangkan masa,
10:05
the elderly lady looked at me while pointing at the young girl,
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wanita tua itu memandang saya dan tunjuk ke arah budak itu
10:08
and said to me, "Can you help us with...?"
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dan katanya, "Boleh anda bantu saya dengan..?"
10:11
Not quite sure what she expected me to do,
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Tidak pasti apa yang dia mahu saya lakukan.
10:14
I looked at the young girl and smiled,
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Saya pandang budak perempuan itu dan senyum
10:16
and in Arabic I said,
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dan saya berkata dalam bahasa Arab,
10:17
"Salaam alaikum. Shu-ismak?"
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"Salaam alaikum. Shu-ismak?"
10:19
"What's your name?"
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"Apa nama awak?"
10:21
She looked at me really confused and unengaged,
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Dia pandang saya, wajahnya begitu keliru dan tidak beri perhatian
10:24
but then said, "Halul."
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tetapi berkata, "Halul."
10:26
Halul is the pet's name for the Arabic female name, Hala,
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Halul ialah nama timangan bagi nama wanita Arab iaitu Hala
10:31
and is only really used to refer to really young girls.
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dan hanya digunakan oleh budak perempuan yang sangat muda.
10:35
At that point I realized that actually Hala was probably much older than 13.
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Pada waktu itu, saya sedar Hala sebenarnya lebih dewasa dari 13 tahun.
10:39
It turns out Hala was a 25-year-old mother to three young children.
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Sebenarnya, Hala berumur 25 tahun dan ibu kepada tiga anak kecil.
10:44
Hala had been a confident, bright, bubbly, loving, caring mother
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Hala dahulunya seorang ibu yang yakin diri, bijak, ceria, penyayang
10:48
to her children,
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kepada anak-anaknya
10:49
but the war had changed all of that.
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tetapi perang telah mengubah segalanya.
10:52
She had lived through bombs being dropped in her town;
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Dia mengalami peritiwa bandarnya dibom dari udara,
10:57
she had lived through explosions.
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dan pelbagai letupan.
11:00
When fighter jets were flying around their building,
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Semasa jet pejuang terbang di sekitar bangunannya,
11:02
dropping bombs,
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melepaskan bom,
11:03
her children would be screaming, terrified from the noise.
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anak-anaknya berteriak ketakutan dengan bunyi bising.
11:06
Hala would frantically grab pillows and cover her children's ears
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Sambil tidak keruan, Hala mencapai bantal untuk menutup telinga anaknya
11:09
to block out the noise,
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untuk menghalang bunyi bising
11:11
all the while screaming herself.
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dan dia tidak henti memekik.
11:13
When they reached the refugee camp
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Bila mereka sampai di kem pelarian
11:15
and she knew they were finally in some kind of safety,
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dan dia tahu akhirnya mereka berada di tempat perlindungan,
11:18
she completely withdrew to acting like her old childhood self.
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wataknya langsung berubah dan dia berkelakuan seperti kanak-kanak.
11:22
She completely rejected her family --
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Dia langsung tidak mengenali keluarganya,
11:26
her children, her husband.
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anak-anaknya, suaminya.
11:29
Hala simply could no longer cope.
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Hala tidak mampu menanggungnya lagi.
11:32
This is a parenting struggle with a really tough ending,
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Inilah yang dihadapi ibu bapa dengan kesudahan yang menyayat hati.
11:35
but sadly, it's not uncommon.
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Yang sedihnya, ia bukan jarang berlaku.
11:37
Those who experience armed conflict and displacement
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Sesiapa yang melalui konflik bersenjata dan penghijrahan
11:40
will face serious emotional struggles.
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akan menghadapi pergelutan emosi yang serius.
11:43
And that's something we can all relate to.
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Dan itu sesuatu yang kita boleh fahami
11:46
If you have been through a devastating time in your life,
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jika anda pernah melalui detik yang mengecewakan dalam hidup,
11:50
if you have lost someone or something you really care about,
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jika anda pernah kehilangan seseorang atau sesuatu yang anda sayangi,
11:55
how would you continue to cope?
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bagaimana anda terus menghadapinya?
11:58
Could you still be able to care for yourself and for your family?
