Conversation Skills: DON'T BE SHY!

Hi, there. My name is Ronnie. Today, I'm going to teach you something very fun and exciting

Hej. Mit navn er Ronnie. I dag vil jeg lære dig noget meget sjovt og interassant

and important. It's how to improve your speaking. Whether you're speaking English or whether

og vigtigt. Det er hvordan du bliver bedre til at tale. Om du taler engelsk eller

you're doing public speaking in front of people or whether you're just speaking to a neighbor,

du skal holde en tale foran andre eller du bare taler med din nabo,

someone on the bus, someone in a store, or a taxi driver, you might be shy. What does

nogen i bussen, nogen i butikken eller taxi chaufføren, måske er du genert. Men hvad

"shy" mean? "Shy" means you don't like -- or you're nervous -- to speak to strangers or

betyder genert? Genert betyder du kan ikke lide -- eller er nervøs for -- at tale til fremmede eller

to speak to other people. So if you are naturally a shy person, I'm sure you've heard people

andre mennesker. Hvis du er en naturligt genert person er jeg sikker på du har hørt andre sige

over and over again say, "Don't be shy! Come on. Don't be shy!" Easier said than done,

"arhh, lad være med at være genert! Kom nu. Der sker jo ikke noget" - Nemmere sagt end gjort

isn't it, shy people? So I want to give you some tips or some pointers maybe to help you

ikke rigtigt, generte mennesker? Så jeg vil give dig nogle tips der måske kan hjælpe dig

to be less shy. It's impossible to be 100 percent outgoing if you are naturally a shy

til at være mindre genert. Det er umuligt at være 100 procent udadvendt hvis du er naturligt genert

person.

So today's lesson is how you improve your speaking. Don't be shy!

Så i dags time går ud på at gøre din samtale bedre. Lad være med at være genert!

The first thing that you have to do is think about why. "Why am I shy?" There may be many

Det første du skal tænke over er "Hvorfor er jeg genert" Der er måske mange

different reasons. I'm just going to go through a couple of them. The number one reason, probably,

forskellige grunde. Jeg vil kun nævne nogen af dem. Nummer et, sansynligvis

if you're watching these videos, is because you are trying to speak a new language. Maybe

hvis du ser denne video, er fordi du prøver at tale et nyt sprog. Måske

it is English. And you are shy to make a mistake. You don't want to say something bad, funny,

er det engelsk. Og du er bange for at lave en fejl. Du vil ikke sige noget forkert, sjovt,

rude, embarrassing. You don't want your face to go red and they'll go, "Ha ha! You said

grovt, pinligt. Du vil ikke have at du rødmer og alle de andre siger " Ha ha! Du sagde

a funny word!" Okay. That will happen. And you know what? Who cares? It happens all the

et sjovt ord!" Okay. Det vil ske. Og ved du hvad? Hvem tænker over det? Det sker hele

time. I say funny things a lot, too.

tiden. Jeg siger også sjove ting.

Another reason why you may be shy is because you "talk funny". Lots of people have different

En anden grund til at du er genert er måske fordi du "taler sjovt". Mange mennesker har forskellige

problems with their mouths. Some people have a speech impediment. Some people have a lisp,

problemer med deres mund. Nogle mennesker har tale udfordringer. Nogle mennesker har en fejl

so they don't pronounce words probably like me. Maybe you have a very strange or different

så de ikke kan udtale ord ordentligt, som mig. Måske har du en underlig eller anderledes

accent than the other people around you. People often ask me, "Ronnie, where are you from?"

accent i forhold til de andre. Andre spørger mig tit "Ronnie, hvor er du fra?"

And I say, "Canada." And they say, "No, you're not." "Yes, I am." "But you have an accent."

Og jeg siger, "Canada" og de siger "Nej du er ej" "Jo, jeg er" "Men du taler med accent"

"Yes. I have an accent. I talk funny. Who cares? I'm from Canada. Nice to meet you."

"Ja, jeg har en accent. Jeg taler sjovt. Og hvad så? Jeg er fra Canada. Godt at møde dig-"

So even if you do talk funny or you do have an accent, rock with it. Yeah. You speak differently.

