Dominic Price: What's your happiness score? | TED

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譯者: Wei-Yu Shih 審譯者: Yi-Ping Cho (Marssi)

Hello, my name is Dom Price and I'm a work futurist,

哈囉，我叫唐．普萊斯 我是一個工作未來學家

which is a made-up job that no one's called me out on yet,

這其實是我自創的職稱 沒人這樣叫我

但這份工作讓我今天 能夠站在這個舞台上

but it's got me here on this stage today.

My job's all about predicting the future,

我的工作就是預測未來的發展

the future of work, society,

像是職場以及社會的未來

the economy and education.

或是經濟和教育的未來

Which, surely you can imagine this year of all the years,

你可以想像 尤其是像今年這種情況

it's been pretty fascinating.

真的是非常有意思

Now, there's a huge amount of self-help literature out there

現在市面上有很多關於自救的書籍

that will help you be happier over time.

能夠幫助你漸漸地變快樂

But today, I want to talk to you specifically

但今天我主要想講的是

about being happy in a year like 2020.

在2020年這樣的情況下 要怎麼樣過得快樂

It's a year like no other.

今年是很特殊的一年

It's a year when many of us haven't felt of much happiness

是讓我們大多數人 無法時常開心的一年

or our happy days have been reduced to happy minutes and moments.

我們原本愉快的日子 只剩下短短幾分幾秒的小確幸

And the uncertainty of the future

對未來的不確定性

has quite rightly weighed heavily on our minds.

更加重了我們心理的負擔

But to talk to you about a year like 2020,

但在聊2020年

and to talk about how shit it's been,

以及這時狀況有多差之前

first of all, I have to tell you how shit my year has been.

得先提一下這年對我來說有多糟

You see, my sister is my best friend,

我姊姊是我最好的朋友

and a few years ago I got the call that no brother wants to get.

幾年前我接到一通 任何弟弟都不想要接到的電話

Trudy had been diagnosed with stage IV breast cancer,

特魯迪被診斷為乳癌第四期

and given that she lived a 24-hour flight away in Manchester, England,

她住在英國曼徹斯特 要搭24小時飛機才會到

as a single mother of two boys,

並且是有兩個男孩的單親媽媽

I'm sure you can imagine how I felt.

我相信你可以體會我當時的心情

But she's stubborn as an ox.

但她就跟牛一樣固執

And six years later, at the start of 2020, she was still with us.

之後過了六年到了2020年初 那時候她還健在

Then February rolled in.

可是到二月的時候

I got another call.

我接到另一通電話

This time it was my doctor telling me that I had early-stage bowel cancer.

這次是我的醫生來通知 我得到早期的大腸癌

A week later, I had a subtotal colectomy and I had my colon removed.

一週之後我動了次全大腸切除手術 切除了結腸

Strangely, the same day my sister went to see her specialist in the UK,

奇怪的是當天我的姊姊 也去找了她在英國的醫生

who confirmed that they were ceasing all treatment.

他準備要停止所有的治療

She had a matter of months left to live.

她大概只剩下幾個月的時間

Now, post-surgery,

我動完手術以後

I wasn't officially allowed to travel due to COVID travel restrictions,

因為疫情的關係 其實是不能夠旅行的

but I managed to get an exemption from the government

但我拿到了政府的許可

and I was on one of very few flights out to Manchester in April

並搭上了四月少數幾班 飛往曼徹斯特的班機

to look after my sister and her two boys.

要去照顧我姊姊和她兩個兒子

A few weeks later, on Tuesday, May 19,

過了幾週之後 在5月19日星期二這天

Trudy collapsed suddenly at home.

特魯迪突然在家中倒下

Despite trying CPR,

雖然做了心肺復甦術

she died in my arms before the ambulance arrived.

她還是在救護車抵達前 在我的懷中過世

She was 45.

她當時45歲

After some very emotional goodbyes to family,

在與家人感傷的道別之後

the only thing certain in my immediate future

確定會在未來等待我的

was 14 days in quarantine.

只有14天隔離的日子

But before I got on that plane,

但在搭上回程班機之前

I gave my nephews an extra special uncle-Dom hug.

我給了兩個外甥特別的唐式擁抱

And in those 14 days in quarantine,

在這14天的隔離期間

you're kind of left alone with your own thoughts.

你只能跟自己對話

And it got me thinking,

於是我就想

where does our happiness actually come from?

