Why Having Fun Is the Secret to a Healthier Life | Catherine Price | TED

翻译人员: Han Lei 校对人员: Yuwei Wu

You know what's a lot harder than it seems like it should be?

你知道什么事做起来比看起来难吗？

Actually feeling alive.

就是感受到自己还活着。

And what I mean by that is that we are all constantly doing,

我这么说的意思是 我们都在不间断的行动，

or, at least, we're constantly scrolling.

或者至少我们在不停转。

But we're not necessarily living.

但是我们不一定在生活着。

You know, we keep ourselves busy to the point of exhaustion,

你知道的，我们一直忙到精疲力竭，

but we're also languishing.

但是我们也在变衰弱，

We feel a little bid dead inside.

觉得内心有点死气沉沉。

And I think we know that, on some level.

我想在某种程度上，我们知道这一点。

I think that's part of the reason

我认为这是这就是·

we keep ourselves so busy and distracted to begin with.

我们一开始让自己如此忙碌 和心烦的一部分原因。

But we don't know what to do about it.

但是我们不知道怎么去应对它。

So I'm here to tell you I figured out what to do about it.

所以我在这告诉你， 我知道该怎么做。

We need to have more fun.

我们需要寻找更多的乐趣。

(Laughter)

（笑声）

(Cheers and applause)

（欢呼声和掌声）

So you might think that you're already having plenty of fun,

你可能会认为你已经乐在其中了。

and that's because in our everyday speech,

那是因为在日常交流中，

we often use the word "fun" to describe anything we do with our leisure time,

我们常用“乐趣”这个词来概括 我们在空闲时间做的所有事。

even if it's not actually enjoyable, and, in fact, a waste of time.

即使这些事情不全是充满乐趣的， 而且其实还有点儿浪费时间。

So for example, we scroll through social media "for fun,"

例如，我们滑动社媒页面 来“寻求乐趣”

even though doing so often makes us feel bad about, like, kind of everything.

尽管经常这样做会让我们感觉不好， 好像什么事都不太好。

Or we'll say, "That was so fun. We should do that again soon" --

或者我们会说，“这太有趣了， 我们应该什么时候再做一次。”

(Laughter)

（笑声）

... in response to things that weren't that fun

...来应对那些不那么有趣的，

and that we don't want to do again, ever.

并且我们以后再也不想做了的事情。

(Laughter)

（笑声）

But it's not really our fault that we're a little bit sloppy

在对“乐趣”这个词的使用上， 我们是有点草率，

about how we use the word "fun,"

但那并不是我们的错，

because even the dictionary doesn't get it quite right.

因为字典对这个词的定义也不是很正确。

It says that fun is amusement or enjoyment,

它说乐趣是娱乐或享受

or lighthearted pleasure.

或轻松快乐。

It's something for kids to have in play areas.

这是给孩子们在游乐区玩的东西。

It makes it sound like it's frivolous and optional.

听起来无聊可笑，可有可无。

But if you think back on your own memories

但是你回想自己的经历，

that stand out to you as having truly been fun --

记忆力那些真正充满乐趣的经历，

and I really encourage you to do this --

我非常鼓励你们回想，

the memories that you would describe as --

那些你描述为，

and forgive me for scientific terminology --

请原谅我的科学术语

"so fun" --

“非常有趣”的记忆，

you're going to notice there's something much deeper going on.

你会注意到还有更深层的东西。

I've collected thousands of these stories from people all around the world,

我从世界各地的人们那里 收集到了上千段这样的故事，

and I can tell you it's amazing,

令人诧异的是，

because when people recount the memories in which they had the most fun,

当人们回忆自己最有趣的经历时，

they tell you about some of the most joyful and treasured

他们告诉你一些在他们的生命中

memories of their lives.

最欢乐最珍贵的回忆。

So in reality, fun is not just lighthearted pleasure.

所以其实，乐趣并不仅仅是 轻松愉快的，

It's not just for kids,

它不只是属于孩子的，

and it is definitely not frivolous.

并且乐趣也绝对不是无聊的。

Instead, fun is the secret to feeling alive.

相反，乐趣是感受活着的奥秘。

So today, I want to propose to you

所以今天，我想给乐趣

a new, more precise definition of what fun is.

