How to STOP being shy - 6 steps to be CONFIDENT

(cheerful electronic music)

（愉快的音樂）

- Hello everyone, and welcome back to English with Lucy.

哈囉~ 歡迎回來到 English with Lucy

Today I am going to talk to you

今天我要談談

about how you can stop being shy,

關於如何能夠不再害羞

and start speaking English confidently.

並開始自信地說英語

My little brother and I were reading comments

有一天我弟和我看了我的一個視頻中評論

on one of my videos the other day,

有一天我弟和我看了我的一個視頻中評論

and he pointed out one which really made me feel sad.

而他指出了一個讓我感到難過的一點

Someone said, "I can't speak English,

有人說 “我不會說英語"

"because I am a shy person."

“因為我是一個害羞的人”

And I don't know if it was the wording of it,

不知道這是不是他的用詞

but it really broke our hearts.

但它確實讓我們心碎

The fact that somebody doesn't think

有人覺得因為他們是一個害羞的人

they can learn a language because they are a shy person

所以他們可以學習一門語言

made me feel really, really sad,

這件事讓我感到非常非常傷心

so I decided to make this video to help motivate you all,

所以我決定做這個影片 以激勵大家

especially you shy people.

特別是害羞的人

I receive a lot of messages about confidence,

我收到了很多跟信心有關的訊息

people saying oh, I wish I was confident like you,

他們說 "啊! 我希望我可以跟你一樣有信心"

but naturally, in certain situations,

但一般在某些情況下

I can feel so, so shy, and so, so nervous.

我也會感覺超級害羞 還有超級緊張

If you check out the last part of most of my videos,

如果你有看我大多數影片的最後一部分

you can see all the times

你可以常常看到

that I mix up my words, and make mistakes.

我舌頭打結 或是講錯

It's completely natural.

這完全是正常的

When I have to speak publicly, I often feel so, so shy.

當我要公開發言時 我常常覺得超級害羞

But there are plenty of things that I do,

但是有很多在過去的幾年裡

and I have learned to do over the past few years,

我做過的事情 還有我學會做的事情

since I started this channel,

自從我開始這個頻道以來

that have made me a confident person.

這讓我變成一個自信的人

And I want to share that with you,

而我想和你分享

so let's get started with the lesson.

所以 讓我們開始課程吧

The first one, this is a well-known tip,

第一個 這是一個眾所周知的技巧

but I really believe in it, fake it 'til you make it.

但我真的相信 "假裝它直到你辦到它"

And most importantly, don't tell people that you feel shy.

最重要的是 不要告訴別人你覺得害羞

Almost a year ago, I was invited to speak about my business

大概一年前 我受邀了談論我的生意

at my old university.

在我之前的大學

I had to give a 45-minute talk,

我要進行一個45分鐘的談話

all about me and my business,

所有關於我和我的事業

to a room of so many students.

在一間滿滿都是學生的教室

And my parents were watching, and my boyfriend,

而我的父母跟我的男朋友都在看

who is now my fiance.

我男朋友現在是我的未婚夫

I was so nervous, but I think I handled it

我很緊張 但我覺得我做得

really, really well.

真的非常好

I didn't tell anyone that I was feeling shy.

我沒有告訴任何人我覺得害羞

It's okay to be nervous, but don't say you're shy.

緊張沒關係 但不要說你很害羞

Saying you're nervous is okay, but saying you feel shy,

說你很緊張沒關係 但是如果說你感到害羞

I think is quite a negative thing to say,

我認為是一個有一點消極的事情

and it might influence the way people think about you.

它可能會影響到人們對你的看法

I pretended that I was really, really confident,

我那時候假裝我非常非常得自信

and that I do this kind of thing all the time.

而且我一直都這樣做

When in reality, it was my first time speaking

事實上 那是我第一次在如此多的觀眾面前談論自己

about myself in front of such a large audience.