快樂到底是從何而來

How can a year this shit make anyone happy?

在這麼糟糕的一年中 真的有人會快樂嗎？

And the problem with those thoughts is when you've got 14 days,

問題是當你有14天

you really do get to invest in them.

不免就會花更多時間去想

And it got me thinking, how can we find our happiness?

於是我就繼續思考 要怎麼樣才能找到快樂？

And as is with death, sometimes,

有時候就像我面對死亡一樣

I actually started thinking with renewed clarity about life

我開始用全新的角度去思考人生

and work and COVID

還有工作跟新冠病毒

and all the things that mattered.

以及其他所有重要的事情

In Bronnie Ware's book "The Top Five Regrets of the Dying,"

在布朗妮．維爾的書 《和自己說好，生命裡只留下不後悔的選擇》中

Bronnie will tell you the second-biggest regret

布朗妮告訴你 臨終讓人最後悔的第二件事

is "I wish I hadn't spent so much time in the office."

就是「希望自己沒有 花這麼多時間在工作上」

But you don't need me to tell you that.

這件事其實不需要我跟你講

You know what's important on your deathbed,

你臨終前就會了解什麼事才重要

the love of friends and family,

像是朋友和家人的愛

the legacy you're leaving behind,

你所留下來的一切

knowing that you've done things that made you happy,

了解到你做了讓自己開心的事情

knowing that you've done great things.

知道自己曾經做過很多有意義的事

And yet few of us can honestly say this is how we're living our lives today.

但非常少人可以大聲說 自己現在就是這樣過活的

Take work, for example.

拿工作來說

Work today stems from the Industrial Revolution 300 years ago.

現在的工作模式 起源於300年前的工業革命

That's when we were the machines, we were the robots.

當時沒有自動化的設備和機器人的幫忙

It was all about presenteeism.

大家都在現場認真工作

We worked on the production line.

因為都是在生產線上

We were measured by speed and efficiency.

速度和效率就是一切

It was about how much work you could get done in one day.

一天能夠完成的工作量是最重要的

Let's be honest,

老實說

it was about making your boss richer.

就是讓你的老闆賺更多錢

And in that time, we had these measures of success,

那時候成功的指標就是

economic growth and productivity.

經濟成長和生產力

We’re 300 years later, and it’s simply not working.

然而在300年後的現在 情況已經不一樣了

Productivity growth has stagnated.

生產力成長率停滯不前

Australia is one of the worst-performing countries

澳洲高工時的糟糕情況

in terms of longer working hours.

在全球名列前茅

And this idea of productivity

然而這個生產力的概念

that governments and businesses speak about all the time,

就是政府和企業整天在說的

it measures 10 million dollars invested in a hospital,

將投資在醫院的一千萬澳元

the same as 10 million dollars spent on a coal-fired power plant.

和花在燃煤火力發電廠的一千萬澳元 當成一樣價值的東西

And our most precious resource, the planet, is dying,

結果我們珍貴的資源和星球逐漸消逝

and we have no planet B.

而地球只有一個

So we're not happy at work.

所以我們不止上班不開心

And we're not productive.

還沒有生產力

And oddly, in the time of the pandemic,

更奇怪的是在疫情期間

when we're touting mental health and wellness and the importance of people,

當我們在鼓吹心理健康 以及人的重要性時

studies show we've actually extended the average working day by 40 minutes

研究顯示我們的平均工時

竟然從今年三月開始增加了40分鐘

since March this year.

All in the pursuit of productivity.

目的只是為了追求產能

And I think it's because we first thought that COVID was a fleeting moment.

我想是因為一開始大家都認為 新冠疫情並不會持續太久

You see, COVID is like a snowstorm.

疫情就像是一場暴風雪

After years of what seemed like endless sunshine outside,

就像一直以來我們都生活在陽光下

we looked out and we saw snow.

結果突然看到外面開始下雪

So we did the right thing.

於是我們做了合理的事情

We closed the windows and doors and we stayed inside.

關上門窗然後待在家中

But a few weeks later, we looked out and it was still snowing.

幾個星期後我們再往窗外看 這場雪還在下

And we're like, "Ah, it's not a snowstorm,

於是我們發現 原來這不是一場暴風雪而已

it's winter."

而是冬天到了

So we did the right thing.

於是我們又做了合理的判斷

We went online, bought a new jumper jacket and a scarf.