Så selv hvis du taler sjovt eller har en accent, rock med det! Yeah. Du taler anderledes.

Good. Don't be like other people. Other people are boring.

Fedt. Lad være med at være som andre mennesker. Andre mennesker er kedelige.

This is a problem. Maybe you just don't like to talk. Okay? Maybe you are quiet. Maybe

Det her er et problem. Måske kan du bare ikke lide at tale. Okay? Måske er du stille. Måske

you don't want to talk to anyone ever, at all. That's cool. If you don't like people

vil du ikke tale med nogen nogensinde. Det fint. Hvis du ikke kan lide mennesker

and you don't like to talk, don't force yourself to talk. Maybe you could write something.

og ikke kan lide at tale skal du ikke presse dig selv til det. Måske kunne du skrive noget.

Maybe you could text message or email someone. But that's not going to improve your speaking.

Måske kunne sende en SMS eller email til nogen. Men det kommer ikke til at gøre din tale bedre.

If you do not like to talk to people, that's your choice. But I'm trying to help you overcome

Hvis du ikke kan lide at tale med folk er det dit valg. Men jeg prøver at hjælpe dig med at komme over

your shyness. So let's go through a couple ways to actually do this. Don't be shy!

generthed. Så lad os kigge på nogen måder hvor man rent faktisk kan gøre det. Lad være med at være genert!

Just say, "Hi!" So if you're standing at a bus stop or the subway station or anywhere,

Bare sig "Hej" Så hvis du står ved bussen, eller toget eller et andet sted

and there's another human being beside you -- let's say that you're at a bar, and there's

og der er et andet menneske ved siden af -- lad os sige du er på en bar og der er

a beautiful girl or a very handsome boy. The quickest, the easiest, and the best way to

en smuk pige eller en lækker fyr. Den hurtigste og nemmeste og bedste måde at

speak to someone is just to say, "Hi! My name is Ronnie." Don't use "Ronnie", though. That's

tale med nogen er ved at sige: "Hej! Mit navn er Ronnie." Men brug ikke "Ronnie" Det er

my name. You have to use your name. So just say "hi" to people. If they want to speak

mit navn. Du har dit eget navn. Så bare sig "Hej" til folk. Hvis de vil snakke med dig

to you, they will start the conversation. They will say, "Oh, hi. My name is --. Nice

vil de starte en samtale. De vil sige "Oh, hej. Mit navn er --. Godt

to meet you." "Oh, nice to meet you, too." Uh-oh! And then, your shyness sets in because

at møde dig" "Oh, også godt at møde dig" Åh-åhh! Og nu sætter din generthed ind fordi

-- "What do I say? Shoes. I have shoes. Do you have shoes? Oh, God. I'm such an idiot.

"Hvad skal jeg sige? Sko. Jeg har sko. Har du sko? Åhh, Gud. Jeg er en kæmpe idiot

I can't even speak." Maybe the other person will have asked you a person. You can always

Jeg kan ikke engang tale" Måske har den anden person spurgt om noget. Du kan altid

ask people basic questions, like, "Where are you from? Why do you talk funny? Why are you

spørge om de normale spørgsmål "Hvor bor du? Hvorfor taler du sjovt? Hvorfor er du

shy?" All those fun questions.

genert?" Alle de sjove spørgsmål.

When you're actually speaking to someone, it's really important that you choose a topic

Når du så taler med nogen er det vigtigt at tale om noget som

that you like. So if I were to meet someone -- "Hi. My name is Ronnie." "Hi." "Cool. So

du kan lide. Så hvis jeg mødte nogen "Hej. Mit navn er Ronnie." "Hej" "Cool. Så

-- oh, I like music. Do you like the Sex Pistols?" "Yeah." "Me, too. Oh, my God. No way! What

Oh, Jeg kan lide musik. Kan du lide Sex Pistols?" "Ja" "Også mig. Åh Gud. No way! Hvilken

other kind of music to you like?" So I like to talk to people about music. The only problem

anden slags musik kan du lide?" Jeg kan godt lide at tale med folk om musik. Det eneste problem

is not a lot of people like the same music I do. So you have to choose a topic that you

er at der ikke er så mange der kan lide den samme musik som mig. Så du skal vælge et emne som du kan

like to talk about. If you're lucky, the other person will also like the topic.

lide at tale om. Hvis du er heldig kan den anden person også lide emnet.