事實上 那是我第一次在如此多的觀眾面前談論自己

I was scared of boring everyone,

我怕讓大家覺得無聊

I was scared that the person organising the event

我很害怕籌備活動的人

was going to regret asking me to speak,

會後悔找我來演講

I was scared of embarrassing myself

我怕在我男朋友面前讓自己尷尬

in front of my boyfriend,

我怕在我男朋友面前讓自己尷尬

I was scared of disappointing my parents.

我怕讓父母失望

But I walked in there, head held high,

但是我走上台 把頭抬高

I slightly lowered my voice,

略微降低了聲音

and I'm pretty convinced that no one knew

而且我相信沒有人知道

I was really, really nervous.

我真的非常緊張

It was also being filmed and put on YouTube.

那個影片也被錄下來放到 YouTube上了

I will leave the link in the description box.

我會留下連結在影片下面

So that was an extra layer of nervousness for me.

所以這對我來說 又是另一個層次的緊張感

So what did I do?

那我該怎麼做？

I pretended I was super confident.

我裝作我非常有自信

I tried to relax how I was standing,

我試著放鬆自己的站姿

I tried to relax my voice,

我試著放鬆自己的聲音

I went outside beforehand just to do

我事先去外面深呼吸並放鬆自己

some breathing, and to relax myself,

我事先去外面深呼吸並放鬆自己

and it ended up going really, really well.

而結果真的很好

So how can this apply to you?

那麼這如何應用到你身上呢?

Not only are you nervous about speaking to someone,

你不但會為跟別人說話感到緊張

but it's also not your native language.

而且也不是你的母語

You need to pretend that you're confident.

你需要假裝你很有自信

You can try lowering your voice slightly.

您可以嘗試稍微降低聲音

So instead of speaking up here, really nervously,

所以不是像這樣講緊張得說話

you will speak in a low voice,

而是低聲說話

and have it echo across the room. (laughs)

並讓回音在整個房間環繞 （哈哈）

Work on your posture, feet apart, nice and tall,

站好你的姿勢 雙腳分開 漂亮又高大

shoulders relaxed, really show the other speaker

肩膀放鬆 確實展現出

that you're comfortable being there.

你站在那裡很舒適

And as I said before, don't tell anyone you're shy,

正如我之前所說 不要告訴任何人你很害羞

because sooner rather than later,

因為遲早

you will start to feel more confident,

你會開始感到更自信

you probably won't even realise it,

你可能甚至都沒有意識到

and then you might regret having told someone

然後你可能會後悔告訴某人

that you're a shy person.

你是一個害羞的人

It doesn't have to be that way.

不一定需要這樣

You don't have to be shy.

你不需要害羞

The next tip I have for you is listen,

我給你的下一個技巧是 聆聽

and learn from other confident speakers.

並向其他有自信的人學習

When I try out a new hobby,

當我嘗試新的嗜好的時候

I often want to see how an expert does it.

我經常想看看專家是如何做的

If you really want to learn how to be more confident,

如果你真的想學習如何變得更自信

and how to speak more confidently,

以及如何更自信地說話

you need to listen to experienced and confident speakers.

你需要傾聽有經驗和自信的人

Make it part of your daily routine.

讓它成為你日常生活的一部分

Once you've found somebody

一旦你找到了某個人

and pinpointed who you want to sound like,

並精準找到你想聽起來像誰

try and imitate them a little bit.

嘗試模仿他們一點點

Make it your own, but take elements of their confidence

把它變成你自己的 但要學習他們信心

and elements of their speech.

和他們演講的技巧

For example, I really, really like

例如 我真的非常喜歡

and admire the way Stephen Fry speaks.

並且欽佩 Stephen Fry 說話的方式

So, I make a point to listen to him speaking frequently.

所以 我經常聽他說話

A great way that you can implement listening

一個可以實現每天花一點點時間

to a confident speaker for a little bit of time

聆聽一個有自信的演講者

every single day, is by listening to audiobooks.

就是聽有聲書

I recommend Audible.

我推薦Audible

You can click the link in the description box

您可以在下面點擊該連結

to get a free audiobook, that's a 30-day free trial.