一个全新的、更准确的定义。

I want to reveal some of the ways in which it is astonishingly good for us,

我想揭示它在某些方面 对我们有惊人的好处，

and I want to give you all some suggestions

并且我想给大家一些建议，

for things you can do starting right now to experience its power for yourself.

对于你能做的事情， 现在就行动起来亲身体验它的力量。

So the first thing we need to start with

我们首先要做的是

is the fact that fun is a feeling, and it's not an activity.

乐趣是一种感受，而不是一种活动

And that's important,

这很重要

because a lot of times, when I ask people what's fun,

因为在一些时间我问人们什么是乐趣

they'll respond with a list of activities that they enjoy.

他们会列出一他们享受的活动的清单

You know, they'll say, "Dancing is fun," or "Skiing is fun," or, I don't know,

你知道，他们会说，“跳舞很有趣” 或者“滑雪很有趣”或者，

"Pickleball is fun."

“匹克球很有趣”

Everyone seems to think that pickleball is fun.

所有人都会认为匹克球很有趣

(Cheers and laughter)

（欢呼声和笑声）

And sure, pickleball can be fun,

当然，匹克球很有趣

but we've all had experiences where something's off,

但是我们都有过不正常的经历

and an activity that seems like it would be fun

一项看起来很有趣的经历

doesn't end up feeling fun.

不会感觉有趣

And then on the flip side,

另一方面

we've had experiences where something that doesn't seem like it'll be fun at all

我们有过一些看起来 一点都不有趣的经历

ends up feeling ridiculously fun.

最后感觉非常有趣

There's an element of serendipity.

这是一种机缘巧合。

But when people do have fun,

但当人们真的很开心的时候

when they experience this feeling,

当他们通过行动来感受的时候

it's actually very easy to recognize,

它其实很容易去识别

because people who are having fun

因为那些快乐的人们

look like they're being illuminated from within.

看起来他们是被从内部照亮的

So, for example,

所以，举个例子

here is me and my husband having fun together.

这是我和我丈夫一起玩

Here are some presidents having fun together.

下面是几位总统一起玩的很开心

(Laughter)

（笑声）

Here’s Archbishop Desmond Tutu and the Dalai Lama having fun together.

这是大主教德斯蒙德·图图 和达赖喇嘛在一起玩耍

(Cheers and laughter)

（欢呼声和笑声）

Actually, those two seemed like they were very often, even constantly ...

事实上，那两个人经常...

(Laughter)

（笑声）

... having fun together.

...一起玩乐

(Laughter)

（笑声）

And as you can see in these photographs,

并且大家看图片中

true fun produces this visceral sense of lightness and joy.

真正的乐趣会产生这种 发自内心的轻松和喜悦的感觉。

It's radiant.

它是光芒四射的

In fact, when I asked my daughter, when she was about five years old,

实际上，当我问我五岁的女儿，

what color fun would be,

快乐的颜色是什么

she said "sunshine."

她说“是阳光的颜色”

So what is this sunshine?

为什么是阳光的颜色呢

You know? What is this feeling that we call "fun"?

你知道我们称乐趣的感觉是什么吗?

When people tell me their stories about fun,

当人们告诉我他们快乐的故事

it's really interesting, because the details are all different,

是真的有趣，因为细节各不相同

and often quite mundane,

通常很平凡

but the energy running through them is the same.

但是贯穿他们的能量是相同的

There were three factors that are consistently present,

有三个因素一直都在

to the point that I believe they constitute a new definition,

以至于我认为它构成了一个新的定义

one that is a lot more accurate than what's in the dictionary.

这个比字典里的定义准确得多

And those three factors are playfulness, connection and flow.

这三个因素分别是 趣味性、关联性和、心得

So by playfulness,

趣味性呢

I do not mean you have to play games,

我不是说你要玩游戏

or, God forbid, make believe.

或者，但愿不要，相信这样

I just mean having a lighthearted attitude

我的意思是要有轻松愉快的态度

of doing things for the sake of doing them

为了做事而做事

and not caring too much about the outcome.

也不太在乎结果。

Letting go of perfectionism.

