Dominic Price: What's your happiness score? | TED

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翻译人员: Zhang Ruobing 校对人员: Bruce Wang

大家好，我是多姆·普莱斯，我是一个未来派

这是一个目前没人叫我去做的虚构的工作，

但这是我站在这个舞台上的原因。

Hello, my name is Dom Price and I'm a work futurist,

我的工作就是预测未来，

工作、社会

which is a made-up job that no one's called me out on yet,

经济和教育的未来

but it's got me here on this stage today.

当然，你可以想象今年在这么多年当中，

My job's all about predicting the future,

它是非常迷人的。

the future of work, society,

现在，有大量的自助文献

the economy and education.

可以帮助你随着时间的推移变得更快乐。

Which, surely you can imagine this year of all the years,

it's been pretty fascinating.

但是今天，我想和你们具体谈谈

Now, there's a huge amount of self-help literature out there

如何在2020年过的开心。

that will help you be happier over time.

这是与众不同的一年。

这一年，我们当中的许多人感受不到幸福。

But today, I want to talk to you specifically

about being happy in a year like 2020.

或者我们快乐的日子逐渐减少 成了快乐的分钟和时刻。

It's a year like no other.

以及未来的不确定性

It's a year when many of us haven't felt of much happiness

正相当沉重的压在我们的心头。

or our happy days have been reduced to happy minutes and moments.

但是和你们谈论像2020年这样的一年，

And the uncertainty of the future

谈论它有多糟糕，

has quite rightly weighed heavily on our minds.

首先，我得告诉你们我这一年有多糟糕。

But to talk to you about a year like 2020,

你知道，我妹妹是我最好的朋友，

and to talk about how shit it's been,

几年前我接到了任何一位哥哥 都不想接到的电话。

first of all, I have to tell you how shit my year has been.

特鲁迪被确诊了晚期乳腺癌，

You see, my sister is my best friend,

她住在离这里24小时的飞行路程之外 的英国曼彻斯特，

and a few years ago I got the call that no brother wants to get.

作为一个有两个男孩的单身母亲，

Trudy had been diagnosed with stage IV breast cancer,

我相信你能想象我当时的感受。

and given that she lived a 24-hour flight away in Manchester, England,

但她倔得像头牛。

六年之后，也就是2020年初， 她还和我们在一起。

as a single mother of two boys,

I'm sure you can imagine how I felt.

然后二月来临了。

我接到了另一个电话。

But she's stubborn as an ox.

这次是我的医生告诉我我得了早期肠癌。

And six years later, at the start of 2020, she was still with us.

Then February rolled in.

一周后，我做了一次结肠次全切除术， 我的结肠被切除了。

I got another call.

This time it was my doctor telling me that I had early-stage bowel cancer.

奇怪的是，我的妹妹在同一天去见了她在 英国的治疗专家，

A week later, I had a subtotal colectomy and I had my colon removed.

专家确认他们将停止所有治疗。

Strangely, the same day my sister went to see her specialist in the UK,

她的生命只剩下几个月了。

手术后，

由于新冠肺炎的旅行限制， 我没有被正式允许旅行，

who confirmed that they were ceasing all treatment.

She had a matter of months left to live.

但我设法获得了政府的豁免，

并在4月，登上了为数不多的 飞往曼彻斯特的航班

Now, post-surgery,

I wasn't officially allowed to travel due to COVID travel restrictions,

去照顾妹妹和她的两个儿子

but I managed to get an exemption from the government

几周之后的周二，5月19日，

and I was on one of very few flights out to Manchester in April

特鲁迪突然倒在家里。

to look after my sister and her two boys.

尽管尝试了心肺复苏，

她在救护车到达前就在 我的怀里去世了。

A few weeks later, on Tuesday, May 19,

Trudy collapsed suddenly at home.

享年45岁。

Despite trying CPR,

在和家人深情道别之后，

she died in my arms before the ambulance arrived.

在不久的将来唯一确定的事情就是，

She was 45.

14天的隔离。

但在我上飞机之前，

After some very emotional goodbyes to family,

我给了我侄子一个特别的多姆叔叔拥抱。

the only thing certain in my immediate future

was 14 days in quarantine.

在隔离的14天里，

你就只能独自思考了。

But before I got on that plane,

I gave my nephews an extra special uncle-Dom hug.

这让我思考，

幸福的根源是什么？

And in those 14 days in quarantine,

如此糟糕的一年如何让人开心？

you're kind of left alone with your own thoughts.

And it got me thinking,

而这些想法的问题在于， 当你只有14天的时间时，

where does our happiness actually come from?

