A 3-Step Guide to Believing in Yourself | Sheryl Lee Ralph | TED

翻译人员: Yip Yan Yeung 校对人员: Grace Man

(Singing) I am an endangered species

（唱歌）我是个濒危物种，

(Applause and cheers)

（掌声、欢呼声）

But I sing no victim song.

但我不是在哭天抢地。

I am a woman.

我是个女人。

I am an artist.

我是个艺术家。

And I know

我知道

where my voice ...

我的声音……

belongs.

该去向何处。

(Applause and cheers)

（掌声、欢呼声）

Now, you might have heard me sing that song.

你也许听我唱过这首歌。

It was September 12th, 2022,

那是在 2022 年 9 月 12 日，

right after Amy Poehler and Seth Meyers said,

就在艾米·波勒（Amy Poehler）和 塞斯·梅耶斯（Seth Meyers）宣布

"And the winner is,

“获奖者是

Sheryl Lee Ralph!"

雪莉·李·拉尔夫 （Sheryl Lee Ralph）！”之后。

What!?

什么！？

I had just won the Emmy Award

我刚获得了艾美奖

for Best Supporting Actress in a comedy

喜剧类剧集最佳女配角，

for my role as Mrs. Barbara Howard

凭借我在你最爱的电视剧 《小学风云》（Abbott Elementary）中

on your favorite TV show, "Abbott Elementary."

饰演的芭芭拉·霍华德女士 （Barbara Howard）一角获奖。

(Cheers)

（欢呼声）

Oh, yes.

没错。

And I was shocked.

我惊呆了。

As the children would say, shooketh into disbelief.

小朋友们会说，“吓尿了”。

Oh, my goodness, it was my first time at the Emmys and I won.

天哪，这是我第一次 被艾美奖提名，还获奖了。

Yes!

耶！

And I got to tell you,

我必须得说，

in that moment,

当时，

I was so stunned into disbelief

我简直不敢相信，

that I don't know how I got up on the stage.

我都不知道我是怎么上台的。

There I was, just listening to that roar of applause.

我沉浸在雷鸣般的掌声中。

Mm mm mm.

嗯！嗯！嗯！

And my whole career flashed right there in front of me.

我的整个职业生涯从我眼前闪过。

Starting with 19-year-old Sheryl Lee in her first movie

一切的开始是 19 岁的雪莉·李 参演的处女作，

being directed by the great Sidney Poitier.

由伟大的西德尼·波蒂埃 （Sidney Poitier）执导。

Oh, yeah, you can clap that.

当然，送上掌声吧。

(Applause)

（掌声）

Followed by ten years of “no” after “no” after “no.”

接下来的十年，就是连续不断的 “不”、“不”、“不”。

Before the next film role came about.

直到我接到下一个电影角色。

But I filled in that time with TV

但在这段时间里， 我也尝试了电视角色，

and more "nos" and more rejection

更多的“不”，更多的拒绝，

until I made it big on Broadway

直到我在百老汇崭露头角，

in what has become the iconic musical of the '80s,

该剧成为了 80 年代的 代表性音乐剧，

because I say so,

这话是我说的，

(Laughter)

（笑声）

"Dreamgirls."

《梦想女孩》（Dreamgirls）。

(Applause)

（掌声）

And boy, did I learn a lot of life lessons there.

我在这儿可学到了不少人生教训。

And I mean, after so many moments of doubt, disbelief,

我经历了这么多怀疑困惑的瞬间，

there I was, on that Emmy stage,

来到了这里，艾美奖的舞台上，

with this huge sign in front of me flashing

眼前有一个巨大的标牌闪烁着，写着

"Stop now," "Stop now," "Stop now."

“停下吧”、“停下吧”、“停下吧”。

And I started to think,

我开始思考，

“My God, what if I had stopped after all of those ‘nos?’

“天哪，如果我在这么多‘不’之后， 就这么停下了会怎么样？

What if I had stopped after all of those moments of feeling defeated?