放弃完美主义

When we have fun, our guard is down,

当我们开心的时候， 我们会放松警惕，

and we're not taking ourselves too seriously.

我们也没把自己当回事

Connection refers to the feeling of having a special, shared experience.

联系是指拥有一种特殊的、 共同的经历的感觉。

And I do think it's possible, in some circumstances,

我认为在某些情况下，这是可能的

to have fun alone,

独自享受乐趣，

and for this feeling of connection to be with yourself or the surroundings,

为了这种与自己或周围环境相联系

or the activity.

的感觉或者活动

But in the majority of stories that people tell me

但人们告诉我大多数的事情中

about their peak fun memories,

关于他们快乐的回忆

another person is involved.

其他人也会参与

And that's true even for introverts.

即使是内向的人也是如此

And then flow is the state where we are so engaged and focused

心流使我们如此投入和专注的状态

on whatever we're doing

或者不管我们做什么

that we can even lose track of time.

我们甚至会忘记时间

You can think about an athlete in the middle of a game,

你可以想象一名正在运动的运动员

or a musician playing a piece of music.

或者正在演奏音乐的音乐家

It's when we're in the zone.

当我们处于状态时

It's possible to be in flow and not have fun,

处于心流状态也会不开心

like if you're arguing,

就像你如果正在生气

but you cannot have fun if you're not in flow.

但如果你不处于心流状态， 你就无法获得乐趣

So playfulness, connection and flow all feel great on their own.

所以，玩耍、联系和心流本身就很好。

But when we experience all three at once,

但当我们同时经历这三种情况时

something magical happens.

一些神奇的事发生了

We have fun.

我们很快乐

And that doesn't just feel good,

这不仅仅是感觉很好，

it is good for us.

它我们是有好处的

In fact, fun does so many amazingly good things for us

事实上，乐趣给我们带来了 很多奇妙的好处

that I personally believe that fun is not just the result of human thriving,

我个人认为乐趣不仅仅是 人类繁荣的结果，

it's a cause.

这就是原因

So, for example, fun is energizing.

例如，快乐是激励

When people tell me their stories about fun, they glow.

当人们告诉我他们感到 快乐的事，他们都在发光

It is like a fire has been lit inside of them,

就像有一团火在他们身体里面燃烧

and the energy and the warmth that they give off is contagious.

他们散发出来的能量和热量 还可以感染别人

You know, so much of life drains us,

你知道的，生活让我们精疲力竭

but fun fills us up.

但是乐趣填充在其中

Fun also makes us present.

乐趣也让我们活在当下

A lot of us put a lot of work into trying to be more present --

我们中的很多人都花了很多精力 去尝试更多地活在当下

we do yoga classes, we meditate, and that is all great,

我们上瑜伽课， 我们冥想，这些都很棒

but the fact that fun is a flow state means that when we are having fun,

但事实上，乐趣是一种心流状态， 这意味着当我们享受乐趣时

we simply are present.

我们只是存在

There's no other way for it to happen.

没有别的办法让它发生

Fun also unites us.

快乐使我们联系在一起

We live in a really polarized world,

我们住在一个两极分化的世界里

and as we all know, there's a lot of very serious problems.

我们都知道，有一些非常严重的问题

But when we have fun with people,

但是当我们和他人一起快乐的时候

we don't see them as different political parties,

我们不认为他们是不同的政党

or nationalities or religions.

或者不一样的国籍，不一样的宗教

We connect with them as human beings,

我们以人类的身份和他们联系

and it's worth noting that that is the first step

值得注意的是，这是第一步

in being able to work together to solve those problems.

能够一起合作解决这些问题

Fun also makes us healthier.

快乐使我们更健康

Being lonely and stressed out,

孤独和压力大

as many of us have been for the past two years,

就像我们在过去的两年里

causes hormonal changes in our bodies that increase our risks for disease.

这会导致我们体内激素的变化， 提高我们患疾病的危险

But when we have fun,

但是当我们快乐的时候

we're relaxed and we're more socially connected,

我们很放松， 我们的社交联系更紧密，

both of which have the opposite effect.

这两者的作用是相反的

So, kind of blows my mind every time I think about it this way,

每次我这么想都让我大吃一惊，

but having fun is a health intervention.