上網買了毛衣、外套和圍巾

But by the time they were delivered to our door,

但在這些東西送達之前

we realized it wasn't winter.

我們又發現這不是冬天

It was the ice age.

是冰河時期

What was the moment when you realized that this was the ice age?

問題是你在什麼時候 才發現這是冰河時期的？

Think about it.

想想看

That moment when you sat there and thought,

那個瞬間你突然發覺

"It's kind of not an eight-week thing anymore, this, is it?

這情況好像不會只持續八個星期

It's been here for a while.

已經很久了

In fact, maybe it's here forever."

而且可能永遠都會存在

And how did that moment of realization make you feel about work,

那個瞬間是否影響了你對工作的態度

something that you spend about a third of your time doing, by the way?

畢竟你三分之一的時間都花在工作上

I can tell you how it made 5,000 people feel

我可以告訴你5000個

across Australia, the US, Japan, France and Germany

在澳洲、美國、日本、法國 和德國的人怎麼想

in a recent study commissioned by Atlassian.

這是最近Atlassian公司做的一個研究

Despite the fact that people weren't commuting to work

儘管現在人們並沒有通勤上班

and therefore saving that time,

能省下一些時間

nearly half of respondents said

有一半的人覺得

they had less time for personal pursuits.

他們自己的時間變少了

Personal pursuits,

做自己想做的事情

the things that actually make you happy.

是最能夠讓人感到開心的

And the number one complaint at this time?

但是現在大家最不滿的

Work-life balance.

就是工作跟生活的平衡

Me personally,

以我來說

I've put on five kilos since March.

我從今年三月到現在胖了五公斤

I'm drinking more and I'm sleeping less.

我喝比較多酒，也睡得比較少

That's COVID's fault, right?

這是疫情的錯對吧？

Or is it simply that I'm just not happy?

還是我只是不快樂

That in my relentless pursuit of productivity,

在不斷追求生產力時

I've lost sight of what's really important.

我已經漸漸忘了什麼才是重要的事

Now, we could spend the rest of this talk sharing stories about how unhappy we are,

當然我接下來可以一直講 自己有多麼不開心

or we can actually flip the tables and talk about what we can do.

或者我們可以翻轉情勢 來聊聊我們如何改變

I'm choosing to do the latter.

我決定做第二種

I'd like you to close your eyes for a second.

請閉上眼睛

I want you to imagine a world

想像一個世界

where our measure of success is not productivity.

成功的標準並不是生產力

I want you to imagine a world

在這個世界裡

where instead of thinking about busyness and titles

在乎的並非繁忙的生活或頭銜

and bank balances,

也不是銀行存款

we think about our impact on the world.

而是對這個世界的影響力

I want you to imagine a world

在這個世界裡

where status isn't the reason for our existence.

地位不是我們唯一存在的理由

Open your eyes.

請睜開眼睛

I'd now like to introduce you to the Personal Moral Inventory.

現在我想跟你們介紹 個人道德檢視清單

The Personal Moral Inventory is inspired by two pieces of work.

個人道德檢視清單 融合了兩種不同的概念

The first, the work from the world of finance,

第一個是與財金相關

something called the quadruple bottom line,

叫做四重底線的理論

aimed at getting businesses to report in a more rounded fashion.

目的是希望能讓企業 用更全面的方式做出報告

The second,

第二個

an exercise that elite military personnel go through

是讓精英軍事人員

to self-assess themselves and their teammates

在上戰場之前評估自我與隊友的

before going into battle.

一種方式

I believe that these four things,

我相信這四個因素

Productivity and Profit, People,

生產力跟收入、人

the Planet and our Purpose,

地球和意義

are the secret to our happiness.

是我們快樂的秘密

And what's important in the time of the ice age,

而在冰河期最重要的

the time we're in right now,

就像現在這種時候

is not to get distracted by the things we can't do,

不能只執著在沒辦法做的事情

but to find the things that we can do.

而是找到有什麼可以做的

It's on us to take ownership and control of our own happiness.

我們要對自己的快樂負起責任

Let's do the exercise together.

讓我們一起來做一下測試

What I’m going to do is rate each area minus one, zero or one.

現在要在每個分類打上 -1、0，或是1分

One is you're nailing it.

1分代表你做得非常好

High fives all round, good on you.

擊掌，你很棒

Zero is you're getting by.

0分就是還過得去

Not awesome. Not awful.

沒有很突出，但也不算糟

And minus one is you're struggling.