獲得免費的有聲讀物 一個30天的免費試用版

I really, really recommend listening to Stephen Fry

我真的，真的推薦 聽Stephen Fry

narrating the Harry Potter series,

講述哈利波特的系列

or you could try listening to books on public speaking,

或者你可以嘗試聽關於公開演講的書籍

or books on eliminating and combating shyness.

或關於消除並戰勝害羞的書籍

I've got some recommendations

我有一些建議

in the description box as well.

也放在描述框中

Tip number three,

技巧三

this is something that I've spoken about before,

這就是那個我以前說過的

but I 100% recommend it.

但我百分之百推薦它

It is, rehearse and prepare

就是 排演和準備

your best stories and monologues,

你最好的故事和獨白

and things that you know you will have to say

還有那些你知道你不得不一次又一次重複說的事情

time and time again.

還有那些你知道你不得不一次又一次重複說的事情

Make a habit of talking to yourself

養成與自己交談的習慣

and practising your best stories,

並準備你最好的故事

and the answers to the most frequent questions.

還有對最常被問的問題的回答

Where are you from, what are your hobbies,

"你來自哪裡?" "你的興趣是什麼?"

what's your job, what would you like to do in the future?

"你的工作是什麼?" "你將來想做什麼?"

Tell me about yourself, that's such a big one.

"介紹一下你自己" 這個最常遇到

And it makes me feel nervous when someone

當有人用我的語言問我這些問題的時候

asks me that in my own language,

就會讓我覺得很緊張了

so I can only imagine how hard it is for you,

所以我只能想像這對你們來說有多難

especially if you're shy.

特別是如果你害羞的話

Practise it, maybe even write it down at first,

練習它 或甚至先寫下來

and then practise it until you know it off by heart.

然後練習直到它烙印在腦海裡

You don't want to know it word for word,

你不用一字一句地記下來

you just want to know

你只要知道

that when somebody asks you that question,

當有人問你這個問題時

you know what to say, and you can say it with confidence.

你知道該說什麼 並且你可以自信地說出來

I also said, practise your favourite stories.

我也說過 練習你最喜歡的故事

These are great ways to fill gaps in conversation.

這些都是很棒的方法去填補對話中的空隙

I've got a few funny ones that I've told in videos,

我有幾個有趣的 我在之前影片中講過

like my waitressing mistakes,

像我的女服務生犯的錯

or the lovely story about my dad's fairy book.

或者關於我爸爸的童話書的可愛故事

Links to those are also in the description box.

這些連結也在影片下面

Those are stories that I like to tell at dinner parties,

那些是我喜歡在晚宴上說的故事

and people like being around good storytellers,

而人們喜歡圍繞在會說好故事的人身旁

so it's really, really important

所以這真的非常重要

to learn how to tell a good story.

學習如何講述一個好故事

And treat each time you tell a story as practise.

並且把每次說故事當作是練習

Gauge their response.

試探聽眾們的反應

Did they react well to what you said?

他們對你說的話做出了什麼反應嗎？

Did they find it boring?

他們覺得無聊嗎？

Make the necessarily tweaks.

再做必要的調整

Then, after 20 times of telling this story,

然後 在講這個故事20次之後

hopefully to different people each time,

最好每次是對不同的人

try not to repeat yourself, (laughs)

盡量不要重複的人（哈）

you will tell it beautifully.

你將會說得很完美

Right, my next tip is practise asking questions.

好 我的下一個技巧是練習提問

Learning how to say questions correctly is so important,

學習如何正確的用英文問問題是如此重要

but also quite difficult in English.

但也很難

But it's so important for shy people,

但這對害羞的人來說卻非常重要

because it means that if you need a break from speaking,

因為這意味著 如果你在談話中需要休息一下

you can pass the baton to the other person.

你可以把說話權交給對方

Examples, so how did you get into your career path?

像是 "所以你是怎麼進入你的職業道路？"

Or, if you could do one thing differently,

或者 "如果你能以不同的方式做一件事"

what would you do?