但玩得开心是一种健康干预。

And then, lastly, fun is joyful.

最后，乐趣是快乐的

You know, we all so desperately want to be happy.

你知道，我们都很渴望快乐

We read books about happiness,

我们读关于快乐的书

we download apps about happiness,

我们下载关于快乐的软件

but when we are in a moment of having fun, we are happy.

但是当我们在一个瞬间 感受到快乐时，我们很快乐

So it makes me think that, perhaps,

所以这使我想到另外的

the secret to long-term happiness

长期保持快乐的秘诀

is just to have more everyday moments of fun.

是每天都有快乐的瞬间

So how do we do that?

所以我们该怎么做呢

How do we have more fun?

我们该如何拥有更多的快乐呢

Well, to start with,

我们开始吧

do not take the suggestions you'll find in magazine articles

不要采纳你在杂质文章中

about how to have more fun.

关于如何快乐的观点

I looked at some of these myself,

我自己看了其中一些

and I found suggestions that include -- and I'm not making these up --

我发现其中的一些观点 这不是我编的

"roast a turkey."

烤一只火鸡

(Laughter)

（笑声）

"Put together an altar to loved ones who have passed."

为失去的亲人做一做祭坛

(Laughter)

（笑声）

“Watch a documentary about climate change.”

看一部气候挑战的纪录片

(Laughter)

（笑声）

And my personal favorite,

还有我最喜欢的

"Adorn your table with gourds."

用葫芦装饰你的桌子

(Laughter)

（笑声）

Those are not good suggestions.

这些都不是比较好的建议

Instead, the most effective thing you can do to have more fun

另外，你能获得乐趣最有效的

is to focus on its ingredients, by which I mean,

我想说的就是专注于食材，

do everything you can to fill your life with more moments of playfulness,

尽你所能让你的生活充满乐趣

connection and flow.

关联性和心流

So here are some ideas for how to do so.

这有一些主意来告诉你怎么做

To start with, reduce distractions in order to increase flow.

首先，减少干扰以增加心流

Anything that distracts you is going to kick you out of flow

任何让你分心的事都会让你离开心流

and prevent you from having fun.

也会让你不开心

And what's the number one source of distraction

最让人分心的是什么

for most of us, these days?

向我们这样的这几天吗？

Oh, thank you.

噢，谢谢你

(Laughs)

（笑声）

It was rhetorical, but yes, your phones.

是有点夸张，但是是的，你的手机。

(Laughs)

（笑声）

I wrote a book called "How to Break Up With Your Phone,"

我写了一本书 叫做“怎么离开你的手机”

so I have strong feelings about this,

所以我对此有强烈的感觉

but I can guarantee you that you are not going to have fun

但是我能保证如果你不断的沉迷手机

if you're constantly on your phone.

你并不会开心

So today, I want to challenge you to keep your phone out of your hand

所以今天，我想要尽可能的

as much as possible,

改变你一直把手机握在手里的习惯

so you can take me up on my second suggestion,

所以你可以采纳我的第二个建议

which is to increase connection

这是为了增加联系

by interacting more with other human beings in real life.

通过与现实生活中的其他人 进行更多的互动。

Now, I know that one of the main reasons we're constantly on our phones

现在，我知道其中主要原因之一就是 我们不断地使用手机

is specifically to avoid having to spend time

是为了避免浪费时间吗

and interact with other human beings in real life.

在现实中都不和他人互动

(Laughter)

（笑声）

So I want to assure you that it is worth it,

所以我想向你们保证，这是值得的

and it is not as hard as it might seem.

它没有它看起来那么难

So here's how you do it.

你可以像这样做

You start by making eye contact with someone.

你从和某人用眼眸交流开始

Like, look them in the eye,

就像，看着他们的眼睛

don't look in the middle of their forehead,

不要看他们额头的中间

where the camera would be on a Zoom call.

摄像头会出现在放大的电通话中

(Laughter)

（笑声）

And you say “Hello.”

然后你说“你好”

And if that goes well, you can introduce yourself.

如果一切顺利，你可以做自我介绍

And if that goes well,

如果还一切顺利

maybe you can ask them a question, something that's thought-provoking,

可能你可以问他们一个问题， 一个令人发省的问题

but not overly personal or threatening,

但不要过于个性化或具有威胁性

like "What's something that fascinates you?"