-1分的話代表這方面表現較差

Here's mine for this year.

這是我今年的分數

For Productivity and Profit, I'm a one.

以生產力和收入來說，我是1分

I have a good job, I have a good salary,

我有工作，有不錯的收入

I have a roof over my head,

也有地方可以住

I can pay the bills.

而且能負擔生活開銷

But here's the thing.

但重點來了

You can't score more than a one,

你最高只能打1分

so it becomes impossible to pack all your happiness into one category.

所以無法將所有的快樂分數 集中在一種類別

And it's like we're all trying to get to a two on Productivity,

現在大家都想在生產力上拿到兩分

but to what extent?

但要到什麼樣的程度才算呢？

The next area is People.

下一個分類是人

People is about how you think about your personal,

人包含對自己個人

mental and physical health.

心理與生理健康的看法

You have to start with yourself.

要先從自己做起

You have to put your own oxygen mask on before you can help others.

你先照顧好自己才有辦法幫助別人

This is also about how you impact family, friends, society.

除此之外也跟對家人、朋友 社會的影響力有關

It's about being human

以及作為一個人類

and having a positive impact on humanity.

對全體人類是否有正面的影響

For this, I score myself a zero.

這點我給自己打0分

Planet.

地球

Let's just say I took over 100 flights last year,

去年我搭飛機超過100次

so I'm going to score myself a minus one.

所以我給自己-1分

And finally, Purpose.

最後是意義

Purpose is about the impact you want to have

也就是你想要擁有怎樣的影響力

and the legacy you want to leave behind.

以及想在這個世界留下些什麼

It's the why you do what you do.

是你做事情的動機

For this, I score myself a zero.

這個我給自己打0分

Now, I can already tell the keen beans in the room and online

我相信現場還有線上躍躍欲試的各位

are trying to add this up and net this off.

已經準備要將各項分數加起來

That is not how it works.

但並不是這樣算的

Your positive impacts in one category

你在其中一項的正面影響

doesn't mitigate your negative impacts in another category.

並不能抵消另一項的負面影響

For me, the fact that I'm financially well off

就算我財務的狀況很好

doesn't make up for the fact that I'm killing the planet.

這並沒辦法彌補我對地球的破壞

It wasn't this realization, though,

但並不是因為這件事

that got me thinking something had to change.

才讓我覺得有些事需要改變

Shortly after my sister passed away,

在我姊姊過世後不久

I did this exercise on her behalf.

我站在她的角度做了這個測驗

And it got me thinking.

然後我就開始思考

For Productivity and Profit, she was a zero.

她的生產力跟收入是0

She struggled financially.

財務上並沒有很寬裕

In her final few years she couldn't work,

最後幾年她甚至無法工作

but she got by.

但還算過得去

For People, she was a definite one.

人的方面，她絕對是1分

She really knew her own identity.

她很了解自己

She invested in her life.

花很多心思在生活上

She had a lot of fun.

並且過得很開心

You all remember the party you were at with Trudy.

有她在場的派對你一定會記得

And she invested in the local school, community, friends and family.

她對在地學校、社區 朋友和家人也都很用心

For Planet, she was also a one.

對地球，她也是1分

She had a very low carbon footprint.

她在節能減碳方面做得很好

She very rarely flew anywhere.

很少搭飛機去別的地方

She didn't own a car.

也沒有開車

She was avid at reduce, reuse, recycle.

她非常熱衷在垃圾減量、再利用和回收

And in winter,

在冬天的時候

she would make you put a jumper on

她會叫你先穿上毛衣

before she'd let you turn the heating on.

而不是先開暖氣

And on Purpose, she was also a strong one.

在意義方面，她非常堅強

She knew the legacy she wanted to leave behind.

她知道自己想在這世界上留下什麼

She knew exactly why she was on this planet.

她了解自己為何在這個世界上

Purpose isn't about being a superhero.

並不是說一定要當超級英雄才有意義

It's not about wearing a cape

也不是穿著披風

or single-handedly saving the world.

或是一個人拯救世界

Trudy's purpose was to give those two boys the best upbringing

特魯迪的人生意義就是

在她這段有限的時間裡面 給她兩個兒子最好的教養

in the small time that she had available.

I learned two things doing this exercise for her.

我在幫她做測驗的時候 學到了兩件事

Firstly, I learned that happiness is contextual.