你真的需要投入其中。

How can a year this shit make anyone happy?

于是我又思考， 我们该如何寻找自己的幸福？

And the problem with those thoughts is when you've got 14 days,

就像对待死亡一样，有时候，

我开始重新清晰地思考生活

you really do get to invest in them.

And it got me thinking, how can we find our happiness?

工作、新冠肺炎

And as is with death, sometimes,

以及所有重要的事情。

I actually started thinking with renewed clarity about life

在布朗尼·威尔的书 《临终前的五大遗憾》中，

and work and COVID

布朗尼会告诉你第二大遗憾

and all the things that mattered.

是“我希望我没有花那么 多时间在办公室里。”

In Bronnie Ware's book "The Top Five Regrets of the Dying,"

但你不需要我来告诉你这些。

Bronnie will tell you the second-biggest regret

你知道在你临终之时最重要的是什么，

is "I wish I hadn't spent so much time in the office."

朋友和家人的爱，

你留下的遗产，

But you don't need me to tell you that.

知道你做了让自己开心的事，

You know what's important on your deathbed,

知道你做了伟大的事。

the love of friends and family,

the legacy you're leaving behind,

然而，很少有人能诚实地说， 这就是我们今天的生活方式。

knowing that you've done things that made you happy,

以工作为例。

knowing that you've done great things.

今天的工作起源于300年前的工业革命。

And yet few of us can honestly say this is how we're living our lives today.

从那时起我们就成了机器， 成了机器人。

Take work, for example.

Work today stems from the Industrial Revolution 300 years ago.

全是关于出勤。

我们在生产线上工作。

我们被速度和效率来衡量。

That's when we were the machines, we were the robots.

全都是关于一天你能做多少工作。

It was all about presenteeism.

老实说，

We worked on the production line.

这是为了让你的老板更富有。

We were measured by speed and efficiency.

在那个时候， 我们有这些成功的衡量标准，

It was about how much work you could get done in one day.

经济增长和生产力。

Let's be honest,

it was about making your boss richer.

但在三百年后的今天， 这根本行不通。

And in that time, we had these measures of success,

economic growth and productivity.

生产率增长停滞不前。

就工作时间而言，

We’re 300 years later, and it’s simply not working.

澳大利亚是表现最差的国家之一。

政府和企业一直在谈论的

Productivity growth has stagnated.

生产力的概念，

Australia is one of the worst-performing countries

它把在一家医院上 投资的1000万美元，

in terms of longer working hours.

And this idea of productivity

和在一个燃煤发电厂上投资的 1000万美元算成一样的。

that governments and businesses speak about all the time,

it measures 10 million dollars invested in a hospital,

我们最宝贵的资源， 地球，正在死亡，

the same as 10 million dollars spent on a coal-fired power plant.

我们没有星球B。

所以我们在工作的时候不快乐。

And our most precious resource, the planet, is dying,

而且我们没有效率。

and we have no planet B.

奇怪的是， 在疫情大流行期间，

当我们宣扬心理健康和身体健康 以及人的重要性时，

So we're not happy at work.

And we're not productive.

研究显示，自今年3月以来，

And oddly, in the time of the pandemic,

when we're touting mental health and wellness and the importance of people,

我们实际上把平均工作日 延长了40分钟。

这一切都是为了追求生产力。

studies show we've actually extended the average working day by 40 minutes

我想这是因为我们最初认为 新冠肺炎是一个短暂的时刻。

since March this year.

你看，新冠肺炎就像一场暴风雪。

All in the pursuit of productivity.

在多年觉得外面似乎是无尽的阳光之后，

And I think it's because we first thought that COVID was a fleeting moment.

我们向外望去，看到了雪。

You see, COVID is like a snowstorm.

所以我们做了正确的事情。

我们关上门和窗，呆在屋里。

After years of what seemed like endless sunshine outside,

但是几周之后， 我们望向外面，仍在下雪。

we looked out and we saw snow.

So we did the right thing.

于是我们就想， “啊，这不是暴风雪，

We closed the windows and doors and we stayed inside.

这是冬天。”

所以我们又做了正确的事情。

我们上网， 买了一件新毛衣夹克和一条围巾。

But a few weeks later, we looked out and it was still snowing.

And we're like, "Ah, it's not a snowstorm,

但是当它们被送到门口时，

it's winter."

我们才意识到这不是冬天。

So we did the right thing.

We went online, bought a new jumper jacket and a scarf.

这是冰河时代。

你是什么时候意识到这是冰河时代的呢?