The next one: Get a job. Now, this might be very strange for you to even comprehend, but

Det næste: Få et job. Det her er måske svært at forstå men

I -- right here -- am shy. When I was a child, I wasn't shy. I would do anything and go anywhere.

Jeg -- lige her -- er genert. Da jeg var barn var jeg ikke genert. Jeg gjorde alt og gik hvorhen jeg havde lyst.

But as I got older -- high school, university -- I just didn't want to talk to people. I

Men da jeg blev ældre -- High School, universitet -- ville jeg bare ikke tale med folk. Jeg

think people are boring, and I'd rather think by myself and think about things. So I became

synes folk er kedelige og jeg vil hellere tænke alene og tænke. Så jeg blev

shy. I didn't want to talk to people. People would talk to me, and I'd rather be, like,

genert. Jeg ville ikke tale med folk. Andre ville gerne snakke med mig men jeg tænkte

"I don't know what to say. Hi." One thing that I did do when I was in high school, I

"Jeg ved ikke hvad jeg skal sige, Hej, hehe" En ting jeg gjorde i High School var:

got a job as a waitress. Gulp. So guess what. Every time somebody came into my restaurant,

Jeg fik et job som tjener. Gulp. Så ved i hvad. Hver gang nogen kom ind på restauranten

I had to talk to them. I had to be nice to them. I had to smile. I don't want to smile,

skulle jeg tale med dem. Jeg skulle være sød ved dem. Jeg skulle smile. Jeg vil ikke smile,

but I had to. Getting a job where you have to talk to people, like being a waiter or

men jeg skulle. At få et job hvor du skal tale med folk, som at være tjener eller

a waitress, even something in the back like working in a kitchen, working in a store -- if

tjenerinde, selv noget omme bagved som at arbejde i køkkenet, arbejde i en butik. Hvis

you can get a job where you are forced to talk to people, I guarantee you, you will

du kan få et job hvor du er nød til at tale med folk garanterer jeg dig, du vil

overcome your shyness because you are forced to talk to people. Please also be careful

komem over din generthed fordi du er nød til at tale med folk. Men vær også forsigtig

-- people are boring, as I mentioned before.

Andre er kedelige, som jeg har sagt før.

The next one is: Get a dog. "Get a dog? What? Are you going to talk to the dog?" No. But

Den næste er: Få en hund. "Få en hund? Hvad? Skal du tale til hunden? Nej. Men

guess what? I don't know why, but people who have dogs always like to talk to other people

ved du hvad? Jeg ved ikke hvorfor men folk der har en hund kan altid lide at tale med andre

who have dogs. For example, in the morning, when I walk my dog, people talk to me about

der har en hund. For eksempel, om morgenen, når jeg lufter min hund vil folk tale med mig om

stupid things about my dog. "How old is your dog?" "Who cares?" "What's your dog's name?"

dumme ting om min hund. "Hvor gammel er din hund?" "Betyder det noget?" "Hvad hedder din hund?"

"Why? Are you going to send it a birthday card?" Okay. People that have dogs are usually

"Hvorfor? Skal du sende den et fødselsdagskort?" Okay. Folk med hunde er som regel

friendly, and it forces you to interact with other people. Sometimes, people ask me questions,

venlige og det tvinger dig til at være sammen med andre mennesker. Nogen gange spørger folk mig om noget

and I say, "Yes. Seven. Good. Okay." And I just stare at my dog. "Come on, dog. Come

og jeg siger "Ja, Syv. Fint. Okay." Og jeg kigger bare på min hund. "Kom nu hund. Kom

on, dog. Let's go, dog. Come on. I don't want to talk to these people." But getting a dog

nu, hund. Lad os gå. Kom nu. Jeg vil ikke tale med disse mennesker. Men at få en hund

will help you walk around the neighborhood. It will help you talk to people. It's an interesting

vil hjælpe dig med at komme rundt i nabolaget. Det vil hjælpe dig med at tale med folk. Det er en interessant

idea that if you have a cat, or if you're a cat person, you're shy. But people that

ide at hvis du har en kat eller er katteperson så er du genert. Men folk der

have dogs are usually -- but not always -- more friendly. Are you a cat person or a dog person?

har hunde er som regel -- men ikke altid -- mere venlige. Er du et katte eller hundemenneske?