第一、快樂跟思維有關

Like, for Trudy, the fact that she was financially struggling,

就像對特魯迪來說 雖然她財務上並不寬裕

she didn't let that dictate her happiness.

但她並沒有因為這件事就不快樂

She didn't put all her eggs in that basket

她沒有把雞蛋都放在這一個籃子裡

and shut up shop.

然後就放棄

But the second realization hit me a lot harder.

第二點則讓我感觸更深

Despite everything, Trudy was happier than me.

儘管狀況並不好，她過得比我快樂

Here's where we get to take our happiness into our own hands.

這就是我們可以 對自己的快樂負責的地方

What I want you to do

我希望你做的是

is to think about the areas where you would score zero

想一下你拿0分

or minus one

或是-1分的地方

and commit to doing something to improve.

然後花時間去改善

So whatever you commit to do,

不管是什麼事情

I want you to give it a red hot go in the next summer.

這個夏天你一定盡全力去做

Why?

為什麼？

Well, the best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago.

就像種樹最好的時機是20年前

The second best time is today.

第二好的就是今天了

So we're going to do this right now.

所以現在馬上就要開始做

For me, my worst score was Planet.

我的話，最低分的是地球

I'm going to commit to going meat-free for three days a week

我決定要一週三天不吃肉

and then I'll reassess.

然後再重新評估跟調整

I've already changed my energy provider to one that's carbon neutral.

我已經換了碳中和的能源供應商

And I've invested in a company that's trying to save our oceans.

然後還投資了努力在拯救海洋的企業

Small steps, but then I can reassess.

雖然只是小小的一步 但可以持續調整

On People,

人的方面

I'm going to commit to be more present with the people I care about.

我會更珍惜跟重要的人相處的時光

For the last four years, I've essentially been single

過去四年我一直都是單身

and if I'm really honest, I was emotionally unavailable.

老實說情感上我並沒有真的敞開心胸

But I've actually been very fortunate to meet someone amazing.

但我很幸運的 遇到了一個很棒的人

So what I’m going to do is commit to investing in that relationship

所以我要更花時間經營這段關係

with openness, authenticity and vulnerability.

坦誠、真實，並展現自己的脆弱一面

And a little bit of cheekiness.

甚至有一點厚臉皮

And on Purpose,

在意義上

a year ago, I was actually a one on Purpose.

一年前我有1分

My purpose was twofold,

我的意義有兩個方面

it was the impact I was having on people through my public speaking,

一個是透過演講影響群眾

and it was the precious time I got to spend with my sister.

另一個則是花時間陪我的姊姊

But in a few short weeks at the start of 2020,

但在2020初的前幾週

both of those disappeared.

一切都消失了

And in the months since, I've been really trying to rediscover my purpose.

那之後的幾個月 我一直在重新尋找自己的意義

And I'll be honest,

老實說

I've really struggled to find it.

我找不太到

And I think that's OK.

雖然我覺得沒有關係

But then I realized that I have this,

但我想到了還有這個

today, this moment.

就是今天現在這個時刻

This is me rediscovering my purpose.

我正在找回生活的意義

What are you going to do?

你會怎麼做？

What action are you going to take?

你會採取什麼樣的行動？

Whatever action you do take,

不管你打算做什麼

you suddenly realize that you can stop hinging all your happiness

你已經知道可以不用把自己的快樂

on one category of the personal moral inventory.

綁在單一面向上了

Instead, you invest in taking control of your own happiness.

反之，你可以試著將快樂掌握在手中

Our future is not predetermined.

我們的未來並非事先安排好

Our future is not written

也不是已經寫好的劇本

and our future is not waiting for us.

而且未來也不會等我們

I'm building mine and I believe you are building yours.

我正在一步步創造未來 相信你也是一樣

And how happy we are in our future will be based solely on our action

我們未來會有多快樂

就看在人生各個方面 我們怎麼做或是沒有怎麼做

or inaction across all facets of life,

not just the working week.

並不只有在工作上而已

I am the key to unleashing my own happiness,

我就是自己快不快樂的關鍵

and I believe you are the key to unleashing your own happiness.

我相信你也是自己快樂的關鍵

I can safely say that Trudy didn't have any regrets,

我可以說特魯迪並沒有後悔的事

but she did have one wish.

但她有一個願望

To see me on stage, live, presenting at TEDx.

就是看我站上TEDx的舞台

Thank you very much.

謝謝大家