例如“什么让你着迷”

Or "What's one thing that delighted you today?"

又或者“今天有什么事让你高兴”

And you might be amazed by how good just one little moment of connection

你可能会惊讶地发现， 仅仅是短暂的沟通就有多么美好

can make you feel.

可以让你有感觉

And if you do find someone to connect with,

如果你找到了可以和你交流的人

maybe ask them to join you in trying my third suggestion,

也许可以让他们和你一起尝试 我的第三个建议，

which is to increase playfulness by finding opportunities to rebel.

也就是通过寻找反叛的机会 来增加趣味性。

Now I am not talking about James Dean-level of rebellion.

现在我不是在说 詹姆斯·迪恩级别的叛乱。

I'm talking about playful deviance.

我说的是好玩的异常行为

I'm talking about finding ways to break the rules

我说的是想办法打破常规

of responsible adulthood,

想办法打破常规的负责的成年人

and giving yourself permission to get a kick out of your own life.

允许自己在自己的生活中寻求乐趣

One person told me

有一个人和我说

that some of the most fun she'd had in recent memory,

她记忆里觉得最快乐的一些事

happened on a Friday morning,

发生早周五的早晨

when she and some of her friends ditched their work

当她和她的朋友放下工作

and their childcare responsibilities,

和照顾孩子的任务后

tucked flasks into their purses

把烧瓶放到钱包里

and snuck out to a 10:30am showing of the movie "Bad Moms."

偷偷去看了 上午10点半的电影《坏妈妈》

(Laughter)

（笑声）

So lastly, here's one more thing that you can do today

最后，还有一件你今天可以做的事

to start having more fun.

开始更多的乐趣

[Roast a Turkey] I am just kidding.

(烤火鸡) 我只是开玩笑

(Laughter)

（笑声）

Prioritize it.

优先考虑

That might sound totally obvious,

这听起来是显而易见的

but one of the main reasons we're not having enough fun

但是我们玩的不够开心的主要原因之一

is that we're not making it a priority.

是我们没有把它放到首要位置上

Our fun is always at the bottom of the list,

我们的快乐只是清单上的一点

and it can't speak up for itself.

并且它不能体现出自己

So I'm not suggesting that you take out your calendar and make an entry

所以我并不是建议你 拿出日历做一个记录

that says: “From 4 to 6pm on Saturday, I shall have fun.”

写着“周六从下午四点到六点 我要寻求快乐”

That is a guaranteed way to not have fun.

这样肯定不会有什么乐趣

But if you know you consistently have fun

但是如果你知道你一直都会很开心

when you spend time with a particular person,

当你和一个特定的人待在一起的时候

make a point to spend time with that person.

花点时间和那个人在一起

If you know there's an activity

如果你知道一些活动

that really does often generate playful connected flow for you,

这真的经常会为你产生有趣的连接心流，

carve out time for it in your schedule.

在你的日程表中为它留出时间

Treat fun as if it is important.

把乐趣当做很重要的事情

Because it is.

因为它就是

I've been doing this myself for a couple of years now,

我自己这样做已经很多年了

and it's amazing to see how many areas of my life fun has touched.

我很惊讶我的乐趣已经 渗透到了很多领域

I'm more creative and more productive, I'm more resilient.

我更有创造力，更有效率， 我做人也更圆润了

I laugh more.

我笑的更多了

Making sure that I'm having enough fun has made me a better partner,

确保我有足够的乐趣 让我成为了更好的伴侣，

a better parent and a better friend.

一个更好的亲人和一个更好的朋友

And it has convinced me of something

它也让我信服了很多事情

that I very much hope I can convince you of as well,

我非常希望 我也能说服你，

which is that my daughter was right.

我女儿说的是对的

Fun is sunshine.

快乐就是阳光的颜色

It's a distillation of life's energy.

这是生命能量的升华

And the more often we experience it,

我们这样做的更多

the more we will feel like we're actually alive.

我们就更能感觉到我们真正的活着

Thank you.

谢谢

(Cheers and applause)

（欢呼声和掌声）