DON'T SAY "SORRY!" | Better English vocabulary | How to Apologise

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Hello! I'm Emma from mmmEnglish.
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In today's lesson, I'm going to share some different
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and more meaningful ways to say
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"Sorry!"
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Now of course, it's okay to say
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"I'm sorry", when you make a mistake or you
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do something wrong, you can say "I'm sorry!"
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But "sorry" is really overused in English.
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It's so overused that sometimes
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it can seem a little meaningless.
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You see, people use "sorry" all the time!
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They apologise all the time for lots of different reasons.
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"Sorry!"
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"Sorry I'm late!"
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"Sorry!"
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"Sorry, I forgot to bring the...."
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"Oh! Sorry!"
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And because of that,
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"I'm sorry" can feel a little less meaningful.
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Sometimes it can feel like you don't really care
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or you're just saying "sorry" because you feel like
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you have to, not because you actually mean it.
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So when you really need to say sorry
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for something that you've done,
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maybe a mistake that you've made or
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some problem that you've created, well then,
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it's a good idea to use a stronger expression.
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Okay? To show that you really mean it.
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And today, I'm going to share
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some more meaningful ways to say "I'm sorry",
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some meaningful ways to apologise.
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Now, we're going to give you a few different options
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to help you build your vocabulary
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so that your English sounds more
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sophisticated and more meaningful.
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But if you want to improve your English pronunciation
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and natural expression,
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then I really recommend the mmmEnglish
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Imitation Lessons!
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All of the lessons there are focused
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on specific situations
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and you'll learn not just what to say,
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but how to say it. And in English, it's so important,
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especially when you're trying to be genuine and real,
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it's so important to change the tone of your voice
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and your facial expressions and your body language
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really helps to convey your message.
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Now I created the mmmEnglish Imitation Lessons
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especially for my students to help them
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develop their pronunciation but also
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their natural expression.
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You're going to be able to practise on your own at home,
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you don't need a teacher or a speaking partner
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and you can practise your English speaking skills
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in your own time, whenever it suits you.
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So if you haven't checked out the imitation lessons yet,
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grab the link in the description
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or you can head straight to the webpage right there!
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So let's focus on some different ways to say "I'm sorry".
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One of the hardest things about apologising
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is admitting
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that you've done something wrong.
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Socially, it can be quite an awkward situation. Right?
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It's one that makes you feel a little uncomfortable.
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Now, if we're talking about a
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small problem that you created,
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perhaps you provided your
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colleague with some wrong information.
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It was an accident but still, you're at fault.
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Then it's absolutely fine to say
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"Ah...My mistake."
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Just own it, you know?
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It was my mistake, I made the mistake.
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So you can actually say "Oh.. My mistake",
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instead of saying "Sorry"
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Now you can also say "My apologies".
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My apologies, I made a mistake.
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But if you want to tone it down a little
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and you want to make it a little less formal
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then you can also say "My bad!"
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This has become a really common expression
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you use to admit that you did something wrong
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in less formal situations.
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"You're late for the meeting! It started an hour ago!"
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"Really? Oh, my bad! I didn't have it in my calendar."
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So it's like, "Oops! Oh, that was my fault."
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My mistake. You just own it, you know?
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You don't really need to say "Sorry" as well,
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you're just claiming the mistake as yours.
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And these are all great options
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if the problem you created is not a big one.
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Like, if you were supposed to make a booking
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for you and ten mates at a restaurant
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and you forgot and when you get there,
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there's no room for you.
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That's a good time to say "Oh, my bad!"
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Don't use "My bad" when the mistake is pretty big, like
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if you forgot to invite your grandma to your wedding,
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Don't say "Oh, my bad!
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That wouldn't go down very well!
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It's kind of a bigger problem than just "My bad"
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So in that situation, you would need something
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a little more meaningful, okay?
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"Sorry!" Or "My bad" just isn't quite enough.
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So you could say,
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"Grandma, I owe you an apology."
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I owe you an apology.
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Or, "Grandma I want to apologise".
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Alright?
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Both of these expressions
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are used to show that you're serious
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and that you're genuine about your apology.
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They're a little more formal so they
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show respect to the person that you're talking to
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and they're really useful in the workplace.
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Okay? In the office, when you need, you know, to sound
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professional and maybe a little bit more
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formal, than these are great options.
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The other thing to keep in mind is that
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both of these expressions need an explanation.
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Why are you sorry? You could say:
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I want to apologise for something, right?
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I want to apologise for my behaviour last night.
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I want to apologise to someone okay.
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I want to apologise to your sister.
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Now, the difference between to and for here is
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super important.
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These little prepositions are a little tricky so,
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for the grammar rules and more examples about
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to and for, then I want you to check out this lesson
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right here.
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It's all about to and for and when to use them.
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But it's important to explain why you're apologising
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with these expressions.
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Alright, let's think of a more significant problem
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that maybe you created now.
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You might need to write a formal apology,
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you know, for your behavior or for
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the behaviour of a family member.
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Something that you really regret.
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Or in a professional context, when
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your mistake has resulted in a significant problem
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for your customer or your company.
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Well, in these situations you need more formal language
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that's going to help you to express just how
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deeply sorry you are.
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I sincerely apologise for my behaviour, for my actions
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for the trouble that I've caused.
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Okay?
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You could also say, "I take full responsibility
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for whatever's happened."
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Okay,
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now you might even take it one step further and say
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"I'm embarrassed about what has happened" or
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"I'm ashamed of my behaviour."
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Or my brother's behaviour. I'm really embarrassed.
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Now, it's more common to see these expressions used
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in written English, like in emails and letters,
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but in professional or quite formal situations,
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it's acceptable to say these expressions
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directly to someone.
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Now don't forget that these ways are,
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they're quite formal and they're quite serious
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ways to apologise.
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So, if you're a little bit late to class,
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it's probably a bit too much to say
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"I sincerely apologise for being late."
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"I take full responsibility for my actions."
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But if you accidentally slept in and you missed
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your final exam,
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well, then this kind of language
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might actually be useful for you.
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You might be able to convince your professor
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that it was an honest mistake
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and maybe you can repeat the exam.
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So I hope that you've learned some new expressions
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and phrases during that lesson to help you sound
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more sincere and more sophisticated
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when you apologise in English.
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Don't forget that you can practise your natural English
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expression and pronunciation with me
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in the mmmEnglish Imitation Lessons.
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The link is in the description below
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and it's really easy just to grab them and try them out.
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Thanks for watching this lesson. I will definitely
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see you in the next lesson.
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