"你會怎麼做？"

That opens up an opportunity for the other person

這給對方開闢了一個機會

to tell their story, and to talk a bit,

講述他們的故事 並談一談

so you can have time for a rest.

所以你有時間休息一下

Most people enjoy talking about themselves,

大多數人都喜歡談論自己

and they also appreciate good listeners.

他們也很欣賞優秀的聽眾

And you can be both of those by asking questions.

而你可以透過問問題 同時成為這兩種人

The only thing you have to do is learn

你唯一要做的就是學習

and remember how to ask them correctly.

並記住如何正確地問那些問題

I always have a couple of questions up my sleeve,

我總是有幾個收藏的問題

so that if I'm feeling nervous or shy,

所以 如果我感到緊張或害羞的話

I can quickly ask someone something,

我可以很快問別人問題

and we can continue the conversation that way.

那樣我們就可以繼續保持交談

And, there's no pressure on me.

並且 對我來說沒有壓力

Number five is don't take yourself too seriously.

第五 是不要的對自己太認真

The best way to bond with people is to laugh,

和人們相處的最好方法就是笑

and especially to laugh at yourself.

尤其是嘲笑自己

If I feel shy about something,

如果我對某事感到害羞

sometimes I make a joke about it.

有時我會開個玩笑

I remember when I was learning Spanish,

我記得我在學西班牙語的時候

I was so embarrassed about making mistakes,

我對我犯的錯誤感到很尷尬

but actually, those mistakes ended up

但實際上，那些錯誤最終變成了

being my funniest stories in Spanish.

我學西班牙語中 最有趣的故事了

If you speak Spanish, and you want to hear about my funny,

如果你會說西班牙語 你想要聽我那有趣的事情

or at least I think they're funny, (laughs)

至少我認為蠻有趣的（笑）

Spanish mistake stories,

西班牙語錯誤的故事

and such (speaking in foreign language).

是這樣的...（外語）

And I'll leave the link in the description box.

我會在影片下面留下連結

I laugh at myself, basically,

基本上 我嘲笑自己

for a full 10 minutes. (laughs)

整整10分鐘 （笑）

Embrace making mistakes.

擁抱犯錯

They are such a powerful tool.

它們是如此強大的工具

Not only do you learn from them,

你不僅可以從中學習

but you can also create comedy from them.

但你也可以從他們那裡創造喜劇

But if you're quite obviously uptight

但如果你顯然地很緊張

and really embarrassed about your mistakes,

並且對你犯的錯誤感到真的很尷尬

it puts the other person, or your audience,

這會把對方 或你的觀眾

in a really awkward situation.

放到一個非常尷尬的情況

You don't want people cringing for you,

你不希望別人為你感到畏縮

you want people to feel comfortable

你希望人們感到舒服

that they can laugh along with you.

因為他們可以和你一起笑

Keep a note of all these funny mistakes that you've made,

記下所有這些你做過的有趣錯誤

and then maybe one day,

然後也許有一天

you can meet somebody else that's shy,

你可以遇到其他也很害羞的人

when you're already fluent in English,

當你已經精通英語時

and you can make them feel better and tell them

你可以讓他們感覺更好 並告訴他們

about your ridiculous experiences.

那些關於你荒謬的經歷

Number six, meet and talk to as many

第六點 盡可能與越多不同的人見面和交談

different people as possible.

第六點 盡可能與越多不同的人見面和交談

In your life, you are going to meet so many people

在你的生活中 你將會見到這麼多

that you will never, ever meet again.

你再也不會見到的人

So if you do embarrass yourself in front of them,

所以 如果你在這些人面前為自己感到尷尬

if the worst does happen, it doesn't matter.

就算最壞的情況發生 也沒關係

You might think about it again,

你可能會再思考一次

they might think about it again,

他們可能也會想一下

but if you don't ever see them again, it doesn't matter!

但如果不會在看到他們 那根本就沒差拉

Take the opportunity to speak with strangers,

藉此機會跟陌生人說話

to go out and meet people,

出去見人

to talk to as many different people as possible.