But by the time they were delivered to our door,

we realized it wasn't winter.

思考一下。

It was the ice age.

那一刻，你坐在那里，心想，

“这已经不是八周的事了，对吧?”

What was the moment when you realized that this was the ice age?

它在这里有一段时间了。

Think about it.

事实上，它可能永远在这里。”

That moment when you sat there and thought,

那一刻的顿悟让你对工作有什么感觉，

"It's kind of not an eight-week thing anymore, this, is it?

It's been here for a while.

顺便说一下， 你花了三分之一的时间在工作上。

In fact, maybe it's here forever."

And how did that moment of realization make you feel about work,

我告诉你这让来自澳大利亚、美国

日本、法国和德国的 5000人有了不同的感受。

something that you spend about a third of your time doing, by the way?

Atlassian最近委托进行的一项研究显示。

I can tell you how it made 5,000 people feel

尽管人们不用通勤上班

across Australia, the US, Japan, France and Germany

节省了时间，

但近一半的受访者表示，

in a recent study commissioned by Atlassian.

他们用于个人追求的时间更少了。

Despite the fact that people weren't commuting to work

个人追求，

and therefore saving that time,

是真正让你快乐的事情。

nearly half of respondents said

那现在最大的抱怨是什么?

they had less time for personal pursuits.

工作与生活的平衡。

Personal pursuits,

就我个人而言，

the things that actually make you happy.

3月份以来我重了5公斤。

And the number one complaint at this time?

我喝得多了，睡得少了。

Work-life balance.

Me personally,

这是新冠肺炎的错，对吗?

I've put on five kilos since March.

还是我只是简单的不开心?

I'm drinking more and I'm sleeping less.

在我对效率的不懈追求中，

That's COVID's fault, right?

我忘记了什么才是真正重要的。

Or is it simply that I'm just not happy?

现在，我们可以用剩下的时间 来分享我们有多不快乐，

That in my relentless pursuit of productivity,

或者我们可以翻转一下， 谈谈我们能做些什么。

I've lost sight of what's really important.

我选择了后者。

Now, we could spend the rest of this talk sharing stories about how unhappy we are,

我想让你们闭眼几秒。

我想让你们想象这样一个世界，

or we can actually flip the tables and talk about what we can do.

那里不会用生产力来 衡量我们成功与否。

I'm choosing to do the latter.

I'd like you to close your eyes for a second.

我想让你们想象这样一个世界，

I want you to imagine a world

我们不考虑忙碌，头衔

where our measure of success is not productivity.

和银行存款，

而是考虑我们对世界的影响。

I want you to imagine a world

我想让你们想象这样一个世界，

where instead of thinking about busyness and titles

那里地位不是我们存在的原因。

and bank balances,

睁开眼睛。

we think about our impact on the world.

现在我想向你们介绍个人道德量表。

I want you to imagine a world

where status isn't the reason for our existence.

个人道德量表的灵感来自于两件作品。

Open your eyes.

I'd now like to introduce you to the Personal Moral Inventory.

第一项是来自金融界的研究，

被称为“四重底线”，

The Personal Moral Inventory is inspired by two pieces of work.

旨在让企业以更全面的方式报告业绩。

The first, the work from the world of finance,

第二项是

一种精英军事人员

something called the quadruple bottom line,

aimed at getting businesses to report in a more rounded fashion.

对自己和队友进行自我评估的练习

在投入战斗前。

The second,

an exercise that elite military personnel go through

我相信这四样东西，

to self-assess themselves and their teammates

生产力和利润，人，

地球和我们的目标，

before going into battle.

是我们幸福的秘诀。

I believe that these four things,

在冰河时代，

Productivity and Profit, People,

在我们现在所处的时代， 最重要的

the Planet and our Purpose,

不是被我们不能做的事情分心，

are the secret to our happiness.

而是找到我们可以做的事情。

And what's important in the time of the ice age,

拥有和控制自己的幸福是我们的责任。

the time we're in right now,

is not to get distracted by the things we can't do,

让我们一起来做一个练习。

but to find the things that we can do.

我要做的是给每个面积打分 -1，0或1。

It's on us to take ownership and control of our own happiness.

1是你搞定了。

来击掌，祝你好运。

Let's do the exercise together.

0表示马马虎虎。

What I’m going to do is rate each area minus one, zero or one.

不出色也不糟糕。

One is you're nailing it.

-1是你在挣扎。

High fives all round, good on you.

Zero is you're getting by.

这是我今年的报告。

对生产率和利润，我是1。

Not awesome. Not awful.