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Bolehkah anda masih menjaga diri dan keluarga anda?
12:03
Given that the first years of a child's life are crucial
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Tahun pertama kanak-kanak adalah penting
12:06
for healthy physical and emotional development,
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untuk pembangunan fizikal dan emosi yang sihat.
12:09
and that 1.5 billion people are experiencing armed conflict --
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1.5 bilion orang sedang mengalami konflik bersenjata
12:14
many of whom are now joining our communities --
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dan ramai mereka bersama dalam masyarakat kita sekarang.
12:17
we cannot afford to turn a blind eye
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Kita tidak boleh untuk tidak mengendahkan
12:19
to the needs of those who are experiencing war and displacement.
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keperluan mereka yang mengalami perang dan penghijrahan.
12:24
We must prioritize these families' needs --
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Kita mesti utamakan keperluan keluarga sebegini,
12:27
both those who are internally displaced, and those who are refugees worldwide.
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bagi yang terpaksa berpindah dalam negara dan pelarian seluruh dunia.
12:32
These needs must be prioritized by NGO workers, policy makers,
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Keperluan ini mesti diutamakan oleh pekerja NGO, penggubal dasar,
12:37
the WHO, the UNHCR and every single one of us
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WHO, UNHCR dan setiap kita.
12:42
in whatever capacity it is that we function in our society.
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dalam apa sahaja peranan yang kita lakukan dalam masyarakat kita.
12:47
When we begin to recognize the individual faces of the conflict,
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Apabila kita mengenali wajah-wajah yang terjejas dengan konflik,
12:52
when we begin to notice those intricate emotions on their faces,
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apabila kita peduli emosi yang merungsingkan di wajah mereka,
12:57
we begin to see them as humans, too.
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kita mula melihat mereka sebagai manusia juga.
12:59
We begin to see the needs of these families,
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Kita mula memahami keperluan keluarga-keluarga ini
13:02
and these are the real human needs.
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dan inilah keperluan manusia yang sebenar.
13:05
When these family needs are prioritized,
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Apabila keperluan keluarga-keluarga ini diutamakan,
13:08
interventions for children in humanitarian settings
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bantuan bagi kanak-kanak dalam suasana kemanusiaan
13:11
will prioritize and recognize the primary role of the family in supporting children.
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akan mengutamakan dan mengakui peranan asas keluarga dalam membantu kanak-kanak.
13:17
Family mental health will be shouting loud and clear
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Kesihatan mental keluarga akan menuntut didengari
13:20
in global, international agenda.
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dalam agenda global, antarabangsa.
13:22
And children will be less likely to enter social service systems
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Dan kemungkinan kanak-kanak dalam sistem bantuan sosial akan berkurangan
13:26
in resettlement countries
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di negara yang mereka hijrah
13:28
because their families would have had support earlier on.
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sebab keluarga mereka sudah menerima sokongan sebelum ini.
13:32
And we will be more open-minded,
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Dan fikiran kita akan lebih terbuka,
13:35
more welcoming, more caring
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lebih mengalu-alukan, lebih mengasihani
13:36
and more trusting to those who are joining our communities.
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dan lebih mempercayai kepada yang menyertai masyarakat kita.
13:41
We need to stop wars.
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Kita perlu menghentikan peperangan.
13:44
We need to build a world where children can dream of planes dropping gifts,
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Kita perlu membina dunia di mana kanak-kanak impikan pesawat yang menebarkan hadiah
13:49
and not bombs.
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dan bukannya bom.
13:51
Until we stop armed conflicts raging throughout the world,
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Sehingga kita hentikan konflik bersenjata yang menghantui dunia,
13:55
families will continue to be displaced,
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keluarga akan terus terpaksa berhijrah,
13:57
leaving children vulnerable.
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kanak-kank akan terjejas.
13:59
But by improving parenting and caregiver support,
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Dengan meningkatkan sokongan pada ibu bapa dan pengasuh,
14:02
it may be possible to weaken the links between war and psychological difficulties
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maka kaitan di antara perang dan tekanan psikologi boleh dikurangkan
14:08
in children and their families.
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pada kanak-kanak dan keluarga mereka.
14:10
Thank you.
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Terima kasih.
14:11
(Applause)
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