與盡可能不同的人交談

Confidence for shy people comes with practise.

信心對害羞的人來說要透過練習

An example, I never really made

一個例子 我之前從來沒有真正教過自己的朋友

my own friends before, as an adult.

自從成年之後

I always just had friends from childhood,

我常常只有來自童年時期的朋友

or friends that I shared with my partner,

或者我和我的伴侶共同的朋友

and when I moved to this village, I was new,

而當我搬到這個村子 我是新來的

my fiance was new, we didn't know anyone,

我的未婚夫是新來的 我們不認識任何人

but I really wanted to make friends.

但我真的很想認識朋友

But I felt really shy.

但我覺得很害羞

But we started going out sometimes together,

但我們開始一起出去

sometimes apart, and making real efforts to talk to people.

有時候單獨 並且真正付出努力去跟人說話

If we recognised someone, we would say hello.

如果我們認出某人 我們會打招呼

I would sometimes pop to the coffee shop

我有時會自己去咖啡店

on my own and talk to the people there.

並且和那裡的人交談

Or go to the pub and see the same people

或者去夜店然後看到一樣的人

over and over again, and get to know them very, very slowly.

一遍又一遍 並非常緩慢地了解他們

At first, it felt really awkward, and I felt really shy.

起初 這真的是很奇怪 而且我覺得很害羞

But now we just really enjoy being able

但現在我們真的很享受

to go anywhere in our village and know people.

能夠去我們村莊的任何地方並認識人

Had we allowed ourselves to be naturally shy,

如果我們允許自己天生的害羞

as we are, that wouldn't have happened.

就像我們一樣 這些都不會發生

It was by practising speaking

這就是通過練習跟

to as many different people as possible,

盡可能多的人對話

that we felt confident.

我們就能感到自信

Right, that's it for today's lesson.

好的 這就是今天的課程

I hope you enjoyed it,

希望你喜歡

and I really hope you learned something,

而且我希望你能學到一些東西

and I really hope that you're going

而且我真的希望你能去

to make more effort to feel less shy,

努力讓自己更不害羞

or at least seem less shy, until you become less shy.

或者至少看起來不那麼害羞 直到你變得真的不那麼害羞

Don't forget to check out Audible,

別忘了查看 Audible

you can get your free audiobook and 30-day free trial,

你可以得到你的免費有聲書 和30天免費試用

in the description box.

在說明框中

I've also got all of the other links I've mentioned,

我放了所有的我提到的其他連結

and please do comment down below

請在下面評論

with any other tips and recommendations

提供任何其他技巧和建議

that have helped you become less shy.

這讓你變得更不那麼害羞

And don't forget to connect with me

然後別忘了查看

on all of my social media.

我所有的社交媒體上

I've got my Facebook, I've got my Instagram,

我有我的 Facebook 我有我的 Instagram

and I've got my Twitter.

我有我的 Twitter

And I shall see you soon for another lesson.

那我們下一堂課再見

Mwah! (lips smack) (electronic beep)

嗯嘛！

(lighthearted music) Today I'm going to talk to you

今天我要跟你們談談

about how, ow. (laughs) (electronic beep)

關於如何...凹... (笑)

Today, I'm going to talk to you ab-a-ah,

今天，我要和你談談ab-a-ah

oh, it just happened again!

喔...又來了!!!

Oh my god. (electronic beep)

哦我的天啊

Once you've found somebody that you want

一旦你找到了你想要說話的人

to speak to. (sighs) (electronic beep)

說話... （嘆氣）

It is, what is it? (laughs) (electronic beep)

它就是....是什麼？ （笑）

Right my next tip is,

我的下一個技巧是

rah, rah, rawr! (laughs) (electronic beep)

rah...rah...rawr！ （笑）

It's really, really important for fry. (laughs)

這真的超級重要對於ㄔ...炒?（笑）

Fry people. (cheerful electronic music)

炒人? （歡快的音樂）