我有一份很好的工作，很好的薪水，

And minus one is you're struggling.

我有房子住，

我可以付账单。

Here's mine for this year.

但是有一点。

For Productivity and Profit, I'm a one.

你的得分不能超过1，

I have a good job, I have a good salary,

所以你不可能把所有的幸福归为一类。

I have a roof over my head,

I can pay the bills.

But here's the thing.

就好像我们都想在生产力上达到2，

You can't score more than a one,

so it becomes impossible to pack all your happiness into one category.

但是要到什么程度呢？

下一块是人。

人是指你是如何看待自己的私人，

And it's like we're all trying to get to a two on Productivity,

心理和身体健康的。

but to what extent?

你必须从自己开始。

The next area is People.

你必须先给自己带上氧气面罩 才能帮助别人。

People is about how you think about your personal,

mental and physical health.

这也包括你是如何影响家庭、 朋友和社会的。

You have to start with yourself.

You have to put your own oxygen mask on before you can help others.

这是关于人类

以及对人类有积极的影响。

This is also about how you impact family, friends, society.

对此，我给自己0分。

It's about being human

地球。

假设我去年坐了100次飞机，

and having a positive impact on humanity.

所以我给自己打-1分。

For this, I score myself a zero.

最后，目标。

Planet.

目标是指你想有什么样的影响

Let's just say I took over 100 flights last year,

以及你想留下多少遗产。

so I'm going to score myself a minus one.

这是你做你所做的事的原因。

And finally, Purpose.

对此，我给自己打0分。

Purpose is about the impact you want to have

现在，我已经可以看出房间里 和网络上的人

and the legacy you want to leave behind.

It's the why you do what you do.

都在努力计算出这些数据。

可是事情不是这样的。

For this, I score myself a zero.

你在一个类别中的积极影响

Now, I can already tell the keen beans in the room and online

并不能减轻你在另一个类别中的 消极影响。

are trying to add this up and net this off.

对我来说，我在经济上很富裕的事实

That is not how it works.

Your positive impacts in one category

并不能弥补我正在毁灭地球的事实。

doesn't mitigate your negative impacts in another category.

然而，并不是这种认识，

让我觉得有些事情必须改变。

For me, the fact that I'm financially well off

在我妹妹去世后不久，

doesn't make up for the fact that I'm killing the planet.

我代表她做了这个练习。

It wasn't this realization, though,

这让我开始思考。

that got me thinking something had to change.

在生产率和利润上，她是0分。

Shortly after my sister passed away,

她的经济条件并不富裕。

I did this exercise on her behalf.

在她生命的最后几年里， 她无法工作，

And it got me thinking.

但她活了下来。

For Productivity and Profit, she was a zero.

在人上，她毫无疑问是1分。

她很清楚自己的特性。

She struggled financially.

In her final few years she couldn't work,

她投入了自己的生活。

她玩得很开心。

but she got by.

For People, she was a definite one.

你会记得和特鲁迪一起参加的派对。

She really knew her own identity.

她还投身于当地的学校、 社区、朋友和家庭。

She invested in her life.

She had a lot of fun.

在地球上，她也是1分。

You all remember the party you were at with Trudy.

她的碳足迹很低。

And she invested in the local school, community, friends and family.

她很少飞去其他地方。

她没有车。

她热衷于减少，再利用，回收。

For Planet, she was also a one.

She had a very low carbon footprint.

在冬天，

她会让你穿上套头衫

She very rarely flew anywhere.

才会让你打开暖气。

She didn't own a car.

She was avid at reduce, reuse, recycle.

在目标上，她也是大大的1分。

And in winter,

她知道自己想要留下多少遗产。

she would make you put a jumper on

before she'd let you turn the heating on.

她很清楚的明白她为什么 会在这个星球上。

And on Purpose, she was also a strong one.

目标不是关于变成超人。

She knew the legacy she wanted to leave behind.

这不是穿斗篷的问题

She knew exactly why she was on this planet.

或者单枪匹马拯救世界。

特鲁迪的目的是在她所能拥有的 短暂时间里

Purpose isn't about being a superhero.

It's not about wearing a cape

给那两个男孩最好的教育。

or single-handedly saving the world.

为她做这个练习， 我学到了两件事。

Trudy's purpose was to give those two boys the best upbringing

首先，我知道幸福是有前后关系的。

in the small time that she had available.

比如，对特鲁迪来说， 她经济拮据的事实，

I learned two things doing this exercise for her.

并没有影响她的幸福。

Firstly, I learned that happiness is contextual.