经历了这么多次打击， 我就停下了会怎么样？

What if I had stopped?"

我停下了，会怎么样？”

I wouldn't be standing there

我就不会站在那里，

for that golden moment.

享受那个黄金时刻。

But right now,

但现在，

many of us, we are feeling ...

很多人都感觉

deeply challenged

很有困难。

trying to hold on

坚持下去，

and believe in ourselves,

相信自己，

and I do not mean in a toxic way.

我说的不是跑偏的那种。

I am talking about a way that comes from confidence,

我说的是来自自信心的方式，

the kind of confidence that can keep us moving forward

这种自信让我们可以不断向前，

when we are feeling

让我们可以面对

like we are carrying the weight of the pandemic,

疫情的重担，

trying to figure out all of this political division,

在政治分裂中搞清楚情况，

fighting all of the mental, physical, social violence in our homes,

与家庭中、社区中的 心理、身体、

社会暴力抗争，

in our communities,

to climate change, social media.

还有气候变化、社交媒体。

It's a lot.

有很多要面对的事。

Making it hard to believe in the goodness in the world.

让人很难相信世界上好的一面。

And harder still to believe in the goodness of ourselves.

更让人难以相信自己身上好的一面。

This is a rough time, people, and our mental health is suffering.

这是个艰难的时期，各位， 我们的心理健康备受煎熬。

We all need a checkup from the neck up.

我们都该查查脑子。

(Laughter)

（笑声）

And I don't mean -- yeah, it's OK.

我不是说……好吧。

You feel me, thank you.

你懂的，谢谢。

(Applause)

（笑声）

And I don't mean just medicine.

我不是说仅凭药物治疗。

I actually mean reframing our thinking

我想说的是重塑我们

of our ability to believe in ourselves.

关于相信自己的能力的想法。

Now I know,

我知道，

you see me on TV, in magazines, on movie screens,

你会在电视、杂志、 电影荧幕上看到我，

and you might be thinking to yourself,

你也许会想

"What does she know about struggling to believe in herself?"

“她怎么会知道 相信自己有什么难的？”

Well, let me tell you something.

我想告诉你。

I do not look like my journey.

我和我的历程不太相符。

(Laughter)

（笑声）

(Applause)

（掌声）

Oh, I've been through a few things.

我经历过很多事。

And the struggle is real.

确实挣扎过。

But I have learned something in my life.

但我在人生中学到了一些东西。

That there are three things that we all must do

我们都得做这么三件事，

in order to believe in ourselves.

才能相信自己。

Number one.

第一。

First, we need to see ourselves.

首先，我们得看清自己。

I mean, really, truly,

确确实实地看清自己，

deeply see ourselves for who and what we are

深刻地认识我们是谁，是什么，

in order to believe in ourselves.

才能相信自己。

I’m a child of the ’60s, and that was hard.

我生于 60 年代，这很难。

Oh.

唔。

In the third grade,

读三年级时，

I tested out of public school into a fancy private school

我从公立学校转入了 一所高级的私立学校，

where the only Black person I saw every day

我每天见到的唯一一个黑人

was the one who looked back at me in the mirror.

就是镜子里看着我的那一位。

I was by myself, and I was all alone.

我只有我自己，孤身一人。

And the things that were said to me,

那些别人和我说的话，

and I'm not talking about just the kids,

不仅是孩子，

but the adults, too.

还有大人说的话。

And when I would come home from school crying the ugly cry,

当我放学了回家， 哭得梨花带雨时，

my immigrant Jamaican mother would sit me down in front of the mirror

我那来自牙买加的移民母亲 让我坐在镜子前，

and ask me,

问我：

"Do you see an N-word?

“你看到那个 N 开头的词 （“黑人”的蔑称）了吗？

Do you see a liar?

你看到了一个骗子吗？

Do you see a big-lip monkey?

你看到厚嘴唇猴子了吗？

No!

没有！

So dry your eyes.