This is one of my favorite things in the world, ever. Travel. Okay? Leave your house; get

Det her er en af mine yndlingsting. At rejse. Okay? Forlad dit hus

on an airplane -- get some money, first; get a job; get some money; jump on an airplane;

find et fly -- få nogle penge først, få et job, find et fly

and go traveling. Do it alone. How scary! If you travel by yourself without anyone -- that

og rejs. Gør det alene. Hvor skræmmende! Hvis du rejser med dig selv uden nogen andre - det

means alone -- you are forced to talk to people. You're going to be lonely. You're going to

betyder alene - er du tvunget til at tale med andre. Du bliver ensom. Du vil komme til

want to talk to people. You're going to go to restaurants by yourself and sit there and

at ville tale med andre. Du går på restaurant alene og sider og

look at the menu all alone. You're going to see other people talking, and you'll go, "I

kigger på menukortet alene. Du vil se andre tale sammen og tænke "Jeg

wish I had a friend." All you have to do is talk to people. Say the magic word, "Hi!"

ville ønske jeg havde en ven" Og alt du skal gøre er et tale med andre. Sig det magiske ord "Hej"

And start a conversation. When you travel, you're forced to talk to people. When you

Og start en samtale. Når du rejser er du tvunget til at tale med andre. Når du

check in at a hotel, when you take a bus, when you're asking for directions. And I guarantee

checker ind på hotellet, når du tager en bus, når du spørger om vej. Og jeg garanterer

you will make some really good friends. You'll probably meet a lot of crazy people, too.

du vil få nogle gode venner. Du møder sikkert også mange skøre mennesker.

They're the best.

De er de bedste.

And last, but not least, when you're traveling alone, when you have a dog, when you're at

Og til sidst, men ikke mindst, når du rejser alene, når du har en hund, når du er

your job, get drunk. Oh, yeah. There's a reason why alcohol has a name, Like "Six-Pack Attack"

på arbejde, er fuld. Åh, ja. Der er en grund til at alkohol har navne som "Six-Pack Attack"

or "Liquid Lunch", because when you drink actual -- "Social Lubricant" is a good one.

eller "Liquid Lunch" fordi når du drikker - "Social Lubricant" ee en god en.

When you drink alcohol, you are not as shy as you were. Now, I am being a little bit

Når du drikker alkohol er du ikke så genert. Jeg er en lille smule sarkastisk

sarcastic when I say, "Get drunk." If you have one or two drinks, you're going to feel

når jeg siger "bliv fuld". Hvis du får en eller to drinks vil du føle dig

less shy. When I write here, "Get drunk", I don't mean, like -- and throw up. That's

mindre genert. Når jeg skriver "Bliv fuld" mener jeg ikke sådan og kast op. det er

not cool. Nobody wants to talk to you. So have one or two alcoholic drinks -- or just

ikke fedt. Ingen vil tale med dig. Så tag en eller to alkohol drinks - eller bare

some coke -- and you will become less shy naturally. It will happen. It's fun.

noget cola - og du vil naturligt blive mindre genert. Det vil ske. Det er sjovt.

Are you shy? Don't be shy. Follow these tips. Figure out why you are shy. And please, write

Er du genert? Lad være med det. Følg disse tips. Find ud af hvorfor du er genert. og skriv

in the comments and tell me why you are shy. Maybe I can help you. Maybe I can't. Maybe

i kommentarerne og fortæl mig hvorfor du er genert. Måske kan jeg hjælpe dig. Måske kan jeg ikke. Måske

you're just shy. If you are, good luck. Bye.

er du bare genert. Hvis du er, Held og lykke. Farvel