她没有把鸡蛋都放在一个篮子里

关门大吉。

Like, for Trudy, the fact that she was financially struggling,

但第二个意识对我打击更大。

she didn't let that dictate her happiness.

尽管我拥有一切， 特鲁迪还是比我更幸福。

She didn't put all her eggs in that basket

and shut up shop.

But the second realization hit me a lot harder.

这就是我们要把幸福 掌握在自己手中的地方。

Despite everything, Trudy was happier than me.

我想让你做的是

思考你得到0分

Here's where we get to take our happiness into our own hands.

或者-1分的地方

并致力于做一些事情来提高。

所以不管你致力于做什么，

What I want you to do

我希望你在明年夏天给它一个 火热的尝试。

is to think about the areas where you would score zero

or minus one

为什么呢？

and commit to doing something to improve.

种树的最佳时间是20年前。

So whatever you commit to do,

I want you to give it a red hot go in the next summer.

第二最佳时间是现在。

所以我们现在就来做这个。

Why?

Well, the best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago.

对我来说，地球这一块的成绩最差。

The second best time is today.

我打算一周三天不吃肉，

So we're going to do this right now.

然后再重新评估。

我已经找到了碳中性的能源供应商 来取代之前的。

For me, my worst score was Planet.

I'm going to commit to going meat-free for three days a week

我还投资了一家试图拯救海洋的公司。

and then I'll reassess.

虽然只是小步骤， 但之后我就可以重新评估了。

I've already changed my energy provider to one that's carbon neutral.

在人这块，

我要保证和我在乎的人在一起的时候更多。

And I've invested in a company that's trying to save our oceans.

Small steps, but then I can reassess.

在过去的四年里， 我基本上一直是单身

实话说， 我在感情上无法投入。

On People,

I'm going to commit to be more present with the people I care about.

但我真的很幸运遇到了一个很棒的人。

For the last four years, I've essentially been single

所以我要做的是致力于用

and if I'm really honest, I was emotionally unavailable.

开放、真实和脆弱来投入这种关系。

But I've actually been very fortunate to meet someone amazing.

还有一点厚脸皮。

So what I’m going to do is commit to investing in that relationship

with openness, authenticity and vulnerability.

在目标上，

一年前，我曾是1分。

And a little bit of cheekiness.

我有双重目标，

一是通过我的公共演讲 对人们产生的影响，

And on Purpose,

a year ago, I was actually a one on Purpose.

二是我珍惜和姐姐 在一起的宝贵时间。

My purpose was twofold,

但是在2020年到来后的几周，

it was the impact I was having on people through my public speaking,

两个都消失了。

and it was the precious time I got to spend with my sister.

在那之后的几个月里， 我一直在努力重新找到人生目标。

But in a few short weeks at the start of 2020,

说实话，

我真的很难找到它。

both of those disappeared.

我觉得这没关系。

And in the months since, I've been really trying to rediscover my purpose.

但后来我意识到我有这个，

And I'll be honest,

今天，此刻。

I've really struggled to find it.

And I think that's OK.

这就是我重新发现人生目标的过程。

But then I realized that I have this,

你打算做什么呢？

你打算采取什么行动呢?

today, this moment.

This is me rediscovering my purpose.

不管你采取什么行动，

你突然意识到， 你可以不再把所有的幸福

What are you going to do?

都寄托在一种个人道德清单上。

What action are you going to take?

Whatever action you do take,

相反，你投身于掌控自己的幸福。

you suddenly realize that you can stop hinging all your happiness

on one category of the personal moral inventory.

我们的未来不是注定的。

我们的未来不是手写的

Instead, you invest in taking control of your own happiness.

我们的未来也不会等着我们。

我在建造我的未来， 我相信你也在建造你的。

Our future is not predetermined.

Our future is not written

未来的幸福与否，完全取决于

and our future is not waiting for us.

I'm building mine and I believe you are building yours.

生活各个方面的作为与不作为，

And how happy we are in our future will be based solely on our action

而不仅仅是工作时间。

我是释放自己快乐的钥匙，

or inaction across all facets of life,

我相信你是释放自己快乐的钥匙。

not just the working week.

I am the key to unleashing my own happiness,

我可以肯定地说， 特鲁迪没有任何遗憾，

and I believe you are the key to unleashing your own happiness.

但她有一个愿望。

就是看我在TEDx的现场演讲。

I can safely say that Trudy didn't have any regrets,

谢谢大家。

but she did have one wish.

To see me on stage, live, presenting at TEDx.

Thank you very much.