所以擦干眼泪。

And when you go back to school, remember,

等你回学校的时候，记住，

you are rubber,

你是块橡皮，

they are glue.

他们是胶水。

And every ignorant thing they say about you

他们对你说的无知之词，

bounces off of you and sticks to them."

都会反弹，贴在他们身上。”

(Applause)

（掌声）

And I believed her.

我相信了她。

And it didn't hurt.

我就不会因此伤心了。

So much.

好太多了。

Because I believed.

因为我相信。

Number two.

第二。

We've got to think.

我们得思考。

Think about ourselves in order to believe in ourselves.

考虑自己才能相信自己。

Growing up, my dad had a sign on his desk.

在我长大的过程中，我爸一直 在他的桌上贴着这样一个标识。

And it said, "Think."

写着：“思考。”

"Think."

“思考。”

Oh, I did not know how valuable and powerful

我都没想到仅仅思考一下

the simple act of thinking was

是多么有价值、有力量，

until I came back to Hollywood from my triumphant run on Broadway,

直到我结束了百老汇的 叫座演出重返好莱坞，

and I had this meeting with a big studio Hollywood casting director.

与来自好莱坞一家大型工作室的 选角导演进行了会面。

Oh, I was so excited.

哦，我太激动了。

I walked in and he looked at me and he said,

我走了进去，他看着我，说道：

"Hm.

“嗯。

Everybody knows you're a beautiful, talented Black girl.

大家都知道你是个美丽 又有才华的黑人女孩。

But what do I do with a beautiful, talented Black girl?

但我该让这美丽又有才华的 黑人女孩去做些什么呢？

Do I put you in a movie with Tom Cruise?

我该让你去和汤姆·克鲁斯 一起拍个电影吗？

Does he kiss you? Ugh.

他要吻你吗？呕。

Who goes to see that movie?"

谁要看这电影啊？”

(Laughs)

（笑声）

I could not believe

我不敢相信

that that man had just said that to me, to my face.

这个人就这么直接 当着我的面说了这种话。

And he hurt me.

他伤害了我。

He hurt me so deeply,

他深深地伤害了我，

I was actually thinking about quitting.

我都想着要放弃了。

Until ...

直到……

I started to think.

我开始思考。

And I thought about what he said.

我思考了他的话。

He said that everybody knew

他说，大家都知道

that I was a beautiful, talented Black girl.

我是个美丽又有才华的黑人女孩。

(Laughter)

（笑声）

(Cheers and applause)

（欢呼声、掌声）

And that I deserve to be cast in movies with the likes of Tom Cruise,

我还配和汤姆·克鲁斯这样的人 一起演电影，

and he should kiss me.

而且他还应该吻我。

(Applause)

（掌声）

(Laughs)

（笑声）

So what was meant to break me did not break me, it built me up.

本该击垮我的话没有击垮我， 而是让我成长了。

I believed that man, I believed what he said.

我相信了那个人， 相信了他所说的。

And I walked out of there giving myself permission to take up space in Hollywood,

离开时，我相信自己有本事 在好莱坞占得一席之地，

knowing that I belonged there

清楚我就属于那里，

no matter what anybody thought about me.

无论别人对我有何看法。

(Cheers and applause)

（欢呼声、掌声）

Thirdly.

第三，

We've got to act like we believe in ourselves.

我们得表现出相信自己。

Oh, yeah.

没错。

Because when we believe in ourselves and act on it,

因为如果我们相信自己， 还表现了出来，

we create possibilities that never would have been possible

我们就能创造出仅凭相信自己

had we not just believed.

不可能实现的新可能。

OK, so I will tell you another story.

好，我想再讲一个故事。

I will never forget walking into one of those crowded Hollywood rooms,

我永远不会忘记有一次 我走进一个拥挤的好莱坞房间，

and I see Harry Thomason, producer Harry Thomason,

看到了哈里·托马生（Harry Thomason）， 制片人哈里·托马生，

who is married to Linda Bloodworth-Thomason,

太太是琳达·布拉德沃斯-托马生 （Linda Bloodworth-Thomason），

writer, creator of the series "Designing Women."

她是电视剧《设计女王》 （Designing Women）的编剧和创作者。

I walk right up to Harry and I say,

我直接走向哈里，说道：

"How can it be, that after all of these years

“怎么可能这么多年来

Anthony has not had a relationship with a Black woman?

安东尼都没有和黑人女性谈过恋爱？

After all, the show takes place in Atlanta,

这个电视剧可是发生在亚特兰大，

Georgia."

佐治亚州啊。”

(Laughter)

（笑声）

He looked at me, took a step back

他看着我，后退了一步，

and said, "Who are you?"

说：“你谁啊？”

I said, "I'm Sheryl Lee Ralph."

我说：“我是雪莉·李·拉尔夫。”

And he said, "OK.

他说：“好吧。

Have your people call my people

让你的人给我的人打个电话，

and we will see what we can do."

我们来看看能做些什么。”

And guess what happened?

猜猜发生了什么？

(Laughter)

（笑声）

I got cast as Etienne Toussaint Bouvier,

我出演了艾蒂安·图桑·布维耶 （Etienne Toussaint Bouvier）一角，

Las Vegas showgirl turned Anthony's wife

拉斯维加斯的歌舞女郎， 在最后一季《设计女王》中

for the final season of "Designing Women."

成为了安东尼的妻子。

(Cheers and applause)

（欢呼声、掌声）

Oh, yeah.

就是这样没错。

Against all odds, once again,

我再一次披荆斩棘，

I gave myself permission to take up space,

为自己争取了一席之地，

believing that I belonged.

相信我就属于这里。

I believed that if Sheryl Lee did the work of honing her craft,

我相信如果雪莉·李磨练技艺、

building solid relationships

建立坚实的人际关系，

and stayed ready so she didn't have to get ready,

时刻准备着， 这样都不需要特意准备，

anything was possible.

那么一切皆有可能。

Heck, winning an Emmy.

嘿，赢得一座艾美奖。

A Grammy.

一座格莱美奖。

An Oscar.

一座奥斯卡奖。

A Tony.

一座托尼奖。

EGOT it, baby.

不在话下。

(Cheering)

（欢呼声）

So ...

所以……

When you leave this room today,

希望今天你在离开 这间房间的时候，

I challenge all of you to start a meaningful practice

我想邀请所有人 试一试这个有意义的动作，

of looking in the mirror

看看镜子，

and loving what you see.

爱你所见。

Believe in what you see.

相信你所见。

If you can't love it, then respect it.

如果你无法爱它，那就尊重它。

And if you can't respect it, then encourage it.

如果你无法尊重它，那就鼓励它。

If you can't encourage it, empower it.

如果你无法鼓励它， 那就给予它力量。

And if you can't empower it, please be kind to it.

如果无法给予它力量， 那就善待它吧。

(Applause)

（掌声）

The greatest relationship,

最好的关系，

the greatest one you will ever have

你能拥有的最好的关系，

is with yourself.

是和你自己之间的。

Believe me.

相信我。

Have faith in yourself.

相信你自己。

Believing that faith can make broken wings fly.

相信你自己能让你的折翼高飞。

And we deserve to soar.

我们都值得展翅翱翔。

Remember,

记住，

maybe one of these days when you pass the mirror

也许有一天你经过一面镜子，

and you catch a glimpse of yourself,

瞥见自己，

remember, I told you this.

记住，我和你说过这些话。

That is what believing looks like.

这就是相信的样子。

And don't you ever, ever,

请你永远、永远、

ever give up on you.

永远不要放弃自己。

I am Sheryl Lee Ralph,

我是雪莉·李·拉尔夫，

and I love you just the way you are.

我喜欢你本来的样子。

(Singing) Believe in yourself

（唱歌）相信你自己，

As I believe in you

像我相信你那样。

Thank you.

谢谢。

(Cheers and applause)

（欢呼声、掌声）